#trans intersex

[thealternates]

It would be so amazing if every time we looked through intersex tags there wasn't perisex people stealing our terms, or calling themselves "transintersex" / saying they "wanna be intersex", or proving the point that intersex are excluded/ignored by both cis and trans perisex people. Can we not have one thing? Can we not form a community without perisex people demanding they can join or speak over it?

The one I've seen the most recently is trans perisex people saying they're intersex / they wanna be. No, you are not. You taking hormones doesn't make you intersex, you're either born intersex or you're not. Perisex trans people developing breasts with estrogen isn't intersex, perisex trans people developing a t dick with testosterone isn't intersex. You wanting both genitals does not mean intersex. it's a spectrum of variations and looks. Calling your want to be neutral or to have both parts intersex is both fetishising us and not even knowing what we are. We are not default neutral, we are not default both parts. Intersex people having both parts working parts (like so many perisex transintersex people seem to want??) is so SO rare I'm not even sure it's been a thing yet. There are other terms for what you guys want that isn't intersex. - 🪽

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[intersexcat-tboy]

Growing up I was a trans girl, but now that I've grown I'm a trans guy n I think that's pretty cool, you should too

[intersexfairy]

i think being hyperandrogen intersex has made my experience of antitransmasculinity just... that much deeper, that much more lonely. before i even knew i was trans, i would stare into the mirror and pick my face and body apart. why don't i look like the other girls? what's wrong with me? why do i look so wrong in a dress? why do i feel like i take up too much space? will anyone ever love me?

i was punished for my masculinity and androgyny before i even had the chance to (voluntarily) express it. it stung even more, as i've always had an affinity to traditionally feminine things. where i once found joy and bliss in dressing up and posing for the camera, i found myself hiding my body in hoodies and leggings. if anyone pointed a camera at me, i would collapse to the floor and start having a panic attack.

now, as i've grown older, i've found safety in masculinity and androgyny. people don't find it quite as strange, as if my body/facial hair, broad shoulders, stocky build, and androgynous face make it make sense - femininity is obviously off limits for someone like me, yet it's still expected of me. getting "masculinizing" gender affirming care terrifies me. i'd be casting off the last of what makes me desirable, pretty, and unassuming. but the little girl inside me wants to wear dresses, makeup, jewelry - just this time, as a man.

but men aren't supposed to be pretty - least of all fat, hairy, disabled men. so i'm caught. i can neglect myself, out of fear of being seen as even more disgusting and off putting, just so i can cling to the few expressions of femininity i can display... or, i can be myself, and open myself up to the very hurt i've been trying to avoid all these years. but then, i can look my true self in the mirror, and finally say: you're not like other girls (and that's okay). nothing's wrong with you. you still look beautiful in a dress. you don't take up any space that isn't already yours. and you are already very, very loved.

and one day, i will. because that's what we deserve to hear - trans people, intersex people, people who are both. we deserve to do whatever we need to be our most authentic selves. all this judgement, fear mongering, it's all made up - to hurt us. and that's awful. that's scary, and i hope someday, we live in a world where we don't have to be afraid anymore. and part of me - part of you - knows, one day, we will.

[andytheaspec]

Being a trans dude with PCOS is such an interesting experience I've looked like I was just starting t since I was twelve but it hasn't progressed past that

[maeinthekinning]

It's good to represent transmen that don't go through second puberty and long hair in art and media. It's good to represent transmen that have gone through hormones and had top surgery. It's good to represent transwoman that choose to not get any specific surgery andor hormones.

I even see decent bit of cismen that lactate (side effect of steroids and antipsychotics)

Which that growing diversity is good.

But no what i practically never see?

Intersex diversity (instead of just slap a vagina and penis on. Which that can also fit non intersex people like phallo preserving vaginoplasty and vagina preserving phaloplasty. But there is more diversity)

And people with breasts (trans men, trans women, nonbinary, intersex including gynomocastia) that have hair on chest andor back andor facial hair. This can be something trying to transition past but it's also not bad if just like it.

