#white womenhood

[icedsodapop]

The subject of Taylor Swift and girlhood has been marinating in my mind for a while, but it's been amplified now that Israel's genocide of Palestinians has hit the mainstream once again. Becos, who is girlhood afforded to? Think about the adultification of Black girls, the Palestinian girls who are denied the privilege of clean period products and a life where they and their families aren't being bombed by Israeli forces, the many poor Black and Brown girls in the global south who become child labor force, trans girls esp Black trans girls who are often misgendered and the targets of transphobic hate crimes. Girlhood is a privilege.

[axolotlclown]

remember when there was that post going around challenging terfs to define a chair? i have yet to watch a gender essentialist define a woman without excluding cis black women. and i want yall to watch them do it over and over again until you understand that transphobia is just repackaged white supremacy.

[peeptheaesthetic]

Aesthetic April Day 14: Lovegore vs Lovecore.

I did a little bit of both :P.

[creatingblackcharacters]

Hey I've been folowing a long time, but as a trans person I'm a little bit uncomfortable with the post that you reblogged essentially ending with "Misandry isn't real" because it (unintentionall, I presume) leaves out how trans people and the rise of "Man-hating feminism" in queer and progressive spaces actuall demonizes people for their masculinity.

It just rubbed me the wrong way because although I can't speak on Black issues, I have seen a LOT of radical feminists using "Misandry isn't real" to both justify and downplay the abuse of trans and queer men, as well as masc-leaning nonbinary people and butches. While men are not systemically oppressed the way women are, the growing radfem-inization of queer and social justice spaces have been pushing queer men/people who look like cis men out, which negatively affects passing trans men, nonpassing trans women, and a whole host of other queer identities that are being run out by "Women are pure and innocent and men are evil and violent" (which of course, comes with the undertone of "WHITE women are pure and innocent because only they really count as women")

I know a point in the post was that Black people have masculinity PROJECTED onto them, and are thus not punished for their actual levels of masculinity and whatnot, and I totally agree with the point about it being primarily racism over all else.

That being said, I feel like it's important to acknowledge that terms like "Transmisandry" have emerged for Trans men to discuss their personal intersection of misogyny/transphobia/"feminist" manhating. Blanket statements like "No one is oppressed for their manhood" aren't helpful when trans men get called sex traitors and threats to womenhood, because they only count cis men who aren't punished for their masculinity.

I hear you, and I understand. But, from my perspective, what the post itself was discussing was limited to using the treatment Black people experience with hyper masculinity as an incorrect comparison with the label of misandry, rather than the actual culprit of racism.

It happens a lot, actually, where queer nonblack people make incorrect or incomplete comparisons using the Black experience (that they don't understand or aid otherwise) to try to make points on the queer experience. I went and reread, and they did not say "misandry isn't real", so much as they said "you're addressing the incorrect issue by trying to make this incorrect comparison".

So I think it wasn't just "a" point in the post that discussed the Blackness aspect, I think it was "the" point. I don't think the post discussed the part you're discussing because that was not its focus- it just said stop using that particular argument to support your stance, bc it won't bolster it.

But if you'd like to add your concerns directly onto the post for op to see, or to send the op of that post a message to better ascertain their stance on what you're concerned about, you should do so! The same way you spoke of your concerns to me, you should make that known to them for a full conversation and understanding to be had.

[itgirls777]

A guide to Sofia Coppola: Films, Fashion and Music 

Dream-esque, gilded cage, painfully beautiful and esoteric portrays the hazy art style of Sofia Coppola as she shows to Hollywood what it is like to be a girl. Marie Antoinette, Virgin Suicides, Lost in Translation, The Bling Ring (to list a few) are some of the most popular films made by Coppola. Her newest release that portrays the life of Priscilla Presley; "Priscilla", has gone viral on platforms like pinterest, tiktok and instagram sparking interest in the americana, cherry cola, sweet sixties and sugar coloured clothes worn in the film. The release of "Priscilla" has led to some of Coppola's other films being led out into the limelight. If you are looking for that woozy, romantic portrayal of girlhood and female suffering then Sofia Coppola's films may be perfect for you.

