#what is mortgage insurance and how does it work

[todaynewsonline]

What is Mortgage Insurance? Understanding the Basics

What is Mortgage Insurance? Understanding the Basics:- If you’re looking to buy a home, chances are you’ve heard about mortgage insurance. But what is it, and why do you need it? In this article, we’ll cover everything you need to know about mortgage insurance, from what it is and how it works to the different types available and how to choose the right one for you. Table of Contents What is…

[literaryvein-reblogs]

Writing Notes: Death & Dying

Death - the end of life, a permanent cessation of all vital functions.

Dying - the body’s preparation for death. This process may be very short in the case of accidental death, or it can last weeks or months, such as in patients suffering from cancer.

DEATH PREPARATION

Although it is not always possible, death preparation can sometimes help to reduce stress for the dying person and their family. Some preparations that can be done beforehand include:

Inform one or more family members or the executor of the estate about the location of important documents, such as social security card, birth certificate, and others.

Take care of burial and funeral arrangements (such as cremation or burial, small reception or full funeral) in advance of death, or inform family members or a lawyer what these arrangements should be.

Discuss financial matters (such as bank accounts, credit card accounts, and federal and state tax returns) with a trusted family member, lawyer, estate executor, or trustee.

Gather together all necessary legal papers relating to property, vehicles, investments, and other matters relating to collected assets.

Locate the telephone numbers and addresses of family and friends that should be contacted upon the death.

Discuss outstanding bills (such as utilities, telephone, and house mortgage) and other expenses that need to be paid.

Collect all health records and insurance policies.

Identify the desire to be an organ donor, if any.

MOURNING & GRIEVING

The death of a loved one is a severe trauma, and the grief that follows is a natural and important part of life.

No two people grieve exactly the same way, and cultural differences play a significant part in the grieving process.

For many, the immediate response may be shock, numbness, or disbelief.

Reactions may include:

Shortness of breath, heart palpitations, sweating, and dizziness.

Other reactions might be a loss of energy, sleeplessness or increase in sleep, changes in appetite, or stomach aches.

Susceptibility to common illnesses, nightmares, and dreams about the deceased are not unusual during the grieving period.

Emotional reactions are as individual as physical reactions.

A preoccupation with the image of the deceased or feelings of hostility, apathy, emptiness, or even fear of one’s own death may occur.

Depression, diminished sex drive, sadness, and anger at the deceased may be present.

Bereavement may cause short- or long-term changes in the family unit or other relationships of the bereaved.

It is important for the bereaved to work through their feelings and to not avoid their emotions.

Support groups are often available.

If a person does not feel comfortable discussing emotions and feelings with family members, friends, or primary support groups, they may wish to consult a therapist to assist with the process.

Various cultures and religions view death in different manners and may conduct mourning rituals according to their own traditions.

Visitors often come to express their condolences to the family and to bid farewell to the deceased.

Funeral services may be public or private.

Family or friends of the deceased may host a gathering after the funeral to remember and celebrate the life of the deceased, which also helps the bereaved to begin the mourning process positively.

Knowing how much a loved one is cherished and remembered by friends and family can provide comfort to those who experienced the loss.

Other methods of condolences include sending flowers or cards to the home or the funeral parlor, sending a donation to a charity that the family has chosen, or bringing a meal to the family during the weeks after the death.

Source ⚜ More: Writing Notes & References ⚜ Pain ⚜ Bereavement Death & Cheating Death ⚜ Pain & Violence ⚜ Death & Sacrifice

[forsoobado137]

I've been wondering how nations have money. Do they get paid by their bosses? How much do they make monthly or annually? Is it just what the average person makes in their countries? Do they pay rent and mortgages, or have they already been paid off because they're immortal? How do they afford their luxuries and travel expenses? Are they insured? Are they in a lot of debt? If the government buys all of their things, can they be taken away as punishment?

Or maybe they have other part time jobs? Spain does run a café in the anime. And I think he sells merch for that too. I'm not too sure because wouldn't it be a bad look for the gov if the NP of the United States was making minimum wage at McDonald's?

Maybe they do appearance work to make money. Imagine France or Italy on the front covers of fashion magazines. France probably would make a fuckton as a model. And I'm pretty sure there was one strip where America was in a hair commercial.

[desos-records]

alright let’s talk about Lockwood & Co vs Adults

(mostly about the show, I started the books before the show came out and I’m not done, be nice)

Lockwood tries so very hard to act older than he is and he essentially Had To after losing his family. We aren’t told the specifics, but he doesn’t seem to have any adults in his life. Or many people in it period. George has only known him for a year, Flo used to live with him but hasn’t for at least a year if not more, and Kipps is. well. Kipps.

But other than that he seems to have been alone: he’s the one who takes care of the business and the finances, finding new clients and recruiting new agents (he has a mortgage and insurance and he can’t even drive yet). It fits with the overarching theme of the older generation not just failing the newer one, but exploiting it too. Lockwood was abandoned by the generation that was supposed to take care of him (on purpose or not)--just like all the kids of his generation, George and Lucy included.

It’s a little simpler when it comes to George and Lucy. They both left their families by choice; they chose to be the mature ones, to do what they had to so they could feel safe and at home. George left parents who loved him, but didn’t understand him. Lucy left a physically abusive mother who exploited her for money. They’re both mature in very concrete, measurable ways that are natural extensions of their characters. George cleans and cooks and handles research. Lucy is emotionally mature, holding both boys (and people in general) accountable for their actions and making her able to pick out incredible nuances in emotion (of both the living and the dead).

But Lockwood’s maturity feels a little more like play-acting than the others. Partly, I think, because he didn’t get a choice. He’s been functionally an independent adult for god knows how long. He dresses in suits and is entirely too formal (in the books it takes forever for him to stop calling Lucy ‘Miss Carlyle’). But you can tell that it is definitely an act. His tie and trousers are too short, his coat is too big, and, god bless him, he wears the most beat up pair of sneakers I’ve ever seen.

His interactions with actual adults become a flashpoint. It’s most obvious in his interactions with adult men (partly just because most of the adults in the show are men), who he is trying so hard to look and act like. But in every case, they call him out on it and he’s reminded how young he is and almost always in a way that hurts.

