#without being weird ykno

[ismyteadoneyet]

having a non-existant perception of how big of a part I play in my friends' lives keeps catching me off guard because I often think of myself as the Cabbage Man in comparison to other friends of theirs, and yet, every time I think I'll just be cheering them on in battle from the sidelines, I get handed a matching sword and told to strike the other heel

[kxllerblond]

Happy Tuesday everyone, I will now be unloading unsolicited opinions about the RPC.

People take 'This is a hobby!!' way too far to the point you are not taking into account other real people also exist and are only thinking about yourself and it can come across as scummy and self-absorbed and a lot of people use the 'just a hobby!' to excuse this shitty behavior and an inability to communicate with other hobby enjoyers like adults.

No one should get mad at people for dropping threads or not being active, but it's also super shitty to just ghost people and go 'teehee just a hobby so you aren't allowed to be upset!'. Like, yeah, you have limited time and a real life but so does?? everyone else on here?? It's super not cool to just invalidate people who are upset their limited time is, in their view, being wasted.

Obviously, I'm not defending people that don't just unfollow or block and move on and who get passive aggro about it all. And I'm also not calling out the people that don't do much but are like PRESENT to some degree even if it's just ooc shitposting.

I mainly mean the people I see who refuse to do threads, to answer asks, to communicate when stuff is being dropped to some degree, to participate and be social in any capacity and then get kinda pissy when no one wants to send them shit anymore. Like you are entitled to exist and participate in this hobby as you see fit....but it is a social hobby. You HAVE to give to get and if people pin you as someone who only takes, they're going to stop giving. None of us have little meow meows that are so interesting that we can just expect people to frolic to them and gush about them and shower them with interaction without some sort of reciprocation.

And, frankly, I don't think there's room to complain when that happens. You can't have your cake and eat it too in this scenario. You can 'this is just a hobby!' your way through things how you like, but you also have to realize the consequences of that and you can't be upset when they come down on you and your blog.

[antimony-medusa]

hi saw your daddy kink post discussing the phenomenon of giving grown characters surrogate parental relationships, and I understand where you’re coming from, but i really feel like it’s just a matter of the circles you run in, and the assumptions that you might make because of that. you mention how platonic reads of these dynamics are more uncommon than kinky reads, which i just don’t think is the case, and I think that arguing that people don’t even realize that they’re writing a kink is a little bit bizarre, and sort of assumes that you know more abt them than they do by projecting your own experiences onto them.

it isn’t inherently sexual to crave protection or a parental relationship that you may have missed out on, and it is certainly not universal. in my own family, my “grandpa” isnt my biological grandfather (nor do I really consider him to be my grandfather), but he’s my mother’s surrogate father and has been since she was in her twenties. an adult. he sees her as a daughter. she sees him as a father. there’s absolutely nothing kinky about it. and anybody who automatically assumes that must have their mind deep, deep in the gutter and/or the stranger side of the Internet. really, i find it a bit of a strange argument to randomly post in the first place—as if it’s a problem that so many people enjoy non romantic and non sexual relationships, and that these people must, in fact, have a daddy kink that they are unaware of.

that said, i do absolutely agree that fans bringing any part of that into phil’s chat is weird and they should Not do that, and that infantilizing characters is also very weird, and personally i dont even see him as being father figure to anybody on that island except his eggs, wilbur, and MAYBE an argument could be made for tubbo (which other cc’s on the island have joked about), but to each their own and all that.

sorry this is so long. TLDR, i get where ur coming from in terms of “warning , some people might read your stuff differently than you want here” but really not everything is a kink and paternal dynamics can easily happen in regards to adult characters, particularly young adults, without there being any inappropriate connotations. i know nothing i said will change your mind, obviously it’s set, but ykno diff perspectives and all that. hope ur doing well

Thank you for the ask! I see you were on mobile, I believe. :D I am also going to push the character limit with this response, I fear.

