#using myself as an example when i am the worst example ever bc I don't care how useful is that

[thrilling-oneway]

The whole Rui saying that him and Nene filled a gap for each other that was left by the fact they were both only children situation is funny to me. Because it started ship discourse. But not the annoying kind the "oh my god you people are so stupid" kind.

Listen the average person is gonna be upset annoyed when their ship gets described as having a sibling like relationship (this literally happened to me recently LOL) but clpl has deliberately given you wiggle room with the statement. They know the ship is one of their most popular and they know they would piss off a huge chunk of fans if they did the same thing as they did with Toya and Tsukasa (money is precious to them).

With Toya and Tsukasa, the latter specifically refers to Toya as "youngest sibling" in a very definite way (sometimes adds "like my" but ygm). Here they deliberately have Rui say "when we were kids". Your wiggle room is that he's talking about the past. There's literally no way of getting out of "we played together like siblings" that's very much a thing Rui said so you can either continue to cope and seethe or take what you've been given. Or simply Not Care it's that easy.

The thing is that this dialogue has given validity to the interpretation of Rui and Nene viewing each other like siblings, so obviously people who liked that hc are going to be happy. If they annoy you, block them. If you like ruinene and the sibling truthers comment on whatever you're saying about them, read the previous sentence. Same goes in the other direction, people are still gonna like ruinene because it's literally one of the most popular ships in the game. Tag filters and block buttons are a thing, don't go annoying people who like the ship.

Ultimately clpl has worded the dialogue in such a way that they can play both sides. All of you still win. It's not that deep. Who cares. Do whatever you want clpl literally don't fucking care as long as you still give them money. It's always wxs fans who start drama and it's still wxs fans who pay up the most like. This game lives off your wallets stop fucking fighting all the time.

Is this a pointless post? Yes. Absolutely. This fandom is full of 13 year olds who don't know how to communicate with each other normally and are overly sensitive about which fictional characters kiss. This post is going to achieve nothing I just wanted to complain lmao.

[my-castles-crumbling]

I made a huge mistake almost a whole year ago and I still think about it all of the time.

I was working with this new staff member… and I did the worst thing anyone could do and assumed their pronouns… I was using the wrong pronouns for weeks until my sister told me that they go by they/them. When she told me that my entire heart shattered. I felt like the biggest asshole ever. How could I, a member of the lgbtqia+ community fuck up that badly. I felt horrible and of course I still do.! (No one knows I’m queer so I also feel like now they think I’m transphobic and/or homophobic)

I wanted to apologise but then I felt like I’d be making up excuses for myself and I’m also like really socially awkward so I didn’t end up saying anything.

The thing is, I still feel so horrible about it and I guess that’s a good thing bc at least I know that I care about being respectful but it just really sucks that I was misgendering someone for so long and didn’t realise the harm I could have been causing them.

I’m so sorry to be ranting to you at 2am but I genuinely don’t think I’ll ever get over this and I just needed to speak about it to someone.

Ps- I am the agender questioning anon and so thank you so much for helping me with that… I think I’m starting to understand myself so much more now!

So much love to you Cas, I hope you have the most amazing day! 🫶🏼

Hi love!

woah woah woah. Take a breath <3

Here's the thing. Yeah, it sucks to be misgendered. and yeah, in a perfect world, we should ask people for their pronouns every time we meet them.

But here's the thing: that's not reality. Why?

It's not always safe to ask for/share pronouns. There are many situations where I, myself, don't feel comfortable asking someone's pronouns or sharing my own. So I assume. And unfortunately, that means I get misgendered and so do other people. But my safety and the safety of others is first and foremost.

Also, it's a habit to get into, to ask people for their pronouns, even when they might present in a way that makes you assume. Habits are difficult to form, and sometimes a mistake like this helps you become more eager to form them.

And here's the thing: you did the EXACT RIGHT THING by not making a big deal of it when you found out and (I'm assuming) just using the right pronouns from then on. You didn't put that person in a weird situation and now they're being gendered correctly.

