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i really dont want this to come across as homophobic but i have lifelong issues with tone so if it does can someone tell me and ill fix it!
so i have spent the last 4 years of my life coming out as a straight person. sounds stupid.
but basically i have had so many dating rumours surrounding me and my friends that i used to get asked at least once a week if i was gay. i dont know what im doing thats making everyone think im dating my friends but apparently i do it to everyone. i have been the queer awakening for several of my close friends who fell in love with me and through that discovered that they liked girls.
all of that is fine and i can deal with it. im happy to keep correcting people and i've been working on being less flirty with my friends and putting effort into it. what's been pissing me off for the last year or so is the ongoing assumption that i am gay and i just dont know it yet.
i have been outright told by people "one day im going to kiss you and youll discover you like girls"
it made me feel uncomfortable and weird and im gonna be so honest here. i just dont think i like girls that way. i really thought about it and i dont. but i would (and still am) getting told by my close friends that one day when i 'eventually come out' they are all gonna sit around and say i told you so.
but i also wanna say that if i ever was to discover that i was not straight, it would be pretty hard to come out to any of those people, to any of my friends. theyd be so aggressive and constantly tell me that they knew or that it was old news. and so it kinda feels like even if im questioning things, ive been forced to reiterate that im straight so many times that being queer doesnt feel like an option anymore. its like i was forced to decided gay or straight when i was twelve and then people have harassed me ever since and now im not allowed to change what i chose even if i was to be seriously considering not being straight.
to me that feels really fucking toxic and its just upset me for the longest time.
and at this point i dont know what to do. like i cant really retaliate or say anything without people thinking im homophobic (which i swear to you i am not and my intention is not ever to harm that wonderful community in which so many people i love exist). i never want to hurt anyone but like what the fuck do i do!
im so sick of this. its also so weird and i kinda doubt that anyone else has really had this problem lmao.
i would love some opinions. look idk why im posting this. i dont care. i want people to tell me im justified but i also want people to tell me why they think im not. i want someone else to tell me what to do because i dont know.
#im just sick of repeating myself#and i feel like#tumblr is the wrong place to complain about this#but its not like i can do it to these people#i have had nearly all my friends assume im gay#i have had family members assume that i am gay#i have been asked out by random girls on the street#i have been asked out by girls on the internet#what the fuck#what the fuck am i doing#what is causing this#why do i attract women#??#SO MANY QUESTIONS#anyway#sorry for the rant guys#skate rants!#i will probably delete this later
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very funny (irritating) to me that everyone whined and yelled about stupid rainbow capitalism and how performative wokeness/allyship is a net bad we should all refuse to support and now like.
tumblr is doing nothing for pride and target isn't selling much (if any) of their pride collection offline except at certain stores (in democratic areas, basically) and build a bear has a much tinier collection than normal and all the actual pride stuff is on their "adult" website (not sure if it's in stores, but pride = adult is a hell of a message)
there are genuinely good criticisms for performative allyship in all its applications. it shouldn't be the only thing we expect from people and companies. but if all the shit I see being called performative stopped tomorrow then in terms of the LGBTQ+ community especially we just. wouldn't talk about queerness or queer issues or celebrate pride or do anything.
open your fucking eyes. we are very close politically to having gay marriage rolled back. now companies are basically being let off the hook to even make a miniscule effort (which matters to the people who don't have access to any other kind of support in their communities! which normalizes the community in public spaces!) because the only reaction they have gotten over the last few years are negative ones from BOTH sides.
we are so entrenched in discourse at all times for the sake of our OWN performance of who is the wokest and who is REALLY an ally or a good community member that we have basically handed over all the work of activists of the last several decades to the other side because we'd rather scream at each other over fucking chicken restaurants and shit than the real life backsliding that's happening.
and this goes for other shit too. feminism, poc rights, all of it.
also. trans rights aren't discourse and aren't just culture war arguments. in case any terfs think they can spin this to be antitrans.
