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How One Man Found Love’s Clarity in a Safeway

TL;DR: The author shares how a client’s emotional spiral after a brief romantic encounter revealed limiting beliefs. Through the Positively Focused process, he transformed the moment into a stepping stone toward true relationship alignment.

The Universe never makes mistakes. And yet, when things don’t go the way we think they should—especially in love—it’s easy to believe it did. That’s what happened to Dale, a dear client of mine, in an encounter that was as divinely orchestrated as any I’ve seen. Only he couldn’t see it. Not at first.

It started innocently enough. Dale was running errands at Walmart with his ex-wife, Athena. They had just come back from a gig and gone into the store separately. As Dale strolled through one of the aisles, he noticed a woman. Something about her shirt caught his attention—it had a Wiccan vibe, something Dale had explored in his past. They struck up a conversation. And just like that, a spark ignited. Not fireworks, but something even more powerful: resonance.

This wasn’t the kind of attraction born of physical lust or surface chatter. Dale and this woman began talking about life philosophies, spiritual perspectives, the big stuff. She even complimented Athena, not knowing the relationship. That felt meaningful to Dale. And then she asked for his number. Later that evening, she followed up with a text: “Do you like sushi?” And another: “How about Lady Gaga?”

Dale responded honestly. Sushi wasn’t his thing, and as for Lady Gaga, he didn’t think about her much—although he had appreciated her acting once. Still, the topics rubbed him the wrong way. He’d hoped their conversation would stay in that soulful, philosophical space. To him, these light questions felt like a departure, even a regression.

And then it happened.

Every manifestation carries contrast

A few days later, Dale ran into her again—this time at Safeway. He lit up at the coincidence, but her energy was different. Guarded. She told him she was working and quickly disengaged.

That was it.

That moment—the turn—triggered Dale hard. He plummeted into intense negative momentum. All-or-nothing thinking kicked in. “This is why I can’t trust people.” “This is why relationships don’t work.” “Why did she even ask for my number?” The mental spiral was swift and brutal.

And this is where the real value of the session began.

What Dale couldn’t yet see was that this was no failed encounter. This was a perfect co-creation, lovingly engineered by the Universe to show him something essential. He had, in fact, manifested precisely what he’d been asking for—a spontaneous connection with someone who met him at a high vibrational level. He’d been high-vibing on the subject of relationships for some time, and this woman appeared right on cue. It was a sign that his signal was working.

But every manifestation carries contrast. That’s how we grow.

This woman, without intending to, revealed Dale’s unresolved momentum around women, courtesy, rejection, and unspoken expectations. His judgments—about her makeup, her food choices, her pop culture interests—weren’t really about her. They were mirrors, reflecting beliefs he still carried: that people owe him politeness, that being ghosted is betrayal, that women who express themselves a certain way are immature or unworthy.

These beliefs had to come to the surface. Not to punish him, but to be soothed.

^^Dale stood at a crossroads about what he was manifesting….what happened next was important.

Tell a better-feeling story

Because here’s the truth: you cannot attract the relationship you want until you become a match to it. The Universe will keep sending stepping stones—beautiful, complex, sometimes painful interactions—that shine light on your inner vibration. If you meet these moments with curiosity, you’ll elevate. If you double down on your negative stories, you’ll stall.

And Dale stalled hard.

He went into a kind of emotional lockdown. “Maybe I’m not cut out for relationships,” he said at one point. “Maybe I should just stop trying.”

He wasn’t joking. The pain had twisted his thinking so tightly that one uncomfortable rendezvous made him question everything. But that, too, was perfect. Because it made the negative beliefs undeniable. And once something is seen clearly, it can be soothed.

I gently helped him unpack it. I reminded him: the Universe doesn’t respond to what’s “true”—it responds to belief. Every experience you have is confirmation, not contradiction. That’s why it’s so important to notice your judgments and soothe them—not suppress them, but transmute them. You do that by telling a better-feeling story.

In Dale’s case, the better-feeling story went something like this:

“Wow. Look at that! I manifested a woman out of nowhere who shared my values—at least at first glance—and asked for my number. She followed up. That was confirmation that my signal is active. Then, in the next phase, she brought up things that rubbed me the wrong way… but even that was helpful. She helped me see what beliefs I still carry that aren’t a match to the relationship I ultimately want. She wasn’t a mistake—she was a message.”

Attract by becoming

From that frame, Dale could start to feel empowered again. Not because she “should’ve” behaved differently, but because she behaved exactly as she needed to—so he could calibrate his vibration.

She was doing the same thing Dale was doing: looking for resonance. And when she sensed it wasn’t a match, she gracefully backed away. She was choosing herself. That wasn’t ghosting. That was clarity.

This is the power of contrast when met with consciousness. This is the beauty of vibrational refinement. You don’t attract what you want by demanding it from others. You attract it by becoming it. And you become it by soothing the parts of you that aren’t aligned.

The next time someone triggers us, let’s ask: “What is this showing me about me?” The answer might sting at first, but it’s the key to becoming a match to what we want. Dale’s encounter wasn’t a failure. It was a perfect stepping stone. And now he’s closer than ever.

Because the real relationship he’s cultivating… is with himself.

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What Lost Keys Reveal About How Powerful You Are

TL;DR: The author explores how a client’s missing keys became a mirror of internal beliefs. Through contrast, he’s invited to align with his power—and choose the reality he wants next.This is final part of a four-part story.

Steven didn’t lose his keys. Not in any ultimate sense. Not in the way most people think of losing something — as a punishment or a mistake or evidence of failure. No. Steven’s keys were lovingly, exquisitely, purposefully withheld for a larger purpose. One important for the expansion of himself and All That Is.

Because the keys weren’t just metal. They were symbolic. They were, in every sense, the keys to Steven’s kingdom. And the kingdom they opened wasn’t a maintenance shed on campus. It was a vibrational kingdom — the realm of self-worth, of true power, of knowing who he really is.

But the question the Universe posed was this: Is Steven ready to claim that kingdom? Not metaphorically claim it. Not rhetorically either. The question asked: is he energetically ready to claim it?

The answer, of course, is always “yes”. Otherwise the experience wouldn’t be happening. But Steven’s relationship with that yes… that’s what this entire expansion was about.

His Mom Was the First Portal

When Steven first came to me, his mom was the figure around whom most of his contrast orbited. There was judgment, control, and emotional volatility. Those things came from him, not his mother. His mother did the best she could as a young single mom of three, back when Steven was a boy. She didn’t know back then, what Steven is learning today. Today, Steven’s mom is learning, however, because she, like Steven, is a Positively Focused client.

But while Steven was a child, his mother, like most parents, was completely oblivious. Oblivious about a lot of things. She didn’t know her son came to teach her, for example. Not the other way around. Steven’s mother didn’t know she had an Inner Being, an unerring guide showing her the path of her liberation. But what she most didn’t realize was that every time she punished Steven, every time she lost her cool, she wasn’t in love with her child.

But nothing was wrong with any of that. Steven’s mother was exactly what Steven knew he would come into reality through. He had prepared the experience prior to even showing up. So everything young Steven experienced was good for him.

Steven’s mom represented a mirror through which Steven came to believe he had to prove himself. He had to earn love, earn respect, earn safety.

That belief as well as others knocked Steven off course for a while. Good thing he discovered the Positively Focused practice.

Over time, through his Positively Focused practice, Steven regained his footing. He stopped reacting when his mom pushed his buttons as an adult. But then he wobbled between blaming and appreciating her. He also wobbled between diagnosing pathologies he perceived she had. In between all that, he gradually stopped needing her approval. With help from his sister, who also is a client, he gradually began generating stability from within. That was a massive vibrational accomplishment.

The Universe is watching

He’s still not done with any of this. That’s because it takes a while to soothe momentum, and, on the subject of his mother, Steven has over 40 years of negative concluding on her as a subject. That’s a lot of time to build momentum.

The Positively Focused is not magic. It can’t soothe old beliefs instantly. Actually, the practice does nothing. It’s clients putting the practice into use that creates results. Like any thing with a lot of momentum, it takes a long time to slow down beliefs practiced over 40 years. That’s what Steven is up to. 

It’s a heroic thing to take on for most humans. That’s because it demands that we look at ourselves as the creator of ALL of our experience. That can be hard. Especially when we believe in victimization. And many, many humans do. Steven once did too.

Now, however, he’s soothing those old beliefs. And the Universe is taking notice.

See, as we soothe beliefs creating contrast, the contrast doesn’t repeat—it evolves. When we integrate an old pattern, the Universe doesn’t punish us with a harder version. It celebrates us by offering a broader one. It says, “Great! You’ve learned to find your footing when family triggers you. Now… what happens when external authority and livelihood are on the line?”

Enter: Richard, Steven’s boss.

Learning as creators

In the days after the keys “disappeared,” Richard became unusually critical. The warmth Steven once felt from him seemed gone. Instead, Richard scrutinized Steven’s every task. The sprinkler system. The backlog, the other tasks still undone on Steven’s desk.

Richard’s scrutiny rattled Steven.

What he didn’t immediately see, though, is that he had become a match to this version of Richard. Just like he had once summoned a combative version of his mother, now he was summoning a critical version of his boss.

That’s not failure. It’s evolution.

When old beliefs are active they continue creating our reality. As Steven soothed his, that same frequency that once showed up as “Mom” now appeared as “Supervisor.” But the purpose was the same: to show Steven these beliefs are still active. Still shaping his experience. Still distorting his view of himself.

^^Steven’s experience is evolving him into the god he is.

Some call this process transference. But that’s too close to the psychological concept of projection. What’s happening is not projection. What is it? Ascension. It’s vibrational navigation through and into expansion. Think about it. Dealing with a mother within the confines of family is one thing. Your livelihood and social/working reputation on the line? That’s a completely different level. A higher level.

Ultimately, we’re all evolving to become the gods we are. Beyond our human experience lies tremendous responsibility. We are the creator of worlds. And we are learning to create, ultimately, in an environment where no resistance exists.

That means wherever we put our attention, what we focus on grows immediately, and exponentially. That’s how powerful we are. This physical reality, therefore, is a sandbox for us to play, explore, refine. That’s what Steven’s doing…at ever increasingly significant levels.

Keys as Evidence of Alignment (or Not)

The most powerful part of this story isn’t just what happened after the keys became lost. It’s what those keys represented all along.

Steven was on the cusp of a major promotion—to locksmith. Those very keys were tied to that promotion. Those keys were literally one of very few sets of its kind. Also, some keys in that set were master keys. They open ANY door on the college campus. They therefore were symbols of trust, capability, and responsibility. Losing them, in Steven’s eyes, felt like losing his future. In Richard’s eyes, according to Steven, they were a test: Can Steven shoulder the responsibility?

But what Steven didn’t see at first was that those keys also simply mirrored his vibration. When he felt unsure, they disappeared. As he judged himself, they became even more lost. When he doubted his worth, the Universe gave him a reality that matched: a world in which he didn’t have the tools, wasn’t trusted, and couldn’t move forward.

Again, that’s not punishment. It was reflection. Precise, perfect, loving reflection. That’s because physical reality is never fixed. It’s vibrationally curated and constantly flowing into something more.

Let’s say, for example, upon noticing the keys not where they should be Steven relaxed into a feeling of HAVING the keys, instead of collapsing into the state of them being lost, and then amplifying that reality with intense emotions (fear, fright, worry, etc.). Had he done so, the key would have (seemingly) appeared somewhere. This has happened to me DOZENS of times. I’ve written about two instances before. Here, and here.

But Steven didn’t do that. Instead, he collapsed. And then amplified the reality he collapsed into: Lost keys.

The Bigger Pattern: From Proof to Permission

Here’s the most overlooked thing about Steven’s story: the keys didn’t disappear because he was out of alignment. They disappeared so that he could find stronger, more stable alignment. Let’s say that again: Contrast is not evidence of failure. It’s evidence of readiness.

The moment Stevens keys went missing, he wasn’t being tested (only humans test each other). He was being invited. Invited to stand where he hadn’t stood before. Where he could see himself differently. Then choose a new story. A story where he’s not the person trying to prove himself worthy of the promotion. Worthy of the promotion or his mother’s love.