Let me give you an example that will hopefully make you feel better:

I have been wearing a pin on my lanyard at work for five months now with my pronouns. I work with about a hundred adults. Guess how many people use my pronouns? ONE.

Until the other day.

All of a sudden, my coworker started referring to me with my pronouns. And I was SO EXCITED! She didn't have to give an apology. She just needed to start respecting my identity.

All this to say: yes, it sucks to be misgendered, and in a perfect world we should never assume. But you're still LEARNING and if you've corrected yourself and do your best to do better from now on then, as long as this coworker is a decent person, they aren't mad. I promise!

Sending you lots of love and also maybe some forgiveness for yourself. <333

[anachronistic-falsehood]

Hi Weird Question, but how many followers would you ballpark say you have gotten from posting about qsmp?

I ask this because Ive been on tumblr for a LONG while, I have run multiple fandom blogs and this is the worst follow to notes ratio I have ever gotten for a blog (it is relativity new as well though). I don't want to sound weird and complain about the number of followers I have, but of the 523 posts in my blog, 38 are original posts. I have 236 notes total from those 38. and zero followers. compared to when one of my other blogs was at this size I would have somewhere of a ballpark of 10ish especially with a few posts chilling way above the average of 6 notes

I feel like this could be an issue much like the issue pertaining to people not reblogging stuff, but also I may need to reevaluate the way im interacting with people on this site >_<.

that's kind of a hard question bc i was gaining followers from the trigun fandom very shortly before i started posting about qsmp, so there was a period of overlap, but i guess when i switched to posting primarily about qsmp i would say i've gained approx. 350-400 followers. i typically get anywhere between 100-1000 notes on any qsmp post i make (excluding liveblogging) and i am apparently a more popular blog because i write fanfiction and make analysis posts on occasion which has made me weirdly well known in some places of the fandom and that is terrifying i hate being perceived HELP

ANYWAY i think a better blog to use as an example would be when i had to use a new blog because this one was unfairly flagged for a couple weeks. i used a previously unused sideblog to liveblog and make posts on since posts on my main wouldn't show up in the main tags. i typically got a fair amount of notes, anywhere between 50 to 200 on each post, but i only ended up with maybe 4 or 5 followers on that blog (excluding mutuals i had advised to follow that blog as a backup in case my main went down forever [which it didn't thank fuck]).

honestly?? i assume the lack of following is because a lot of people in this fandom are very wary. qsmpblr likes to hail itself as better than twitter (and it is in some respects for sure, i'm not denying that), but it feels like everyone in this fandom has some kind of Opinion on Something at all times. there's always something to complain about or criticize about anything, whether it be the admins, an event, another cc's character, a cc themself, etc etc. if you follow a person you will be subjected to all of their opinions on every single issue that pops up, even if it's just a dismissal of whatever current discourse is making its way through the tag (and i'm guilty of this myself sometimes, i'm no angel here). there is not a single day that goes by without something negative crossing my dash regarding something that's going on with the smp. doesn't matter what it is, someone will have something to say about some kind of issue no matter what, and that shit gets tiring. sometimes it's better not to follow people lest you find yourself bombarded with opinions. that way you can still scroll your dash without worrying about seeing untagged discourse and infighting and criticism.

[filliteapot]

What are your thoughts about age-gap romances? I myself I am mostly okay with them (it's all about the execution and how the relationship is potrayed, what it is like etc.) and some of my favorite couples and ships have age-gap, for example Tom and Polly from Fire and Hemlock, Firuka and Hagas from Genbu Kaiden. But due to fandom spaces... I have started to feel quilty and bad for liking some age-gap couples and romances and I wonder if I should stop liking them and if I should age-up my own character from 20 to 28 since the love interest is 32-33 in a fantasy romance I am writing.

