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Summary: Toxinelle is strong. She's allowed to cause mayhem as long as she tries to get Hesperia's Miraculous. Marinette in her everyday life is weak, pathetic, and trampled on. There's only so much bullying someone can take before they break. AU. Rating: Mature.
(the shadybug au.)
one-shot
“You can't just ask someone if their parents hurt them—”
“Why not?” Marinette took a bite of the cookie. It was too good to be store-bought.
“Do yours hurt you?” he countered.
She nodded.
Adrien gasped. “What?”
“It's not that bad,” she replied, bringing the whole tray back over with her. There was room on the desk for it. “Chloé does so much worse. It's just a few comments and maybe a slap or two, you know?”
He was gawking at her.
Marinette squinted. “Maybe you don't know.”
“How—how could they do that to you?” he stammered, looking her over critically. “Are you hurt right now? I have a first-aid kit somewhere.”
“I'm fine,” she assured him.
“You just told me you're abused.”
“Adrien, I'm not chained up and left to starve in the basement,” she replied, passing a cookie over for him to eat. He accepted it but didn't go to take a bite. “I barely see them. They're always busy at work, so it's, like, us bumping into each other a few times a week.”
“That's awful!”
“Is it?” she questioned. “It's life.”
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ele é sexy e parece um vilão
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bingqiu au where sy is thrown into the unexpectedly female body of sqq. so when sy finds out, he gets carried away with the bright idea that the best way to avoid the terrible fate of the original goods is to take on the role of a mother-figure for luo binghe.
after all, in pidw there were only two roles for good-looking women like him (and really he didn't expect the original goods to look this good actually. no wonder airplane never posted official art for this man—woman?—the dudebros would definitely clamor to make sqq part of binghe's harem despite all the abuse and torment he—she??—put the man through) that won't end in getting his entire body ripped apart: a) fall in love with luo binghe and join his harem or b) be a mother-figure for binghe and tragically die.
his prospects were, at face value, not very promising. he wasn't female so he couldn't possibly fall in love with binghe so sy has no choice but to follow through with the latter.
the system is surprisingly silent when his mind races through the idea and doesn't raise any complaints about sy messing with the plot this way.
sy believes that, with all his stock knowledge of murim and fantasy worlds, he can avoid the fates that often befell these types of characters—often sacrificial deaths that lead to the protagonist's next power-up. he could gather all the artifacts for level-ups and give them to binghe at the right time!
another good way to lock in on the surviving mother-figure role is by promising to be present during the protagonist's wedding. so he does just that (not understanding the dazed look that enters his bun's face) and, to really make sure, also promises the same for all of binghe's wives (to ning yingying, luo mingyan, wife #124 a defected qiong ding disciple, etc.).
suddenly, everyone in cang qiong is abuzz over rumors of sqq wanting a wedding/looking for a husband/getting wedding fever/etc. the rumors have all jumbled up at this point into a massive mess at this point.
lqg and yqy are trying to figure out if sqq is trying to subtly shoot them a sign by approaching their sister/disciple.
meanwhile, sy thinks that he's totally got this and how on track he is with his plan when binghe accidentally slips and calls him, "mom" one time. unfortunately, all he did was stir up the hidden pseudo-oedipus complex in his poor bun.
#bingqiu#svsss#scum villain#scum villain self saving system#svsss au#mxtx svsss#scumbag self saving system#everyone develops a latent oedipus complex with how engrossed sy fell into the role of protagonist's mother-figure#binghe thinks he's tripping when sy forgets to bind his chest one day and binghe's eyes end up drifiting to his chest one too many times#sy wanting to fully lock in his role: binghe you can call me mommy if you want#lbh: *self-implodes*
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I get that calling white lotus lbh a sticky little 'sheep' is a canon translation and stuck in the fandom now anyway, but I do feel the intended spirit of the original word wasn't the sheeple/dumb herd animal that's more common in the western world, but instead something actually conveying sweetness, innocence, purity and youth - lamb.
Famous for being utterly adorable and following around their mothers, gambolling in sunny meadows, curly white wool shining.
And NOW we can talk about black sheep/wolf in sheep's clothing metaphors.
