#yay we love healthy comfortable relationships

[sammylkcho]

*fidgets in place. Kicks rock*

Razzle&DazzlexGn!Reader? 🥺 or Boxten if you don't want to write rnd *looks around nonchalantly*

oh my god, i don't know why but your request filled my head with thousands of super sweet reader and R&D scenarios

and don’t worry! I tried to make it as fluffy and romantic as possible (in a healthy way, of course)

Warnings/Notes: first fic about dandys world yay, fluff, romantic, established relationship, reader with gender neutral

After spending a good while in the elevator extracting ichor from the machines, you felt your hands and feet completely sore and numb. All the adrenaline that had kept you alert had faded away, and now you were fully aware of the pain that invaded every part of your body.

If it were possible, your hands would be calloused by now. Instead, a slight tremor ran through your fingers, still covered in dried ichor that you'd forgotten to clean off while working.

You managed to reach one of the few rooms that hadn’t yet been invaded by the twisteds, a place of rest for the few toons still exploring the floors and continuing with the extraction. With tired eyes, you looked around the room until a familiar figure caught your attention. You immediately recognized the two heads (or masks) and the red scarf around their neck. Your eyes lit up in recognition: your duo and beloved partner.

"Razzle, Dazzle!" you exclaimed, waving excitedly as they turned to see who was calling them.

"Oh! Y/N" Razzle called to you with the same joy you felt, while Dazzle also said your name in a soft but sweet tone. Both looked genuinely happy to see you.

They opened their arms, wrapping you in a hug as soon as you reached them. The warmth of their embrace was comforting, and any negative thoughts seemed to dissipate in their company.

"How was it out there?" Razzle asked. "You’re alright.. aren’t you?" added Dazzle a few seconds later, in his calm tone to avoid overwhelming you.

You buried your face into the curve of their necks, savoring the soft texture of the scarf they shared. You made a small sound of negation before replying.

"It went well, though I’m a bit tired right now. And yeah, I’m okay… just a bit covered in ichor" you responded to both questions, letting the hug envelop you.

You felt the rhythmic strokes of Razzle’s white hand (on the right side, you assumed) and the slow pats of Dazzle’s black hand (on the left side).

"We could help you next time you go; you know you have us here to help" Razzle said.

"Mmh… I could extract the machines, so you don’t get so tired" added Dazzle.

A slight warmth colored your cheeks at their words. Normally, you wouldn’t ask for their help since they ended up tired too, but you always appreciated those supportive and encouraging comments they gave you.

A small squeal of excitement and nervousness escaped you involuntarily, and you quickly tried to hide even further into the scarf.

"Thanks guys" you whispered after a couple of minutes of comfortable silence.

You thought they might simply continue talking normally or stay in silence in each other’s company until you suddenly heard an energetic "mwa" followed by a softer "mwa" leaving you feeling both shaky and nervous.

"Anything for our beloved partner!" "We wouldn’t want to see you so tired and doing everything on your own..."

Their words filled you with a comforting warmth that made your heart race. They were too sweet.

You lifted your head, full of determination, noticing Dazzle’s slight smile and Razzle’s bright grin, both filled with deep love and affection.

You gave each of them a kiss on their cheeks, leaning on their shoulders as you smiled warmly at both.

They were the sun that brightened your days, and you were their burning flame that never seemed to go out, no matter how strong the wind.

[miraculouslbcnreactions]

What do you think about the love square as toxic codependent relationship?

Toxic? Yes.

Codependent? No, though it is starting to go that way.

Canon has quite effectively poisoned the love square and put them in a position where they really shouldn't be dating. At the very least, they should be working full time with personal and couples counselors to fix their myriad of communication issues because Ladybug is still keeping things from Chat Noir and now Marinette is keeping things from Adrien. Yay! Plus Adrien desperately needs to work on being open and honest about his struggles. It should not take an act of magic for him to be able to admit that he doesn't want to do a thing (Risk). And quitting out of the blue instead of talking to his partner? Doesn't instill confidence that he'll suddenly magically be good at telling Marinette if she's making him feel similarly on the civilian side of things.

This leads into the other issue: balancing how they support each other. Right now, Marinette is getting all of Adrien's support, but he's getting nothing in return, which is super depressing because canon has the perfect setup to make that aspect of the relationship balanced. Chat Noir supports Ladybug through defeating whatever Gabriel is calling his villain side, Marinette supports Adrien through the fallout of the reveal of his father's web of lies and deception. Simple! Sweet! Easy! But because Adrien can't communicate his needs and because canon decided that Marinette needed romance trauma, their relationship is horribly unbalanced.

Adrien supporting Marinette through her relationship trauma is the one thing that is arguably codependent about their relationship because holy shit was that a terrible choice! As I've discussed before, he should not be her only support in that struggle for many reasons, one of them being that it makes her mental health dependent on him. The way the show is writing him now that they're together is horrible. Apparently perfect boyfriends have no needs of their own and no hopes, ambitions, or dreams outside of making their girlfriends happy!

The ending of season five does not give me any confidence that the above issues are going to go away. I expect them to get worse because holy shit how do you end the season with Adrien newly orphaned and yet spend no time showing Marinette comforting him? I have a sinking feeling that Adrien will mourn his dad about as much as he mourned his dead-for-less-than-a-year mom because I guess healthy people don't mourn. Or maybe this is just a sentimonster thing? Like maybe Emilie ordered him to not mourn her before she died or something like that. Or maybe Adrien is programmed to only care about living people who he loves/who love him? Idk. What I do know is that I'm very over the canon square. Just terrible, terrible writing. I'm especially judgmental of it because of the target age group.

While parents/guardians can model healthy romantic relationships for their children (assuming that the parents/guardians have a romantic partner), the concept of falling in love and starting to date is something that parents/guardians can't model even if they're actively dating because you're not going to take your kids on dates! Kids will mostly learn about falling in love and dating through media and discussions of the concept, which is why I think that it's extremely important to show healthy relationships in media aimed at young kids. And even if kids are being raised in a home/homes that model healthy relationships, that's just one or two data points. We want to give them lots of data points to draw from! We should not be giving them crap like whatever the hell season five of miraculous was.

[shynmighty]

For the OC relationship ask game!

1, 28 & 42 for the couple of your choice 💖

Ahhhh YAY! Thank you so much!!! 💖💖💖

(From these asks)

Let's see... I've had Aeony and Arcann on the brain lately, so I'm gonna toss these to them! 😁

Themmmm 😍😍😍😍

Also, apologies in advance if my thoughts are kind of scattered, I have a seven y/o singing and bouncing around the room as I write this!

Okay... here we go!!!

Who fell first? Who fell harder?

The short answer is...Arcann. They were both attracted to one another pretty intensely from the beginning, but falling in love came a bit later (for obvious reasons). Arcann fell first, and fell hard... Aeony was a little slower on the uptake. Her emotions just aren't super accessible to her after years of working to detach herself from them.

Arcann started to fall in love while Aeony was imprisoned in carbonite, but it took several years for those emotions to become anywhere close to healthy. His feelings were intense, but he was definitely not in the right headspace for a long time. Aeony, on the other hand, was very tightlipped about her attraction to Arcann, even after he joined the Alliance and those feelings began to grow into something more. She only started to fall in love with him when he escaped Voss. The moment he turned around and she saw the blue in his eyes...she was pretty much done for.

28. Do they trust one another? Are they comfortable discussing their fears with one another?

There really isn't anyone these two trust more than one another, and that trust was hard-won so they cherish it deeply. Obviously when they were enemies, this wasn't the case. And Valkorion definitely did his best to drive a wedge between them early on...maybe he sensed their connection? So earning each other's trust was a long, hard road.

Since his healing on Voss, and the start of their relationship, Arcann has done his best to be open and communicative with Aeony. This definitely includes discussing his fears with her, because he is still quite fearful, especially of himself. Aeony responded to this act of trust by trusting him in turn with her own fears.

42. Who teases who? What about?

Aeony doesn't do much teasing in general. Sarcasm tends to fly over her head and she tends to be more genuine in her responses to things. Which is also, as Arcann came to discover, something pretty fun to tease her about. So every so often (he has to time it perfectly) a subtle jab will fly in Aeony's direction. Usually it pertains to her taking things too seriously...over-quoting the Jedi code...or the prolonged, scalding hot showers she takes because she has a weird thing about getting rid of dead skin.

Aeony is working on getting better at retaliating.

