#xkit Updates

[dragongirlsnout]

with regards to recent events,

dashboard unfucker will no longer be actively maintained, and the development of the Dashboard Plus extension is being shelved, along with all of my unpublished work for XKit Rewritten.

despite the fact that tumblr as a website is largely propped up by LGBTQ+ content creators, many of whom are trans women, the way this website has treated and continues to treat trans women is utterly disgusting.

from the harassment trans women face from this site's users, many of whom claim to be trans allies or are even trans themselves, to transphobic moderators targeting trans women and selling bans for money, all the way to the CEO of the website directly confronting a trans woman and threatening legal action against her for inactionable threats, tumblr has made it clear that it is by no means the queerest place on earth.

some of my trans sisters may remain on tumblr, even when faced with constant vitriol. i am deeply proud of them and their visibility in the face of hostility, however after seeing recent events unfold, and after being directly confronted by tumblr's CEO himself in a digusting display of indifference, i myself have decided to move onto better pursuits for the larger part. tumblr no longer holds the same shine for me that it did five years ago, and i can no longer justify spending hours of my time every week pouring more work and love into this site than any member of staff ever did.

i thank you all for the support you've given me in the past 8 months, whether through donations, contributions to the script, or even just sending me a kind message. i would ask that you show the same generosity and kindness to other trans girls in my absence, and especially to those who don't code, or write stories, or draw art. every trans girl is valuable, and their worth is more than any arbitrary set of talents. and a little love can go a long way.

yours truly,

dragongirlsnout

[baelatargaryen]

staff: *unrolls yet another unwanted, unneeded, pointless update to a feature that did not require it*

the people at xkit immediately: 

[vividaway]

HOW TO SWITCH BACK TO OLD TUMBLR LAYOUT.

YES, theres a fix, and sadly no, it isnt xkit. its a google extension called 'stylus' with this specific code

tutorial: step 1 - install the stylus extension

step 2 - go to "Old Tumblr Dashboard (July 2023) by Pixiel" (already linked) and hit install on that. you will be met with a page that looks like this

copy and paste ALL OF IT, even the part that says "/*Dont touch this its needed*/ }}" (seems obvious but some people miss it! no judgement here!)

step 3 - in your extensions bar, click on stylus. you'll be met with these options

step 4 - select "manage"

then, you will meet a page like this.

from here, you're going to want to click on "write new styles". you'll be met with a box that looks like this.

go ahead an copy and paste the code into that box. when doing so, you'll be met with these options. go ahead and click "overwrite style"

in the top left hand corner where the red box is, go ahead and type "Tumblr" and hit "save"

and with these simple steps, you can turn this

into this!

happy blogging!

[cinnamonmagick]

[monstroso]

here you go, remember i love you <3

[raayllum]

one final thought to take into consideration because it was, admittedly, my third thought upon seeing The Post:

i will be sightly surprised if the sharing of private DMs doesn't irreparably damage the fandom and/or OP's online relationships in general. i don't think that was the intention or is even a concern of OP and co. upon making and supporting the post, but i do think it's somewhat of an inevitable outcome when so much basic respect / decency has been tossed out the window.

there's clearly a general culture of paranoia that's taken root in the fandom in multiple ways, and i'd include myself in that. i absolutely felt paranoid for months, and while i ended up being right to a degree of what i was paranoid over, that'd seeped in in general way before that and (hopefully) beyond what was grounded in reality, even if i continually beat it off with a stick and didn't engage with it.

because if the new litmus test is not just "you piss this person off enough or do [xyz whatever is labelled or is bad behaviour enough], they'll not only make a public callout post about you" (which while that can be very crappy, i do think is more in 'fair game grey zone' & would've preferred paraphrasing in every way imaginable; i also think it would've made the post a cleaner, more compelling argument in terms of Controlling the Narrative cause yeah, call me a condescending bitch, i'm sure i have been, that's on me to work on /gen, you didn't have to violate me to do that) but, "if they get pissed enough, they will leak your private messages publicly for everyone to read" is like...