🎀 🦢 🧸 💌 🩰 🎧 🚬 🍒 🐇 🌙 🫧

how to feel like your in a sofia coppola film: simple steps to romanticising and dreaming

wearing frilly, airy and light vintage nightgowns

soaking in a bathtub contemplating your existential crisis

putting on some lovely makeup- only to cry it off :)

apply a fragrance while you lounge in bed all day listening to playground love by air

smoking a cig on dior painted lips

drinking strawberry milkshakes as you ponder why men act the way they do......

a dreamlike playlist to feel like you are in a sofia coppola film: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1fiPrX1MjvHG2Xq69Efpdt?si=d10abaaa89104c77

( hope this helps!) xoxo

curated: fav sofia coppola items

sofia coppola archive (of course!) : a book showing bts photos, scripts etc. on her films 1999-2023

"written and directed by sofia coppola" tee: available on etsy https://www.etsy.com/nz/listing/1613236720/written-and-directed-by-sofia-coppola?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=sofia+coppola+tee&ref=sr_gallery-1-2&pro=1&bes=1&search_preloaded_img=1&organic_search_click=1

tvs posters found across etsy, amazon & alixexpress

a24 priscilla tee: https://shop.a24films.com/products/priscilla-white-baby-tee?variant=40048824025137

vote in the above poll- which film of sofia coppola's is your favourite? leave a comment, letting me know why <3

my personal favourites by coppola is virgin suicides, marie antoinette and priscilla <3. i love the way coppola directs her films, their so girl and existential and miserable and beautiful and inexplicably perfect, and i truly think everyone should watch at least one in their lifetime. Her films finally bring into the light of hollywood- female gaze, womenhood, and misery in the most idyllic, airy way ever <3

thank you for reading!!! follow me to see more posts like this about fashion, films, books and everything pretty!!

xoxo, itgirls777

[manstrans]

“Men can go to hobby groups and-“

Women can too? I spent like 16-17 years as a woman??? I was invited to hobby groups and groups to chill and hang out.

I felt safe in these spaces?

They’re not spaces to share emotions, feelings and struggles while being able to learn and grow as people?

Like, I dunno, I also grew up where a man deciding he wanted to shave his legs because it feels nice got him called a woman, and shamed so much he stopped doing it and lived in discomfort.

Sounds systemic and unsafe to me.

Hobby spaces aren’t safe spaces in the same way that spaces carved out to be safe spaces are.

Also marginalized men exist.

Men of Colour, Trans Men, Gay men?? Queer men as a whole?

Men targeted to uphold patriarchy that are then discarded once the patriarchy is settled.

A black man wanting a space where he isn’t treated like he’s inherently dangerous isn’t just important because he’s a man, but because that idea he is inherently a threat for being a BLACK man is dangerous.

People can’t remove that from conversations about gender either.

Race will ALWAYS matter, and every time I see conversations where people are saying “men don’t deserve safe spaces I should be allowed to bash ALL men (except trans men who are men lite/especially trans men who are traitors to womenhood)” I just think, “so white women convinced you men of colour oppress them for being men, as if white women still don’t get these men punished for being black.

Gay men don’t really 1:1 oppress straight women either.

Men being isolated and kept from their OWN communities is an issue. White supremacy does in fact allow outer groups to strengthen itself until it no longer needs that outer groups strength then it discards them.

There are black neo-nazis. There are gay ones. There are trans men bigots.

There are white women neo-nazis.

Bigots who have fallen into bigotry, and into extremism, usually are fed the ideals and it’s so easy to keep them there by pointing at something vitriol and saying, “look, see, they hate you, they’re your enemies, they deserve your hate and ire”.

Like, idk, that 12 year old boy isn’t good and innocent from his racist and harmful ideals he’s slinging around, but if no one helps him out of those beliefs he’ll be a 25 year old man with those harmful beliefs.

