#transmysoginy mention

[fawn-paws]

Sometimes I get really down about transphobes and shit but then I remember that they’re literally just a bunch of people who are obsessed with telling people how to look, act, and refer to themselves because of their genitalia and I just think that’s the most ridiculous thing to be obsessed about, so much so that it’s kind of hilarious. It’s even funnier when it’s a terf because feminism’s whole thing is like ‘you can’t tell us how to live because of our genitalia!! Just because we have vaginas doesn’t mean you can tell us what to do!’ But no apparently genitalia DOES hold some sort of value in what you can and can’t do according to them :) so they’re literally just like the patriarchy they so claim to hate.

plus they love to be like ‘omg trans women have an unfair advantage against cis women in sports and stuff!!1!!’ But like wait I thought cis women were just as strong and capable as anyone else, why are cis women limiting themselves by only competing against other cis women 🤔 (not even mentioning the fact that every cis woman’s body is different and they can still have advantages or disadvantages over other cis women, and that trans women who compete in sports are usually taking hrt and so so so many other factors that are wrong with that whole argument) but like, using their logic, it’s like oh you don’t wanna compete against cis men because it’s unfair? You’re admitting that cis men are stronger and better at some things than you are? So traditional gender roles are important and should be kept, right? So you’re really not a radical feminist, you’re a tradwife! Congratulations I hope you enjoy being stuck under someone else’s control and having no rights <3

[pointless-discourse]

hs diet/cooking skills headcandons :3

what would they eat. i prommy im not scrambling for ideas, i am being fully genuine when i say i think about (the majority) of these a lot. disregarding my trans hcs for consistency and to try to reign in my fanon perception and keep it at least semi-accurate

content warning for disordered eating

JOHN EGBERT

eats very well, if a little heavy on the sweets just based on how many are in his vicinity. his dad loves baking. there will be baked goods. despite how sick he gets of sugar, he's gonna nibble.

however, i'm sure his dad knows how to cook and passed that onto john, at least how to follow a recipe

i think john would be a recipe follower most of the time tbh

living with nanna on the ship wouldn't significantly alter his skills

maybe with all that free time he'd start to improv more in the kitchen?

anyway, he is a good cook and is probably going to end up cooking for his disaster friends a lot because he is a charming young man

well not really? like he'll be on it in a pinch if he's asked too, or immediately reminded that his friends can't fucking cook, but she, in typical egbert fashion, will remain doing her own thing a lot of the time

charming young june gets tradwife'd ig

fuck i transed her . oopsie

DAVE STRIDER

we've seen that his fridge is full of smuppets and he hides his food, so his stash is small and is made up of foods that don't need to be refrigerated

texan heat is def a catalyst for that rot

his stash is also made of cheap, low quality food, because i doubt he's getting a lot of money

just an assortment of non-ingredient food like apples and mcdonands

this is on the hypothesis that bro gives dave food money or dave's somehow monetized his skills

if bro is providing this food, it's probably semi-often paywalled behind weird shit or swordfights

TLDR: he likely doesn't have a consistent supply either. enough to sustain some muscle so he can live up to what we've seen in comic, but he's underweight

you think he'll learn to cook on the meteor? wrong. why learn to cook when you can alchemize? what's the point of alchemizing the ingredients for a PB&J and then assemble it when you can just magic up a sandwich?

he cannot cook. he will burn the water. the only appliance he can use is a microwave, and that is iffy in itself because, until he gets the hang of it, will leave a slightly lukewarm hamburger in there for ten minutes

JADE HARLEY

plants. a lot of plants.

freshest thing near her. everything else she has to get through the airplane mail.

she'd forget to eat for a day or two, and then wonder why she's so hungry and then eat enough to feed a family of three. horses. three horess

she lost her grandpa at a young age and then was raised by a dog, so i doubt her eating habits are completely normal

she eats like a dog. jade does not use silverware because she does not like doing dishes. all food is finger food if you're not afraid.

what she eats is of very high quality. if she remembers to eat and can prepare her food correctly, she'll do fine.

on that topic, she's not a bad cook. her chem know-how would help her estimate what would work. but she's never had another person interact with her cooking, so it's lacking a lot of stuff.

research can get her cooking close to the real thing, but it's still mediocre. she doesn't even know what she's missing, because she's never known anything else.

she has a lot of weird tastes that can only come from an insane amount of time to kill. i'm talking mustard everywhere.

john and nanna might be able to reign her in a bit? they would definitely help her improve her cooking skills. watching her eat, there would still be something off about her.

however, she can cook for herself, and it tastes kinda good.