you know this person. you have presumably DM'd them. maybe you haven't always agreed, maybe you have. and you know there's also a large swath of people who likewise enable, encourage, and support the leaking of private DMs. are you really going to feel like you can Trust any of them, especially in an online space where you're sending DMs all the time? and they might Say they never would, but are you really going to believe them when they already have?

and moreover, if you do disagree and think — on principle maybe, because maybe you also think i'm asshole, which again, Fair Enough (nor should how you treat or advocate for people be based on whether you personally like/approve of them & their actions anyway) — that leaking the DMs was shitty, are you going to feel like you can express that and/or leave and break things off without the same thing happening to you? and if you do, and it doesn't, are you going to be able to not constantly look over your shoulder, wondering if they/unknown amount of others are checking (stalking) your blog(s) at all times for any whiff of unease?

are you going to second hand question everything you post or reblog — say about another issue or relationship in your life, the life of someone else you know/love — in case it's taken poorly? are you going to sit here, ruminating, recoiling, over how they might link it back to their truly unrelated situation, and that'll be what tips them over the edge (not just of disagreeing with you or being like "yeah that take is reductive or wrong" which is a subjective practice anyway, but) into leaking your Truly Personal Shit? are you going to worry about every DM you send, and have retroactive anxiety over messages you don't entirely remember, but think maybe you could've handled or phrased better, and what if it's worse than you remember, because what if that all gets leaked and your privacy is dead on arrival before the body's even hit the grave, because now you're doing self surveillance all the time to try and make sure this person, or people, won't/can't dehumanize and violate you?

are you ever going to feel safe in the spaces you've cultivated for yourself again?

because that's the question i think the broader fandom at large will have to wrestle with, if this is the acceptable precedent

because if this was (i'm assuming) the most direct of the supposed vagueblogging (i don't know what else has been tossed in there by them, i went back the other day to check and think there were 4 posts and maybe 5 tags overall over as many months, but they could be tossing way more stuff in bc of. wrongful attribution):

and it was about me reflecting on a separate, different old friendship breakup that happened a couple years ago around christmas bc a friend of mine had just had one, then like. what are we doing here?

which is to say: i don't think OP has to remove the post. keep it up, that's your prerogative, it's your blog and you can post what you like. clearly it's been very cathartic for people and hopefully they're getting their anger out in a way that will make their lives easier going forward. however, i do think you should remove the DMs from the post. like hey, you were mad, you were pissed and hurt (honestly understandably so; i didn't think receiving a message going "btw i thought about our relationship patterns and no longer want to be friends / i'm blocking you" immediately followed by the block, or making myself sit in anxiety waiting to see how you'd respond was worth it, but like yeah, i can see how that wasn't ideal at the very least either) but i don't think leaking DMs was/would ever be okay. paraphrase my shit if you will, make me look even (or just as) worse, if you want.

but if you want people to trust you, you might have to reprove you can Be trustworthy, and that means Not Leaking Private Information/Conversations

[the-nothing-maker]

Me the second anything changes: why does it Look Like That

[heslikefireandiceandrage]

hm what the fuck is this

and why does it break xkit rewritten completely

tumblr stop fucking around with the ui and making the website worse 2025 challenge

[dreamytfw]

Tumblr: *major aesthetic update*

Me: *opens xkit to see if there's a way I can change it back*

[chiropteracupola]

currently have multiple tabs of this wretched website open in order to have both my dashboard and my drafts wherein I store several dozen important images of gale of waterdeep. which means I can now never reload my drafts page because my personal wizard museum is the last bastion of the perfectly adequate and relatively usable old post appearance. SIGH.

[oneknightstand-if]

Look, if you marry them, then they don't count as stalkers anymore, right? Because you expect your wife to be not-so-randomly crawling into your bed!

[asmeninas]

Does everyone have a blue "verified" check showing by their mutuals username or...

[disabletblrlivereminder]

Reminder To Turn Off Tumblr Live

i understand that snoozing this shit feature does nothing for mobile users now and i know that the limit changed to 30 days. after this post i'm queuing these for the 1st every month at 10am est and will also add instructions and the links that's in the pin post.