By the end of our session, Steven was steadier. Not euphoric. Not fully turned around. But steadier, clearer and more open to possibility. And with that openness, a choice began to emerge: Will he continue to tell the story of a man who lost his chance? Or will he tell a new story… one where the keys were never the point?

Keys can’t unlock doors like alignment can. Which means Steven could go back to work tomorrow and find those keys tucked in a place he never thought to look. Or… a completely new solution might show. Perhaps the promotion still pops into his reality. Or it doesn’t.

But either way, the real reward is who Steven is becoming.

The Takeaway: The Kingdom Was Never Outside Him:

The Universe doesn’t care about metal keys or job titles. It cares about the vibration we hold—and who we become by aligning with that vibration. Steven’s keys were never lost. Not really. They simply retreated from view until he becomes a match to their presence. That’s how all reality works. And now, Steven stands on a threshold.

Not an employment threshold, but an embodiment threshold. Will he lean into what he knows? Will he trust that this isn’t a setback, but a setup? The door is already ajar. All that’s left… is for Steven to walk through.

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The Real Reason You’re Still Not Feeling Better

TL;DR: In this, Part Three of the Four-Part series about Steven losing his keys, the author shares how they guided Steven through the emotional fallout of losing his keys. Doing so helped Steven discover that the contrast revealed his readiness—and how realignment begins when we stop performing and start feeling the process.

Steven sat across from me in-session online, his voice quiet, his energy low. I knew immediately he was in a very low vibrational state. The emotional turbulence of the past week lingered: the lost keys, his boss’s reaction, and most importantly, the stories he had been telling himself had him really low.

What made this session particularly rich was what it revealed—not just about Steven, but about how deep this practice really goes when applied in the midst of real-world contrast.

The session became a masterclass in vibrational leverage. Not because it resolved everything in a single sitting, or because I did anything special. It was a masterclass because it revealed how even seasoned practitioners can get caught in the swirl of their own stories… and how beautiful it is when they begin to emerge from that swirl.

Steven tried to apply one of the foundational Positively Focused processes. The process works every time, which is why it’s part of the basic practice framework. He tried applying it on his own. And to his credit, he didn’t just mentally revisit the steps. He truly attempted to walk himself through acknowledgment, acceptance, recognizing what his experience told him, and finally, amplification of the shift that happens naturally in step three.

Something wasn’t landing, however.

When the Practice Is Real

He described how he had tried to say the words aloud, to walk through the steps and feel some relief.

“I did the process,” he said. “But it didn’t really shift anything.”

But the practice does create a shift. So we had to troubleshoot. That’s when we uncovered the subtle but crucial gap: he had performed the process mechanically, without the presence that makes it effective.

That’s not uncommon. When the contrast is hot—when keys are missing, a boss is disappointed, and inner narratives are spiraling—it’s easy to rush the process instead of resting in it. That’s what Steven had done. He didn’t skip the steps, but he skipped over the alignment that makes them work.

So we slowed everything down. Together, we walked back through each stage—not as a checklist, but as a vibrational recalibration.

We began at the beginning: acknowledgment. That meant naming all the stories that were active in Steven’s consciousness giving rise to his negative emotions. The process is not about acknowledging them as facts, or the truth. It’s about acknowledging their presence within him. Stories like: “If I lose something, I’m irresponsible.” “I can’t be trusted.” And “Now I’ve ruined my chances at a promotion.”

Coming into acceptance 

These weren’t new beliefs. They were old ones. Echoes of childhood moments, especially those involving his mother, where he felt criticized or held to unexpressed standards. His current boss, Richard, had become a mirror. Not because Richard was behaving badly, but because Steven’s vibration had summoned a version of him that matched old patterns.

This wasn’t failure. This was graduation.

The contrast had intensified not because Steven was off-track, but because he was ready to move beyond these stories he created long ago. As I reminded him gently, “You wouldn’t be experiencing this level of contrast if you weren’t ready for it.”

The next step was accepting the beliefs are there. This second step is different from the first. It’s about letting go of resistance and instead welcoming the old beliefs back into us. Resisting, not accepting a belief is what creates resistance. And resistance amplifies that which we resist. For Steven, this wasn’t about accepting fault, accepting fault would amplify resistance. That’s because there’s no such thing as blame or fault. Instead, he needed to accept what was.

^^Acceptance is not about blame.

What “was” was, He didn’t have his keys. His boss was disappointed. His momentum had taken him into a tailspin. But none of that was wrong. Thinking it wrong creates resistance. These things are simply what had occurred. By making peace with the moment—not as a judgment, but as a reflection—Steven began to find his footing.

Only then could we move to Step Three, the vibrational pivot.

Amplifying higher vibrations.

Here, I asked Steven to consider what his Broader Perspective was feeling. Was it shaming him? No. Was it blaming him? Certainly not. His Broader Perspective was seeing the wholeness of the moment. The opportunity. The expansion. A perfection so exquisite, created between him and his reflected reality. A perfection that could lead to more empowerment.

Steven’s eyes welled up when he saw that. 

“I’ve been so afraid I ruined everything,” he said, voice quiet. “But now I get it. This isn’t about the keys.”

No, it wasn’t. It was about more alignment, expansion and empowerment. That clarity of awareness indicated Steve felt better. At least, at the very least, he felt relief, which is improved vibration. Now we entered the amplification phase.

This part isn’t about affirmations or hype. It’s about tuning in to the new emotional frequency and letting it fill the space. We do that through our imagination. We use our imagination to create new beliefs, new thoughts about what happened that stand in for old ones as the old ones soothe.

For Steven, that meant resting in a new truth: That he is not defined by mistakes. Trustworthiness isn’t earned—it’s embodied. That this moment, painful as it seemed, was sacred.

By the end of the session, Steven felt significantly better. The relief wasn’t euphoric, but it was stabilizing. He still wasn’t sure how things would unfold at work the next day. He still had concerns about how Richard would treat him. But he was no longer a victim of that perceived uncertainty.

He was still floating, still alive. He had reclaimed his oars. And from that place, even uncertain waters felt navigable.

Takeaway: Mastery Isn’t About Avoiding Contrast

The Four-Step Process outlined above doesn’t promise immediate resolution to external conditions. This is not magic. Neither is the rest of the Positively Focused framework. But it does offer something better: vibrational clarity and alignment with one’s Broader Perspective. And clarity is what allows new versions of reality to emerge.

New versions emerge as we walk into them. We can’t walk into them, however, if we don’t know where they are. Alignment with our Broader Perspective shows us where the doorways are and inspires us to walk through them into the new reality.

Steven hadn’t yet found his keys. He didn’t know what would happen tomorrow. But he was no longer at the mercy of momentum. He had re-entered his power—not as a performer or pleaser, but as a conscious creator. Contrast didn’t defeat him. It refined him. And in that, he was already victorious.

Read the final chapter tomorrow.

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Why Losing Keys Was Steven’s Greatest Spiritual Gift

TL;DR: The author explores how a lost set of keys led client “Steven” into a vibrational tailspin, revealing old belief patterns and offering a powerful opportunity for realignment and expansion.This is part 2 of Steven’s story.

Steven was already off balance. He’d ignored his Broader Perspective’s gentle invitation to stay home—a nudge his wife had unwittingly overridden. He’d also hit a baby deer the night before. That was a jarring event. But it still reverberated through his body the next morning. He hadn’t slept well. And even though he showed up to work as scheduled, something inside him knew: he wasn’t calibrated.

That matters. Because when you’re not calibrated, when you’re not aligned, the Universe doesn’t punish you. But it will offer a mirror so accurate, so refined, that if you’re paying attention, you’ll see exactly what stories you’re still telling—whether you like them or not.

For Steven, that’s exactly what was about to happen.

Steven could have avoided all this had he listened to the gentle whisper. The whisper from his Broader Perspective to stay home. Not avoiding it, however, introduced a wonderful unfolding. Although Steven would see it that way for many days.

When Keys Vanish, Beliefs Speak

It started simply. A moment that could have gone unnoticed. As Steven performed his usual rounds on the college campus where he worked, he had just used a lockbox key—one of many keys specifically assigned to him as part of his facilities management role. These keys weren’t just tools. They were symbols. The keys were tangible representations of the next level of his career: campus locksmith. The locksmith job promised higher salary, better hours, more freedom and more recognition. It was a promotion Steven looked forward to. 

One moment while using the keys at the lockbox, Steven had the keys. The next moment, however, they were gone. Steven’s heart sank. He looked everywhere. He retraced his steps. Steven checked every pocket, every surface.

The keys were simply not there. Not in a metaphorical “they’ll turn up later” kind of way. But in that physical-reality-has-shifted kind of way. A loss so precise it almost felt orchestrated.

Because it was.

And yet, Steven’s boss, Richard, wasn’t pleased. “That’s not going to look good for your locksmith promotion,” Richard said shaking his head. “A locksmith who loses his keys?”

And with that, Steven’s vibration—already shaky—collapsed into a tailspin.

“Lost” is a vibrational reality

For most people, losing something like keys is common. I’ve written several stories about my experience losing things. Here’s one. Here’s another. When something goes lost, the best thing to do, if possible, is forget about trying to find it. Instead, if we just go about our business, we’ll be led back into the reality where the item is present.

But most people, myself included sometimes, instantly start looking for the item. Doing that, we amplify the reality in which the thing is “lost”. Moreover, the more we try to find it, we amplify its lost state even more. So losing things, especially minor things, is a great way to prove to ourselves that we constantly move from one dimension to another. Losing something gives us a chance to play with alternate realities.

Sometimes, however, we lose something significant. When that happens, we’re not likely to just forget about it. In those cases, the lost item represents a more important movement of dimensional reality. For Steven, losing his keys was part of an ongoing series of manifestations. Manifestations that began with a wonderful visit to his sister’s house.

Killing that dear was part of that unfolding. So was being unable to sleep. Indeed, I’m sure, in the dream state, Steven soothed a lot of what he had stepped into. But he didn’t allow the momentum to soothe further. That’s why his Broader Perspective wanted him to take the day off.

He didn’t though. And everything changed. The intensity of his disconnection increased. As it did, more benefit unfolded for him.

From Whispers to Storms

Suddenly, everything Steven hadn’t done yet became a spotlight of failure. There was the broken sprinkler system. The backlog of requests. His own perfectionism kicked in, too — frantically reviewing all the ways he might have prevented losing his keys. Richard’s comments, the increased scrutiny he laid on Steven, the backlog of requests — all these things represented increased intensity.

But the real storm raging wasn’t Richard or anything outside Steven. It was the internal narrative Steven summoned in response. Richard, who had previously been mentoring Steven for the locksmith role, now seemed like a different person. He showed up as critical, cold and suspicious. Steven felt judged, watched, scrutinized and criticized. This new version Steven created had him feeling completely disempowered. And his lost keys left him feeling helpless to do anything about the situation.

^^Steven’s vibration changed. So everything around him did too, including Richard.

All that didn’t happen because Richard suddenly changed. It happened because Steven’s vibrationchanged. In his state of fear, he rendezvoused with a version of Richard that reflected exactly what he feared most: rejection, disappointment, and lost trust.

That’s how manifestation works. It doesn’t just hand us things. It reveals the shape of our beliefs so we can do something about them. Do something and we become a match to better alternate realities. But if we don’t, the shape of our beliefs, projected outward as a physical reality, gets more intense. It gets more intense because our Broader Perspective and All That Is wants us to align with that which we desire. 

It’s the only way we can have what we want. So the Universe and our Broader Perspective cooperates in nudging us in the direction of what we want by giving us cues. They start as whispers. However, if we ignore them, they can turn into storms. 

Mother becomes the boss

So the intensity of Steven’s reaction wasn’t about keys. It wasn’t about promotions. It was about something deeper. Something older. Something Steven had felt before.

The feelings—of being misunderstood, scrutinized, punished unfairly—were eerily familiar. They echoed memories of his relationship with his mother. Back then, he often felt like he couldn’t do anything right. No matter how hard he tried, she’d find something wrong. Her love and trust were conditional, easily withdrawn at the first sign of what she perceived as “failure.” Another way of describing “failure” is “any time Steven didn’t meet her expectations.”