[chrisevansonly]

Baby Styles Is A……? (Harry’s Angel AU🦋)

pairing: Harry Styles x Female Reader (Angel)

summary: it’s gender reveal time, and Harry can’t wait to find out if he’ll be a boy dad or a girl dad

warnings: slight insecurity mention but filled with fluff and sweet Harry

a/n: yay yay yay the day is here where we find out the gender of baby styles and continue with this chapter of Harry & Angel’s life

There were no words to describe just how beautiful the backyard looked at your home in Cheshire, floral arrangements that you and Poppy had worked on spreading throughout your garden. The sun was out and thankfully it was quite warm today, tables set up for friends and family, today was the day you were finding out the gender of yours and Harry’s baby. Ever since your bump had popped a few days ago, Harry had been so enamoured with it, snapping photos, resting his hand on the swell of your stomach while you slept or cuddled on the couch. Harry was so incredible happy and excited to be a dad, and even more so that he was experiencing these special moments with you, his angel. 

You wore a beautiful dress that accentuated your beauty, you’d been struggling with your body recently, and as you admired yourself in the mirror, you couldn’t help but do a spin, you looked stunning. Truth be told as much excitement as you had for today, you couldn’t stop the slight ache in your heart that your parents couldn’t make it. Despite having a good and normal relationship with them, they were slightly old fashioned and the fact that you and Harry weren’t married made things a bit tense between you all. Harry had definitely noticed your mood shift at the news that they couldn’t make it and had done everything he could to cheer you up.

After a few last glances in the mirror you headed downstairs, laughter and chatting filtering through the open French doors that led to the back garden 

“There she is!”

At the sound of Harry’s voice you smiled, walking out to meet him, saying your hellos to everyone that had come 

“I was wondering where you were”

He pressed a kiss to your temple as you leaned into his side 

“I tried to be quick, but I got sidetracked”

“Everything okay”

Looking up at him you nodded

“Everything’s perfect” 

His eyes held nothing but love and admiration for you his hands rubbing your stomach gently before Anne walked over 

“Oh, petal you look so beautiful!”

“Thank you mum”

Anne had been such a constant mother figure to you while things were going on with your own family, never hesitating to help and provide any support you needed. So, to say the hug she gave you was needed, would be an understatement.

“I’m so excited for you both, this is such a special day for you, I hope I can help fill it with all the love I can”

You blinked back a few tears, a mix of hormones and hurt to blame 

“Just you being here with me is enough to make it special mum” 

She smiled sadly catching a stray tear before letting you and Harry wander around, looking at the décor, seeing friends and family spread out around the property, it helped to fill the void you’d felt this morning. You were thankful that despite everything going on, you had such an amazing and loving group of people in your corner.

-

Harry was basically vibrating out of excitement beside you as you waited to find out the gender of baby Styles, you were incredibly nervous, but as you hugged your arms around his waist, it brought you some much needed comfort to ward off the anxiety you felt in your chest. You both knew whatever you were having, it didn’t matter as long as they were healthy, you’d be the absolutely best parents either way, and the waiting was about to be over. 

“Okay everyone, we are here today to find out the gender of little bee aka baby Styles!”

Cheers erupted around you as you smiled, Poppy sending you a wink

“Before we find out if it’s a girl or a boy I just wanted to say how happy I am for both Harry and my sister, I have never seen her this happy, and this in love before.”

She paused shaking her head gently 

“Harry continues to bring the moon and the stars to y/n every single day, and I know he’s do just about anything for her, so thank you H for loving my sister with everything in you, and for showing her the light within this world, I am very lucky and grateful for you and consider you a brother already” 

You sniffled, wiping your eyes before Poppy came over and hugged you both, squeezing you a bit tighter, and you silently thanked her for that. 

“Now, before I start ugly sobbing like I do when I watch ‘UP’ lets see what the Styles’s will be having!!” 

When they started counting down you looked at Harry, his eyes already on yours 

“Are you nervous?”

He smiled 

“Not at all, m’just excited, are you nervous angel?”

“A little…but also excited too” 

He was about to say something when pink glitter and dust filled the air around you, cheering ringing in your ears. Your hand covered your mouth in shock and Harry was quick to pull you into his chest, his arms holding onto you tightly as if you’d parish into thin air 

“Holy shit, a girl, it’s a girl y/n!”

You held onto him just as tightly sobbing into his sweater

“I-I can’t believe it”

He pulled back enough to hold your face in his hands, only then could you see his own tears cascading gently down his cheeks, his lips pressing to yours 

“My girls, my beautiful girls, love you both so much” 

“We love you too baby so so much” 

After enjoying one another for a few more seconds you were enveloped in many hugs, given many congratulations and your heart was filled with so much love and warmth. Your parents would come around eventually, but you had everything you needed right here in front of you, your very loving fiancé, your friends and of course your family. If you looked back on the first hospital visit in Australia, you would have never thought you’d be here today celebrating a baby girl with those closest to you. 

You had never been more excited for the future and Harry felt just the same…

[cir-papi-di4bl0]

Speed Dating Storytime...

So, I downloaded this app the other day to find some kink events for a group calendar I help manage. I found this event for Virtual Poly Speed Dating, and didn't really know what to expect, but I was curious. I've never even been to ANY speed dating event, really... virtual or physical. 😳

Anywho, the event came and went. There were like about 30 individual screens, some couples, some solo pplz. It was interesting since I seemed one of maybe a handFull of Enbies present. (If i'm BEing totally G about it, maybe there were 3 of us, judging by intros.) Also, can't help but notice I never crossed paths with the 4 other melanated people in attendance. Mind you, there was like 5 of us, and none of the times we shuffled rooms did I run into them. Sadness since I saw one of them (We'll call her Susie) on the app's RSVP list, and she seemed pretty dope.

To My surprise, Susie actually ended up messaging Me after the event, and expressing similar sadness for not being able to sit in company with Me during any of the shuffles. HA! 😅 We love a little synchronicity with our awkward-ass, preliminary speed dating experiences, right?! Thanks for that sprinkle of hope and irony, Universe. ✨ Well played.

Outside of that, the experience was koo, but the crowd wasn't My flavor. Many seemed to InJoy My dark humor, and Goth Boi presentation, but some (like Azzholes) talked over Me, and even grilled Me on My pronouns, making thing extremely awkward. All pale, all males, all cis. Even with that, ya Dude still handled it graceFully, redirecting the ignorance, and returning to the conversation prompts. While there were some there that were familiar with Gender Non-Conformity, and even some kinky F/folx, I just didn't feel it for Me in that space. Ugh. It would be koo though if some of them hit Me up and we walked away as new friends. Especially that other Rope Top I sat in space with. They were pretty hilarious.

In summary, ugh... I'm still working out how I feel about dating in general, and it's not that I'm not connected, (Queer Platonic local partner and LD Life Partner). Happy with them, I've just been feeling like I need to explore connection a bit differently outside of those relationships. (Did I mention I'm a bit of a comet at times?) And since I've been InJoying a brand new outlook on relationships and what healthy connection actually is for Me, I need to be able to apply this knowledge so.............. dating.

yay. 😶

In other news, Susie and I may be connecting soon to "see where we fit" with each other. Interesting how we both felt something from the other, in such a small window of exposure, right? The transmission of vibes, even virtually/remotely cannot be underestimated, yo. I've been called to do new things and step out of comfort zones and this experience definitely feels like it. Is this what the Ancestors were hinting when that "Song of the Wild" card nudged Me this morning?

In other news, at least I know a couple of swinging, Reiki-practicing, former attorneys in Florida, who live at a nudist resort, and say I'm always welcum. 😅🤣👀 LOL!

Ah... What is life if not hilarious?

[nieves-de-sugui]

My personal experience with BL history for @waitmyturtles​

After reading through the posts of your Old GMMTv Challenge, I decided to add my own perspective, as a watcher, of how BL has evolved as a genre as time went by. I hope this “history from the perspective of the viewer” might shed some light in some of the questions you might have or bring up interesting things for your viewing and understanding of the shows. I will try to not repeat what has already been said through your posts by all the wonderful people in this fandom and keep it as concise as possible (turns out it’s still super long).

I’m gonna use ABL’s chronology of the shows as a timeline guide for easy understanding:

Context: How I made my way to Thailand

I’ve always been into BL (yaoi, gay shows, whatever you wanna call it), but I became commited to it around 2008. The options for queer content back then were very limited, as I’m sure we all remember. But for the sake of adding context this were my go to:

Youtube playlists of cuts of “the gay storyline” from western shows (Brothers and Sisters, Hit The Floor, Shameless, Skins and soap operas (Salatut Elamat, Days of Our Lives), etc), 

Queer as Folk, 

bad japanese live action adaptations of yaoi mangas (Takumi kun) or just sad/melancholic movies about lost men, 

sad chinese movies (usually with fucked up plots), 

indie queer movies (Were The World Mine, Judas Kiss, Shelter, Yes or No, Love of Siam etc). 

But I was starving for more. I wanted shows. 

