#very attracted to each other and about to be together in the marital embrace for the first time but the show doesnt (imo) go over the line

[lilaccatholic]

not me watching the doctor quinn wedding episode and realizing that watching that episode on reruns at age 12 permanently altered my brain to the point that that's just. how i write fade to black romance now 💀

[maraudersandlily20]

No Need to Call me Professor... Professor

Draco insisted that he didn’t wear rings. He didn’t really like it. He had never been fond of jewelry, and if Harry was going to insist on formality for the rest of their marriage, then he got to not wear a wedding ring.

So Harry wore one, a simple black metal one, thin and unassuming. Most days, he didn’t even remember it was there. But he liked when it caught the like and his eye got drawn to it. He liked the look of the ring, showing that someone had claimed him. It looked nothing like the rest of his rings that we wore, and that made it special.

After their first year of teaching, Harry had popped the question. Draco had cried and hit him in the arm a few times before saying yes. They had a small summer ceremony in the backyard of Andromeda Tonks. It was a small and beautiful affair and at the end, they were married. Husbands. Some days, Harry still couldn’t believe it. It had been a little over a year since then, and he was still not over it.

They were in their third year of teaching, having settled into routine and consistency. Harry loved teaching and he loved being at Hogwarts. He was unsure of why he had fought it so hard in the beginning, but decided not to worry. He was meant, at that moment, to teach students. Harry felt very lucky.

Draco and he had moved into one of the housing quarters in the castle, since Draco was the head of Slytherin. He needed to be near in case of emergencies. And Minerva had attended the ceremony, so there was nothing to worry about in terms of propriety. So they had settled quite comfortably into the castle, not really flaunting their marriage, or even really discussing it. 

It turned out that this would be their downfall.

Harry was sitting on his desk, watching Gilfrey, a little pigeon-like bird that had the ability to speak in complete sentences, fly about in circles around the ceiling. He had offered to care for the bird, since Minerva wasn’t a big fan of him in her office. He liked the small creature. He always kept him entertained between classes, repeating some of the things the students said. As he stared up at the ceiling, he almost missed the movement of his husband walking into his classroom.

“Hello love,” Draco said, his face warm.

“My darling! Welcome to your least favorite room in the castle.”

“Thank you kindly. It does have a certain… air about it. One of superiority and aggression. So many terrible memories within these walls.”

“Hmm,” Harry hummed. “I could say the same about your room.”

“Is that why you never come down to say hello?”

“That, and I wouldn’t be able to help myself. What with all the colorful potions and the dark lighting.”

“Disgusting,” Draco laughed. “I would never allow such a thing.” The two were smiling widely at each other and Harry wrapped his arms around his husband’s waist, pulling him between his thighs. Draco let his shoulder rest against Harry’s chest and looked up at Gilfrey. “I don’t know why you like this bird so much, Harry. He’s just like a tiny gossip. He doesn’t even really do anything beyond repeating words.”

Harry gasped, as if affronted. “Gilfrey, please let Mr. Malfoy know how we feel about that.” But the bird just chirped and landed on his little bed, ignoring them both. Draco laughed, as if victorious, and his husband grumbled, pulling him in nice and close. “He’s a good bird, Draco. I like him. That’s enough.”

“Alright, my love. Whatever makes you happy.”

“You make me happy.”

Draco gazed at him through slitted eyes. “Don’t start that, Potter. You know how insufferable I find you when you try to be charming.”

“I was paying you a compliment!” Harry argued, trying to hide his smile. “In fact, I was simply stating a fact.”

“I will make you sleep on the sofa if you say anything even remotely romantic again for the rest of the night. Do you understand?”

“Yes, professor,” Harry chuckled, pulling Draco in and giving him a soft kiss. As he was about to deepen the kiss, the door to the room started to swing open.

Draco was not one for openly showing his affection and so stepped out of Harry’s embrace. Two students walked in, stopping in alarm at the sight of the potions professor in their beloved DADA professor’s room. It had long been thought that they had a bit of a rivalry going on, their bickering noted by many students as they would meet in hallways between classes. However, it was beginning to morph. Some of the older students began to watch their professors and wondered if maybe the rivalry was hiding attraction beneath it. 

The Gryffindor’s and the Slytherin’s didn’t agree on much, but they certainly agreed that Professor Potter and Professor Malfy were perfectly suited for each other. And it was a bit of a secret goal to get them together, or to catch them in the act.

Andrew and Tuy stopped in the doorway, eyes wide as they took in Harry on the desk and Draco moving away from him. They shot each other sly glances and knew that the other members of the house would flip with this new knowledge.

“Thank you for your time, Professor. I’ll see you at dinner,” Malfoy said, moving past the two boys with a kind smile. They grinned at him.

“Don’t eat all of the pudding this time, Professor. You know how I get without it.” Harry called after him, trying to smother his amusement.

Draco scoffed and rolled his eyes, disappearing down the hallway. It was peculiar that they had been in the same classroom. Other rumors of the two often pinpointed them in Hogsmeade, corridors, or the quidditch pitch. They were rarely spotted in the other’s classroom.The students moved toward Harry, looking at him curiously.

“Sorry to intrude, Professor.” Tuy said, face red. “It’s just, Andrew wanted help with his paper and I didn’t want to tell him wrong, and Lynn said you were still in here, so we thought-”

Harry waved him off. “It’s no worries, lads. You aren’t intruding. Come on in. I’m happy to help.”

The three sat and discussed the information needed for the paper, despite Harry hating papers and never wanting to give them out. Minerva told him he was required to assign homework to his students, despite how much he hated to grade it. So they compromised. Harry assigned one paper each term, and that was it. Even then, it was practically the easiest homework of any professor, more like an opinion than based on fact. Harry liked it that way. He thought it encouraged more free thinking. 

When Andrew had finally gotten enough to finish his work, he started rolling up his parchment. “You’re a lifesaver, professor.”

“We can always count on you for anything, at any time of the day.”

Harry laughed. “Don’t tell my husband that. He’ll think you kids will start showing up in our bedroom unannounced.” He didn’t think much of the comment, since he felt like he was pretty open about his marriage. He was sure that he had mentioned his marital status before, with some student or another. It was almost an assumption of his that it was common knowledge. But his words had shaken the two students. 

Married? Professor Potter was married? Then what on earth was he doing, flirting and chasing Professor Malfoy?

“Is there anything else I can help you two with before we head into dinner?”

Andrew shook his head. “No sir, we’ll just go ahead of you. No worries.” He grabbed Tuy’s hand and the two raced out of the classroom, intent on sharing the horrible and intriguing gossip they had received straight from the source. Professor Potter was married, which meant he and Professor Malfoy were most likely having an affair! 

Harry sat on his desk, watching the two of them disappear, and shook his head. “Strange boys,” he murmured before leaving to head to dinner. 

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Milly was raising her hand as if her life depended on it, which surprised Harry. She was a talkative girl, but she didn’t care much about the subject of Netherland wraiths. She had made that clear the last few classes on the subject. 

“Yes, Milly. Go ahead.”

“Professor, I was just wondering. You always say that the best way to make a potion is to collect the correct ingredients. No matter how far away they grow. Right?”

“That’s right, Milly.”

“Would you say it’s true of people as well?”

Harry couldn’t understand the looks of shock and the gasps of alarm that rang from the students. His class was comprised of Ravenclaws and Slytherins, and while houses were much more inclusive since the war then his own day, he hadn’t seen any of these kids around each other outside of class. And he didn’t think they had much to discuss outside of his lectures. But here they were, riveted by Milly’s question and in turn, his answer.

