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the gender binary is when there are two things and the two-er the things the more binary it is
#juney.txt#every time someone says tme/tma is intersexist i inch slightly closer to killing myself in protest in front of whoever's saying it#if your intersex activism is all about telling trans women they shouldn't have words to describe transmisogyny#it isn't very good activism#it sucks actually#you're doing transmisogyny. do not be surprised when you're treated like transmisogynists. because that is what you are being
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What are some ideas you have floating around that you don't have any plans on writing but like to entertain as a thought?
Many of them, in fact! Though they sort of vanish from my memory if I don't make a record of them, here's a few ones I jotted down when they came to mind.
For a domestic one: Bill thought he'd hate a lot of being married! Even though he loves Dipper, he thought he'd rebel against the chains of domesticity - and in some ways he still does - but one major benefit he's found is not having to be 'on' all the time.
No need to be perfectly performing all the time! No shoving around for social influence, no intimidation, or clever tricks. No commanding attention or taking up the room. Hell, there's surprisingly little upkeep! Bill can undo his tie and pick his nose and bitch about his day to someone who isn't bending over backwards to agree with him on everything. Someone who doesn't give him a weird look and sneer if he, god forbid, actually wants to sit down, read a book, drop the grin for an hour or two.
The concept in question is Bill's very first moment of great surprise. That when he isn't being the most charming, terrifying, and exciting guy in the universe, and just chilling out for like, five minutes, Dipper comes over and snuggles up to him on the couch, or wraps his arms around his shoulders and kisses the top of his head. And when Bill asks 'what was that for?', Dipper shrugs and goes 'eh, just felt like it'. It's both baffling and extremely compelling.
A short where Reincarnated Dip is Definitely Sure he's Not Gay!!! Especially not for this Hot Demon Man who is getting so close and touchy with him with his big smile and horrible wiles. Yep. Just keeping an eye on him to make sure he's not up to something Nefarious ™.
A discussion between Dipper and Bill where Dipper insists that Bill should understand this, or not do that, because, like. Y'know, Bill's a guy! There are guy things! Making Bill stare at Dipper like he's an idiot. He proceeds to informs Dipper how that's stupid for multiple reasons! First, that Bill's Not Human to begin with, his gender can't be put into a little box! And frankly, he never filled out the paperwork for his original one, come to think of it. Sure, he/him's fine, but c'mon, sapling, thinking of the whole shebang like a binary is dumb as hell. Now Dipper has to do some mental readjustment re: his own issues with masculinity/gender.
#answers#None of this is very coherent I just saved this ask for a while and dumped some thoughts in#Though I do have like a whole scene in my head for the gender one#Probably it's Bill cajoling Dipper into wearing a dress for something. Which Dipper obviously rebels against.#Bill's very convincing but Dipper shoots back well. He's never seen *Bill* wear a dress. Thinking he's making a point#But Bill just gets the metaphorical equivalent of a lightbulb over his head. Hey! Good point kid it's been a while#Oh ho!!! I see! Pinching Dipper's cheek - you want us to *match!* Surprised to see any fashion sense outta you#Hold on a sec. Bill will whip up something in a jiffy. A real nice one#Now Dipper's spluttering. He thought it was a good counterargument but Bill didn't even *flinch* at the idea of wearing one himself#But like. C'mon Bill Guys Don't Wear Dresses!! You're a guy you shouldn't-#Bill stares at him like he's an idiot. DIpper shuts up. Dumb move actually now that he's thinking about it#Both because telling Bill he *shouldn't* do something absolutely means he's looking into doing it. If not already in the process#And second. Uh. Oh hell. Dipper remembers. That Bill's only wearing that body. Not human. Triangular so - Wait. Is he *not* a guy?? Uh.#Bill's perfectly fine with his human body and his pronouns. Even with the presumptions that his husband has made over the years#But Dipper having this idea that those mean Bill should STOP doing certain things annoys him a lot#Bill politely - for him anyway - reminds Dipper that he's very much *not* a guy. None of that crap applies!