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Me: I have this urge to go off the face of this world.

Person within earshot: . . .

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Sharing how much you respect care and love someone on social media is so scary that sometimes you just play it cool or downplay the intensity of your feelings and emotions towards that person. I think it's also a way to protect yourself from becoming too close to someone and getting hurt if things don't go your way. So we play it cool like we don't care and they get the message that we don't care. Then they start to play it cool and not care and you get all hurt that they don't care all the while you started it all.

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I thought I was in love with him but I was in love with her love for him.

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Love can also be a form of abuse

When your love knows no bounds and goes to the point of crushing someone's soul out of them, your love is no longer an affection towards that person but a form of abuse. A form of abuse that you push towards that person to accept regardless of their opinion, their choice or their well being. Your love becomes intoxicating and a poison to that person when you assume unnecessary anger or concern when it is not needed. Love needs space, love needs understanding, love needs listening to their problems. Love becomes abuse when you want your loved ones to be your puppets, listen to every word you say while not listening or trying to understand their situation or their problems. Love becomes abuse when you make negative assumptions about their behaviour because it doesn't stride the way you paved for them. Love becomes abuse when you judge them; treat them like they are nothing if they don't amount to anything. It's not love if it's not felt through actions and moments, it's not a loving act if you have to point it out to get appreciated. It needs to be felt, not forced, not by showing anger, not by chiding. Love needs letting go, holding on too tight might just suffocate your loved one to the point of death or worse where they end up loathing and hating you. Then your love is no longer love but a form of abuse, not only to your loved one but to yourself.

Written to overly affectionate people who think their love gives them a one way ticket to be mean, rude, or show anger in a way they think it's loving but to the receiver it feels like they were sucker punched with sadness, insults and feel-bad vibes.

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"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless"

Mother Teresa

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One cure that works for me when I’m down, depressed and sad is to be surrounded by nature 🍃🍂

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Conflicting feelings that come with a slight dose of anticipation, I hate having expectations and I can't help but have some now

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I day dream a lot but in terms of dreams, I have none

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I wish I could go back and stand by the falls all day long…