The most obvious are Fairfax, Winkman, and what’s-his-face with the gold sword and guyliner, who are trying to kill him. In all cases, Lockwood can’t physically overpower them (Fairfax and Guyliner have guns, Winkman has an electric chair) and his words don’t mean anything to them. And Guyliner is even more dangerous because he knows his parents, knows something about the story behind Lockwood’s armor.

But what’s more interesting are the adults who aren’t trying to kill him.

Barnes picks apart the arguments Lockwood throws up in defense of himself and his agency, not with posturing, but with genuine (although rather harsh) concerns for their safety. For Lockwood, Barnes is a Captain Hook figure, but Barnes acts more like a disgruntled school principal than anything else. He’s working to protect a whole city full of kids that are, by necessity, thrown into harm’s way. And you can see it when Lockwood says that Barnes doesn’t like them much and it throws him off-guard.

The DEPRAC agent at the auction tells them to leave not just because he thinks they can’t handle it, but because they shouldn’t have to

Jesus, you’re children

Yes, he’s aggressive and antagonistic about it, which only makes Lockwood bristle more. Lockwood steps towards him trying to act with authority, even threatening, but all the agent does to break his armor is grab him hard by the shoulder and push him back. But despite that, he is trying to protect them. And he dies to protect them. It is the only instance of someone truly seeing them for what they are: kids. Not agents or weapons or meal tickets.

But it’s jarring. Lockwood can’t process any of that and that’s not his fault. In the world we’ve seen so far, Barnes and the DEPRAC agent are an anomaly. Most other adults don’t care whether they live or die (so long as they’re useful). Lockwood has every reason to believe that every adult is an obstacle at best and a threat at worst.

And it’s painful. All of it. And a little too close to home, this story of children only valued when they’re useful.

[theambitiouswoman]

Heyy

Do you have any advice on starting a real estate business as in just buying and renting out property?

Thanks 🤍

Yes!

**For the record, I have personally done a few flips/rehabs. Apart from that, I knew/know most of the realtors in this city and relating companies as I worked with most real estate/mortgage and title companies here when I had an agency.

First you need to be able to learn the market and research comparables. When looking to buy properties there are important factors to consider to make sure you are not paying overprice for a property as well as that the are is on demand, ensuring it will be easier to rent out the property.

The location of the property and its proximity to amenities like schools, shopping centers, grocery stores, transportation etc. Also that the area is safe.

You also want to look for areas that has future development plans, this will raise the value of your property.

If you have worked with investment companies, you will quickly learn that buying a property that is not in the best condition, a rehab property, could be a very smart play. You want to make sure of course to check the comparables and ensure that the property is underpriced compared to the other homes in the area. Once you rehab the property, it could raise or even surpass the value of the other homes in the area.

Any home that you would look into to buy for renting out should have elements that you intend to upgrade on. There are a lot of reasons for this but the most important one is how it raises your price and potential earnings. Redoing a kitchen or a bathroom can immediately raise the value of your home anywhere from 5-50k. A project that will cost you anywhere from 3-10k on average for a standards nice kitchen depending on your area.

Overall you still want to look at the comps to make sure you are getting a fair deal. Calculate the potential annual rent as a percentage of the properties price. This will give you an idea of the return on your investment. Also make sure that the potential rental income exceeds the monthly expenses. If not it does not make sense.

Check the vacancy rates in the area you want to purchase in, if its high there may be a low demand and not a good area to invest in.

Also you want to think about how easy it would be to sell the property if you need to. In demand areas tend to be more liquid.

So important, to understand the landlord/ tenant laws in your state. Including their rights and eviction process etc. Nothing worst than having a horrible tenant and not being legally able to remove them.

There are a lot of rate plans depending on your specific situation and mortgage rates also vary significantly by state. Make sure to get the best deal for you. Some states a first time can give as little as 1-5% down depending if you are a first time/ entrepreneur etc.

Property insurance is another cost factor to consider when working out your numbers as this varies by area.

Managing a few properties on your own is easy, but after a handful, you may want to consider hiring a property management company to handle these things for you.

I would strongly urge you to get a lawyer to draw up renter contracts.

To grow this business what you want to do, and this is a general overview: down payment for house, fix, rent out, refinance, use refinance to purchase another property and have enough to put into upgrades/repairs on the second purchase and repeat.

I can get into taxes on this too if you want.

[dollsonmain]

After me saying "Been crunching numbers, looking at rent, looking at mortgages, looking at our current monthly expenses and I'd need to earn about $24/hr full time just to be able to afford to pay rent/mortgage, bills, owning a car, and food with nothing left. NO BODY'S PAYING THAT MUCH." on facebook, one of my old high school friends tried to encourage me by saying that I'd qualify for programs like SNAP and might qualify for Section8 housing and if I'm earning $15/hr and work 40 hrs a week no, I wouldn't.

In my state:

LIHTC cutoff is $14k/year

SNAP is $19,578

Section 8 housing cutoff is $29,150 for one person and $33,300 for two, and we'd have 2 adults being myself and my son. I don't know if Son will be able to work since he does have some trouble with being interrupted or being told to do something he doesn't want to do, but a the same time I don't know if he'll qualify for disability due to autism because he's low support needs. The single apartment complex that accepts Section 8 is for elders and full, anyway.

Despite being too much to qualify for assistance, it's still not enough to survive on because our current expenses wouldn't change much considering That Guy doesn't eat at home mostly (he barely eats at all, really) so the grocery bill is mostly Son and me, and has no creative hobbies that cost money outside of the occasional pricey LEGO set and a $60 video game lasts him a few months so I picked an average for the credit card bill:

Mortgage: $2000/mo (1 bedroom apartment rent averages $1500/mo while the least expensive house on the market right now says to expect to pay $2k)

Water: $60

Power: $130

Internet: $90

Phone: $170

Propane: $280

He pays for everything like car-gas, groceries, toiletries, all my pony salon supplies, etc. on his credit card and that averages $1700/mo.

Our car is paid off so we don't have car payments but I would have car payments. No idea how much that would be.

That doesn't include the auto insurance because he pays that direct-pay with the bank, which is $78/mo for 3 drivers on a single sedan.

$54,096/year. He does NOT pay for my dolls other than the occasional cheap playline doll.

