tired-coelacanth

[tired-coelacanth]

I'm so starved for emotional connections. I just hate the modern social norms and how difficult it is to create and maintain relationships, both friendly and romantic. I don't really know if I am the problem or if many people feel the same way, but having a social life in this day and age is such a fucking chore!

It is so difficult nowadays to meet like-minded people then keeping them close. Where I'm from, people won't let you enter or engage their social circle unless you already are acquainted with one of them. I know this isn't the right word but "eclectic" is probably the best term I can think of right now to describe this behaviour.

Sure I might meet someone during an event or just while enjoying some time outside of my apartment, we might exchange numbers or social media, but very rarely do we actually keep in touch.

Besides the struggle of making new friends, why does it feel so hard to maintain the friendships I had for years? It is insane how many friends I have lost these last couple of years. Some were justified, others not so much. A situation that is both frustrating and heartbreaking is when we realise that our friends wouldn't reach out to us if we didn't reach out first. It's such a disappointment to realise that the last 10 times you've talked and/or hung out with someone was because you texted pr called them first.

I mostly blame social media for how bad we are at communicating. When you don't want to be friends or lovers with someone anymore, you can so easily block or ghost them. Fleeing from unwanted social interactions is made so simple with social media that we forgot how to face someone in real life. How can we hope to have healthy connections with anyone when we've been unlearning how to interact with each other for the past 20 years?

We live in a world where socialising and communicating is supposed to be easy yet we grow increasingly lonely. Statistically, teens and young adults suffer from social isolation more each year.

I'm gonna stop here, this post already gives huge "old man yells at cloud" vibes and there's only so much ranting I can do. To be clear I'm not looking for sympathy, we're all just strangers on the Internet after all, I just thought some of you might find these observations/opinions interesting.

Good night