Oh my, you know , I saw your ask right after complaining to a friend about fandoms. The timing made me yell. So expect a long answer with my honest thoughts under the cut.

I may have an opinion unpopular in fandom spaces and nowadays overall, but I think that your taste in fiction doesn't necessary reflect your preferences and opinions irl. More than that, I don't think that fiction equals reality and I consider viewing reality through fandom/fiction lenses (and otherwise, evaluating fiction from the point of view of our reality, this time and age) a dangerous simplification. Fiction doesn't have to work by our reality's laws and morals. Reality is much more complicated than any fiction ever written. This is that I think.

As for stories with age gap romances - I don't see it as something necessarily problematic and accusable. I may like them, I may dislike them, or stay neutral - as you said, it depends on how it's written. But I'm gonna say smth that kinda makes me worst person for fandoms: in all honesty, shoujos about teenage girls falling for their teachers, fantasy about 20 y.o. in relationships with immortal creatures, even stories about straight out creepy relationships with age gap don't hurt me and don't make me righteously mad and screaming it gives young people the wrong idea. What doesn't, nowadays? Learning to use your brains and analyze information is still my preferable option. I also don't understand how writing about some not-safe-for-all-audiences themes equals romantization of said themes. I really don't see such stories as a problem or harmful influence, just like any other thing claimed problematic by fandoms tbh. In my experience, most of them are not even close to "excusing age gaps between young ppl and old perverts". This is something totally different.

I think you should write your story as you want, without trying to please everyone and make it safe for everyone, without a mere possibility to trigger smth unpleasant for someone - it's impossible to do that after all. If for some reason your characters must be 20 and 32 years old, so be it. In fantasy I sometimes see examples of bigger age gaps, like "twenty y.o. and a 3000 y.o. magician" which fandom sometimes condemns as problematic bc of said "age gap", and I see that this one potential 3000 y.o. magician is written like a teenage girl and doesn't feel old or not human in the slightest, and it's not about problematicness or age gap at all, even when your mage is not 3000 y.o. but 30-something. It's about your exploring yourself, people and the world through your writing. Maybe, it's about learning to love the world a bit more (true in my case, this is why i'm making my own story I guess), maybe it's about putting yourself in other person's shoes, trying to understand how someone different from you (in age, or status) feels and thinks. Maybe it's about going against fandom morals and hollow accusations you are unhappy with, some kind of protest, I don't know. It may be sublimation, a stupid wish that never came true, a way to get through some traumatic experience, a way to understand your own feelings about this subject and form your opinion, or desire to take this theme and make a good story you can enjoy, finally! None of these makes you a criminal, btw. You may even never understand why exactly you take something for your story or the purpose of writing it at all - and that's okay. You have a personal relationship with your story and not a single person has the right to interfere.

In short, I'm standing firmly on this ground: stories are not our reality, but a way to get to know it and maybe love it. Your preferences in fiction don't necessarily mean it expands to real life. Feeling something good from a story that someone says you are supposed to hate doesn't make you trash. Also, I beg you: don't use fandom categories to deal with reality and don't apply their standards and logic to your opinion about yourself. Fandoms surely make our life funnier sometimes, but they are limited spaces with their own rules and working mechanisms, and they simplify things a lot. I can understand the desire to always have the right and simple answer to everything, and a clear opinion about everything, but life has the habit of walking up to you and smashing your face into situations that can't be defined by simple notions, or even don't let you decide what to accuse and what to excuse (sometimes it's not our place to decide). I don't think you must feel guilty for liking smth in fiction. I stopped caring about it some time ago, when I got that me liking murder ballads by the Decemberists didn't make me a killer, and that I actually don't see the period novels in which women suffer as romantization of women's suffering. And I'm fine with my unpopular perception of fiction and reality.

I wish all the best on your writing.

[officialtayley]

Whoever wrote that “! They are a BAND! They make MUSIC! We shipped two of them bc it was cute! GOD. Ugh. Bye. This is officiallytheworst.” is taking me out 😭 ash, people that hate your blog are weirdly obsessed with you cause they could just move on and block you but instead they always write you a goodbye message calling you rude but also talking shit about you in the same message which is just ?????