Im an intersex trans women and i know people that fit those duality of breasts+chest or back or facial hair that are treated with such derision. Unlovable. Unattachable. Unworthy of value. Should hide that fact and correct and then can be seen again.

I want to go against that.

[isobug]

Transvalerian

( ID 1: A flag with seven horizontal stripes, the middle stripe being thinner, in the following colors: dark purple, purple, lavender, off-white, lavender, purple and dark purple. End ID. )

( ID 2: A flag with seven horizontal stripes, the middle stripe being thinner, in the following colors: very dark blue, dark blue, blue, off-white, bubblegum pink, cherry red and dark red. End ID. )

( ID 3: A flag with seven horizontal stripes, the middle stripe being thinner, in the following colors: dark red, cherry red, bubblegum pink, off-white, blue, dark blue and very dark blue. End ID. )

This term has multiple definitions

Being AIAB / AXAB / UAB ( or having mixed markers / labels ) and viewing yourself as transitioning towards both a masculine and feminine identity, having a primarily masculine + feminine identity, or presenting mascfem / femmasc.

Not identifying with your AGAB(s) / lack of AGAB, and viewing your gender as being masculine + feminine / mascfem / femmasc, while being trans.

Being / identifying with both Transrainian & Transfieldian.

Being fluid between, or all of these definitions.

I choose -valerian because it sounded similar to -rainian and -fieldian but also because "Valerian" is a plant, which exists in fields and is nurtured by rain. So it's a little symbolic. It can be shortened to "Transval" if you'd like ( similar to the shortened Transrai and Transfie. )

The first flag is an exact 50 / 50 blend of the colors used in the Transrainian & Transfieldian flags ( credit to @eldorr . ) Purple is also a color which shows up in Valerian plants! The second and third are just me taking the top / bottom halves of the Transrainian & Transfieldian flags and putting them together. Use whichever you'd like!

Coined for my intersex experiences because I couldn't find a combo term and I relate to both. Not necessarily Intersex-exclusive but since it's so heavily steeped in my / others Intersex experiences, I ask perisex people to please be veryyyy respectful of Intersex people if you'd like to use these.

( "Respectful" meaning the bare bones basics btw. I.e. no "i'm transitioning to intersex!", using the H-slur, or fetishizing our bodies / variations, and similar things to that. )

Taglist - @interarchive, @radiomogai, @revenant-coining

[jordan-in-paradise]

I absolutely ATE in these! ✨

[thatonegaybrit]

; hullo !! Shoutout to:

men who take estrogen

women who take testosterone

men who take testosterone

women who take estrogen

intersex people who take estrogen

intersex people who take testosterone

intersex people who take neither ( but ppl always assume " you must take one or the other right ?? " )

transmen who don't take anything

transwomen who don't take anything

transmen who've had top surgery

transmen who haven't had top surgery

transmen who want top surgery but can't / are waiting

transwomen who've gotten implants

transwomen who haven't gotten implants

transwomen who want implants but can't / are waiting

transwomen who's boobs grew naturally on E

intersex people who have beards and boobs

intersex people who are " visibly / obviously intersex "

intersex people who aren't " visibly / obviously intersex "

intersex people who have taken HRT willingly

intersex people who were forced into taking HRT and now have trauma around it and refuse to take HRT / don't want to take HRT

intersex people who were forced into taking HRT and now have trauma around it but still take / want to take HRT

enbies who take testosterone

enbies who take estrogen

enbies who take neither

nonbinary intersex people

intersex people who don't identify as non-binary / are smth else

trans men who shave

trans women who don't shave

intersex people who have been rejected from queer spaces / felt unsafe in queer spaces

transmen who have been rejected from queer spaces / felt unsafe in queer spaces

transwomen who have been rejected from queer spaces / felt unsafe in queer spaces