Now here he was again. Different setting. Different authority figure. Same emotional response. That’s the gift of manifestation. It’s never random. It brings the unsoothed pattern back to us—but dressed in new clothes. This time it wasn’t “Mom.” It was Richard. And instead of a scolding at home, it was pressure at work. The stakes were higher, for sure. But vibrationally, the match was perfect. And the situation? Exactly the same.

All this wasn’t bad, though. It reflected Steven’s upgraded status as a vibrational being. The stakes were higher. His job was potentially on the line, or so Steven believed. His boss was furious with him, he thought.

What I knew was this whole experience was a higher-level opportunity to soothe his old beliefs. Beliefs still creating realities in his life that revealed where he is relative to his desires.

Steven is doing great. In other words, he’s progressing and progressing fast. It seems like these kinds of situations shouldn’t happen for someone advanced as Steven. And yet, these kinds of things do happen in the early stages of the advanced practice. That’s because they act as clearing gateways to brighter, better alternate futures.

Beliefs Hide in Plain Sight—Until They Don’t

Steven didn’t notice the parallel at first. Nor did he recognize how perfect all this was.

It wasn’t until our session, as we slowed everything down, that he saw it. The shame. The fear. Impulses to over perform in order to prove his worth. The sense of being “on trial.” All of it tracked back to a belief constellation first activated in childhood — and still quietly vibrating in his present-day experience.

Again, the lost keys didn’t cause this vibration. They revealed it.

That’s why the Positively Focused practice is so powerful. It shows us nothing ever “goes wrong.” Even a lost object is a portal into deeper knowing—if we’re willing to look. Not with blame. Not with urgency. But with curiosity and compassion.

And Steven did just that…eventually. It took him a week. In the days leading up to our session, he struggled. When he came to the session, he was deep in negative emotion. Despair. Helplessness. 

By the end of our session, however, he saw what was unfolding—not as punishment or setback—but as a tailor-made invitation to liberate old beliefs from their hiding places. He didn’t just lose keys. He found himself.

Takeaway: When something’s lost, something deeper reveals itself.

See you tomorrow for Part 3.

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Why Ignoring Spirit Guidance Makes Life Feel Harder

TL;DR: In this four-part series, the author explores how a client’s decision to override inner guidance set contrast in motion, showing that every opportunity begins as a soft whisper. But ignoring the whisper just makes the message louder and more painful. The author asserts that either way, no experience is ever misaligned.

The Universe said to a client last week “stay home.” It was a soft whisper that could have changed everything. When “Steven” woke up that morning, he already knew what to do. Or rather what not to do.

It wasn’t logic. No checklist appeared. It wasn’t a physical symptom either, like a scratchy throat.

Nevertheless, deep in his being, Steven felt it: Today was not a day to go to work. It was a Broader Perspective nudge—the kind he’d become increasingly familiar with as a Positively Focused client. The nudge came as a quiet, calm, inner voice. “Pause. Don’t push. Stay home.”

But Steven didn’t stay home. Instead, he shared that feeling with his wife. And she disagreed. “You should go,” she said. “Just get through it.”

Steven said her tone was kind but firm. And yet, that wasn’t what made Steven agree with her. Instead, it was a set of beliefs making up a large Belief Constellation. A constellation Steven couldn’t argue with. And in that moment, Steven did what most of us do far too often: He trusted external authority over inner knowing.

And that is where this story begins.

The foreshadowing 

The story doesn’t begin the moment Steven’s keys went missing. Nor when his boss started strongly criticizing Steven for losing his keys. No, it started here, with Steven ignoring his knowing. In the moment Steven said “yes” to someone else’s voice, and “no” to his own. Because every bit of contrast—big or small—starts long before the event. It usually starts with a tiny departure from alignment. Like putting someone else’s opinion before our Broader Perspective’s opinion, for example.

The day before this, Steven had a beautiful moment with his sister — who’s also a Positively Focused client. They were connecting, growing, aligning together. It was a peak moment, that day. And the Universe? It responded accordingly. Which meant… the next level of expansion was coming.

Of course, every new level of expansion carries within it a new level of contrast. Contrast we’re not prepared for before the expansionary movement. Contrast that then sets the stage for the next step in our expansion. What unfolded next represented, therefore, a gift. Steven didn’t see it that way, however.

That night, driving home from that joyful experience with his sister, Steven struck a baby deer. The collision wasn’t violent. There was no injury to him or his vehicle. It killed the deer, however. And that, emotionally, hit Steven hard. He couldn’t sleep. His mind raced. He questioned himself. What did it mean? Was it a sign? Was it his fault?

He dipped into strong negative emotions that night. And he’d forgotten his practice. He forgot negative emotions, like contrast, are seeds of expansion. In his emotional turmoil, he also didn’t realize that the deer encounter was not a punishment. It wasn’t karma. It wasn’t even misfortune or an accident. What it was, was a perfect foreshadowing. The encounter foreshadowed a need for Steven to soothe.

A fork in timelines

The deer, then, served as a messenger. The messenger, the young mammal, was ready to return to nonphysical. Like all points of consciousness, it chose the circumstances of its transition. In doing so, it also chose to serve as the messenger it was.

Its message was not one of doom, but of misalignment. An indicator that the frequency Steven was on no longer matched the old timeline he was living in. The path he was taking was ready to shift. The deer marked the fork.

So the next morning, when Steven’s Broader Perspective said “stay home,” it wasn’t random. It was part of a larger orchestration. Again, Steven needed to soothe.

But here’s where things get fascinating: Steven didn’t ignore the nudge. He noticed it, he named it. He even voiced it. That matters, because many people never get to that step. They plow ahead, unaware of inner signals. Steven, however, was aware. He just chose, in this case, to listen to someone else.

Even that wasn’t “wrong.” But that choice created a cascade. A timeline fork—one that included lost keys, criticism from his boss, and the resurfacing of old, powerful emotional patterns Steven would have to work through.

Would that timeline have manifested if he’d stayed home? Unlikely. But this is where the Positively Focused practice shines: it doesn’t teach avoidance. It teaches awareness. Awareness and alignment. Because contrast is not the enemy—it’s the invitation.

Steven just RSVP’d the hard way.

Resistance Isn’t What You Think It Is

We often think resistance shows up as panic, chaos, a full-blown breakdown. But that’s the final expression of resistance. The beginning of resistance is so soft, it’s practically inaudible. It’s a subtle push against the stream. A decision that seems small. A moment of “I should” instead of “I want.”

When Aaron said “yes” to work that day, it wasn’t because he didn’t care about his alignment. It was because his old stories—the ones about responsibility, about being a good husband, about pushing through—had more momentum than his trust in the inner voice.

That’s not failure. That’s just contrast.

And contrast is a mirror. Here’s the twist: None of this should be interpreted as a mistake. The deer. The keys that would go lost. The upcoming confrontation with his boss. Even Steven’s fear about his promotion. All of it was divine.

Because Steven’s vibration was already changing. He was becoming someone new. And when that happens, life must respond with new experiences—experiences reflecting where we’ve been and where we’re going. So yes, Steven “should’ve stayed home.” But not because that would’ve been “better.” Only because that path would’ve been smoother.

This path? It was more bumpy. But also more illuminating. Because sometimes, the fastest way to growth is friction. And Steven was ready for growth.

Takeaway: Every contrast begins with a soft whisper from within. The question is: Are we listening? And if we’re not—can we appreciate the journey anyway?

Thanks for reading. Part 2 goes live tomorrow.

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How Dreams Actually Make The Best Life Results Happen

TL;DR: This post reveals how a client’s emotionally charged work assignment became the perfect backdrop for dream-state alchemy—and how that dream dissolved resistance and sparked powerful clarity and ease. The experience shows how dreams work in conjunction with waking reality, when one is Positively Focused.

When Marsha (not her real name) came into session this past week, she carried a storm of energy around an assignment given to her by a work colleague and friend, Janet (also a pseudonym). The assignment seemed simple on its surface, but for Marsha, it stirred a complex emotional brew: fear of exposure, anxiety around performance, and a deep, practiced belief that being emotionally transparent might somehow be unsafe.

I wrote about this in my last post. I’m going deeper in this post, to show how exactly the dream state works in conjunction with waking reality, thus making it a powerful Source of awareness.

It’s easy, when gripped by these emotional currents, to think the problem is the whatever we are facing. But in the Positively Focused practice, we know something deeper is always at work. And that’s where this session offered Marsha something stunning.

Marsha described the assignment as triggering a downward emotional spiral. Her words reflected the inner tangle so many experience: “The moment Janet [gave me the assignment] my stomach dropped and my anxiety was like blowing through my head,” She said. “It got so bad that afterwards, I was physically shaking. I was so, so very extraordinarily stressed out, and felt incredibly pressured.”

Marsha tried applying the Positively Focused process to calm herself, and she got some traction. But the resistance was persistent. Eventually, she let herself rest. She was tired. And rather than resist that tiredness, she did something quietly powerful: She allowed herself to slip into sleep.

What happened next is a beautiful demonstration of how dreams serve our waking evolution.

The Dream Wrapped in the Waking Life

I asked Marsha to share her dream. Understanding the power of the dream world requires that I share what she shared. So here it is, straight from our session transcript:

“I was thinking about [Janet] and the task before I went to sleep, and I felt like, in the dream, even though I was in the dream, it was almost like [the task] was on the outskirts. My worry of that specific thing was on the, like, physically around the frame of the dream that I was having, even though it had nothing to do with the dream.”

Unknown to Marsha at the time, the dream had everything to do with the task. I’ll break that down in a moment. Here’s how she described what happened next:

“My mom and I are in a hotel room, and then we go explore this town, and everything is like old and dusty, and unkempt. And then she goes back to the hotel room, and I go to a shop or something where there’s an ex firefighter who’s very attractive. He’s showing me some things, and I’m flirting with him, and he’s embarrassed. I leave him to go back to the hotel room where my mother is, and she is not in the room, but the kitchenette that’s in the hotel room has like a pot of tea or something that’s bursting and like flowing, and it’s dangerous.”

“So I turn it off, and I’m really mad about it. And then someone who’s my sister. I know this person to be my sister, even though, in real life I don’t actually have a sister, comes in, and I’m mad at my sister, who, oddly enough, looks a lot like me, not identical twins. I’m mad because she wasn’t there in the hotel room to make sure that something hazardous, like a boiling pot, wouldn’t occur to protect my mom, who was not in the room.”

Interpreting The Dream World

Dreams, in the Positively Focused framework, are vital, vibrational events. They are not just the mind replaying memories. They are orchestrations of our Broader Perspective, designed to help us integrate, soothe, and expand.

When we go into nonphysical, we leave our brain, as well as the rest of our bodies, behind. When we return to our bodies, the dream’s “echo”, or resonance of the dream in non-physical, returns with us. At that point, our brain takes that echo and tries to translate the nonphysical experience into a kind of waking experience. It’s the same function the brain plays in waking experience: it’s translating vibrations into our “reality”. So it tries to do the same thing with nonphysical vibrational experience.

As it does this, it uses imagery from our waking life to approximate as best it can what happens in our nonphysical “dream” experience. Since dreams are much more complex than physical reality, the brain doesn’t get it all. It does get enough, however, for someone trained in dream work to interpret the dream.

That’s what I did with Marsha. 

I told her several things stood out about this dream. Some of those things indicated the powerful connection Marsha has to the dream world. Her dream was extremely vivid and detailed. Her recall was also astounding. Furthermore, Marsha’s dream occurred in a nonphysical container holding the waking life assignment and the emotional response Marsha had to it. That she perceived that was remarkable. But she still thought the dream had nothing to do with the assignment.

The dream had everything to do with the assignment, however. And, in the dream, Marsha worked through her fear and anxiety, which is why what happened when she came out of the dream was possible. Let’s look at the dream imagery to see the connections.

^^Marsha’s dream depicted by ChatGPT.

Dream Symbolism Offers Keys 

The shopping mall and hotel imagery was not random. Marsha is a young, mixed race, beautiful woman. And she maintains that beauty with a passion. She also loves the finer things in life. Shopping malls are her happy place. Since nonphysical, for everyone, is a place of unmitigated joy, freedom and expansion, the closest imagery her brain could approximate that expansive experience to is shopping malls.