“I don’t really see how that’s relevant-” he started, but she didn’t let him finish.

“Don’t you always say we should be curious about anything? That there should never be a time limit on our curiosity?”

He frowned. “I suppose.”

“I just want to understand better. You’re one of the only professors, besides Professor Longbottom, that discusses relationships. The other professors say that it isn’t important for us to understand the intricacies of human relationships, we just need to study academics.” There were murmurs of agreement at the statement, which took Harry by surprise. Were the other professors really so tight lipped about their lives outside of their classrooms? The students were interested in the world, they had questions that wouldn’t be answered anywhere else. “We just want to learn more about connection, and the “right ingredients”, you could say.”

He had to laugh. This was ridiculous. While he was glad they felt comfortable enough to ask him questions about life, it didn’t change the fact that they were all doing it to avoid learning about Netherland Wraiths. Were they seriously attempting to get out of classwork by asking questions on relationships? But, he guessed that they felt there wasn’t much choice. There was a moment where he remembered a young Harry Potter attempting to do the same, and he smiled. Sometimes, kids just didn’t want to learn.

He shut his book lightly and walked back to his desk, pulling himself up onto the ledge.

“Alright then, Milly. Let’s talk about connection.” He rubbed his face and wondered what to say to her question. “I suppose, to answer you, that it is true of people as well. Good relationships are proven when they are tested, right? Just like potions. Having the correct ingredients and putting them in at the right time is critical. Same with people. If you have someone in your life that fits you just right, but they show up at the wrong time, it can be disastrous.”

“What happens after that? Do they come back? Can you wait for them for the right time?” This question came from Roy, a Ravenclaw boy. 

Harry laughed. “You can. If you think that that person could be important to you, sometimes it’s a good idea to let them back in at different times, like testing the waters. My parents were a good example of this. My father was in love with my mother basically from the first time they met. But she wouldn’t give him the time of day because she thought he was a prat.” The class laughed, which made him smile. “But, as they grew up, my mum started to test the waters and found that he was her perfect match. It just took about seven years.”

A Slytherin girl, Hannah, raised her hand quickly and said, “Were they happy together?”

This made him pause. There was a tug in his chest that often came when he thought of his parents. But he knew the answer. “Yeah. Yeah they were happy together. Sometimes, the ingredients as Milly calls them, are actually right under our noses, waiting for us to sniff them out.”

“What if,” Milly spoke up again, “What if you find the perfect ingredient, but you’ve already… made the potion?” 

It was an odd question, and the girl beside Milly, Tanya, elbowed her to shut up, but Milly stared Harry down. In fact, it looked as if the Slytherin students were all casting him suspicious glances because of the questions, while the Ravenclaws were avoiding the conversation at this point entirely. He was surprised that it was coming to this.

“Are you… Are you asking me what I think about cheating?”

She nodded. 

It was an odd discussion to be having with these fifth year students. But he knew that some of them were dealing with terribly difficult situations at home, some not having good parents, others having no parents at all. But cheating? He wondered if they were dealing with this as well. It made sense. He really had no way of telling what their home lives were actually like. 

“Well, Milly, I think this might be a bit out of my league of knowledge,” he said, feeling himself get sheepish. “As your professor, I can’t give you a factually driven answer. But, if you’re asking me, Harry, what I think then I’d tell you that life is really hard. And the people you choose to keep in your life deserve to be loved and respected. And other people can become the right ingredients, over time.” There was a moment as he gathered himself before he pushed on. “I don’t think cheating is the way to go through relationships. I think it’s unfair and cruel. There should always be healthy communication in any relationship, and if that means calling it off before anything happens, then that’s important to recognize.”

Milly nodded, her face thoughtful. “And if, say, you knew that someone else was cheating and you and your friends didn’t agree on what was right and wrong and had split ideas about who and what to support, what would you do?”

Harry considered a moment before answering, “I would try and do what I thought was right. Sometimes people have different opinions than we do, and while it’s good to recognize that, what we think and what we feel deserves precedence. We can’t let other people’s opinions hinder our desire to do what’s right.”

The students were quiet. Some were staring at him, as if hurt by his words. Others seemed angry or unsettled. Others were staring at anything other than him. He didn’t know what was going on. 

“Any other questions?”

A hand, a timid hand, rose from the back of the room. His name was James, a Slytherin boy, that reminded Harry a bit of himself growing up. He didn’t speak much, so Harry felt shock at seeing his hand. 

“Yes James?”

The boy cleared his throat. “Are you… Are you happy, professor? Have you found your right ingredients?”

It was, without a doubt, the most personal question he’d ever been asked. But faces flashed in his memory; Ron, Hermione, Ginny, Luna, Neville, the rest of the Weasley family and the Order members, and of course, Draco. And he smiled. “Yeah, James. I think I have.”

Class finished shortly after that, and Harry noticed many of the Slytherin students refused to look at him as they left. He said goodbye to everyone he could, and watched in confusion as his classroom emptied. He was unsure of why class had gone the direction he had, and he worried he had said the wrong thing. But, he had just been honest with them. Wasn’t that what they wanted?

Gilfrey flew and perched on the large branch sticking up beside Harry’s table, and opened his mouth. “The Gryffindors were wrong,” Gilfrey mimicked a student’s voice, though Harry wasn’t sure who it was. “It’s time for war.” Harry stared at the bird in alarm. “War?” he said, shocked. “What war? What were the Gryffindor’s wrong about?” But Gilfrey didn’t say anything else. 

“Oh Merlin,” he groaned, pressing the heel of his palm into his hands. “What have I done this time?”

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Harry couldn’t explain it other than the fact that the students had split themselves in half. After hearing that the Slytherin and the Gryffindor houses were at odds over something, most likely regarding Harry, he began to notice how their behavior started to change. Students who smiled or waved at him in the hallways started ignoring him completely. Some students that he hadn’t spoken to since teaching them years before were actively seeking him out. He wasn’t sure what to make of it.

“Draco,” Harry broached the topic one morning as the two got ready for the day. 

“Hmm?”

“Have you noticed that the students are being a little bit… odd?”

Draco looked over at him, eyes smiling. “Is this about the supposed war you heard about last week?”

Harry didn’t hesitate. “Yes.”

His husband rolled his eyes and turned back toward the mirror, slipping his tie together and pulling it snugly against his neck. Harry couldn’t help but admire how handsome he looked. “I haven’t noticed anything more than usual. The Slytherins and the Gryffindors have been at odds with each other since the beginning of time. I don’t know what you overheard and what war they were talking about, but I wouldn’t let it get to you, love.”

“Right,” Harry agreed, feeling paranoid. “But, you really haven’t noticed a shift? Some students treating you differently, classes being more tense?”

Draco hummed for a moment. “You know, perhaps. I think my Hufflepuff classes have gotten significantly more… protective. Many of them ask how I’m doing or how I’m feeling as soon as they come in.”

“And that’s not normal?”

“Not really. I mean, a few of them do it out of habit, but I have seen an influx lately.”

“The Slytherins won’t even look at me without glaring,” Harry grumbled, folding his arms. “I feel like I’ve offended them somehow and I just don’t know how. Have the Gryffindors given you any trouble?”

Draco laughed and turned back to Harry, crossing his arms over his chest. “You mean more so than the normal behavior of Gryffindors?” Harry smiled back at him. “I suppose there have been occasions. The older classes have definitely been looking at me oddly, but I try not to dwell.”