In the search for more content, through Love of Siam enters My Bromance (very sad ending, also pseudo incest?, still part of what I thought were just indie movies with yaoi influences) and then appears Lovesick (S1 and S2), with very questionable subs, but finally a show with a gay couple as protagonists. 

Lovesick was for me the first show that finally put a queer story as a main thing to focus on, finally breaking free of the eternal side story filled with drama and hurt that was never comforted. After that only Make it Right was around. It was more of the same thing but this time the cast was a lot more reduced and everyone is gay. Also, it showed some of the sexual aspects of the genre (which now feels wrong for so many reasons, but alas). 

One day, SOTUS is on youtube with subs, plus it’s the official channels (yay! finally we can be legal!). 

First shock, there’s an actual plot centered around these two people, who are their own characters besides being gay, and they actually kiss (I remember it was so impactful to me (in a never seen before way) that I did fanart of it). Thai shows became my guilty pleasure, they were bad but they were telling the stories I wanted to see and no one else was doing it. Only Thai shows cared to show cute love stories that ended well, without the big drama we were used to in the west. My thoughts were “It’s bad but I’ll take it, I’m staying here”

Living through the different booms

When Together With Me came out it brought proper making out session and high heat to the genre. Sround here is when I started watching everything that I could find because I had finally found my jam. So I watched all that now I could not watch again (because, man! they’re bad) like 2moons, Puppy Honey S2, What The Duck, My Dream,... And then, with Love By Chance we got the first signs of consent and communication with AePete. It finally felt like we could get stories with healthy relationships. 

Also, Our Skyy came in! Great moment! Treats for everyone! And honestly, it was such a fun project to watch. Iconic side-couples from straight shows getting their moment of spotlight on the same level as the main couples from BL shows. To me, Our Skyy comfirmed the importance of the main 3 (OG, TN, KS) and cemented the path GMM was taking with their BL shows. It started to be part of the norm and not just some shows here and there. It was no longer waiting for someone to make a BL once in a while, but an assurance a small but constant flow of BLs. 

Also Taiwan started the HIStory franchise.

BIG BOOM#1 - TharnType! Also, Ossan’s Love. 

TharnType comes in. The 1st episode ends and everybody hates it for the lack of consent, but everybody loves it for the high heat and the chemistry (also for those of us who had liked Mew in WTD it was nice to see him in this show, that seemed to have less drama around it). Plus, the hype of knowing more about Tharn from LBC, who was such a nice older gay character when he was palyed by Earth (Pirapat).

I think to me, TT was a mix of a lot of the usual flaws with the very new (only achieved before by MaxTul) high heat chemistry  (which despite the controversy is an important part of the BL genre, you can’t take the sex out of BL) and an interesting idea for a plot. 

Also I watched Great Men Academy for Captain (Noh in Lovesick), and he slays. Plus the BL in the show is good (even tho technically not bl, but queer enough)

Simultaneously Japan gets Ossan’s Love, it’s first mainstream BL boom, with very well known actors and gets talked about by the regular drama watchers. Everyone was watching Ossan’s Love in Japan, it brought the genre to the mainstream for the first time. (And prepared the grounds for Cherry Magic, imo)

Other shows that left an impact at the time were He’s Coming To Me and Dark Blue Kiss. HCTM was the great Ohm comeback (who I though we would never see again), paired with Singto doing a BL again. Besides the chemistry, the change in themes was very interesting, it was the first thai bl that showed thai culture for me. For its part, DBK had an interesting opening and Aof personal queer touch to the storyline (which made it wonderful) Especially for MorkSun. It was the first taste of what we know Aof for, but it was also the first time BL had such mature and nuanced themes to it.

little BOOM#1 - Until We Meet Again and Theory of Love

UWMA and TOL, to me were surprises. I thought that like KirstSingto and TayNew, OffGun would never do another BL with new characters. That BL was still just an undervaluated stepping stone that people didn’t treat as a proper genre (as everybody had been doing up to that point, do it once and never be seen near the genre again). 

However, UWMA confirmed that BL was here to stay. It was growing, it was exploring mixing with other genres and famous thai actors were in it. It was also moving away from the usual university storyline. And TOL was the comback of the year. I remember everyone losing their shit (me included), it was the lengendary OG afterall. Up until then they had done cameos and Puppy Honey season 1 and 2 but that was it. TOL also did something interesting with its theme, and the romcom references. AND! it was the first proper kiss in a gmmtv BL. From dead fish PickRome to full on make out with KhaiThird.

BIG BOOM#2 - 2gether and Why R U?

The BL expansion thanks to the pandemic was very very noticeable. Everybody was seeing 2gether and WRU. First time anything BL trended on Tumblr. Everyone was descovering thailand. 

Also 2gether was again a first, it felt like the story made more sense. It was more believable, with tolerable tropes and a cute main pair (this was the first thai show I dared to recommend to someone who was not into BL), plus the music. The ending of the show ruined it for me, however Still2gether Fixed everything that was wrong from the 1st season and showed quickly how the show could’ve been. WRU’s plot was directly affected by the pandemic and bettered what TharnType had started with the high heat chemistry. The whole success of the show is due to SaintZee having amazing chemistry and going with it. 

My engineer was the surprise of the year, it had nothing going for it promising but it managed to be good (I think thanks to some parts of the story and the cast mainly). 

little BOOMS#2 - Cherry Magic and ITSAY and others

The riples of the pandemic 2gether boom were felt in Japan. Nothing breaks throught the japanese content barrier. Japan only consumes MADE IN JAPAN, and yet 2gether made it there. And showed the Japanese show runners that there’s an interest there. Cherry Magic aired a few months after and it was big success, like OL had been. Korea starts with Where Your Eyes Linger here too.

The thing about I Told Sunset About You was that nobody knew what we were getting. I had heard about My ambulance, I even saw some of the clips, but it seemed to be side couple queerbaiting and honestly I wasn’t expecting much. But they had promised a BilkinPP series. I think it’s no wonder it blew our minds, nobody was expecting that! 

Then the big comeback of MaxTul with Manner of Death, broke our minds just as OF had with TOL and bringing again the mature themes to the genre (they are called the daddies of BL for a reason). No one thought they’d come back.

Around here I started watching the GMMtv end of the year announcements. All the build up we had had from the growing of the BL genre and p’Aof culminated on the annoucement of A Tale of Thousand Stars. Because of how it breaks the rules of thai bl (no engineers, no university, no highschool, no city, no 2000′s yaoi tropes just regular shoujo tropes) and tells a compeling story that tasted so new the hype didn’t die even when it came one year later than it should have. 

And Lovely Writer, was the first to present the criticizing of the industry as well as expanding on the mature themes outside of university and the lack of need for fanservice off screen between the actors. They acted like normal people :D

Light on Me appared around here too, and showed us that korea can do better than it had. And Taiwan gave us We Best Love.

BIG BOOM#3 -  Bad Buddy and Kinnporsche

BB was the biggest annoucement GMMtv has ever made. The thing about it was the combo AofOhmNanon. Always grazing BL and forever ghost shipped with Chimon, Nanon decided to do his first (and probably only) BL with none other than Ohm (with who he had great chemistry since they became friends in Blacklist) and under the guidance of Aof. Here I want to add that Aof considers BB to be his first Y series, the ones before were dramas, so I assume by that that the thai public makes a difference between the more mature tone series and the more highschool/university BLs (??). Such a year that was! Accompanied by the epicness that was the annoucement of Not Me (confirmed to be the last OG show... but then they went and annouced another). 

And last but not least, Kinnporsche breaks the internet, everyone knows about thailand now. It entered the realm of darker themes and violence. Accompanied by other shows exploring other themes like: You’re My Sky (sports), Something In My Room (ghosts), etc...

Which is the flow we have now, some of the known old stuff some of the new expanding stuff, waiting for the next boom. My, what a journey!

I hope this was an interesting read and that I managed to show how these shows were perceived when they came out, even though now they might not be as groundbreaking. If anybody else wants to add how they perceived these shows when they came out, feel free to add to this!

[invinciblerodent]

if you haven't already.... you should post that oc info for arvid 👀

Yay, an excuse, thank you! :D (Long ramblings under the cut!) (excuse the darkness of the screenshot, my laptop is currently angry with photoshop)

Arvid Trygg

Full Name: As above! Fun fact- "trygg" comes from the Old Norse "tryggr", and essentially means "faithful". It's my headcanon for the name children raised in the church get in that area if they don't have a last name of their own- a bit like the "John Snow" of Faerun. (His mom only told the monks to name him Arvid, but left no other information about herself or her desires for him, and was gone by the next morning. So for all intents and purposes, his full name is essentially "Bother Arvid", which as a warrior priest is what he was casually referred to as the most.)