If y’all wanna fight paramore fans that actually hate hayley just go to instagram comments, tik tok or twitter. This blog is one of the few places where fans can give genuine criticism and still be a fan. What’s with people acting like we’re all trying to cancel the band here when we’re just confused and disappointed by their recent actions 

it had me laughing hard like i couldn't even be mad cause it was just funny. i'm fine with people thinking i'm the worst or whatever, it doesn't bother me anyway cause i've thought it about myself plenty of times so idc.

the thing is, with the pmore fanbase i've always, always felt like you cannot have an negative opinion, even on songs people get stupidly defensive if you dislike no friend for example, but it's been this awful since AL onwards. none of us here hate the band, nor do we hate hayley, unless she does something very awful i don't think i could ever hate her honestly, i've been a fan since 2007 and that doesn't just go away. but i've always had moments like right now where i've felt disappointment, and it should be okay to just fucking talk about it, yet it never is.

i also get that some ppl prefer a place like this so they can remain anonymous and just vent cause god forbid you do that on twitter or somewhere you have an identity, everyone is on ur ass in seconds. like you said, these anons/people should go after the ones who genuinely, very clearly hate hayley and/or the band, you can find them very easily and you can go defend them there. also, i am very sorry but other than the baby and last hope moment there's nothing much to talk about with tayley like aaksjsjsjs what exactly am i meant to talk about? i struggle with asks that are imagining shit about tayley cause i'm not very imaginative and that's prob the autism but i don't like answering & it potentially coming off fake sounding so yeah.

plus it's not like anyone really wants to talk to me about anything else anyway or ask questions or some shit different idk like lord the moment i talked about kpop i had someone insulting kpop immediately so yknow (tho i have the synastry asks & message i need to do still sorry to the ppl who asked my brother has been taking up my time these days 😭 but i enjoy that so i shall get to it later)

[genderkoolaid]

Are we sharing examples or transandrophobia? I want to share especially as an autistic trans man and how that intersect. Tw for like mentions of r@pe but no detail. These specific incidents actually run through my mind almost constantly. I came out for the FIRST time when I was 16: -people refused to use the name I had chosen despite me pointing out that's stupid because out cis male friend had changed his name just because he didn't like it and all I was doing was dropping one letter

-my best friend told me that if I slept with a girl who thought I was a "real" man and after she found out I was trans I would have been a rapist for consensually going down on a girl who "thought I was a real man"

-I had a random girl in my class "ask if my ex bf knew I really had a dick" when I said I was trans

-my parents said "no matter what, you'll always be our little girl"

So, I went back into the closet for the most part. I went by She/They and was always like "im not a girl" but people pretty much brushed me off and I didn't pursue transition bc I was afraid of how people would treat me. I came out AGAIN at 21, this time really putting my foot down that I AM MALE.

-My aunt started to refer to my info dumping as "mansplaining" so I stopped sharing my interests with her

-People began to actively misgender me, whereas before some people would at least try to use they as well as she, I only get called she now and never they

-I started to get harassed in public for holding my partner's hand even tho we're both trans

-People really go out of their way to gender me now. "When I was a girl" nobody ever ma'amed me. NEVER, ever.

-People like to assume I'm mentally ill for being trans or that someone must have pushed me to be trans. Their pea brains implode when I say actually I really struggled to come out in the face of everyone telling me not to and I'm trans because I realized I'd die from trying to harm myself if I didn't accept who I already am

-I got sent a lot of death threats and rape threats. A lot. Mostly online, of course, but it really took me aback the negative reaction I had from the WLW spaces I was in when I said I was leaving because, well, I'm not a woman. Crypto terfs, man.