#As Dipper has seen! And hey the ideas Dipper's working with there are outdated even among *humans* what the hell#There's probably a mini-rant that's rather scathing but frankly that's Bill on easy mode for his husband#Dipper's well-intentioned and knows how things go but he struggles with masculinity especially regarding himself#Turns out being bullied and trying so hard to be Socially Acceptable means a lot of issues to unpack#Also re: the Domestic one#Dipper is present with Bill while he chills out for those five minutes. Just watching from across the room#Bill knows he's there. But he's not puffing up trying to be impressive. Not being dismissive. Just accepting. And now Dipper's *fascinated*#It's so rare to see Bill NOT 'on' that he couldn't help it. No big show. No big grin. Almost.... not 'vulnerable' he's terrifying always#But so so relatable. God does Dipper know the feeling of just wanting to find some peace and quiet after a hectic day. But for Bill. That's#Rare and strange and so - Dipper *knows* he's the Only Person who could ever ever see this. Being in Bill's presence for a full ten minutes#Without Bill flipping some internal switch to 'Impress or Intimidate'. This is Dipper's own little secret to watch and absorb and treasure#And. In a way. When Bill's not vibrating with potential energy for parties or violence he's even MORE handsome#He just HAS to kiss him. A little bit. On the cheek or on the top of the head. Maybe curl up next to him where it's warm and touch his ches#Bill spends hours afterward wondering where the hell that came from and WHY. And it'll take him *so much* time to figure it out
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Half-formed thought here, but. Usually in my mind I assume that the topic of Abigail goes almost completely unspoken between Will and Hannibal post-canon, but... man. What if they were even more unhinged about it than that. Like, what if they displayed a massive portrait of her on the mantlepiece or something, as a symbol of Will getting Hannibalpilled and buying into the idea that her death was a sad but inevitable consequence of the force of nature that is Hannibal. And then everyone who visited the house assumed she was just a beloved relative of one of them or something, without knowing anything about the details of how she died (or even that she was dead). And whatever murder buddies/protégés/frenemies/pseudo-children/sexy little thirds/[whatever unholy combination of those things] Will and Hannibal acquired would piece together some very idealized understanding of her as the Perfect Dead Sister-Daughter that they could never measure up to, whose ghostly presence hangs over them... and then coming to the very macabre discovery that Hannibal was the one who killed her! I think that'd be neat.
#hannibal#headcanoning#hannigram#abigail hobbs#(abigail honey i'm sorry i like you when you're alive too)#i think the reason i can't get into 'murder family' scenarios where abigail lives#is that what i find most interesting about abigail as a character has less to do with her relationships with will and hannibal#(even though those relationships are relevant insofar as they refract the shadow of her father)#BUT when she's dead. hell yeah let's go hog-wild with the gothic dead sister-daughter in the attic vibes#my season 4 mind palace#hannibal talk#honestly the 'i forgive you' moment in the chapel in palermo#was like. a big turning point for Unhinged Graham#despite him trying to turn his back on hannibal in digestivo#forgiving him for abigail was really the gateway for forgiving him for anything#of course he gets past hannibal trying to kill molly and walter.#he's angry but knows he shouldn't be surprised#whether he could ever snap back from that. well that's the question
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idk man, the epilogue is like this really deep...exploration of interpersonal connections and wants and desires interlaced with the complexity of circumstance and consequence and regret and guilt. and I started it as a like "haha, this is what I want! I want two monkeys being gay, haha!"
but it's so. fucking tragic, actually.
just in chapter 1, we see how defeated Macaque is, how lost he is. how he hesitates and flip flops constantly. how he says or thinks something with certainty, but then goes back on that. he tries so hard to commit to one path, but he truly is fluctuating and has no clue what to do
and wukong is just...certain of himself. he's certain of his wants and desires now after Constellations. He wants to maintain connections and put in the effort no matter what. and that..juxtaposition of them...is just so raw and hurtful in chapter 1 because we see that wukong notices that in Macaque because he knows him better than anyone.
And Macaque admits he's a little lost. he doesn't know what he wants. but he keeps walking. he wants to make his own choices. he wants to think for himself. he wants to see the truth for himself.
and as the days go by, as the weeks and months pass...as they grow and change, it's just sad. because it's not
the epilogue is not this "will they? won't they?" shadowpeach thing.
look at them as individuals. that's why i finally decided to change the perspective. because we needed to see macaque's thoughts. I've shown you wukong's; please give macaque that same level of attention.
when people write romance or relationships, they often misstep when it comes to the characters that are in the relationship. in order for that relationship to be believable and relatable and enjoyed by the audience, you have to develop the characters independently and together.
we cannot have shadowpeach until we know, with certainty, who macaque and wukong are.
