#u need to take ur own advice honey

[mushtoons]

Hatsune Miku does not engage with the whole Middle Eastern conflict you’re forcing people to take a side on. She’s just a virtual idol that just likes to sing songs people have made for her. The East’s true-to-form, non-political traditions are much more convenient than your Western wokeness; sit down and watch a Ghibli film or a Vocaloid video and ignore that silly Arab agenda.

shut the fuck up with ur bullshit and eat shit byeeeee 💕✨💕

miku says fuck u she hates u in particular and go support people in gaza 🤗 💕✨

here are some links to posts where you can donate to those in need!!

[blossomarlia]

heyyyy hope ur having a good day, just requesting a drabble (if ur up to it) w maybe like James and a reader who feels like she has bad fashion taste, kind of niche so don't worry if u don't want to write it!

hii tysm for this request, it was so fun to write! hope your day is wonderful too <3

summary: james finds you stressing over your fashion sense

james potter x fem!reader

warnings: mild sexual implications

“Hey, sweetheart?” James calls as he comes out of the shower. You look up from your spot on the bedroom floor glumly, barely even able to make the most of this opportunity to look at your boyfriend with his shirt off. Perhaps if you ask him later on he’ll take it off again, just to make up for lost time. 

“Hi,” You say, unsuccessfully attempting to insert some cheer into your voice. “Sorry, not dressed yet.”

“We’ve ages before we need to leave- you can go like that, if you want to.” He shrugs, eyebrows knitting together as he takes in your expression. You look down at your outfit; track-pants and a t-shirt out of James’ drawer. Definitely not appropriate attire for meeting friends for dinner and drinks. “Everything alright?”

“I don’t have anything to wear,” You sigh, sounding pathetic even to your own ears. The countless skirts, pants and tops strewn across your bedroom floor are evidence to the opposite, and you know you have nice clothing. Supply isn’t the issue, it’s your apparent lack of ability to select the right combination. “I can’t put together a nice outfit.”

“Sure you can,” James says easily, pulling on boxers and a t-shirt before joining you on the floor, his knee pressing against your thigh. “What about that lovely wrap skirt you wore to my parents’ house for lunch?”

“I don’t know what to wear it with.” You stare dejectedly at the offending item of clothing, which you’ve tried on with about six tops- including the one from last weekend- and taken off again. Nothing looks right, nothing feels like something you’d want to show up to dinner in. Shamefully, you’re struck with jealousy towards your other friends; Lily, with her grown-up outfits that might as well live in a fashion catalogue; Marlene always so effortless and cool; Mary in figure-hugging fabrics that make her look like a goddess. You don’t have the same ability, it seems, instead left totally incapable of even pairing jeans with a top that won’t make you feel as if you’re doing an impression of someone with taste vastly different to yours. 

You sigh, growing more frustrated by the second. James, noticing, shuffles closer and wraps a strong arm around you. His wet hair sprinkles you as he turns to press a kind kiss to your cheek.

“Don’t stress over it, honey-girl. What’s got you so upset?”

“I don’t know.” You press your face to your knees where they’re pulled up, feeling stupid. “I don’t feel very… good, at this. Picking outfits. It’s silly.”

“It isn’t,” James is quick to correct. “But it’s not true, either- you have fantastic outfits, sweetheart. Did someone say otherwise?”

The truth is, nobody’s mentioned your fashion taste at all, really. That’s the problem- silly as it seems. In groups of friends, you’re nobody’s first choice for outfit advice, never the receiver of compliments on your clothing choices. You try really hard to wear clothing that’ll suit you, mimic outfits you see online or from the various stylish people in your life, but none of it feels or looks right. You always look so awkward, you think. Never quite correctly proportioned, never cohesively coloured or textured. You don’t know what you’re doing wrong, you only see the result of it in the mirror each morning. 

“No,” You shake your head. “I just… feel as if none of my clothes look right, when I put them together. I haven’t got good style.” 

It feels like such a shameful thing to admit, both for the childishness of the confession and the truth of it. You can hardly look at James- not for lack of trying on his part, as he squeezes you and presses a kiss to your cotton-clothed shoulder.

“That’s not the case at all!” 

“It is a bit. It’s alright, Jamie, I’m being dramatic. It’s only frustrating me right now because I can’t find something good to wear tonight,” You assure him, voice muffled against your legs. You’re not trying to sound quite as sad as you do. “Sorry.”

He cups your cheek in one hand, so gently that you don’t realise he’s bringing your face up to his level until he’s done it. You blink quickly. “No sorries, my darling. C’mere.”

You’ll go crazy before you reject a cuddle from your boyfriend, so it’s with little resistance that you let him pull you halfway onto his lap and wrap you in his fresh shower smell and warmth. You’re almost lying down, head nestled under his chin and arms around his middle as he rubs gentle lines down your back. 

“You,” He says thoughtfully, “Have really lovely taste in clothing. I know it’s true because I think it each time you come home from the shops and show me what you’ve bought, or try on things before we go out. I particularly love your taste in things during the winter time- not just because you use several of my jumpers- really, because you do such a wonderful job of choosing things that are lovely and interesting. I also love it when you mix colours, especially in the summer, because I know that I’ll have a much greater chance of matching flowers to your outfit when I buy them for you.” 

You laugh despite yourself, sitting up a little and accepting the sweet kiss he offers you. James’ thumb draws soft circles on the skin on front of your ear, his fingers comforting in your hair. 

“I’ve been the sillier of the two of us, really,” He goes on. “Not telling you how much I like all the things you wear. I didn’t realise you weren’t feeling pleased about your clothes, baby, I’ll be sure to let you know from now on.”

“It’s not something you’ve done wrong,” You frown, not wanting to fish for compliments. James gives you plenty of them; it’s not his fault if your specific fashion choices haven’t caught his attention, and you don’t want him to feel bad about it.

He considers this. “S’pose not, but it’s hardly going to be an issue for me to externalise a few more of my thoughts. Do it plenty already, don’t I?”

You breathe out another giggle. “Maybe.”

“‘Maybe’, she says,” James teases, digging his fingers into your ribs and laughing when you squirm away. “I mean it, though. I’ll only be being honest, and I hear that’s rather healthy for relationships.”

“Crazy,” You say sarcastically. There’s a brief lull, and you’re perfectly happy to stay in his arms like this as long as he’ll have you. “You really think it’s not so bad? My style?” “Not in the slightest, sweetheart. I love your style, I love all your clothes.” He confirms. You search his handsome face, his dimples, his kind eyes, and find only patient assurance. “Still, it matters quite a lot less what I think; if you’re unhappy, we can go shopping and find some new outfits for you to wear.”

You sigh. “I’m not sure that’ll help. I’m worried that I don’t have the ability to pick the right stuff, I… I don’t even think I really know what my style is.”

“Well, we could ask for help if you’d like it. I’m sure our friends would be happy to lend a hand- or if you’re not keen on it, we could spend a little while trying out different styles to find what suits you the best. Whatever would make you happy, angel.”