Gender and Sexuality: Short answer, bisexual man. Long answer, if only he knew enough to figure it out. As of right now, he's... mostly confused? Because while he's fairly sure he's a man, having literally lived the past 35 years as a holy man, he didn't much think of sexuality in any context. He may have had some mild crushes here and there, but didn't really think further about any of them. Nowadays he's slowly realizing that actually, not only does his dick work (surprise of all surprises), he also doesn't much care about gender as much as personality, and is very attracted to earnestness and gentleness in people, even more if they don't try to hide it. (It's a lot of "baby's first attempts at flirting" with him.)

Pronouns: Most comfortable with he/him, but sees no reason to be bothered by they/them either. The beard mostly deters people from attempting she/her, so I don't think he has any feelings about that.

Ethnicity/Species: He was raised as- and thinks of himself as a gold dwarf, but technically, his dad was a duergar. His mother lived in a very conservative area and was very young when she had him, so she broke off any relationship with the father when she learned she was pregnant, and hid the pregnancy from everyone. She went to the nearest monastery to give birth, and when she saw the (then much more pronounced) blue hue of her son, she decided that the best thing she can do for him is to leave him there to be raised by the monks. That way he gets a roof that her father would deny them, a life away from people in the village pointing fingers at him, and she gets her life back. (Arvid doesn't blame her for any of this. He thinks it was unfortunate because he would have liked to know his parents, but it was nevertheless the right decision to make. His skin's greyish-blue has since faded into this slightly bluish, pale color.) (He blushes purple, you guys. Purple. So cute.)

Birthplace and Birthdate: About 1460 DR, in a Tempuran monastery near a small dwarven village in the Western Heartlands (quite a ways South from Baldur's Gate), making him roughly 35 at the events of the game.

Guilty Pleasures: I think even though he's not experienced with it, he just loves reading about romance. You know there's that unauthorized copy of that bawdy play ("A Pleasurable Deal") we can find in a certain area of the game? Yeah, he saved that book, AND the leaflet that's an interview with the author. That was the first piece of explicitly smutty literature he's ever had access to, and... yeah. While he doesn't announce that he likes romance, he definitely keeps the enjoyment of smut buried deep in the bottom of his pack.

Phobias: So far, I don't think he has any notable ones. I mean, he's definitely got a healthy aversion from a bunch of things and isn't the biggest fan of gross monsters, but few are. I've yet to find out his biggest fear, but so far I'm toying with something like... that dawning horror that you did something irreversible and irredeemably horrible out of misinformation? Though I don't know how to phrase that in a concise manner.

What They Would Be Famous For: This one remains to be seen, I'll update it once I'm actually done with the game lol.

What They Would Get Arrested For: Definitely trespassing. Maybe breaking and entering. Probably heard someone in distress and immediately went to them, the dingus.

OC You Ship Them With:

OC Most Likely To Murder Them: (these don't really apply I think)

Favorite Movie/Book Genre: After a lifetime of little besides holy texts, he's kind of a fan of anything that's... not that. But definitely a romantic at heart, and if they ever "accidentally" pick up a romance novel, it mysteriously evades the trash-pile for a few days at least.

Least Favorite Movie/Book Cliche: I'm gonna say it's the "it was all a dream, and not in the vision- or astral projection-way". He always prefers honesty and straightforwardness, it's always a bummer when he realizes someone wasn't entirely truthful about something. (He doesn't realize that often.)

Talents and/or Powers: Well, he's a rather talented soldier and cleric, but I'd say a talent specifically is how he can leverage that aura if necessary. Mechanically, he has proficiency in intimidation, but hardly ever uses it- I headcanon that he doesn't really like using threats to get his way and prefers to be nice and persuasive instead, but has this... way, of shifting his weight and voice that makes him seem like someone not to be trifled with. (Only uses it when the Vibes on he encounter are already Fetid.) He's also got a lot of domestic skills, from helping out around he monastery from a very young age. Remarkably good at peeling potatoes and chopping onions. Crochets cute scarves in the evenings. (He's... not SUPER great at that one, a long rectangle is about what he can make, but it's a really sweet gesture, they're warm, and they do look pretty darn cute.)

Why Someone Might Love Them: He's a very gentle soul that's very non-judgemental, and curious about everything- especially other people's faiths. To him, as long as you believe in something wholeheartedly and are willing to fight for it, it's an honorable belief, and an honorable fight. That's why he doesn't judge Shadowheart for her Shar-worship, why he understands Lae'zel's devotion to Vlaakith, why he was willing to try the ritual for Loviatar, and, yeah, why he feels for Gale so deeply on the whole Mystra-issue. (And, because he's definitely very much into Gale, just in general.)

Why Someone Might Hate Them: I feel like that honor is a double-edged sword in this way, in that because of it, he has a way of setting expectations very high for others, and feeling undue disappointment when they fall short of the expectations he imposed on them. As in, he's, on a deep level, very annoyed with Gale for just accepting that he's gonna have to blow up, because Arvid thinks of that as Gale having rolled over and just given up. One of the worst things one can do in Arvid's eyes is giving up without a fight. (Things were kind of tense between them for a few days after meeting Elminster. After the fussy attention Arvid showers everyone in as their healer, I think Gale definitely felt the slight chill in the air there.)

How They Change: It's still a bit in progress, but I think he'll grow to accept that there's a bit more to the world than fully right and fully wrong, even within the same action, and the same paradigm. The way he handled the githyanki egg is definitely a sign of that change- he balked at the request first, it seemed unthinkable that it could in any way be better for a young gith to be raised outside of their community, but... yeah, wiping out a crèche (leaving nobody left to take care of it) and finding a note that the egg was going to be destroyed changed his perspective on things. At small hours when he can't sleep, he still thinks about what's gonna happen to that githyanki (and when he handed it over, he did look at the others and say "I hope we're all in agreement that we're not going to tell Lae'zel about this.", which is... not a lie that leaves a good taste in his mouth.)

Why You Love Them: I mean, he's a good li'l upstanding lawful good cleric boy who thinks letting a vampire bite him is the same as providing healthcare, and makes his companions cute accessories to keep them nice and cozy. He's the dwarf dad(dy?) we all need, with a fantasy fanny pack full of fruit snacks. (Really, he does carry almost all their rations on the road. So technically, he does pass out the snacks. I imagine a short rest is pretty much a snack break.)

His mustache curving up like that also gives him a permanent little smile, which I think is adorable.

[astraystayyh]

Alright I only have one thing to say Sahar. Thank you. Thank you so much for invisible thread and for literary just existing. I cannot explain properly I words how amazing this fic is. You don't even deserve words you deserve poems darling.

One of the things that stood out to me the most was how you represented reader's PTSD because of her mother. As a person who went through a very similar experience (and I do have PTSD yay) this is detailed correctly to the last word. The way you explained reader's guilt properly and her not feeling upset even though her mom died is a very real thing that I have seen happen to me and some of the people around me who've gone through similar experiences. I don't why I'm so fixated on these amazing descriptions but maybe it's because it's not often that I see these things portrayed correctly in media, even in books. Ma'am I will pay you to become an actual author.

I also noticed the way you wrote Y/N's hesitance to love again which was very beautifully conveyed in the first paragraphs. It's like we've known loneliness and desperation for so long that it's the only feeling we have and we accept that it is our destiny. But then Minho steps in and Y/N just feels something else. Something other than loneliness and longing for people to love her. She finally feels proper love and she receives it too. And that's just so comforting.

The colour thing omg I will ramble about this and no one can stop me! It was so painfully beautiful, and I mean that in a good way. Minho's little breakdown and Y/N just straight up feeling guilty is just so.... I can't explain this emotion (143 I love you hehe). It's almost like this is what is a good relationship when you and your partner both are dependent on each other for support both mental and literally everything else. And Minho also feeling guilty that he broke down? It's almost like this one quote I made in 9th grade and I recently also read on the internet "We may be going to Hell, but we know that we have held Heaven in our arms."

One of the reasons I feel like why this story is so comforting is because it portrays love, not as all roses and Cupids but as actual human love. It portrays love in laughter, in the little inside habits we have, in just sitting in silence knowing that we are fluent in it, in baking cakes, in remembering details, in risking everything to get something the other wants and most importantly, in finding solace in one and other. Babes whatever writing pill you're on, GIMME IT.

Overall, this is now in my "I'm coming back to this after angst" fic list! And I'm gonna read this so many times, my gf's gonna think I'm mental.

I offer this Minho picture to you as a gift for creating such a beautiful piece of literature.

I'm sorry if this too long by the way. I was gonna write a 4 page essay but Tumblr said no. Love you babes! I hope you have a great life and find your Minho too!

(PS: I noticed a few days ago an anon translated your name into their native language so I wanted to tell you that in my native languages, Sahar means adventure (in hindi) and the thorns of a rose (in Telugu))

i can't tell you how much times i reread this since you sent it in ☹️☹️☹️ i just want to thank you first for taking the time to write me such sweet and thoughtful feedback, it truly means the world and more to me 🥹 like you've just made all the nights i spent working on this fic worth it!!!