And I don’t know any way of thinking that says a 12 year old listens to horrible bitter put downs over like, long understanding conversations.

Like, even if you personally (broadly, not at you) don’t want to lead someone from those ideals, someone has to teach. Someone has to willingly pull people away from that.

People talk about rehabilitative justice and then turn around and say, “hey I think you’re harmful for existing and you deserve suffering”.

As if that helps somehow?

This just rounds back to, as well, marginalized men exist, and the Men vs Women dichotomy is literally Radical Feminism which ignores the racial factors of oppression. Which is how white women get away wish racism to black women while also saying “we need to stay united”

^^^^^ long but worth reading

[eaudrey35]

All these ppl running criticizing Kamala Harris just STFU. She did what she was suppose to do.

Blame falls squarely in these lying white women who went n a booth and voted their whiteness first and womenhood second

Blame goes to these black men who even when Kamala Harris laid a plan out for them it wasn't good enough. They went into a booth and voted for stop and frisk and complete police immunity to kill them

Blame goes to the Hispanic and Asian community who need to be close to whiteness will hurt plenty of their family members

The Blame goes to the elderly who can barely make it but put their Social security at risk.

Blame goes to Union workers who voted against their interest and now will see collective bargaining be destroyed

Blame goes to the middle class working ppl who saw that Elon Musk himself said there will be temporary suffering yet never gave a time limit r said millionaires and billionaires would have to suffer.

All these groups of ppl will have a fuck around and find out moment

[neoruby-loves-ut-aus]

FINALLY!!! THE TIME TO CELEBRATE DURGA PUJA HAS COME!!!

This puja or worship of the Ten-Handed Goddess, Goddess Durga and her children, celebrates victory of good over evil and also represents womenhood.

This is for people who don't know about this

The elephant God is Lord Ganesha, the God of Wisdom, Good luck and Removal of Obstacles. His vehicle is a mouse.

The Goddess wearing a pink saree is Goddess Lakshmi, the Goddess of Wealth and beauty. Her vehicle is an owl.

The Goddess with white skin is Goddess Saraswati, the Goddess of Arts, Music and Education. Her vehicle is a swan.

The God with black hair is Lord Kartik, the God of War. His vehicle is a peacock.

The Goddess in the middle with ten hands is Goddess Durga. She is one of the forms of the Supreme Goddess, Mahamaya, also known as the Divine Universe. She was created by all the Gods of heaven to defeat the demon, Mahishasur, and all of the Gods gave her each weapon, including her vehicle. Her vehicle is a lion.

The lion is her vehicle.

The demon who is here is Mahishasur. He's the demon who was really powerful that he conquered heaven but was killed by Goddess Durga in the process.

This festival is celebrated not only among Hindus but also among different religions and people from all over the world.

[transfemmasc-idol]

┅★┅ dysphoric transmanwoman flag ┅★┅

((Where one is dysphoric trans && man && woman,, where one is dysphoric in a trans man && trans woman way,, where one is both a dysphoric trans man && dysphoric transwoman,, where ones dysphoric transness is dependent on one's trans womenhood && trans manhood &&//ou vise versa && there is many more ways 2 be a dysphoric trans manwoman//womanman.))

Flag ID: eleven striped flag: navy purple, plum, pink, peach, light yellow, navy purple, Aqua, cyan, dark periwinkle, blue, navy purple.

┅★┅ dysphoric transgirlboy flag ┅★┅

((Where one is dysphoric trans && boy && girl,, where one is dysphoric in a trans boy && trans girl way,, where one is both a dysphoric trans boy && dysphoric trans girl,, where ones dysphoric transness is dependent on one's trans girlhood && trans boyhood &&//ou vise versa && there is many more ways 2 be a dysphoric trans boygirl//girlboy.))

Flag ID: eleven striped flag: desaturated violet, pink, peach, light gold, yellowy white, purple, Aqua white, light cyan, cyan, blue, desaturated violet.