I agree that it isn't inhernetly sexual to go after a parental relationship that you missed out on, and there are many such cases. I'll even go so far as to say that it's not inherently kinky to go after a parental relationship that you missed out on, because there is such a thing as non-sexual kink, and heaven knows that MCYT writing is full of non-sexual kink. Lots and lots of stuff that is platonic that is kinking on fear, or being drugged, or kidnapping, or hypnosis, or familial relationships, etc— there's lots of people who aren't doing that. There are tons of people out in the real world (and in fiction), who are simply just expanding their family as an adult, and that's awesome. When I was in college there was this older couple who kind of adopted me and invited me over for thursday dinner, and they were awesome. There was nothing untoward going on there.

But look. I am an emduo fan who likes to see my guys be murdery, and because of that, I've ended up reading a bunch of Dark SBI. I've ocassionally gone "this cannot be what everyone is doing" and I've read stuff tagged as "family fluff" that I find recommended. I am aware of where the genre is going, particularly with the rise of "dadbur" and "dadnoblade" interpretations.

And look, you have just got to trust me on this one. People are writing stuff that in any other fandom I would be recommending they put kink tags on the work so that people who liked that trope could find it and people who didn't like it would avoid it, but that comment in DSMP would just lead to people getting doxxed, so I just grit my teeth and go "i guess that's baked into Dark SBI or Tooth Rotting Fluff now, I sure hope that doesn't hit anybody's triggers".

Like I PROMISE you. The first draft of this response included excerpts of fics that I've read and I was like "can YOU pick the ship fic from the /p fics here"? But I have a horror of ever leading to someone getting cancelled on twitter, so nothing that could possibly be identifiable of these writers. But like—

Some of the ways that Tommy gets treated in the narrative are almost indistinguishable from a bodice-ripper romance. Some of the tropes being used— within DSMP we've all clasped hands and agreed to interpret it being platonic, but in any other fandom, you are going to start getting comments that you might not want to get. The tag is FULL of stuff that is DD/LB in everything but name. Maybe my mind is in the gutter here, but if you move out of this fandom, you are going to move into circles where a lot of people's minds are in the gutter, and you are going to get a very different response from your comments!

And I was talking about daddy kink here specifically, because I see that one come up a lot and it's gotten egregious lately, but this also applies to dehumanization, and fearplay, and predator/prey, and "instincts" (in every other fandom that's gonna get people in a mashup of A/B/O, Hypnosis, and sometimes Agere responding to it), and kidnapping/drugging, AND the way a bunch of "piglin instincts" stuff is just a BDSM au now where the Brute (dom) needs to be callmed down by their Runt (sub). The SBI tag is super kinky right now. And I don't have a problem with that idealogically, write your truth, but a) please don't bring that up in front of the streamers, b) if you move to another fandom you have got to be prepared that not everyone is doing their kink platonically.

Like I'm assuming that people don't know what tropes they're playing into, they're just building them from first principles, because the other alternative is that they are deliberately and knowingly writing kink and posting it in the & relationship tag with insufficient trigger tags, and I prefer to believe that people don't know.

I'm glad we agree about people bringing that into Phi's chat, or Pol's, or Luzu, or any of the other streamers that people have decided is So Old. A lot of people aren't comfortable even being assigned dad, as we saw with Felps, so bringing it even further is just— uh oh, no.

I do not have a problem with people liking non-romantic and non-sexual relationships. I find it a bit odd that much of the fandom can't concieve of a non-romantic and non-sexual relationship without making it familial and specifically lately father-son— don't you have close friends?— but I am fully in support of gen writing. I primarily write gen! I'm an avid commentor on gen fics!

But some of the tropes at play in the fandom are kinky, there is no way to avoid that. The fact that they are set in a familial relationship doesn't negate that. Some of the ways that the DSMP characters get treated would be distinctly non-familial if you ever brought it out of that context. And I am just warning people, if you bring it out of that context, be prepared for the response you get.