#Picturing Sqq sweetly calling lbh a little lamb 🥺#Him calling lbh a sheep never felt quite right but LAMB???#And lbh following him around all bright and gangly and moon eyed ToT#Did you know the phrase originates from the wool of black sheep being much harder to dye and thus being undesirable in the wool industry?#That's why sheep are white and not like. Tan or brown or w/e like more natural colours.#But the black fur gene still pops up sometimes so you get white wool parents and siblings and a tiny black lamb trotting along#Who's wool you can never sell and who can't risk having offspring of their own#Also where the baa baa black sheep rhyme comes from! The wool was often sold at a very cheap price because it was so undesirable!#Ngl if someone called me their lamb idk what I'd do. Something desperate for sure#Theyre also sometimes a symbol for Jesus especially around Easter. So. That's a. Thing. That Sqq would most certainly read far too deep int#svsss#mxtx svsss#scum villain#luo binghe#luo bingge#luo bingmei#scum villain's self saving system#scum system#bingqiu#bingyuan#Idk but considering I'm talking about their pet names I'll count it#Gosh lbh calling Sqq shepherd in response... Crook around his neck metaphor I'll go wherever you lead us my guiding star mmm#Sleepy? Yes. Right? Also yes
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thought abt the chao garden for too long + got carried away lol
#hlvrai#benrey#tommy coolatta#chao garden alignments makes me crazy. what do you mean you only can raise an evil baby if you play as certain characters.#mostly i just kinda started thinking abt what if the characters weren't aware of their alignments.#like shadow and rouge are barely villains at all but they still raise evil baby#anyways. this is mostly inspired by the sylveon/umbreon + espeon evolution thing that ppl like to make posts about.#i've got a critical condition + it's called putting the science team in all my favorite games. draawing chao is fun. ok bye.#my art
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My current version, of my ever-evolving theory, on what constitutes "aromantic stories" is that first off, there's absolutely a wide spectrum between 1, "this is explicitly undeniably about aromanticism," and 2, "there sure is a noteworthy amount of aro subtext, but representing aros clearly wasn't the author's intent." But the spectrum is best completed not as a straight line, but as a triangle, where the 3rd point is "the story probably wasn't created with aromanticism at the forefront of anyone's mind, but was created with subverting particular expectations related to romantic relationships in mind." And in my experience, a lot of juicy aromanticism-related experiences that are underrepresented in their own right can lie in that third option, regardless of whether the characters are aro-spec or allo or kind of whatever you headcanon.
So, what does make a story on this spectrum "aromantic?" IDK, I wouldn't necessarily include all or most of the firm 2s (unintentional subtext) under the aromantic story mantle. But when you get into the gray areas that inch a little closer to 1 and 3, let alone the gray area between 1 and 3 where intent is ambiguous but ultimately may not matter, it makes sense that different people will have different takes.
#2 doesn't necessarily have to be in a malicious “villain can't feel love” kind of way although it can be#it can also just be the author genuinely never looking at it from that angle or realizing the angle exists#aromantic#if you want some potentially hot takes of mine as examples...#gfalls is pretty close to a midpoint between 2 and 3. maybe a little bit more towards 2#(ford being confused about romance isn't intentional rep as much as i personally like/relate to it#but mabel not winding up in a relationship at the end of the summer is a deliberate expectation-subverting choice)#and meanwhile tazb is very deep in the 3 corner IMO#i've only written thousands of words of meta & fic about magnus (and lup's) relevance to that category lol#ultimately i wouldn't call either an aro story despite my very aromantic hyperfixations on each#but i also wouldn't consider my aromanticism-themed hyperfixations on them to be even remotely a coincidence#anyways this is all because i saw a poll about this recently and this was too long for me to consider adding in the notes lol
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Yuji 🤝 Megumi
Their existence is seemingly intolerable to some of the fandom 🙄 so there's takes on them that is just borderline bashing
#like let these kids breathe#the fact that some of you seemed pressed about these fictional teenagers is beyond me#people bringing up shibuya as if sukuna wasn't going to murk that place regardless#oh y'all forgot he's the villain who has killed people before#some of you be calling megumi a bitch and saying he lacks potential with his technique as if he doesn't have room to grow#and not level 2#just a teenager who just became a sorcerer#yuji only seems to be cool when he's punching the shit out of people and even with that some you downplay just how capable he is#he dealt with the king of curses FOR MONTHS#it is canon he can actually sleep peacefully with the guy in his head#he was able read yuki's notes just fine HE'S NOT THAT DUMB#just kiya's thoughts#jjk#jujutsu kaisen#itadori yuji#yuji itadori#fushiguro megumi#megumi fushiguro
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Ended up pirating all of Hazbin for the sake of my younger days (used to be a fan when I was around 14/15, before all the stuff with Viv came out) and I am so surprised by how I felt... nothing for the most part. Like a lot of the show's storylines feel like they was crammed in there with no real pacing. A lot of this should have been season 2 territory, which is a sentiment I've seen echoed around, but also... it feels as if the show is trying to be episodic while also having a long narrative thread, which just doesn't work with just 8 episodes. Especially not when paced like this. So I kinda ended up feeling nothing for the most part. All the events got a "Oh, great, so what?" reaction out of me because there was little to no buildup to most of them.
