#yall can @ me if yall got a problem with this

[prettypilatespothead]

I've honestly taken a huge step back from rad feminism because of how much radblr harps on shaving and it's so clear that so many of the women screeching about sensory issues and shaving don't understand sensory issues at all. Seeing @deadfish-inabarrel 's take is so refreshing as a woman with autism and sensory issues.

I started shaving my legs when I was 12. I started shaving my vulva at 15 at the first sight of coarser hair. Having hair isn't my baseline. My baseline is bald. I've also grown my hair out, left it for months, and there was still no "getting used to it." I can deal with long-ish hair on my legs until I can feel it blowing in the wind. I can't deal with pubic hair. My hand was constantly down my pants, scratching and rubbing and eventually pulling the hair to the point I accidentally ripped it out. That's when my therapist and I decided that that aspect of feminist praxis wasn't necessary for me.

I've never been able to express why autistic males might not have the same sensory issues (and it honestly almost brought me to tears every time), but it's absolutely because they weren't socialized into shaving everything during their teens. They were able to get used to the coarse hair as it came in, and I - and other autistic women - didn't get that luxury. Men are raised different.

Honestly, congrats to the women who don't understand sensory issues. I'd love to not have them. I'd love to be able to not shave. But I desperately need them to stay in their lane. It's almost like people shouldn't talk about things they don't understand as if they know everything about it.

And after going through all that, I realized that we've got bigger feminist issues than me shaving my coochie because I like the way it feels. Maybe yall should realize that too and stop trying to police women with sensory issues. It's infantalizing the way yall talk like autistic women couldn't possibly have thought about the reasons behind shaving and still have legitimate issues that make them want to shave. "Just let it grow in, come on, autistic MEN don't have these problems, it's obviously not sensory like you say it is".

(can't reblog this)

Why aren't autistic men removing their body hair? Why don't they complain about these same sensory issues?

It's not that I don't believe you, I just need you to understand that it is the removal process (shaving/waxing) that is the source of the discomfort. It changes the tip of the hair, and makes it feel coarse on skin. Many women started removing their body hair when they were very young, so they don't know any different and believe that body hair is inherently uncomfortable.

It doesn't make sense for body hair to inherently be uncomfortable, and somehow only to women. Men AND WOMEN!!! have grown body hair since forever, and removing it is a recent phenomenon. There is no documentation of it bothering people before then.

[nothankyou822737]

Cassandra Jones Starting Relationship Headcanons

❤ Romantic ❤

🖤 GN reader 🖤

⚠️ Warnings ⚠️

Mention of blood, kind of bad writing.

<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

🖤 Cassandra is... a very intense woman

Mixed with that and not really having friends, she can be a bit awkward (?) tense (?)

First time Cass asked you to hang out, she kind of just

"HANG OUT WITH ME, NO TAKE BACKS"

Finger in your face and everything.

When you said "okay...!" She turned her heel and walked away laughing manicly. Kind of scared you a bit, but she was just excited (and nervous but she would never admit that)

Not that she had to, you could see the nervous sweat on her forehead.

Yall would most likely be friends when she's out of the foot clan, mostly because she would be to busy trying to prove her worth to the foot clan dudes.

Something about "upping her rank" or something.

Since she's been training for a clan since she was like seven, she's been way to busy to go out and do things like a regular person.

Fighting and trying to rule the world is the only thing she's really ever known.

So for the first time spending time together, Cassandra would try to drag you along to an adrenaline inducing activity, like sparring or "destroying anyone that comes in our path"

You instead get some tickets to a carnival, and take her around to ride some rides.

If you have a bad stomach, well to bad. She will drag you onto the fastest and highest rides. Definitely would scream the loudest, (out of joy) Somehow has an iron stomach.

Would also try to unbuckle herself from the MOVING ride. Claims its "way more intense". You had to hold her down WHILE on the ride so she didn't fall and get hurt. Almost got the both of you banned.

And gave you a heartattack.

Afterwards, take her to play some carnival games, maybe even win a stuffed animal for her, she'll look at you with little stars in her eyes. (And later put the stuffed animal on her bed)

Then she would get competitive.