I'm so happy you found yn's reactions realistic :") i really tried to make them as human as they can be, and not too optimistic where everything is forgotten as soon as she's with minho,, i was really afraid it wouldn't be realistic so thank you for letting me know <33

!!!!!!!! yessss,, with minho she no longer longs for love she just receives it freely, without even asking for it,,, and i feel like that's what healthy relationships are about, just a healthy nurturing love

I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKED THE COLORS THINGIE,, it was such a big part of how they opened up to each other in pt.1 so i figured I NEED TO HAVE IT,, anddd yes both of them are so.. cautious around each other, like they don't want to hurt the other at all costs :(( and that's such a pretty quote wow

your description of what kind of love this is MADE ME SO WARM INSIDE,,, ahhhh love can be so beautiful when it's with the right person 🥹

im genuinely so so so HAPPY you liked this fic and that you found it this comforting ☹️☹️ i don't even know what to say apart from thank you, for being so sweet and for just existing as well!!! i hope you're happy and healthy always <3

[cryptidsurveys]

Wednesday, August 21st, 2024.

How has covid affected you? Like the whole ordeal or the illness specifically? Because 2020 felt like an emotional/political roller coaster. Staying home wasn't a big deal because I was already practically a shut-in, but the world as seen through my computer screen was a dumpster fire. As for the illness itself, I finally caught it in February of 2023. It hit me hard the first night, the next three days or so were like a bad cold or a mild flu, and the remainder - approximately a week and a half - was just like a common cold. I was sniffly and exhausted, but nothing serious.

What is a comfort show of yours? I don't watch television, so I'm going to go with YT videos instead: Essential Salts, Where Did The Road Go? Radio, Belief Hole, Fall Of Civilizations, Event Horizon, Science & Futurism With Isaac Arthur, French Whisperer, and various Japan vloggers such as Toki Doki Traveller, Abroad In Japan, Seerasan, Sharmeleon, etc.

Are you open about your past or do you not let anyone in? I am really only open about my past with a few people (and two of those people are my parents lol - because they were literally there for it). Even with surveys, I'm somewhat reserved. I'll speak fairly openly about my present and relatively recent past, but I tend to be vague when referencing my deep past.

Favourite fast food joint? Hmm, I don't think I have one at the moment. I don't eat fast food all that frequently.

Do you think we were put on this earth for a reason? No. I guess not. I think the reason is something you create for yourself.

What is something you have done this year you’re proud of? Started volunteering full-time at the animal shelter (prior to that, I was only part-time). I think it's been about 5 weeks now. The other day, I was in the big room gathering the nightly trash to take to the dumpster, and Leslie (manager) was like, "Talk to me if you ever want a job here…" And I said my usual, "Oh, one day…one day…" with a twinkle in my eye. ;D

Do u ever feel like surveys are usually the same questions? Yeah. Especially after taking them for nearly 20 years. However, even though many of the questions are similar or repetitive, my life circumstances have changed, so the answers have gradually changed as well.

What were you doing 10 years ago? I think I was working at PDI, and I think my dad and I were still into backpacking, but not as much as in previous years. Other than that, I really don't remember a whole lot about 2014. I was still very firmly in hermit mode, struggling with mental illness, etc.

Do you call out Karen’s when they’re harassing a cashier? Nooo. Sorry, but if someone is behaving aggressively in public, then my most likely course of action is to avoid the situation as much as possible.

Animal crossing, yay or nay? I haven't played it since I was in middle school/early high school. It seems like a cute game and I would probably enjoy it if I could actually stick with it, but I'm just not much of a gamer.

Why do you like to do surveys? They're like a journal to me. They help me document my life in a way I probably - well, undoubtedly - wouldn't do without the added prompts.

Did you ever have a MySpace? Yeah. I still miss it. The way it was originally, anyway. Not whatever it became. I loved messing around with my layouts, etc.

Do you think breaks are toxic in a relationship? I think it depends on the situation. I can think of a few scenarios in which a break could be a potentially healthy choice.

Do you have a YouTube channel? If no, would you create one? If yes what’s your content? I have one, but I only use it for watching videos. I don't create anything, nor do I have any plans to do so.

Are you a math person? Not at all.

What’s the worse thing someone has said to you? Idk.

Have you ever befriended someone because you felt bad? I don't think so.

Would you ever date someone online? I have in the past (we eventually met in person). At this point in my life…I'm not sure. My instinct is to say no because I'm not all that interested in the long-distance dynamic. Plus, when it came time for one of us to relocate…I'm pretty stubborn about the fact that it's not going to be me. I'm rooted in my life here and I don't want to leave it behind to start over somewhere else. If someone was okay with that, then idk. I guess I would be willing to see where things went.

Have you been ghosted before? Would you ghost someone? I've never been ghosted. Idk if I would do it to someone else or not.

When do you think things will be normal again? When has anything ever been normal? ;D …But you're probably talking about Covid stuff since that's how the survey started. Things around here are basically back to pre-Covid days. No one even talks about it anymore.

Do you watch anime? I watched it a lot when I was younger, but not in recent years.

Biggest goal you wanna reach before 2024 is over? Find a good work/life balance. At the moment, I'm struggling to fit everything in while still having space to breathe. My therapist wants me to do this group therapy thing with others around my age + in similar circumstances, but I feel like I'm going to scream if I have to do even one more thing. :') I think I'm going to have to tell her today that I just can't do it.

How old did/do you turn this year? I turned 35 in March.

Do you like tiktok? I don't use it.

Do you ever miss vine? Not really.

How are you doing, seriously? Oh, you know…just casually walking along a tightrope over a yawning abyss. No biggie.

Is there someone you want to talk to but you know you can’t? No.

Do you make jokes to cope with your problems? Definitely. I have a very morbid, irreverent, even PrObLeMaTiC sense of humor.

Have you ever had someone call you their best friend but you didn’t even consider them a close friend? No.

Have you ever dealt with a pathological liar? I guess you could call him that. One of my sibling's ex-partners was an all-around horrible person.

Long or short surveys? Medium. 30-40 questions is probably ideal.

If ur in school, are you doing it on zoom or in class? I'm not in school.

Would you ever have a pet rat? No. Rats are cool, but I'm not interested in having one as a pet. I already have three kitties.

Favourite memory with your best friend? I'm not sure.

Favourite type of content to watch on YouTube? History, outer space, paranormal, tarot, reaction channel trash, Japan vlogs, etc.

Are you allergic to anything serious? No.

Dream job? I basically already have it. I'm just not being paid to do it, lmao.

Do you think dreams mean anything? They're probably just the burbling of an unconscious/subconscious mind attempting to make sense of things.

Fav clothing brand? I don't have one.

Do you miss anyone? Yeah.

[noodlyappendages03]

Yup. That was it. DD walked up with his beautiful eyes and dazzling smile as he always does. He didn't cut and run. He found out I was doing shadow work therapy last week and I thought, "Oh God, he thinks I'm crazy." Turns out he doesn't. He shared that he was in therapy up until his separation last year and then asked me about it. Didn't pry but said I could share if I felt comfortable. I now get the sense that he has strong feelings for me but is mature enough to know that we can't make the two parts of our lives co-exist at this moment in time. Definitely not a fuckboy. He really tried his best to make his marriage work from our conversation today. Loves his baby girl to pieces. But it was a pandemic shotgun wedding with the wrong person. It really, really sucks that I can't sleep with him anymore, but it would only prolong and intensify the pain for both of us. Better to preserve and deepen our relationship as it is than to ruin it completely.

He knows about my major trauma - raped at 18 as a virgin and was impregnated against my will. Dissociated heavily in the days after. I miscarried in a dorm bathroom in the first trimester and was in heavy denial about the pregnancy because I was trying to deal with what had happened, plus I had taken a test too soon and it was negative - stuffed it all down and tried to pretend it never happened because the one person I told laughed at me and didn't believe me. Complex PTSD doesn't let you do that, btw. Attempted suicide 4 months after the miscarriage because the pain of living in the aftermath was just too much. Chose to stay on this earth out of pure spite and hatred toward my rapist, if we're being honest. Yay spite!