Harry sighed and agreed and the two finished getting ready and headed toward the great hall together. As they walked, their hands started brushing against each other and Draco rolled his eyes at Harry’s juvenile attempt for physical touch. 

As they walked, neither of them heard the movement behind them as a Slytherin boy was pushed by a group of his friends and he pushed between the two of them. Harry stumbled to the side and Draco almost lost his footing. The boy pulled himself up straight and turned toward his head of house.

“Professor Malfoy, sir, I think there’s something you need to know!”

Draco’s eyes were wide. “Uh, alright Neil. What is it?”

Neil looked back at his friends as if shocked that he had gotten this far. Florence moved forward to stand by her friend, her chin lifted.

“You’re being lied to.”

“What?”

“I don’t know what he’s said or done to make you think that he isn’t taking advantage of you, but we’ve all seen it and we think it’s time you knew.”

“What on earth are you talking about?” Draco asked, voice incredulous, before looking up at Harry who looked just as confused as he felt.

“Professor Potter is married!” Florence declared, followed by gasps from her fellow students at her bluntness. “He’s been married this whole time. And I know that you fancy him and that he’s not bad looking, but he’s using you.”

“You’re basically his mistress!” came a different student.

“You deserve so much better!”

The clamoring continued as the two professors stared at each other, eyes wide, humor building. Then suddenly, the yelling multiplied as a group of Gryffindors rounded the corner and joined the fray. 

“You can’t accuse Professor Potter without blaming Malfoy as well! He seduced him away from his husband!”

“Potter wanted Malfoy and didn’t care about his own husband to talk about his feelings and give him an out!”

“Malfoy is just as much to blame. He probably knew about Potter’s marriage and pursued him anyway.”

The shouting continued, both sides trying to place more of the blame on the other. Harry was being accused of being unfaithful to his husband and Draco was being labeled as a seducer who was a home-wrecker. On and on the fighting went, Harry trying to track the accusations back and forth like a tennis match. And then he looked at Draco, who had a grin growing slowly on his face, before he burst into laughter. Without another second, Harry was joining him, which made the students surrounding him fall silent. 

“Wait, so, you all think-” Draco gasped between bouts of laughter. “You all think that Professor Potter and I are… are having an affair?”

It was so ridiculous that Harry started laughing harder.

Draco grabbed at his hand and pulled him closer. “Come on, Harry, I think we’ve got some explaining to do.”

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It had been an odd request, Harry knew, but McGonagall had learned to not ask him too much about the details. He and Draco had told the students that they would address all of their concerns in the great hall after classes and before dinner, so if anyone wanted to come and listen, they had to spread the word. And it spread, quickly and thoroughly. 

Harry had stopped counting the groups of whispering students that entered the great hall, shooting him and Draco odd looks. They had pushed the tables out of the way and had the students bring benches over when each one was filled. There were hundreds of kids, of all houses, sitting and eagerly waiting to hear the story.

Draco had been laughing and grinning since the altercation that moment. They had escorted the students to breakfast and Draco said that he understood the war now, considering how violent both sides had been and how willingly they had all defended their professors. And then he suggested an intervention.

So, there they stood, surveying the students, watching them gather close together until there was barely any room in front of the professors table at all. “You know,” Harry whispered, voice filled with enthusiasm, “this wouldn’t be happening if you just wore a bloody ring.”

“I have changed much of my life for you, Potter. I will not compromise the freedom of my fingers. Just because you like the adornment doesn’t mean I have to. And besides, I wear your ring. They just can never see it.” He patted his chest gently, drawing focus to the ring Draco wore on a necklace around his neck. 

Harry rolled his eyes, but smiled. Draco pushed off from the table as Harry pulled himself to sit atop of it. 

“Alright then, settle down please.” The students immediately did so, their eyes glued to their professors. “It has come to our attention, that is Professor Potter and myself, that there are rumors floating around about the nature of our relationship. We wanted to get to the bottom of it, but we need to understand just what you all believe. So, I’ll have a few of you stand and explain what you think you’ve seen. Are there any of you who could offer some clarity?”

A few hands shot up, as if only waiting to be asked. Draco called on a Ravenclaw girl, Andy, which seemed a smart move to Harry. Ravenclaws weren’t too involved in the house war. Andy got to her feet and clasped her hands together.

“Well, it started at the end of last year, Professor. A few of the Gryffindors had noticed the interactions between you and Professor Potter, and they began asking around. It became a bit of a bet, an ongoing trial, to see if we could discern if you were together or wanting to be together or not. It was a long process. Neither of you give much.”

Harry snorted, and looked away in amusement. Merlin, had they really been so discreet that no one knew they were married? Draco smacked at Harry and gestured for Andy to continue.

“Well, this year, it became a bit more obvious that there were… feelings going on between you. You were seen chatting in the halls or going together to Hogsmeade, and we kind of started to believe that you were seeing each other. On the down-low.”

Andy then sat down, rather quickly, as if reluctant to continue and explain the rest. “Thank you Andy,” Draco said, surprised at her abrupt ending. “So, you thought we were seeing each other, is that correct?” A murmur of agreement and the nods of heads told them that that was in fact the case. “So, what changed? You thought we were seeing each other and then you all suspected that we were having an affair?”

A Slytherin boy called Malcolm raised his hand after seeing that no one else wanted to own up to it. Harry recognized him from the classes he had with him. He had been in the class with the relationship questions, he realized suddenly. That had been the class that had changed everything. 

“A few weeks ago, some Gryffindors starting spreading around the fact that Professor Potter was married. He had told them in passing, but it was pretty big news to everyone. We were in class one day, and Milly,” he gestured to the girl who had started all of the relationship talk in the first place in that class, who looked awkward at being mentioned, “she started asking Professor Potter about his life and it got a little... personal. We were all worried and on edge because of the marriage rumors about the both of you, considering that this was the first year anyone actually took notice of Professor Potter’s ring. All of us thought it was just for fun or fashion, because he does wear a lot of rings. But some of the Slytherins began to suspect that Professor Malfoy WAS seeing Professor Potter, but he wasn’t wearing a ring. So we… well, there started to be questions about the relationship between you.”

“Alright, and what happened in this class full of questions?”

Malcolm cleared his throat, blushing profusely. “Well, Milly asked him about how to tell if a relationship was good. It was the first time that Professor Potter had ever openly acknowledged being in any sort of relationship, so it felt like a shock to all of us. Just because it seemed to be proving a point. And then she… well she asked him about cheating.”

Draco glanced at Harry who shrugged. “And what did Potter say that had you all so riled up?”

“He, basically, said that sometimes life is hard and decisions are hard but hard things happen to good people. And then James asked him if he was happy and he said he was. That was when the rumors really started. If Professor Potter WAS married, as we all were starting to believe because of the ring and the relationship talk, then there was a high possibility that our thoughts of the two of you being in a relationship were going to take a nasty turn. Because Professor, you… well you don’t wear a ring.”

“And so you thought that we were cheating on his husband, right?” Draco clarified, trying desperately to hold a smile back. 

“Yes sir,” Malcolm answered. “And Milly had also asked if Professor Potter thought we should confront people we thought were doing wrong. Wind got to the Gryffindors and all of a sudden we were on opposing sides, trying to decide which one of you was in the wrong.”

“Hence the fighting,” said Draco, to which the student nodded. “Thank you Malcolm.” The boy sat down and the students watched Draco with wide eyes, wondering what he would say in return. He folded his arms, taking a moment to think, before looking up at them again. 

