#what is cognitive dissonance

[abyssaldyke]

It seems like the older I get, the more irrationally angry casual censorship makes me. And it isn't just the "unalive" "grape" alleged filter-dodging vernacular, but the way normal words will be peppered with asterisks, or screenshots will have words like "gay" "hell" "fuck" etc either partially or entirely blurred. Who is this helping? What is the purpose of it, except to reinforce shame and elevate a flimsy perception of purity and safety, however those things manifest. It's so tiresome and I'm sick of it.

[idontmindifuforgetme]

I genuinely think that any change in behavior starts w telling yourself that your worst days, worst performances, just worst moments in general aren’t who you “truly are.” It’s all about unlearning any thought process that essentially chalks up traits you aren’t proud of to “this is who I really am” “in reality I’m lazy” “in reality I’m just a bad person” bc not only is that never true, but it impedes your efforts to try to do better as well. Anything we struggle with has roots in things like childhood trauma, thoughts you’ve been fed before, your upbringing…. but never that you’re inherently a bad person. What I’m learning this year is that a lot of us doing better & being better & improving really comes down to self-talk—to disavowing the very notion that deep down we’re simply bad.

[diphowell]

So are you saying that the audience gave us a more comfy place to come out?

[pillarsalt]

Currently trying to crawl my way through Cat Bohannon's Eve: How the Female Body Drove 200 Million Years of Human Evolution. It sucks because I've enjoyed a lot of it, the actual evolutionary and developmental biology discussion is super interesting and informative, and the illustrations are so gorgeous. But then every twenty pages she'll follow up a brilliant paragraph with the dumbest trans-pandering shit you've ever read, with zero of the evidence normally provided to justify every other subject in the book. It's like she's constantly grovelling on hands and knees not to get cancelled for the mortal sin of daring to write about the female sex. Severely irritating and really brought down the experience of reading it.

[jelonelum]

:/ i dont get how u can read tbhk and come away thinking . Yeah the core message here is that supernaturals must be perished . this is a romance manga, and many of the relationships serve to bridge the gap between humans and supernaturals.

i get that people view characters like teru and hanako as reliable sources of information, but this is a manga and since all the information is gleaned through dialogue, you cant just take things at face value... when hanako says " destruction is the only salvation for supernaturals", this is less indicative of some greater universal truth and, more of a window into hanakos own system of values. (and we know hanako is somewhat self devaluating) (plus kou literally challenges that notion just seconds later like wauhjsahusdfiq)

like post no6 arc, im shocked that this is still what people take away from the story; the no6 arc shows us how both sumire and hakubo were exploited and taken advantage by not supernaturals but,, OTHER HUMANS. even going back to the beginning of the series, we see the vital role the rumors propagated by (Shocking. HUMANS) has over the action of supernaturals; they act under the discretion of their rumors. as long as humans circulate negative rumors, they are going to be dangerous. for a family like the minamoto clan, who has built their legacy off of slaying supernaturals. Isnt that..... pretty convenient ?

i know people inform their understanding of tbhk through aidairos other works, namely dmld, and even though that ending is somewhat tragic, its not an ENTIRELY nihilistic message. karuto and lily live within the confinement of the rules of their society, and these rules are never directly challenged ; instead, karuto finds a way to work within the system to create a solution. his deception of lily is definitely portrayed as somewhat gritty, but dmld is a oneshot, so it makes sense for it to end on a somewhat unexpected , perhaps nihilistic note. but tbhk creates a world with much more depth ; and unlike dmld, a big theme in tbhk is , Hope ! ACT ON YOUR DESIRES! bend the rules , CHANGE THE WORLD!

this isn't like...oyasumi pun pun, this is a romance manga with both dark and lighthearted elements. after 120+ chapters exploring the characters and the world they live in, wouldn't 'exterminate all supernaturals' be a pretty empty message? ?