However, that environment was dusty and full of abandoned products. That indicated that Marsha no longer want’s that old way of being to be her main focus. That is reflected in her waking life, evidenced by her willingness to work with Janet on a fledgling business and her decision to become a Positively Focused client. She’s ready for expansion, in other words.

Hotels in dreams are often transitory locations as hotels typically are in waking life. So the dream takes place in a transitory state, the transition being from the “what-is” of Marsha’s anxiety and fear (which are vibrations), to a different vibrational frequency, which Marsha intends to move to in the dream.

The firefighter experience is Marsha’s Broader Perspective showing up as capable, competent and with a lot of experience (retired) dealing with what I described as Marsha’s “4-alarm fire” that was the assignment. 

“He’s a demonstration of you, to yourself,” I told her. “Of your ability to handle what you consider to be a conflagration, the fire raging in you.”

While I explained this, Marsha got more interested and energetic in her vibrational stance. She leaned into the computer. I could tell what I shared was landing.

Evidence she’s capable

The firefighter represented the fact that Marsha’s got this whole situation under control. Marsha’s brain interpreting her as flirting with the firefighter was an attempt to approximate the intense connection and love Marsha has. Not for firefighters, but for the connection she has with her Broader Perspective, which is what the fireman represented.

The next important image was the kettle in the kitchenette. It was about to explode. I probed Marsha about this important image: “What kind of kettle is it?” I asked. “Is it like an ancient Japanese iron kettle, or is it like a modern pot?”

Marsha said it was a traditional Japanese iron kettle. 

“That’s not surprising,” I said. Then I explained how the transient or liminal space represented by the hotel was a place of expansion. Her mother not being there showed that in nonphysical, Marsha is expanding into her own sovereignty. Her mother plays a dominant role in her life right now. That role isn’t negative. They’re good friends as well as mother/daughter.

However, Marsha is a freedom-seeking, powerful expanding being. And because of choices her mother made, her mother is all about tradition and conservatism. The ancient Japanese tea kettlebursting with steam, bubbling over, I said, is representative of Marsha’s sovereign, creative energy wanting to expand beyond limiting tradition and conservation beliefs. 

The you that wants freedom and expansion, I told her, “It’s bubbling over, out of this cauldron that you’ve wrapped around it to try and contain it. And no, it’s not going to be contained.”

Sibling As Broader Perspective 

Then we touched on the wonderful interplay of Marsha with herself in the context of her mother’s influence. The sister Marsha doesn’t have, looked like Marsha. That’s because this “sister” is actually Marsha’s expanded self, who already has moved past her mother’s influence. And the argument Marsha has with her was about Marsha coming into alignment with that expanded version of her. 

The expansion represented by all this imagery happened in the dream state, in part, to spur Marsha’s movement forward in wake state. It was movement forward, which was why, when she woke from this dream, not only did she feel better, resistance she had about the assignment and other tasks disappeared. 

Sleep state is powerful. In the dream state we process tremendous energies all to our benefit. Consciously benefitting from that experience, however, requires we know it’s going on. And it requires us fostering the processing. How? By moving forward from the dreams.

What do I mean by that? Well, most people don’t realize they’re dreaming. Many who do don’t know what dreams really are. Or they forget them the moment they wake. In doing so, they pick right back up whatever they were thinking about before they went to sleep. So they just re-amplify whatever momentum they had from the previous day.

The key to benefitting from dreams is to wake up in a “fresh-start” frame of mind. Sleep state resets us to our expansion. Recognizing this and leveraging it makes a huge difference, as Marsha found.

Integration Through Symbolism From Resistance to Inspiration

To recap: Every symbol in Marsha’s dream was an echo of her waking concerns:

The boiling kettle reflected her suppressed, expansive, creative and emotional energy.

The hotel symbolized a temporary space of identity—she hadn’t yet claimed her sovereignty in that assignment.

The flirtation with the fireman showed her inner fire seeking expression in playful, unstructured ways.

The absence of her mother underscored the detachment from external authority; she wasn’t looking for approval anymore.

These weren’t intellectual metaphors. They were felt, emotional realities in the dream. And, they had her wake up different. When she came out of sleep, she wasn’t just rested. She was clear. She felt different. Lighter. No longer bogged down by the invisible weight of the assignment. And what followed was surprising to her:

“I woke up, and the anxiety had dissipated.” She said.

^^Marsha’s dream allowed her to release a ton of resistance which made her much more effective.

The dream had done the heavy lifting. But her Broader Perspective and the Universe weren’t done with her yet. Moreover, what happened next tied the whole manifestation together perfectly.

A girlfriend who lives in London texted Marsha after this dream event. It’s someone Marsha doesn’t talk with often, which explains why she thought this text was “random”. 

It was anything but random though. Attached was an Instagram meme, “talking about how today is the luckiest day of the year, the luckiest day.” Marsha said. Marsha was stunned by the meme’s beauty, she said. It just really stood out in her mind.

“Okay, it’s supposed to be the luckiest day,” Marsha recounted. “This is a really big deal. So everything should just go really well today, and I shouldn’t be feeling bad anymore. That’s how I felt when I saw the message.”

“Right after that,” Marsha said. “My other girlfriend sent me another screenshot which I just need to read to you. And so I was wondering if this was my Broader Perspective communicating to me via universe. It has Taurus on it, and then it goes: “Once she became comfortable with being uncomfortable, she was free to grow.”

Free to grow

“It resonated so hard!” Marsha exclaimed.

Indeed. It was the perfect capstone to a brilliant unfolding. A perfect orchestration looping in her Broader Perspective, the Universe and two friends’ Broader Perspectives which inspired them to send messages at the perfect time.

After receiving them, Marsha said, “…I instantly felt better.” Of course. She fully embodied, right then, that expanded self she met in the dream.

Now, Marsha’s story is not unique. Me and all my clients experience our versions of exactly the same sequence of events. This story is inspiring. But it’s also more than inspiring. It’s instructional. It shows how dreams can:

Help us process emotional energy too overwhelming to resolve in wake state.

Use symbolic language tailored to our personality and preferences.

Release resistance in ways we don’t have to consciously understand.

Prepare us to receive inspiration and act from alignment, not pressure.

And if we CAN bring conscious awareness to the process, our appreciation – of ourselves, of our expanded nature, of life in general, grows.

Most importantly, it shows that waking life and dream life are not separate. They are part of the same vibrational conversation.

The Relationship That Makes It All Possible

Marsha didn’t get lucky and these events weren’t random. She got receptive and then manifested what some would call a miracle. Her willingness to trust the process, rest when tired, and explore her dreams made the difference.

That willingness is what we cultivate in the Positively Focused practice. By “cultivate” I don’t mean working hard at it, but by nurturing the one relationship that makes everything else make sense: Our relationship with our Inner Being. That relationship is the source of every insight, every dream, and every inspired action. And it’s available to everyone.

We don’t have to wrestle our way through resistance, we can rest our way into clarity. We can dreamour way into power, freedom and our sovereignty. And we can become people who feel good first, and let life match that frequency.

Want to learn how? Become a client. We got your back. Always.

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What Happens When Animals Confirm Our Powerful Alignment

TL;DR: The author reflects on divinely-timed animal encounters—especially dogs—as living proof of vibrational alignment, showing how nature responds to high frequency with loving, unmistakable confirmation.

This afternoon (at the time of starting this post), I basked in the afterglow of a particularly delicious client session — one of those conversations where the energy flows like warm honey and every word feels like divine transmission. The client felt it too, which is why he asked for a copy of the session. He wanted to listen to it again. While the recording processed, I took my usual walk to the park, letting the joy of the session simmer in my cells. The sky was open, the grass alive, and I was in no hurry. I rarely am these days.

As I made my way into the open space, I saw a man ahead of me, walking with one of those curved dog-ball throwers. But strangely, I saw no dog with him. Curious, I asked him, “Where’s your dog?” He smiled and gestured down the way, saying, “She’s over there.” And like clockwork, as if on cue, a Springer Spaniel popped her head out from under the bushes—perky, alert, focused.

That moment felt like a wink.

The Dog Wasn’t Lost—She Was Led

I continued toward my usual place beneath the trees, pulled out my phone, and began dictating my client session notes. And that’s when it happened: I looked up, and that same dog came bounding across the park toward me. Full gallop. Tennis ball in mouth. Zero hesitation. She dropped the ball right at my feet. And I laughed out loud.

I knew exactly what this was. This wasn’t just a dog wanting to play fetch. This was a delivery. A divine gift wrapped in fur and slobber. My alignment had magnetized this moment—this joyful, beautiful interaction that felt more like ceremony than coincidence.

You see, this kind of thing happens to me all the time. Especially with animals. It’s always a little different, but the message is the same: You’re on the path, you’re seen. You’re loved.

Just last week, an elderly man walked into the same park with his wire-haired terrier. As he approached, he warned me that his dog was blind. But the moment I reached out my hand, that dog walked straight into it. Like a compass finding north. The man blinked and said: “You have very positive vibes. He can tell.”

He wasn’t wrong. His dog wasn’t either.

Wild Confirmations

It’s not just domestic animals, either. Hawks, owls, otters, falcons, seals — they all find me. Months ago, while walking along the Willamette river, I spied a river otter emerging from the water. It look directly at me then disappeared again beneath the surface.

Another time, while walking along the same river, a seal poked its head above the waves just as I looked in that direction. It stared at me for a long moment, then blinked and vanished.

^^An owl I spied spying me while on a walk. Usually, I don’t get a photo because such encounters are so spontaneous.

And once, while navigating a period of intense inner clarity, I looked up from a trail and locked eyes with a barn owl perched in broad daylight. We stared at each other for what felt like forever. I didn’t dare move. It was too sacred.

When we’re aligned—truly, deeply aligned—nature responds. Wild animals are not distracted by emails, deadlines, or stories about their past. Their attention isn’t distorted by chronic negative thinking. They don’t care what car you drive or how many followers you have. They feel resonance. Period.

They respond to presence.

^^A wonderful encounter with a Nutria. Totally unscripted….this is part of a longer video I made of a bike ride I took.

So when a creature we didn’t call walks (or swims or flies) directly into our path… that’s not just a “cool moment.” That’s a message. A mirror. A perfect rendezvous arranged by our Broader Perspective. A falcon sighting? That’s not just luck. That’s the Universe whispering: “You’re flying higher now.” A doe pausing to meet your eyes on a forest path? That’s Source saying: “I trust you with the sacred.”

And a dog galloping across a park, ignoring every other person in favor of dropping a ball at our feet? That’s a thunderous confirmation: “Keep going. You’re radiating.”

The Universe Uses Every Messenger

Some people wait for signs in numbers, or synchronicities in conversation — and those are wonderful. But the natural world has its own language. Animals aren’t just passive observers. They’re participants in the vibrational symphony we’re conducting every time we choose alignment. When we’re tuned in, turned on, and tapped into the frequency of love, clarity, and joy — birds will fly closer. Butterflies will linger. Dogs will drop tennis balls at our feet.

And when they do? Throw the ball. Honor the visit. Smile and say thanks. 

It’s easy to overlook these moments. To think, “Oh, the dog was just playful,” or “I happened to be in the right place.” But the truth is, we’re always in the right place when we’re vibrationally aligned. What looks like happenstance is actually choreography.

The more I live this practice, the more obvious it becomes: alignment creates access. Access to beauty, to love. Access to nonverbal communication with the entire natural world. So when that dog dropped the ball at my feet, it wasn’t random. It was evidence. It was a nod from All That Is. A gentle, slobbery, joyful confirmation: “You’re walking with Me.”

And isn’t that what every animal encounter really is? A nudge, a mirror. A little miracle, perfectly timed. Just like us.

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What Happens When Everyone Wins Through Alignment

TL;DR: In this, the final part of a six-part story, the author reflects on the multidimensional manifestation they shared where everyone—Jane, Sally, Alba, and even the author themselves—thrived through vibrational alignment, not effort. It’s the Charmed Life in action.