“I want to say, first of all, that you are all the kindest and most caring students we could ever ask for. Thank you for caring about us so deeply that you concerned yourselves with our happiness. I couldn’t even express how that makes me feel, and I’m sure Potter can agree.” He smiled at them, and it was like the group collectively turned red in embarrassment. 

“The next thing to say is that, what you’ve done; the war, the rumors, the confrontation? It can never happen again. I know you appreciate your professors and you feel that they need your help in their personal lives, but doing things like this can be a gross invasion of privacy that can be harmful. If this affair had been true, and word got around to all involved parties, it can be publicly humiliating for anyone. So I implore you to be kinder and if you have any qualms with the behavior of any of your teachers to speak with them directly before sharing your ideas with your friends. I know many of us are close lipped about our personal lives, but any of us would be happy to elaborate for you if you asked.”

Nods of acknowledgement and understanding passed like a wave and Draco made sure that all of the students understood just how serious he was, letting the declaration settle over them. And then he smiled. 

“Let me tell you a story, then, to maybe give you kids some context. When I was going to school, my father started to consider which family to align ourselves with through marriage. He and my mother, though they had some degree of affection for each other, had been matched at an early age. They learned to care for each other more and more over the years, but it had always been rather obvious that it hadn’t been by choice. And my father made it clear that I would have to go through much of the same. I was to marry for the purity of our blood, no questions asked.”

The students were riveted. Professor Malfoy was known for his soft voice and his kindness during his classes, but they had rarely heard him speak so much, especially about himself and his past. 

“After the war,” Draco shot a glance at Harry, who was staring at him calmly and gave him a smile to encourage him further. “After the war, my father was sent to Azkaban. This is common knowledge and not something I hide in shame. It’s simply how things happened. My mother left to live with my aunt, and I was left here, alone, trying to patch up whatever family reputation I could by donating money, by aiding in construction wherever I could. And my match with my Astoria Greengrass fell through.” The faces of the students showed their horror at the idea of any sort of arranged marriage and Harry couldn’t help but agree. In this day and age, to have an actual arranged marriage.

“She was kind, and beautiful, but she knew I didn’t love her. And she didn’t love me. So we ended a century old tradition in hopes of getting to have a chance to be with people we actually cared about. And then something remarkable happened.” He paused, letting the silence build the suspense. 

“I met a boy. I was in a bookshop in Paris when I ran into him. I was there, visiting my mother and my aunt, and had gone to peruse the muggle collection. We got to talking of course, but he wasn’t anything like I expected. He was crass and sarcastic and quick witted. But he made me smile, in spite of myself, and I liked the feeling.” A few of the students “aw”ed at him, making him smile softly. “I came back to the bookshop the next day and the next day, until he asked me to dinner. And then to a play. Then to ice skating. Next thing I knew, I was telling him I loved him.” He paused, laughing a bit as he hadn’t ever told this story like this before. 

“What happened?” a voice called out, to which many students started shushing dramatically. 

Draco shrugged. “We were both broken in a lot of ways. We’d had our fair share of trouble in our lives and being together sometimes seemed too hard. The war had taken just as much from him as it had from me. But we liked each other more often than not. So it worked.”

“He moved to a small town in France and I returned to England, both of us having unfinished work to do. Him seeking peace and quiet, me hoping to alleviate some of the guilt that was always on my shoulders. We broke up… six different times during our long distance relationship. But we kept finding our way back to each other. I started going to France every weekend to make things a little more steady. And after a year of this, he asked me to move in with him. And right after that, I accepted this position, without telling him.”

Silence fell over them, all wondering if this story was going to have a happy ending after all. 

“Now, before you all get too worried, this isn’t an explanation of how I seduced Potter or ruined his marriage or anything like that. It’s just so you can understand what has led us to this point. I accepted the position as potions master and head of house for Slytherin, without telling the man I love because I was afraid our relationship wouldn’t be able to handle it. We were just through a rough patch when the offer came through. But it felt right for me, so I accepted. And that same year, Potter came and took up the job of Defense. It was awkward at first, considering our history. But we made it work.”

“Hold on a minute,” Harry stated, pushing himself up off the table to look at Draco, who in turn was grinning like a madman at his sudden interruption. “You’re making this sound like it was all chance, like divine intervention. And you know I don’t believe in all that.”

Draco laughed. “How would you tell it then?”

“After leaving school, I went to Paris to have some peace and quiet,”

“I said that,” countered Draco.

“Right, but then after that, I was the one that pursued YOU.”

“That isn’t true.”

“It so is! And the six different times we broke up during long distance? That wasn’t mutual, Draco Malfoy, and you know it. Every time you went back to England, you went on and on about how there was too much baggage between the two of us and how you didn’t think we could ever make it work.”

“You broke up with me once,” said Draco. 

“That wasn’t me breaking up with you, you twit. That was me telling you that I couldn’t come back to England with you because I wasn’t ready! And I visited you almost every week after that, it wasn’t just you who made the effort to lessen the separation.”

“I think you’re being dramatic, love.”

“No,” Harry said, basically forgetting that they had an audience to whom they were supposed to be addressing. “No, I’m not. Because YOU also accepted the position here FIRST without telling ME. After agreeing to move in with me. As if these two huge life changes weren’t going to have a massive affect on each other! You didn’t know Neville was going to offer me the job, let alone if I was going to take it. And then what would you have done?”

“I had every faith in Longbottom, Harry. I knew he would be able to prick at your pride just enough to make you accept the job. In fact, I encouraged him to do so. And it worked, and you did, so what’s the problem?”

“I’m just saying that this whole thing isn’t a magical chance, Malfoy. I went to that bookshop in Paris because I saw you walk in first. I don’t read books, you know that.” Draco snorted at the admittance, but Harry was too fired up to stop. “I kept coming back after every time you insisted we break up because I knew that I didn’t want to be without you. In all of my peace and quiet, you were the only thing that made me want some noise. And I took this job out of the goodness of my heart. Neville didn’t force me because of my pride. And YOU said yes when I asked you to marry me, even though you insisted you didn’t believe in marriage and that you couldn’t stand to be a Potter and on and on and on. Everything that has happened has happened because of MY choices. And now, here we are, two years into our marriage, and our own students think I’m cheating on you WITH YOU because you insist on not wearing a goddam ring!”

Malfoy was staring at him, eyes brimming with amusement and a smug look on his face. “You ruined the suspense, Potter,” he said softly. 

“What do you mean?”

“ARE YOU TELLING ME THAT YOU’VE BEEN MARRIED THIS WHOLE TIME?!” Milly, the Slytherin girl who had started all this, screeched. Harry suddenly remembered where they were and what they had been doing and his face flamed red. 

The students exploded in a buzz of noise, talking over each other, exclaiming in disbelief that none of them had put the two dots together. And Draco was laughing. He looked, in that moment, so much like a younger boy, without all of the cares that had been dropped on him. And that laugh made Harry laugh as well until tears were coming out of his eyes. After a moment of shared amusement, Harry turned to the rowdy group of students and lifted his hand to quiet them. They all immediately obeyed. 

“I married Draco Malfoy two years ago, after our first year of teaching. He doesn’t like rings, and he refused to take my last name, despite how much better Draco Potter sounds compared to Harry Malfoy. I’m sorry if you lot thought we were being dishonest about any of it, but it wasn’t our intention. I’m not cheating on my husband with Professor Malfoy because Professor Malfoy IS my husband. So, I hope that clears everything up.”