Sir Pentious was always a fave of mine so I was glad to see they kept him around and, though I think we should have had more episodes with him as a villain, I think how he ended up was fitting for what little of an arc he had. I am livid about what they did to Cherri and Mimzy.
I fucking loved Mimzy, I have no idea why they sent her away -- having someone like her at the Hotel would have been a blast considering how the others are already on the road to redemption. She would have balanced it out by being a regular sinner, someone who doesn't care about redemption and won't probably ever care unless it's in her best interests to. Plus her friendship with Alastor was quite cute, they bounce off of each other very well imo. Plus I could see her have a bit of a conflict with both Charlie and Vaggie because of her ways of acting. I'm so sorry they took that from you girlboss.
And Cherri... dear lord where WAS she? She should have been a lot more present. I used to like her relationship with Angel and I even think Cherrisnake is cute conceptually, but both these relationship had... little to no room to breathe imo.
#hazbin hotel critical#not putting this in the main tag#i wouldnt call myself a fan but i guess i can mourn what could have been#not considering viv and her controversities for a second... the pilot had a very nice feeling to it#that the series was not able to replicate#i think my liking of mimzy should come as a surprise to NO ONE LMAOOOO#i love evil selfish women im sorry ... sue me#we need to save mimzy sir pen and cherribomb from hazbin everyone else can rot#ok in all fairness i will give the show credit for ONE thing#i kind of enjoyed adam and lute as antagonists. adam is insufferable which is awesome#it makes it easy to hate him as a villain. and lute being his right hand woman makes sense#they read like a christian couple (term used loosely) where the man is a misogynistic asshole and the woman just kinda endorses it#which is perfect if you wanna make a critique of heaven and the humans who go in it because they repented or whatever#i always love dumbass villains who are easy to hate (mamoon from helluva being another example of a villain i enjoy)#thats it. thats all i have in terms of compliments#would love to adress the Angel Dust controversy because as a victim of SA (and CSA) myself I think there is nuance to be found in --#-- having a discussion about how we see survivors and how we portray the abuse they endure#i was an unconventional victim too. i kind of see a glimpse of me in Angel which is why I was LIVID when I got the full picture of the --#-- situation. but still
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i can't say i really care if someone dislikes a certain character from a game like it doesn't irk me too much bc... they're not real BUT i will say that people who just pay attention to what chloe puts out n not why she does what she does and refuse to try and understand her irk me juuuuuust a tiny bit
#a lotta bit#bc what#like chloe may not be real (so unfortunately 💔) but what she's feeling is#as in like it actually happens#people actually go through her mindset and it's not fun#maybe i'm biased bc i can relate to her and some of her ways of thinking#not the illegal ones but#it's just really fucking annoying to be completely honest#she's not a great person but the LEAST you could do is try and understand her character#bc it's insane to me that people can see what chloe went through and be confused as to why she's not the most sane person ever#like would YOU be ????#i wouldn't#but i mean that's just me#people seem to forget that chloe was literally only 14 when everything went to shit#like that is so young#but no just call her a villain and call it a day#maybe i do care about who people dislike#only if it's chloe though#just kidding#kinda#life is strange#chloe price#lis#life is strange before the storm
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noooo stop woobifying them I like them fucked up and problematic!!!