You cannot take DSMP tropes and apply them one-to-one in other fandoms, with other streamers swapped in, and expect them to be read the same way. Like i'm sorry, but that's just true. If you are posting the same sort of stuff that for Cellbit & Phil that you would post for Tommy & Phil, people will assume that you have a daddy kink, because usually when a relationship between a adults that are actually similar in age is refered to with paternal language it's a kink thing. That is how the broader internet works. (And anon, if I had a daddy kink, would I be complaining about the fact that I can open any SBI fic and have about a 40% chance of hitting it and I'm seeing signs of this appearing in QSMP? I assure you I'm not "projecting [my] own experiences onto them" here.)

[runthepockets]

I was on call with my stepmom a while back and she was like "oh you're just like Curtis (MY OLDEST STEP SIBLING, AND AS FAR AS I'M CONCERNED MY OLDEST BROTHER, AS I HAVE NO FULL-BLOOD SIBLINGS), reserved, taciturn, skittish, a great writer. When you don't pick up our calls we just assume you'll get back to us whenever, we don't stress, you've just always been a rock ykno?" And that shit had me like damn this is who I truly am...maybe I should just accept those parts of myself and be as real as I claim to be....maybe there is a way to be a chill guy (I think my trademark rowdiness is an intrinsic part of me too, but the Japanese say you have 3 faces and I think that that aspect of myself is the second, reserved for people I'm close to / feel comfortable with) without being labeled as weird or secretly up to something. Maybe I'm ok as I am.

My second thought was "ah, yeah, the oldest son effect, I'm definitely a dude."

[harleylot]

He is upset and uncomfortable bc of my drinking habits when we as a group get together and party (understandable, cant shit on how my actions make ppl feel, much less when im drunk. Being a fresh 21 year old w self control issues w some substances already -- I struggle controlling my intake, this is smthn i am working on n learning but making slow progress), but he also generally still doesn't know if he fr wants something or if he wants to keep essentially being "fwb except we dont sleep with anyone else" so good to know my intuition is never wrong.

idek if just on principle even without my self-control issues if this will turn into an actual relationship. if itll even stay an "us". Weird to meet the parents of someone ur sleepin w but not dating ykno?

I don't want it to be a Good While It Lasted but sometimes we have no choice. and sometimes we do and know we have to keep walking forward even if we wanna turn our heads back.

Oh i do it to myself i truly do.

[padfootastic]

hi! i've no idea how i came to your page but i realised i'd read two of your one-shots in ao3 before and had adored them (you'll probably get comments from me in future, btw) and i just wanted to say thank you for your writing and thank you for your prongsfoot<3

i've been very critical of this sort of new, cool and aloof and martyred version of remus lupin for quite a while now (honestly, where did all those traits come from?!) and gosh, you're so eloquent when talking about him!!!

i was wondering what your thoughts were on regulus black? because i think he's getting the same sort of royalty treatment as remus does by making him sort of-- er, perfect? i mean. i've seen so much recently of him basically saving the world single-handedly and i-- ugh. and james is always just there, like a useless idiot? it makes me irrationally angry, and this is coming from someone who enjoys jegulus quite a bit. my problem is that i don't know if this rejection i feel against those two comes from a place of genuine dislike of them or from a place of wishing sirius and james were not done so dirty.

anyway, again, thank you for your writing. it's truly beautiful. hope you have a great day!

omg hello 🥺 i’ve periodically opened tumblr, giggling like a loon, and logging off multiple times just to see this ask,,,,thank u sm , ur way too kind <3 and ur comment on ao3!!! i was just,,,,yeah,,,no words. thank u.

ooooooh i remember being asked something similar a while ago and i took the safe route and basically went ‘remus lupin-ification of regulus’ iirc. that still stands. but but. i’ve also got another answer here! all hail tumblr’s search system today!