[fromchaostocosmos]

Gender And Me: A ???

For several years now I've referred to myself as cis woman. Because I thought it was the closest thing that felt accurate when in truth that wasn't really true.

The truth for me has always been a little more complicated and complex.

When I think back to how I felt as teen I know that had I known of the terms agender and non-binary those would have been so helpful and so relieving for me. That so much mental stress, so much agony could have been avoided.

Because for me as a teen I would fluctuate between times of feeling like I was female and like I had no gender.

As I have gotten older and grown it is not that feeling has magically gone away, but rather I think that for me some of feeling came from this imbalance and incongruous messaging in regards to what it means to be a women according to my culture.

It was only when I went and studied on my own away from school which was a mess for many reasons. When I read Torah commentary on my own time. It was there I felt more of a balance in a regard.

And yet even still something felt not right. It is only till recently I was able to understand what it was and only till now that I am willing to express it out loud.

If I am allowed to define my womanhood by how Judaism and Jewish culture does then I would say I am woman, that I am a  נְקֵבָה nekeva which is the closest approximation I think to what a cis woman is.

But when I am allowed to that, which may or may not surprise some, is often because we live in a world that has a very specific view of gender and sex, then I do not feel like a cis woman, and I feel like maybe I go under the umbrella of non-binary.

Because the reality is that with the western paradigm of gender there is no where I fit because how I define my gender does not come from this paradigm and perspective.

And I find that even in queer spaces that allow for queer understands of gender they still only allow for a western lens of gender and sex. That still holds a certain rigidity there. So I am still left not quite fitting into the options that are given.

I will never fit in a western understanding or lens of gender. I will never fit into this because it built on a Christian and white understanding one. And one that sought to undermine and destroy the Jewish perspective of we view things, but specifically Jewish womenhood.

Because if I can't define myself by cultures understanding of gender that I don't really know where I go.

[thegreatimpersonator]

Aww I love that you cried too and yes my dad was so sweet about it!

I agree with your thoughts on the movie too - just so lovely, funny and depicted womenhood in a great way. I also loved the Barbie lore incorporated! I got so emotional in the beginning and during the speech that I was all out tears by the end lmao

I think my only mild complaint is the main speech felt a little white feminist in intent (but it's Greta so I expected it lmao). Only because it could apply to any type of maginalised group including men of colour like my dad who definitely felt it. He's very much the Barbie of our household - he does basically everything lol

Yess Allan was a fun time (though I am a lil worried the fandom is overhyping him up over Barbie) and I love that non binary are claiming him cos I can totally see that - he never really gave into the Kens when the movie's conflict arose but he doesn't fit in much with the Barbies either - 🌷

Yeah the one criticism I’ve seen about they’re film (that’s valid at least) is the feminism aspect of it and I agree it could have always been more fleshed out and less basic-level, but like you said it was made by a white women. I’ve also seen people say who have a more complex relationship with their gender say they didn’t love it which also makes complete sense. I kinda went in not expecting a lot regarding gender and the complexity of it, but more just hoping it would be funny and a wholesome feminine experience which it was so I was happy. I didn’t really expect it to say anything revolutionary if that makes sense.

Speaking of Barbie being overshadowed, I’ve seen so many people talk about Allen and Ken giving great praise for their performances but I’ve seen barely anything about how incredible Margot was?? Like she was sooooo good in this movie and really succeeded in making Barbie really fleshed out and interesting, but also the physically of the comedy of playing a doll was perfect. People were talking about how playing Ken makes Ryan Gosling deserving of an Oscar and like he was good but Margot was insane and definitely deserves one more.