I honest to God think she would be so good at scam carnival games. Comes with her ninja skills.

Treated the carni as her "mortal enemy." Also won like everything and shoved it in your arms with a "I WIN."

Also called herself a God lmao??

Anyways...

She's definitely not gonna realize when she has feelings for you at first.

All she knows is that she likes spending time with you and her face gets a little warm when you smile at her

(Wait, what?)

And her stomach gets queasy and she can't stop sweating when shes around you-

(Okay this is a problem)

She thinks you gave her the flu or something.

I mean she's not like stupid or anything, she's just never felt anything like how she feels for you before.

I feel like she gets it when April and her have one of their weekly movie nights. They "conveniently" watch a cheesey romantic movie. (April totally put it on to help the poor girl)

After that Cassandra is just super tense around you. Like bad.

Like

"Hey Cass? You wanna hang o-"

"NO, TRAINING, BYE"

"Okay...?"

Lmao

It's not until you track her down after a pretty bad mission you get to talk to her.

I imagine she gets hurt a shit ton on missions. I mean she's always getting thrown into walls and falling off of tall stuff.

You can't tell me she hasn't gotten a concussion or two.

You stepped in as a medic of sorts for her (and the others tbh) since she dropped out of the Foot Clan. Healthcare is expensive 👍🏻

You walk up to Cassandra, med kit in hand and slowly sit next to her. She tenses when she sees you and looks away.

She always insisted that she "could handle her injures herself" but after being friends for a while she just accepts it to "make you feel better."

(Cassandra definitely likes being taken care of, just doesn't want to admit it)

She's bleeding on her shoulder, that's quite obvious, but it doesn't seem like stitches are needed.

You pop open the med kit and grab the tools needed to help and ever so gently take her hand to get better access to her wound better.

Cassandra tenses up more.

Thats when she finally looks at you.

And. She. Is. RED.

You honestly can't tell if she's in love with you or about to be sick.

Its not until you let go as you finish bandaging the wound she speaks up.

Well

Mumbles

"...what did you say?"

"I SAID DATE ME YOU MORON"

I mean, how could you say no?

<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

First post, yayyy 🙆🏻‍♀️

Feel free to give me any constructive criticism as this is my first time doing anything like this. Also don't feel afraid to share your headcanons, I love reading stuff like that and Cassandra is so underrated.

[waittheydontloveyou]

Weight loss & Updates

(some TMI)

Im at 43.2 pounds lost.

I feel really proud of this yall. It’s hard for me to accept feeling proud when I know I have so much further to go.

My tummy is a lot flatter. Not getting asked if I’m pregnant so often. My face is a little thinner. I feel prettier in photos. My bf said I’m “not fat anymore”. Which he meant as a compliment I swear, bc I’d said I have a lot more weight to lose and he’s like “where? You were fat a few months ago but not now”

I have a long way to go. I’m not even out of the 200s yet but I’m close. I want to lose 50-80 pounds more. If I lose 80…that has always like my “best” weight…right on the edge of overweight but docs won’t say shit. I was that before I was running, and after (muscle gain vs fat loss evened out) I’ve never been thin thin, not since I was 18. But even then I was bigger than my friends and sisters. Always curvy. Losing 50lbs I’d still prob be considered overweight or obese even but I would be ok with that honestly, and I’d still feel comfy in a bikini again.

I got myself new scrubs for Christmas. One shirt was way too big so I’m returning it and getting a size down.(xxl vs xl, the brand usually runs way small). The other is a xl set and it’s a little tight but wearable. I’m wearing it tonight lol. I think will be perf once I lose 5-10lbs more.

Im hoping to move to an apartment around march this year. It’ll be in town instead of so rural. Way closer to kids schools so less gas. But like double what I’m paying. I just can’t take another summer and the roaches there😭 also my landlord expects me to buy a mower to mow the 10 godamn acres which is ridiculous.