I've been able to heal the pregnancy wound by having my daughter 14 years later, but have had deep shame issues around sex ever since. Married a man young who made me feel secure emotionally but had no sex drive. At the time that was fine, and we had our kid, but I could count the times we were intimate on basically two hands in a decade. As I healed, I felt like I was not only missing out but unable to reclaim my sexuality. That ended, and here we are. DD certainly helped me reclaim parts of my sexuality that used to feel dirty to me. He took my virginity in um, a different way...haha! 😆 🍑

DD was in shock and in awe when I shared my story. He revealed he had a son at 22 - accidental pregnancy and later took responsibility after not being present for him growing up. He said he couldn't bear to imagine how painful it must have been for me to not have had a say in my bodily autonomy and to also be just 18 years old - about the same age as his son now, btw - and to technically give birth while being not entirely aware of what was happening with zero support system and then have to deal with complicated grief/rage/PTSD. So he kinda understood my situation, what makes me tick, and why I seek therapy. In fact, his son was born the same year that took place. So yeah...we share a unique bond.

If anything, he seemed to admire me more for being open about journaling and therapy. I'm trying to work on myself. Dude's got his own wounds to heal. He knows we're both unhealed. Both of us felt love and ran scared. Have to fix ourselves before there can be a healthy relationship (and one of us would have to quit because the working environment would become unhealthy - the Gossips!). Time will tell.

[edelblau]

i have to post about this somewhere but its too vulnerable for twitter but like. today my mom was visiting and we were gonna hang out which yay! (and we did, that part still happened)

but at 10am i started getting texts from my dad (famous for never texting first) that are like. extremely suicidal about some Bad Shit that has happened in his life and like. idk i dont wanna like. be mad at vulnerability but >man who reacted to my uncles death with "That Sucks" basically >me being famously suicidal and unstable suddenly having to try to talk a 47 year old man through his mental health issues >the constant trial of never feeling i can be truly open with my dad about anything because if i dont walk on eggshells around him i might say something that leads him to get angry at me like i JUST went through my own suicidal breakdown last night i cannot comfort someone else especially not my dad who i have a fraught relationship with PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE i literally texted mymom saying 'please help me'

idk no matter what else is true about our Unique Familial Relationship and situation i dont want him to die, i love him regardless of how much he 'deserves' that but jesus christ sometimes i struggle to like. be there even for my friends its so much harder when its... like this. and. idk. part of me cant help but look at his messages where he metnioned im the only one his has with some frustration bc... thats all self inflicted?

my sister still hasnt blocked him (mostly for my sake), he has a brother who is alive and well and apparently asked after him when he ran into my mom, like. i dont know. if he just reached out to people and talked to them and apologized for all the shit hes done, met them on an equal level with understanding... because like. its both not healthy for him to rely solely on a mentally unwell 24 year old but also i dont want this at all. i want to be . idk. family. not his therapist or crisis line. i want him to reach out to me because he wants to talk to me, not because of the newest thing going wrong in his life and he needs a therapist.

idk. idk . idk . idk. idk

[butteryunlikelylady]

tw: ED

I think I’m teetering on the edge of an eating disorder..

so I’ve been grieving for the last few months, the decline of my long term relationship and it ending in June. Two months ago I had to leave the apartment my ex and I shared, which I loved, and moved in with family into a room. My weight started dropping a few weeks before I had to move and it’s been dropping ever since.

As of today I’ve unintentionally lost 14 pounds.

I know exactly what’s causing it. I’m not eating. I’m fully aware of what’s happening; I’m fully aware that I’m depressed. I’ve been depressed before but I’ve been able to pull myself out of it for the most part…. But I’ve never had an issue feeding myself. I love to eat.

Of course as a woman I’ve always been super conscious of my weight and my body and how it looked. But when I used to exercise regularly, I was mostly doing it for health reasons and to stay active/maintain my healthy weight of ~153-155 lbs rather than to lose weight; I would eat three times a day; if I didn’t, I would get painful trapped gas and be hangry and cranky, etc. I loved to eat and needed to eat esp bc I was doing cardio and doing light weightlifting a few times a week.

Since moving, my healthy eating and exercise habits have been scattered. In addition to not liking my living situation (and not feeling that comfortable in the kitchen/not having much space here so I simply avoid it as much as possible), my appetite has changed due to my grief and depression. So I’m just not feeling hungry as often as I used to. And when I do feel hunger pangs, my brain doesn’t register it as a cause for action. Or not urgent enough to stop rotting in bed and go downstairs to make myself something to eat. Which has me eating 1 or 2 meals a day at random times and they vary in nutritional quality/heartiness.

Another disturbing part of this is I know this is bad. But I feel because of societal preferences for smaller, thinner women, my brain keeps telling me maybe this is a good thing. “Maybe it’s not so bad you’re losing weight, and you aren’t even struggling to lose weight like you normally do.” WHAT?!

My mum had to take up the hem of some stretchy yoga pants for me and as I was putting them on for her to measure, I had to jump a little bc obviously they’re stretch pants and she goes “Oohh Portia you might need to do a little more walking!!” Like WHAT?! Of course I internalized that shit and was like omg am I putting on weight/do I need to watch myself?? This was like two weeks ago so I was still actively dropping weight. And it’s not like she wasn’t aware of that….

Clothes that are meant to be tight/hugging on me are getting baggy and unflattering. My underwear is falling off me. And yet I keep thinking this isn’t a cause for concern bc smaller=better. I look in the mirror—and even though my physique isn’t even as nice as when I was working out regularly (I don’t have much time for working out since I started my second job)—I mentally give myself a thumbs up.

I keep wanting to get positive compliments on my smaller figure from men. In my head I imagine getting into sexual scenarios with men I’ve had sex with before (so like, two.) and them noticing how small I am and going crazy for it. That shit is so toxic I wish I could stop those thoughts. I want people to notice….? Like whether it’s out of concern or praising me? Absolutely sick!

And don’t even get me started on buying clothes. “Oh maybe instead of being a large/XL in clothes I’ll be a medium or a small! Yay!” Hoping and praying that I can start buying clothes in smaller sizes instead of worrying about my HEALTH. And still having to order a medium or large in things bc women’s sizing is so fucked.

I’m smaller and more frail and my tummy is still the biggest part of my body apart from my shoulders…. So my brain goes “yea maybe you’ve lost all this weight but you’re still fat/don’t have an hourglass shape. We could stand to lose more.”

And I know I will eventually have to put back on healthy weight when hopefully I come out of this dark ass period in my life but I’m terrified of that. I do not like seeing the scale increase. It’s been darkly satisfying seeing the numbers drop every time I weigh myself which is like 1-2 times a week at this point. I do not know how my brain is going to handle seeing my body fill back in and weight go up, even if I’m going back to my healthy 153.

ANDD my breasts, which I went through a whole surgery to get reduced (and they typically lift them a little in rdxn surgery), are sagging bc of the fat loss. So there’s that too.

I have so many more ugly thoughts I wanted to express in this post but my thumbs are tired…. I don’t really know how to stop this progression or how to stop these feelings in their tracks. I know if I don’t I could easily develop an eating disorder and I don’t want to have to go through recovering from that bc I just know it has to be hard.

[just-a-cybercroissant]

Tropes Tropes Baby

Thank you @ghostoffuturespast for tagging me! :)

Rules: Choose one, both or none of the following tropes!

Key:

Bold - yay

Strikethrough - nay

Plain - ambivalent

Italic - there is a caveat upon which I will elaborate

slow burn or love at first sight // fake dating or secret dating // enemies to lovers or best friends to lovers // oh no there's only one bed or long-distance correspondence // hurt-comfort or amnesia // fantasy au or modern au // mutual pining or domestic bliss // canon-compliant or fix-it // reincarnation or character death // one- shot or multi-chapter // kid fic or road trip fic // arranged marriage or accidental marriage // high school romance or middle-aged romance // time travel or isolated together // neighbors or roommates // sci-fi au or magic au // body swap or gender bend // angst or crack // apocalyptic or mundane

Caveats here:

Enemies to lovers - okay, I’m not fully against this trope but for me there’s a clear borderline where this trope cannot work at all. For instance if the main character or an enemy heavily abuse each other or, god forbid, kill each others family members, there will be no healthy relationship between these two which I will relate. Never.

Canon-compliant - I’ll never start a holy war for for breaking a canon (I do it myself lol) but I’m that kind of fic writer who uses canon to create a new plot line than just changes it from the root. For me, there are such canon features for the character that will totally demolish their personality if some parts of their origin are just discarded. So I’m 50:50 here.

Arranged marriage - well, today this trope usually doesn’t work in the western societies but we should never forget that it’s still a quite widespread practice in the Asian and African countries so why not - there’s still can be space for characters to find their love in that way. It’s also quite a totally normal trope of the story take places in the medieval times or fantasy which are mostly based on the medieval traditions and ethics. But it also should be done carefully as characters won’t be just attracted to each other from the first side but this trope can always open doors for a beautiful and healthy slow burn relationship.

[sleepingnova]

hello! good to see someone still making miles content <3 maybe a gn reader tending to his wounds? :0

OMG OMG OMG OMG ANON OMG ILY THIS IS MY FIRST MILES ASK OMGMGGGGGG

𝙿𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚎. 𝙳𝚘 𝚒𝚝 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚖𝚎?

