#tw : biphobia

[nothingtoseehere00-00]

Just imagine Steve figuring out he's bisexual and realizing that when he dates a girl, at a certain point into dating them, he's gonna have to tell them that he's also into men. Of course since it's the 80s, the chances of them being okay with that is probably slim. They might think he's disgusting or that he's just gay playing straight.

So he tries dating guys instead, thinking that's safer. And he ends up meeting a great guy named John at a gay bar who he really likes. Things are going strong until they started talking about past crushes and first loves. Steve casually mentions celebrity crushes on women and having loved Nancy. And thus Steve gets his first ever experience of the rampant biphobia in queer spaces. John accuses Steve of being confused and trying to hold onto his "straightness". Steve tries to explain himself by saying that, no, he really does like women, but that only makes things worse. John now believes that Steve is just going to eventually leave him for a woman, if he hasn't already been cheating on him. John ends up storming out leaving Steve devastated.

He goes crying to Robin and explains what happened. He's horrified to realize that no matter who he dates, there's always going to be the risk of them not accepting him, guy or girl. But he can't hide that part of himself, it's too big. It's who he is. Robin is there to reassure him that if someone can't accept him being bi than they don't deserve him. It's able to cheer him up a little, but the damage has been done.

Steve is now very reluctant to date anyone. And if he does manage to bring himself to go on one, he gets complaints of being very emotionally distant or having a fear of commitment.

When Steve inevitably falls for Eddie, he's scared out of his mind. It's clear that Eddie is gay based on his hanky, but, again, that doesn't mean he'll accept Steve's bisexuality. One night, while the two get so high in Eddie's trailer that Steve has to stay over, they argue about sleeping arrangements. Eddie keeps insisting that Steve would probably be more comfortable with Eddie sleeping in another room for some cryptic reason and Steve, who gets incredibly clingy while high, keeps shooting back with them sharing a bed being fine. When Steve keeps asking why they can't over and over again, Eddie blurts out that it's because he's gay. Without hesitation, Steve's says he knows and points at the hanky on the dresser by the bed. Staring at Steve for a moment, Eddie then asks how he knows about the hanky code. This time Steve hesitates. For awhile. It honestly scares Eddie for a moment, thinking he's been vecnad. If Steve hadn't been high, he maybe would have been able to think of an excuse, some way to get out of this conversation, but he can't. So he admits that he likes guys.

Eddie very excitedly starts asking a bunch of questions and talking about how they finally found something they have in common, who knew? When he notices the tears in Steve's eyes, he stops, confused, and asks what's wrong. So Steve tells him. He's not like Eddie. He's bisexual. And he braces himself for the backlash. For loosing his best friend and crush.

But then he feels a hand grab his. Eddie tells him that they still have something in common because he's also bi. Steve points out that he said he was gay, though. Eddie asks if he has ever told anyone that he was bi before, specifically gay men. Steve nods. Then he asks if it went well. Steve shakes his head. Eddie tells him that's why he said that. He's explains how tiring it is to have to explain his existence to people who won't get it and/or react badly to it. So he just tells guys that he's also gay. It just makes things easier. And Steve gets it. By God, does he get it. They spend the whole night exchanging stories and experiences, for the first time able to talk freely about their love life.

And by the end of the night, they stumble over each other trying to ask the other out. They laugh and both say yes.

[our-arospec-experience]

According to arophobes, aromantic people are sluts. According to biphobes, bisexual people are sluts. So, by being an aromantic bisexual, does this make me a double slut or do they cancel each other out? These are the questions philosophers failed to answer (/j).

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[lgbtqtext]

[tommy-begins]

aren't y'all the ones who throw a bitch fit every time Tommy comes on screen tho? 🤨 aren't y'all the ones who want buck to cheat on Tommy just to get buddie? 🤨 I know y'all know how that's biphobic so why don't we talk about that real quick hmm? why don't we talk about that. y'all only want buck to be bi so you can get buddie. bi buck doesn't belong to YOU. bi buck "belongs" to the people who ACTUALLY wanted and championed bi buck for YEARS. be so fucking for real right now y'all don't care about bi buck at all you just want buddie. get the fuck out of my face.

[grogusmum]

the real reason bisexuals end up in straight relationships 99% of the time is because human sexuality is complicated, many women's sexuality seems "fluid" due to patriarchy and ensuing sexual trauma which causes dissociation and ignorance from and of our own bodies and pleasure

that is to say--bisexuals aren't real lol, str8 men will stick their dicks in anything and "bi" women are either self-hating lesbians or heteros with BPD.

happy pride

Hahaha

if you follow me plz stop

I never get anons like this, so I'm guessing it's being copy pasted into the inboxes of lots of folks who identify as bisexual.

So if you got one of these nasty little notes, remember you know who you are, who you love, who you want to have sex with, and no little radfem (terf I assume) or whatever is gonna change that.

Happy Pride lovely Bisexuals, Omnisexuals, Pansexuals, and every one in-between!

Cookies for the multisexuals!!