[gayward-son]

Rereading carry on after so many years and knowing everything is so funny because you'll come across sentences like "all the other magicians can't resist me because I have so much magic, but baz must be immune" and "it's not like the mage is my dad or anything" it's all peak comedy like vine booms keeping going off in my head

[nobodysuspectsthebutterfly]

A quick Stylus script to make Tumblr's new sidebars a little less crowded and more comfortable

So, that new sidebar, yeah? Sure is a thing. The tumblr devs might change things before it's fully implemented across the board, and Xkit Rewritten might add some options after the interface moves from testing to permanent -- but until they do, here's a little fix to spread things out a little, so that your tumblr experience doesn't feel so squished. It results in a dash like this:

which is a little more comfortable than the original, I think.

To install the script, first make sure you install the addon/extension Stylus, if you don't have it already. And then, well, simply click here, and click "install" to add the style. Enjoy your more wide open spaces!

(Code under the cut for advanced users; comments or suggestions are welcome. You're also free to modify your own copies for any sidebar width or spacing you prefer.)

/* ==UserStyle== @name Tumblr - New Sidebar Fixes @namespace https://nobodysuspectsthebutterfly.tumblr.com @author Mindset @description Moves Tumblr's new sidebars outward to make things a little less crowded. @version 1.3 @license GPL-3.0-or-later ==/UserStyle== */ @-moz-document domain("tumblr.com") { /* makes sure this only applies to page sizes where the sidebars appear */ @media (min-width: 1150px) { /* moves the left sidebar further left */ .ZkG01 .h_Erh { margin-right: 100px !important; margin-left: -90px !important; } /* keeps the center section the width it should be and moves the right sidebar to the right */ .ZkG01 .lSyOz { min-width: 625px !important; padding-right: 100px !important; } /* keeps the right sidebar the width it should be */ .ZkG01 .e1knl { min-width: 320px !important; } } }

[raayllum]

gonna keep this 'brief' for once in my life:

blanket statement i think it's crappy to publicly post private DMs clearly sent to you in confidence In General. this is true no matter the person or situation! i think it's deeply shameful that anyone would think that having personal DMs publicly shared is remotely okay, let alone something to be supported or sympathized with and not like, a huge violation of trust, privacy, and feelings of personal safety. even if i hadn't broken away from OP for other reasons, this alone would've been enough to make me go wtf is wrong with you and, provided they couldn't be convinced to treat the other party like a human being deserving basic respect, block them flat out. it's absolutely abysmal behaviour towards anyone, but but especially private DMs of someone having a breakdown and being so overwhelmed they couldn't stop shaking (both things you were explicitly told after the fact but well before posting). that's not to say everything was expressed perfectly, but i think we can all agree that having a breakdown does, generally, impact your ability to communicate.

with that out of the way, more under the cut bc i also don't put my weird fucking personal bullshit in the main tags

moreover, shaming people with a social communication disorder asking for social communication accommodations (i.e. can you tell me what i did wrong with specific examples so i can have a model to base future interactions off of in terms of doing better, esp since when i've guessed/tried on my own in the past i've gotten it wrong? something i've often been too scared to do with people bc i don't know them well, and asked you bc even if i no longer self safe with you, i thought i owed it to you to try) you then refused to do and said i was using my autism as an excuse (which partially triggered the breakdown in the first place because then i couldn't explain, ask for help, or advocate for myself in any meaningful way) is also not great. especially when what happened is pretty goddamn textbook autism vs everyone else communication in the first place.

assuming that every time someone blogs about a relationship on their own tumblr blog after blocking you everywhere is vagueblogging is also like... weird to assume you're the only relationship i have in my life that could be in conflict (another friend recently had some conflict, so i was commiserating) and also weird to circumvent and step over a block boundary on a routine basis to begin with bc we've definitely never had a troll do that to harass us on a regular basis, no sir. i came This Close to not seeing the post at all bc i've insulated myself so well and don't have people running to tell me the second someone maybe breathes wrong in my direction, and i honestly feel bad you've spent a Lot more time thinking about me than i have you. or that when calling ppl stupid you've also told them to shoot themselves in the foot but sure. it was silly to feel like your behaviour was contradictory and confusing and to ask for clarification, or to assume you'd leave me and my blogs the fuck alone after i'd made it clear i wanted nothing to do with you; i honestly wish you'd done the same, i can't imagine anyone going into the fandom tags wanted to see any of our shared crap.