𝚂𝚢𝚗𝚘𝚙𝚜𝚒𝚜: 𝙰𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚍𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚏𝚘𝚛 �� 𝚢𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚜, 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚜𝚝𝚒𝚕𝚕 𝚐𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚡𝚒𝚘𝚞𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝙼𝚒𝚕𝚎𝚜 𝚝𝚎𝚡𝚝𝚜 𝚢𝚘𝚞 '𝙸 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞.'

This is aged up so you and Miles are 17.

Content warning : Miles is injured, (anon didn't specify what kind of injured so I'm gonna give you stabby stabby wound. Why? Cause I like angst) gender neutral reader. Suggestive themes ahead.

𝚈𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚙𝚑𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚋𝚞𝚣𝚣𝚎𝚜 𝚘𝚗 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚗𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚗𝚍. 𝙸𝚝 𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚘𝚗𝚌𝚎, 𝚝𝚠𝚒𝚌𝚎, 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚙𝚜. 𝙰 𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚞𝚝𝚎 𝚐𝚘𝚎𝚜 𝚋𝚢 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚒𝚝 𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚊𝚐𝚊𝚒𝚗.

𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚐𝚛𝚘𝚊𝚗 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚗 𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚛, 𝚝𝚛𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚐𝚛𝚊𝚋 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚙𝚑𝚘𝚗𝚎, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚏𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚘𝚏𝚏 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚕𝚘𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚍 𝚋𝚎𝚍. 𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚐𝚛𝚘𝚊𝚗 𝚒𝚗 𝚙𝚊𝚒𝚗 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚜𝚕𝚘𝚠𝚕𝚢 𝚐𝚎𝚝 𝚞𝚙.

𝚁𝚞𝚋𝚋𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚕𝚘𝚠���𝚛 𝚋𝚊𝚌𝚔 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚗𝚎𝚌𝚔, 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚠𝚊𝚕𝚔 𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚛 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚘𝚙𝚙𝚘𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚎 𝚜𝚒𝚍𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚛𝚘𝚘𝚖 𝚝𝚘𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚍𝚜 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚗𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚗𝚍. 𝙶𝚛𝚊𝚋𝚋𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚙𝚑𝚘𝚗𝚎, 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚜𝚎𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚋𝚘𝚢𝚏𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚍'𝚜 𝚙𝚑𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚗𝚞𝚖𝚋𝚎𝚛 𝚙𝚘𝚙 𝚞𝚙, 𝚒𝚕𝚕𝚞𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚍𝚊𝚛𝚔 𝚛𝚘𝚘𝚖.

"Miles? It's 3 in the morning. What's wrong baby? Why are you awake?" Your deep, sleepy voice grumbled as you rubbed your eyes, trying to find your way back to your ladder for your bed in the dark.

"I'm really sorry to wake you up sweetheart, but I need really need your help." He breathed out, barely above a whisper.

You could hear the heavy breathing in him voice. The ragged, unsteady breathing made your eyes widen. You didn't want to assume that's what he was calling you for, but you had to make sure.

"Miles, are you jerking off right now? Is that why you called? I mean I don't have a problem with it but can we make it fast? How close are you? I had a good dream and you messed it up." You replied, if only he could see your frustrated but weirdly excited expression on your face.

"What? No, that's not why I called you. Its hard to explain so can I just come over?" He rasped.

"Miles, I seriously don't have a problem helping you with it if that's why you're calling. Its not embarrassing, we've been dating for 3 years now. But yes, you can come over. You're always welcome here. Window's unlocked." Your voice got quieter, as you were trying to find the next rung to get back onto your bed.

He exhaled a breath he wasn't aware he was inhaling, but breathed out a thank you and hung up.

A few minutes later, you get a text from Miles.

"𝙸 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞." Was all it said.

You immediately sat up right, trying to process the meaning behind the message.

"𝙼𝚒𝚕𝚎𝚜? 𝚈𝚘𝚞'𝚛𝚎 𝚜𝚌𝚊𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚖𝚎. 𝙰𝚛𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚘𝚔𝚊𝚢?" You messaged back. The bubbles appeared, but quickly faded. Now you were seriously worried.

"𝙸𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚗𝚎𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚊𝚕𝚔 𝚝𝚘 𝚖𝚎 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝? 𝚈𝚘𝚞'𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚐𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚍𝚘 𝚊𝚗𝚢𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚜𝚝𝚞𝚙𝚒𝚍 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞? 𝙿𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚎 𝚋𝚎 𝚜𝚊𝚏𝚎 𝙼𝚒𝚕𝚎𝚜. 𝙿𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚎. 𝙳𝚘 𝚒𝚝 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚖𝚎." You messaged.

𝙽𝚘𝚠 𝚏𝚞𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚊𝚠𝚊𝚔𝚎, 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚐𝚘 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚐𝚎𝚝 𝚊 𝚐𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚠𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚝𝚘 𝚌𝚊𝚕𝚖 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚘𝚠𝚗. 𝙰𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚐𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚠𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚛, 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚠𝚎𝚗𝚝 𝚋𝚊𝚌𝚔 𝚝𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚛𝚘𝚘𝚖 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚎𝚎 𝙼𝚒𝚕𝚎𝚜 𝚌𝚕𝚘𝚜𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚠𝚒𝚗𝚍𝚘𝚠.

"Miles. You scared the shit out of me. Don't do that." You whispered while setting your water down.

"Sorry. I just really needed help and you were the first person I thought of." He replied.

"No worries, what's wrong? What happened?" You asked while turning your lamp on. You turned around to see him in a jacket. You walked over to hug him. While hugging, he tensed and made a small whimper.

"Fuck." He mumbled under his breath, while wincing and pulling away.

𝚆𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚙𝚞𝚕𝚕𝚎𝚍 𝚊𝚠𝚊𝚢, 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚗𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚎𝚍 𝚑𝚎 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚌𝚕𝚞𝚝𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚜𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚜.

"Miles what are you doing? What are you trying to..hide.." You questioned, while slowly moving his hands to see the dark crimson colored blood staining his jacket.

𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚞𝚗𝚣𝚒𝚙𝚙𝚎𝚍 𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚓𝚊𝚌𝚔𝚎𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚍 𝚙𝚊𝚝𝚌𝚑𝚎𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚋𝚕𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚘𝚗 𝚋𝚘𝚝𝚑 𝚑𝚒𝚙𝚜 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚋𝚒𝚐 𝚜𝚌𝚊𝚛𝚜 𝚘𝚗 𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚋𝚊𝚌𝚔 𝚋𝚕𝚎𝚎𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑 𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚒𝚝𝚎 𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚛𝚝.

"Holy shit. Miles what happened?" You asked, eyes widened with horror.

"I was attacked while I was patrolling. I don't know by what. I'm lucky I got out alive. Can you help me? My mom's a nurse but she'd freak out because she doesn't know I'm spiderman." He breathed out, his breathing slowly getting worse.

You nodded, gesturing for him to sit down while you turned the lights on.

"You're lucky I'm practicing doctoral studies right now. Take off your shirt. I need to see how deep the wounds are." You spoke in a more serious tone.

The wounds weren't deep, they just needed proper care.

"Miles, I have to put this on your wound to disinfect it. Its going to sting, so you can hold onto my hand ok? Here, drink this." You reassured while handing him your glass of water.

He sipped on the glass and looked over towards you.

"This is gonna sting okay?" You said as you put the disinfectant onto his hips. You felt him squeezing your hand tighter.

"Shit." He cursed with more following. His eyes were shit and his teeth were clenched.

"I know, I'm almost done. I just need you to turn around so I can do your back." You responded as you finished his hips.

He turns around and the scars are very detailed. You clean the blood then put on the disinfectant. Miles groans in pain.

After you wrap his scars, you and him both lay atop your bed. You lowered it down to the floor just in case. Miles lays softly with his head on your chest and between your legs. His chest rises and falls as you watch him.

"Fuck. That took a lot out of me. I didn't expect to ever have to do that." You whisper to yourself as you cover you both with a blanket. You kiss his forehead and find yourself drifting off to sleep once again. This time, with the love of your life in your arms.

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Hi! I am a HUGE Captain Swan fan! What are the main reasons why you love Captain Swan/Hook?

Hi, lovely anon! Yay, awesome that you are a CS shipper as well! There are so many reasons why I love Captain Swan and/or Killian.

But I guess the main reasons why I love CS or Killian are: Well, I love Captain Swan because I love the enemies-to-lovers trope, especially the way their relationship slowly developed. From the beginning, you can already tell how they were able to share a bit about each other. Caring about each other as people; Killian bandaging Emma's hand, Emma being worried about Killian being crushed by the rocks. In the end, I truly love their love, how they fight for each other, how protective they are of each other, and how proud they are of each other. They just depict a healthy relationship. LOL, there are too many reasons to be honest!!!

