#you do you but harm none

[trexalicious]

From a pink mohawked punk rocker with my photo in The Police's tour book at 17 to no hairspray, gardening and chickens...❤

[creative-clawmarks]

It doesn't matter if you aren't hungry. The parasite demands a predator.

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KO-FI

[kradogsrats]

an ancient and disturbing practice

[official-penis-posts]

Is it wrong to want a small penis? Like, I'm a trans man who wants to get bottom surgery and like, I don't want a large one???? I want it to be small and cute and relatively useless (Like I can still piss and get off but other than that I wanna look down and be like "Hi little guy :))") But is that so much? What is the appeal of wanting a large one if you won't use it? I'm so confused

We are small penis fans here, so you are preaching to the choir, fam!

Also, don’t forget the tumblr mantra: you can do whatever you want forever.

[thepringlesofblood]

feel free to add more, I just think it's funny that there's at least 3 musicals that have a 'high school is extremely bad' song and in 2 of them multiple teenagers die and in all 3 multiple teenagers get grievously injured. like they weren't kidding that high school really do hell.

[stardust-falling]

Having more thoughts about Shen Jiu because of course I am.

I don’t think he has the capacity for empathy or genuine selflessness.

He spent the entirety of his formative years deep in survival mode, and because of that, he evaluates people solely based off of how they might threaten or ensure his safety and/or comfort. As far as individual people themselves with their own perspectives… honestly I don’t think he even thinks of that.

Maybe a controversial opinion, but I don’t think even YQY is exempt.

Shen Jiu doesn’t have a moral code. When every day is spent on surviving, a moral code is a luxury.

And really, he just never got out of that mode. See, the thing is, once you’ve had enough adverse experiences it only takes a little bit to trigger you back into that mindset. Shen Jiu was used to being scolded and then beaten or abused, so for him, even a simple chiding is a precursor to abuse— even if he DOES recognize that nothing more will happen, his body and mental patterns will still go into that preparation time.

So of course he never left survival mode, because even if nothing is actively happening, your mind will keep reinforcing those patterns.

For someone with a normal upbringing, as far as I can tell, empathy is something you learn and develop from those around you. Many seem to think it’s something innate and natural and if you don’t have it then there’s something wrong with you from birth. I think Shen Jiu falls into exactly this category of thought— and so he doesn’t even consider that he could try to learn and develop it as a skill he can perform, even if it doesn’t come naturally.

Of course, would he even try? He hasn’t been given any incentive. Any time he has tried to do something good, he ends up getting hurt (saving Yue Qi leading to being taken by QJL) or misinterpreted and admonished (the well ghost incident, keep in mind my earlier point about scoldings perpetuating the same patterns).

So he stays in that same vicious cycle, perpetually in survival mode and unable to escape, even in a relatively secure position (see: his paranoia).

Now, this is all relevant to the discussions of SJ’s feminism, misogyny, and/or lack thereof. I feel like a lot of discussions aren’t really getting the full picture.

SJ sees people, no matter who they are, as solely how they can affect him. Just because this isn’t exclusive to women, or because if comes from a reasonable place, does that really mean it doesn’t play into misogyny?

Let’s take another angle.

I think his abuse of LBH and other talented disciples also is rooted, deep down, in this same issue. He’s not just hurting LBH only to hurt him, his aim is specifically to stunt his cultivation. There’s jealousy at play there of course, but there’s a bit more layers to it too— SJ doesn’t think he’s capable of goodness. So reasonably, he’ll be a bad teacher. He already knows what happens when someone becomes more powerful than their oppressor. LBH may be a child now, but a part of SJ whether he acknowledges it or not sees him as a future threat that needs to be treated as such.

It’s rooted in fear— because everything is with SJ.

So does that mean it’s not actually abuse?

No. The behaviors he shows are still abusive, the reasoning just gives a lens for understanding.