#constellations fic#constellations spoilers#i know it's stupid for me to ask people to read stuff a certain way#partly bc they're never going to do that and also#that goes against sharing artwork as a whole. the different interpretations are key to that but i just#i just want people to understand what i'm doing here#and i feel like a lot of my intent is lost#like i don't know how else to emphasize how...the interpersonal aspect of these two characters is what interests me#like hell yeah i want them to kiss and bone but like#their conversations. how close they are. how far apart they are...#i love all those things too#and idk. i want others to fall in love with them to#because that means no matter what AU i write with wukong and macaque#you'll understand that you're gonna have a good time#because if nothing else? i know who these two fucking characters are#and as a result. the shadowpeach i write is going to be messy and broken and terrible#but you shouldn't be surprised. i've shown you that from the start
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now. beloveds this is not NEW news but I've just had crystal clear confirmation re: the boy (not that it wasn't clear before, but now it's glaringly obvious that he DOES love another girl and this IS reality) and :') you never know how delusionally hopeful you are until such a thing happens!!!!
#i am horribly sad but in a distant and vaguely ironical sort of way because it really shouldn't have surprised me lol#anyway the sweet one just told me about his plans to ask the girl he likes out this winter and i gave him advice because he asked for it#so there's that!!#i think it was very sweet of him to trust me enough with this however he ALSO asked me to keep him accountable for asking her out#this is horribly ironic in a really funny way#you're asking. me ??? to make sure you confess to the girl?? whom i know for a fact is not interested in you???? and whom YOU'RE almost c#certain is not interested in you???? boy howdy#anyway that's all the news i have on the songbird front i am peacing out#to study for my midterms now and also pray because i really need to#lol i love that on top of this to think about and puzzle over i also have another 100 pages of medieval german poetry to read#respectfully! i hate this!!!!#the waiting room chapter
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Hiiiiii! I just want you to know that as a fellow day defender, I totally agree with you about your opinion of night and day’s situation. People keep saying that day is a bad guy since he treated night like that without knowing the reason behind it. I read the novel btw and thought that if I’m in day’s shoes, I’d probably be acting the same way as day. He just needs time to heal and I totally understand that. I hope people can consider day’s feelings too, not just night’s.
HIII FRIEND HIIIIIII!!!!!!!!
first of all, i wanted to thank you for not giving away any spoilers even if you've already read the novel!!!!! i don't take that for granted because not everyone is so considerate, so i really appreciate it!!!!!
about night and day's situation, im so incredibly glad that you agree with my thoughts on it!!!!! maybe it's because i feel very protective of day as a character, but it's been pretty hard to see him bear the brunt of people's criticism, first with the whole mork vs august affair and now with night. i know it's natural to sympathize with night because we don't have an explanation for day's behavior yet, and regardless of what happened it will never be an excuse for lashing out like that, but at the same time it's kinda upsetting to have day's feelings being constantly dismissed. like being in night's presence makes day feel SO BAD that one time he was literally willing to step in the middle of the street without being able to see rather than staying in the same space as night, and another time he was ready to give up attending aon's wedding (which he really cares about) and would have gone back to isolate himself from the world if it wasn't for mork, and i just think this should be taken into account a little bit more
i also think it's not a matter of who's right or who's wrong, because unlike what night said there are actually no villains and no heroes here. the narrative isn't pushing the audience to side with a character or another, on the contrary it's trying to make the viewers understand both points of view: night's attempts to be a good brother and reconnect with day are commendable and it's indeed both very sad and very frustrating to see day constantly reject them so cruelly, but day has only now started to accept his disability after an entire year of isolation where he was made feel like he could no longer take care of himself and live a fulfilling life, and like you said i think he should be allowed the time to heal (and eventually to forgive night, if he is actually involved in the accident that made day lose his sight)