ROSE LALONDE

like john in that she had someone there who would cook for her.

mom lalonde is very absent, but she's still on top of things. she responds to rose's notes. she vaccums. she would still cook for rose on a regular basis, give or take a few off weeks.

that cooking would not be good, because she's wasted whilst making it.

even if the food was good, rose wouldn't admit it.

she often makes a show of pecking at her food, but still eats.

unlike john, mom never showed rose how to cook. rose never asked.

when she gets to the meteor, like dave, she alchemizes all the food she needs. there has never been a reason for her to learn how to cook.

she could probably put effort in and, with strife, successfully follow a recipe, but she is a horrible cook. she does not understand it for the life of her, and she won't until she studies it

she'll master it. eventually.

JANE CROCKER

like june. their upbringings are very similar.

one exception is that she cooks more and is a much better cook than she is because jane genuinely cares about it.

she also has some mad pastry skills.

jane can make macarons.

she would attempt to teach her disaster friends to cook, but would quickly lose patience.

and then she would try to cook for them, but get sick of it a meal in. they are very picky and her temper is not long

DIRK STRIDER

survives purely off rations/canned food

again, dave's food is fuel mindset extends to him and he can stomach a lot of "gross" things, like an entire can of peanut butter. i may have mentioned that before, so i'll give you some PD lore. i have eaten an entire jar of peanut butter out of hunger and i think about that event a lot because it was not nice for my tastebuds

however, i think as a control freak he would be adamant about his food schedule, even mathing out the amount of calories he would need to consume for every meal proportional to what he does in a day

and then a half-hearted attempt to balance out protiens, fats, minerals, and the other stuff

he is very adamant about his schedule and consuming the food he needs to survive, but that schedule is fucked

ex. 3 cans of canned peaches for breakfast at 3:50 in the morning. two large, burnt mutated fish for dinner at noon. no lunch. or eats half a can of peaches for the twenty hours he is awake in a day.

he can cook, as in prepare meat to be consumed alright. it's edible, and it's not that bad. but he is assed at combining ingredients. he cannot create something successful. all his food tastes like shit because he does not pick up on taste. though, i believe if he was cooking for someone else, he could set aside a few days and come up with something that's high-tier in the mediocre range.

JAKE ENGLISH

he eats only the meat of the beasts he's killed. he has scurvy.

he is a good cook (in the sense that he can competently prepare meat) though, and genuinely cares about the quality of the food he makes for the sake of his taste buds, and cooking is something he can get lost in

however: he has insane tastes. he is an expert in preparing food in this hyper-unique way that he is insane for but is absolutely disgusting to anyone else

ex. after years of eating similar tasting meat, he was motivated to use seasoning. he does not own seasoning. he is going insane and cannot eat the same thing again. he uses dirt. tastes bad, but god he is dying for something new after x years of eating the same thing for breakfast lunch and dinner. he continues to eat it because he cannot eat unseasoned meat anymore and repetition-causes-complacency's himself into genuinely enjoying the taste of dirt.

dirt is just the tip of the iceberg

jake is also unintentionally bulking (bodybuilders eat a lot of meat to gain muscle). he eats a lot of protien. however, he hasn't herd of the concept of 'cuts' (where you stop eating as much to let the muscles show) so he has a bit of a tummy

but also, he's sixteen so he's not a fridge. i also don't see him as that tall (huss draws him as shorter than dirk anyay huehuehue) but he has muscle if you look. twunk if anything

ROXY LALONDE

genuinely horrid diet

so zoned out and depressed she barely recognizes her own hunger and even then has no drive to do anything about it

will eat sugary stuff for the happy chemicals

roxy is the one trans headcanon i have where i am completely unable to distinguish it from canon

she is trans in my head. that is as much a part of her to me as her love for cats is

anyway like a lot of trans women she's pressured to be petite and small in her portion choices so even when she has the drive to eat i dont think its a lot

because of her likely not weighing a lot shes a lightweight

part one million on how is roxy not dead yet

and as expected, she cannot cook

she also has some really weird tastes

she is really good at baking a few specific sweets that she eats on repeat (with a lot of recipes from jane)

once she enters the medium and works on her drinking problem i think her eating problems would also get less intensive

not drinking as much she has to face her hunger more

and being around jane, a big gal, face to face, i think that would do something to her idea that to be a woman she has to be small