-My uncle said to me, and I quote "Keep this trans shit away from your grandmother, she has enough to deal with" I asked him what he expected me to do when I grew facial hair and muscles and lost my tits. He didn't answer, he probably didn't care.

-My aunt, who claimed to be the most accepting, still misgenders me and acts personally offended when I tell her she's not progressive for doing the bare minimum to show me respect, and not even consistently.

-My aunt ALSO told me I was the reason SHE wasnt getting HRT for her early menopause because "T is gonna make you angry and I don't want to be around that" (T made me calmer and less likely to EXPRESS my anger, actually. I have to find different ways to let it out now bc I kinda just CANT feel angry or sad the same way anymore)

-None of my family has called me to ask me how I'm doing since i came out. They all kinda avoid talking to me, but won't say it, I've noticed though.

-My partner's mom told me she wanted me to go to therapy. I said I'd go for my PTSD as it was causing problems between her and I, she said "No, I want you to go for 'this'" Meaning, she wanted me to go to therapy for being trans. My partner got upset at this and said that absolutely would not be happening because being trans isnt a mental illness

-cis people look at me in TERROR when they misgender me, like they're waiting for me to freak out at them or physically assault them. It actually really hurts my feelings tbh, out of everything those moments sting the most. People I don't even know very well assuming the worst of me for being trans.

Idk just the pure hatred people have towards transmascs and then for people withing our own communities to act like these things don't happen on the daily and don't drive us to have among the highest suicide rates out of any other demographic... It hurts. It really hurts, I want to cry over it and then still this little voice in my head, the voice THEY put there, says to me "Boys don't cry. if you show the slightest sign that these things hurt you, they won't take you seriously"

Thank you for sharing your experiences.

[worstloki]

F, V, W for the fanfic ask?

F: Share a snippet from one of your favorite dialogue scenes you’ve written and explain why you’re proud of it.

I don't have 'favourite' dialogue scenes, so I've picked a random one that's unposted

this is from the 20k tesseroki fic i never posted bc it was too wholesomely self-indulgent. now it's being reworked into a dark!tess fic out of spite.

“Ah.”

Tess hears Loki exhale heavily and then there’s silence; trepidation accompanies every heart-like beat as he waits for an answer, for he does not think that can be all.

“...I am not sure that I do as well,” Loki eventually confesses. “I do love you, and likely far more than I should a friend, but I... I don’t know. I don’t really want anything more, nor would I exactly recommend expecting that to change.”

“What if I don’t want anything more?” he asks, hopeful.

Loki scoffs harshly. “That negates the point.”

“What if I’d just like to hold hands more often, or the right to show off you’re mine, or an excuse upon which to blame stealing space in your bed?”

“I can hardly stand to be in the same room as myself.” Loki is calm but there is tension in the air, his voice quavers ever so slightly, his magic coils tight around his core as if braced for an expected blow. “I assure you anything more than what we have would be a lost bargain.”

Tess considers letting the odd vehemence stay, but decides it would be better not to. It was not as if he would force Loki into anything, or as if what he feels for him is transactional besides, and he’d be happy to remain friends—he loves their friendship—but from what he understands, mortals and Aesir both have convoluted concepts of what more means.

It is an honourary title at best and an unfulfilled promise at worst.

“We wouldn’t have to change anything,” Tess insists firmly. He disregards bringing up that they do already in all technicality share a bed. Loki has an aversion to speaking of it. Tess does particularly use it for sleep more often with Loki being right there, however.

“I can assure you with large amounts of certainty that I will not reciprocate love that equals yours,” Loki warns, stonily.

“Loki,” Tess laughs softly, squeezing the hand in his, “Love isn’t an amount, and if it were, it would not differentiate by type.”

“I know that,” he snaps. “It’s just embarrassing to explain that I don’t fall in love.”

“I will love that which you want to give and that which you don’t.”

“What if it’s not about wanting, or what if I have nothing I want to give.”