in the end they're both just two boys with a lot of misunderstandings and unspoken feelings between them who are trying to do their best and i think it's unfair to pit them against each other
#i also fully understand night experiencing his own sense of isolation because of their mother's favoritism towards day#but that's not day's fault either#and while i do appreciate night's trying to rebuild his relationship with day i also think he shouldn't push his presence on day#like when night said he had already asked their mother if day could go to aon's wedding you can see that day was genuinely surprised#only when night said that day could go to songkhla on the condition that night went with him day shut off completely again#the point is. it's a complicated situation and none of them deserve to be treated like the bad guy by the fandom#ANYWAY. thank you for taking the time to send this to me anon!!!!!!#especially since you came from twitter#i do hope you'll be able to see this since im answering you a bit late ;;;;;;#KINDA WANT TO ASK YOU IF THE NOVEL ENDS IN A SATISFYING WAY BUT ALSO I DON'T BUT ALSO I DO BUT ALSO I DON'T BUT ALSO I DO BUT ALSO I DON'T B#anyway x2. hope you're having a wonderful first day of the year!!!!! 💜#last twilight the series#m: ask#petri i know you're a night's defender so maybe don't look sfjksgdjsg ;;;;;;;;
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SHE'S BEAUTIFULLLL
#exactly what i was picturing in my head#so the story with this house is back in the 50s when benicio and dominique were moving to america dominique was not happy about it at all#(they were just married and jacques's not born yet)#so to shut her up benicio had this HUGE 'french' mansion built for them before they got there and he was keeping it a surprise#(it's like not french at all)#they arrive dominique sees this incredible house the most beautiful building for miles. and she turns to benicio and says 'what is this.'#so she hated this house she always found problems to tell benicio about. but jacques was born (literally) and raised here and owns it now#(kinda seems like you should feel bad for benicio here. you shouldn't)#dominique gave it to jacques after benicio died saying she despises it he should just take it#then when jacques got engaged and dominique hated her it was 'you're going to let that WOMAN live in our beautiful home????????????'#she's the fucking worst i love her#this is the fall: extras
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Lindsay Ellis went full on You're Wrong About when discussing how Yoko Ono, Courtney Love, Meghan Markle, Monica Lewinsky, Amber Heard and so many other women have been treated by the media and the public, and it was amazing but it also filled me with rage
#i shouldn't have been surprised when michael hobbes popped up but i was#thank you for your service mike ❤#no but if you liked her newest video you should 100% check you're wrong about out#it's a great podcast founded by that journalist guy who lindsay mentioned was one of the few who defended amber#and another amazing journalist called sarah marshall#i highly recommend it#you're wrong about
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Kink stuff
The past few months low key interest in topping and very person-specific dominance has escalated into a fully blown obsession like I catch myself planning out sadism scenarios with people I've not yet made any proper negotiations or agreements with. I'm having dom-crushes on people. I actively look for things to scratch that itch with since I don't have any active subs. Cmon.
#bluh bluh#Kink tag#This shouldn't be surprising but it's a little annoying#The boy and I are actively negotiating about this and I've approached my side of the agreement and now I'm waiting for#him to meet my baseline requirement#It's frustrating because he's like you could always suggest this more!#and I'm like I can't make more offers if I don't know you'll be responsive to them because it's really sucking any authority I still have#out of me that you're continuously rejecting my suggestions like that's not helpful for either of us if the aim is that you submit to me#I want to do this for me that's kind of the point I can't keep throwing you balls if you're not ready to receive even the easy ones#So idk but he's got homework to do his half these two weeks that I'm gone#And then we have a scene set for a party in september#We'll see about the rest#Anyway if you know a sub looking for a dom in the Stockholm area I'm all ears#I'm mostly interested in protocol discipline and pain and would be very keen on a sub willing to serve as my guinea pig to practice on
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people on this site care way too much about what other users are or aren't doing even though it has literally zero impact on them. making fun of people for things like not drinking/smoking/using drugs/having sex/driving/etcetera strikes me as very juvenile in its own way...