You’re a little overwhelmed with how much you like and love your boyfriend, so instead of attempting to express it you press your lips to his, pleased as ever when he moves his hands to your waist and pulls you closer to his chest. You’re sure you could stay like this forever, happy and together on the floor of your bedroom, but your phone’s alarm reminds you that it’s time to get ready. You pull yourself reluctantly off James, who’s looking a little dazed himself, and let out a long breath. 

“You’re very kind, Jamie,” You say. He grins. 

“Could show you how kind, if you-” “Mm-mm.” You shake your head before you can be too tempted by the tickle of his calloused fingertips under the edge of your t-shirt. “We have to leave in half an hour, and I do have to decide on something to wear tonight.”

He groans as if you’re telling him you’ll never kiss him again, sitting up properly and letting you climb off his lap. “You’re far too responsible, sweetheart. It’s your sole flaw.”

You pat his cheek. “I’ll make it up to you later. For now-” You survey the piles of clothing around you- “I suppose I’d better just choose something I’ve worn before.”

James gets to his feet, looking at the sum of your side of the wardrobe and humming contemplatively. “Well, nothing wrong with that.” 

“Mm,” You half-agree.

He bends down and grabs a black longsleeve in one hand, your jeans in the other. “This always looks good, don’t you think? I could lend you one of my jackets to go with it.”

You nod without giving yourself time to stress about all the other times you’ve worn something similar, smiling fondly up at James’ hopeful expression. “That’s a good idea. Thank you.” “It’s no hardship, angel,” He says lightly, handing you the clothes. “Just don’t overthink it, yeah? You’re so pretty.” You look away to hide your blush, still shy when he compliments you so earnestly, and James makes a happy sort of sound. “And cute, I mean-”

“Okay, enough!” You laugh, taking the clothing just to shut him up.

[awwriri]

bye who said i was jealous of u 😹😹😹 honey i have more friends that ull ever do and thats why ur flopping nobody likes u and ur posts, take my advice and jump off a cliff ❤️

HELLO IM SOBBING HAHAHAHAHA 😭😭😭😭 again anon im surprised ur still hating on me, a literal MINOR……. i don’t care if im flopping or not ??? like why does that matter… why does it matter to u if im flopping or not, how about u take ur own advice instead 🤩🤩 that way everything will be fine. babes u need to seek help from ur friends or a therapist instead of before saying shit to me, thank you !

[honeytonedhottie]

hi honey! I’ve been binge reading most of your posts and I’ve noticed you’ve always mentioned about “thinking before you speak” and even though I feel like it should be a pretty straight forward tip, I just struggle with it. I don’t really think before I speak a lot and most of the things I say are just out of impulse with zero consideration, it’s so bad my friend has called me out for a lot of it and I always somehow make like my class groups that I sit at go silent because I said something that was so awkward or out of pocket that everyone goes quiet. it made me realize how bad it was for me to control what I say and it makes me feel terrible and insecure about myself. I don’t like the things that I say and I most of the time never intend to say them, it’s just this never ending crisis of just wanting some self control but getting consumed by the desperate want for attention, for someone to just laugh at whatever nonsense I’m spewing. I don’t even like my own personality and I really want to change it not for other people but for myself 😓😓 I always think of just dropping my friends so I can focus more on myself so I can become better but I always end up being too scared because I’m selfish and think that if something were to happen and I needed their help, I wouldn’t be able to turn to them and I’d be left alone dealing with things myself (and tbh I don’t want to be alone).

This is a pretty negative post so I’m really sorry for that 😭😭 I’m just going through a midlife crisis and I want to change myself for the better but the things I do just don’t really get along with that idea which makes me struggle a lot. Thank you if you read this ask and give advice, if you want, the next time I make another ask, it’ll be a more positive update. I love all your posts so much and I really do wish you good health. 💗💗

hi anonie 💗💗 i'll do my best to give u a thorough answer and i wish u good health too.

i think that if ur habit to just be negative/say negative things effects ur friendships and ur relationship with urself then thats a sure sign that its time for a change and its good that u also see that <3

at the end of the day u need to take back power over ur mind and remind urself that YOU are in control of ur thoughts, a controlled and sustained imagination is the key. so if u control what u think -> u control what u say.

reward urself when u get an intrusive thought and dont act on it. and PRACTICE anonie, i recommend meditation because it rly puts me in control of my thoughts and emotions.

as for the second portion of ur post, if dropping ur friends and focusing on urself will help you then DO SO. dont let the fear of being alone hinder with ur self growth. doing so will help u grow as a person and become the person that u wanna be. i rly recommend dealing with ur own behavior and taking accountability by giving urself the time and space and resources that u deserve to change

i send all my love anonie and you've got this💗💗💗

[oscar-piastri]

my friend telling me to unmatch hinge boy first and not wait for a potential text. honey i love you but you've been dating the girl who catfished u for 5 years, u now live with her and it's been over 3 years and she still treats u shitty, i think u need to take ur own advice first

[kkujo]

hi! im not entirely sure if ill actually do anything with bread but i saw your posts and im interested in trying it out (especially since i need stuff to help me where im at mentally). i havent really done any baking before (except for store-bought mix brownies and cookies) and my cooking skills are abysmal, but id love to have bread of my own anyhow. do you know of some good resources to help me start? some advice too maybe?

HI YES OF COURSE!!!! this is the instagram account that helped me figure out sourdough, i would reccomend watching a bunch of her vids because the way she explains it is super easy to understand!!

how to make a sourdough starter:

you will need: a jar (remove the rubber seal to allow air in), an elastic band, kitchen scales, flour, water, honey, as well as something to stir with like a spoon or knife!

DAY 1: mix 50g flour, 50g water, and a teeny bit of honey in a jar. weighing is more accurate than using cups so that's the best way to measure out the ingredients!! i like to use a knife to stir personally. put a teeny bit of honey on the tip of the knife, that's all you'll need!! the sugar from the honey helps the yeast grow faster (or something. idk)

DAY 2: stir the mixture!

DAY 3: discard half of the starter. add 50g flour, 50g of water and a tiny bit of honey, and mix. around this time is when you wanna put an elastic band on the jar at the same level as the starter, to help measure how much it rises!! it won't rise much at this stage but you might start to see some bubbles :)

DAY 4: discard half of the starter, add 50g flour and 50g and mix!

repeat the steps of day 4 until around day 10-14 - by this time the starter should double in size a few hours after feeding!! around day 7 to 9 it will smell HORRIBLE like you won't be able to sniff it without gagging but that's normal dw. when it gets to the point where it doubles in size after feeding it won't smell so bad and you can use it to bake!!

at room temperature you should feed the starter every day (discard half, add 50g water and 50g flour, mix) but at cooler temperatures it won't need feeding as often so you can keep it in the fridge and feed once a week instead!!

when you've had your starter for a couple weeks, i recommend saving some discarded starter in a plastic bag and putting it in the freezer - this way if your starter ever gets ruined you have some of your original starter saved!! you can let it thaw and feed as normal and it will come back to life within a few days :D the only times you'll really need to throw ur starter out is if it gets moldy which is pretty uncommon, or if you forget to feed it for a while and it gets super stinky. at which point restarting with the frozen starter is best

you can bake pretty much anything that uses flour/yeast using ur starter!! my fave thing to make is a super simple loaf of bread!