I currently live where there are no sidewalks and on the side of a pretty major highway. Not safe to walk or run. The apartment will be on the 1st or 2nd floor. Will use tax return to pay deposit and maybe hire movers. I’ll be able to start walking/running again. Im the slowest runner known to man. I used “couch to 5k” last time and got up to 15 miles no problem within 6ish months. It’s the only form of exercise I’ve ever been able to do consistently. And it has to be outside. I can’t fucking do treadmills, even when I was running long distances, not sure what it is but it feels like fucking torture. I’m finally at a weight where it doesn’t hurt to just exist. I can wipe my ass no problem! LOL! I can bend over if I drop something, get out of a chair/ get out of bed without it hurting like crazy.

With papi again in case you missed that. Finishing up our convo on the future and once I get a few more questions answered I’ll know if I’m staying in hopes he’s telling the truth or if I really need to walk away now. It sounds like by December we will be moving forward/he will have saved enough for a down payment on a house for his mom. Unanswered questions: will we be getting married by December? Engaged? Living together? Buying a house? What exactly will be happening by Jan 2026? I can wait another year, year and a half to move forward. And if it’s untrue/doesn’t work out like he’s planning? I think I can walk away knowing I fucking gave it my literal all. I know no one agrees with this decision but here we are. I fucking love him and just need to try to see this through.

This Year Goals?

Apartment

Walking running again

Summer pool time w kids

Start reading again

Consider going back to school. Either to further my nursing(NP) or something I can do from home that’s completely different. Or “just for fun” maybe writing or music

Moving forward w papi

Continue weight loss

Maybe take my ex back to court

Continue towards court w my former boss. Apparently it’ll be a few more months before we get a court date bc they keep motioning to dismiss.

[avocado62524]

[snekdood]

bitches be like. i hate vegans so much that i’ve decided i like killing animals and its fine and i dont feel bad and animals dont have feelings and its fine and im cool subversive and different and edgy and like to post fucked up stuff to make vegans uncomfortable bc im just so cool

[sparklehoard]

I’ve been kinda curious since you started posting abt it but what is your job rn? If that’s too personal you don’t have to answer!

Im a field medic for remote oil and gas sites up in the deep north of Canada. I basically gift wrap patients to pass them off to the ambulance or emergency helicopters. Right now we're roughly 4.5 hours drive from the closest city that has a hospital with an emergency room. 6hrs if it closes due to doctor shortages as it does quite often and the only way to find out it's closed is through its Facebook page.

As this year wraps up ive dealt with:

2 rolled trucks

1 suspected heart attack

1 extreme anaphylaxis case from a wasp sting

And a bunch of non-emergency first aids.

[marsixm]

i schwear to god ur not gonna find someone who enjoys working in the grocery store against their better judgement more than me, i am so fucking autistic about this job and everyone knows how good i am at it all, but nothing kills it like the dumb corporate overlord bs. the work can be grueling, the customers can be horrific, but i have got to serve- even the irritating mystery shopper score can be coped with- but when you start picking on me about the stupidest dress code shit that’s when you lose me. like now a new manager is saying they may force us all to wear those chunky nonslip shoes within the year. i have a pair but man they hurt my fucking feet. i cant do that shit every day thats why i wear converse. i said these are nonslip man they used to play basketball in these. he said “lets spill oil on the floor and see how you do” ok girl yes! try me!

[pan0ramy]

so

i'm officially into alan wake now

[deviousdiesel]

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[mothsakura]

exhibiting roadkill behavior rn (i cannot keep writing because i have plotholes to fix, i cannot fix plotholes because i cannot keep writing, i cannot draw because i want to fix plotholes and therefor cannot draw before they are fixed. i have nothing to post. i DO have something to post but that requires for me to write out the RC au lore first as it will make more sense with context.)

[djarinova]

from an article titled "I’m a Swiftie, but the staggering size of the Eras tour has left me feeling alienated"

girl im not sure you are a swiftie if you're saying the anthology is full of forgettable songs...

[size-two-shrimp]

Once again thinking about the cannibalism song (Butcher Vanity) and how V1 and Gabe it is.

[vivienna-vivid]

WE'RE SO BACK

[frobby]

boy son and girl daughter are the only characters who matter in kaiju no.8

[dragons-and-yellow-roses]

On Day 4 of my No Napping streak 😊

[sorikkung]

wgoin enjoyers wya. [rattles you around like a jar of marbles]