i still basically stand by all of it, but adding onto the jegulus + sirius bits of it:

annoys tf outta me when regulus is turned into a victim and like sirius damned him to hell when he left . i have thoughts about the way both of them were treated (which,,,another time,,,this post is already getting too long lol) but i imagine the day sirius left to be a Good One for reg bc he thinks he’ll have his parents undivided attention now. i also think regulus is severely defanged in a lot of characterisations, as if he wasn’t a baby DE, as if he wasn’t a slytherin from the house of black, as if he wasn’t walmart sirius black. like man i��m almost offended on his behalf. i’m sure his shaking his lil fist up at us from wherever he is.

with jegulus…okay, i’ve only read a couple oneshots but that doesn’t mean i haven’t tried. i genuinely went thru so many fics trying to get something, anything to stick and i think the problem is me. fully. completely. without doubt. i just can’t deal with a situation where j&s aren’t each others no.1, or at the very least, equivalent to that. that’s where my issues w wolfstar started, same w this. jegulus also has the added horror of ‘james and reg sneaking behind sirius’ back’ which is just,,,,gosh,,,,i have So Many Thoughts ab that. all personal opinions, but still. they’re strong. it fucks me up just thinking about it. i also think the ship tries wayyyy too hard to fit the ‘best friend’s brother’ trope and ends up sacrificing characterisation for it. which,,,again,,,that’s fine but it’s all the ‘oh this is how it was!’ that gets to me. and then james :/// he gives off such weird energy lol. jegulus gives me drarry vibes, and james is treated almost exactly as harry is in a lot of those. reg also gets the saviour treatment, like draco, and both of their fuckery is toned down until they’re almost normal, like they never did any reprehensible shit. j&r, and d&h are placed on the same moral equivalence and it’s just a bit. hmm. okay. (my issue with this is how it leaks into the writing and suddenly i’m made to sympathise with draco bc harry slashed him w sectumsempra, but we conveniently forget he was gonna use an unforgivable, ykno?) so overall it just feels…pushing reg up and pulling james down to get them on equal footing. very similar to wolfstar lbr.

anyway. that’s a ramble and a half lmao.

also!! ‘a place of genuine dislike of them or from a place of wishing sirius and james were not done so dirty’ in my mind, both of these occupy a similar plane of existence. so very valid. for me, personally, hating remrem started as the latter and i eventually realised it’s also the former lol i was just mad a how sirius is bastardised to justify his ~deification and it eventually moved on to ‘wow i just. do not like him’. damn.

[tfpriests]

Dadson..dadson

Well I like a few types of dad sons but my favourite these days is when it’s some cruel dad maybe kinda strong mainly just an outgrown brat or maybe he missed out on being a gay whore as a teen so now he’s just constantly pent up.

And he has his kid,who’s pretty plain,nothing special but he certainly is cute,he’s got a really nice body but personality wise he’s just a loveable kid..idk he’s pretty,he’s pretty cute,he’s a little extroverted and always kind,also listens well!

And mm I don’t know why maybe it’s some sort of a/b/o thing or some random lust driven hysteria,but one day his dad just looks so needy on his bed,it’s late at night right..he’s in a lewd position and he’s already getting ready for whatever his son wants him to do

Of course he’s like “d-dad,I don’t get it..”yknow that moe thing young boys and guys do,but his dad can guide him on what to do,and he listens cus he’s daddy’s boy ykno.

They even dry rub for a while and it’s clear their bodies both want this,so the dad finally tells him how to fuck a man,it’s so crude and weird,it’s his dad and it’s his son after all but that doesn’t matter cus it feels too good right

N eventually the son starts getting the hang of it,eventually thrusting through his father and making his dad sound like some whiny girl while he tries his best to guide him when he gets interrupted by every thrust

They don’t do anything special,just average doggy style on the bed,maybe his dad lays down so they can look at each other,and get even more turned on

This went on too long without any great plan or whatever it’s just a ramble but at least it’s cute,boys helping their dads with their pent up sexual frustrations and even better when the dads the bottom and he’s as needy as an average yaoi uke