you'll need 500g flour, 250g water, 150g of the sourdough starter, 25g olive oil and 10g salt. i also usually add something like 20g of sugar bc it helps the dough rise faster!! mix it all up and cover with a tea towel and let it rise for around 6 to 8 hours (you can feed your starter at the same time and use that as a measure for when the dough will be ready!! once the starter has doubled the dough will be risen)

once the dough has risen, knead it on a floured surface. my fave way to knead it is twisting towards the middle, rotate & repeat (i hope this makes sense) you should feel the dough getting tighter as u fold it!!

baking in a pot with a lid helps keep the moisture in and stops ur crust from getting too hard!! i cook the bread in a greased ceramic pot for about an hour on a lowish temperature around 150 degrees celsius, and then about another 20 mins without the lid to let the crust crisp up!!

it definitely takes some trial and error to get ur bread looking good, especially bc each starter is slightly different and unique so you might have to adapt certain things to help ur starter thrive!! for example i've found that my starter likes being fed more, so i usually mix about 120g of flour and water instead of 50g!! but it's really just a matter of seeing what works for you and ur starter ^_^

[nick4lifer]

And they're only hatin cuz ur black? No honey, your a fucking weirdo. Your a lame excuse of a fucking human, and in return u tell them to, "kys"? Take ur own fucking advice tf? Back to the racist shit, I'm mixed. Jamaican, n other shit yo goofy ass don't need to know, but tf u gonna say now that ur own fuckin race is hatin on u?

bro, im not jamaican we aren't the same race im aboriginal so kys

[luvdsc]

hello miss cat i hope that ur doing well!! i need some advice/comfort and i decided to turn to u bc ur so sweet in all ur messages and u give supportive big sister vibes and i don't have anyone like that to talk to 😔 so im a freshman in uni and it's the beginning of my second semester and i feel like so far uni isn't all that i thought it would be? don't get me wrong i like it, def a lot more than high school and i like my campus and school and i like all the freedom and being on my own/

hey, honey bee !!! 💛 thank you for your well wishes, I hope you’re also doing well, and I’m so sorry for the late reply 😖 oh you’re so sweet oh my gosh, thank you for thinking of me so positively 🥺🥺💖💖 you’re always welcome to come talk to me, lovebug !!! I’m trying harder to answer everything in a timely manner now that work has slowed down a bit :’) first off, big congrats on taking this huge step in your life, sweetpea 🌼🌼 it’s your first time going off into the world on your own and is basically the first step into adulthood without your parents or anyone holding your hand, and it’s scary but I’m proud of you for making it this far 🌷🌷 I’m glad to hear that you’re enjoying your freedom and independence and liking it more than hs !! 🌸🌸

oh 🥺 I think not a lot of people talk about this, but I understand, college can be an incredibly lonely period of time because you see everyone else having fun with their friend groups and fitting in, and you’re trying hard to do the same but it’s difficult when people already found their groups or you don’t click with people, and you don’t know where you fit in. It’s hard because the way social media and college culture is portrayed in media shows that everyone is so social and has their little niche and best friends, it builds up these expectations and it just makes it all the more disappointing and lonely when you don’t have that positive experience because it’s like what am I doing wrong ?? It’s like… you can be standing in a crowded room full of people, full of people you can even consider as friends and more than acquaintances, and you can even be talking to some of them, but it still feels so lonely because they don’t understand you in the way you hope to be understood nor do you feel completely comfortable with them. I’m so so sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way, lovebug, and I honestly don’t know what to say except that I understand how you feel and I sincerely hope that you’ll be able to find your people, your group of friends, and form those close bonds as well 🤍

also, I’m really sorry to hear that your chemistry class did not go well, lovebug ): I hope this semester is going better !!! how are your classes going? 💓 oh goodness, are you fully recovered from covid now ??? how are you feeling, honey bee? I’m sorry to hear that you missed class and clubs ): were you still able to join those clubs and meet new people? were you able to catch up on all your classes too? I hope you were able to still make friends with fellow club members and your classmates, lovebug 💗

i’m so so sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way, sweetpea, and if you had gone to my uni, then I would definitely invite you to come with me on all my social outings and hang out with me and my friends !!!!! 💛💛 I completely get it, I know that I too am guilty of saying things will get better and to have hope for the future, but I know that right now, it just, for lack of a better word, sucks ass, doesn’t it? It’s hard and it hurts and it’s so very lonely, and when I felt that way, I thought I was being silly and a little stupid for crying over something like this, but it’s not. It’s not silly or stupid, it’s valid and real, and it sucks really bad, and if there’s anything I can do, if you want someone to talk to, then you’re always welcome to talk to me, honey bee 💟💟 and I hope you hang out with your roomies a lot too !! You mentioned that you’re close with them, and although I know you want to meet new people and branch out, it’s always nice to still hang out with old friends and maybe you all can get lunch together or do something fun together every week 🌷🌷

From my own personal experience, I met all my college best friends at different times throughout uni. For instance, my two bestest friends are two girls who I sat next to randomly in an 8 am class my junior year and never thought we’d be this close four years later. My other best friend is the random roomie I was assigned my freshman year. Another best friend is the random roomie I was assigned my junior year after my friend had to bail out because she got into her foreign exchange program. Another best friend is someone I actually met in my freshman year once because she was the roommate of one of my friends, and then she was a mutual friend of one of my suitemates sophomore year, and then, I saw her around due to mutual friends in junior year at events, but we still weren’t close yet, and then we suddenly just clicked in senior year and now she’s one of my closest friends and we’re travel buddies and hang out every two weeks. So, I basically met all my close friends during my last two years of uni. I didn’t have that in my earlier years, like I was very social and had so many friends but none where I had a tight friendship with, aside from my freshman roomie like you. And it was lonely at times when I realized I didn’t have someone I wanted to share everything about myself. I know how you feel, sweetpea, and I hope by sharing my experience, you feel a little less alone because I went through a similar experience my first and second years too 💘 I hope you’ll also be able to find the friends you’re looking for and that you get to have the college experience you want, sweetpea 💖

And omg it’s okay, you don’t have to apologize, lovebug !!! 💕 Thank you for trusting me with your experience, and I hope that my response can provide a little bit of comfort at least :’) please feel free to send in asks whenever you’d like, honey bee, and I’m trying my best to answer them more on time from now on !! 💗💗 and thank you for enjoying my writing and for your compliments 🥺💜💜 I hope my blog can continue to be a source of comfort for you, lovebug 🤍🤍 I know you sent this in a while back, so I hope that things have gotten better for you, sweetpea, and that you’re feeling a little less lonely and feeling happier at college now 💛💛 sending you all my love, support, and well wishes, angel 💌💌✨✨ and I hope you have the bestest day / night too !!!! 🌷🌷🌷

[mejomonster]

"Thank you for being my supportive straight friend"

Dhdhdhfh

Ok now I'm genuinely curious. Nick can

A. Not know he likes guys for sure yet. And as he figures it out, thunk he's straight cause ppl always assume he's straight. And therefore be confused and not realize his own sexuality very fast (honey I've been there ajsjsj sucks getting told ur straight just to confuse u)

