#weight talk cw

[burade]

sometimes i think “hmm i should go on a diet to be skinnier for my sanji cosplay” and then i realize how diametrically fucking opposed to the spirit of said cosplay that would be

[annabelle--cane]

ticks me off to no end when people come onto my posts to make very confident incorrect assumptions about my personal life. "your sample is skewed because you're at college and so only associate with rich kids" I go to poor people school and have qualified for food stamps since I was ten. "your perspective on femininity is skewed because you said you're malnourished which means you're thin" nope not even a little bit, I've got those potato famine genes. being malnourished simply decreases my quality of life while maintaining my weight.

[rose-by-the-sea]

Me: I'm gonna fast for today! Maybe it'll boost my weight lo-

Aphrodite, tired of my shit: No.

Me: Oh. Okay

[audible-smiles]

Re: a certain post going around, please don’t refer to elective weight loss surgeries as “mutilations”. Yes, they can cause very serious complications; yes, a lot of people are pressured into them due to fatphobia; yes, sometimes people regret them. But these are still procedures that hundreds of thousands of real people have already had. People who are reading your posts. Those people are welcome to call themselves mutilated if they feel that way, but it’s pretty damn rude to call them that yourself. You can speak convincingly about medical bigotry and the inherent risks of elective procedures that alter the function of the digestive system without using the same weird, stigmatizing language about “mutilating healthy organs” that transphobes use. I actually think it detracts from the message.

[brehaaorgana]

Tbh every time I see someone start explaining the experiences of "skinny people" being treated with more idk...basic dignity regarding their body, I notice that they are inevitably wrong about the claims they make about what never or doesn't happen to thin people. And there's really no way to be like "actually, people do pathologize my appearance immediately and unprompted, this has happened all my life." Without derailing whatever point they're making.

I don't want to argue that skinny people are treated worse by society than fat people. I do wish people would stop making points about the insidiousness of fatphobia by declaring that skinny/thin people never experience xyz things when like...I have explicitly experienced them. That kinda sucks to hear.

"They never have to center their entire physical checkup around their weight or eating! The doctors don't ignore diagnosis of X or Y in favor of discussing their weight!" False, lol. Almost every single new medical professional I deal with has a lengthy interrogation about my weight, my eating, and what I eat. Every time. I also have to convince Drs that my weight is not a reason to refuse prescribing me medication I need. So.

"No one ever pathologizes their weight or appearance or assumes they're unhealthy based on sight alone!" Also false. Please tell that to the absolute unhinged weirdos who have diagnosed me with various eating disorders on sight TO MY FACE.

"people don't feel as entitled to making comments about their body, appearance, or clothes; they're not seen as a bad example for existing!" Again super false lol.

Hell, forget just comments! people would just grab me constantly from elementary through like, high school purely because of my size.

[dilfsisko]

Afraid to bring up I’m on ozempic in casual conversation. What if they think I’m on it for weight loss and try to talk about their diet……

[kareenvorbarra]

I used to be a skirt girl, I especially loved long skirts and dresses, and then I gained a lot of weight gradually over the course of about eight years and now none of the skirts I wore when I was in my teens and early 20s fit me any more, and I haven’t really had the heart to replace them yet….for a while I was kind of reluctant to buy new clothes I really liked and/or that were a little on the expensive side, because I worried that I would just not be able to wear them in a few years (which did happen with at least one very cute dress I bought like 6 months before the pandemic, I’m still bummed about that tbh)

But I probably should just buy some long skirts and start wearing them again. I miss them

[vilnan]

i haven't weighed myself in like four years, but i did on christmas and i've gained 15kg since then lol. but i also feel like i'm genuinely a happier person than back then, so like idk.

[ttaibhse]

it is crazy somehow to think about the fact that for years of my life i was really thin even though i didn't think i was and now i'm not anymore. i feel like my body image is on a 3-5 year lag

[housewifemd]

one of my fun uno reverse cards is that i have been largely unable to get doctors to help me with my weight because i don't *look* especially fat even though you can look at my labs and other health concerns and compare them to my bmi and see that obviously yes these things are related. Okay thanks guys really doing a good job of proving that you don't pick people to lose weight based on how much their appearance personally bothers you

[ethosuximide]

Yesterday I got confirmed as my Highest Weight Ever at the doctor's office and shortly thereafter realized I'm too fat to shop in-person at Old Navy because they don't carry my size in stores

So yknow. Not great.