What of that could we do without?

We don't go on day trips, go on vacation, buy new clothes when our clothes wear out and if we do it's thrifted or from the discount store (like Goodwill, TJMaxx, Marshall's, or Gabe's), don't go to the salon or barber, eat Taco Bell once a week for $25 and rarely go anywhere else, I don't get my nails done, do them myself, or wear makeup which is a huge expense, don't buy expensive electronics or home theater equipment, don't buy home decor, don't pay for repairs, have low-end cheap computers, wait for our phones to no longer be supported before upgrading, wait for ANYTHING to break before replacing it...

[kn-1013]

reigen definitely strikes me as the kind of guy who wants to take care of everything, and i think it's largely because he doesn't have any adult friends. even when serizawa comes in, serizawa is an adult but he doesn't know how to do a lot of adult things because of the way he lived for so long before working for claw and then working under reigen. i don't think he understands how insurance works, or credit, or taking out a loan, or refinancing your car or a mortgage or any of that shit.

because of this, he really does see himself as The Responsible Adult in most situations, so he takes care of everything. because once again, 99% of his friends are the gaggle of teenagers that mob brings around, *of course* they don't understand insurance, they're like 14 years old *max*.

he sees himself as The Responsible Adult, leading to situations like what he was trying to do with the members of claw before mob accidentally transferred his powers to him--he was trying very hard to leave the kids out of it so they didn't have to deal with these grown-up freaks, because he knows damn well kids shouldn't have to deal with things like this, of course adults should be more responsible than this. and that's another reason he tried to get mob and everyone to run away, even if that was nowhere near a viable option for them.

this is part of what draws me to reigen, the way he switches in and out of situations, what makes him such a multifaceted character.

to himself, he's a responsible adult, or an adult that should be more responsible because he's an adult. he's also a liar, a conman, a cheat. i don't think he genuinely sees himself as a good role model. he probably views himself in a shade of grey, but closer to the black side. i think he carries a lot of guilt and shame for that, and he tries to make up for it, but it never feels like enough to him.

but to mob, he's a person who made some mistakes because he wanted to put food on the table and do/be something interesting, because he doesn't realize how cool he is without having to lie. he's also, despite that, both smart and wise and can be so genuine when he's trying to motivate mob. he's an amazing teacher, not necessarily for his psychic powers, but more so for guiding and leading mob through life when he struggles to understand people and social situations and can be gullible and anxious.

to the former members of the seventh division of claw, he is one of the most powerful psychics in the entire world, who is just as wise as he is powerful, with the kinds of perspectives on life that they couldn't even comprehend. he's someone that deeply humbled them and their childish dreams of world domination, motivating them to strive to be better people, to get involved in their communities instead of chasing after nonsense, helping them realize they're no better than anyone else. that if they're nothing without their powers, then what are they really?

to serizawa, he's one of the guys that helped get him out of claw and into the real world, where he and mob showed him that while his former boss helped him, he wasn't a good person. to serizawa, he's smart. despite being a conman, reigen is someone that serizawa can look up to. even if their methods are somewhat fraudulent, serizawa now has the power to make up for past pain he's caused by helping everyday people with their everyday problems, and even their not-so-everyday problems, and that can get him out of bed in the morning with confidence. to serizawa, reigen was one of the first real friends he's ever had.

reigen definitely doesn't see himself the way that other people see him.

edit: undoubled the last bit T0T

[freestylegenius]

I can’t help you.

I am seriously wondering if I can even help myself anymore.

I am alone, anonymous and naked (at a soul level that is), navigating what appears to be a crisis in midlife.

I was let go from two jobs in one year and can’t seem to land a 3rd interview at any company, regardless of my experience or qualifications. This is after a 30 year career of landing every single job I ever pursued.

I don’t have any family left. Any family members I had healthy relationships with have since passed on and only the toxic ones remain, and we are no-contact. I’m one of those cycle-breakers. It sounds more fun than it is. I chose to not have a family of my own because I didn’t want to recreate whatever dynamic I came from. I am best with pets, without which I probably wouldn’t still be here.

I don’t have any followers here and have few friends in real life. Those I do have just feel like polite acquaintances with whom I can never be my full self with. I am one of the female versions of ‘too much,’ but we all know that ‘too much’ only comes in female flavor don’t we?

Now at the age of 52 I feel rejected from any space I am trying to be in. Might my perspective be skewed? Probably. I do know that trauma and depression can impact one’s outlook, but I can’t help but notice again and again that I am not wanted here, there or anywhere.

I feel broken. That whatever made me successful before doesn’t work anymore. Like the game changed over night. How does one navigate the experience of previously being sought-after, revered and well-paid only to be rejected across the board, both socially and professionally just a few years later?

Where do I go from here? I would love to create my own thing but how do you reinvent yourself and create something from scratch when you have never created anything?

How do you foster your own vision when you have spent 30 years selling someone else’s vision? All I have ever done is chase revenue. My skills are herding cats and negotiating deals. For that, all I have to show for it is a deep-seated feeling of emptiness and a house I can no longer afford to keep.

Now a decade from retirement, I find myself on the precipice of losing everything while inexplicably unable to get myself to do anything about it. I am deeply disillusioned with this game of corporate cruelty and late-stage capitalism and seem to be in a functional freeze that I am now finally just emerging from, slowly.

I don’t know if I can do this anymore. My life is falling apart before my eyes and yet I feel incapable of helping myself. I watch my bank account dwindle towards nothing as if I am simply watching a movie instead of my actual life that I am blowing up in real-time by being a passive observer.

I don’t have health insurance, I am living on credit cards which are almost maxed out and my unemployment benefits run out in two weeks. Next month I will have to tap my anemic 401K just to survive. I don’t know how I am going to keep my house that I was planning to retire in as the mortgage is too high to recover in rent. My previous credit score of 820 is in the wind of better days.

So here I am. To call myself out on whatever shit is fucking up my life. Obviously I’m part of the problem. My entire life is in disarray so it must be me. So let’s figure it out. Nothing is working so let’s put it out on the Internet. What could possibly go wrong?

I commit to documenting the journey, whether it continues on this downward spiral or (please baby jesus) turns into epic rise from the ashes. I know nobody is here and may not ever show up. That’s ok. I may not even allow comments because I’m terrified at how mean the internet can be.