B. Know he likes guys and now think other ppl don't see him as "gay enough" and feel awkward like ppl would treat him different if he was more open. Potentially likely (I have also been here... my advice is to come out to friends and crushes ASAP if u find urself assumed straight so if they're Not straight they don't hide stuff from u assuming u aren't gonna relate, and so u can be more open and they'll get u need the support the same way they do lol)

C. He knows he likes guys and IS going to immediately be upfront about it because like college age me he's super sick of ppl assuming he's straight (unlikely in a teen story, just like... sometimes teens are not that self aware and confident and certain yet. Takes time to accept urself enough to know ppl who won't accept u aren't worth ur time tbh)

[dreamdropsystemarchive]

Ok so I saw that u guys had trouble with explaining trauma to ur guys therapist so i thought u might need a tip (btw u guys dont have to do it I just wanna make a suggestion lol)

Write down what u guys can remember. It might take a while, but that's ok becuz ur going at ur own pace. And an important note: take a break when you feel like you are abt to panic. Then when you feel like the time is ready, give it to ur therapist and they can read it.

It's a thing that I like to do cuz we're not good at saying traumatic things on the spot, it takes us a while to remember

this is great advice. we will try. possibly. were making a timeline of what we remember of our life and its been hard. we had to take breaks. Shane was starting to break down.

we need to to write/type it out somewhere. we know a lot of our trauma, but not all of it. alters hold memories and some refuse or cant share (being nonverbal, etc) we will try our best.

some want to be transparent and have Shane our host and other members know all of what happen to us what we can peice together ourseleves but we are scared some alters cannot handle it.

Shane and others who dont hold memories only know what weve told them, and what we pieced together from flashbacks when they asked. we want to protect them. its not safe in my opinion. i want them to know and i wont hide anything from them and others tho. sorry a lots going on system wise thank you for the advice - Honey

[harrysgoldenline]

can i get a harry one shot where you are really insecure about the whole album/ camille thing and u talk to sarah about it and ur crying and harry notices and comes over but u run away and sarah tells him everything and he comes to find you but you pretend like ur fine but he sees through it and he goes off on this lone speech about how much he loves you and how ur the only person he will ever love and u both are just happy it’s out and the open and a happy ending ?

OMG MY FIRST REQUEST!! YES OF COURSE! I REALLY REALLY REALLY HOPE YOU LIKE IT ! and if anyone else has any requests, send them my way!!! :)

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My Muse

Y/N was distraught.

She loved Harry, his music, his career and could not be more proud of him, his success and who he has become.

Although, she was struggling.

This whole album has been about Harry discovering himself, who he is... but also about his ex-girlfriend Camille.

Y/N knew about Harry everything he went through after their relationship ended, he was struggling greatly. They met around half a year after the break up, but she could see Harry was still struggling. She could see how he would keep to himself around new people, especially out in public. He was quite and wouldn’t speak out much, very different then how their mutual friend, Sarah had always described him.

Sarah has always talked highly of him, being in his band they grew very close and she often got to see how he went through his different writing processes. She saw him before and after shows and she knew him before and after Camille. Something Y/N could not relate to.

As time passed, the two got together, forming what their friends called a power couple. Harry and Y/N were completely inseparable, growing closer and closer as each day passed.

Harry opened up to her a few months into the relationship, sitting her down and letting her know exactly what happened in the relationship and why it was so difficult for him when it ended. He told her that since it was a huge part of the album, he might have to talk about it a bit, without saying names of course but she knew that everyone else already knew who he was going to be talking about.

“It’s okay, Harry. I totally understand. Don’t worry about it.” She would always say, giving him a smile and a soft kiss onto his jawline.

Y/N wasn’t lying, she did understand why and she didn’t want him to worry about her, not now. Not when his second album is taking off, hitting the top of the charts in preorder alone.

She did enjoy the majority of interviews. Hearing him tell funny stories of the writing process, or always getting emotional as he opens up about finding himself, his true sound and how he doesn’t feel like he needs to hold back anymore. But interview after interview, it got harder. Hearing him talk about the love he felt and then the unbearable pain after it was gone. She felt inadequate. Wondering if nothing went wrong, where would she be? Would Harry still fall for her when Sarah introduced him like he said he did?

Although, Y/N never brought up these concerns to him. Especially after the album drop he was on top of the world, explaining how he has never felt happier and more free, but she couldn’t help thinking if he would be happier with her by his side instead.

“Y/N, are you alright?” A voice brings her out, looking up and seeing Sarah standing there at the door, offering her a soft smile.

“Oh hi! Yeah, I’m totally fine don’t worry about me.” She nodded, looking back at the monitor, watching Harry messing around on stage with Mitch after finishing up a soundcheck nearly a minute ago. They often liked to stay for a while, messing around on stage, this often gave Sarah and Y/N sometime to catch up as their boys hung out together.

“Are you sure, sweetheart?” She asked, eyebrows furrowing as she sat next to her on the couch, “Cmon (Y/N), you know you can trust me with anything.”

“How’d Harry do?” She asked, trying to ease in, hearing Harry strum in the background to Cherry, causing Y/N to bite her bottom lip.

“Good... was just a sound check. Everything running fine- seriously what’s going on?” Sarah insisted, interrupting herself.

“What was he like? With her?”

A silence fills the room until Sarah let’s out a sigh, muttering a soft ‘oh honey’ before scooting closer, arms going around her friend protectively. Sarah knew she was struggling, but with it being such a difficult subject, she didn’t want to pry too much. She wanted to wait until Y/N was ready to confide in her, but instead she bottled it up.

“Fuck, sorry I shouldn’t have asked thats... sorry it’s none of my business.” Y/N quickly says, forcing a laugh and wiping her eyes, standing up quickly and going to look for her purse.

“You have nothing to apologize for. I know how hard this has been for you.” Her friend agrees, standing and following her, “have you and Harry talked about it? Talked about how this has been for you?”

Y/N shook her head, biting her lip hard as her eyes were squeezed shut, knowing if she spoke a word she would break down, she had been holding it in for too long.

“Do you wanna talk about it with him?”

She shrugged at this, honestly not knowing the answer. If she did, she didn’t know if Harry would stop all together, making his album less authentic or If he would be upset she held it in, or even said anything about it at all. But she genuinely didn’t know if she could hold it in any longer.

“You can tell me.” Sarah nodded, hugging her tightly, “let it out.”

“It hurts” Y/N breaks, letting out a sob, “it seems like- like all he talks about is her! And I know he wrote this whole thing before we met and- do you think he still loves her?”

“Y/N, no.” She says, pulling her back and wiping the tears from her friends face, “I’ve seen this man before, during and after both of you, and I have never seen him this happy. Ever”

She shakes her head, not believing her. “It can’t be me. It’s the album, the success! He’s himself now, so that’s what’s making him happy. I didn’t help him- she did.”

“Y/N stop” Sarah demanded, grabbing her shoulders and moving her hair out of her face, “Harry is in love with you! I remember him coming to me, asking me for advice when you went out on your first date.”