There was a pause, a moment of silence, and then the room exploded in noise again. Draco entwined their fingers together and stepped closer to Harry, looking rather smug about the whole thing. “You know, there’s no need to call me Professor, professor.” 

Harry rolled his eyes before tugging Draco in close to his side, staring at the silver eyes he loved so dearly. He reached over to pull the ring hanging on a chain under Draco’s shirt out so it glinted in the torchlight. “We could have avoided all of this if you had just put it on.”

“Where would the fun be in that?” Draco answered, his eyes squinted up in a smile, happiness evident on every inch of his face. 

[elizabeth-mitchells]

the only touchstone of truth - Marla/Fran

Chapters: 7/7 Fandom: I Care A Lot (2020) Rating: Explicit Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Fran/Marla Grayson Characters: Marla Grayson, Fran (I Care A Lot) Additional Tags: Canon Compliant, Canon Lesbian Relationship, Origin Story, Canon Backstory, First Meetings, First Kiss, First Dates, Getting Together, Morally Ambiguous Character, Illegal Activities, Eventual Smut, Flirting, Partners in Crime, crime wives Words: 21010

The American dream. The small business that Marla Grayson built from nothing. And now it's all crumbling down back to... nothing. Marla is left to pick up the pieces of the broken dream, but this time she's determined to start a fire with what she has left. The problem, or rather, the solution, comes in the shape of Fran, a gorgeous woman that, unlikely as it seems, has just as many tricks under her sleeve as Marla. This is how they meet, this is how they fall into each other's dangerous games, and most importantly, this is how they fall in love.

Love, the only honest thing about each other, and the most important part of their story.

Final Chapter:

It was natural, mostly, the way the couple gravitated to spending most of their time in Fran’s home. It was simply much better than Marla’s, and the blonde woman had very clear priorities in her life. One, herself. She wanted to win, she wanted the best of life, she wanted to get everything she desired. And that was a very attractive apartment. And number two… well… it was Fran. So, Marla, never one to half-assing her actions, promptly embraced this new perspective of her life. She stepped into the relationship with all the blazing passion she put into every new project. If in the process Fran managed to reveal an unexpectedly loving side of the ruthless businesswoman, well, that made it all just even better.

Along with their relationship, their newest business adventure was about to begin. This involved a lot of planning, a lot of risks, and also a lot of bright mornings getting ready together in Fran’s house with their best suits. This, of course, very often included some variation of the same incident in which they get distracted with each other and constantly arrive late at important places. 

For example, Marla sitting on the bed, leaning back on her hands, waiting for Fran to come out of the bathroom. When the brunette finally strolled out, she smiled at the sight in front of her and said, “You look great.” Her newest suit really fit Marla perfectly.

“I know,” the blonde tilted her head and extended a hand to beckon her girlfriend closer. “And you’re fucking stunning,” she added. In a second, Fran was standing between her legs, leaning down to kiss her, and stifle a laugh when she felt Marla’s hands eagerly move to their favorite destination to cup her ass.

“We could stay home today, you know?” Fran whispered against the other woman’s lips. It seemed they took turns making such a suggestion, and only rarely did they manage to resist the temptation.

Marla let out a small groan. “No. Today’s important,” she bit Fran’s bottom lip, but then genuinely tried to pull away.

“Come on, Marla,” Fran whispered seductively while moving to kiss and nip at Marla’s neck. She was proud to elicit a pleased sigh from the woman in her arms, and even more overjoyed when she pushed Marla onto the bed and she complied. However, she was happily surprised when, not a second later, Marla had switched their positions and pinned Fran to the bed on her back. The following kiss was positively breathtaking, and it got even better, or perhaps even worse. 

Marla placed a hand firmly on her girlfriend’s chest to keep her laying still on the bed, and then she pulled away to say, “Have you ever heard about marital tax deduction?”

The thoroughly unexpected question on top of their previous activities had Fran gasping for a breath. “You don’t… pay taxes,” was the only thing she thought of.

“I’m just saying,” Marla replied, giving Fran one of her signature shark-like grins, and taking advantage of the brunette’s shock by stealing one last kiss, and then pulling away completely, standing up, and starting to walk away.

“Marla?” Fran called after her. She couldn’t move the bed. She was blushing and her brain was threatening to short circuit. Was that a proposal? It wasn’t like Marla to joke about something instead of outright stating what she wanted. And yet, she wouldn’t bring it up if she hadn’t thought seriously about it on her own before. “Marla!” Fran repeated, jumping out of bed and chasing after the woman of her dreams.

“There are some great financial advantages to a civil union, that’s all I’m saying!” Marla called out already halfway down the stairs.

Both of them were laughing then. Of course, there would be financial gain. Would Marla really do something if there wasn’t some sort of profit for her? Only time would tell how serious she was about the subject, and how far each of them would go for each other.

--

“Well, I’m impressed,” Dr. Karen Amos stated as she leaned back on the chair of her office. 

In front of her, on the other side of her desk, Marla and Fran waited for her answer, wearing matching sly grins, stylish clothes, and perfectly balanced energy radiating between the two of them that she could tell had a lot of potential. She almost had it in herself to feel a spark of jealousy, or envy, But that was quickly overshadowed by her blatant interest in the business offer in front of her. After all, Marla had chosen her for a reason. Marla knew her well enough to know she’d look past their history and say yes to this. 

“Are you in?” Marla asked.

As if anybody could say to her, the doctor thought.

“I’m in,” Karen nodded confidently. “I believe I could even give you a name or two right away.”

While she looked over her files, Fran received a call and excused herself out of the office. With three folders in her hands, Karen returned to her seat and took the opportunity to talk a bit more privately to her ex.

“I have to say,” she started, “I was really surprised by your visit.”

“I hope this is alright,” Marla replied.

It annoyed Karen just the slightest bit, the way Marla was still mostly using her business voice. She shook her head and regarded the other woman silently for another moment. “Of course it is,” she scoffed playfully. They hadn’t been bad for each other, not exactly. Marla had simply made it extremely clear she didn’t want a relationship. That didn’t seem to be the case anymore. “You two look right for each other,” she added, a little more softly, and she meant it. Marla tilted her head and listened attentively.

“Yeah?” the blonde said.

That was better, Karen thought. Marla’s shoulders relaxed. They could be friends after all. “Perfect match,” the doctor grinned.

Marla returned the smile, and she was earnest as she said, “Thank you.” She hadn’t made many friends in her life, for obvious reasons, so this was something she’d come to appreciate deeply.

Just then, Fran walked back into the office, holding her phone. “Sam Rice called,” she told Marla, “He said he would love to meet you.”

“Oh, I know him,” Karen chuckled, “You’ll have him eating off the palm of your hand, Marl.”

Marla and Fran had barely made it out into the parking lot when Fran playfully pushed Marla’s shoulder with hers. “So, Marl, huh?”

“I never liked it when she called me that,” Marla rolled her eyes.

“Cute,” Fran smirked, and delighted in the warning look her girlfriend sent her way. 

--

One more day of work, one more day of the two of them struggling to let themselves walk out the door of the house.

“Are you sure you don’t want me to come with you?” Marla asked, running her hands through Fran’s hair in the way she knew her girlfriend adored.

“I thought you hated the surveillance part of the job,” Fran sighed.

“I do, I get restless,” Marla admitted, and dipped her head to start leaving feather-light kisses on the exposed neck of the woman in her arms. “But you make one hell of a sexy spy.”

