#women are predatory too

[gay-otlc]

Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.

[medusamagic]

I need people to recognize that saying "I'd fuck/get fucked by a trans woman" is a stance that quite a few far-right folks have. You're not special for saying the quiet part loud. If you want me to believe that you actually care about trans women, say something when we try to call attention to issues that affect us.

[florbelles]

finished hera & started lady macbeth and we have got to start blaming women for shit again for real

[cursezone]

i also hate when people dumb that shit down to it being about labels its kind of just a gotcha at this point.

[maggot-baggage]

Can i be real for a sec I really dislike how the concept of being gender neutral or androgynous or nonbinary or just. Trans but not explicitly masc or fem *only* seems to exist as a way to completely suppress and disrespect binary trans peoples identities- usually, if not always transfems-, while nb people arent actually respected or protected when we want our neutrality to be addressed. Like people can't seem to respect us when we "dont look" nonbinary and theyll gender us however they please and then turn around refuse to acknowledge transfems n transmascs gender by stubbornly "remaining neutral" with the pronouns n terms they use. It really isn't a concept people take seriously unless they want to be hateful and it drives me up the wall.

[hylialeia]

something something I think a huge problem with activism and progressivism these days is that it is less about community and shared experience and positive change, and more about people who just want to be part of an Exclusive Club. like this is the basis of terf ideology and exclusionism in the queer community, at its core.

people have lost sight of the actual goal and instead are just recreating the same societal and systemic problems but this time they get to be in power. they take the focus off the legitimate oppressive systems (white supremacy, patriarchy) and redirect it to other marginalized groups that they 1) see as easier to fight (terfs -> trans people, exclusionists -> "microlabel" sexualities) and 2) view as ~infiltrating~ their club and thus threatening their sense of superiority. and so the progressive movement goes limp and flaccid, stuck in molasses because of groups of people who, instead of seeking to undo the harmful systems that hurt them and others, ignore them in favor of co-opting the rhetoric of those that came before and twisting it to enact petty revenge on easy prey.

[cutemothman]

abby clark GET BEHIND ME

[dykestache]

thinking about how the energy for the past few years shouting at usa voters that not voting biden=voting trump could have instead gone to support of claudia/karina or direct action or mutual aid or anything else but neolibs just crave the moral high ground alone

[mellomadness]

sometimes I wonder if I should take a gender studies class just so I can bitch every day about how an imaginary boyfriend is often seen as a requirement for a woman to feel safe enough to have fun at a club, or the idea that an imaginary person with a fake “claim” over me has more influence over predatory men than my own voice saying “No, I’m not interested, get lost”

[collarkey]

bad at being attracted to real people (self hatred makes me feel like it's "predatory" bc nobody could ever *want* me to be attracted to them. and if they ever found out they'd be disgusted or horrified) so I'm really. trying to pretend like I don't have the hots for one of my friends and haven't for years. alas it would never work so just gotta uhhhhh kill that

[llycaons]

I do love carmela a lot. she's a straight shooter. not even to be nasty she just tells it like it is

[waywardsalt]

Your recent post about post-PH AU stuff got me curious: why would Linebeck not like Tetra? Is it something specific to the continuity with hum!Bellum or more of a common thread present across several/all your takes on Linebeck? It's an interesting idea that somehow never crossed my mind as a possibility, and iirc you haven't talked about it before, too.

i think it mostly boils down to him not taking kindly to having to interact with another captain, especially not one who used to have link on her crew and might encroach on his authority when the two crews work together. it's really just the most relevent to post-ph with bellum present, and bellum doesn't actually have too much of an influence on the way linebeck feels about her (bellum is the one who really hates her, he's a liiiiittle pissy that he never got to take all of her life force, and he never really spends the time with her to... not hate her at least a little).

i think there is a slightly through line between my aus of linebeck and tetra not being on good terms??? tetra isn't present in a ton of aus (usually not included if there's a big focus on just zelda), but i think in the ones where she does, their paths don't cross often. i know she's in the space au and the crimson king au, and i think linebeck has more or less the same feelings abt her (being that she's a little annoying but ultimately no someone he really pays attention to until she's actively causing problems or something) tetra tends to be more important with whatever link's got going on in aus. most of the time i just think linebeck and tetra generally aren't on good terms.

otherwise they just dont get along in my mind as captains who probably step on each other's feet a lot and maybe dont like each others crew much (i dont really think linebeck would be toooo fond of her crew either, and tetra is def going to feel some kind of animosity towards bellum even if he doesnt come clean abt his identity to her) and operate too differently

[ooc-miqojak]

Planet Fitness defends trans woman harassed in locker room

[lucien-calore]

the difference is kelly comes off creepy and predatory and max and daniel's friendship has always been so natural without either of the elements mentioned for kelly. they are not the same despite being close in age.

well, i have to hold men and women to the same standard. i can't excuse a relationship with someone a lot older while calling another older person for having a relationship with someone a lot younger. that would be a. hypocritical and b. misogynistic and i am neither.

[tittyinfinity]

I was hanging out at the karaoke bar, chatting with a beautiful woman, and we were really hitting it off. I threw a couple of flirtatious comments her way. She giggled nervously, but abruptly stopped and looked at the floor.

She told me that she was too nervous to hit on people because she's trans and worries that people will view her as a predator and that she might get hurt.

My heart sank. I let her know that she could hit on me in whatever way she wanted and I would LOVE it. We spent the rest of the night hanging out and flirting. We ended up making out. It was great.

But I can't stop thinking about how that wasn't the first time a trans woman has said that to me. About how unsafe it is for some women that they feel the need to give out fucking disclaimers to have normal interactions with people.

We have GOT to make the world a safer place for trans women. It pisses me off that there are men at the bar who are openly predatory towards me without fear of consequence, yet a trans woman is too scared to even fucking call me pretty. And that's because she IS more likely to face worse consequences for lesser things! Like what the fuck!

You need to always check on your internalized biases. Being queer yourself doesn't absolve you of transmisogynistic thoughts and behaviors. Being bi/pansexual doesn't mean you don't hold those biases either! If you feel differently about a trans woman hitting on you than you feel about a cis woman or a man hitting on you, you need to evaluate that.

Trans women, I love you so fucking much. You should be able to express attraction and love as freely as everyone else. I hope you can always feel safe around me. And I'll never stop fighting until you can feel safe period.