She shakes her head, disbelief and doubt being pumped through her veins, “it just doesn’t make sense! Look at her and then look at me. Who would you choose?”

“You”

“Stop.” She argues, rolling her eyes, “she’s skinnier and prettier and older! She’s way older than me, way older than him. Is that what he wants? I’m younger than him, Sarah. Young enough where there’s a million articles about it.”

“You’re going to make yourself sick if you don’t calm down.” Sarah demands, “please? Just calm down and we can talk about this. What does your age have to do with anything? You’re so beautiful, Y/N.”

“No, I should stop. Mitch and Harry will be back any second.” She sniffles, looking at herself in the mirror and sighing, dabbing at the skin around her eyes to try and depuff them.

“You can’t hold this in.” Sarah whispers, hugging her friend again, “please? Talk to me?”

“I love him and it’s scary because I don’t know-“ Y/N begins but quickly stops, hearing her boyfriends loud laughter, soon getting louder as he opened the door.

Y/N shoots Sarah a sympathetic look, silently begging her to remain quiet and not say a word, which she nods, giving Mitch and Harry a smile as they walk in the door, each boy going to each of them.

“Hey babe!” Harry smirks, kissing her before pulling back, eyebrows furrowing together and he lowers his voice, “are you alright? You look like you’ve been crying.”

“I’m okay!” She smiles, “poked my eye when I was fixing my makeup. Anyways, what are you guys up to?”

“We were gonna go grab some food before the show! Where do you wanna go?” He asks, hands going around her waist.

“Oh I’m not hungry.” She quickly responds, “been feeling a bit off all day so I might stay behind. I wanna feel better for your show.”

Harry frowns, pulling her closer to him before leading her out of the lounge room, leaving Mitch and Sarah as they continue their own conversation. Harry leads her off to his private dressing room.

“What’s up?” He frowns, lifting his hand to her face and rubbing her cheek softly, “what happened?”

“Nothing, Harry.” She smiles, her heart growing at his concern. Yet, she knows she can’t tell him. Not now, hours before his mini Fine Line show in London. The last thing she wants to be is a distraction, “don’t worry about me, really! And I feel like I’ve been budging in too much, go bond with the band!”

“You’re not interrupting anything. I want you here.”

“I know and I appreciate that, really, love being around you and everybody.” She giggles, “but I’m not gonna be there the whole tour and I gotta get used to that.”

“I wish you could be.” He frowns, pulling her right against his chest, “always want you next to me.... or below me.”

“Harry!” She laughed, pulling back and playfully pushing him, “you’re crazy.”

“Crazy for you, my love.” He dopily smirks, kissing her, softly.

She giggled against his lips, pulling him closer for another, each kiss making her worries drift further and further away. Mind reeling as his hands fall down her waist, gripping her bum as he pushes her closer, his lips falling down to her neck.

“Hey man, Sar-“ Mitchs voice causing them to jump away from each other, the three of them turning red as he clears his throat, “Um- sorry. I was just saying that Sarah said she’s gonna take a nap before the show too so I think it’s just just gonna be us and the other guys.”

“Sounds good!” He smirks, feeling a bit smug after what Mitch just walked in on, he turns back to Y/N, tucking a hair behind her ear, “you can stay in here if you want, lock the door and take a nap or whatever you need. Nobody should bother you and I’ll be back before you know it. Okay?”

She nodded, thanking him before pressing a kiss to his lips, “I love you, Harry.”

“I love you more, babygirl.” He smiles, kissing the top of her head before waving goodbye, following Mitch out.

She sighs, falling back on the couch and closing her eyes, mind muddled with confusion. Moments like that make her feel so silly, wondering why she ever worried in the first place. She does trust Harry, she doesn’t worry about him going out to try and find someone else, but she always wonders if he prefers to be with her, just has Y/N because he doesn’t have that option anymore.

She can’t help but lay awake, spending many sleepless nights just comparing herself to her. Camille was beautiful, and nobody could deny that. She had such grace and Y/N felt like her French accent and demeanor made her much more interesting then her own plain American ways. She wonders if Harry wishes Y/N was older, rather than being multiple years younger. She wondered if it annoyed him, bothered him that she had a great lack of experience. Harry was all she’d ever known and all she wants forever.

But did he feel the same? Did he actually love her? Does he actually find her as beautiful as he said? She found it hard to believe, especially seeing all he has had in the past. It makes her feel guilty, guilty for feeling so upset and hurt by seeing and hearing about people he was with prior, even though they’d never met at the time.

The door swings open, startling her and causing her to jump and heart to pound as she prepared what she would say next to Sarah, but it wasn’t her, it was Harry.

“What? What are you doing here?” She rushes, clutching her chest to try and calm her racing heart, I thought you were going to get food? Did you forget something?”

“Yes.” He mumbles, sinking down onto the couch next to her and holding her face in his hands, “I forgot to tell you how important you are to me. More than any album, place on the charts, anything.”

“W-what? Where is this coming from, Bubs?”

“Sarah told me what you said to her.” He frowns, eyes sparkling, “and I’m the biggest fucking arsehole I didn’t stop to talk to you about it once. To stop and actually ask you about it.”

“Harry, really, I’m just being-“

“Y/N listen, you are the best thing to ever happen to me. You’re my person. You’re it for me.” He whispers, leaning his forehead against her, tears forming in her eyes as she’s filled with so many emotions, “you gotta believe me, lovie.”

“I love you, Harry.” She sniffles, “I believe you, I’m sorry.”

“Don’t apologize, you didn’t do anything wrong. This is all my fault. I should’ve talked to you more, I didn’t even think about how hard this would be for you, I’m so sorry.” He rambles, “you are the love of my life Y/N. Yes, I was in love before but this? With you? It’s so strong and real and terrifying. I’ve never felt this before. I want to be with you. Forever. Nobody else. And I cannot begin to tell you how sorry I am to not have made that clear.”

“I should’ve told you from the beginning how I felt.” She admits, “I don’t want you to stop talking about it in interviews if that’s what you want to say, you should say it. It’s just really hard to hear you talk about her all the time.”

“I’m sorry my love. I don’t deserve you, don’t deserve your support.” He whispers, kissing her hands, “I am so beyond lucky to have you. You are the most beautiful, kind, considerate woman in the whole world. I don’t know how I got you.”

“Stop it.” She blushes, bringing her hands away from his lips and up to his face, shaking her head in disbelief, wondering how he even existed, “you are truly the most perfect man.”

“Now you stop.” He chuckles, cheeks turning pink, “I’m praising you here... really though love. You are my muse. I have millions of songs written about you.”

“Really?” She whispers, eyes wide, “you’re not just saying that?”

“What do you think Mitch and I are doing all the time?” He laughs, “we make Sarah go because we know she’d tell!”

“Well you’re right, because she told you what I said after I told her not too.” She blushes, looking down at her lap.

“Oh stop that you know she did the right thing.” He laughs, dragging her a bit closer to him so her legs lay over his lap, “Honestly, I was scared to show you them, thought I was open before wait till you hear these.”

“Can I? Can I hear them? Please?”