intersex people who don't like it / its being used on them ( due to trauma or not )

intersex people who do like it / its being used on them ( whether they have trauma about it or not )

trans people who don't like it / its being used on them ( due to trauma or not )

trans people who do like it / its being used on them ( whether they have trauma about it or not )

transmascs / transfems who don't identify as a man / woman

transmascs who identify as women / fem-aligned / non-binary

transfems who identify as men / masc-aligned / non-binary

; y'all and your experiences aren't included much I find, and I think it's really important to do so since you're a part of the queer community as much as anyone else is. And since we are queer, there's no reason we should have to fit into tiny boxes or be excluded for " not making sense " etc. Love all of you + the ones not on this list !! /gen

[ditzygutz]

My femme is so fucking beautiful 😭😭😭🩷🩷 i am so full of love and life for her every day i wake up overjoyed to have the privilege to exist in the same world as her. 🩷🩷🩷😭💐💐🥲

[dream-sans-mogai]

My intersex flag!

I wanted an intersex flag that really embodied the varying gender expressions of intersex people so it's:

Yellow for a community shared by both hormonally, chromosomally and physically intersex people!(Including Asex people)

Pink for intrafems!

Purple for intrafemmascs!

White for fighting intersex stereotypes, perisexist rhetoric that leads to non-consentual surgeries on intersex adults and children and protecting ourselves from appropriative terminology/terminology that often appropriates our condition instead of allyship (certain altersex terms( though is supportive of them generally) and transintersex)!

Green for intraneu and other nonbinary/third gender Intersex expressions!

And blue for Intramascs!

This flag is only to be used by naturally intersex people. If you were not born intersex or naturally developed an intersex condition, this flag is not for you.

This flag is also not inherently an LGBT flag, though it is a pride flag.

This flag is inclusive of cis intersex/cintergender people.

[thealternates]

"I'm afab4afab." "I'm amab4amab." My god just say what you mean. Say you aren't attracted to a penis or aren't attracted to a vagina. Why else would you be agab4agab if you don't mean a body part? If you claim it isn't because of body parts then why use an agab to decide if you'll date someone. What about people who are marked as afab but has a penis, or marked as amab but doesn't have a penis. Are you suddenly not attracted to them despite saying you prefer the agab? Hm?

That's body part preferences if so. If you don't find a body part attractive that's literally fine. Just be open about it to others so they know. Don't hide behind saying what agab you want when you say it through the lens of a cis perisex society. Intersex people don't always "fit" the agab they're given. Hell even perisex people don't if they get the surgeries. Agab means nothing about what the person is or has. AGAB MEANS NOTHING ABOUT WHAT THE PERSON IS OR HAS. There is no reason to not say what you mean. - 🪽💙

[intersexcat-tboy]

CW;; bottom surgery talk and fears, intersex struggles vent

Bottom surgery is already daunting for anyone. Surgery cost is a significant concern, with the simplest form being just as expensive as my top surgery.

As an intersex individual, the journey towards bottom surgery is riddled with complexities and uncertainties. Many insurance companies will refuse to cover GAC, often citing how it's not the "proper care" for us, or saying they paid years ago when we were mutilated, leaving us to shoulder the financial burden alone. To compound the issue, many surgeons will outright refuse to operate on intersex bodies. It leaves me between a rock and a hard place

Even if I do manage to scrounge up the tens of thousands of dollars for the surgery that fits me best, I'm confronted with the reality that most surgeons are not accustomed to operating on bodies that look like mine. It's like asking a micro model maker to make a miniature model instead. While the basic principles may be similar, the nuances of working on a larger scale can pose significant challenges. As an artist, I'm familiar with the challenge of adjusting to different scales and proportions. I fear surgeons may struggle to adapt their techniques to accommodate the intricacies of my anatomy, possibly increasing the risk of complications during and after surgery.