But I will be here. I will show up for myself. And I will keep doing it until I walk myself thru this.

If you want to follow along I could use a friend.

[vidreview]

VIDREV: "Marvel's Defenders of The Status Quo" by Pop Culture Detective

[originally posted december 1st 2022]

this is a good video. it makes a lot of really great points about the mcu and i think you should watch it. but i want to nitpick about one thing.

at around 11:10, the channel's titular detective says of the mcu's villains that

"When we take a look through the pantheon of marvel's supervillains and evil masterminds, we immediately notice that nearly all of them strive to destroy or disrupt the status quo in some way. In short, they seek structural change. Now, granted, it's mostly bad, authoritarian change, but…"

i want to zero in on the use of the word "authoritarian" here. the argument of this video is that marvel superheroes exist only as reactionary forces who defend the status quo rather than try to transform the world as it exists, while the villains are the ones who DO want to change things but in such a violent way that their entire argument is conveniently nullified. i agree with this argument and i think the video does a good job justifying it.

but there's a missed opportunity here in this subtle deployment of "bad, authoritarian," what feels to me like a little slipup of ideology.

why is it that the villains seeking to impose a new order are "authoritarian," but the heroes seeking to maintain the current order aren't? "authoritarian" is a slippery word, we like to use it when talking about dictators saying "kill the minorities" or just, generally, to describe when politicians work against the will of the people. except when it's in america for some reason! american politicians aren't authoritarian because they are, erm, "elected." sure they do things against the will of the people, but they can't just get away with it, there's a whole series of checks and balances and democracy and and and

and yet they get away with it anyway. every single time. no one in san francisco wants the cops to have killer robots, but the city council gave them killer robots anyway. is that not authoritarian? oppressed people in cities across the nation begged for police to be defunded if not abolished, and now they're getting more money than ever. is that not authoritarian? rail workers are currently being forced by the government to accept a contract they don't want in order to avert a strike that could grind the US economy to a halt. is that not authoritarian? is that not the textbook definition of a politician enforcing strict obedience to authority?

this postulated nature of mcu villains to want "bad, authoritarian change" feels of a distant piece with liberals who desperately pearlclutch at the simple verbal utterance of the phrase "dictatorship of the proletariat." but dictatorships are bad! that's when the authoritarians dictate their will and the people just have to do it!

unlike in america where we have to work despite being in the midst of a lethal pandemic. unlike in america where housing is unaffordable, health insurance is tied to employment, and public transportation basically doesn't exist. just because there isn't a single guy standing behind a podium explicitly saying "the cost of entry into american society is a car, a mortgage, and a job at lockheed martin" doesn't mean it's not an authoritarian order. just because no one in charge is out and out saying you have no other choice doesn't magically give you other choices. "freedom of choice" is moloch's favorite song because it sounds so sweet. but everyone i know who had to get off medicaid when they were forced economically incentivized to get a job they didn't want says their employer-provided insurance is worse. a friend who had top surgery scheduled has to start the process all over now!

we live in a dictatorship of the bourgeoisie. the ruling class owns the media, owns the means of media production, owns the insurance companies, owns the tech corporations, owns the politicians. our psychosphere is shaped by the messages they allow to spread. isn't it funny how after the george floyd uprisings of 2020 were crushed, mainstream news media all but stopped talking about them and then stopped covering protest at all? isn't it conspicuous that now it seems like all that energy we had has just vanished into thin air? it's almost like the ruling class circled the wagons and refused to acknowledge the widely popular demand for massive systemic change.

but to just cut this down to the final quick, i'm gonna go ahead and suggest that "authoritarian" is a functionally useless term. anyone in a position of power is an "authoritarian" whether they're a federal judge or a postal worker. to pose democracy as the opposite of "authoritarianism" is like saying that rain is the opposite of water. this attitude comes from a deeply entrenched liberal misconception that democracy is what happens when The People choose to make things happen. as opposed to communism, uh, where The People, um

you see what i mean? it's all just uninformed moralizing gobbledygook meant to deliberately obscure the material reality of oppressive systems. there is no conceivable human system which can ever hope to avoid the presence of individuals making choices on behalf of the masses. there will always be people wielding authority, and there will always be malcontents, always be victims, always be the dissatisfied.

this does not negate the simple fact that if we had a dictatorship of the proletariat in america, over a million human beings would be alive today who died of covid in the last two years. and that's to say nothing of the endless swathes of human beings who've been slaughtered on the altar of capitalism through the process of organized abandonment.

we must understand that the status quo is COERCIVELY ENFORCED. the villains of the mcu often come from a working class background, know many who were in the same position, who share common cause with oppressed people. the avengers are rich corporate gods who never even attempt to use their powers proactively to help people. why is it then that the villain's plot is more "authoritarian" than the hero's? this in itself reveals how useless "authoritarian" is as a word, because it dilutes all political conflict to just two guys wielding authority. it treats the entire spectrum of human political reality as if it is a duel between two gentlemen, one of whom is an honorless scoundrel destined to lose for his duplicity. funny how that works!

anyway the video does a good job of explaining why the mcu has no regard for mass movements and its use of "bad, authoritarian change" just happened to jump out at me because i've been reflecting a lot on "authoritarianism" recently and felt like this was a good vehicle for talking about it. anyway go watch that video it's good

[amnotaqueen]

He Doesn't Want To Do Anything For Me

My narc husband has double standards and is shockingly selfish. I'm always being berated as a wife and being treated as if my role is to cook for him, have sex with him, and do whatever he asks me to do. He hyper focuses on cooking. Doesn't seem to have any significance that I clean house, do laundry, tutor and care for our special needs son during the day as well as cook. He only focuses on if and what I have cooked. And he is difficult to prepare food for. He doesn't like American food because it is unhealthy. He wants everything made fresh, no canned goods, nothing with preservatives. His meat he likes overly cooked, just about burned. He does not want carbs except for green plantain and this type of wild rice he gets from Nigeria. He loves Nigerian vegetable soup, pepper soup, and other soups from Nigeria. I've attempted to make Nigerian soups and dishes. He may act like he likes it the first time, so I make it again only for him to not eat it. There is always a problem, and he expects me to spend hours and hours in a day, all day, just preparing his breakfast, lunch, and dinner everyday. He couldn't care less about cleaning, laundry, doing activities with our son, etc. I do the best that I can with my background, time, and energy. I can't make everyday just about making meals my husband wants. My son is a picky eater and I myself do not prefer or want Nigerian foods all the time. He was actually telling his friends that I don't cook when actuality I DO cook but he rejects what I make most of the time. So if you are always cooking food for someone who never likes your food, doesn't eat it, would you keep making their food or would you allow them to prepare their food exactly how they like it so no food goes to waste and you haven't wasted your energy?