KARKAT VANTAS

troll rations

not only is he poor so no money for all the nice stuff i also dont think troll society has a big focus on cooking

their only main professions are military based and art doesn't seem to be a big focus, just a highblood thing

again probably some nasty cheap ration bars that keep him alive

but i do think he eats regularly and normal amounts, he has that fighting spirit to stay alive and get stronger

but yeah i don't think troll society would require you to put a lot of effort into culinary stuff. but he can prepare the food well

the meteor inspired no one to cook, but he'd get the hang of human food and probably enjoy it as compared to tasteless lowblood troll slop

humanstuck karkat is a kid chef. he is so fucking good at cooking. baking too.

ARADIA MEGIDO

mmmmm yummy troll slop

same as karkat

ghost aradia didnt need to eat anyway so i doubt that would've affected her diet habits

same with got tiger aradia? don't think she would bother with it, too much else to do

but once she starts hanging around in the dreambubbles, exposed to non-troll slop cusine, she'd have a fun time trying to learn how to cook and delight in all those new flavors

then when she gets to earth c she's a good cook who loves cooking

TAVROS NITRAM

i dont have any headcanons fro tavros because is hate him

sorry tavros fans

uhh he probably eats POOP!!! and LIKES IT!!! because he TAVROS!!!

SOLLUX CAPTOR

troll-slop-enjoyer, but also likes aradia's cooking

humanstuck sollux survives purely off doritos and g-fuel

NEPETA LEJION

utter chad

survives solely off the giant beasts she kills herself

ripped yet still small and nimble

her diet is entirely protein

no troll slop for her

unfortunately for her, this means missing out on non protiens and fats

nepeta has scurvy

humanstuck nepeta is less feral and also eats cute japanese cat themed sweets

KANAYA MARYAM

dont know if it was stated in canon but she would garden alongside eating troll slop

blood

yumy blood

roses blood

you would not believe it from looking at her but humanstuck kanaya eats a lot of spicy food and has a horrifically high spice tolerance

she's also pretty good at cooking, mediocre at baking

TEREZI PYROPE

?????? chalk???????

hopefully alongside the slop

either that or troll chalk is really nutritious

VRISKA SERKET

despite technically being a highblood i doubt she'd engage in their fancy food

she eats to survive, not for the taste

she may have access to higher quality sludge though

i think this part of her would persist, but she does love june's cooking

EQUIUS ZAHHAK

pure, distilled protien and milk

so much milk

its not 2%, not 3.25%, it's 100% milk

he suckles it straight from the moobeast teat

it is really weird and he does not get invited to parties

gigachad

humanstuck equius's diet is 1/4 food and 3/4 protien shakes, bars, and the like

he'd probably also be like those bodybuilding influencers who eat eggs raw or camel nutsacks

GAMZEE MAKARA

similar to roxy in that he's too checked out to remember to eat

but what he does have as a highblood is insanely high quality

sober gamzee does not require any sustenance to survive in a similar fashion as to how he got shot down by caliborn and was fine afterwards

humanstuck gamzee can bake. he cannot cook. he has the diet of an insane college student, ramen cups interspersed with weed brownies

occasionally he gets the munchies and eats enough to feed four full grown goku

i like thinking that someone realized he wasn't doing alright tried to help him, maybe roxy? in a universe where he didn't get lil cal'd

ERIDAN AMPORA

only the finest fish food for him

he dines like a king

he projectile vomits when in a 50 mile radius of the sludge

agile, but weak

doesn't cook, has other people do it for him

humanstuck eridan has a private chef and is offended if you expect him to cook for himself

FEFERI PEIXES

finest fish food for her, dines like a queen

but also attempts to live like the normies once and a while

and take a bite of the (highblood edition) slop

humanstuck fef also has a private chef but helps out in the kitchen from time to time

gonna b real dawgs, i cannot concieve of the dancestors in this manner. peace

[raging-guanche]

"reblog to kill a cop" "reblog to punch a nazi" "reblog to kick a terf" how about you actually do something for marginalized people

[bestial4ngel]

It’s funny how t**fs are like soo for women when they’re literally repeating what happened to Caster Semenya by harassing yet another athlete who doesn’t fit their narrative and their ideal of what women should be

[pentirin]

Hey so apparently that shit about one of the cohost owners being a pedo is a lie. From what I've observed, it seems like the owner in question (Kaara) was in fact being groomed at one point, and her association with that group was used against her. I am deeply sorry for any harm I have caused.