Now that the dust has settled, I want to paint the full picture of this manifestation between Jane and Sally. Alba too. Because this wasn’t just a firing. It wasn’t just a contract negotiation. It was a multidimensional, multi-human manifestation—a divinely orchestrated expansion with no losers.

Everyone won, including me. Including Alba. For Alba, the prize was re-emerging into the pure, positive perspective of All That Is, while still maintaining her individual consciousness, now expanded. No resistance, just joy.

Let’s recap the other wins:

Sally got clarity, confirmation, and a launchpad for her own venture.

Jane got a new $10,000 client she didn’t lift a finger to attract.

The customer organization got a more aligned, responsive partner.

I got to keep Sally as a client and witness another miracle from the practice unfolding as this story.

This is what alignment does. Alignment doesn’t play favorites. It uplifts all parties. It calibrates life to match our becoming. But seeing that happen requires a particular focus.

Reframing the “Hard Work” Myth

When Jane’s friends heard about her new $10K contract, they rushed to credit her performance. “You earned it,” they said. “You’re so good at what you do.”

But they missed the magic. Jane hadn’t done anything extraordinary—yet. The value hadn’t even been delivered. The increase came because of alignment, not action.

This is how deeply the “hard work equals success” myth runs. We reflexively celebrate the doing and ignore the being. But it was Jane’s shift in vibration—despite all the contrast—that opened the floodgates. And Sally? She hadn’t “earned” her sovereign launch through labor either. Instead, Sally aligned. Then she received the more she allowed. 

Also, let’s not forget I had my own calibration moment in this story. When Jane told me she might fire Sally, and another client contemplated downgrading their session frequency (that other client decided not to), I felt a flicker of scarcity.

But I knew what to do. I went into the park and soothed the belief. I remembered: My income comes through clients, not from them. And the Universe always makes up the difference—with interest. Sure enough, that alignment gave me everything: My income didn’t dip. Both clients stayed. And my trust deepened.

No One Left Behind

The most extraordinary part of this entire story? No one got left out. Not even Alba.

The customer got an upgraded contract, the contractor found greater alignment and a new version of her business. The fired employee is on a new journey. Even the coach benefited. As did you, dear reader. Wasn’t this a lovely story?

This is what I call the Charmed Life. The version of reality where everyone wins.

And the only way to get there? Through alignment. It’s available to everyone. We could even say everyone is living it, they just can’t see it subsumed in negative momentum born of negative beliefs.

But my clients and I see it. And we revel in it as much as we can. That’s because we know the more we do that, the more of the Charmed Life we get.

So if you’re facing contrast right now, remember: it’s not punishment or failure. The contrast instead is the Universe reorganizing itself around your expansion. Stay aligned. Stay open. Keep a positive focus. 

Then watch the miracles unfold.

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What Happens When You Finally See The Crown

TL;DR: In this fifth part of a six-part series, the author recounts how a funeral cracked open a deeper truth for his business-owner client: our judgments blind us to others’ divinity—until alignment lets us finally see what was always there.

Jane wasn’t prepared for what she walked into.

She had driven to the funeral of Alba—the representative of one of her customer organizations—with little expectation other than to show respect. After all, Alba had recently passed, and throughout their working relationship, Jane had long felt a measure of frustration toward her.

Alba was, to Jane, unreliable. She canceled meetings often. Alba spoke in ways Jane found circuitous and unfocused. She had become one of Jane’s most challenging clients—not because of what she asked for, but because of what Jane thought she represented: disorganization, distraction, a time-consumer.

And then came the funeral.

It was held in a Black church. Jane, who is white and was raised attending traditional white congregations, immediately noticed something different. There was music, joy, laughter. There were tears too—but the tears flowed alongside testimonies and praise. The pews were filled—300 people strong. And at the front of the sanctuary, the body of Alba rested peacefully…with a crown placed gently upon her head.

It took Jane’s breath away.

This funeral wasn’t about grief. This was a coronation. A recognition of the royal life Alba lived. And Jane could feel it—viscerally, undeniably. The room pulsed with love, gratitude, reverence. Here Jane witnessed a version of Alba she had never allowed herself to see. A revelation began. And with it came a reckoning.

The Version We See Is Always Ours

Here’s the great paradox of physical reality: we never interact with “the person” we’re interacting with. Instead, we interact with our version of that person. A version filtered through our active beliefs, biases, expectations, and emotional momentum. That’s true for clients, coworkers, lovers, friends—and yes, even for funeral guests. When Jane was alive in her stories about Alba, she couldn’t see the woman who had:

Served time in prison

Lost her children during incarceration

Rebuilt her life and reclaimed her family

Founded an entire organization to help formerly incarcerated women do the same

She couldn’t see the god in Alba, the angel, the founder, the force. But the version of Alba celebrated at that funeral was undeniable. That version shattered Jane’s perceptual filter. It wasn’t that Alba had changed. It was that Jane’s vibrational relationship to her had.

The crown on Alba’s head wasn’t just a tribute. It was a mirror. A powerful, public display of what Jane hadn’t allowed herself to see in life—but could now finally acknowledge in Alba’s transition.

The Hidden Grace in Every Human

This is the real culmination of the six-part story we’ve been sharing. It hasn’t been only about Jane and Sally, or about customers and contracts—it’s been about the sacred truth behind everyone we interact with: Every person is divine: Every person is on a path.

And every person reflects back to us our own energetic state. If we meet someone in frustration, resentment, or judgment, that’s what we get. We don’t see the fullness of who they are because we’re too busy projecting who we think they are. But when the filters fall away—whether through expansion or, in this case, grief—we see something else entirely. We see Source.

This is true of Alba. It’s also true of Sally.

Because Jane couldn’t see Sally’s value, she saw waste. She saw a blank database instead of a robust content strategy. She saw misalignment instead of leadership. But all of that was Jane’s story—not Sally’s.

The same way Alba’s story was far grander than Jane’s story could contain.

When Jane called me after the funeral, she was in tears—but not of sadness. These were tears of revelation, and awe. She told me everything—how beautiful the service was, how inspired she felt. And I just listened. I felt no need to emphasize what Jane discovered. Not then. 

But I will next session because this is a crucial moment for Jane.

The Sacred Reminder: Alignment First, Clarity Follows

That’s because Jane’s experience shows how powerful the Positively Focused practice is. It’s not about controlling others or highlighting their flaws as though those flaws are all they are. It’s about aligning with the broader awareness of who others are so that we can be a match to it.

When we’re aligned, our filters change. We perceive more clearly. We receive more graciously. Then we soften. We soften our view of the world and those in it. And the people become radiant reflections of the love and clarity we’ve cultivated within.

That’s what Jane touched in that church. It’s exactly why I want to solidify that in her awareness next session. And it’s exactly what Sally was offering Jane, right up to her “termination.” An opportunity to shift perspective. And that’s the fundamental beauty of what this entire six-part journey reveals.

The final gift of this story is simple, but profound: Every single human you meet wears a crown. It’s not always on their head. Sometimes it’s in their actions. Other times it’s in their perseverance. Sometimes it’s in the way they reflect back to us what we still can’t see in ourselves. But it’s always there.

And if we let the stories fall away… if we pause long enough to shift our vibration… if we open our eyes from alignment, rather than resistance… we’ll see it. And when we do, life becomes a coronation. Not just of others, but of ourselves. Because the crown we see on another’s head?

It’s our crown, too.

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When “Healing” Doesn’t Help: A New Path Forward

TL;DR: This reflective post explores a real-life interaction highlighting the limits of “healing” narratives. It illustrates how emotional contrast serves expansion through vibrational clarity, not trauma recovery.

There’s a common belief in many spiritual and New Age communities that emotional wounds must be healed, processed, and purged before one can move forward. The language of trauma, shadow work, and inner child healing often dominates these spaces. And while those interpretations can offer temporary comfort or a sense of meaning, from a Positively Focused perspective, none of them are necessary. In fact, they often reinforce the very frequency that keeps people locked in painful cycles.

This is the story of “Kellie”—a woman I met synchronistically—and how her journey with me became a living example of the difference between those two worldviews.

The Meeting: A Manifestation

We met at Gigi’s, a charming breakfast spot. I had gone there with the intention of having a joyful experience, maybe even meeting someone stimulating.

That’s exactly what happened. Kellie appeared as a delightful new acquaintance. We sparked a conversation rooted in spiritual curiosity. She shared her journey: a former software engineer with time spent in well-known software engineering corporations, now in a transitional space after escaping both high-tech burnout and a controlling Christian cult. Kellie was recalibrating her life.

She shared that she was deeply spiritual—into lucid dreaming, astrology, and alternate timeline work. We began spending time together casually, often sharing perspectives on spiritual topics. From the start, I recognized her as a manifestation. That’s why I never felt resistance to our dynamic. But I also never mistook her for a client. So I didn’t share the full depth of being Positively Focused.

Over time, however, I noticed a pattern. On at least three occasions, Kellie had intense negative emotional experience while in my presence. Something would trigger her—a memory, a comment, or even an impulse—and she would spiral. Each time, our conversation had to end because she was inconsolable.

Still, I stayed open. I saw her emotional responses not as problems, but as data. Kellie was calibrating. Just not consciously.

Better timelines?

Then, during one of our coffee shop conversations, she brought up her ability to perceive timelines. She always spoke of them as dark or painful, especially those involving her mother.

So I asked a simple, high-vibration question: If you can perceive other timelines, why are the ones you access always negative? What if there are joyful timelines you could feel into? Ones where your mother loved you well, or where your tech career was fulfilling?

That question opened the door.

Later, Sarah texted me, thanking me for what I shared. She said it helped her remember that she could access positive timelines too. That she was on a grand adventure.

I responded, offering a broader perspective: that nothing comes “unbidden”, that her Belief Momentum instead was drawing specific versions of reality to her, and that cleaning up those beliefs would align her with timelines she prefers. I even gently suggested her distrust of corporations might be limiting her.

I added that her beliefs about being “banned” from ChatGPT (which she had shared with me) might also be evidence of her vibrational focus. Maybe her beliefs about malevolent systems were recreating experiences that seemed like censorship or exclusion I told her.

I offered this not as critique, but as a mirror. From a high vibration. She had asked for my insight after all. So I gave it.

The Reaction

Days later, she wrote back, saying my message hit like a “gut punch”. It exposed a “gaping wound” Kellie said. She thanked me, but also said she needed several days to recover. She interpreted what I said as harsh, even though she acknowledged it came from love.

She said she was still processing and needed compassion. That she felt blocked from experiencing more positive timelines, and maybe that blockage was necessary for her growth. Kellie even said the more Positively Focused timelines were “blocked” by design.

Recognizing Kellie wasn’t in a good place, I offered what I knew before hand, but didn’t heed, that the accuracy of my client framework can be hard to hear if the listener doesn’t have some context to receive it in:

Then I sought clarification. Some of what she said perplexed me:

Kellie responded saying she felt attacked. Then corrected herself: she now saw that wasn’t true. Still, she said, she didn’t want to pursue the conversation further.

From the Positively Focused Perspective

This exchange clarified something I already knew: what I offer is sacred. And it’s best offered within the container of client relationships. Because unless someone has done some calibrating, the perspective I bring can feel destabilizing.

Kellie’s response reflects a common misunderstanding: the belief that there are emotional “wounds” which must be “healed”. That someone else can “expose” those wounds. That life happens to us, and we must recover from it. But from a Positively Focused perspective, there are no “wounds”. There is only vibrational momentum.

What feels like a wound is just the contrast between a deeply practiced belief and the perspective of our Inner Being. The bigger the contrast between those two, the more it hurts. But that pain isn’t an indication that something went wrong. It’s evidence that something is ready to change.

What’s more, the idea that we need to “heal” implies something is broken. That something bad happened that we didn’t ask for. It implies that we are victims of circumstance. But that’s never the case.

Everything that happens is an answer to our vibration. And every experience—even the painful ones—are invitations…into greater clarity, alignment, and freedom. That’s why I never use the language of “healing” or “wounding.” Such language disempowers. It locks people into a linear process of “recovery” rather than an expansive, upward spiral, quantum path of calibration.

Kellie wasn’t wounded. She was experiencing the emotional signal of Belief Momentum that no longer serves her. But she can’t hear that.