That's if they're even willing to work with me. I know many surgeons who won't. Knowing how far away bottom surgery is for me, if I can even access it, rips my lungs out. It's like watching all my friends stroll through the process with such ease, while I'm stuck in a perpetual cycle of trying to find a surgeon who will even consider operating on me. Even with a willing surgeon, I'd face the additional challenge of securing multiple documents to validate my mental health, bottom surgery oftentimes requiring more paperwork, most especially for insurances, despite the fact I will most likely be paying OOP.

I think to myself, it's going to be years before the technique is more available. It's going to be years before I have the money. Is it worth it when I'm 30? To put my body through such trauma? To then relearn my anatomy? Will it be too late?

[intersexfairy]

intersexness feels radical in a way i can't describe. it's not something i've felt with my other queer identities - not in this way, at least. i think there's just something so... ineffable about shaking the very structure of the binary, in the way that we do. the sex binary is used as rationale for a host of bigotries, and as much as intersex people are suppressed, as much as they try to ignore and eradicate us... we're still here. and we always will be. i get a similar sense about being trans, but it isn't entirely the same.

i think this is why it hurts when we're left as a footnote in arguments against transphobia. the way we shake the binary, as beautiful as we are, has resulted in so much pain for us - especially those of us who are genderqueer (queerly gendered) or have been violated by medical "treatments." just being a footnote, when there is so much more to us and our experiences, feels so disrespectful even if what's said about us isn't wrong.

if you're going to mention us, don't forget to really fight for us and embrace our divergence, too. especially since you never know if there's an intersex person having to witness whatever bigotry gets spewed after. we will know if you've bothered to learn anything about us at all. and if you don't know, you could at least be honest and kind about it.

and also? if you're debating with a bigot, you're doing it wrong. there's a difference between trying to fight queerphobia and educate someone... and giving a bigot a platform/a way to snake into yours and others heads.

[boywithbear]

doing another coining and this time it is for certain intersex trans people that don't feel comfortable calling themselves ftm/mtf or feel the term(s) don't fit quite right; it is simply just

IFTM and IMTF!

intersex female to male and intersex male to female! IFTM flag on the left and IMTF on the right

(Can also be used for referring to yourself in the format of 'intersex ftm' and 'intersex mtf' instead of the full iftm and imtf acronyms too!)

It's a very simple change and something I think perisex people could guess what it means when reading it (or at least other trans people)

Of course not everyone will be comfortable with this either, and that's fine! It's just there if it's something that can work for you :]

[Flag descriptions: Flag on the left has 5 stripes being muted mint green, pale yellow, white, pale yellow, and muted mint green. There is a light purple bold circle outline on the flag. The flag on the right has the same type of theme. It has 5 stripes that are light purple, light orange, white, light orange, and light purple. There is a muted green bold circle outline on the flag. End of flag descriptions.]

[atypical-transfem]

Welcome to dyadic adventures

It's a series that i decided to make after being so sick of dyadics not taking intersex people & our experiences into consideration.

On the first episode we have trans spaces who don't realize that not everyone is dyadic and therefore have different trans experiences then their run of the mill trans dyadic-ness.

Dear Dyadic trans people,

Some people are both a trans man and a trans woman; some people are both transmasc and transfem; and/or they're just have the experiences of being treated as a man and a woman in society or something entirely . It's not your place as a dyadic person, someone who will never understand how being intersex impacts some of our understanding of life & our complex relationship with the binary world. So please leave us alone with our labels. We're not "really a man" or "really a woman" We're fucking what we say we are. Yes, that means that some of us are only cis. Yes, that means that some of us are trans. Yes, that means that some of us are trans and cis. And that even means that some of us are both and more. And it even means that some of us are none of the above.

We all know and understand that gender is complicated; so why is it hard to see that being intersex may make it more complex?

Signed,

A tired transcis intersex person

[britishtophatwithlondon]

I've been wanting to ask you one thing for a long time.