However, I do believe that it's important to say I believed these lies for months before the current tumblr controversy. This shows the long term effects of transmysoginistic lies.

I had a chance to question these lies, but I was too anxious to ask any of the people caught up in them. Next time, I will not make the same mistakes.

Nothing I say here is intended as an excuse, it is simply intended as context for both the lie spread about Kaara and my own mistakes in spreading it.

(/srs, if it wasn't obvious)

[sproutfits]

@smallsylveon i just decided to take this anon on good faith when i made this. i had heard a little about it but not that much.

i think this article by queer in the world succinctly states reasons it is disliked.

Due to the concern, i will be taking down the design out of respect to trans and jewish lesbians. This blog has never and will never be against them.

[amissingbrick]

Going into teaching I was ready for many things, but having kids police my gender was definitely not one of them.

Look, I’m a cis woman with long natural colored hair, and the way I dress doesn’t matter bc I have to wear an uniform anyway. I don’t have any piercings or tattoos. I thought I looked just like any other cishet coworker of mine.

But these 5yo find scandalous that I don’t wear earrings, or that I have short nails with no nail polish, or -shock!- that I have body hair. And not on any parts that people usually feel necessary to shave, like legs or armpits (these are covered by the uniform) or the mustache (still wearing a mask): it’s my arms.

It worries me a lot because I work in a preppy preschool. These are the children of the high middle class and up. In a country that can’t go 4 decades without a fascist dictatorship. In the country that kills the most trans women. And in this capitalist society, kids learning these kinds of prejudices -when I thought we were dismantling it all- will be the ones with the upper hand.

[dontfollow-venting]

haha, it's funny (read: not funny at all) how I'm a csa survivor because of my grandma but my mom's the one who's constantly deadnaming and misgendering her.

also, she let her ex husband constantly deadname us even thought [original host's name] hasn't been the host since the body was 7. I came about when the body was 16 and have been frontstuck ever since. Body's about 25 now

[simplecatgirl]

You're defending a pedophile. I wouldn't talk about being in cults if I were you. Go spank it to Stockholm again. =)

Listen, I truly hope you get to a point in your life that you would look back at this ask and go: "Wow, I'm really wasn't doing well at this point and now it's showcase how I grow as a person that I looked at this and kinda cringe."

It's better for you.

[tired-and-unjellied]

Boy, do I love seeing TV news giving uncritical coverage for American TERFs (Moms for Liberty). The biggest critic was they pretend to be apolitical when they are openly pro-Trump and anti-Biden

There literally was a transmisogynic line: "[American schools] tell boys it's okay to use girls' bathrooms"

the reporters only vaguely mentioned homosexuality, while yeah, they are anti-LGBTQ+, but they didn't mention that

Ironically it was an article about tradwives, wanting to be homewives and spend their time in the kitchen again, so maybe the Moms for Liberty should practice that instead of being TERFs

[scourgebrother]

i hate this "lesbians being called anti-trans is lesbophobic" article that does rounds on here lately. even if we look past the fact that the article doesnt really provide any confirmation of stated numbers, like a link to the study (i found some mentioned stats for young adults in uk in general but imo they are also presented poorly, making a graph or something would be way more presentable) it still reads very much as "it's like that i swear"

i do think and hope that most lesbians arent anti-trans, but you can't really judge how true the statistic is if you don't pinpoint what counts as supportive. there are terfs who are "supportive" of trans men in womens spaces, there are people in the community (not just lesbians) who still view nb individuals as only being afab, even further i bet there is a lot of people who don't really know how to treat a trans person with basic respect.

i personally have colleagues who consider themselves progressive and apparently pro-LGBT+, yet they still say homophobic things, still misgender and out me to others without even talking to me once. what cis people consider pro-trans isn't always actually pro-trans

[patricia-taxxon]

On the punkitt ask posts topic, you mention trying to call out the transmysoginy but I don't think I'm following how you're getting there, I'd like to ask clarification? I think taking a step back and reexamining and rephrasingyour angle might help with what you're trying to say. That said, i can see how others got the impression you're identity policing here. I am no expert on the theory or debate going on so don't feel urged to respond to this ask.