[simcardiac-arrested]

THE MOST OBJECTIVE MINDS ARE SMOTHERED WITH GOLD, THE MOST DILIGENT HANDS ARE CAKED WITH BLOOD, THE MOST

The Most Virtuous Sources are Packed with Integrity! We at For Reasons Known Care about Your Truth!

[yikesy]

no no but what does hermes mean when he says that "gods can't change"

because like,, buddy I know you're very good at ignoring reality but surely even you cannot not notice the way you act exactly nothing like you used to

[stlamb]

they did a study and the average shein consumer is 35 years old, makes 65k a year on average, and spends $100 on average a month ($1,200 a year - 60% more than the average US woman)

also - ???

[thisusernameisalreadytakwn]

Okay I’m actually replaying patho 1 now and I just need to say

Daniil is not that rude. Like he is kind of pretentious but overall he is honestly really polite and very willing to cooperate and help the people he is talking to when he first arrives in town.

Like the only exceptions are the olgimskys who are just straight up lying to his face and the second convo with Georgi. You know, the one where he basically says “yeah the plague would be really bad so let’s ignore it and keep investigating for murder”. And honestly calling him an idiot in Latin is kind of an appropriate response to that. And even then his options are mostly just expressing his (very understandable) frustration with the situation he has been put in.

Like he seems more just exasperated and frustrated that everyone around him is not taking the problem seriously and constantly playing games with him. And that’s day one lmao I haven’t even finished day 2. You know the day that is all about people playing games with you while you try to prevent an epidemic.

[soapsod]

little wip

[fafodill]

I never got why people had to make things up to dislike Snape.

You hate him for being a asshole (witch he is) you can hate him for being a heavy handed teacher, you can even hate him for being greasy little freak but don't hate him for something he didn't do.

P.S Love the moody little fucker

As I've been falling in love with Snape's character, I talked about it with a few people and what is striking to me is just the aura he kept even after the last book.

Severus Snape was the character 'we weren't sure about' until the end. This was a deliberate trick (and a very good one) from jkr which had been very much accentuated by the villain caricature that was made of him in the first 2-3 books. These books were very simplistic (and not bad by any means, they weren't meant to become such a huge success, nobody expected it) and in them, Snape was the mean teacher every kid liked to hate. We all had one teacher a bit like that. Sure, Voldemort was the real big villain but he wasn't close to Harry or us. Snape was. We could relate to Harry's dislike of Snape. He was unfair, angry, greasy, shifty and mysterious.

And when you read the books, the way Harry talks about him and sees him is so biased. Just these scenes from GoF:

Harry’s loathing of Snape was matched only by Snape’s hatred of him, a hatred which had, if possible, intensified last year, when Harry had helped Sirius escape right under Snape’s overlarge nose. “It’s no one’s fault but Potter’s, Karkaroff,” said Snape softly. His black eyes were alight with malice. Snape’s eyes met Harry’s, and Harry knew what was coming. Snape was going to poison him. Harry imagined picking up his cauldron, and sprinting to the front of the class, and bringing it down on Snape’s greasy head.

Harry is always super dramatic about their relationship. He imagines the worst, interprets his expressions, always emphasizing on his physical attributes in a negative way. The text is littered with this and it impacts the reader's emotions towards him. We're supposed to be on Harry's side and Snape is against Harry, therefore he is against us. And this feeling - this childish hateful feeling - sticks. And it stuck with the readers until the very end and well ; it's pretty hard for a lot of people to take the time to reconsider their feelings towards a character they so thoroughly disliked or downright hated for so long (which is exactly what might have happened in the wizarding world after his death btw).

When I talk to people in my life about my love for Snape, they always bring up how mean he was to Harry. They do remember he loved his mother but never took the time to reconsider his actions and what we had learned about him and what it meant. How good he was despite his shitty attitude. How selfless, how remorseful, how loyal, how brave he was.

Snape's story could only be understood when you got at the very end of it, when he finally gave up his truth.

And it required of us to think back on our prejudices.

Most people haven't and there's a clear dissonance in their discourse about him. They cannot accept that he was good.

But he was. He truly, truly was.

Maybe one of the best.