“I guess since you have good manners.” He smirks, pulling her on top of him. She giggles and he pulls her onto his lap, “you can hear ‘em all. Don’t know what I was waiting for... guess I was just scared?”

“Of what, Bubby?” She frowns, arms resting around his shoulders as she looks up at him.

“I don’t know... I just... I know you’re the one, so it’s kinda scary I guess...not knowing if you feel the same.”

“I do.” She squeaks, “I love you so much- wanna be with you forever.”

“Yeah?” He smirks, squeezing her hips tight causing her to squeal, falling into him, “I’ve been yours since the day we met. You inspire me, Y/N. You are my muse. I’d choose you over anyone. You are my priority.”

He leans in, kissing her softly, almost as if he was afraid of breaking her in two. His lips fell to her neck, sucking on her favorite spot and her grip tightened on him, head falling to the side a bit and she lets out a soft whimper.

“Harry, please...” she squeaked, hips pressing down into him involuntarily.

“I’m gonna take care of you.” He whispers lowly, pulling up the bottom of her dress and over her head, “gonna take care of you until the day I die, my love.”

[jungxk]

hiii um i have a question but u don't have to answer if you don't want to! i wonder if you have tips on how not to be jealous? i'm not the prettiest person and i have low self esteem so i often get jealous of everyone :( i found out an actor i rly like is dating and i get super jealous my heart beats so fast like i'm having an anxiety attack. and i know it's stupid cause they can do whatever they want but like im jus. jealous? idk :\ i know hes not mine and all but idk how to not feel these ugly emotions ykwim

hi honey!! first of all i want to say the fact that you can recognise that what you feel is irrational, unrealistic and unhealthy is already testament to how brave and strong you are. it’s not easy to admit to these things let alone seek advice about it so thank you and well done for doing so. this is already more than most ppl in fandoms.

secondly i want to make clear how much of these celebrity crushes are not ur fault. it took me a long time to realise it too. but these ppl literally have teams behind them that perfectly curate an image for normal ppl like us to fall in love with, i’m talking wardrobe mannerisms speech patterns charisma body language camera eye contact EVERYTHING. they know exactly where to leave gaps so u can fill them in urself in ur own head to make them into ur Perfect Type. they need normal ppl to fall in love with celebs bc that’s how they get u to purchase their content. once u understand that, it’s difficult to maintain the same level of attachment bc we literally don’t know these ppl. we’re attached to what we made them out to be in our heads. but it’s takes such a long time to unlearn that so pls don’t beat urself up over it, slowly detach from their content, delete the blogs and stop the notifications and replace it with a new hobby or activity and i promise you will come out of these ugly feelings!

ppl don’t rly say this on the internet much and even when i did hear it when i was younger i didn’t take it to heart but: when something stops being fun you can just stop doing it. u can just log off and do something else. there’s no shame in using things to cope bc being alive is hard and we all cope with whatever we have. i love you and i promise things will get better x

[swynlake-spill]

Boba, please bully some of our shyer residents into posting selfies! I am dying for some Rarer Insta Content.

ok i’ll try here we go 

@vixey-chakraborty KEEP THE COW CONTENT COMING BUT ALSO LET UR OWN NATURAL RADIANCE SHINE!!! I LOVE U PLEASE IM ASKING SO NICELY BUT ALSO VERY LOUDLY SO EVERYONE CAN HEAR 

@rikuxnakayama sir  i cannot keep buying overpriced coffee from [name redacted] just for the ten seconds of eye contact we have i simply do not make enough money have pity on me and POST 

@vitani-blackwell u arent really shy so i dont understand how you are not posting daily thirst traps i have seen your body and therefore seen god please RESUME REGULAR CONTENT 

@melody-the-unwritten typing ur username just now made me cry. :( melody i MISS YOu. melody i dont think u understand u could be miss swynlake if u wanted... this is your YEAR

@princess-ting-ting you post extremely quality pics of your fish and family jigsaw puzzles and stuff and thats valid and good plz dont stop but also you are the qin i respect in this world and i think you deserve to be told how beautiful u are js 

@littlelectriceelduh ur mysterious and look like the boy my mum warned me about. plz indulge my worst desires and help me star in my very own all time low pop punk fantasy 

@arista-the-musical BLASPHEMY that i am tagging a triton wtf did your sisters teach u!! arista when i say that i believe if you post selfies tagged #stopglobalwarming that it could maybe inspire a movement im not even being hyperbolic i think the power is in your hands and you should use it 

@cinderellaashbourne HONEY PLEASE COME HOME tiana as her roommate why are you not instilling in ella the confidence needed to become a powerhouse insta mom im just saying she could build an empire off her smile 

@babettexdurand seeing u makes me go  🥺 🥺 🥺 🥺 🥺 🥺 sincerely do not think there are words... 

@evil--endeavors you want to be taken seriously as a business woman, totally fair! however, fourth wave feminism said stuff about idk owning ur sexuality or-- nvm dont do it for me do it for the young LESBIANS. also kick me in the face :) 

@one-lucky-lad small confession...i have a crush on this darling I KNOW I KNOW HOW EMBARRASSING however i am not immune to the specific charms of his beautiful blue eyes. im just saying haha what if we kissed 

@tink-bell tink used to post all the time but then she got her heart broken or something and i just think she needs to build up all that very valid fierce tink bell confidence she was famous for!! tink PLEASE give me the bed selfie i know you have! txt me u up ;) ? ask me to netflix and chill! also post on instagram obviously! 

@sanmononoke what is going on with this person real talk besides ofc being very hot as per swynlake’s hotness requirement. idk if she has an instagram. bet she’d post like feet pics and shit like that. think that we need a little bit of that spice in swynlake dont you!!! 

@moon-yeongjun frankly it is a crime that we are all collectively robbed of the journey that would be jun moon instagram experience. if you dont think he’s hot you’re lying to yourself!! new rule every time jun posts a petition he owes us a selfie its only fair idk im once again putting tiana to the task of making that happen

@notmuchofatail he’s been posting more lately but it is not enough for me. gregory eeyore is my past present and future. like im in love with him is what im saying. 

@a-merman-not-a-guppy stop pretending like you’re not a handsome lad its EMBARRASSING. what is the point also of designing ur own clothes if you arent putting up your wares on instagram. again this is just common sense i cannot believe im giving this immaculate advice for free. 

@notbad-justsungthatway again she posts decently but i think she should post more bc she is easily in the ten hottest people ever in swynlake. its a fact not an opinion and we’d all feel a lot calmer if she was active daily on instagram

@pinkpearlpark the coolest of the teens!! i need her to post so she can teach ME how to post. like idk what im doing teach me the ways of being an attractive rich cool person miss park! 

@bucktoothed--ice-prince again idk whats going on here he’s this very mysterious stranger who blew into town out of nowhere. maybe going without an instagram is the whole point but i would rather write dumb things on ur posts tbh

@trickster-knownas-pan AND A THIRD person who i know nothing about. maybe i am just nosy but also you are hot so you owe me something thats how survival of the fittest works maybe !!!!!!! i failed science three times!!!! 