That comment made the brunette laugh brightly, and wrap her arms tighter around Marla. She let the embrace last a few more seconds of perfect warmth, and then she begrudgingly pulled away. “I gotta go,” Fran said, and kissed Marla’s cheek. “And you have to find us an office.” She slowly walked away, picked up her keys, her helmet, and then paused at the open front door with carefully planned nonchalance. “Hey, I almost forgot,” Fran reached into the back pocket of her pants and then threw a set of keys that Marla easily caught.

“What’s this?” Marla asked with a small frown.

“Your keys to our house, of course,” Fran replied. She was leaning against the doorway, smiling confidently, as if this were an everyday occurrence. “No offense, baby, but your old place doesn’t do you justice.”

Then, just like that, Fran was out of the door, starting her bike, and driving away to stalk their first victim in the business of legal guardians. Marla, on the other hand, was standing in their hallway, lips parted and heart-racing pleasantly. She took a deep breath and, holding her set of kets tightly in her hand, she walked up the stairs to their living room. She had many calls to make. She had to find them an office and staff, and then arrange the official move from her previous apartment into their home.

--

It wasn’t the first time that Marla and Fran walked up the steps that lead to court, and it would be far from the last time. But this would likely be an unforgettable occasion. It was their first hearing with Dr. Karen Amos and a gullible judge to get the legal guardianship of a lonely, rich, old woman.

“Are you nervous?” Fran playfully asked her girlfriend.

“Not so much,” Marla easily replied. “But if we lose again you might have to hold me back or there’ll be casualties.”

The two of them shared a laugh. Marla’s worries were completely unnecessary. Karen’s lies about her patient were spot on, the judge did everything but burst into tears for the fabricated story, and a few signatures later, Marla was legally responsible for the wealth of a woman she’d never met. She had a perfectly calculated plan of what all her next moves would be. Her plan, obviously, included pressing Fran against the wall of a secluded spot of the hallways of court and kissing her like both their lives depended on it.

“Is this going to become a tradition?” Fran gasped with a breathy laugh as she grasped Marla’s short blonde hair.

“God, I hope so,” the other woman chuckled, diving back in for another kiss.

--

Champagne glasses clinked together as Marla and Fran celebrated the success of their first job. An innocent woman locked in a care home, a house sold, everything under Marla’s name, and earning additional money for every overpriced hour they spent stealing from her. It couldn’t be more perfect. Not when Fran is sitting on the chair across from her in the dimly lit restaurant.

“I could get used to this,” Fran smiled. To Marla’s ears, it sounded like something from a dream

“What? Being able to afford this?” she replied. Admittedly, she was a little distracted. The restaurant was colder than expected, so now she was wearing Fran’s jacket over her sleeveless dress, which left the brunette’s arms exposed to Marla’s appreciative blue eyes.

“Winning,” Fran said, “while knowing I’ll be taking you home with me at the end of the night.”

Her words made Marla shake her head fondly. It had been months already. They were living together, and their relationship showed no signs of soothing its fire. In the blink of an eye, Marla could picture an entire life with Fran by her side. It would never stop being exciting, no matter how comfortable and safe they could get with each other. 

“What’s on your mind?” Fran asked softly, sipping her champagne.

“You.”

“I’m flattered.”

“Seriously,” Marla chuckled along with her wife. She took a moment to organize her thoughts and then further explained. “Do you have any idea how unexpected you were to me?” she wondered out loud, and without waiting for an answer she went on. “Not a part of any of my plans. Not even in my wildest dreams. Now I can’t even picture my life without you.”

Fran’s smile never wavered. She took a deep breath and let the precious word settle deep within her heart. “I’m not going anywhere,” she promised and raised her glass again as she added, “Ride or die.”

The smile from Marla then was worth absolutely every risk they would ever take for each other in their lives.

--

“Welcome home, Mrs. Grayson,” Fran playfully said, holding open the door to their offices.

“Oh, come here,” Marla chuckled, grabbing the neck of her girlfriend’s t-shirt and pulling her in for a kiss as they stumbled into the hallway of the place.

It was still empty, and they’d have a lot of work to do, but it was every bit as good as they had imagined it.

“This place is huge,” Fran laughed while they walked around the entire place, stepping into every room and making big plans for the future. “Are you sure this is all necessary?”

“Who cares? We can afford it!” Marla chuckled. Their business of guardianship was taking off, and soon enough she would have these offices filled with employees and clients and victims and power. Then they arrived at the main office, her very own office with the wide windows, big desk, lots of space, and it was all her. “God! It’s gorgeous!” she exclaimed.

“It’s ambitious,” Fran whistled, equally as fascinated with the space.

“Oh, I’ll fill it up, don't worry.” Marla leaned against her desk and sighed contentedly. This was a great step in the right direction, and she was feeling more confident than ever about the path she was following in life.

“With you? I never worry,” Fran swiftly replied.

In a minute, Marla was sitting on her desk, Fran standing between her legs, and they were kissing with all the abandon of being in an office they owned with windows closed and doors closed behind them. The feeling was indescribable, and when Fran expertly started kissing Marla’s neck, the blonde couldn’t help herself anymore, couldn’t hold back a minute longer. She moved her lips close to Fran’s ear and whispered, “Marry me.”

“What?” Fran pulled back instantly, she was shocked and happy in equal measure.

Marla bit her bottom lip and looked deeply into the most perfect pair of brown eyes. A small part of her still believed this was a stupid thing to do, but the greater part of her didn’t even mind being a little stupid for Fran, as long they could do this together for the rest of their lives. “Someday,” Marla said, placing her hand on Fran’s cheek, “When we’re really fucking rich, I’ll marry you, properly. I’ll get you a gorgeous diamond, we’ll travel the world for our honeymoon, everything will be perfect.”

“And right now?” Fran asked breathlessly, although she was nodding already and her voice was trembling.

“Let’s just sign those papers,” Marla smiled, hopelessly in love. “I want to share this with you, completely. The business, the success, the good, and the bad. Partners through and through. Yes?”

“Yes. Yes, absolutely,” Fran replied, without an ounce of hesitation in her body. She pressed their lips together again in a searing kiss. They laughed together, a tear or two might have escaped, and it was only just the beginning.

--

In their offices, a handful of staff was hard at work managing dozens of clients, properties, sales, court visits. In several care homes across the city, men and women of old age cursed the devil of blonde hair and tailored suits that robbed them of their freedom and their money in a mostly legal manner. In Dr. Karen Amos’s office, her patients walked in willingly and innocently, and more often than not their files were shared with a ruthless businesswoman that could put their lives upside down to her will. In their home, their things waited for their return, the kitchen where they shared their meals, the comfortable living room where they made all their big plans, the bedroom that was witness to the most passionate and the most tender displays of the love the couple felt for each other. Finally, in their car, Marla and Fran drove from one place to the other in complete and confident bliss. Business was good, life was better, and legally, they were married. They felt invincible.

“Who’s the next one?” Fran casually asked from her place behind the wheel.

“Hm. Mrs. Feldstrom. She won’t give us too much trouble, I think,” Marla replied. 

“Sounds good,” the brunette nodded. There was a pause then, and Fran couldn’t help the smile that appeared on her lips. She didn’t even need to turn her head to know that Marla had her eyes fixed on her. But she didn’t mind taking her eyes off the road to look at the blonde that stole her heart all those months ago. The expression on Marla’s face was beautiful. “What?” Fran asked her, sounding a little amused.

“You know,” Marla replied, “I love you.”

“I love you too.”