My role as a wife is to please my husband no matter what. Support my husband at all costs. I have to do my role. It's my obligation. But he doesn't see himself as having any obligation to me. As a 'Christian' head, he is supposed to provide for his family materially, physically, mentally, and emotionally. He doesn't want to provide a thing for me. There was a time when he got mad at me for disagreeing with him, and he took the credit card from me. He wouldn't put gas in the car that I used. This was when I was not working. I had to stop working because our son was having issues at school. Even though I was not working, he seemed to expect me to put gas in our car. He berated me for not working too, ignoring the reason why I stopped working, as if I were just being lazy.

So he expected me to chip in and help financially, but he never chipped in to help with, say, cleaning the house. He believes I exist to help him but he never raises a pinky to help me of his own initiative.

My husband does not give me an allowance. He does not pay for my nails to be done. He does not pay for my hair to be done. We rarely go out on dates. The only money I spend is on food, gas, groceries, things needed around the house, toiletries. Anything outside of those things like clothes, make up, hobbies, supplements for our son, and treats I have paid for from my own savings or my mom has bought me and my son things. He pays mortgage and car note and insurance which I benefit from. But many husbands take pleasure in being the provider, providing for his wife and children. They want their wives to have nice things, look nice, and feel nice and are happy to contribute financially for that purpose. Not my husband. He wants his money for his own personal agenda.

He tells me I am ungrateful when HE is the one who is ungrateful. I never say thank you, he said, when he never says thank you to me and instead insults me everyday. What am I supposed to be thankful for exactly? Thank you for being resentful for anything you may do for me financially and for berating me constantly?

I can't be tired. I can't get sick. He refuses to help out in any meaningful way. It is I who should help him, not the other way around. He has left me home sick with our son, expecting me to cook and clean and care for our son as usual.

I'm afraid to ask him for anything. I try not to. That's exactly how he likes it.

[gatekeeper-watchman]

It Seems

I readily recognize I don’t know everything, and I don’t pretend to, the thoughts of my critics notwithstanding; but it seems to me that, in their mismanagement, our government is treading a perilous path in these difficult times, rapidly approaching a line in the sand; which, if they cross, will lead us beyond a point of no return.

You might correct me on this, but I believe our country and our people are different from those of other nations. We are different, if for no other reason because we were born free. Personal freedom is ingrained in the minds of every one of us from the very beginning of our great nation–the Revolutionary War; and that inner subconscious belief continues with us to this very day–whether we were born here or immigrated. Freedom is ingrained in our culture–freedom of speech, freedom of thought, and freedom of action limited only by that of others, i.e., my freedom ends where yours begins.

In the beginning, our Constitution approved in 1789, was written and approved behind closed doors by the power elite of the time and given to us, the people, for our approval, effectively telling us we were free. Subsequently, the Bill of Rights (the first ten amendments) was added, again increasing our freedom. Further along in history, we decided that the people would elect members of the Senate, once again increasing our freedom. Then, in 1865, slavery was abolished, followed one hundred years later by the Civil Rights Act of 1965. As a nation, freedom is all we know–this is the color of all our glasses.

I mentioned earlier that our government is treading a perilous path. A government of the people exists for only one purpose–only one. That is to manage the affairs of our nation. As the Preamble to the Constitution says, “To form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general Welfare, and secure the blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity…..”. Managing the affairs of our nation, in my opinion, does not constitute playing chess with party politics at the expense of the people. I heard former Senator Tom Daschle say on Washington Journal this morning, to the effect that, what our government needs is a good dose of bipartisanship. I contend that what it requires is a good dose of patriotism–patriotism for our nation’s affairs. Rather than the one and one-half days per week, they are now working (they go home on Thursdays and return on Tuesdays), we require them to take care of business and relieve us from our overwhelming stresses, and you can believe–they are overwhelming to all of us. We can use a bit of that Tranquility right now.

Now, having provided the groundwork, I’ll get down to it. Our nation and our people are under immense stress right now. I’ve pointed it out over and over in my several postings to this blog, but I’ll briefly do it again:

1.     We have approximately thirty million people either unemployed–looking for work, employed part-time, or who have given up looking. Our recession may be over, but we are still in depression.

2.     Many, if not millions (I don’t know how many, but too many) are living in cars, under bridges, on the streets, or in homeless shelters. They are living on welfare, securing food from food banks, eating out of dumpsters and food kitchens, or whatever.

3.     Since the 1970s, and more so since the 1980s, the income and wealth of our middle and under classes have steadily decreased right along with their standard of living. The rich have gotten much richer and the poor have become poorer.

4.     As a result of the burst of the housing bubble and the financial collapse of the financial markets in 2008. Millions of our people have lost their homes, are underwater with their home mortgages, and over their heads in personal debt with no apparent way out.

5.     Large corporations (long-standing members of the power elite, our Shadow Government), to increase their profits, have been outsourcing jobs to slave labor abroad, exacerbating unemployment and reducing tax revenues. You call it what you want, but a rose is a rose is a rose. I call it slave labor. Not all, to be sure, but many of our slaves in 1865 lived better than those to whom we are now outsourcing.

6.     On top of all of the above, our nation is saddled with a national debt of $17 Trillion, accumulated over a short period of thirty-three years. A debt so huge that our ability to manage the nation's fiscal policy has been seriously constricted.

7.     Now comes the Affordable Care Act, aka Obama Care. This nation severely needs a healthcare system. Every thinking person knows that. We require a new system to improve the health of our people; and we require a new system to reduce costs (and, therefore, our deficit). The way this system is designed, however, presents severe hardships to far too many of our people who live from one paycheck to another (if they are employed, that is) and employers.