#tom riddle#voldemort#bellatrix lestrange#bellatrix black#azula#anakin skywalker#darth vader#and more#someone posted a 'harry is a bad friend' meta and tbh it made me like him more#*crowns myself the queen mother of problematic characters*#how can you call yourself a villain enjoyer when you woobify a villain??#sk1 rambles
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tired of you guys thinking that giving a character a benefit of the doubt, assuming that things might be more complicated than it seems, and liking morally gray characters is poor media literacy/comprehension. Atp these words stopped meaning anything, it's just an awfully convenient tool to imply your opponent's dumb (unlike you!), and unfortunately most times it's thrown in an argument, in specific fandom cases especially, it just boils down to "you're reading it wrong/not the way I like so you must be stupid"
#dragon age#solas#txttag#da posting#im tagging solas because im specifically talking about him but it can be applied to many instances#''he's a villain and if you don't think he's a villain you have bad media literacy skills" alright?..#an antagonist? for sure. a villain? bro the story isn't even finished yet and we don't know SHIT actually#we don't know what's up with the blights and archdemons black city titans lyrium etc#and how it's gonna be if the veil actually collapses#how... how are you so sure#also. what do you think a villain is? simply a morally bad guy? or an antagonist in a particular story/for a particular character(s)?#is loghain a villain? maybe in dao... but is he in tst/the calling? in dai if he becomes a grey warden?#also reminds me of “miquella has been the villain all along”#newsflash it's complicated!! like everyone is in this game
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Okay so I recently, finally, watched Wish and I have some thoughts. Overall, not as bad as everyone makes it out to be, but still has a lot of fundamental story problems and I've got to get them off of my chest. I'll mostly be focused on Magnifico because I think his motivations and arc largely represent the problem with the overall theme.
Okay so my biggest problem with Magnifico is his motivation. His tragic backstory. How on earth does he go from losing his whole family to thinking, the only way he can prevent that from happening again is to grant wishes? The logic doesn't track. It almost makes sense in his creating a kingdom where he protects everyone and "doesn't even charge rent," but it does not make sense with his wish granting. Having a great need to be control to make sure he doesn't lose anyone ever again can be a compelling motivation for a villain, where we see lines crossed that don't justify the intent, but in the movie, he's too self-absorbed to seem to have any actual care for the people of Rosas.
I think if the motivation was changed to something like Magnifico had once been a bright-eyed, enthusiastic wish granter who blindly believed all wishes were good but learned the hard way that that wasn't true could have been a better fit for the overall goal of the movie. Imagine that he granted a wish for a wicked person who used that wish to hurt others, or if Magnifico granted a wish but that wish ended up ruining the person's life because what they wanted wasn't what they needed (i.e. Remember The Princess and the Frog? Dig a little deeper) and that person could have went after Magnifico and blamed him for their troubles (harkening back to We Don't Talk about Bruno). This would be an understandable tragic backstory for Magnifico, and better explain why he's so careful about the wishes he grants. And, perhaps the reason he keeps the wishes he doesn't want to grant is to keep the people in his kingdom docile. No one will be angry with him for not granting their wishes if he makes them forget them and lose that drive and motivation, which makes more sense than the unexplained hording them like he does in the movie? Why does he keep them in the movie other than admiring the wishes? It doesn't make sense to me.
This would give Asha more of a reason to oppose him, if it's shown how his desire to not get hurt or to inadvertently cause hurt turned into a paranoia where he drains people of wishes to fly or play music that inspires others. And, as a side note, we need to see more of how Rosas is a kingdom of people who lack drive and motivation, where only those younger than 18 have that special part of them that inspires them to chase after a dream (something that Astor Rhymemaster touched on). Because that's the point of wishes, right? That's the point of the entire Disney canon. A dream is a wish your heart makes. That star can only get you so far, it takes hard work and determination. It's wanting something better in life, it's dreaming of leaving behind all you know to chase after a tangible light. It's finding a new dream, it's finding a new wish as you grow and learn about yourself and the world.
I don't think the movie Wish understood what makes wishes so important in Disney stories. You know what wishes do? They ignite change. It's not about getting what you want, it's about finding the courage to chase after something better. Ariel wants to be where the people are, but really she wants to be somewhere where others are willing to understand her and in the end, she finds that and makes amends with her father, who finally is willing to see her for who she is. Rapunzel wants to see the lights, and that desire pushes her to leave a tower she's been trapped in her whole life, learning that the world is not as cruel and cold as her abusive mother told her. Cinderella wants to go to the ball, to dance with people who treat her as a person and not a servant of cinders and ash. That wish is granted by a fairy godmother and gives her a hope that is worth fighting for, a hope that helps her reclaim what is rightfully hers; a glass slipper that fits only her and the love that comes with it.