last but not least: i think it's slightly bananas to look at someone who left a space because they realized they weren't a good fit for it because their best efforts weren't good enough at keeping things smooth, which was entirely on me, and then a relationship, where it wasn't entirely, bc they realized you really struggled with communicating things in a mature manner (ie. ghosting my partner who was also friends with you despite them not being involved at all and without a word because you just Assumed we were shit talking you, i guess, when in reality i was asking them for advice about how to apologize and they had to point out to me you were being mean because i was still taking everything in good faith) and figured out that whatever i did you wouldn't take it well so it was better to cut my losses and block (after days/weeks of agonizing over what, if anything, to say to you that wouldn't possibly make things worse)... only for you to then not take any of it well and do This?

This, from nicely saying i needed more space from you (only telling you so you wouldn't think i was ignoring you bc that would be cruel out of nowhere to just not respond to messages at all), and then you took it poorly (the way you apparently take everything) and then when i apologized/clarified that it was to work on myself and not an ask of you in any way, you were still aggressive if not downright cruel. even Before doing this, which is really the cherry on top.

if i had a nickel for everyone time someone 1) lost their shit about me blocking them, 2) routinely checked my blog or had had someone keep tabs on me on a regular basis for them (bc that's not creepy or invasive at all) even on my non tdp related blogs, 3) posted a callout post while not actually naming me but making it exceedingly evident that it was about me and 4) publicly aired personal dirty laundry in all the main tags so hard 5) that you couldn't have played the victim more, i'd have two nickels. this is a playbook i have seen before from someone who in some ways did far worse to me (it was an emotionally abusive relationship) and far less in comparison, but it's the same playbook of someone who cannot and does not respect boundaries & cannot handle feeling any negative emotion without lashing out for... what? the last laugh? to make someone a pariah or to punish? i can't imagine being that cruel. i can't imagine being that petty and disregarding another person as a person so deeply. after all, i withheld sending any messages because with each one i drafted, i asked myself it was to help or to hurt, and realized if i couldn't do the former, i shouldn't be sending anything at all.

it's safe to say that not sending more messages was the right decision made to protect myself from accidentally giving you more ammo. in some ways i'm admittedly relieved bc this exact sort of thing was something i was anxious about for weeks, but was entirely keeping to myself bc it was 1) nobody else's business and 2) wanted to believe OP better than that as someone i once loved and trusted; surely, they'd be a mature reasonable adult and while we'd both wounded each other, they wouldn't twist the knife; i certainly wouldn't. in many ways, though, this was even worse than whatever nightmare scenario i'd come up with. i've never had my privacy so directly violated, and i wouldn't wish it on anyone. i still wish i'd been wrong about my inclinations when i stepped away after facing repeated aggression no matter how much i apologized or betrayed myself till i couldn't anymore, and had a select few loved ones reaffirm to me that you were never going to see that maybe you'd made some, even one, mistake along the way, like sitting on your resentment i was unaware of till it reached a boiling point. clearly, they were right.

that said, i hope publicly humiliating someone and violating the trust and privacy of another human being, a friend who trusted you, who never would have done this to you, got you whatever you needed. at least one of us should get something productive out of this, and for me it was shreds of certainty that you've chosen to behave exactly as awfully and pettily as i feared, and honestly that's really unfortunate. you were/are really talented. i'm sure, despite our history, you can be an amazing friend to others. i'm sure you can incredibly understanding and kind; you just chose to be cruel and defensive instead, and i hope you never burn a bridge you regret being unable to repair

cause fuck, while i am far from perfect and am the first to admit i've made plenty of mistakes i have sometimes been unable to adequately atone for (i'm sure plenty of people will rightfully unfollow and/or block me and they absolutely should — whether they find me unsavoury, annoying, condescending, or anything else i've had thrown at me — in order to make their internet experience a better, more positive place) i sure as hell have never done and will never do you've done to me, and i can find a solid ground in that if nothing else.