Now about Killian haha, the fact that Killian was able to bring Emma's walls down and gain her trust slowly. The way Killian keeps proving he is a man of honour, slowly wins her heart. He makes all these love declarations without expecting anything in return. And in doing so, Emma is usually the one who makes the moves, for example, initiating the first, asking him out on a date, and asking him to move in with her. I also like the fact that he makes an effort for her to look nice, especially for their first date. He comforts her when she needs him and doesn't take advantage of her. He loves her for who she is, even loves her walls. Killian is a feminist. Also, Killian did not only change himself for Emma but also for himself too. He is not proud of his past. Overall, what makes me love Killian so much is that he is a character we can relate to, he is not perfect, but throughout the show, you see many layers of him, and he keeps trying to redeem himself, transitioning himself from villain to hero.

[pineapple-lover-boy]

Can- can I just talk about the Victuuri relationship? Pretty please?

I just…. I’ve never seen a healthy relationship that starts from idolization and a need to get out that has ended in a satisfying way.

Let me elaborate:

We all know that Yuri idolized Victor. It’s why he was so nervous in the beginning and why it took time for them to build on their relationship, he saw Victor as a god.

Victor? He was depressed. He loved the ice so much but he longer found excitement in competitions. He didn’t have any worthy opponents that had a chance of beating him (sorry Chris).

I believe Victor “fell in love” at the banquet. He was attracted to Yuri but, even though he lost, he also saw potential in him. That night was probably the most exciting night for him in a long time. I think he felt genuine affection for Yuri but also saw a way to get out of his predicament.

Then, of course, Yuri didn’t show up the following season (a year had passed before the present timeline). He was most likely annoyed that someone who had gave him excitement didn’t show up. Did he think Yuri had a chance of beating him at first? Probably not. Did he see potential or at least someone he could have fun with during the season? Hell yes!

And then when he saw the video of Yuri skating Stay Close To Me, something that awarded him a gold medal. That’s all he needed. He saw how Yuri not only skated it perfectly but I bet he thought Yuri skated it better. Let’s not forget that emotion is a huge part of skating. If you don’t skate with the passion your supposed to hold for whatever theme you have, your performance can almost seem futile. Victor obviously won because he perfected it but if it was based on how he presented it alone, he would’ve lost. He saw someone worthy of skating an gold medal piece while also having the heart to do it. That’s talent.

Anyways, because of this, their relationship doesn’t hold well in the beginning. He’s passive aggressive towards Yuri because he doesn’t see his own talent and Yuri is just going along for the ride because holy shit it’s Victor fucking Nikiforov.

As they get to know each other and Yuri opens up more (plus Victor getting info on Yuri from the others) Victor starts to see Yuri as an actual person and not someone he can use to project himself onto and then later skate against. And Yuri starts to see him as an actual person too.

I saw on another post talking about how we didn’t see them during the summer and how the end credits of every episode suggest they got to know each other better as both in the credits and in the show they (Yuri) are able to touch each other more. I 100% believe this.

I also believe they might’ve had an argument or two on this topic. It’s not easy to switch from inadvertently seeing someone as anything but a person to an actual person with emotions and feelings. I believe Victor would’ve tried to back away from this subject but Yuri wouldn’t let him. It wasn’t big arguments like in episode 7. It was probably little quarrels that annoyed them both but after having a long conversation they finally started to become more comfortable with each other.

Yuri started letting go of the notion that Victor was a god like creature and Victor saw him as something other than a pawn. Yuri stopped getting as embarrassed with Victor touching him and Victor stopped trying to seduce him as much just so he could see the man from the banquet.

This most definitely leads the way towards a healthier relationship but episode 7 was inevitable. Yuri’s anxiety was at an all time high when he comes out on top. The fact that he needs to stay on top and not mess up is getting to him. As a person with anxiety, it’s pure hell. The thoughts of failing won’t get out of his head and even as he turns off all the monitors he can still hear everything.

Victor takes him away from prying eyes and has no idea what to do. Despite an obvious change that would’ve had to include some emotions from both occurring over the summer, he still has no idea how to help someone in distress.

Then he makes his first mistake. Yuri is visibly shaken by someone’s scores (can’t remember who) and Victor, who is at his wits end, yells at him to stop listening and puts his hands over Yuri’s ears. This tells Yuri how nervous Victor is too and despite knowing that Victor wouldn’t leave him now it shows to him that Victor doesn’t have faith in him (even if he does).

Victor tried to shatter Yuri’s heart. He must’ve expected Yuri to maybe sign heavily but tell him that he’ll do everything in his power to win (probably something that’s happened with him and Yakov). Instead he see’s the consequences of his carelessness. Yuri rightfully lashes out at him and even through all that Victor stills says “should I kiss you?”. Idk what Yuri was thinking but if I were him I would be extremely offended that Victor would try and use me like some doll he can play with and can assume that physical affection and love can fix everything, which was probably what Yuri was thinking.

There’s something off about Yuri and Victor when they emerge but Yuri is surprisingly better now. Cathartic crying can do wonders, kids. There’s also my favorite part of the entire show (couldn’t find a gif):

*head jab* “Hey, fuck you.”

*more head jabs* “Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you. I know you don’t like this you unempathetic dicknip.”

*head pat* “You’re forgiven.”

We all know what happens next: Yuri ends his love story with Victor’s signature move and Victor kisses him out of joy and the need to one up him (with love, of course).

I’m gonna get a little sloppy here with the timeline because I have the memory of a female protagonist that needs to go back to work to get something only to accidentally bump into the jerk CEO of which she will develop a toxic relationship for fan service, so forgive me.

Gonna skip ahead to the scene where Yuri tells Victor that he’s leaving skating, and basically Victor too. (At this moment I realized I’ve been spelling Viktor with a c and not a k which is really fucking with my brain but it’s too late to go back). Victor starts crying and realizes just how Yuri felt when he was rejecting him.

I believe Yuri found some light in the situation because of that fact, which Victor was not having. They’ve been closer than ever now. They’ve kissed, they’ve also announced they they’re getting married, so what the hell?!

Yuri, as we know, feels he’s keeping Victor from the ice. Victor, while he misses the ice and wouldn’t mind being competitive again, has found meaning and if he’s going to be Yuri’s coach to stay where he is than so be it.

He wanted to coach Yuri because he wanted a worthy competitor and while he still wants that, what matters most now is his relationship with Yuri. If he stops being Yuri’s coach and Yuri goes off the ice he knows it will be the end. Yuri loves the ice too and I’d bet he’d try to distance himself from Victor as to not feel regret from leaving without actually knowing that he’s doing it.

They’ve grown so much at this point. But that doesn’t mean it’s over. After all they’ve been through Yuri doesn’t realize that consequences of parting from one another. While being too dependent on your spouse isn’t good, it’s what they both need right now. They are what caused the other person to be happy again and while I hate those types of storylines this one executed it perfectly.

I find Victor’s silent plea to Yurio absolutely heartbreaking. He knows it’s bad to put pressure on people but now he’s doing that to a 15 year old boy. He’s putting his relationship and his life into this child’s hands because he knows there’s nothing else he can do.

I do think Yurio had a crush on Yuri but even if he didn’t: Yuri has taught him so much. He, although being an ass most of the time, has really come to love Yuri as family. It’s clear that Yurio was always lonely (Otabek being his first friend and all) but once he came to Japan and lived, truly lived there, he wasn’t lonely anymore.

Yurio wins, Yuri gets silver and all’s well that ends well.

I guess my point of this was to show how well the relationship in YOI was. I could’ve included some more detail on some points but I usually write stuff in one take (it’s very hard to revise without my mind shutting on itself).

I just love how an implicitly toxic relationship can come out so healthy. They don’t do any of that miscommunication bullshit and when they do it’s because the characters don’t know what to do or how to handle something. Like humans do!

They could’ve easily made this the hot famous guy thinks the kawai girl boy is just so adorable and the kawai girl boy is absolutely infatuated with the hot guy. Hijinks ensue which includes the kawai girl boy thinking the hot guy is in love with someone else. She He gets pushed into thinking that she’s he’s more independent in the end and happily ever after for the couple that will divorce in less than five years! Yay!

Seriously, I thought that was what was going to happen but YOI subverted my expectations so much. They are people that grew from their bad mindsets. And you know what? Yuri still has anxiety! Victor is still bad with handling emotions! And that’s ok! We don’t change that quickly. It takes time and hopefully another season.

I’m definitely using this show as a template for healthy relationships. It’s so hard for me to properly write them when I’ve never been in one and I’m not given the chance to see it happen in different environments (when searching it up all I get is “they trust each other. They blame each other. They’re compassionate.” Like ok but can you show me how?)

Yuri!!! On ice…. I love you so much. You have done so much for my mental health and my writing. Thank you.