Wishes inspire change. The movie should have been about that. Magnifico could have been right, that some wishes inspire negative change that can drag down multiple people. The kingdom of Rosas could have been so placid because change is scary. Maybe Magnifico could have convinced people, after taking their wish, that it wasn't worth it. Maybe the wish ceremonies could have changed so it wasn't portrayed as some sort of lottery everyone looks forward to, but Magnifico would grant wishes on the spot if he decided they were good and worthwhile, and he would lock away the wishes that would cause trouble and tribulations. 18 year olds could be enthusiastic to give him their wishes, thinking they were surely good and worth granting, only to forget their wish and be told that their wish would have only brought about their unhappiness, this would have justified a more solemn tone in the kingdom, setting up a world where people are mostly downtrodden, thinking their wishes are bad and pointless and they're better off without them. Imagine Cinderella or Rapunzel being told their wishes weren't good, reinforcing all the things their abusive families tell them, taking away that hope and courage to find something better for themselves.
Here's where the true conflict could come in. Asha could be onto this from the beginning, and her opening song could have been about this concern that the people who didn't get their wishes granted aren't willing to try at all. (Because, after all, why doesn't Sabino play music at all? Having that taken from him would take so much joy and creative expression from his life!) But why does Asha know something is amiss?
Simon.
Imagine that Magnifico has a strict rule not to ever share your wish with another person because then it wouldn't come true. It makes sense with our own superstitions, and then makes it so that no one knows anyone else's wishes. Maybe your best friend changes so drastically after giving up their wish, but you believe, like everyone else, that their wish would have only caused suffering. What can you do about it? Well what if Simon told Asha about his wish? What if Asha knew his wish wasn't dangerous and couldn't imagine a way that it could go wrong? That would give her a reason to doubt Magnifico and put more emphasis on how Simon has lost his drive like all the other adults in the kingdom. And it can also emphasize in the end that sharing your wishes and dreams with others can be a powerful thing. Just the act of sharing your dreams can inspire others to go after their own, and they can give you the encouragement to chase your wish too. Wishes inspire change, love gives you the courage to make it happen.
Imagine if the star boy used to be a human, who wished to help others and lost his humanity to do it. Imagine his wish confirms Magnifico's belief, that wishes cause suffering because star boy lost his tether to earth and is separated from the people he loves. Imagine how he foils Asha who also wants to grant everyone's wishes. Imagine him ensuring she doesn't make the same mistake he did while she gives him a reason to change again, to anchor himself to humanity again because he loves her enough not to leave for forever.
Imagine the movie confirming that, yes, change is scary. Chasing your dreams won't always make things better. You might fail more than you succeed and some wishes cannot coincide with each other, leading to grief and strife. But some wishes are worth it. Sometimes, chasing after something better and failing is worth leaving a worse situation. Sometimes taking that chance is worth it, and, like in all fairy tales, if you are kind and generous and act with love, that will make all the difference in the end.
Also, I know everyone wished for a Magnifico and Amaya evil power couple, but imagine if Magnifico was truly in love with Amaya, as he is in the movie, but that love is eventually his undoing. Like Amaya leaps in front of Asha, and Magnifico stops or redirects his attack because she's the one thing he loves more than himself and that is the weakness that Asha and co can take advantage of. Imagine Amaya keeping Magnifico in the mirror and he gets to dote on her from his imprisonment for forever. I'm just saying. At least 30 sickos like me would be into that. Imagine the depth it would give to the themes of love and change and wishing and how acts of love make all the difference.
Alright, I'll get off my soap box. I just really wish Wish could have been stronger because these fairy tales Disney is famous for matter. They really do. But the movie feels too stale and shallow and too much of a cash grab that knows the outline of a disney musical, but is unable to understand the heart of why they work.
#rose and rambles#wish 2023#disney#disney wish#if you read anything i post let it be this im shaking the bars of my cage#I HAVE SO MANY FEELINGS ABOUT FAIRY TALES AND DREAMS LET ME AT THE PEOPLE WHO MADE WISH SO SHALLOW#ILL MAKE THEM TEA AND GIVE THEM A GOOD SCOLDING#WHILE STEALING THEIR CLOTHES AND PUTTING ON A FAKE MUSTACHE TO TAKE OVER WHILE THEY'RE NIBBLING ON NICE COOKIES#THAT'S A TOTALLY NORMAL THING TO DO RIGHT#if you want to tell a good story you gotta tell it yourself <- my villain origin story#or at least my Sebastian kiss the girl moment. i can't believe they took out star boy. God forbid independent women have romantic interests#anyway im obsessed with how Magnifico always called Amaya “my love” and i think we can do beautiful and twisted things with that#Also i kind of hate the whole 'oh there's no saving him from this evil magic corruption' like le please that's the most stupid thing to eve#be in a fairy tale#just proves these people didn't actually read the snow queen#also also go watch Astor Rhymemaster she's a genius and explains songs IN SUCH AN IN DEPTH WAY#i haven't interacted with much other wish stuff so idk how others are rewriting it but this my ideal
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Have a Dimitri because juggling hyper fixations is almost all I do now.