What She Reflected Back to Me

I’m grateful to Kellie. She reminded me that Positively Focused isn’t for everyone. It requires readiness, willingness and devotion. It definitely demands a certain level of vibrational stability.

Kellie also showed me how easy it is to interpret feedback through the lens of pain. Her belief that I “attacked” her wasn’t about me. It was about how her Belief Momentum filtered my words.

I honor that. But I don’t take it on.

Instead, I use it as a reminder that the practice I offer works best when someone is asking, deliberately and consistently, for what I offer.

After our final exchange, I sent her a message of closure. One rooted in appreciation, clarity, and forward movement. Here it is:

Final Thoughts

Not everyone is a client. And not every spiritual “seeker” is ready to release the “wound/healing” paradigm and become a “finder”. That’s ok. But I’ll continue to offer what I offer: a path of deliberate, joyful calibration, where nothing is broken, nothing went wrong, and everything—yes, even ChatGPT bans and gut punches—is an invitation.

To those ready to live from that knowing, I say: welcome home.

There’s so much joy in the world. There’s so much joy in our lives. And there’s so much joy in us.Tapping into that joy can be exhilarating and leads to a tremendous sense of worthiness. It’s exhilarating and addictive: once someone discovers Positively Focused as a way of being, they hardly ever go back to living they way they did before.

That’s because everyone’s Broader Perspective wants them to embody, live and express that joy. Some, however, aren’t ready for that. Some still must move through disempowering momentum. That’s ok too. I’m happy with the world as it is. And, I’m joyful for those who encounter Positively Focused, then become clients.

It’s so fun being Positively Focused. But it’s even funner when like-minded others join in on that fun.

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Why Younger Leaders Make the Best Alignment Teachers

TL;DR: In this, Part 4, of a six-part series, the author shares how client Sally turned a firing into confirmation from the Universe, demonstrating the clarity and leadership that emerge when younger generations align with their broader perspective.

When I got on the call with Sally that evening, I wasn’t worried. I knew what kind of vibrational environment we had built together. But still—when I heard her voice, I felt deep satisfaction. She was calm. Clear. Even… radiant.

Sally had just been fired. But instead of spiraling, she immediately started receiving. A text from a woman she respected—her dance instructor—landed just minutes after the call. “You’re such a light,” it read. “I’m so glad to call you my friend.” Sally was floored. The timing was divine. And the message? Unmistakable.

Then, in the elevator of her building, a stranger looked at her with admiration and offered a spontaneous compliment on her beauty. Another confirmation. Another wink from the Universe.

None of this was coincidence. This was the Universe showing her: “You’re okay. In fact, you’re better than okay.”

A practice that delivers

I’ve long said younger generations are not here to be taught—they’re here to teach. Sally is at least 12 years younger than Jane, and that’s no accident. She’s fluid, adaptable, and, because she’s younger, less burdened by societal conditioning. A lot of Jane’s resistance comes from just having lived longer. Sally, on the other hand, flows easily with energy. It’s not that Jane is “wrong.” She’s just older. She’s here to build a foundation. Sally? She’s here to leap from it.

Let’s be clear: Sally still struggles with her own resistance. She’s getting better at that struggle every week, however. That’s because Sally is devoted to this practice. When I told Sally this, she smiled. She got it instantly. Not intellectually, but vibrationally. She felt the truth of her place in this unfolding.

Then Sally did something most people wouldn’t.

She said: “I want to continue the Positively Focused practice. Even if I have to pay for it myself. Are you willing?” Are you kidding me? Of course, I’m willing I told her. This is a woman who had just lost her job. But instead of retreating, she expanded. Instead of pulling back, she leaned in. That’s sovereignty.

And here’s the part that gives me chills because it shows how devoted she is to this practice: Sally had already dropped her therapist a few weeks earlier. Not because of dissatisfaction, but because the Positively Focused framework, she said, works better for her. She wanted deeper alignment, not traditional analysis. And now? The practice had proven itself in the real world. In the sharp contrast of a termination, it had delivered peace, clarity, and confirmation.

Leaping Into Her Own Leadership

Nearly all my clients create similar results for themselves. That includes Jane. After all, Jane was the client who manifested a diamond. And all my clients who once had therapists agree: Therapy just can’t match alignment to All That Is. That alignment not only is the leverage everyone’s looking for. It also feels tremendously good. And how could it not? It taps us into our sovereignty. There’s no better feeling than that. No healing required. Just clarity.

With her job at Jane’s company winding down, Sally saw what I had always seen: she’s not meant to be an employee. She’s meant to lead. To create in her unique way. To bring talents to the world no one has seen before.

And now, she’s getting ready to do it. She doesn’t see that potential fully enough to embrace it. But everyone is expanding. Everyone’s also eternal. So there’s no rush to get it all done right now. We couldn’t even if we wanted to.

I’m positive she’ll use the practice as her compass. I’ll be there as her coach as well. And the Universe? The Universe is already clearing the path.

Two more fabulous installments to this story that delivered manifestation after manifestation. We’ll resume with those last two installments beginning this Wednesday.

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Why Firing Someone Can Be a Powerful Gift

TL;DR: The author unpacks a real client story revealing how misaligned beliefs—not job performance—triggered a firing, showing how inner resistance creates outer conflict, and why alignment always tells the real story. This is part 3 of a 4-part story.

Let’s be honest—most people think they make employment decisions based on facts. Performance metrics. Deadlines met. Tasks completed. But the truth is, none of that matters when someone has already made up their mind about who you are.

That’s what happened between Jane and Sally.

Jane had been telling stories—persistent, loud, negative stories—about Sally’s value for a long time. “She doesn’t contribute.” “She’s not a good fit.” “She just doesn’t get it.” The stories were so dominant, they distorted reality. So when Sally delivered above and beyond on her latest assignment—breaking down content and building a customized database to store it—Jane couldn’t even see it. Not because Sally did anything wrong, but because Jane literally couldn’t see beyond her beliefs.

And here’s the thing about dominant beliefs: they create reality. Not in a metaphorical way, but vibrationally, tangibly, literally. Jane’s filter was so active that it collapsed the moment into something tailored to Jane’s filter: a task undone, value uncreated. So she did what matched her vibration—she decided to fire Sally.

This wasn’t about job performance. It was about energetic incompatibility.

Money, above all

Jane and Sally were no longer vibrationally aligned. Jane’s Belief Constellation had shifted to a place that no longer matched Sally’s presence. That doesn’t mean Sally did something wrong. It means the relationship had run its course. But most people can’t accept that. They want reasons, data, justification. So they turn misalignment into misconduct.

And when that happens, not only is the employee misunderstood, but the employer walks away from a learning moment that could have expanded them both.

Jane was feeling intensely negative about this decision. Why? Because her stories weren’t just about Sally’s work. They also collided with something stronger: her relationship with her partner, who is funding the business. For some time now, Jane expressed fear and insecurity about not living up to expectations her partner had for her performance and results of the company. 

To mask that fear and insecurity, Jane made it about Sally’s performance. That was obvious, when her partner joined Jane and my conversation about Jane wanting to fire Sally. Jane’s partner was equally adamant. And of course he was: he had collapsed into Jane’s belief momentum. So all he could see in Sally was someone not delivering. That amplified Jane’s beliefs that she was right. All the while neither were very clear about what this was really about: money. An entire Belief Constellation about money.

Practicing What I Preach

Another subject drove Jane’s momentum of negative beliefs about Sally. This one was even deeper: their friendship. The discomfort she felt wasn’t about firing someone. It was about being out of alignment while doing so.

That’s why I insisted she get aligned with the decision before acting. Not because I was trying to delay her, although that’s what she thought I was doing, but because I knew if she made a decision from resistance, she’d attract more contrast. And that’s not what she wanted.

When people act from misalignment, they often think they’re taking control. But really, they’re surrendering to momentum they don’t understand. Decisions made from emotional turbulence usually just reproduce that turbulence in a new form.

As all of this was unfolding, I noticed a tiny twinge in myself. Another client had just told me they contemplated reducing their sessions for financial reasons. And now, Jane was about to fire someone whose sessions she was paying for. The old scarcity voice knocked at the door: “Will your income shrink?”

But I’ve been doing this too long to fall for that voice. I took myself into the park and soothed the belief. I reminded myself: money doesn’t come from clients. It comes through them. No, money comes from alignment, not people. People are the conduit through which it comes sometimes. But it can come in other ways too.

Divine, perfect unfolding.

And that alignment? I had it. Which is why, when Jane moved forward, I was able to stay steady. No panic. No worry. Just clarity. Sally might not be a client anymore, I thought. But something tells me this story’s not over. And as I worked with Jane – a very resistant Jane – and her partner to navigate their resistant turbulence, I felt awe about how so many things were going right, right in the midst of everything looking like it was going wrong.

In an additional call, Jane, her partner and I worked through some negative stories Jane had, mostly involving firing a friend. I knew much more needed addressing in Jane’s Belief Constellations. But those things would have to wait. For there was too much Belief Momentum on them to address them all at once.

The rest of the story unfolded in divine perfection. There’s still a LOT to be told. Including something that happened yesterday that I will add in a Part 5. But for now, stay tuned for Part 4, which drops tomorrow.

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What Happens When Getting Fired Is Actually an Upgrade

TL;DR: The author recounts how client Sally transformed a sudden firing into unexpected confirmation from the Universe—turning perceived rejection into a launchpad for independence, clarity, and personal empowerment. This is part 2 of a 3-part story. 

Sally’s phone rang. On the other end, her employer and friend Jane delivered news she didn’t see coming: her employment contract would not be renewed. No warning, review or improvement plan. No space to explain. Just a sudden end to the role she’d been performing, in her mind, with care, creativity, and dedication.

Now, Sally had trouble performing. But that’s because the company mission and organization changed drastically and Sally joined expecting something the company no longer was. She tried to adapt. But her efforts weren’t good enough.

Jane’s rationale for letting Sally go? On the surface it was Jane’s perspective that Sally added no value to the company. Evidence she gave was a task Jane believed Sally failed to complete. But that rationale was a mask. In truth, Sally had completed it—beautifully. Not only had she followed the assignment to break Jane’s blog content into repurposable chunks for social media, she’d gone a step further. She created a powerful, scalable content database, custom built from scratch with the help of ChatGPT.

It was smart. Strategic. Future-facing. But Jane couldn’t see it. And that is the crux of this story: the moment when a person’s active belief system filters out any reality inconsistent with it. Jane believed Sally wasn’t adding value. So, even when Sally delivered value, Jane literally couldn’t see it. This is the power—and the peril—of our dominant narratives.

Beliefs Create Blind Spots

This moment is more than a misunderstanding. It’s a living demonstration of a core Positively Focused truth: We don’t see “reality.” We see our beliefs projected into form. And Jane’s beliefs were loud: Sally isn’t contributing value. She doesn’t understand what I need. She’s wasting time. And she’s wasting my money.

When those beliefs are dominant, the Universe must deliver a version of reality, including people in that reality, proving the beliefs true—no matter what’s actually happening.

Immersed in those beliefs, Jane looked at a blank database and saw wasted effort, not innovation. She heard an explanation and felt frustration, not partnership. She concluded that this was the final straw, not the beginning of a breakthrough.

And Sally? Sally found herself abruptly fired—not because of her performance, but because her employer’s vibration had reached a tipping point. But the story doesn’t end here. Not even close. Because the Universe doesn’t work in straight lines. It works in spirals of expansion. And this firing was merely a pivot point. A stepping stone. The launching pad for something greater.

^^Jane couldn’t see the value Sally offered because she couldn’t see around her persistent belief momentum.

Sally’s Response: A Masterclass in Alignment

When I connected with Sally later that day, I was curious. Not worried—curious. Because I knew three things: One, Sally had been living the Positively Focused practice. Two, I had held steady in my own vibration around this outcome. And three, the Universe always delivers in our favor when we allow it.

So I wasn’t surprised when Sally told me she felt… good. Not shaken. Not devastated. Just calm. Clear. Receptive. That’s because, as soon as she hung up with Jane, the Universe swooped in with confirmation:

A text from a woman she deeply admired, a dance instructor she respected but had never called a friend. The message read: “I really believe we have a lot in common and I’m happy to call you my friend. You’re so positive and uplifting and I appreciate you.”