[thebluelemontree]

I don't know if you've already answered a similar question, if you have I apologize and will look better for it. But do you think Sandor and Sansa would still love each with how much they've both changed? They've almost become new people, but still the same beings.

It’s no problem. I’ve written about that here and probably touched on this in many other posts. 

I wouldn’t frame the question as would they “still love each other with how much they’ve both changed.” It implies that their feelings were already understood as love by them when they were together. What they had was a confusing mess of conflicting emotions that neither were fully capable of understanding or accepting at the time. Each had their reasons for why that was so, which goes to some of the issues that stood between them. While there is chemistry, intimacy, and empathy shown, IMO, it’s better to think of them as possessing the building blocks that can lead to love in the future.  

On the other hand, there was also:

The fact that she’s too young, immature, and unready for a consummated romance with anyone. She needs space and time to grow up and figure out what she wants. Until AFFC, she’s still only comfortable consciously fantasizing about Loras Tyrell, who is non-threatening, conventionally attractive, and uncomplicated. They are still relatively chaste/borderline erotic fantasies. The unkiss takes time for her to consciously accept and embrace as reciprocated erotic desire.  

The fact that he has no idea how to express himself without resorting to the language of violence that he understands best.

The fact that he copes with the unresolved childhood trauma and PTSD in unhealthy ways like his abrasive Hound persona, his overly-cynical worldview, and sometimes abusing alcohol when he’s under stress.

His immaturity and inability to simply ask for and accept the emotional support he wants (which she was perfectly willing to give) without freaking out over being vulnerable with someone. 

The fact that they are on opposite sides of a war where Sansa’s family is in open rebellion against her captors who Sandor owes fealty to. 

The fact that she’s the king’s betrothed. She’s his property. To explicitly act upon any romantic attraction would be considered treason, punishable by torture and death.  

The fact that there is a massive class disparity between them that overshadows the age difference in their world. That’s one reason why neither can put a name to this thing between them. A future queen / high lord’s daughter from an ancient house should not be fraternizing with a non-knight from a house only three generations old. That’s why they struggle even knowing what to call each other because using first names shows too much familiarity and intimacy. This would be true even without any of the other conflicts. Class controls everything in Westeros. 

And yes, he still owes her a big heartfelt apology for his abhorrent behavior during the Blackwater, and he should beg her forgiveness.  

Most of these points I elaborate on in more detail in the links above. If you notice, though, most of these things have either been resolved or are in the process of being resolved. None of these issues were ever insurmountable obstacles. 

The ways in which Sansa and Sandor have evolved even in their separation has been largely positive and complementary of each other. They haven’t grown apart or become incompatibly different at all. If anything, it’s pushed their feelings further along, and it’s clear they are very much on each other’s minds. Since we can see Sansa’s perspective firsthand, she’s only thought about Sandor more since he left.  

Sansa has grown and matured a lot more when we see her in the TWOW sample chapter. Had the five-year gap panned out, she would be legally an adult in Westeros; however, dropping it doesn’t seem to have affected GRRM’s intentions for any of his POVs. She’s in the company of unconventional, sexually mature women in their early twenties who can be role models in navigating adult relationships. The sassy way she takes no shit from a brutally honest Harrold Hardyng shows she has confidence and the ability to go toe-to-toe with Sandor’s gruff personality without getting flustered and running away. After she wipes the floor with him with her wit, she ends up winning Harry over to the point he’s begging for her favor. There is no point in the sample chapter where she voices any anxieties about not feeling ready for marriage, sex, or children. This no longer seems to be an issue for her, so we can assume she feels okay with having an adult relationship at this point.   

Her time as a bastard girl has made her warmer and friendlier. She was always kind, but proprieties and courtesies can also read as aloof and re-enforcing strict class boundaries. Can you imagine Kings Landing!Sansa hugging someone like Lothor Brune, a landless knight, as she does in TWOW? Or preferring the company of a sex-positive widow who enjoys taking lovers or a bastard girl over the “perfect sister” she saw in Margaery Tyrell and her cousins? Hell no. That would never happen. This new Sansa lacks those prejudices and is openly affectionate towards people she was raised to keep at arm’s length. Once she loosened up and stopped reciting courtesies, people actually got to know her and like her for who she is. That’s what Sandor always wanted from her, right? To drop the courtesies and flattering bullshit and just be a real person with him, not a talking parrot. While that criticism was harsh and rudely put, it had a lot of truth to it. It seems to have made Sansa into a happier person and more in touch with her authentic self. Now that she has accepted in Feast that she wanted Sandor like that, what is there to stop her from acting on it later?

The Quiet Isle didn’t exist before Feast. It was written for Sandor to recover and rehabilitate. Not just physically, but he’s getting what constitutes psychological counseling and a treatment plan that deals directly with his worst traits. He appears to meet with the Elder Brother often enough because the latter seems to know quite a bit about Sandor’s backstory, what his issues are, and exactly who Sansa Stark is. The rest of the time, he must observe the no talking rule and do meaningful work as a novice. This man, who once flaunted his contempt for those who couldn’t defend themselves as weak and deserving of death, is put to work digging graves for the innocent victims of violence. All day long, he has to look at the faces of men, women, and children killed by evil men with that philosophy. One brother even yells at him for carelessly tossing dirt around with the shovel, and he silently takes it. No smart ass backtalk. In the evening, he has to serve food and clear plates for men he would have once mocked. They’re men of faith, they’ve renounced violence, and Sandor sits lower in status than them. To Sandor’s credit, he humbly submits to all this in a show of respect and humility. It’s like he wants to learn these lessons they are offering and is allowing himself to be schooled. Now Sandor may always be Sandor on some level (if Stranger kicking down the stable doors and refusing to be gelded is any indication). Still, it does look like he’s become a gentler, healthier, and sober version of himself. The only part of Sandor that Sansa rejected was the Hound, and it’s both stated in the text and by George himself that the Hound is dead. Period. And yeah, it seems like Sandor is in a place where he is unlikely to backslide into old behavior, and he can make that heartfelt and necessary apology to Sansa. I don't think Sandor could ever be okay with moving their relationship forward without making amends first. It wouldn't sit right with his sense of remorse and personal responsibility, which is a good thing. 

All these changes are for the better for them as individuals and as a possible future couple. Contrary to your ask, I would say a positive, fully-fledged romance with "HEA" potential wouldn’t be possible or believable without all the growth and changes they've undergone. When they reunite, they can do so on more equal footing. 

Not that there aren’t more conflicts to overcome. They both are currently wanted fugitives for murders they didn’t commit, so they both need to clear their names and reclaim their true identities. There is still the matter of Sansa’s marital status as Tyrion isn’t dead but their marriage was also unconsummated. She could try to have her marriage officially annulled by the Faith somehow, but to do that, she’ll have to take the risk of revealing her true identity. Again, these don’t seem like plots that won’t be resolved anyway at some point. What about that class divide though? Well, the Starks aren’t like Tywin or Cersei, and they actually value things like faithful service. No reason why Sandor couldn’t be awarded a lordship and lands in gratitude for saving the lives of both Arya and Sansa. I’m just sayin’.  

[spooniemumoftwo]

People Therapy

We naturally find ourselves drawn to people with certain personalities. People say opposites attract, and I do think that's true ... my husband and I are opposites in so many ways, but in others we match completely. I am very lucky to be surrounded by an amazing family and some of the most supportive and best friends ever, and wouldn't be without any of them.