#quite a few tumblr users seem to think acting like this makes them cool or something? don't forget you're still on this site lol#acting like regina george before she got hit by that bus... go channel your frustrations into a team sport or something#it's especially wild to me bc isn't this website known for being full of people who are young and/or neurodivergent?#shouldn't come as a surprise when a lot of people on here specifically haven't had certain experiences#& even when it's not mean-spirited polls asking how often you drink or get laid or whatever are weird imo#why would my followers (largely complete strangers) need to know that lol
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Friendly reminder that a guy de-escalating, redirecting, or otherwise getting the person to Knock It Off in a way that is safe/doesn't escalate things, when his girlfriend gets catcalled is not "taking away her agency" because "she can defend herself" --- it's recognizing the very real danger and threat she faces and the very real safety he has and actually doing something helpful with that safety
#utterly baffling that this is genuinely a Take that exists#baffling but also 'disappointed but not surprised'#women and ppl seen as women for the past ??? years:#hey these situations can become extremely dangerous for us no matter how we respond so if you see it happen and feel safe enough#to do something to help and protect us in those moments please do#aaaand somehow we get#this fucker when someone does that for his gf: um actually 🤓 ☝️ that's not Progressive enough and you're horrible for it#buddy WHAT#(obviously it's different if there's been a discussion btwn them that he shouldn't do that but just in general?#catcalling#harassment cw#anyway if you're someone who looks out for somebody you've witnessed get catcalled/harassed/etc I love you#it doesn't always have to be done in that way sometimes it can also be things like offering to walk with the victim or asking if they want#you to call someone and stuff like that but yk#also hold those assholes accountable if it's probably safe. the more they think other guys don't care the more they'll do it
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#this isn't at all surprising but it IS disgusting and enraging#'you're costing us too much money. we're going to lie and say that your doctor signed off on reducing your dosage.'#among many other things#anyway this is all extremely par for the course for people who've faced these kinds of issues or who've listened to others who have#but. even so.#if you want to be furious read this ig!#at the time of writing his costs HAVE at least been covered but like. it took a lawsuit.#the only thing that really surprised me here was the extent to which company employees said really damning shit on the record#but like. they know how much power they have and how little power patients typically have.#anyway health insurance is frankly disgusting. i was lucky enough we never had to worry abt it when i was a kid#and now that i'm grown up and don't have any and hear stories like this… how the fuck did we get here.#healthcare shouldn't be a for-profit business.#the medical establishment
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Too much ship discourse now is "I know my ship is bad and unappealing in every way but nobody should criticize it because that's mean." Why are people so mad that others have standards?
#disc horse#shipping#fandom stuff#you do need to tag accordingly if you're going to trash a ship though otherwise you're just asking for trouble#unless like one of the parties is straight up evil because you should already know and shouldn't get butthurt from people reminding you#you can't be that surprised that people find harley and joker toxic come on now
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THANK YOU FOR THE FOLLOW IT MADE MY DAY
GYJHJHFV i'm so glad i could make your day omg!!! your words are so sweet i can't believe it i'm just!!! :'Dc <333333
#ask#YOU'RE WELCOME#although it really shouldn't surprise you that much!!#i remember all the ppl who frequently reblog/support my works so sometimes i just wanna show them my appreciation yknow??#and i DEFINITELY can relate to just happily following someone for a while and getting a follow back one day out of the blue like!!!!!#i just start spinning around like i just won the lottery hhh xD can't imagine anyone doing it because of me tho HHHH#i'm sssssO happy you like my art that much dear god that's so sweet of you to say :'D thanks again for passing by<3333
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few more Musings on Possibilities working off of the premise that winston's dick energy is related to the [psych (lol.) this is Wendy's new therapist, really] subplot:
just that ofc maybe he doesn't quit before/at the start of the episode. that would just be a hypothetical way for higher ups to realize this therapist (is modern psychoanalysis inherently a therapeutic practice? i think so. ugh grimacing sighing at looking up the theory / origins of any psychiatric practice but lord when isn't that the case. automatically i want more for winston, for anyone, than even a theoretically good fit psychiatrist) exists. since this hinges on anyone considering his quitting enough of a disruptive problem somehow to be motivating, versus maybe a comedic "btw anyone seen winston like, this week, now that i think about it" "[unsure murmurings]" moment about it.