[zoethehead]

Well, now jk rowling's making her biphobia and panphobia abundantly clear.....

The silence from her account was nice while it lasted..... now there's more evidence for not only imane to sue her, but also hopefully a ton of the bi, furry, and pan harry potter fans will too.

Sorry for the pan and bi harry potter fans, tyrns out that joanne hates you as much as she hates people like me(i'm biromantic and probably a trans man btw)

[diazevan]

as a bisexual who, very early into my coming out journey, was told by a complete stranger that 'nobody dates bisexuals because you are all cheaters,' I hope that Buck's journey is filled with joy, love, laughter, and excitement.

[mistergreatbones]

Tim, about to come out: have you ever heard of bisexuality?

Steph, actively crushing on Harper and Cass: you can’t prove anything

[biphobia-archive]

Hey remember when someone said making posts ridiculing bi people is weird since biphobia isn't taken seriously and how there are several famous cases of bi women facing IPV and people took it as an attack on themselves and started being biphobic and victim blaming

TW biphobia

Bisexuals are more vulnerable to IPV than gay and straight people because they are bi. We don't have a "privilege". We are discriminated against too. If was because bi women dated men more (which is a false narrative) then why do straight women not have it the highest?

It's the same for bisexual men. Statistics show that bisexual men face the highest IPV compared to gay and straight men.

And again it's not because bisexuals date the opposite gender more. It's because of biphobia. Bisexuals are discriminated against because of our bisexuality.

[lilyyy63]

Ah yes, because 'women are not bisexual unless they are dating women' like babes you are thinking of lesbian.

Same story biphobic straights don't like that bisexuals will be in non m/f pairings and biphobic queers don't like that bisexuals will be in m/f pairings.

ITS BOTH THATS THE DEFINITION ITS M/F PAIRING *AND* NON M/F PAIRING BISEXUALS ARE INTO BOTH!!!!!

Curious what they think about bi men or bi anything else. Why just bi women?? Don't even want to ask what they think about being pan.

It's the lgt to them I guess, if they even include the t.

[gnometa233]

It's so interesting when people say "mspec lesbians have a long and complicated history" and then you actually research said long and complicated history and it's all just biphobia. That's it. It's just people thinking person dating opposite gender = straight and person dating same gender = gay. It's the most straightforward bi erasure I've ever seen and I REMEMBER even in the early days of tumblr bisexuals fought against people reducing their sexuality down to just gay and straight. And now while people are clamoring to be bi lesbians, I see no one vying to reclaim "bihet", which is just the same thing in another direction. Really makes you think

[meggie-moo]

one of my biggest fic pet peeves is when they make a canon bi character gay, like?? there’s no need, they are already attracted to the same gender? literally what is the point of erasing their bisexuality, when it literally does not change the possibility of your ship happening? 😭 idk, it just does not sit well with me, lol

[honeyjars-sims]

Episode 27: Little Moments

Throughout his life, Paul had experienced many moments that reinforced his decision to ignore his sexuality. Most only lasted a few seconds--

Teacher: “Boys don't play with dolls.”

Students: "Paul is always staring at Deshawn." "I know, what a weirdo!"

-–but the weight of these moments made them feel like they lasted forever. As time passed, society progressed and attitudes changed. In high school, some of his friends, including his crush Deshawn, had even come out as gay. Paul thought he might finally be able to be himself. Yet even when in the company of those who should have been accepting, those little moments continued adding up.

Deshawn: “I wouldn't date a bisexual guy." Wesley: “They don't know what they want.” Danica: “I think they're just in denial.”

The seconds turned to minutes and minutes to hours until those small moments added up to a lifetime. A lifetime of avoiding the truth, of pretending. A lifetime of feeling like an outsider, a liar, an empty shell.  

A lifetime of loneliness. It wasn’t that he wasn’t attracted to women. He knew he wasn’t gay, and for a while it seemed like the easiest solution to feeling unaccepted was to put his attraction to men aside, to store it away in a part of his brain that he would simply choose not to access.

He thought he could continue to date women and pretend like that side of him didn’t exist. He could still have everything he wanted–a devoted partner to have children with–without having to face the potential of rejection from the rest of society. But it wasn’t true. He could marry a woman that he truly loved, but he would still feel rejected, lonely, and dishonest as long as he continued hiding who he was.

Paul knew that something had to change. As scary as it was, he couldn’t live the life he dreamed of if he remained in the closet. Paul looked at himself in the mirror and took a deep breath before finally speaking aloud the words he’d been holding in his whole life. “I’m bisexual.” It felt better than he could have imagined.

Now he just needed the courage to say it to everyone else.

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[pinkpinkmermayyy]

seeing some of my mutuals falling for lesbophobia covered up as "inclusivity" makes me wince (yes im talking about bi and pan "lesbians", they do so much more harm than good with their lesbophobic, biphobic, and even transphobic implications)

[ladlesnsoup]

happy anniversary to this bigoted post by william shatner ☺️☺️

[lunar-years]

Contender for the worst response I’ve ever gotten on any tumblr post I’ve ever made!