[icedsodapop]

Me when I saw Florence Pugh exposed nipples outfit at the Oscars:

Or alternatively, how having nipples out is classy and brave for one type of women (skinny White ones) but when the nipples come out for another type of women (Black women) it's the end of civilized society as we know it 🤷🏻‍♀️

[nothorses]

It's also not, like, strictly about having a penis. I'm very out in a lot of progressive/"trans friendly" spaces, and even those where folks have known me before and throughout my transition still treat me with discomfort and isolation the more I present masculine- and especially when I assert my manhood. These are people who know for a fact that I don't have even a phallo dick! Every single cis woman who I considered a lifelong friend pre-coming out no longer speaks to me, and hasn't in years, and that started basically the moment I started going by he/him pronouns instead of they/them.

The last time I saw my closest (cis woman) friend, I expressed my excitement about the changes I was seeing only a couple months on T- when I was very very close to the Skinny Androgynous Soft TBoy "ideal"- and she got visibly uncomfortable and said, "I don't think it's doing that much." I haven't heard from her since. It's been 4 years.

This isn't to dismiss the previous addition either, and I think having a penis- or even someone thinking you could- causes this reaction too. Just to corroborate & widen the scope.

I think the reaction has a lot to do with the way (white) cis gender-conforming womenhood is associated with victimhood and lack of agency under patriarchy, and masculinity is associated with agency in a way that makes one "dangerous", especially if they deviate from the rigid patriarchal ideal of white, abled, thin/fit, cis, gender-conforming (etc.) manhood. Feminist and queer spaces tend not to deconstruct that, especially when they lean white-centric.

tried to vent in a trans space about how, as a trans man who’s been on T for a long time (over 7 years now), i have noticed that the more i pass as a man, the less welcomed i am in queer spaces unless i go out of my way to feminize myself. and how that sucks! and it’s isolating!!! and it feels horrible to see ppl who used to like you and be close to you drift further and further the more masculine (& therefore more comfortable in urself) u become…

only to get ppl replying to me and saying “well if you dressed more fem then ppl wouldn’t be intimidated by you. you signed up for this”

i’m sorry but i didnt sign up for social isolation when i transitioned, i signed up for gender euphoria and comfort in myself and my life. and i had hoped that the ppl in my life would be able to see how much joy that brings me and continue to love me.

[ifyouknowmenahyoudontt]

Easy.

It’s the same way I look at women who say things like “picking the bear over the man is just man hating and mean” like you are picking a group of people that would very willing put you in the ground if you made one wrong move. You picked our oppressors over us.

Like how where I am from getting an abortion is very illegal and would land you in jail. I have helped other women get abortions before, and one time there was this girl who was very pro life, she ended with a pregnancy that was not viable, and posed a risk to her future fertility, she begged on line for someone to point her in the right direction. I could have helped her, but I didn’t, not because I hated her, but because at the end of the day I knew that as soon as she got what she needed, she would turn around and turn me and anyone who helped her in.

She picked her faith over her womenhood, and now she has to lay in the bed she made. Does that make me a terrible person? Maybe, but I won’t risk being to help other women for a women who help made this mess.

And I think the death eaters probably viewed a wizard who supported muggles or muggle borns the exact same way,

yall would defend anything to keep loving those little white boys huh.

how do i put this into better words.

the motivation behind the ideology was they thought they were better than everyone else. that’s what the term mudblood shows. let’s put our thinking caps on now

[icedsodapop]

This is so funny to see becos the people who told her this don't seem to know the hold skinny White woman have on society.

[semi-imaginary-place]

There is sooo much overlap be transphobic policing of transwomen and white supremacy. The terfs are already attacking ciswomen for not being women enough and it's no coincidence that they do so based on the impossible standard of their ideal white woman, too hairy, nose the wrong shape, jaw the wrong shape, too brown, too black. Itcs designed so that non white women will only ever be second class in womenhood. And the exact same white rhetoric and standards are used to discredit transwomen.

it’s always so fucking funny to me when terfs are like “how can you say trans women and women are the same thing! being born as a man makes you different!” because like. yes. trans women and cis women are different. so are black women and white women. and straight women and queer woman. and women from different countries and different socioeconomic statuses. there’s diversity in the experience of womanhood? what a wild concept