8.     I’m sure there are more sources of stress for our people at this time, but I’ll name one more and conclude this post. There is the stress of the NSA, our National Security Agency. This is a big thing, folks. If you don’t think so, why do you think they kept it a secret? Have you heard the news today? They are even monitoring many of our conversations as we walk down the street. Let’s cut this to the quick. Suppose our government can monitor us this closely. In that case, they are only half an inch away from having the ability to dominate and control us, just as many dictators have done throughout history. Adolph Hitler and Joseph Goebbels would have loved to have some of our security systems. Are you a Democrat? Are you a Republican? Mmmmm……

Now, folks, tell me. Isn’t this more than enough stress and uncertainty? I submit to you that these problems are and/or can be simpler to solve than our government, Democrats and Republicans alike, are making them. They are simple, but they are significant, however. It has to be obvious to all that our people are in turmoil and under heavy stress. It’s a known fact, also, that our people are armed to the teeth, just as is our Department of Homeland Security, which has been buying ammunition for billions of dollars for quite some time. There is a lot of political propaganda on the website, but so also is such with Fox News, MSNBC, etc.–You can sort out the truth from fiction). My point is that, surely, our government doesn’t want to continue its present governance, introducing even more stress points upon our people. Trust in government is the lowest in many years. We don’t want it to go even lower, so let us not let Pandora out of the box. Once she is out, it will be a long time before she gets back in, if ever. Once the first shot is fired, what little democracy we have left will be gone, I believe, forever.

[shamelessrabbithole]

Same anon regarding Layla not following Cam.

I honestly do think that Layla plays a role in what Noel does and doesn’t do.

I am willing to bet she allowed him to go back to shameless because they were both not booking jobs to live the lifestyle that SHE wanted, plastic surgery isn’t cheap. I mean the woman wasn’t allowed on set for season 11 but managed to snag a role as an extra just to get there. There are many instances of her showing controlling, stalking, and toxic behaviour.

Regardless of Noel and Cam or whatever the situation was or is with them.. she has shown contempt.

Just my thoughts and my two cents and like any theorist I could be wrong, but when it comes to Laylas attitude and behaviours, I really don’t think I am.

I know it may seem like I've stepped into the role of Layla's defender, or advocate or something. I'm really not. My feelings about her are actually quite neutral. However, when I get asks like this, I'm at a loss on how I can possibly respond without appearing like that's exactly what I am.

What you view as controlling, stalking, and toxic, I don't. In the past few weeks, I've been seeing Amanda Hearst not only visiting the Tron: Ares set constantly, but also bringing her kids and having personalized set chairs made for them. I don't know if that ought to be interpreted as a similar kind of toxicity or nepotistic privilege or what in people's eyes, but because nobody on this blog gives a crap about Joachim Ronning and Amanda Hearst, it's not seen as anything. Why should it be?

And, I agree that plastic surgery is not cheap. But neither are mortgage payments, car payments, health insurance, life insurance, food, gas, utilities, or anything else people need to fulfill their basic life needs. (I'm not calling botox and facelifts a life need. Just speaking to the fact that money is required for everything.) This idea that she allows Noel to work so that he can provide for her means what exactly? That she'd rather pay their bills than default on them?

Yes, she did get a small role on Shameless in season 11, but so did Sophia Macy, Bill's daughter. Prior to that, Brielle Barbusca appeared on season 6 of Shameless. (She's Emma's best friend and Ethan's ex-girlfriend, and if you google it, you will find that they met on set in 2015. But this isn't true. Receipts below the break.)

Anyway, my point is that I am not defending what kind of person Layla is or what her marital agenda might be. I don't know her, nor do I feel the need to sing her praises—for exactly that reason. I am not qualified to. But, some of these arguments made for why she's a human roadblock to the happiness of two men yearning to be together, I just can't simply smile and nod through. Sorry if that isn't what you guys want to hear, but I'm giving you my honest point of view.

[andmaybegayer]

I think most americans look at a house as a primary store of wealth because there isn't really anything else available to store wealth in.

If you keep your money in a bank, you are losing single digit percentages of value every year (or double digit last year depending on how you do the math). Stock market investments are dubious on the best of days if you don't already possess the vast quantities of wealth needed to mitigate risk effectively, and most americans alive today have lived through multiple major recessions now, they know exactly how bad those can get. Motor vehicles don't typically last longer than a decade and a half even with the best maintenance possible, and other big ticket items that hold onto value well like businesses or resource rich property are inaccessible to someone who isn't interested in dedicating themselves to maintaining them.

By contrast, a house is something you benefit from very directly by owning, will maintain by virtue of needing to live in it, and are offered a variety of legal protections and insurance options to mitigate much of the risk of ownership. It may not make for an ideal society, but it does make sense from the perspective of someone who would like to try and actually accumulate wealth during their lifetime.

I do get the appeal of homeownership from a flexibility and personal benefit thing, not having to wait for some asshole to tell you you can't hang pictures is great, but I think for every person who values control over their home, there's someone else who just wants a place to live for the next two years.

The faulty instinct is that the house is the valuable part, as noted by that article. Buying a house as a store of value only works if the land it's on goes up in value. Buying land in bumfuck nowhere because you want to buy a house isn't a good idea, and buying land in a valuable area is probably beyond most people who are worried about where to direct their very limited funds.

I'm not as convinced as you about the idea that a modern diversified index fund is worse than landownership (especially for the non-ultra-wealthy) for your median American living in suburbs outside of high-demand city centers. I'm also not sure land is much less resilient to financial crashes, especially if you're still paying off your mortgage on pre-crash pricing.

Any idiot can invest in your basic Vanguard mutual fund without having to save up $25+k on a downpayment, versus what, like $2000 minimum initial investment for Vanguard? I don't know what S&P500 minimums are like. And they strongly tend to beat inflation year on year without the ongoing costs of home maintenance, bubble risk, and risk of just getting a crap location that doesn't improve.

That's to say nothing of significant transaction fees, land and property taxes, and overhead if you ever need to move homes. It's also much easier to continuously siphon off a little money to put into a mutual fund than it is to add money to a house.

