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[simpledoyle]

Peter Steele for Playgirl Magazine 🖤

[das-a-kirby-blog]

perhaps if we don't put others down, they would be willing to listen to the points we have to make

[vinestaff]

z-13 the saboteur

[angryaromantics]

@mossy-aro made an excellent post, that can be found HERE, on the subversive nature of aromantic positivity, and how negativity can damage the community and “we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction.” 

I wholeheartedly agree, but I wanted to talk about ‘negative’ feelings a bit more. The type of negativity Mossy was largely discussing seemed to be the ones that stemmed from self-hatred. “I hate being aro.” “This is so hard, I wish I was normal,” etc., etc. This negativity, no matter what personal place it comes from, can and does damage the aromantic community. 

Negativity spreads, we’ve seen it in online spaces before, and we’re seeing it now. Being aromantic can be hard, so it’s frankly easy and understandable, that the bombardment of negativity would harm individual aromantic people and the community as a whole. Being an online community, we’re pretty insular, which can make the negativity feel particularly inescapable. 

I would argue, however, that the negative feelings themselves aren’t an issue that needs to be corrected. There’s a reason you feel that way, and it’s likely rooted in some real-life issues either on a personal level or on a societal way. It’s not your fault, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. 

The  issue arises when you share those feelings without examining the root cause of the feeling. You hate being aro. Okay, but why? Is it a sense of isolation from your peers? Is it the cost of living for a single person in your area? What is it about being aro that you find difficult enough that you hate it?

A post that reads “I hate being aro” is always going to have a negative impact, whereas a post like, “I find being an aromantic person isolating,” opens up the start of a conversation. You’ve made progress, but even going from Point A to Point B, I think Point C would be an even more useful place to be. 

You find being an aromantic person isolating, but why? What specific thing do you find isolating? Is it the lack of real-life connections you have with aromantic people? With Point C, the conversation becomes the start of an interrogation with an intra-community issue. 

We have now gone from “I hate being aro,” to, “I find the lack of aromantic community outside of online spaces isolating.” Besides the harm reduction that interrogating these negative thoughts clearly performs, the biggest difference between Point A and Point C is that Point C is actionable. You can take real, actionable steps in forming in-person communities, both on a personal level, and as a community. 

“I hate being aro,” gives you no actionable steps, even in the figurative sense. It only serves to spread your negative feelings. Negative feelings, sadness, fear, rage, all have their place both internally and within your community. But, you need to think critically about what you’re putting into the community, and interrogate where that feeling is coming from in the first place. 

All aromantic feelings have the potential to be fulfilling on a personal level and even, as Mossy said, be harnessed “as a form of protest and political power.” We can use these negative feelings to improve ourselves, and our communities. They can be just as fruitful building blocks as aromantic joy.

You’ve just got to interrogate your own feelings or you risk doing detrimental harm to the aro community, and none of us want that. This is where we live. 

[justxangelxthings]

I keep getting messages asking me if my header picture is me and I say yes because it is BUT I feel very guilty because I'm wearing a TON of makeup, much more than I usually do and even a bit of eyelid tape to alter my appearance so here are some minimal makeup selfies 👉👈 (I'm wearing mascara in the first and eyeliner/lip gloss in the second.) My haircolor is also fake (I'm naturally brunette) and I sometimes wear colored circle lenses. To the 4 (!!!!!) girlies who messaged me so far that have made comparisons between my appearance and their own with a very unfavorable opinion of their own I promise I do not look like that picture 99.999999% of the time and in real life I am pretty plain and unremarkableand it is very possible that I would wish I looked like you if I saw you. 🙈

[thedevilandhisbride]

ive been doomscrolling for a while so i needed to step-back and do a positivity post for men :]

i love you men

i love you cis men

i love you trans men

i love you man-adjacent people

i love you intersex men

i love you nonbinary men

i love you masc-alligned people

i love you men who are in someway aligned or identify with femininity and woman/girlhood

i love you gender fuckery men

i love you disabled men

i love you abled men

i love you mentally ill men

i love you neurotypical men

i love you fat men

i love you skinny men

i love you chubby men

i love you medium sized men

i love you men with stretch marks

i love you men with scars

i love you men with freckles

i love you men with acne

i love you men with eyebags

i love you men with wrinkles

i love you men with hairy bodies

i love you men with little or no hair

i love you bald and balding men

i love you men with long hair

i love you men with short hair

i love you men with medium hair

i love you short men

i love you tall men

i love you average height men

i love you insecure men

i love you confident men

i love you men who are inbetween insecure and confident

i love you men who struggle with internal misogyny and/or misandry

i love you men who are finally comfortable in their skin

i love you men who are learning to love themselves

i love you men who slowly deprogramming internalized self hatred

i love you men who havent started their journey of self love yet

i love you men who are/have something i didnt mention

i love you men

and i will always love you!!!!!!

THIS POST IS FOR MEN- ANY AND ALL MEN

ily :]

[the-wayside]

I don't want to wade into the purity business because it lacks critical thinking for me.

It clearly comes from a place of not wanting their favorite actors to be degraded by something so base as sex which is a whole attitude in and of itself.

But outright dismissing it as image destroying means you clearly didn't understand it.

Rak and Mut are taking jabs at each other constantly. The way they sleep together reflects that. Mut bites and Rak goads. It's representative of a lowkey situationship. What it shows you is an absence of and what we're moving towards. A place where yeah they probably still rev each other's engines but it will be backed by mutual love.

Fort and Peat signed up to show this love story, which it is. To pretend young men don't, as Brian Kinney would say, fuck, suck, rim, ram means that we are still no further than 25 years ago (circa USA QAF) and the concept of a queer person is a Ken doll.

