#why is it so hard to be a decent person?

[idlenight]

y'all know that one spiderman and deadpool panel? Yeah, that's Chen and River's post-reveal dynamic. Sidestep has become 20x more insuferable.

[rathockey]

tagged by @hotchglare (and maybe someone else a while ago?? sorry i‘m so not up with my mentions)

Rules: Pick four of your favourite characters from four pieces of media and let your Tumblr people decide which one most suits your vibe.

tagging @andrewblur @bidisasterevankinard @r0ryy @shyaudacity @eddiediaaz @turgite and anyone else who would like to do this!

[badolmen]

I can fix him*

*bad writing, underutilized gameplay mechanics, characters with unfulfilled potential, funded by bootlickers

[absentlyabbie]

i've developed some interesting methods of handling having a relationship with my mother who made my childhood/teen years misery and committed more than a little abuse.

as an adult, we have a very different dynamic, her daughters (sister and i) have confronted her with a lot of her bullshit and the things she both did and enabled. for some she has been sorrowful and even sometimes apologetic. she's a better mother to me now than she ever was when i most needed one. so i'll never actually trust her again, and she'll never be much deeper than surface level in my life, but we have something mostly good now, and on my terms.

however, she is very definitely one of those "i don't remember it that way" and "i did the best i could" mothers in a lot of areas, and has also always been the type to (probably unconsciously) emotionally manipulate the people she's hurt into catering to her hurt feelings about it instead.

over the years i've learned to get really comfortable with just not indulging it.

is she having a bad day, seems sad and upset? i'll give her a hug, try to make her laugh. if she throws broad hints it's a surge of hurt feelings about having driven one of her children to cut her off? well i'm just gonna stand there and not acknowledge or entertain it.

"well, apparently i was a bad mother" or shit like that? i'm just gonna look at her for a second, and i might either shrug or even nod, but i'm not saying a damn thing. i'm not awkwardly, uncomfortably, painfully contorting to her guilt trip nonsense. i'm not apologizing or trying to soothe her or reassure her or minimize it.

like, yeah. you really were. you know it, glad to hear it. we've definitely had that talk.

best kindness, most generosity i can offer her in times like that is not maintaining eye contact to bluntly tell her "yeah, you were." she can go ahead and feel bad about it.

it's not on me to make her feel less bad. she should feel bad. and i am definitely not someone she gets to seek comfort from about it.

hopefully someday she'll inch past just "poor me, i'm so sad and angsty about it" towards, like, examining the whys and acknowledging what she actually did wrong and work actively to be be better. in a few places, some of that has happened.

but that's her work. her job and responsibility. she can do that shit on her own time.

i say all this to offer a shoulder of solidarity to others like me. if you maintain a complicated relationship as an adult with the parent who hurt you and did you wrong as a child, that is okay. you get to choose how and if to thread that needle.

but you don't have to accommodate emotional manipulation and guilt trip garbage. stonewall it. walk away if you need to. don't apologize. don't try to make it better. that's not on you and it doesn't have to be. it's okay.

[goldenpinof]

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[the-acid-pear]

no comment this simply made me really sad

[tulipe-rose]

Shinichi

Shiho

Yusaku

Yukiko

The brunette to her cherry blonde.

You can not convince me that Shinichi's eyesight is still 20/20 after all that strain (fireworks (where he was so up close I'm surprised he wasn't burnt), flash bombs, and straining to see in the dark then suddenly having huge headlights pointed at you. Did I say bombs?). The explosions that happen in his vicinity –mind you, he's usually at the heart of them–almost daily must have had some sort of aftereffect on his eyes and ears, no matter how small.

In conclusion, I AM AT YOUR DOOR AOYAMA, OPEN UP. YOU CANNOT DO THIS AND THEN PRETEND THESE PARALLELS MEAN NOTHING TO YOU WHILE YOU GO ON ABOUT SO CALLED TRUE LOVE. 'Shinshi is never going to happen-' I WON'T HEAR IT, ESPECIALLY NOT FROM YOU, AOYAMA.

[aceofspades-sml]

The thing about being a fan of classic literature is that it's becoming incredibly hard to find people to share your passion with and I just think that's super sad

[lith-myathar]

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[fite-club]

I’m honestly still embarrassed I believed what these people were saying for a moment, bc I swear they keep showing their transmisogynistic asses more and more as time goes on — it honestly reminds me of how my younger sister got suckered into alt-right and MRA rhetoric around ten years ago because youtube was pushing that stuff on her -greg

i really don’t want you or anyone else who used to believe in transandrophobia stuff to beat yourselves up about it— these guys have supporters and defenders for a reason, and the reason is that it appeals to your insecurities and validates certain kinds of fear and anger. that stuff can seem very appealing. and the transmisogyny is not always obvious! i know the terf comparisons get old but radfems draw people in by appealing to the justified fear and anger that women feel in society and talking vaguely about feminism. they will say many things you agree with, and once you’re around enough of those people, you won’t even notice how their ideology rubs off on you, and you’ll find yourself agreeing with things you don’t actually agree with. it just might be phrased in such a way that, for whatever reason, you feel compelled to agree with.

the difference between you and these other guys still fighting “against transandrophobia” is that you were capable of taking a step back and recognizing that it’s possible to be wrong or misinformed even when you have good intentions. these guys are not capable of that, either because they can’t get there yet or they refuse to even consider it.

[oh-three]

I wasn't happy with a job, I'm not happy without one- What's a person supposed to do?????

[lucyvaleheart]

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[godslittlesadge]

started Inquisition again and this has pretty much been the whole experience

[xstarkillerx]

again, sorry for being so slow to get to asks, editing this film is making me genuinely want to die, things keep going wrong and I want it out of my site

[labetalol]

has it occured to you i hate this stupid rotation and debate leaving early every goddamn day

[moonlight-fawn]

People when you don’t find some crappy comedian’s shock comedy about assaulting women funny: 😤😤