A chance encounter in the elevator with a stranger who offered warm, spontaneous appreciation for Sally’s physical beauty—another clear signal from the Universe: “We see you. You are loved.”

And the biggest moment of all: Sally realized she wanted to keep working with me—even if it meant paying out of pocket. Because this practice had given her more than any therapy session ever had.

She had just been fired… and yet she was feeling more empowered, more sovereign, and more certain of her path forward than ever before. She also knew Jane firing her had nothing to do with her. Now that’s alignment. That’s sovereignty.

Futures as Bright as the Morning Sun

Sally took an aptitude battery early in her employment with Jane. The battery returned what I already felt in Sally’s vibration. Sally is a leader, it said. She’s here to pioneer new pathways, not follow in the footsteps of others.

Sally isn’t quite at that vibrational frequency to realize this herself. She found the battery results at odds with her thinking. But that’s because her thinking still carries old beliefs of inadequacy, need and a bit of unworthiness. 

And that’s why I enjoy guiding people through this practice. I’ve honed my awareness so that it is a sharp perceiver of what lies at the core of people. I can see their brightest future. Furthermore, I’ve built a structure that can have people end up living that future. 

It requires dedication. It requires some letting go of old selves. The results, however, are so worth it. Everyone’s future can brighten like the morning sun, dispelling all distortion and revealing the joyful reflection of one’s eternal, divine inner state. I’m here to help those ready for such futures walk into them.

Perhaps you’re one such person. Let’s find out.

Meantime, we continue with this story tomorrow. We’re not even half-way through the amazing manifestations flowing from this one interaction. In case you missed it, here’s Part 1.

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How to Turn Firing Someone Into a Powerful Win

TL;DR: The author shares a stunning true story of a client who fired her employee—only to receive a $10K contract hours later. A real-life illustration of how vibrational alignment trumps effort every time. This is Part 1 of an astounding 3-Part story.

There’s something extraordinary that happens when we stop seeing life as a linear chain of cause and effect, and start recognizing it as a living mirror of our vibrational state. That’s what the Positively Focused practice is all about—tuning your inner alignment so well that even what others call “negative experiences” turn out to be springboards into exactly what you’re wanting.

This three-part story is a powerful example. This is part one.

It involves two clients of mine—let’s call them Jane and Sally—whose lives intersected professionally. Jane employed Sally. But over time, their work relationship became strained. Jane had developed a dominant story: Sally wasn’t adding value. She believed it so thoroughly that she began telling everyone around her that Sally wasn’t producing anything meaningful. Eventually, Jane reached what she called the “last straw.”

She decided she was going to fire Sally. But the truth was: Sally had been doing great work—far beyond what was asked of her. Jane simply couldn’t see it.

When Stories Become Reality (and Blind Us to What’s True)

The Positively Focused perspective reminds us: your beliefs filter your world. Jane’s belief that Sally didn’t contribute value was so active, it completely blocked her ability to see the value right in front of her.

Sally had completed a task that Jane assigned—breaking up blog content for social media. Not only that, she also built, from scratch, a custom database using ChatGPT to organize and manage that content. But when Jane saw the database—because it had no content in it yet—she concluded Sally wasted her time. The truth was, Sally had the content ready. She just hadn’t loaded it in yet. Sally showed Jane the content, but Jane ignored what Sally presented.

Jane literally did not see what Sally had done…because her vibration wouldn’t allow it.

^^ Firing Sally was the natural next step given Jane’s and Sally’s belief momentum.

This is not a failure of observation—it’s a demonstration of how powerfully our inner reality determines what we perceive outside us. Our persistent stories don’t just color the world; they shape it. They blind us to evidence that contradicts them. Jane wasn’t wrong in a moral sense. She was just vibrationally tuned to a version of Sally that matched her expectation.

This is how creation works.

The Universe Orchestrates More Than We Know

As this was unfolding, something else happened: a customer Jane had long disliked—due to their poor communication, arriving late to meetings, and overly wordy updates—suddenly died. The passing shocked Jane. But this loss created a vacuum in that customer’s organization.

A new interim CEO stepped in. She immediately emailed Jane, asking if Jane would be open to amending their contract—expanding it from a small $300 contract…to a $10,000 one.

Yes. From $300 to $10,000.

This is a client Jane had barely done any work for. But Jane had previously told me she wanted a second $10,000 client. The first one, a dental client, was already active. Now, out of what looked like tragedy and workplace drama, the Universe delivered the second.

Jane didn’t have to do anything for it. It came through alignment. That’s not the end of this story however. It’s just the beginning. But let’s pause here, because this is where many people miss the magic.

They think that Jane got lucky. That a door closed and another opened. That “one person died, another got fired, and everything worked out in the end.” But that’s not what happened.

What actually happened is this: the Universe perfectly matched everyone involved with the experiences they were aligned with—and in doing so, set up the next chapter of each person’s expansion. And they all won. Jane got her second $10,000 client. Sally, as you’ll see in Part 2, got something even more valuable than a job. And I, as their guide, got the supreme joy of watching divine timing play out in real time.

More to come tomorrow.

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How One Powerful Intention Brought a Beautiful Stranger Back

TL;DR: The author shares a real-life manifestation story showing how a light, trusting intention led to a wonderful reunion — proving once again that alignment, not effort, is the secret to beautiful results.

There’s tremendous power in lining up with how reality works. Especially when it comes to creating outcomes we want. This power causes trying to “make it happen” to pale in comparison. Indeed, all my clients who have experienced this say that creating what they want is far, far, far more satisfying than trying to “make it happen” through doing.

But it takes trust to rely on BEING as a way to have what we want. Trust comes from repeated evidence demonstrated over time. Evidence proving process you’re wanting to trust is trust-worthy. That’s why the Positively Focused practice is a practice. Yes, it’s difficult at first, as is learning anything new. But the other, more important reason for the practice is people need to build trust in their being. That comes from assembling a body of evidence proving their being is worthy of their trust.

What happened in my life over the last six months is yet another piece of evidence fortifying my trust in everything I share. What happened isn’t so special. These kinds of things happen for me all the time these days. But the way in which it happened is special. That’s because, as I just shared, it’s one more weight tipping the scale towards my knowing that reality, or Wake-Scape, bends to our intention set in our Reality of Origin through the Moment Of Becoming.

Let’s look at this wonderful manifestation in which I created a rendezvous with a beautiful stranger I met months before.

It begins

I didn’t realize it six months ago, but what unfolded since then became a perfect, living example of the Positively Focused practice — the kind of story I tell my clients to help them see how Wake Scape really works when we align into our Moment of Becoming and follow our Broader Perspective‘s impulses.

There’s a burger joint I used to frequent. It wasn’t the food that drew me in week after week — though I’m not going to say no to a good burger. No, what kept pulling me in was a trans woman who worked there. She was stunning. Magnetic. The first time she brought my food out to me, she took my breath away.

From that moment on, I was hooked. Not in a desperate way. But I was definitely showing up more frequently at this burger place and not just for the burgers and tater tots. Every week I’d head over, sit at the bar, and simply…watch. Watch her move, cook, smile.

We never spoke. I never approached her. But I knew she knew I was looking. And yet something in me respected the sacred space of her workplace. I didn’t force an introduction.

Weeks passed. Maybe two months. Then one day, she wasn’t there.

The next week? Still no sign of her.

And just like that, she was gone. I realized she no longer worked there. And that felt like a door closing — one I hadn’t even walked through. I never got her name. Never had a chance to chat her up or even say hello.

But here’s where the manifestation began.

“Go for a walk”

I remember thinking: “I’m going to see her again.”

And that’s all. No trying. No scheming. I didn’t launch a search party or dig around online. I just felt the desire, set it down gently in the space of my Reality of Origin, and let it go. Letting it go was easy because I knew my Broader Perspective and All That Is was on it. So I didn’t need to be. My Broader Perspective received my intention to see her again. It would therefore orchestrate events so that that would happen.

I went on with life. No resistance. No need to control it. Just trust.

Fast forward to a day in late May. I woke up to an impulse. One of those quiet nudges from my Broader Perspective — ones I’ve learned to listen to without questioning. It was already 70° outside and heading toward 85°. The nudge was simple: go for a walk.

So I did. I didn’t even think twice. After dressing I headed out into the warm morning air. I walked over to the community center where I workout and ended up having a lovely 10-minute conversation with a man I know named Apollo. And yes — he looks like an Apollo.

We caught up, shared some laughs, then parted ways. I continued walking. About ¾ of the way through my route, far from the burger joint, I came upon a breakfast place. And who do you think was sitting at an outside table?

That’s right. Her.

The trans woman from the burger place. Just…sitting there. Radiant as ever.

^^The rendezvous was very much exactly like this!

Let that sink in

My heart did a little flip. I knew this was the moment I’d asked for. My intention, dropped in months ago, had landed. And now it was right in front of me, delivered right through the Moment of Becoming into my Present Moment, my collection of manifestations.

At first, I hesitated. I felt a flicker of embarrassment — should I approach her? What if it’s awkward? But I’ve trained myself to move beyond those thoughts. I knew this was an invitation from the All That Is, perfectly timed and lovingly orchestrated.

After screwing up some gumption, I walked over, pulled out the chair across from her and sat down. She smiled and opened a conversation. A conversation that was delightful.

Her name is Bryn. She told me she left the burger joint because the management had done something unethical. She now works for the post office — and here’s the kicker: the branch she works at is less than half a mile from my home.

Not only that, she knows my next-door neighbor, who also is a letter carrier, and works with him at that very branch.

Now let that sink in.

A woman I admired from afar disappeared. Then reappeared — not just randomly, but in my neighborhood, woven into my everyday reality, my Present Moment. Not by accident. But through my alignment. No effort. No trying to make it happen.

This is what manifestation really looks like.

What we want will show up

It’s not about forcing. Nor is it about chasing. It’s about being — being in alignment with what we want, then letting the Universe do the rest.

I didn’t “make” this happen. There was no manipulation of events or trying to control outcomes. I simply followed joy, listened to the impulses, followed the nudge. And that nudge took me exactly where I needed to be, exactly when I needed to be there.

That’s the magic of this practice. But it’s not magic. It’s knowing what we really are, then living from that clarity.

Set our intention. Don’t worry about how. Don’t worry about when. Let everything go. Keep our vibration clear, our heart open, and our life in flow. And when the time is right, what we want will show up — often in ways more satisfying and more elegantly than we could ever plan.

Meeting Bryn again wasn’t just a sweet surprise. It was a confirmation. The Universe confirmed what I trust in: that I don’t need to hustle my way into getting what I want. I just need to listen, trust, allow then act when the impulse comes.

Next time that quiet desire arises — the kind that tugs at the heart without demanding attention — trust that it’s heard. Trust that it’s in motion. And trust that staying in joy will bring what you want faster than your action.

Just like Bryn came to me. And when it does, it will feel easy. Effortless. Natural. Like walking outside on a sunny morning…And finding exactly what you wanted.

Want help with learning how? Book a free session. Let’s get you started.

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How Dreams Actually Reveal Your Best Life’s Momentum

TL;DR: The author shares a profound dream journey revealing how vehicles, symbols, and feminine energy reflect their vibrational expansion and ascension, illustrating dreams as tools for real-time spiritual evolution.

For years, I’ve tracked my dreams. I’ve assembled more than 15,000 dreams, carefully recorded, interpreted, and lived with. My relationship to dreaming isn’t casual — it’s devotional. I see dreams not as escapist fantasy, but as a sacred, multidimensional classroom and mirror. But it’s also prophecy. And a barometer of vibrational reality and expansion.

Lately, my dreams have been whispering something louder: You’re ascending, they’re saying. They’re not using those exact words, of course. Dreams rarely use words. Instead, they’re speaking in symbols so crystal clear, so lovingly tailored to my life, that the message is unmistakable. One of the clearest markers? The vehicles.

For years, I’ve seen myself on bikes, scooters, and even on foot. In recent dreams, that’s changed—radically.