“Then I’ll savour that too,” Tess replies heartily. He looks at Loki hoping he knows that he understands— and he does: that people love differently and he may be overwhelmed by this progression.

“This won’t end well,” Loki mutters.

“Only one way to find out,” Tess says, happy to have gotten Loki to agree.

V: If you could write the sequel (or prequel) to any fic out there not written by yourself, which would you choose?

Currently I want the presumably post-Ragnarok recovery fic of something along the lines of noncon/dubcon grandthorki - All the such fics I’ve seen end after the secxy stuff, and in some cases emotional turmoil too, but I want them to figure out how to be bros again after both the years gap before Ragnarok and the events on Sakaar. Just... where do they go from there. I want others having no idea why Thor and Loki are acting strange and how they get used to being around each other again. All the recovery through their issues in the sweet sweet setting of the Statesman where Bruce Heimdall and Valkyrie are around managing their own things but also going 👀 at them because they don't know. All while Thor and Loki try co-ruling without breaking down every afternoon and are forced to try and support each other when neither is in a decent mindset to do so.

An example of such fics are keep me forever, tell me you want me and love you, but I'm going down by Lise but since I'm not very into writing explicit stuff it'd be a sequel :P

Obviously I’m more comfortable with writing crack though so the ones I'll actually end up writing continuations/prequels for in the foreseeable future are all comedy :D

W: Do you like more general prompts, or more specific ones?

Either are good! I think specific ones make it easier to follow the prompt without going a completely unexpected direction, but I prefer general ones because you can take them in completely unexpected directions :)

[definitelynotsiffrin]

So just gonna mention a few examples I've lived thru myself under the cut:

I've had to give up on SO many shooters (most, honestly) in the past (best example being splatoon 2's singleplayer) because aiming is SUCH a nightmare for me. It's precise and the *smallest* movement will throw your aim off, even more if you're moving (Again, splatoon, how is a game for kids harder to play than adult shooters).

Some keybinds I've needed to change JUST to play (i can't put my pinky on shift/ctrl for long periods of time, my tendom literally ends up in so much pain that it contracts and i can't move it, it's really not what I want to do when playing minecraft just bc i wanted to crouch)

Games without subtitles are a nightmare, the second minecraft added subtitles i've not looked back. Seriously though, if there's no subtitles and you can't understand speech well at times, you might as well not be able to play at all.

Games without any way to direct you towards missions BESIDES one snippet of dialogue that happened? If you accidentally skip it or just have memory issues you can't play without a guide, absolutely ruining the game.

Button mashing. Again, my tendoms will hate me just for existing if I have to button mash. The first thing I did when getting a mouse was getting one that had a multiclick button just to help.

I SWEAR some games have had the worst fonts ever. Reading is already hard with dyslexia and I already confuse words as-is, but games with small/hard to read fonts make me want to cry. It's not going to kill anyone to add dyslexia settings.

Warnings... boy. I can deal with some kinds of horror, but NOT with screamers and analogue horror. I want to have something warning me about that without having to search about it online and spoil the whole game for myself. I don't want to trigger a panic attack or paranoia just because the creators wanted to make it a quirky surprise. I was playing a game once that had a very out of nowhere screamer and the anxiety that ensued was not fun.

Difficulty settings. Seriously. These seem like such a basic thing not just for us but also for people who simply like the story. A game that is overly-hard for me might not be as hard for someone else. I can't fucking play most old platformer games. I wanted to play my GBA mario games but I am literally incapable of it (similar struggle to aiming in shooters).