@devyn-morey lol i know he posts a lot but obviously! obviously! 

@geehosaphat on the other hand martin has two posts on his instagram maybe and thats abysmal. martin you do realize you’re like. hot right. i mean it like you could be in a magazine. you’re hot. take off your shirt sometime maybe if you’re comfortable so you can flaunt it! 

@winndeavor again i know ur a serious business person who has a certain brand to maintain. on the other hand: you have abs. much to think about i know. 

@hclyghcst DISGUSTING that you could win jewel of the season or w/e and then disappear from my life. you owe me like ten selfies at this point! you’re cute kind and a good friend to people in your life! fuck im obsessed with u!! 

@vvinter-queen and now we shout out to her sister ANNA to help her. anna how is it that u have a moderately thriving bookstagram and yet elsa has no idea what a filter is. intervene. fix it. she’s beautiful. imagine how much ice cream u will sell. 

@gleamdncglow u dont have to post bc it might actually piss me off considering how pretty you are. but if you want to i guess (please please please please please please) 

@gabriella-marino you know what’s the best way to get to know ppl in town and make friends! yeah ur right, its thirst traps on instagram! i think you’re so cute on a serious note please tell me more about u...maybe in the captions on your thirst trap for instagram! 

@edwardandalasia honestly just curious how it would go if someone showed edward who is maybe suffering from some textbook case of amnesia how instagram works. you also have the best skin ive ever seen. send me ur tips. ok thank u!!!

[goldengoddess]

💌 - hii i've never requested so im not sure if this is how this works but can i get a ship request? preferably grishaverse, and male :) i have mid length brown hair with curtain bangs and brown eyes. i know 2 languages. my fav hobbies are reading, editing (video editing). i'm a plant mom. fall and winter >>> spring and summer, i cannot last in the heat. i'm really guarded and like kind of bad of like being vulnerable towards other people but i think i'm really good at giving advice. i'm v sarcastic. my love language is definitely acts of service. i love writing and analyzing passages and songs. my colors are green, white/beige and brown. and i love travelling :)) ALSO congrats on 1k!! you deserve it <33

hey babe yes this is how it works HAHA ur doing amazing<3 of course you can get a ship and thank u so much honey!

i ship you with mattias helvar!

this ship makes sense only if you look at it in the opposites attract kind of way, two couples that have nothing in common but bring out the best in each other. matthias would be so clueless about all the things you're passionate about but he'd do his best to learn about everything. for example, video editing? this man's like a grandpa type cluless so he'd need you to explain every step at least ten times. and plants? matthias gives the vibes that he'd kill everything green, zero green thumb. but he thinks it's so adorable how you run around the house taking care of all your plants like the little plant mom you are. takes you to see the snow during the winter! like's to see you all bundled up, sometimes in his own sweaters and coats. he promises to take you all over the world, wherever you want, as long as you promise to be his forever.

[thiswaycomessomethingwicked]

this is the gentleman jack anon from a bit ago, sorry I dunno why it was anon last time lol- in terms of ur fics reminding me of the show I think it's mainly due to

1) historical queerness - I kno technically most of ur stuff is fantasy but it's basically the same - Annes (eponymous gentleman jack) mascultinity n attire is very reminiscent in vibe of ur discworld fics in my opinion

2) Anne in general really reminds me of Downey bc it's mentioned she had a reputation for gambling / hanging out with soldiers and being rambunctious in her youth but now she's a very mature character and a lot of the plot focuses on her business and landownership deals similar to Downey and running the assassin's guild. also shes really invested in maintaining the status of shibden hall, her historical home which is very similar to Downey's taste for traditionalism and grandeur. Also as characters they're both very into dignity/ courtesy/ 'doing the done thing'

3) theres also scheming and drama and illness which vaguely reminds me of the Sicily plot in thus always

4) Anne's actually a proper nerd aswell and loves to mention her time studying anatomy / art / blah blah in Paris which echoes William 'poisonous plants' Downey n Vetinari the og big nerd

5) also just older queer people which u don't often see in fic n stuff- Anne is in her 40s in the series

anyway that's just a few things that came to mind I could probably write an essay on it but I would defo reccomend u watch it I think it's right up ur lane 💓 (Soz for how long this got hehe)

<3 helloooo 

1) Historical queerness - I do borrow a *tonne* from early modern and late-early modern queerness for Discworld stuff, and Downey in particular (see: Downey’s hats & Florentine mlm and their hats) - and I mean discworld as TP wrote it has no consistency in clothes so there is the late-early modern and early victorian (e.g. Moist & Adora) mixed in with late medieval and early modern (e.g. Vetinari) - I do tend towards the early modern myself because medieval and victorian is overdone 

2) ahhh that is delightful! she is clearly living her best life. But I do appreciate a good #Growth experience with characters - yet ones who never lose their joie de vivre. So, still have a love and lust for life, but you know, also have maturity, responsibility and a sense that there are Consequences for Thine Own Actions. Which us something you rarely see in characters? It tends to be Rake/Louche Living v. Stodge/Do What is Right rather than a more normal mix of someone who once ran wild who learned there are consequences and has appropriately tempered themselves. So they’re still be a mad lad when they want to be but also pay the bills on time and have descent life advice and make good relationship decisions. 

3) ooooooo! this interests me greatly! anyone get suspiciously pushed down some stairs? 

4) <3 <3 ah this Delights me. Downey: Have you heard of this rare mushroom? Vetinari: Have you heard of this super niche linguist? Downey: I love you so much you dumb nerd. Vetinari: takes one to know one. Downey: I will have you know I’m one of the cool kids. Vetinari: mmmk honey. Only because no one knows about your secret sordid plant nerd ways. 

5) YES. OK I LOVE OLD QUEERS. I love them so much. Mostly because i am a 75 year old man at heart. But yes I love old queers and i just - always want more of them. all of them living their best lives. doing what they need to do. just out their. being gay. ugh - be still my beating heart. 

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well! it’s still on my to-watch list and that has been a great booster of it up the list! so good work! 💓 💓 

in cute things; my mom has watched it in an attempt to better understand me since I apparently remind her of the Anne character and she was very excited when she finished it and told me all about it and I was like “thank u you’re great” then she bought me men’s boots. 

so you know, happy 2021 everyone. 

[bananonbinary]

if anyone’s curious, here’s my very lengthy and disorganized notes + scriptures on the bible and polyamory. (i didnt include any specific references to biblical polyam relationships, just because everyone knows everyone was polyam and i dont feel the need to source that. this is mostly focusing on The Law. and polyam’s status as a “sin.”)

my conclusion: 1) “marriage” in the bible is defined by man + God, not the state. it’s just being in a committed relationship with someone (and doing sexytimes). 2) the bible describes polyamorous relationships as “marriage,” even the ones it’s condemning for being incest or w/e. 3) therefor, polyamory can NOT be judged differently than monoamory on grounds of adultery or fornication, and while there is greater discussion to be had about these things (i dont think they are sins either), it’s bigoted to presume those topics are somehow inherent to polyam and not just relevant to all sexual relationships. there is NO biblical evidence that polyamorous “marriage” should be treated any different than monoamorous “marriage.”

define marriage

the Big One, genesis 2:23-25


“The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”



there’s no legal status here, nor even a particular ceremony. Adam and Eve are “married” just by being in a committed relationship before God.