I'm running out of ways to explain it, I feel like I've been as clear as I possibly can be. transfemininity isn't a nonbinary identity, nonbinary people can be transfem but nonbinary identify doesn't imply transfemininity. I'm nonbinary, but if I were entirely female aligned I would still be transfem, and implying "transfem" to be a shorthand for "nonbinary + woman" is just third-gendering. I feel like I just said the same thign again, sorry if its still unclear.

[caruliaa]

whyy do i see ppl being like “yeyaea i hate hp ecsept 4 the musical thats based on it and therefore also indrectly talking abt jkr work that is a part of a series were the second musical is also rly transmysoginistic” like . cant u guys not fucking do that god

[queer-merm]

When I say “looks like a man” i meant “looks in a way that is generally regarded as masculine by society”.

I was not talking about specifically “amab”, tma people and transfems, i was talking about anyone who looks masculine. My point was “anyone can look like anything. Someone, regardless their agab, can look like a “man” (read; looks in a way that is generally regarded as masculine by society”), but it doesn’t make them a man, or male aligned, or masculine in itself.

What I was specifically talking about was people who /present/ in a more masculine way (by societal standards), not “male traits uwu”

I feel that’s on me I was close to making this précision on the original post, so I edited it.

[yellowjavkets]

the labrys has a very antisemitic past and has been largely co-opted by terfs so unless you're a trans fem jew i don't think you have any right to be using something that many have come to see as symbolizing antisemitic & trans misogynistic dogwhistling. many people claim that it doesn't have any of these connotations anymore but it absolutely does, as a jewish person i think it's extremely wrong to use it, especially if you're a goy

Alright I’m gonna make this as detailed as possible and bring up other anti labrys flag points because I’m not doing this all pride month again

(t/e/r/f and n/a/z/i mention sorry I’ll tag the necessary triggers once this is posted)

The black inverted triangle was used to condemn women that did not fit to a n/a/z/i ideal of what a woman should look like (dominantly jewish lesbians) and was reclaimed by Jewish lesbian feminists in the 1970s, its inclusion in the labrys flag was used to pay respects to the contributions jewish lesbians have made to the community, and to honor those that died under n/a/z/i rule. I’ve been told by jewish lesbians that it is in fact disrespectful to remove the black triangle if you’re not jewish. (even if ignoring all that, the person who made this version of this flag is in fact a jewish lesbian. 

As for the transmysoginy, well, parroting a post that will be linked at the end of this answer for sourcing purposes, it’s harmful to let lesbian t/erfs who desperately want to make the words lesbian and t/erf synonymous take the arguably most widespread lesbian flag away.It’s not even that widespread among t/erfs, certainly not recently with the rise in creations of lesbian flags! The number of lesbian transmysoginists is entirely disproportionate to straight transmysoginists. besides, this version of the labrys is clearly and purposefully distinct from the one associated with (notice i didn’t say used by) transmysoginists.

Two of the other most common points made against the labrys flag are 1.) that it was made by a man, and 2.) the labrys is a greek fascist symbol. neither of these get their own paragraph because you did not bring these up and the defenses are short. 1.) Sean Campbell made the flag but he did not create any of the symbols used in the flag nor their association with lesbianism. And the ver of the flag i use was made by a lesbian. 2.) Again, distinction is key. the labrys has been a symbol of matriarchy for decades and is not the same as the greek symbol. there will be an example of why this argument does not work in the linked posts

BUT HEY! Don’t take my word for it, here are sources, one from wikipedia and some from the blog of the again jewish lesbian who made the specific flag that I use!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_symbols (jump to lesbianism)

https://toadprince.tumblr.com/post/185350288837/toadprince-toadprince-god-some-people-are

https://toadprince.tumblr.com/post/185349131417/ive-like-barely-had-the-labrys-flag-for-a-day-and

https://toadprince.tumblr.com/post/185344818792/and-my-feelings-about-terfs-using-the-labrys-flag

[angel-archivist]

Exclusionist cis women will be like: I HATE men, unless your a cis gay man who also hates transgender people and hates ace people and hates the word queer then your just like us and i will uplift your voice, theheh cis-olidarity,  They/them pronouns are misogynistic 🥰🥰