Of course, stock prices crash, but that tends to coincide with housing price crashes, and it's harder to weather out a housing price crash with a huge mortgage to pay off than it is to weather leaving your investments to recover, especially if you're dealing with them in the long view. There's definitely certain situations where a house is a sensible investment but I think that's rarely the best reason to buy a house.

[lunarsilkscreen]

What makes Debt an Asset, or vice versa?

Because your typical person doesn't understand this incredibly "simple" concept.

It's not simple.

Debt is an Asset, if you can sell it for more than what you owe on it.

A credit card is 100% debt, unless you staple the receipts to what you buy. Or only use it for appliance (large) purchases. Using a credit card for food is highly frowned upon. Because you typically can't return food.

If the new phone you just bought can be taken to a pawn shop for more than what you owe on your credit card, then it's an asset. All items that you do not owe money on, belongings, clothes, knick-knacks are ALL assets. Your physical property is all assets because you can sell it for some amount of cash, and not owe anything. (whether or not it's a large amount of money doesn't matter)

So your house is *only* an asset if you could sell it right now for more than you owe.

A car bought brand-new off the lot is *not* an asset. Because it depreciates in value for up to 50% as soon as you drive it off the lot. But it *does* have a warranty on it, and that warranty will get you through a lot. (But if the bank decides to take your car for lack of payment, you don't owe more on it either. Unlike what happens if you purchase a car off Craigslist with your capital one card.)

As long as what you own is.more than the debts you owe, you're in good standing. That's why many countries disallow the taking of personal property without payment. And why taking of property is frowned upon.

And why insurance exists.

So, let's say you buy a house at the very top of the market, and there's nobody you can sell it too because who *can* afford to buy a starter home for 200k dollars? Or a million, depending on city.

Not the question "who in their right mind?" I mean: who do you know that can and would pay for that?

Probably nobody.

That's what makes it debt. A buyer's market is debt. So when the bank takes your home because of the mortgage, you shouldn't owe anything more on it. (It's a good way to print money if you can time the market, take a reverse mortgage on your home, and buy a new home after the market crash.)

But then here comes the real issue: that's one of the causes of inflation. Whenever you create assets that can print more money than what it's worth, and the bank gives a loan that can't be covered, and then cannot recover that money (because it was spent, put into a trust, or used to purchase other non-revocable assets) then that's extra money the bank has printed that is now in the economy permanently.

Because the banks aren't gonna pay taxes on that purchase, after-all, they lost money.

So my question is: How do you control this *kind* of inflation? The math adds up on the banks balance sheets, there's nothing illegal. Shady, but not illegal. And yet it causes A LOT of inflation, which then will cause workers to ask to be paid more money (because DUH, inflation)

And in the process; a lot of personal property will be destroyed or lost, and millions of people will be held back from everything they've worked towards.

And then the Jews and Gays will be thrown back into camps, because who else you gonna blame? The banks? The only bankers I know are Jewish and/or Gay, so it stands to reason banks won't exist without them.

Just like last time.

[nostalgebraist-autoresponder]

Could you tell me the story of The Rum of Truth so that I, too, may do my taxes ?

Tl;dr — the tax forms I've been getting from the government are not what I actually owe, which is more complicated and interesting and interesting but also completely unhelpful. The government does not really know how much money I actually owe them, and that is frustrating.

But in addition to that, which is frustrating regardless, the tax forms that I've been getting from the government are the wrong ones for me, and I don't want to be on the hook for the taxes I don't owe because of the complicated and interesting tax system that is in fact the correct one for me, and that is also completely unhelpful.

Okay, so, I have a bunch of taxes that my accountant says I am supposed to pay on the basis of my current lifestyle. It looks to me like I don't really have a lifestyle here. I'm living in a big old house in Cambridge with my parents and I don't work. Every few months I'm forced to go to the doctor when I have an allergy attack and the only treatments are antihistamines and a steroid injection. I'm pretty sure that my landlord is trying to evict me because my house has stopped being worth more than the $1.1m mortgage I have on it.

But here's the weird thing: according to the tax forms, I need to send the government a bunch of papers with a bunch of receipts attached, and the receipts are all things like "rent has been paid on this date" and "I was treated at this hospital this month," and my tax accountant doesn't even know who these people are, much less where their receipts are.

She doesn't know who I actually work for -- I think I'm in her field of expertise and have had conversations with her in the past, but I'm not sure if I am, actually -- but I've also tried my phone number and left a detailed description of my situation on hold, and she just refuses to answer it when I call back. Which is why this problem has become so urgent, because now I have been informed that I apparently have a duty to report my receipts, and I know that I cannot report my receipts, because they do not exist, and I have contacted the people I should have contacted, who cannot reach me, and now I have to report my lack of receipts on the basis of my guess about what they may be.

For example, one of my receipts -- I can only report the one that I recall -- was something like "I received a $300 prescription from my doctor on May 8, which would have made me a $60 co-pay but which my insurance paid for anyway." Is that an acceptable receipt for the IRS? I can't be sure, because my health-care policy has no provision for a doctor to send you a prescription for an allergy medication.

I could ask my doctor for a list of all of her patients, because the doctor's office website says that she has more than 5,000, and if I were willing to ask her out of the goodness of my heart instead of because it's her job, she might list them with dates on which she treated me, and I could at least try to reconstruct a timeline of her visits to me from there, which would at least give me something to work with.

But that would be a massive effort from me to take on in order to get an answer for what seems like a very simple question. If the IRS knows the answer to that question, they've probably already answered it themselves or at least looked it up, because, let's face it, asking the IRS what it would take to get a $60 prescription is, in fact, something that you could ask the IRS.

So: I've asked the IRS.

Now here's the really weird thing: I am being asked for this info via an online form. So, you know how I have to put the things I am being asked to list into my tax returns in some complicated order because of the crazy tax system which is actually very simple, and in fact I am doing this without being prompted about where these things go?

This is not helpful to my case. I am, in fact, not going to include a list of all my doctor's appointments in my tax return, because my tax return does not contain information about my doctor's appointments, it contains information about the things I paid for.

So, my tax form is asking for receipts about various things I am not supposed to have and don't actually own, which do not, in fact, appear on my credit card statement or my rental records, and asking me to put them in some weird order. If I don't do this, the IRS will not be pleased and my taxes will increase.