[steeltwigz]

Sorry to rant and be evil but. Uhh. I'm bored let's talk about Therapy. I kind of hate the rise of psychoanalysis and therapy speech and stuff. You can explain in detail how your childhood has shaped you into the way you are now and everything wrong with your life leading up to this point, but if you're an asshole, you're still an asshole. Like my dad does his whole psych eval of ppl to excuse the way they treat him and it's kind of gross, and I can't talk to him about myself or my life without him doing it to me. No amount of guessing someone's Abandonment Issues can excuse their being mean. And like idk. I think it's not actually super healthy to analyze every emotion you feel and action you do. Like sometimes things don't need or even have an explanation and that's okay. I don't need to tie back my queer identity to a "lack of positive parental role models" ykno? (<- real explanation for myself that someone just pulled out of their ass. WOOF). Like trying to diagnose yourself is fine, but you don't always need to imo. You don't need to explain everything and it's honestly more trouble than it's worth I think. And trying to diagnose strangers based on a few small moments you pick up in conversations is Weird. It's Creepy. It feels kind of invasive honestly? Idk. Anyway. Something Something psychoanalysis ends up making lots of assumptions and I Don't Like It!!!!! Esp when you're not a real educated therapist/psychologist or whatever. If I wanted someone to tell me what they think my childhood was like based on a handful of arbitrary and irrelevant personality quirks, I'd take personality quizzes online.

[tallymali]

traumadumpinnnnnggggg

the way i view the goals i once had and my idea of where my future is gonna go is just so..idk. weird and indecipherable.

i was The Brainy One of the family and they gloated about how i was gonna go to uni and achieve so much. but those people sucked so fucking bad that i dropped out of my A levels and worked retail instead so i could go live in my own place. if i wasnt working then i was drinking bc i couldnt fall asleep without knocking myself out and i never wanted to be awake. made a lot of extremely half hearted attempts to end it all.

then boyf graduated and got a job and we bought a house. being in a wonderful relationship AND owning property is succchhhh a privilege. in a lot of ways, i cant complain at all. mentally, things started getting a lot better and i started having hope that maybe i could do something i wanted with my life some day, rather than just gritting my teeth through everything

then i got a very unpredictable chronic illness that the NHS is reluctant to acknowledge let alone treat (many such cases), and now idk what im gonna be like in the next hour, let alone the next year or next 5 years. it feels wrong to make plans for tomorrow. i think about my future and its just. blank. but in so many ways im doing so much better than i ever have. this is the most stability ive ever known. im not living in pure fear anymore.

i really do enjoy so many of the little things in my life. but i really wanted to use that potential ykno. id love to experience what its like to achieve something wholly positive rather than just the “positivity” that comes from surviving the negative, if that makes sense. im literally fine tho lol

i hope that one day i finally get that godforsaken maths degree that ive always wanted

[jdogin3d]

Delilahpost early 2022 edition :)

[goatpaste]

I would love to know about the wild, guardian of the undaunted legs. Also that sheep from nuclear heat.

wah! not much to it, just wanted to add a bit of spice and flavor to the wolf pup from SBR..

because im like, for being the last part of the corpse (Besides the head) they discover, it felt weird to be some wolf pup who just showed up to die very uncermoniciously.

I liked the idea of the legs belong to 'The Wild' which at the point of story is this wolf, but in general is owned by the concept and title of the wild. the legs that trotted the lands untouched by man belonging to the creatures of the earth to protect.

