#what's a gender identity

[sternenschaukler]

What is Cassgender?

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What does 'cassgender' mean?

Cassgender is a term under the genderqueer/ non-binary umbrella for people who feel their gender is unimportant or irrelevant to their life. This can include feeling like you have some sort of gender, but it is not something big or important to you.

Being cassgender does not necessarily mean that you don't have any gender at all. It's also possible to feel like you still have a gender to some extent, e.g. you recognize that you're somewhat non-binary/ agender/ demigender/ cis/ trans.. but you don't find it important enough to really "identify" yourself through this.

Cass experiences may include:

- not really identifying as any gender/ not having a strong genderidentity

- feeling like your gender is an irrelevant part of your identity

- Feeling disconnected from other people of your gender, because they put a lot of importance in their genderidentity. (For example they feel very strongly about being male/ female/ agender and not something else)

- feelings of total apathy/ indifference towards gender

- just not caring about gender altogether./ The very concept of gender is unimportant or seems pointless to you.

Some Microlabels under the cassgender umbrella:

Cassflux: The apathy/ indifference towards gender fluctuates.

Cassfluid: Someone who feels indifferent towards their gender, but also knows that their gender is fluid in some way

Demicass: people who partially identify as cassgender but partially also put imortance to being another gender as well

Where does the name "cassgender" come from?

The term "cassgender" combines the Latin prefix "cass-" with "gender."

Latin cass- (cassus/ casso...):

- empty, hollow, devoid of something

- to annul, reject

- useless, fruitless

- to lack

What do the colours of the flag stand for?

- Beige/ tan and slate/ grey both represent apathy towards gender.

- Black for the absence of genderidentity. (This can mean you are genderless (or semi-genderless), not defining yourself through gender, feeling a disconnect from gendered labels and so on. )

- Green for the non-binary spectrum (Alluding to the green in the agender flag. This stripe is also there to include cass people wo still have a gender alongside those who are completely genderless/ unlabeled.)

How does cassgender differ from agender?

While both cassgender and agender involve a lack of connection to traditional gender identities, agender people identify as having no gender at all. In contrast, cassgender individuals may have any gender, or be genderless, but consider this unimportant or irrelevant to their personal identity. (Although cassflux people might fluctuate with how apathetic they are.) Agender people can, and often do, still care about not having a gender.

Do you have to be non binary to be Cassgender?

No, you don't have to identity as non-binary to be cassgender. "Cassgender" is defined by a sense of apathy or indifference towards one's own gender. This identity can be held by people of any gender, whether they are binary (male or female) or non-binary.

How does Cassgender differ from post-modern genders (Pomogender), gender abolitism, gender-fuck/ genderpunk, or similar terms?

- Pomogender people strongly care about not identifying with any existing genders and feel beyond or past gender. Cass people do not particularly care about one's lack of genderidentity.

- Cassgender also says nothing about wanting to get rid of gender as a concept entirely, like gender abolitism does.

- Genderfuck is a culture that has nothing to do with one's actual gender. It's a punk movement that's about actively opposing gendernormativity, resisting gender norms and the like. It's possible to be cass and do genderfuckery at the same time, but the two are not related.

What pronouns should I use?

Cassgender people can use whatever pronouns they like. Pronouns and presentation are not equal to gender. It is possible to have preferred pronouns, or use multiple sets of pronouns, or just accept any pronouns other people use for you.

How is cassgender related to gender dysphoria?

Cassgender individuals may or may not experience gender dysphoria. The key aspect of cassgender is the perceived irrelevance of gender, which can be independent of feelings of dysphoria or comfort with one's body

Cassgender experiences:

(...can, but don't necessarily have to, include: )

some of those points don't really have anything to do with cassgender at all, but are often asked like: "Can I be X and also cass?"

Relatable story by Vilhart: https://youtu.be/hmKix-75dsg?si=F7QJuO-zpjoBt_k2

- Feelings of total apathy/ indifference towards your gender

- Feeling like your gender is an irrelevant part of your identity

- Just not caring about gender altogether

- You place no value on your gender

- Being (partially-) genderless or agender

- You don't define yourself through gender

- Thinking: because of my AGAB or presentation, people see me as a girl/ boy, so I may as well just be that

- you say you're cis simply because it's safe, easy and comfortable

- "What's your gender/ pronouns?" "Meh, whatever."

- You don't understand gender or why gender and the right pronouns are so important to people

- You are understanding and supportive of other people's gender identity, but you just don't get it

- You don't instinctively know your gender

- You feel like it would be better to redefine gender and gender roles in culture

- You do not care what pronouns people use for you

- You do have a pronoun preference

- When describing yourself as a person, words like man or woman are not an important point on the list

- You can't find a good answer to: "I am X gender because..." that does not involve your body, appearance, or stereotypes

- You can relate to a gender to some degree, (e.g. cis, non-binary, trans, agender, demigenders), but don't find it important enough to need it acknowledged, or to want to socially or medically transition be seen as this gender etc.