It began with luxury sedans. Then high-end sports cars. Then a snow-white Porsche gliding out of the ocean. And most recently: a luxury electric vehicle (EV), driven by a beautiful feminine energy, sailing past 131 mph with total control, no fear and me in the passenger seat. And then? A custom-designed cigarette boat—its cockpit made solely for me.

Sitting in the cockpit in the dream felt natural, normal. But the feeling of it also felt powerful and joyful. The location was special too: an inlet filled with other boats of various makes and models all heading either into or out of someplace special.

Dream symbolism: energetic fact clothed in personal story

Why does this matter? Because vehicles in dreams aren’t just props. They’re representations of our frequency, our momentum, our agency in navigating inner and outer realms.

A bicycle is personal power at ground level. A luxury sedan is embodied ease. An EV? That’s effortless, vibration-driven movement—alignment in motion. A cigarette boat? That’s mastery over fluid, constantly shifting, massively deep emotional terrain with very high speed and powerful sovereignty.

And the driver in the EV? A feminine energy so radiant and calm, I’m sure she was my Broader Perspective—showing me the ropes, initiating me into a higher dreamscape frequency. Teaching me by feel, not by word. Then, when it was time, I took the wheel. The wheel of a massive, powerful, custom-tailored cigarette boat.

All this isn’t metaphor. This is energetic transmission filtered through symbolism. And when we track our dreams long enough, we start to see: they’re tracking us too.

Many people, including the science community, think dreams are the brain processing the day’s experience. They couldn’t be more off base.

^^The cigarette boat as symbol conveys an upgrade to my ability to move through vibrational frequencies with speed and power.

What are dreams?

Dreams are integral experience. They are literally integration fields in which we communicate across our multidimensional selves. That communication also happens between and among countless nonphysical beings. Beings in on the fun of our lives. I call those beings our “Cadre”. They too enjoy multidimensional selves. You can see then how communication, participation and interaction is vast, dense and complex. The dream world is a dense field of activity.

But it’s also an effortless field. And it’s something we are very, very good at.

When we sleep, we leave our bodies. We return to what we really are: eternal spirit beings. In that original state, we access all that we are across All That Is. There we plan our next steps in our ascension. Our Cadre is there too as are all the willing players in our journey. That’s what dreams are all about. That and a lot more.

I help clients understand their dreams. As they gain that experience, they find something powerful. Something I know very well: Dreams are extremely useful fields of life experience. They, in fact, are the main event in which our waking life happens.

When we return to our bodies, the brain, which we left behind along with our body, tries to make sense of the dream experience. It does the same thing it does with physical reality. It’s for this reason the dream occurs to us upon awakening as filled with images familiar to us: cars, boats, houses, etc. 

None of those things are in the actual dream experience. That’s because the actual dream experience is 100 percent vibrational. With practice, however, we can interpret images the brain puts on the experience. We can get behind them, behind the images. That’s when dream information really shines.

Rewarding attention with evolution

It’s obvious then, that this recent dream sequence didn’t come out of nowhere. The dream wasn’t a random bunch of processing nonsense. Not at all like some scientists describe dreams. Rather, this sequence followed a bridge celebration dream — an unmistakable soul-level marker. Such markers I’ve come to see as a signpost of vibrational completion. Since that dream, the dreamworld itself seems to have upgraded.

Faster transitions and clearer landscapes are more prominent. So is more precise symbolism. And my feminine and androgynous guides are showing up more often too. All of this brings to me a deeper, more integrated joyful dream experience. They leave me waking with a deep, satisfying knowing that I am eternal. More than human.

(For fun, I’ll include the full description of that celebration dream at the bottom of this post. It was quite the celebration!)

To me, this is what ascension looks like in the dream state: not just soaring in light tunnels (though those happen too), but witnessing the progressive refinement of symbols that match growing self-recognition.

Dreams may start with walking. Evolve to biking. Next we’re in a car, then a plane. Then a starship. And all the while, our dreams cheer us on. They educate us too. They help our eternal expansion. Clarity of all this is available to anyone. If they learn how to listen.

Let’s go deeper together.

You don’t need 15,000 dreams to begin. You just need willingness. Curiosity. And a quiet reverence for the language your Broader Perspective already speaks fluently.

If you’ve been having dreams that feel rich, confusing, intense, or like they might mean something more, they probably do. Especially now, as humanity rapidly expands into a new relationship with time, identity, and multidimensionality. The dream state is becoming an increasingly active arena of training and guidance. Dream symbols are personal, yes, intimate even. But they’re also precise reflections of our spiritual progress.

If you’re ready to start decoding them—and yourself—I invite you to take the next step. Even if you don’t think you’re dreaming, you are. Become a client and explore how your dream state is preparing you for your realest reality yet.

Bonus: The dream celebration:

Oh my gosh. This next dream is…I felt so much satisfaction and so much muted joy…just like a calm sense of joyful anticipation…but also joyful being in the moment, feeling as I am experiencing this extremely vivid, just extremely vivid, and detailed, and intense…in the sense of so much to take in…in this dream experience. I’m standing on a bridge. There’s someone with me and that person walks away from me. They’re not like leaving me…They just go off on their own. On this bridge, it’s not a very high. It’s kind of shallow in its arch. But it’s really wide and it is jam-packed with the most diverse crowd of people I have ever seen. The vast majority of these people are really young. Right before me, there are two kids with drum sets. They’re playing drums while several other young people are standing in front of them dancing to the music they’re beating out. I look over the bridge into the water and there is a paddle border in the water. He’s laying on the board and coming my way, at least in the direction of where I’m standing. I noticed that the water is fairly shadow and there’s a sandbar that he’s coming toward. The colleague that walked away from me is looking down too. He sees that person and he tries to warn the person he’s going to run over the sandbar, but the person doesn’t hear the warning and he runs over the sandbar and gets stuck. Then I look back up onto the bridge and there’s a grunge band playing what I believe…I think it’s Pearl Jam. Yeah, I think it’s Pearl Jam that they’re playing. I can’t see over the rest of the bridge because the bridge is so packed with people and everybody is reveling. It’s this joyous celebration. At one moment, I’m thinking I’m the oldest one here because all these people are very young. Some are young kids. Some are teenagers. Some are young adults, but no one looks over like 30 or 40. But then, I turn over to my left and standing above me are these two elderly African-American people, a woman and a man. I’m looking at this diverse crowd of beings on this bridge and at one moment the woman and man look down at me because they’re standing over me. They look down at me and they smile at me. I smile back then I turn my head back to the right and I’m looking off the bridge. Off the bridge in the middle of this flowing body of water is this massive stand. At the top of the stand is a DJ booth. On the DJ booth I can see the soundboard and I think I can see the DJ up there getting ready to play music. In front of the soundboard is this massive amplifier. Then I notice on the far shore of this body of water, there’s another speaker and then on the shore closest to me, there’s yet another speaker. I look down at the base of the DJ stand and then closer toward the bridge. There a tall, a really tall African American woman stands in the water. She’s looking at one of the trestles of the bridge. At the base of the trestle, there’s just another throng of people just hanging out there, enjoying their lives. The woman is standing in the water but the water, I thought the water was deep, but, well, obviously not too deep because there was a sandbar, but the girl is standing in the water and her feet are in the water, but the water barely comes up to her ankles. There’s this just a feeling of anticipation permeating everything, everyone, everywhere, but also a feeling of in-the-moment joy and satisfaction that is emanating from this great big throng of people. I’m feeling the exact same feelings as I’m observing this. I could just go on and on about how delicious this final dream was. I woke up from it feeling exactly that subdued sense of joy and anticipation for the future.  That’s what it was. And it was it was fantastic. It’s like the bridge was a bridge to the future and everyone was both in the moment joyful, but also extremely anticipatory, extremely eager about the future that’s coming. What a magnificent way to wake up!

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How to Manifest Abundance by Aligning with Worthiness

TL;DR: The author demonstrates how aligning with inherent worthiness leads to manifested abundance. By gathering evidence of personal value, they assert, a self-sustaining loop of vibrational alignment and prosperity ensues.

Worthiness. It’s a word we often hear, especially in spiritual and personal development circles. But what does it really mean to be worthy? And how does one cultivate that sense of worthiness in their own life?

In my recent YouTube video, I dove deep into this very subject from the Positively Focused perspective. What I shared there mirrors what I’ve come to realize over the years in my own journey. It’s a central part of the work I do with clients.

Worthiness is not something we “do” to earn, but a state of being that unfolds naturally when we are in alignment with All That Is. It comes from recognizing and appreciating the ways the Universe has already delivered what we want—and realizing that the Universe is continually working in harmony with all our desires.

We have all experienced this. Think back to times when something you deeply wanted showed up for you, seemingly out of nowhere. That’s the Universe’s love and support in action. It’s the evidence that you are worthy, that the Universe is working with you, for you, giving you everything you want in every way it knows how.

That’s how worthiness starts to show up. It’s the process of collecting evidence—real, tangible, undeniable evidence—that you are worthy of receiving what you desire.

Building the Basket of Evidence

To explain this process, I often use the metaphor of a “basket of evidence.” Imagine that each manifestation you experience—whether it’s a small, pleasant surprise or a big, life-changing event—goes into your basket. Each time you receive something aligned with your desires, your basket fills up, showing you that the Universe not only supports you, but wants you to have everything you ask for.

The more we gather evidence of this the more we become aligned with the state of worthiness. Worthiness just can’t help but flow from within us. Then, the more worthiness we experience, the more naturally our alignment strengthens, and the more manifestations we attract.

Worthiness, therefore, isn’t a destination—it’s a process. As we continue adding to our basket of evidence, our belief in our inherent worth strengthens. And as our worthiness grows, we move further into a state of allowing, where everything we want moves effortlessly toward us. Then we begin noticing more evidence, and that evidence strengthens our belief. It’s a self-perpetuating upward spiral.

And once we reach this state of worthiness, we crave more of it. We want more evidence, more manifestations, more expansion. We start seeing the natural abundance the Universe always provides, and we become deeply aligned with that flow. The more we practice and embody our worthiness, the more the Universe showers us with everything we desire.

^^Filling a basket with evidence of the Universe loving you is the key to feeling worthy.

I’m Living Proof

This process isn’t just theoretical for me; it’s something I live daily. My life is a testament to the power of aligning with worthiness, and the manifestations that flow from it. The positive, abundance-filled experiences I have in my everyday life, including a growing client base, is living proof that when we tune into worthiness, the Universe meets us there.

I’ve also seen it in my clients’ lives. They’re creating their own baskets of evidence every day, just as I am. Whether it’s a successful career shift, improved relationships, or unexpected dates, they’re proving to themselves that they, too, are worthy of their desires.

This blog, my YouTube channel, my work with clients—it’s all about demonstrating how accurately this is to myself and to others. It’s about showing that the Universe always works in alignment with us. And through the Positively Focused practice, we are all learning to recognize that, and allow it to flow into our lives more freely, effortlessly, and abundantly.

But here’s the thing: It’s not enough to simply talk about worthiness. We must see evidence of it in our own life. If we want to become more aligned with our desires, we need to collect that evidence by focusing on the positive manifestations happening around us—no matter how big or small. Whether it’s a compliment, an unexpected check in the mail, or a surprise encounter with a person we needed to meet, those are all pieces of evidence that the Universe is supporting us.

Worthiness and the Charmed Life

As I’ve worked with my clients, I’ve seen them begin to gather their own evidence. Each small manifestation builds on the last, creating a snowball effect that leads to even more abundance, more alignment, and more joy. And this is the key: the more evidence we gather, the more we realize that we are the creator of our reality, and worthiness is our natural state.

The concept of worthiness is at the heart of the Positively Focused practice. It’s what leads to a Charmed Life—a life that is in constant flow with the Universe, where everything we effortlessly flows to us. And the beauty of it is that anyone can experience this. All it takes is the willingness to shift our beliefs, align with our worthiness, and allow the Universe to do the rest.

So, what’s in your basket of evidence? What are you gathering every day to prove to yourself that you are worthy? If you’re struggling to find that evidence, start small. Look for the little things. The Universe is always providing. You just have to be willing to see it.

Because when you do, you’ll begin to see how truly worthy you are. And from there, everything changes.

If you want help seeing the evidence that’s there, I can help.