Now, with his views on women— I mentioned in the tags of my original post that I don’t think he views women as people. This is based in that earlier idea of how he interprets others based off their risk and benefit to him. For women specifically, though, there’s another layer.

Shen Jiu grew up in a society where women are inherently lesser— and he grew up in an extreme version of this. He saw women being treated as property firsthand(both as slaves, as well as QJL’s views on his sister). Your worldview is shaped by the world that you view during those early years. Whether he agreed or not, SJ would still take on the patterns of his environment. This, though, is just the same as general societal misogyny and ingrained bias. I don’t think he’s any different than anyone else in this way.

But where SJ’s particular flavor comes in is that to him, women are a source of comfort. For various reasons— positive past experiences, less threatening (or at least don’t carry the dangers men do). He craves comfort— needs it really, because he doesn’t get it and his cortisol levels are always so high they’re poisoning his body. Women are the best source of that comfort for him.

It’s not that he likes them— at least, not any more than someone would like drinking water, or a coat in the winter. They’re fulfilling a survival need for him.

That is what the objectification is where SJ is concerned.

So… is it misogyny?

I’d say yes, in a way it still is. It’s not violent, and it doesn’t come from some inherent sense of “superiority as a man” but at the core of it all, he’s still not viewing women as people, and he has no interest in changing the status quo, because it benefits him to be able to go purchase comfort at a pleasure house, even if it’s not what people usually do there. The picture is bigger than just misogyny, but the traits taken as themselves are misogynistic nonetheless.

I could go into his specific relationships with women and how that informs his character, but this post is already long enough. We know that he mentally divides people by sex, and that distinction has a lot of weight in his judgment of them. Even if it comes from a place of trauma, even if it comes from a general worldview that applies to everyone, he still views women as a commodity— so on some level, and from an outside perspective, he is misogynistic.

In the end, though, it still all comes from him being stuck in survival mode. His lack of empathy, his viewing others as risks and benefits— these things themselves aren’t moral failings— it’s just a consequence of his environment. He’s a bad person because he won’t confront this, develop a moral code, and act on it, not because he doesn’t experience empathy.

But in his circumstance, there’s not really a chance for him to choose to be good. Because he’s still trying to survive, and goodness is a luxury he doesn’t realize he can afford now.

He’s scum, but pitiful, you know?

[al-luviec]

Thinking about how the entire reason Zane went along with Wu was to try to find out more about his past. Thinkinggg about how he reached his true potential after finding his father's workshop. A big chunk of his character arc in s2 focused on how badly having no family left affected him. Then he found out how father was alive and he was sooo happy... and then his father died. And then Zane died too.

[scrapimmortal]

"there isn't a single valid justification to support team green and yet people still do it" yes and? didn't realise i need a justification to like a fictional family in a fictional tv show about flying lizards. i don't care about the throne, i don't care about the realm, i don't care about "justification", and i definitely don't care about what viserys did and didn't want. team green has the most compelling and complex characters and most compelling and complex dynamics #tome, and they happen to serve all the cunt

[jewishvitya]

חודש אלול. מה שאומר שנראה אנשים יום אחד מסיתים לרצח עם וחוגגים כי ילדים מתים בעזה, וביום הבא עושים תשליך ומתפללים עבור מחילה.

מנחם אותי לדעת שעל עבירות שבין האדם לחברו יום כיפור לא מכפר.

[ma-lark-ey]

AFTG & scientific ideas/paradoxes i connect them with no elaboration

Originally this post was going to be all scientific laws & then I remembered the Irresistible Paradox & went down a paradox rabbit hole. I simply think about how 90% of scientif law/theory/paradox is deeply poetic.

Firstly, the Monsters (+Jean) all apply to: Hedgehog's Dilemma (despite goodwill, intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm) and I mean that with my full chest.