#pride#pride month#gay#lgtbqia+#lgbtqia#rainbow capitalism#i just#why can you not understand how just bc you dont like it from the standpoint of anticapitalism#does not mean its not important in a society controlled solely BY capitalism#its like watching feminism circle around from women can just exist even if not conventionally attractive to its woke to get plastic surgery#what are we DOING
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“peeta is bisexual” you guys are losing the vision. peeta isn’t even straight. katniss INVENTED sexuality for him. whatever katniss identifies as, he’s like “yeah, i’ll take that one” no questions asked
#katnissexual#i’m joking btw#and i agree with yall#he says you’ve ruined all other women for me#yeah twink we know#the hunger games#katniss everdeen#thg#nightlocked-in#everlark#peeta mellark#hunger games headcanon#hunger games incorrect quotes#thg incorrect quotes#bisexual peeta#peeta what’s your sexuality?#idk#what do u mean u don’t know#i’ve never thought about it#well i mean… do you like guys? do u like girls?#he thinks for a second…. girl#just one#katniss he says#i’m convinced in modern au’s when he’s dating someone else he just pictures katniss when fucking and then feels horribly guilty for it later#peeta why don’t you look at me during sex?#huh? oh glimmer uh… i just get distracted by how uh… good it feels. yeah that haha#katniss was his first love in every thing and not only was she his first love she was his ONLY love#so he’s never even considered being attracted to girls besides her#so when he tries to date he finds girls that are objectively attractive but on a scale of 1 to katniss they are still 1’s to him#and that never stops being a problem
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Girl please stop romanticizing obesity, it will literally kill you eventually (and I know it’s not the first time someone says it to you). Like are you even ok? Romanticizing being immobile & being humiliated on the street? Why would you even aspire to this? For some attention of questionable men on this app? Girl they don’t deserve you. This message comes from a place of concern, it is not intended as an insult. You said you want a career in the future, maybe focus on that, I’m not sure how possible it is do all that while being immobile or having whatever condition.
omfg 😭 i apologize for writing little stories to get myself off, i guess?? lmfao. i have a fetish. i state clearly in my bio that this is what to expect. sorry im horny posting anonymously on tumblr.com ???? stop being weird when u don’t even belong in these spaces
#this is so silly#like i really have any choice but to focus on my career#and i’ve literally said before that i don’t plan on reaching immobility#i really doubt i could. i have tummy issues and am literally allergic to garlic#and i’ve also definitely stated before that what i do requires me to have some level of fitness#permits went thru and i have. a massive project out in west TX in september#also. why does this person assume i’m not doing it for myself??#i was fat before posting here. and i will be fat after#i love my body and i’d love it even more if i was bigger#but i’m fine where i am and i’d be fine losing 50lbs too#tho i don’t wanna be under 200lbs bc that’s where body dysmorphia starts#i am predominantly attracted to fat women so. let me be that pls lol#anon. we have one life and i’m genuinely blessed to have attraction to smthn outside of the norm#this variation is normal within a population and i will have a normal life despite what ppl like you think#talk#ask
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I am in complete agreement with the Astarion is (and all the other companions are) pan crowd. He is canonically pan and that should not be erased. But every post about it really needs to have at least one comment devaluing his attraction to men and denying the fact that he seems to have a preference for men (which is accurate to the lived experiences of bi/pan people. MANY people have a preference). Also many people need to realize that most people are not upset that you are having Astarion kissing your lady Tav but that most people are upset that many (not all) astarion x f!Tav works completely erase his more feminine mannerisms and stuff him into a tasteless hetero male love interest box which is like djddjjdjd not great and I do not trust it
#bg3#Astarion#i do not care that astarion is with your lady tav#but once we get like Christian masc father astarion im like HELLO???#Also you can reassert his attraction to multiple genders without throwing his attraction to guys under the bus#i am Not bi or pan for context but have discussed this with many who are fjdjdj#and also i can talk about the devaluing og same gender relationships#ive literally seen ftav people imply thay he wouldn't like men because of his background and like quickly#tell me why you think beinf assaulted by a man is worse than beinf assaulted by a women#its sexism thats why