[blankerthought]

accidentally thought about @mixelation's toxicity au for too long so here's tori and obito

[inquisimer]

as an antivan crow, Davrin's whole "a bunch of Wardens were the 'wrong sort' right up until they took their vow" conversation never fails to make me laugh. like

Davrin: thieves, Rook! thieves and even some murderers!

Rook, who kills people for money: huh. imagine that

[benevadeca]

Ok ramblings that lost the plot but... One of my least favorite SJ tropes is his past abuse leaking and everyone is suddenly soooo sympathetic to his past as a slave. Like it puts so much of the misunderstandings about him on his own shoulders, in a "oh this was a safe space and if you'd just been honest people would've been understanding" way. And i get it's a very modern-ism to be like ofc slavery is bad and the worldbuilding has weird mixes of gayness being fine but slavery is legal.

Like if anything the reveal in the original PIDW-verse just reaffirms to them at the end that ofc SJ was an outsider that could never fit in or make nice. They would've been like well that's a mortal social issue that the cultivation world should be above but ofc it makes so much sense for a snake like him to have been lying and hiding even more of his true colors.

And I mean even in SVSSS verse w shen yuan when it gets revealed they're just like well whatever! We don't care abt his past bc he's our guy and stopped being sucks so he like got over it and also we have a monopoly on violence so him doing a little childhood massacre is fine. He's Good (read: one of us) now. Like the hypocrisy and classism and ignorance, not even of social issues or your peers burdens but not even knowing what you don't know, is never something the members of the cultivation world ever worry about until it the consequences of those things actively effects them. SJ was their martial sibling but never One Of Them, but SY integrated well in an entirely different cultural norm bc he still had young master socialization. And unlike SJ he was good at being nice even though it was for equally selfish reasons as SJ's meanness. IE both being their learnt survival methods they used to protect themselves.

Idk it just undermines SJ's entire reasonable paranoia and valid reasons for not being willing to reveal the things he could v much get into legal trouble with, that people would use against him, the tangible discrimination that exists, etc. Like he was literally named qingqiu it kind of shows the trend of the things people do to him when they Know.

Anyway idk let them be ignorant and hypocrites! I like SY as a character bc he's a Nice person that is simultaneously incredibly narrow-minded, privileged, selective in who he gives a shit abt, and resistant to having his preconceptions questioned until his life is literally on the line lol. They are both posers! And for that to be undermined by the well sy wins bc he is Nice and Cares while sj wasnt those things is so like. Reductionist and equally woobifying in my opinion.

Rest of the CQM PL's too! CQM is destroyed in original PIDW-verse not just bc of SJ but bc it's complacent w the system no matter the guise it puts on as being the liberal equitable sect. Like this is the breaking the bones and locking a kid in a cave and then sending him to fight a demon lord sect.

[normalbrothers]

"there's somehing bisexual about him, but not in a preference kind of way" is just a very funny thing to say really

[youandthemountains]

honestly this was an otherwise interesting and good meta post but this fucking read from sp/rk fans drives me crazy, it turns every single one of those characters so one dimensional. McCoy actually does have an internal moral drive that has more criteria to it than How Can I Make Kirk Happy?

How do you ignore the character that he is so fully that you think this is the only reason he's willing to sacrifice himself? He does it at the drop of a hat if he thinks it's necessary. Spock was not wrong when he said McCoy had a martyr complex. When they ask McCoy if he has anyone he's willing to spare from the medical team and he says he can spare himself - is that because he knows losing the medical team would be harder for Kirk? When he tests the cure on himself in Miri is it only because it would be harder for Kirk to have the whole crew die? Arguably maybe it would!

But it's incredibly fucked up to think McCoy might not actually have his own opinions and limits and is unwilling to let people die or be hurt when he can do something about it when he quite literally is The Heart of the show, to Spock's Mind and Kirk's Body. like go on and say he knows it'd be harder for Kirk to lose Spock but just know that losing a mind leaves you brain dead, losing a heart kills you 🤷