maybe ppl are bothering to interact with just him outside the office, that we get to see, b/c of some different avenue of singling out: like that i do figure if winston wanted to see a therapist he would not go to wendy / not consider going to her, so after twisting anyone else's arm about where all this coordination amongst employees to Hurt Wendy's Ego came from, it's quickly like, oh yeah it was winston who started it, he recommends it to his friend with so many problems tuk, or ben, or some such deal. then everyone goes off to twist winston's arm about it too, asap, nigh literally
maybe it's about figuring this is some nefarious plan of winston's; wags being a good friend to wendy by killing all nerds who won't accept her performance coaching(tm). and/or about wresting info about this nefarious rival therapist from him as the expert (seeing her first / the longest), or him as A person seeing her who they most feel like grilling for information like hey nobody wants to accidentally make ben cry again but if winston cries b/c you were assaulting him then who cares, go see your fancy new therapist about how you're a total pussy. maybe wags just can't stand winston possibly having the choice to give them info, or even to take his time in doing so, basically being the "sure some ppl don't like getting their hands dirty. some babies don't have the stomach for it. but torture works! & i'm just the loose cannon committed to The Goals to stop waffling around about it" cliche, &/or is Disproving any approach that might treat winston like a person like no, treating him like a nonperson is the way, how can we stand otherwise? meanwhile the secret edge this person has is the basic obvious shit in contrast to even wendy's non special occasion therapy(? performance coaching) tactics are still just "i want to hurt you as much as i possibly can" & how just like her official job goals are wringing as much from employees as possible & making sure the company can steamroll them in any matter if convenient, a lot of which entails supporting the egos & enabling the behaviors of the employees who shit on everyone else. and here's dollar bill, wags. rian, "wendy's people" from the start....herself. axe. prince on occasion
maybe there's absolutely no especial reason for going after winston except that the audience gets the setup that assaults are no stakes & entertaining if it's winston who's targeted, so we won't be asking for further explanation lol literally do not care. little a treat for him, in his maybe last episode for maybe no especial reason, to maybe see him attacked thusly in his own home, that doesn't look like a particularly characterized setting. if that's even where he is
antibonus points if the cool new therapist shit talks winston still lmao like even if to basically Also pull a wendy like "ohh some ppl are just sooo complex & interesting (as though axe doesn't run on one line of code abt continuously feeding his ego & everyone/everything being fodder for that b/c that's the only way he can view anything & his potential interactions with them. b/c all that there is is Feeding His Ego)" where she'll dismiss all those other peons she treats like heh heh yes whatever Them, open & shut bunch of losers but i'm still nice to them b/c that's my brand of professionalism. but, wendy! You! you're Extraordinary! in fact i'll drop them all to take you on, as further incentive / b/c you'd be the one standout worthy case :)
bonus points is, supposing winston quits After being graced with whatever treatment in the episode & after being given fucked up input like that maybe he hinges his self esteem too much on what this job or anyone or anything associated with it seems to validate. but that maybe it's also about the treatment he's gotten repeatedly, the whole time, & he gets to say anything about it, & nobody gets to just tell him to shut up / pwn him so that in establishing him as the loser/inferior, nothing he says matters
#winston billions#tl;dr 'and maybe he doesn't quit at the start of the episode. but at the middle/end. and/or is fired. hooray#billions Does operate on a premise of ''wow these ppl are sooo smart''#and the world operates on a premise of ''allistic ppl are smarter than autistic ppl. this is what makes them allistic''#even with the oh so generous framing of ''oh there's different Kinds of being smart....allistic ppl are Socially & Emotionally smarter :)#but hey maybe you're a math savant or w/e you ppl do & a) nobody cares b) nobody thinks it's a talent/skill/'smartness' that can be#considered to belong to A Person. it's a mechanical output for an allistic person to; smartly; notice & harness :)'' wow u shouldn't have#what manifestations of ableism await us....will there be any [winston treated as a person for a moment by characters/writing] surprises....#hilarious if he basically indirectly finds wendy a therapist + b/c indirectly wendy's terrible antitherapy inspired him to go elsewhere#and now that therapist will recur & winston may not. also hilarious....
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So I'm signed up for this online 30's speed dating event for WLW and sapphics right?
Here's the thing: It looks like they aren't even bothering to regulate it at all because I see tons of people who aren't in their 30s and even some men are listed in the people who are signed up for the event.
What's even the point of a specific event for 30 something WLW if just anyone can join it? :/
#As a 30 year old I'm not interested in 18/19 year olds and yet a bunch of them are signed up for a event for women in their 30s???#any one who is in their 30s and wants to date teenagers is a total creep#I hope they realize that because I don't think they do#18 and 19 year olds look like children to me now#if you promise an event for women in their 30s please actually deliver it :(#If I'm using a site that's for women loving women- men shouldn't be allowed? I'm not looking for a man!#now I see why the lesbians and other sapphics get angry#I'm debating whether or not this is even worth my time because I'm not confident that it will be run well at all#so many people failed to understand the prompt or purposely don't care#they are either too young or the wrong gender- if you're not a woman in her 30s it's not for you?#If a woman is in her late 20s that's different but it was a bunch of people under 25#dating is inherently exclusive- most people aren't attracted to everyone else???#A lot of people fail to realize you CAN be pro equality and still not want to date most other people- it IS possible#Now selfish people are going to ruin something that isn't even for them :/#I am the target audience for this event and they are making me not want to participate#I'm 30 and sapphic- questioning whether bi or lesbian but I belong there#Should I be surprised? I really don't know what to think honestly#I'm a little angry that they don't seem to care who attends because I paid for a ticket- not too much but still?#mychatter
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