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I'm so glad you said something girl I've been thinking about it on and off for a few months, the SB actor was one of my favorite actors, and the musical is still my all time favorite, but now it just feels uh, weird, when I look at it lol. When the news broke out that he was dating Ariana I was like "what? lol this is so fake. he's married and loves his wife, they've been together for a decade. these are such weird rumors. he would Not do this" ...and then uhh the divorce news came out. I'm not shattered or devastated or anything like that even tho I used to be such a big fan of him, obviously idk him as a person whatsoever, I just liked his work as SB, but wow I'm still like... so surprised that it happened bc it just feels like such an unlikely Thing to happen when I was SO used to seeing hundreds of his posts where he'd gush about his wife and how much he loves his wife and her family, and their newborn baby. I'm not even a fan of wicked but I definitely can't bring myself to watch it bc every time I look at their characters I'm going to be seething and squinting and huffing and puffing and scoffing and scowling until the sun rise. currently rolling around on my carpet and wailing at 2:37 in the morning over this
I do not trust men for a second!! when they gush about how much they love their wives, I can almost never believe it, bc then this type of wild stuff happens! going full Ned Fulmer. sidenote this was a really funny ask to get bc I was not plugged in with This Guy beforehand, my condolences to those who were a fan of him and then had their images shattered LMAO can you imagine being with someone long-term, since high school, you decide to have a baby together, and then while you're still raising your newborn, your husband is fucking ariana grande. and leaves you for her. I would personally become the joker but that's just me
#long post#CRAZY to think about just WILD#I feel for you anon it's so wild to be a fan of something and then be like. omg these people involved are ROTTED.#and for why! can't men just be happy that they're ALREADY with a woman 10x more attractive than them#do they also have to keep looking. I will never understand#sergle answers#women think that they're safe if their husband is less attractive but no he will STILL cheat on you. it happened to beyonce!!!
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I’m thinking again about Astarions sexuality and how I've seen some people (to be fair, just a few) talk about it. Mainly, people pointing out his flamboyant behavior, and that us as players are learning more about his past male lovers than female ones and basically all these things for some people pointing to him being gay or at least not interested in women in the same way he is in men. And him only being a romance option regardless of gender, because, well, all companions are and he is therefore just "playersexual", only showing interest in female player characters because he has to, because of the game mechanics.
I think what really rubs me the wrong way about this topic is that it echoes the kind of things bi/pan people (speaking as a bisexual woman myself) find themselves dealing with irl. Whether through some form of internalized biphobia or from the outside through other people's comments. Of course this is about a fictional character so it’s not like he has any feelings that could be hurt. But when i see people tallying up how often he mentions men vs. how often he mentions women it really reminds me of a way of thinking I sometimes fall into in regards to my own sexuality. This is definitely just an internalized response and not something I actually believe when I truly think about it for a second, but I know these patterns of thought very well. Of observing my own behavior. How often do I find which gender attractive? Am I attracted "enough" to women? Do I talk about men's attractiveness too often? Is it the other way around? Am I only saying this woman is attractive to prove something to myself? I literally have a girlfriend and my attitude towards mine or other's sexual orientation is generally a huge big "whatever, I don't care". And I still have a passing thought like that from time to time.
So seeing people talk about a fictional character in this way really sends home how many people (whether consciously or unconsciously) see attraction as some sort of equation, you can solve, where in the end you get a result of either gay or straight.
#bg3#baldurs gate 3#baldur's gate 3#astarion#this has been sitting in my drafts for a few days but i thought why not just post it. its been on my mind.#i saw someone in the notes under a post about astarion literally counting off how often he mentions men vs women#and asking for proof of where he shows he is in fact attracted to women.#like... do you see what you're doing here??#aaaand another thing since people love bringing up his flamboyancy.... he is obviously playing that up a lot#because you know... that whole 'i have to seduce people so i am safe' thing#not saying that thats not also the real him but breaking it down to flamboyant=gay makes even less sense in the context.#its not that i think people shouldn't headcanon him as gay or asexual or whatever#i think thats great too. seeing different people's readings of the character.#just.... leave out the bi-/panphobia ffs. people dont have to show proof that they are in fact bi/pan.
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It fucking blows my mind how so many men will just see a picture of a woman and feel compelled to publicly announce whether he finds her fuckable or not. This happens on basically every social media site and also irl. Like, did you ever consider that maybe she's not desperate for the approval of random men and she doesn't care if you think that she's too fat or her nose is too big or whatever?
It just gets really disheartening running into this time and time again because it really hammers in the point that far too many men only value women for our looks. Like they have the capacity to comment literally anything and somehow it always comes back to whether a woman makes their peepee hard or not.