Neil: Newton's First Law of Motion (an object in motion will stay in motion) Bhartrhari's Paradox (the idea that something can be unnameable conflicts with the notion that it is named by calling it unnameable)

Andrew: (OBVIOUSLY) The Irresistible Paradox (an unmovable object meets an unstoppable force)

Aaron: Newton's Third Law of Motion (when two objects interact, they apply forces of equal magnitude in opposite directions)

Nicky: The Catch-22 (having a need for something that can never be acquired on the basis of needing it)

Kevin: Hess' Law (the total change of a complete course of a chemical reaction is independent of the sequence of steps taken)

Jean: Hagen-Poiseuille's Law (liquid left in a vacuum will always rise)

Renee: The Law of Microscopic Reversibility (any chemical reaction can be undone if given enough energy & time)

Jeremy: Olber's Paradox (why is the night sky dark if there's infinite amounts of bright stars covering it?)

Wymack: Yule-Simpson Effect (a trend that appears in a group of data will disappear when similar groups are combined, and reverse trends will begin to appear)

Honorable Mentions:

Ferme's Paradox (the probable existence of alien life despite the complete lack of concrete evidence) (Neil)

I also think ship of theseus is very Renee coded.

Jeaneil: The Conservation of Energy (isolated systems can be found to be symmetries in time) Andrew, Aaron, Nicky: The Prisoner's Dilemma (people might not cooperate despite it being in their best interest)

The Young Sun Paradox (the evidence of liquid water early on earth despite equal evidence that the sun should not have been able to melt the ice yet)

[squishe]

im baffled about how so many people are suddenly shitting on transmascs for having the audacity to label our discrimination and making fun of terms like transandophobia and mocking us for talking about transmasc-specific issues and discrimination (which is a documented thing! and we have different factors intersect with our oppression than tma folks have intersecting with transmisogyny! and NOONE is saying that transandrophobia existing makes it worse than transmisogyny either!)

like what do you want us to do? are we just supposed to shut up and take it because us being afab means our problems are "lesser"? are we supposed to say that every other trans person has it worse so we can't talk about it anymore? what is the proposed solution here? mocking transmascs and harassing them and sending horrific anons to them isn't exactly a solid answer.

i genuinely truly don't understand why people are so upset about this and why it's such a big deal for us to label our experiences and talk about it when everyone was falling all over themselves to adopt new phrases when the terms transmisogyny and tma/tme started gaining traction. it's gross and weird. we're all siblings in the same fight here, infighting is pointless and a waste of energy. why are we trying to to beat each other down when this energy would be, y'know, actually progressive punching up and fighting the oppressive structures CAUSING these issues instead?

[zazikels]

welp since some of those shitty leaks turned out to be true, those rook's rest leaks are going to end up being true and from the very bottom of my heart i wish c*ndal a very never get work adapting anything again i hope by the end of this your reputation is worse than benioff's and weiss's because it's all you deserve.

[isthatacalzone]

something that's been sitting with me a lot is how the argument to let Predathos out - the one Liliana keeps repeating - is how *right* it feels to be in his presence. how *right* it feels to be here, on the moon, working towards his release, and how this must mean that he doesn't have ill will towards the people of the planet above. this must be good, she seems to say, because why else would I feel so complete? but all I can think is anything that makes you that sure, that's not something that can be trusted. that feeling is a drug, and it is dangerous. of course Predathos wants to make you feel like you're a part of something good and correct and right, because he needs your loyalty. he needs you willing to give yourselves over to him.

that's not freedom, that's another form of subjugation.

[jannacalendar]

Two character dynamics (that cannot coexist) that I've been musing over the past few days:

Buffy and Jenny as reluctant character mirrors who are unable to make peace with each other, but Dawn thinks Jenny is cool much to Buffy's chagrin.

Buffy and Jenny airing their grievances as they recognise themselves in each other and reach a tentative peace for the sake of the group, but Dawn never forgives Jenny for upsetting her sister.

[mrgladstonegander]

my roman empire.............

[ettadunham]

sometimes i remember the hunger games and how nobody actually paid attention to what was in those books