1 Corinthians 6:12
12

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14 By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”[b] 17 But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.



there’s a lot in here worth talking about in regards to queer relationships and the questionable universal applicability of paul’s letters, but a)sin is specifically alluded to as “not beneficial” (which means stfu “oh it was accepted back then but we know better now.” if ur gonna consider it sinful WITHOUT scripture backing u up you better have a damn good reason.) and b) “one flesh” is used just to refer to the act of sex. so if we’re defining marriage with the genisis passage, all it is is leaving your family, living with someone, and having sex with them. no pastor or county judge required.

are we really willing to say Morality is decided by something as fickle and bigoted as legal status?

matthew 19:4
4

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”



marriage isn’t defined as something the state decides, but by the action of choosing to be with someone and “becoming one flesh.” defining marriage based on what the state says rather than God is borderline heresy.


define adultery

the too-many-words one, leviticus 20:10-22


“‘If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.
11 “‘If a man has sexual relations with his father’s wife, he has dishonored his father. Both the man and the woman are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
12 “‘If a man has sexual relations with his daughter-in-law, both of them are to be put to death. What they have done is a perversion; their blood will be on their own heads.
13 “‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
14 “‘If a man marries both a woman and her mother, it is wicked. Both he and they must be burned in the fire, so that no wickedness will be among you.
15 “‘If a man has sexual relations with an animal, he is to be put to death, and you must kill the animal.
16 “‘If a woman approaches an animal to have sexual relations with it, kill both the woman and the animal. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
17 “‘If a man marries his sister, the daughter of either his father or his mother, and they have sexual relations, it is a disgrace. They are to be publicly removed from their people. He has dishonored his sister and will be held responsible.
18 “‘If a man has sexual relations with a woman during her monthly period, he has exposed the source of her flow, and she has also uncovered it. Both of them are to be cut off from their people.
19 “‘Do not have sexual relations with the sister of either your mother or your father, for that would dishonor a close relative; both of you would be held responsible.
20 “‘If a man has sexual relations with his aunt, he has dishonored his uncle. They will be held responsible; they will die childless.
21 “‘If a man marries his brother’s wife, it is an act of impurity; he has dishonored his brother. They will be childless.
22 “‘Keep all my decrees and laws and follow them, so that the land where I am bringing you to live may not vomit you out. 23 You must not live according to the customs of the nations I am going to drive out before you. Because they did all these things, I abhorred them. 24 But I said to you, “You will possess their land; I will give it to you as an inheritance, a land flowing with milk and honey.” I am the Lord your God, who has set you apart from the nations.



only ONE thing is referred to as “adultery” in this list, sleeping with another man’s wife. not marrying a mother and her daughter, not marrying your brother’s wife. those are listed as completely different crimes. adultery isn’t marriage, by definition. but having multiple spouses still counts as marriage. God just says dont be fucking gross about it.
 also. i saw some arguments like “they were just poly cause it was cultural osmosis, not cause it was holy, but verse 22 clearly says these laws are NOT the laws of the land. the people of God were to keep away from incest and adultery, but NOT polyam. inch resting. 


jeremiah 23:10,14


The land is full of adulterers;
because of the curse the land lies parched 
and the pastures in the wilderness are withered.
 The prophets follow an evil course
and use their power unjustly.


And among the prophets of Jerusalem 
I have seen something horrible:
 They commit adultery and live a lie.
 They strengthen the hands of evildoers, 
so that not one of them turns from their wickedness.
 They are all like Sodom to me;
 the people of Jerusalem are like Gomorrah.”



The key component of the adultery metaphor here is deceit. The passage is even titled “the lying prophets.” there’s no evidence that consensual, non-deceitful polyamory is even remotely similar to what constitutes “adultery.”

deuteronomy 22: 22, 30


22 If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel.


30 A man is not to marry his father’s wife; he must not dishonor his father’s bed.



again, you *sleep with* another man’s wife and it’s adultery (not marriage), but you *marry* your father’s wife and it’s just gross.

proverbs 5: 20, 6:24, 26


Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
 Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?



keeping you from your neighbor’s wife,
 from the smooth talk of a wayward woman

For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread,
 but another man’s wife preys on your very life.



it’s literally always “another man’s wife.” not “anyone but your one and only wife.” a prostitute isn’t even “adultery,” which is p sus and gross tbh but not really the point at this exact moment. find me a single passage in the bible that condemns adultery as anything other than having sex with someone whose partner is unaware.

non-scripture sources:

https://www.biblestudytools.com/dictionary/adultery/

Adultery: conjugal infidelity. An adulterer was a man who had illicit intercourse with a married or a betrothed woman, and such a woman was an adulteress. Intercourse between a married man and an unmarried woman was fornication. Adultery was regarded as a great social wrong, as well as a great sin.


https://www.queertheology.com/bible-polyamory/

Scripture doesn’t just describe these relationships, it seems to condone them. Exodus 21:10* sets out some guidelines for how to treat your wives if you have more than one. Deuteronomy 21:15–17 governs inheritance amongst children in polygamous marriages. If authors of these passages thought polygamy was wrong, their advice would have been “don’t do it!” not “here’s how you should do it.”

When you’re born, you are literally made from the body of your parents… but if they have a second child, that child is just as loved, important, and from the body. From God to our parents to our children, we understand love to be abundant. The same is true with romantic and sexual love. 

*the verse is: “If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.
 And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.” (its a lot of fucked up shit about slavery actually, but the POINT is there’s no BIBLICAL basis to condemn polyam. if u want to still call it a sin u need to find a reason it’s not BENEFICIAL, as paul said earlier.)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gG9-bgnVc1c&feature=youtu.be


if u think jesus/the church is the model of perfect marriage, that’s poly my dude. also that video describes jesus as a “relationship-slut” which is great.




God doesn’t ask us to do things for no reason. what is the reason polyamory would be considered harmful (“not beneficial”)?

(spoilers: its not. polyam folx can be just as healthy or just as toxic as monoam  folx. if ur willing to challenge homophobia why arent u willing to challenge anything else)

addendum: its really not good scientific method anyway to have to prove this ISN’T a sin. thats not how the burden of proof works. why don’t yall try proving it IS a sin first, instead of just assuming it is because some homophobes told u. just saying what’s the point of queer theology if we dont question EVERYTHING and just take some crusty old white guys’ interpretations as the only ones that matter.

addendum the second: paul was ace af and doesnt quite realize no one else is so his opinions on sex are a bit weird tbh. 1 corinthians 7 makes a LOT of sense if you read it from a “whats the big deal about sexual attraction” kinda way.

third adendum: this also sort of means chaste marriage isn’t considered biblical, but i dont really think thats a problem because it doesnt mean ur relationship isn’t valid, just like. it doesnt qualify as the Thing in the Bible that is cheat-on-able and needing to follow Marriage Laws. also as weve proven, that very specific definition of marriage isnt really relevant to relationship status or legal status today.