#this happens literally EVERYWHERE you can't escape it#like nobody is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to be attracted to people you aren't attracted to#so why do you feel compelled to proudly state that you think fat women or women with muscles or whatever are ugly#you're not some brave cultural warrior you're actually just conforming to standards of beauty that have existed for centuries#btw I don't mean to imply that women never do the same thing but I just feel like it's not as frequent#rant#misogyny#male entitlement#feminism
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"Medusa x Perseus" Why don't you guys ship Bellerophon with Chimera? Or Heracles with the Hydra?
#greek mythology#medusa#perseus#ramblings#Yes I know that Medusa has a more humanoid appearance and human intellect compared to the other female monsters#But she is still a monster#She was supposed to have a monstruous appearance but then people made her dirty#Imagine if I would turn the Minotaur into a hot guy with horns and then ship him with Theseus AKA his own killer#I know it sounds ridiculous but this is exactly how some people out there sound too#Why can't we acknowledge that one doesn’t need to be conventionally attractive in order to deserve empathy or understanding?#Or that a woman can be evil and malevolent without a tragic background story that turn all women into victims and all men into assholes?#And why do we have to come up with the most stupid pairs to ever exist?#My tags are becoming more and more distant from the post's subject but my FYP is full of this type of BS so here I am#Thanks for my (salty) Ted Talk!
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the way the feminism would leave my body at lightning speed as soon as Elvis asked me to do something…
like cut your toenails? let me go get the clippers sir
#okay but#why do I find his dependency on female attention/care so attractive??#like the juxtaposition of his presence/persona on stage vs how he acted alone with women is so intriguing#to think that the suave and slightly smug Elvis Presley constantly sought out ladies who were willing to dote on him like a little boy…#idk I just love that vulnerable side of him 😭#I just wanna spoil him and take care of him#because he IS a little baby boy#Vernon silently judging him lmaoo#elvis presley#elvisaaronpresley#elvis#elvis history#elvis fans#elvis book excerpts#elvis photos#elvis fandom#big daddy elvis
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If I could be arsed to learn how to edit videos and had some kind of mic, I would 110% make a two part video essay series on the politics of Jurassic World because MY GOD, there's so much to dissect.
The first part would be about how the park is the epitome of neoliberal futurism for techbros, including the way the park so easily falls apart though I doubt that aspect is purposeful. Everything is aesthetic first and function second, and we can't possibly use any of the reliable infrastructure we've already come up with because a train is not gonna get us to Mars, but a monorail might.
And the second would be about the buckwild terrible gender politics going on. The movie is deeply unsympathetic to Claire seemingly because she's a woman who prioritised her career as it's both centre to her character arc and also an inciting event of one of the plots. Not to mention the whole Zara thing or the Owen and Claire thing or the stupid "him, I meant him, line. The movie is rife with misogyny, but it feels like that specific misogyny was isekaied over from backlash to second wave feminism.
I could talk about it all for so long because in a way, it feels like a perfect time capsule for 2015. Back when people took Claire running in heels to be this feminist statement to be made fun of and not just a deeply misogynistic movie trying to sell you feminism. And back when Elon Musk managed to get away with his "I'm the real life Iron Man" shit, and people believed he was smart and all his plans would come to fruition. 2015 was a great time to be a tech bro in Silicon Valley with people just throwing money at all your fake promises.
Yeah. See. This is what I mean when I say I could talk about it forever.