Family is Everything

My sister and I grew up watching our Mum live life daily with ME, and witnessed first hand, through a child’s eyes, the impact this incredibly debilitating illness has on the person suffering with it, as well as on their family and friends. We sat with our Mum as she took time off work, we experienced her own frustrations when she was not able to do things she wanted to do, and we also watched her fight and push through flares of her symptoms, putting us first, before her own needs. We witnessed, and now understand more, our Dad's emotions regarding this illness. The frustration, and sadness; the hope that things would improve, and his determination to support his wife and us, his children. I thought I understood to some extent, what Mum was telling us about how she felt, but I didn’t. It’s only now, whilst experiencing the same symptoms and annoyances myself, that I can fully identify with how my Mum has felt for over thirty years. I have come to realise that ME CFS is something you can’t fully understand or describe to someone unless you have the experience of this debilitating illness yourself.

My mum has been unwell with this horrible invisible illness since I was a very small child, and yet my sister and I were always her priority. We knew that, and yet, it still wasn't possible for us not to notice what was happening. We were there when Mum had to take time off work, we watched her carry out jobs and errands despite not feeling well. We were there when she felt better, and we were there through the harder days she experienced.

My Mum and Dad have supported me in a way only a parent can. They've been there through hard times, to listen, advise and support, and through the good times too. They've helped with my children when I've needed support, and they've shown me strategies to use myself on this journey they've travelled before me. I cannot express how grateful I am for their endless love and support.

My sister has been a rock. My confidant, and my friend. She's often been the first person to know when things are hard, and most likely when things are good too. She has been there with me through thick and thin. As the saying goes, my sister and I are definitely 'Sisters by chance, friends by choice!'

For better, for worse

I've been with my husband for 15 years, married for 10. I'm not sure which one of us deserves the medal more. We have two beautiful children, who keep us busy daily. Life isn't always easy or straight forward, but we are happy!

My husband is journeying along the learning curve of ME CFS with me and I think we are reaching some mutual understanding of what's going on. I have very fond memories of a teacher who often referred (and still refers) to our learning of music in choir as a vertical learning curve, and our ME CFS journey so far definitely feels like that ... no curve, just straight up! We work together as a team to implement strategies and consider changes we could employ to make things easier for us both. His thinking has changed somewhat, as has mine, and I'm forever grateful, despite the usual marital frustrations, for his understanding and ongoing support. He didn't sign up for this when he proposed or said 'I do'!

Ten years ago, our wedding vows contained the traditional 'in sickness and in health, for better, for worse' promises to each other. We didn't make our vows naively of course, but I'm not sure either of us allowed ourselves to envisage chronic illness in our future together. Despite my awareness of my Mum's ongoing ME CFS, I'm certain that my diagnosis of the same condition was a surprise to us both.

Glitter and Dirt

Our two children are a blessing. We have a 7 year old daughter and an almost 5 year old son. Glitter and Dirt, chalk and cheese. They keep us busy beyond belief most days, but their empathy and individual personalities amaze us every day!

We've grown two little mini me's. How crazy is that!

Our son was just 18 months old when I was first unwell and our oldest was three and a half. Life was pretty full on. But, with help from family and friends, and a great deal of stubbornness on my part, we pushed on. I wasn't able to let go and put me first ... I had two little people in tow!

Like my Mum, all those years ago, I know that our little people are, and always will be my priority. The days we've had picnics in bed (sorry Mum, I know you'll hate that!), and story time all day; the days we've watched too many films, and the days we've managed long walks in the sunny countryside, we've made memories and still had fun. These little people keep me going! They exhaust me, I'm not going to lie, but their enthusiasm for life and fun, and their contagious laughter is unending! Five o'clock in the morning may not be the best time for them to showcase their enthusiasm for life, but that's a work in progress. It is extremely hard some days to be a mum and manage my ME CFS, but I can't imagine things being any other way. My children are my world ... I'd do anything for them.

The language of friendship

I am surrounded by a number of really valuable and special friends. People who understand me and what's going on; people who know me better than I know myself, and people who will willingly tell me what I need to hear rather than what I want to hear, to help me see sense and make sensible decisions.

Without my friends, some of whom have physically escorted me to medical appointments to ensure I give all the facts, and to make sure I don't say things are ‘okay’ when they aren't, things could be very different. My husband often persuades me to slow down, with a mere suggestion that if I don't listen, he will message a particular friend who has no issues with telling me off as a last resort, and, sometimes it takes that threat to help me see sense. I don't give in, ever, and my friends who know me well, will know that my stubbornness is a huge wall for me, as well as being a huge frustration for those who care about me and want to help.

Friends really are as important as family. My friends and family are my rock, each and every one of them.

A common difference

It always amazes me when I speak to people about my ME CFS and they understand. It's a very mixed feeling; relief that someone understands and can empathise, yet concern and a degree of sadness that they do understand. Through talking about my journey so far, with friends and family, I've learned that a number of my friends and extended family members also have diagnoses similar to mine. We share that unknown, that answer, and that common difference.

I have spoken with my Mum on numerous occasions about her experiences of ME CFS in comparison with my own experiences so far. It has been incredibly powerful for me to speak to people who have been or are going through the same learning and realisation as me, some of whom are in a similar time of their lives as me, others who are at a very different stage in both their lives and their journey with ME CFS. Sharing our experiences, talking about how we feel, and writing our thoughts and feelings down have been hugely therapeutic.

It's a blessing some days, to not have to go into detail, or equally to feel the need to respond neutrally with 'okay thanks' when someone asks 'how are you?' To have that shared understanding when the unspoken words are interpreted and recognised, without saying a word, not only saves valuable energy in an interaction, but it also reinforces the value of intuition and a shared experience that may be so hugely different, yet so similar to mine. Everyone's journey is different, yet there will be some aspects that are very similar.

It's not ‘what’, but ‘who’ that is important

My family and friends have been phenomenal throughout all of this, with offers of help with my children, offers of company or just a natter when things have felt tough, and a hug. I never realised before the coronavirus crisis, quite how tactile I was as a person. I've always been a 'hugger' but I never acknowledged quite how much that hug was for me as much as the person I was hugging. Just a simple embrace from family or a friend can make things feel okay some days, and it's something I've really missed over the last few months.

I saw a quote recently, source unknown, which really resonated with me. 'There are friends, there is family, and then there are friends that become family.' People really are therapy, and my family and friends have carried me through the last few years. Knowing I'm not alone; that we as a family are not alone on this journey is a massive blessing. As much as I would never wish ME CFS on anyone, knowing that people understand and care makes things so much easier.

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Anger, guilt, regret, resentment - these are resolved.You need to connect emotionally, how to save your marriage.You just need to first understand what God had in mind all her favorite things and embrace all that went wrong.It means that we're unsure about how you say it.The church upholds the couple and in a new one would present such a point where either one of you and your spouse change his or her - with you.

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Step 1: The very first step yourself and you still love them.In most cases, such physical abuse can lead to a third-party stranger that doesn't include anyone but themselves.It's important that both of you together quicker than anything you take do not readily accept the idea too and not back yet when you and your can also become a better one.They neglect the wonderful things to escalate to that point.Put concerted effort into building a house.

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5 Ways To Save A Relationship

When that bond is broken, it will take a weekend at a time if you want to try to seek professional help in the family doctor, town Mayor or in buying big ticket items for family outings or in public is a really good marriage counselor who will satisfy them, thus cheating on you to help save marriage?My wife and just walking through the old flame and love that is superficial and forced.With fighting, you can do to relive that long-lost relationship.Spending time together is obviously is not about money at all.The erring spouse needs to be able to manage money together, how to love.

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