#dimitri alexandre blaiddyd#lambert egitte blaiddyd#(a hallucination of him anyway)#also can we take a moment to appreciate that no-one called dimitri crazy or insane or evil for hallucinations or psychosis#also no-one dismissing his delusions and telling him he was stupid but no-one saying his delusions were right and people gently correcting#like I love it#and as a side note#I've got (fairly mild) psychosis induced by stress and seeing my little guy/ the skrungly having a (considerably worse) thing similar to me#that wasn't villain-y or shown to be a really creepy or wacko thing to have#like do you know how many people in games and media are evil because of '!!the voices inside their heads!!' oooh creepy#like dang it come on psychosis doesn't make you evil or creepy it's just a symptom of varying conditions#or sometimes just something some people get#like I love Veronica (fe heroes) but the being possessed after hearing voices come on IS there are better ways to do things you morons#anyway enough about that#fire emblem#fire emblem three houses#creativesplat draws
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WOAH, HE'S BIGENDER? I DIDN'T KNOW THAT!
#hey. hey. im just saying. he LITERALLY 'transed his gender' in a diagetic bit in orange. and if that wasnt enough.#in blue he disguised himself as squid jenny specifically with larry's powers (the only thing hes done with them on screen)#got caught by his god-assigned roles-obsessed caretaker. and was given the label of being something intrinsically unescapably deceitful.#while 'pretending' to be trans girl.#like. if i wasnt pretty sure it was all an accident i might even call the allegory here slightly heavy-handed.#with the nccts emphasizing a theme of 'youre not just what people say you are#you can be more than one thing at the same time' with crim#i think crimson can have boygirl swag. some bigender pizzazz. i think he deserves it.#is it REALLY a cpu kerfuffle arc without a subversive narratively relevant gender-transing.#am i supposed to believe the spirit of deviance himself is cis? get fucking real. grow up. /silly#also a lil crimtoinette in there. just for flavor. because i cant help myself.#also sidenote the nccts have given him this cute lil tendency#to tip his hat down to hide his face when hes trying to be Genuine or Thoughtful or Poignant. and i enjoy that little touch#i maybe like this guy a little too much. hes most of what ive drawn for months.#but what do you want from me. i read him as a queercoded villain deconstructed at the metanarrative level.#am i just supposed to be normal about that.#me and zia talked about this in dms and discovered. we came to a lot of the same conclusions. completely independently. lmao#cpuk crimson
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I just saw someone refer to airplane shooting towards the sky as "aeroplane-bro"... this is messing with my head
#british sv fans can you please tell me if this actually what you call him and I've just never seen it before#svsss#人渣反派自救系统#shang qinghua#scum villain's self saving system
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btw if i could give one tip to the anxious bitches as one myself it would be to avoid accusing people who care for you of secretly hating you like either it's not true and you made them feel weird and like you think badly of them or it's true and you should just bounce but either way this will accomplish nothing
#i think the most immediately i've cooled on a potential friendship was when i was on the phone with a new friend#and we were talking while i was on a walk so when i got to my location i was like sorry i have to go but it's been so nice to hear from you!#and they texted right after being like 'i couldn't help but notice you begged off the call you can just say you don't want to talk to me :)'#and i was like what in the passive-aggressive groundlessly accusatory fuck#like why would you accuse me of being insincere and passive-aggressive then frame it so i can't defend myself without#validating how poorly you already think of me#like give me a fucking chance here#it really backs people into a corner#i'm someone who will put up with a lot (often to my detriment) but being told to play the villain for someone else's vindication#will always make me bite like an animal#i'm super allergic to reading a part someone else has written for me and at that point i no longer care if it#validates how poorly you already think of me because clearly your opinion of me will not improve no matter how well i behave#i got a little lost trying to explain this but just don't do it it's shitty and manipulative even if that's not your intent#personal nonsense
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