They're actors, they want to explore limits and mix up how they present characters. I just know in my bones a queer person (not dealing with internalized homophobia) didn't say protect their image. This is our image. Our queerness that must again be presentable for not queer people so that we can be accepted.

I wouldn't care, but this is the sparkliest gay month of the year that celebrates us and you've got people watching queer content trying to shove us back into the closet.

Bottom line: they made that content with pride and you have no right to attach shame to it.

[palidoozy-art]

I know I haven't posted in a bit, and I don't usually like to get too political, but:

I am very, very thankful I am fortunate enough to have moved from Texas to Massachusetts, and very, very upset the vast majority of people do not have similar options to me. It doesn't even protect me fully -- federal rights can supersede state ones, after all. The richest trans person in the world is still a trans person, and Project 2025 makes no distinction.

But I'm sorry. This was an election that was ours to lose. Everyone's out here pointing fingers, trying to find a scapegoat, and trying to argue that not enough support for their single pet cause was the reason we lost. But the reality is that It's the Economy, Stupid. We came out of a pandemic that obliterated our supply chains. Inflation and a warped view of the economy was always a hard hill to climb over, and all the social justices in the world don't mean much to people when they think their own livelihoods are at stake.

I am of the personal opinion that any incumbent this election would have lost. Even a republican. Was I hopeful that wouldn't be the case this time? Oh, absolutely! Will I still be bitter about it? Sure will! But no amount of charisma or campaign promises will ever climb over the burden of a 12 pack of Diet Pepsi going from $5 in 2020 to $8 in 2024. I think we tried to handle it the best we could. But every chart showing that inflation is cooling, that unemployment is low, and that we achieved a soft landing and avoided a recession does not matter when you pick up your grocery receipt and feel like you're paying twice as much as you did five years ago.

Don't mistake me for saying Trump would be better, though! He won't. And I will admit, there is a touch of glee I will feel over all the eCoNoMy voters getting to learn very quickly what tariffs are (and do), and the studies of their effects on washing machines. Does that offset the pain of the next 4 years, or justify the suffering of people far less fortunate than me? Fuck no. Spite can certainly fuel me, but it won't keep me warm at night.

I guess this is a lot of words for me to say I'm sorry. Sometimes you are dealt a losing hand. Doesn't mean we did everything perfectly, obviously. But there's no single fix, no single solution, that could have solved people being furious that eggs cost $4 a dozen now. We tried.

Protect yourselves, and try to protect those around you. If spite fuels your day-to-day, so be it. We have to wait and see anyway. I know I'm going to focus more locally for the next 4 years (hopefully to get more housing built, so more people can move here).

[idontlikeem]

gonna be normal about this angle in particular forever

[aimseytv]

hi goob i’ll be over here more often since the twt gods have struck me down again. Like Jesus

let’s revive this social for me cause every other platform seems to be making me feel things that aren’t great

[rooksilver]

probably gonna delete this later but holy shit i fucking hate dreamwastaken so much especially his stupid new server. fucking listen to me right now. taking into consideration that dream is not copying off qsmp and has been working on this server for some time, its still bullshit.

first off everyone trying to say that theres a difference between bi-lingual and multilingual — quackity has said on stream that hes planning to make qsmp multilingual as well, with ccs that speak other languages being able to join. so shush about that.

secondly, all that aside, announcing united smp so close to qsmp’s start is in incredibly poor taste regardless, without even an acknowledgement of qsmp in the official announcement tweet, especially since dream and quackity are supposed to be friends. if he’d bothered at all to hire a PR team, it could have been done much more tactfully, but as usual, dream has opted to wing it, leading to just being a shitty person (see also: his tantrums during mcc, his inability to ignore cheating accusations).

furthermore, the difference between qsmp and usmp is that qsmp is a passion project — quackity is trying to introduce his culture and language to a wider audience, and create a space where he can play with all his friends, spanish-speaking and english-speaking. dream, on the other hand, is a monolingual white man who is clearly trying to take advantage of the passion people have for language and culture to earn him more clout, and hopefully erase people’s memories of every terrible thing he’s ever done. I understand the concept of a multilingual server is exciting — but seriously, watch qsmp instead. theres more love in it.

finally, all of this aside — dream is still a groomer. its pretty insane how you guys ignored that. in fact, one of his motivations behind united smp is probably to expand to a less english-speaking audience who is less likely to be aware of the accusations. please don’t let this fool you — united smp is not a sign of redemption, its a distraction. dont support it.

tl;dr: watch QSMP, not USMP.

[eloiseyybish]

Hear me out though, what if Benedict meets a lady at the masquerade ball who introduces herself as Sophie and thinks she's the most beautiful woman he's ever seen and it turns out to be a male servant who's always wanted to dress up like a high society lady. Like, imagine the juiciness of that. And then you have Benedict grappling with how hot he finds this person both in and out of drag? I just think that'd be fun.

Either way I want it to be known that whatever they do with Sophie's character, it doesn't make Benedict any less Bi if they dont change anything about Sophie's character and she stays a woman as in the book. He's still bisexual regardless 🩷💜💙

[bucksboobs]

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[ghostr0tz]

sudden epiphany while feeling down

[anti-terf-posts]

Just got an ask from a terf that said "fyi" and then had a diagram of the differences between the male and female pelvis, as if I would give a shit. I genuinely don't care like it does no damage to my psyche it does not bother me at all. Terfs are so pathetic.

[luciolefire]

Can we just slow down with the preemptive Earthspark Season 2 hate? People are making huge assumptions about the entire story based on a 30-second trailer and a few (not very good) leaked episode synopses.

The season hasn't even started to release yet. Maybe give it a chance before you throw it away.