Maybe saying drawn to those deserving or just to the other corpse parts.

just thought it be fun to give it a lil oomf! ykno :)

and Mary my sheepy girl Mary :)

i dont have much to say about her without over talking my SBR rewrite notes

but a lil doodle of the her getting a bath after sweeping the fighting floor, with Duke being the only one she would allow to man handle her :)

[kil9]

re: the taemin thing (sorry im so annoying about this but i feel you wanna talk about it as much as me!). i wanted to mention his blinking habit too, but as someone who is not autistic myself (not diagnosticated at least lmao) i was afraid it was just me making assumption but you noticed it to so!!! cool. anyway i could say many more things but the line between being just a strange little dude and being a strange little autistic dude is so thin!!! (like the fact that he eats random stuff at unlikely times of the day or that he's so forgetful). ANYWAY!!!!!! i just really love him and how shinee adapts their behaviour around him to make sure hes comfortable

YES ur never annoying i absolutely wanna talk abt it forever 🥺🥺

(this got kinda long so im putting it in the readmore lol)

but yeah the blinking habit for real !!! ur definitely not wrong to pick up on that ! (i even sponged it from him sometimes lol x_x) its cool that non autistic ppl have an interest in this stuff tbh :3 i think that more ppl understanding autism and all the weird specifics of it is rly the key to our happiness ykno 🤔because most non autistic ppl know literally. jack shit.

also the eating thing YEAH 😭😭 thats also so autism to me. shinee is so good to him !!!! u can tell that even if they dont know WHY he is the way he is, that theyve figured out how he works and how to treat him....

there was such a moment in the 15m thing when key was asking taemin to "prepare" the veggies... and taemin got such a look of dread where hes like "what...... wdym.. ?" & kibum has to be like "CUT THEM taemin" lol 💀💀 its such a silly moment but its SOO quintessential to me for both what its like to be autistic (ie: what the fuck are u saying to me "prepare" this. as if im supposed to know what that means), and what its like to be close with an autistic person (kibum having to kinda remember to "translate" what hes saying for taemin so he knows what hes talking about, it reminds me of how my partner is with me sometimes 🥺)

also back to when im saying they probably dont know why he is the way he is, even if they know all his ins and outs, i think this is probably the same for taemin 🤔 he strikes me as someone who prob doesnt know hes autistic, just knows hes "weird" and "different" and has figured out how to live like that despite. reminds me of myself kind of, cos i wasnt "diagnosed" (used loosely) until maybe 19 ? which is still young but at that point i had already been thru school and everything not knowing x_x its definitely possible to figure your life out & how you work without a diagnosis, and i think it happens all the time, but its also really really hard. i think having a name for it and something u can actually research & learn about is rly helpful. so even tho hes like 30 now im still kinda always hoping he realises 🤔 if it makes his life that much easier ykno ?

this is also why it pisses me off so much that ppl get THAT up in arms when this is brought up. ppl act like falsely "accusing" someone of being autistic will ruin their life, when really its basically harmless (obviously unless ur directly using it as an insult). even the opposite might be true 🤷‍♂️ someone can rly benefit from realising about themselves. also why im so pro self dx !!! even if everyone is "misdiagnosing" themselves these days (🙄 which prob isnt true anyway) like. whats the worst that could happen ? why does it matter if someone is wrong... they might still find some info that will help them 🤷‍♂️ theres not really any autism "resources" that are in scarcity so i dont rly care if someone thinks they are even if theyre not ?

[runthepockets]

It's a great feeling when I post here or on Reddit about desiring trans women in a way that a typical straight guy would but, ykno, without the weird fetishism, just being casual about the whole ordeal, or when I write something about a trans guy and a trans chick and their transness is clearly integral to the narrative but isn't the sole focus of it (IE I once wrote an erotic thriller about a trans vampire hunter who's been hunting the trans vampiress that killed his father for about 10 years, and by the time he finally kills her all he's left to do is reckon with the fact that he definitely had the hots for her and subconsciously formed an identity around this violent and vitriolic rivalry he had with her, I'm currently writing something about a transgender college senior who has to grapple with how attractive his transgender sister in law is while he stays at his older brother's house to recover from bottom surgery, and I'm also writing a story about a trans woman wedding photographer who meets and clicks with a strapping, crudely sarcastic man at a very boring, wedding rehearsal dinner for a stock cishet high school friend that's marrying a law enforcement official, only to realize that man is the former captain of the women's rowing team from high school, now 2/3 done transitioning and fighting in amateur MMA leagues), cus it always makes someone feel really good.