#kai rambles#jurassic world#one of the reasons why this has ended up one of my favourite movies is because it kinda got rounded up and out as a big dumb action film#but like.#look at elon's robovan or libertarian sea pods or the hyperloop or the straddling bus or the vegas sphere#then look at jurassic world#and tell me all these stupid dumb ideas and constructions wouldnt fit in perfectly in jurassic world#and that the really dumb way of thinking that creates those concepts wouldnt be the kind that gives you ''lets make a new dinosaur''#tell me this movie doesnt perfectly encapsulate that way of thinking#including the lack of redundancies and procedures and the complete lack of guard rails and the way it just falls apart#i dont think it was on purpose#i don't think the movie is clever enough for it to be satirising tech bro led neoliberal futurism#because those are two long words that many people dont know the meaning of because they didnt take sociology at some point#but it is a decent satire of it#meanwhile its gender politics are in a dire situation#and i also dont think that's necessarily purposeful?#i think maybe the character of claire began as the hollywood cardboard cutout of a Feminist™#and then since they were copying the first film so much they decided they needed to have kid characters running around and a family plot#and then also they were like well obviously we need a romance arc because thats how these movies work#and so they gave claire the opposite traits of owen because opposites attract#and then oops this character is a deeply misogynistic caricature of a woman#and we really dont have many other women in this cast who do much so you know.#its just. theres so much#guys there's so much
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don’t be a coward
*aroaces your rottmnt leo*
#it’s pride month I’m allowed to do whatever I wanttttttt#Now for hcs no one asked for:#Donnie’s demiromantic aegobisexual#They’re the only one who actually has a concrete label bc they like finding words (hence the micro labels lol they dissect their identity)#Leo knows he’s aroace spec but hasn’t bothered finding a micro label bc he’s vibing he’s also trans and finds men aesthetically attractive#Bc I say so#Mikey and raph don’t really bother with that stuff but Mikey cares more about his family and art and having fun than romance#And raph thinks women are really prettyyyyyy but hes okay not dating for now bc he’s like 17 and has bigger concerns#Like keeping her idiot siblings from accidentally killing themselves /aff /hj#did I just aspec all of ur turtles??? Yes#yes I did.#I’m very proud of myself#listen leo and usagi are cute#Now hear me out: make that queerplatonic#(I have a problem with making relationships queerplatonic lol)#Tbh most of this is a joke/light hearted I don’t really care about their orientations bc they’re just a fun turtle family!!!#Romance has never been anywhere near a draw to rottmnt for me#So maybe that’s why I subconsciously decided they were all aspec lol#I need them being siblings and having fun they can date when they’re 40 (I bet splinter agrees with me)#/j#rottmnt#tmnt 2018#rise of the tmnt#rottmnt Leo#leonardo#tmnt leonardo#leonardo hamato
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the curse of your favorite ships being gay men but are only able to draw women </3
#i simply do not want to genderbend#heartbreaking 💔#why did i have to grow up only attracted to women#i got no practice#writing on the other hand does not have gender-discriminatory anatomy#TO GOOGLE DOCS!#gerrymichael#doorkeay#gerry keay#michael shelley#michael distortion#gerry delano#gerard keay#mag#tma podcast#the magnus pod#the magnus institute#tma#the magnus archives#tma shitpost
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is pj bisexual? i feel like i remember him being bisexual
obsessed with the way you phrased this.
ah yes i remember his bisexuality well i saw it in a dream, a far off vision....
#short answer: idk!#long answer:#queers tend to flock together and often do by accident#pj's showed sincere attraction to men a few times but i believe hes only been w women#hes never said any label other than casually calling himself a man and a boy#but he had he/they pronouns in his twitter bio once! idk why he took them out :(#so like. 🤷♂️#bro is gay-flavored fer sure
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maybe it will clear out more toxic people if i come out as a bi lesbian on here and also considerably less transmasc than i used to identify as
#.txt#still on T though#bi lesbian here means im attracted to women and nonbinary people who dont consider themselves men or women#nothing to do with anything that happened today#ive just been having ongoing trouble with tumblr users who dont treat others very well and ive noticed a lot of them hate bi lesbians#i would probably also date a bigender person even if man was one of the genders tbh#thats why i choose to use this label even if people dont like it. get over it lol
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just typed out a war and peace style post about wanting there to be an equivalent of body neutrality in feminist spaces re: periods/childbirth/etc and though there are so many caveats to what I have to say, I think that there can and should be a middle ground between "your divine feminine body was built for these processes and you will embrace the pain with grace/this is easy for everybody" and borderline misogynistic fearmongering surrounding standard bodily phenomena
#disclaimer: the 'fearmongering' is not referencing phobias/dysphoria/medical conditions#the body may change after pregnancy and I understand why some people would fear this#but also instead of putting the blame on the function of pregnancy itself can we criticize a misogynistic society that deems a body#used/broken/less attractive after having given birth?#point is I feel like a lot of the scaremongering is pointed at the bodily functions and the people (largely women) who experience#or will experience them#and not society's reaction to these functions and how poorly some are treated when doing something 50% of the population has#since the dawn of humanity#to add I do feel like being realistic about risks/bodily effects is not the problem#I think making informed decisions is good#I *do* think that talking about these risks as though they're universally body horror is#and again acting as though someone will be broken/worse after having experienced this#though given the political climate I am not entirely unsympathetic as to why this crops up
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