These things are important! We want to play games too.

im banning ablebodied and neurotypical people from making games unless they have someone neurodivergent and disabled helping them or testing their game. im literally so sick of being unable to play games because nobody bothered to take into account that certain levels are straight up impossible unless you have extremely percise fine motor skills and reaction times. im sick of being driven to tears from frustration with my very minor hand tremors. im sick of vague directions and fast dialogue leaving me completely lost. im sick of seeing people be unable to play games cus the lack of very simple things like changing keybinds.

i understand that some games are designed to be as frustrating as possible and im perfectly fine with that. but singleplayer splatoon 2 levels shouldnt be making me so frustrated that i wanted to bite my fingers off. its advertised towards kids.

neurotypical/ablebodied ppl can reblog but if you try to be funny im going to block you this post isnt a joke and if you cant take it seriously then ur just ableist <3

[plus-size-trans-guys]

I never want to burden people with my problems bc I feel worse but... I have depression and that led me several time to harm myself and fucked me up. I always think that I should stop thinking that I am non binary because my anxiety and low self esteem physically stops me from even try to come out to people. So I feel like, since I don't come out and still present so feminine, and I can't deal with people discovering I'm not cis, then I AM cis, and I try convince myself I can live as a female.

You’re not a burden hon, this is a place to help you out. If you ever need anything at all, please come message me. I’m really sorry that your depression is that bad, and I hope really badly that you start to feel better.  And, I’m really sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you can’t change your gender willingly. You don’t need to come out to be NB. You don’t need to present a certain way to be NB. I’m going to offer a few tips for anxiety and depression that have helped me a bit, and I’m going to ask a favor of you at the end.Depression- Try and find a hobby. I know things feel just… awful and nothing is interesting, but do your best to find something that’s tolerable. Fill your day with something because sitting and doing nothing is absolutely the worst thing you can do. Draw, paint, sing, sculpt, read, write, learn. Do something, trust me.- Talk it out. You can always come to me to talk about anything at all, even if it’s not related to being trans/NB.- Do things for you. Try to relax. Like bubble baths? Take a bubble bath. Like swimming? Go swimming when the weather is right. - I know you’ve heard this a million times but exercise. Trust me. It releases endorphins and you feel wonderful after. It may take a week but once you get into it, it’s addictive and you get this rush of happy. - Any time you have a bad thought, change it to a good one. Example, “Man I’m stupid,” to, “I have a lot of room to grow and learn, maybe I’ll try learning ____” then go for it. Do your best.Anxiety - Find what’s worrying you and break it down. “I’m scared of failing this test,” could be broken down into, “I need to study to pass this test,” then study, and if you fail, that’s okay. I know we live in a world where failure is not acceptable, but you learn from your failure. - Realize whatever you’re worrying about really isn’t that huge of a deal. You’ll be okay, you’ll make it to the next day, you’ll survive and we’re going to help you continue to live. It’s okay, I promise. - Breathe. When you get anxiety, close your eyes, and just breathe. - Make sure you eat and drink enough throughout the day, and try to get as much sleep as you can. This goes for all mental illnesses, really, but it’s incredibly important. If you can’t sleep, try Melatonin. It’s all natural sleep aid and you can get it over the counter like a 3 month supply for $10. If you don’t want to use medicine, try exhausting yourself during the day (exercise). - If this problem keeps worrying you, do whatever you can to fix it. If you feel bad, there’s probably a reason and that reason is probably valid. So, do what you can to fix it. Going back to the test, study, for example. Self Harm- Use a rubber band or a hair elastic instead.- Put an ice cube over where ever you feel the need to hurt yourself.- Draw or paint on yourself instead, I like to draw “tattoos” that I want.- Wait 15 minutes while doing something else. If you still feel the need, wait 15 minutes more. Keep doing this until you don’t feel like you have to, and if you still need to, go back to one of the other methods.- Distract yourself.- Talk to someone.Low Self Esteem- Take care of yourself. Shower, bathe, keep your hair nice, wear clothes that you like, do that sort of thing. If you feel makeup makes you look better, wear makeup. - This is where I ask that favor of you. Every time you look in a mirror, find one good thing to say about yourself. Smile, and think it to yourself. It seems silly, but just try it for me.As for coming out, again, you don’t need to if you don’t want to or if you aren’t ready. Hope this helps. Sorry this is such a long post, whoops. And anytime you need me, feel free dude.