I don't feel very represented by the majority of trans storytelling or T4T subject matter I see online, and it's cool that other people feel similarly and latch onto my thinkpieces and stories as a result. It's a nice feeling.

Being ST4T is crazy you'll casually post about your fantasies of wanting to top a trans girl on a crowded bus or an empty train station or write an erotic thriller about a couple of trans guy/trans chick assassins that have infiltrated a party and have cheeky, sardonic banter that ends ends with the girl in the form fitting black dress getting the hit before the trans guy can pull the trigger and kissing the tip of his gun and running off into the night before he can process it and it won't seem like that big of a deal but other trans people are losing their minds and crying and clapping and you're like well I guess I did something right.

[so-very-small]

honestly one of the main appeals to being a borrower, for me, is the opportunity to be in a vibrant enviroment but instead of being forced to be involved i can just be a passive observer

[orcelito]

Ykno there's such a fandom perception that Vash is such a sweet soft innocent cinnamon roll who knows Nothing about sex bc he is so sweet soft cinnamon roll. Or whatever.

I get the idea of like, him being all weird alien would make sex a bit less uh. Casually viable. But my man's 150 years old and there really is a lot you can do without having another person touch you.

And Thus. Me furthering my Vash Fucks agenda in my fanfictions. As is my right lmao

[snellymain]

Why do you like Mineta?/genq Also has anyone ever questioned you for why you liked the "problematic" characters or pairings in a fandom?

uh oh

Funnily enough I think for the most part I like Mineta because I'm just not that into BNHA, meaning I don't take it very seriously when I watch it, so I don't find him THAT out of place. There's a couple Mineta scenes that had me almost in tears of laughter when I first saw them I just think he's a silly guy;;

When he explained his quirk to Deku + Tsu and was like "I can place balls on things :D..." and there was a long silence before he just started crying so fucking loud out of nowhere KILLED me i think about it so much

His whole training under mount lady was very funny to me and how he said all women were demons and then immediately got over it idk he makes me laugh. Just a shitty little teenage boy. My son

According to my LetterBoxd review of Two Heroes: extra stars for mineta climbing up to the among us vent and just chanting "haremharemharemharemharemharem"

I WILL SPECIFY BEFORE SOMEONE GETS MY ASS- I do in fact loathe the the low-hanging fruit of "spy on the girls bath," "haha momo's boobies," "I can't wait to see this 6 year old when she grows up," or just general sexual harassment and straight up groping is like. Hashtag Not Funny and Just Weird + Cringe, but also I'm kinda unphased by it because I'm SO used to that in anime that it's like ok whatever. sure buddy. If I personally liked BNHA better and were more attached to some of the serious characters I'm sure it'd bother me a lot more and I would hate him too, but alas.

I ALSO JUST REALLY LOVE HIS DESIGN HE'S SO ROTUND BUT SHARP NOSE+MOUTH AND FUNNY LOOKING SLASH POS I LIKE HIM !!!!! ODDBALL CHARACTERS CAN BE SO FUCKING FUN!!! Purple/yellow is a good combo!!

His dynamic in the class also steadily gets funnier to me because he just gets less and less reactions. everyone is just eternally putting up with him forever. I don't know how much anything changes from like season 4 and up (or especially anything in the manga) because I'm behind but ykno.

...

As for your second question I laughed VERY audibly because I fully respect the notion that you think anyone could possibly go anywhere in any fandom space without being questioned or just straight up attacked for liking the problematic aspects of media. I will not elaborate on this too much because :) but it's something people used to get on my ass for a LOT back when I was newer to fandoms, but I think over time they gave up and I started caring less which is SO nice on the brain.