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Just Be It.

Hey. How have you been? It’s been a while since we’ve checked in. I know, I know. I get it. Really? Has it been that long? Sheesh. I didn’t think it had been that long. Yeah, I’ve been thinking about you for sure. You’re always on my mind; please know that. Who me? How am I doing? I’ve been pretty good, I think. Still doing all the things, figuring out how to be me in this world. You know: the…

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Thank me...quietly.

(Written on 1 November 2018) Anyone that knows me knows that I enjoy helping people. Even more, I enjoy helping people from behind the curtain, so to speak. I am not a person who desires to be front & center. I specifically prefer the background. The conundrum is that no one sees me. We all like the encouragement of being recognized for contributing to the team. I am no different. But I guess…

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Unpack.

I remember everything. Every horrible word. Every terrible action. I thought I had gotten rid of them by moving forward, but I hadn’t dealt with how their comments made me feel. Who are they, you ask? Various people throughout my life, who I felt had done me wrong (in some way). Being made fun of because I wasn’t cool (coolness is a trauma response-we’ll talk about that another time)? Let’s…

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Feels So Good?

Why does pain hurt so bad? I mean, I could learn to love lessons if they didn’t come with pain attached. We’ve all heard the age-old adage, “No pain. No gain.” But sometimes, I’d like to have gains devoid of pain. In the same vein, I treated pain as a virtue. I figure if I didn’t feel pain, it must not be profiting me very much (it’s not right but it’s how I thought). That couldn’t be further…

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Struggles and Gifts

I think that gifts and struggles overlap. Like, we’re not placed in the same area as another person who has the same gifting as you. I feel the same about personal struggles (but we’ll save that for another time). A person with the gift of kindness is sparsely populated in an area that doesn’t have another person of the same gifting. The problem is that I see the enormous need for kindness;…

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Adjusting My View

Sunday morning, I was feeling a bit out of it. Stacy and I had had an “intense fellowship” moment, and I just couldn’t seem to focus on anything. I asked on the way to Sunday school, I made it a point to listen out for God’s voice, as I needed something to break my lack of focus. 

There was an activity in particular that got my attention. Ms. Susan (the teacher) instructed the children, “I…

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Fanfare for the Uncommon Man

Fanfare for the Uncommon Man

The week has been interesting, to say the least. I’ve tried to cry a couple times in an effort to feel better, but my account is in the negative. I virtually attended the funeral of a band upperclassmen that I went to high school with. He was a kind guy and was loved by many. 

Pause. It isn’t lost on me how strange it is to say that I “virtually attended” a funeral. Things are certainly…

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The Nudge We All Need

The Nudge We All Need

The elephant in the room says I haven’t been posting much. Who asked you, Ms. Elephant? Honestly, I probably wouldn’t have posted tonight, but I got a nudge from an unexpected source . More about that in a moment. First, Let me explain where I’ve been.

My last post was published on October 23, 2019 (Fear: I Don’t Want To Lose You). The next month, we had our second child, Bella-Jae. Already…

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FEAR: I Don't Want To Lose You

FEAR: I Don’t Want To Lose You

  Before we begin: I started this series called “FEAR” two years ago this month. It has done me some good and hopefully has helped you recognize motivations in your own lives.

I have been learning more about myself as a result of delving into fear more than I ever have. It’s a beautiful thing, but it also has been hideous to see myself and some of the things I’ve done; all in the name of fear……I…

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Hello, it's me.

Hello, it’s me.

No, not like the Todd Rungren 1972 classic (although it’s groovin’).

It has been quite a while since I’ve written anything here. There’s quite a lot going on. This past week, I quietly celebrated 8 years of writing for Give Love Live More. Wow! That’s something. I’ve written a little, I’ve written a lot and sometimes in between. You all have seen me grow over the years, and I’m still growing. In…

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belly hugs rule the world

belly hugs rule the world

…or they should.

My son Rex has this thing that he does: He will unzip his onesie, say “belly” and then “hug-hug.” It didn’t take long for us to get what he was alluding to. He even would go as far as lifting up my shirt. He wanted a belly hug! I gladly complied with his request. Maybe he was born with that type of insight because we didn’t teach him that.

I believe I’ve said this before in a…

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Unlearned Lessons

Unlearning a thing has to be one of the most challenging tasks of my life.

When I imagine what being alone is like, I think of words like: alone, solo or solitary. Sometimes, I do feel alone, if I’m honest. If I feel like someone doesn’t understand what I’m saying, or get me what I’m saying fully, I feel alone. I feel alone when there isn’t any cooperation within my small community to get things…

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Merry Christmas!

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The Beatitudes.

A few days ago, I was listening to a friend’s live video on Facebook. I was haphazardly checking in on FB when her live video came up. I felt like I just had a life-changing moment, all by co-accident (coincidence+accident).

I wanted to scream at the computer screen because of some of the things she said. I heard, “Being busy for the sake of busyness isn’t progress. First of all, busyness is an…

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Happy Thanksgiving 2018

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We're all just children.

We’re all just children.

We all need the same things: water, sleep, food, and love. That’s my simple approach to life. This being my fortieth year of living, I have come to find out that not much has changed over the years. We all love someone, have hopes, dreams and of course, fears. We will always want our mothers and fathers to hold our hands through whatever life brings. Do you know why? It’s because we feel fear…

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the ebb and flow of doubt About 3 1/2 years ago, I made a conscious decision to stop teaching to start a business.