[audible-smiles]

I’ve been getting ads for Wegovy online for about a year now. I was a little bit tempted because my lower back hurts constantly at my current weight, and I’ve already given up on dieting and won’t consider surgery. But I said to myself, “wait for a while. you know the history of weight loss drugs, don’t be an early adopter, you’ll probably regret it.” and guess what.

[colorisbyshe]

Lots of weight talk here, so watch out

I know this happens in other spheres but being in kpop fandom and watching people normalize extreme skinniness as like... athleticism or whatever WHILE simultaneously complaining about companies forcing diets and fans being too critical of idols is sooooooo much.

And like I do keep it to myself when I think an idol looks gaunt and unwell because commenting on other people's health is largely unnecessary but sometimes I do want to point it out just because I'll see people go "Wow, they look SO good and confident right now!" meanwhile they're a day away from being put on medical leave. And in some cases ARE put on medical leave.

It's even weirder because people will be soo passive aggressive about an idol putting on a little weight and will make sure to make weird comments about their styling or ~how brave they are or how they must be going through something tough right now, maybe it's medication making them larger, but if I think, even privately to myself, that someone looks too thin and I worry for them I'm the fucking problem.

Like witnessing drastic weight loss in real time and someone going "Yeah, they've just been taking care of themselves more" but if I go "Hey, maybe they're not okay and weight loss isn't inherently healthy" I'm the weirdo :|

Absolutely do not go out of your way to speculate stuff and again... commenting on other's health is WEIRD which is why I'm being o vague about this but... watching people do this in reverse (ie fawn over the weight loss and gush about how good they look) makes it so... I really feel the need to counteract it. Cause like... they'll say this about someone who looks like they're going to have a fainting spell. It feels a bit like someone is drowning and someone remarks on how cinematic it looks. Like... idk man is that the best way to react

[bloodenjoyer]

it really is insane the way that EVERYONE at my work just talks about weight loss constantly i guess thats what its like to work at a store that markets itself as """healthy""" but its like. Customers coworkers everyoneeee . SHUT UP !!!!! i dont wanna hear about keto or ""beach body"" i dont wana see those stupid awful magazines i dont wanna hear about calories or how you lost weight and why you swear by that method and recommend it i dont CARE be quiet be quiet be quiet !!!!!

[unsafe-chikku]

My relationship with food was always about guilt until fairly recently. I never had the drive to not eat the big carbs and sugars bc I perceived it all as all or nothing. I was a slob and doomed to be ugly and fat.

One of the main reasons (and I’m not joking) was seeing this commercial at the formative age of 13:

And another one I can’t remember that literally showed people with gigantic bits of “unhealthy”food in key places (thighs, belly, butt) and the tag “you are what you eat” .

One of the many driving keys to my extreme depression in my 20s was also extreme self hatred.

I was on a medication for hallucinations that came about from this extreme depression, and unknown to me, it was making me gain weight at a rapid pace even more than my normal antidepressants. ( I was switched off of it years later).

I had no idea it was the meds making me gain weight. So I assumed I was just such a peice of ugly shit that I couldn’t even have self discipline to not eat like a pig.

It didn’t help that my dad always had a quip about not ending up “ten pounds of potatoes in a five pound sack” and his mean comments about overweight people said to us as quiet jokes in public places. My mom was kinder but always tried to help me not gain weight with unsolicited advice.

It was probably way worse for my older sister who was deemed overweight from age 12 onward. (Turned out to be pcos. She even had aunts of ours telling her to stop eating all carbs and shit as a teenager. )

I went through a lot of diets from my teens onward., and only ended up hating myself more.

It was through realizing I was trans and through that accepting and learning to love my self and my body at any size and shape that I started to figure out how to live in a healthier way without getting angry when I “failed”. This was a very very slow process.

Actual info about how to actually be healthy becoming more mainstream than before especially online also helped.

Then I got a new psych who fixed my meds and I lost 20 pounds instantly.

And now that I have more motivation to move and eat better than ever before, there is a side affect of losing weight that I am watching with surprise and a strange sense of neutrality.

Like, If I lose weight bc of a healthier lifestyle, thats ok, it’s that’s not the goal, that’s just part of it for me for as long as it lasts. bc that weight wasn’t my natural size in a healthier lifestyle, if that makes sense?

So overall it ended ok but I wish I could go back and tell little and newly young adult me that they aren’t ugly failures for wanting to eat carbs.

[sometimesraven]

mmm nothing hits quite like finally being a healthy weight (maybe a lil over bc I don't exercise and eat crap foods but like,, i'm eating consistently now!) and looking for cosplay pieces only to repeatedly see your (average) size as "xxl" and "extra plus sized" or just not even an option