- You're feeling a disconnect from gendered labels

- You're feeling like an impostor, or like you're not telling the whole truth when you're in men-only/ women-only groups

- You have looked up a lot of different genders, but find it difficult to fully relate to people in the communities, because they often feel very strongly about being this gender

- You feel exhausted if you have to conform to gender norms

- Feeling exhausted with gender in general

- You feel neither gender euphoria nor dysphoria

- You have gender/ body dysphoria

- If you suddenly woke up as the opposite sex, it would be a change, but ultimately it wouldn't really bother you

- You're cassgender because you want to be free from having to care and think any more about your gender

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

historical drama/sitcom where two gay best friends (woman and man) get lavender married--and proceed to spend the Fancy European Honeymoon their parents paid for acting as each other's wingman

[lesbiantism]

Ya know what shout out to butches who wrestle with our butchness because we don’t fit the mold in some way. Butches who aren’t physically strong or naturally caretaking because of physical disability, who need to be cared for, who can’t hold open the door for a femme. Butches with long hair, butches with big hair, butches who express their culture via their hair. Butches who’s masculinity is shaped by their culture, who’s masculinity doesn’t fit the white eurocentric mold. Fat butches, butches with curves viewed as feminine, butches who don’t have skinny, boyish builds. Butches who don’t want to be sexualized, butches on the ace spectrum. Butches who don’t have traditionally masculine interests or mannerisms or whatever. Effeminate butches. Butches who take inspo from gay men. Butches who like the occasional dress or skirt. TRANSFEM BUTCHES!!!!! And any other butches who don’t fit a certain mold!! All butches are good butches and we are all valid.

[meshaamem-li]

"we need weirder queer identities" y'all can't even handle queer mascs

[justdavina]

Such a pretty face. This sweet transgender M2F She's almost 10 months on HRT. I wish I knew more about her.

[abrillustrated]

thinking about mizu from blue eye samurai. thinking. thinking so much. thinking about how mizu operates outside of gender. like we joke about her gender being revenge but straight up? it literally is. like she grew up as a boy and is most comfortable being a man, but behind that is the feeling of betraying himself because he isn't being honest about who he is and he lives in fear of being discovered. and when he lived as a woman, she found joy there as well. she fell in love, and though she wasn't good at it, she liked being a wife and enjoying a simple life. but in that life too, she isn't being honest about who she is. and when she reveals her true self, it's not a woman, she's a demon, a weapon. she's to masculine to be a woman, and too feminine to be a man. ultimately, mizu is most comfortable when they are being a murder machine. that's when they feel they are being the most true to themself. like a sword, they are neither man nor woman, but a blend of both, which makes them stronger.

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[bossymarmalade]

When I was 19 in the mid-90s the internet was not a readily available thing to explore your curiosities about sex, so I used to phone up a sex line and make an account, leave a message in a boy voice, and see what kinds of propositions older men would leave in my mailbox. Your aunties did their gender identity research in their own ways

[problemnyatic]

When you knowingly misgender anyone for any reason no matter what you concede that someone's gender is up for debate and not actually theirs to decide, thus justifying misgendering all trans people forever. Use faer neopronouns or die by my blade.

[geisterzeit-art]

I CANNOT LIVE LIKE THIS NO MORE, FILLING A LIFETIME WITH REMORSE

[bunnyboy-juice]

NO MORE ASSOCIATING THINGS WITH FEMMES ONLY BECAUSE THEY ARE PINK!HYPERFEM FEMMES ARE GREAT AND I LOVE YOU CAMPY FEMMES WHO EMBODY PINK BUT ALSO JESUS CHRIST CAN YOU GUYS NOT GO MORE THAN ONE DAY W/O TRYING TO SHOEHORN FEMMES INTO BEING ONLY PINK UWU BABIES. I AM FEMME AS IN GRASS AS IN DIRT AS IN TREE BARK AS IN WEEDS SPROUTING THROUGH THE SIDEWALK CEMENT. FEMME AS IN GENDER NONCONFORMITY AS IN FUCK YOU MY FEMININITY IS WHAT *I* SAY IT IS. FEMME AS IN DEPTH AND DARKNESS AND WARMTH AND TERROR. FEMME AS IN CAVES. FEMME AS IN LIGHTNING. FEMME AS IN AN AMALGAMATION OF TRAITS THAT I HAVE DECIDED ARE FEMININE REGARDLESS OF WHAT SOCIETY SAYS. FUCK IS IT THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND?!???

[cosmicredcadet]

A character looks straight into the camera and says "I'm not interested in romance" and people will still say "No, it's not confirmed they're aromantic!!!" "They could change their mind!!!" "it's a challenge for them to overcome!!!" "They'll have character development that makes them fall in love"

It's like they are given the most blatant answer to a character romantic orientation and they actively ignore it. all the while all it takes is subtext for people to speak as if it is fact for a character to be any other sexuality.

[oblivion45]

Patricia Nikita

[yourlegacysnotyourstosee]

[prolibytherium]

Just in general I think trying to look to pre-late modern period history for validation of LGBT+ identities is an absolutely useless venture. Every single underlying human experience defined through the lens and framework of LGBT identity has always existed, but it's impossible to pin down Exactly who and what a figure might have been if they existed in this contemporary context and decided to self identify via these labels.

It's also a wildly reductive lens that flattens the complexity and variety of how sex and gender has been constructed across time in different cultures, how sexual norms have varied, etc. This is not a constructive approach to learn about history and you're never going to be able to fit historical figures neatly into little identity categories.

[justdavina]

Miss Trans Queen India Nitasha Biswas: The most beautiful Indian transgender in women's strapless knit sweater dress.

So SEXY!