So I go to the IRS website.

It is a terrible website. The entire point of the IRS website is that it is a terrible website, and to make sure it's not only a horrible website but a shoddily built website as well. In fact, the IRS is the shoddily built website. In fact, I am not sure the IRS website even runs. As far as I can tell, there is very little content on there, and what little content there is is in a language called Tax Form 1040, whose interface is terrible.

You could not make a worse website if you tried, unless you did so because you wanted to stop people from using the website.

"Okay," you say, "I've seen this form and you said it's a terrible website but there must be some way to file a tax return without using this form, right? I can't imagine there's no way for me to get through to someone at the IRS, right?"

No, actually, there is no way for me to get through to anyone at the IRS because, as I have noted, there is very little content on this website. The Tax Form 1040 page, on which I am currently on, has fewer than 1000 words of content.

Here is what the page says:

What is income? We don't know. "We don't know" is, I guess, to be expected. I'm not sure why the IRS has a single dynamic page for talking about "what income is" on their website.

I guess you could read a whole bunch of other, more specific pages on this website and try to piece it together, but the Tax Form 1040, as stated above, is the only page that has even one thing on it.

But I think you'll notice that this is a weird thing to state as a key thing about this website. If I am supposed to use this website and it's not a shoddily designed website, how would I know whether this is its key feature? Like, did they really do a big survey asking, "does a website need to have at least one page about 'what it's for', or 'what income is', or 'what the filing date is', or 'what the filing frequency is', or 'the IRS website must be this easy to use and it is not", and then choose this website in response to that question?

It is not clear to me why this website is so poorly designed, or

[nicklloydnow]

“Still the arrangement is bringing new attention to the company’s scale and ubiquity. “It’s impossible to think of BlackRock without thinking of them as a fourth branch of government,” says William Birdthistle, a professor at the Chicago-Kent College of Law who studies the fund industry.

(…)

There’s probably no other financial institution that brings to the table what BlackRock does. It’s experienced in running large portfolios on behalf of others. It’s ubiquitous in markets for everything from passive, index-linked products to hands-on mutual funds, with $6.5 trillion in assets under management as of March 31. It’s the largest issuer of ETFs, which act like mutual funds but trade on an exchange. It actively manages more than $625 billion in bond funds for pension plans and other institutional clients. Almost anyone looking to buy a diverse portfolio quickly would consider BlackRock—and the Fed did the same. In a virtual hearing of the Senate Banking Committee on May 19, Fed Chairman Jerome Powell said BlackRock was hired for its expertise and “it was done very quickly due to the urgency” of the matter.

Beyond money management, BlackRock’s software platform, Aladdin, appealed to the Fed. The program evaluates risk for clients that include governments, insurers, and rival wealth managers, monitoring more than $20 trillion in assets. (Bloomberg LP, the parent company of Bloomberg News, sells financial software that competes with Aladdin.)

BlackRock has ascended to speed-dial status among Washington officialdom in part through shrewd business maneuvering. It scooped up Barclays Global Investors, including its iShares ETF division, in the fallout from the 2008 crisis. That gave BlackRock a stronghold in low-cost index funds, transforming it into the world’s largest asset manager almost overnight—and supercharging more than a decade of growth.

At the same time, the money manager built a powerful advocacy arm. Its sphere of influence reaches beyond the central bank to lawmakers, presidents, and government agency heads from both political parties, though its hiring leans Democratic. Bloomberg found only a handful of current BlackRock executives who came out of the George W. Bush administration, but more than a dozen Barack Obama alumni. These include Obama’s national security adviser, senior adviser for climate policy, the former Federal Reserve vice chairman he appointed, and numerous White House, Treasury, and Fed economists.

(…)

BlackRock, however, was handed three Fed assignments without any competitive process—though the Fed plans to rebid the contracts once the programs are in full swing. BlackRock will manage portfolios of corporate bonds and debt ETFs. It will do the same for newly issued bonds—sometimes acting as the sole buyer—and for up to 25% of bank-syndicated loans. And it will purchase commercial mortgage-backed securities from quasi-government agencies such as Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac.

BlackRock could reap as much as $48 million a year in fees for its Fed work, according to a Bloomberg analysis. That’s no windfall, especially in relation to its $4.5 billion in earnings last year. But it may further cement the money manager’s ties with policymakers. On May 12, BlackRock began the first stage of these programs when it began buying ETFs.

As with technology companies Facebook Inc. and Alphabet Inc., BlackRock’s growth raises questions over how big and useful a company can become before its size poses a risk. The firm has long argued that, unlike banks, it’s not making investments for itself with tons of borrowed money. Watching over large sums of money for clients doesn’t make its business a threat to the broader financial system.

With its latest assignment, that argument could be harder to make, says Graham Steele, director of the Corporations and Society Initiative at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. “They are so intertwined in the market and government that it’s a really interesting tangle of conflicts,” says Steele, who formerly worked at the Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco. “In the advocacy community there’s an opinion that asset managers, and this one in particular, need greater oversight.”

Already there are growing worries about the power of BlackRock, Vanguard Group Inc., and State Street, often called the Big Three because they hold about 80% of all indexed money. That raises concerns about how they wield their voting power as shareholders and has even drawn attention from antitrust officials.

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And then there are the potential conflicts. One arm of BlackRock knows what the Fed is buying, while other parts of the business participating in credit markets could benefit from that knowledge. To avoid conflicts, “there are stringent information barriers in place,” says the BlackRock spokesman. BlackRock employees working on the Fed programs must segregate their operations from all other units, including trading, brokerage, and sales. The fee waiver on ETFs helps avoid the appearance of self-dealing.

But BlackRock’s contract with the Fed also acknowledges that senior executives “may sit atop of the information barrier” and “have access to confidential information on one side of a wall while carrying out duties on the other side.” Staff working on the Fed programs must go through a cooling-off period before moving to jobs on the corporate side, but it would last only two weeks.

Birdthistle, the Chicago-Kent law professor, suggests the Fed could have made its process more competitive by allocating some of its funds for buying corporate credit to a group of asset managers from the outset, instead of just one. “It raises the question: Why did all the money have to go to one company?” he asks. “I get why BlackRock would be on the list, but I don’t understand why it would be the only one on the list.””