#trans dads

[skywalkerbootleg]

For the last 5 years I was so sure that never ever in forever I'd want a pregnancy. Pregnancies are so heavily associated and connected to womanhood in society, that as a trans man I always despised the thought of it.

Now that I've started planning my hysterectomy (uterus begone surgery) I kept feeling a kind of sadness in knowing I will never get to have biological children. And I thought:

If I lived in a society in which it was socially and biologically normal that both men and women carried children, would I then want to bear children myself? Yes, probably without a doubt.

So why let some stupid rule society made stop me? It never stopped me before. Society already tells me I'm not a real man because I'm trans, carrying children won't worsen that actually.

I decided to not get a hysterectomy. At least not in the near future. I'm still only a teenager, I want to keep this option open for me

Just something I've been thinking about

[lucifer-is-a-hermit]

Before I saw the photo I thought it was about ftm and other assigned female at birth fathers and I was like hell yeah dads who birthed kids positivity

So this is now a positivity post for dads who birthed children <3

[byjove]

cis people will say “I found out I’m having a baby girl at my anatomy scan and I’m experiencing gender disappointment” but be mad when you say “who knows? maybe you’ll end up with a son anyway”

[lizardho]

When I came out, I was SO scared I was gonna get disowned. I wrote a letter to my parents, sent it to their emails, put a physical copy on the counter, and left the house for a few hours to give them time. In that time I tried coffee for the first time, which was a dreadful idea, and got all jittery. I kept waiting for a text or something but nothing happened.

After a few hours, I didn’t hear back from them so I went home. My parents were home and had stacked a bunch of groceries on top of the letter without opening it. They said “hi” and I said “hi” and went down stairs to the basement. I held my dog and panicked about what to do. My sister, who knew that I had written them a letter of great importance, told me they hadn’t read it yet. She also told me she could ask them to do so. I consented to this and stayed in the basement. A few minutes later my dad knocked on the door and poked his soft smooth little nerd head in and said “hey buddy” and I started crying so hard I almost vomited. He came over and gave me a BIG hug and said that it was gonna be OK, he was OK with this, he knew it must have been hard but he was here for me. He told me he and my mom had already talked years before they had me about how if they had to pick between their faith and their child they’d pick their child. It was a very sweet moment. I came out to my mom later that evening and we were both bawling the whole time.

The day after I came out to my parents, I came out to my brother @inbabylontheywept at a Mexican restaurant and he took it like a champ. That evening my mom took me for a walk and looked almost angry - she said she wanted to make sure that I didn’t use being a woman as an excuse to not go to grad school. I told her I wouldn’t and she instantly looked relieved and happier.

My dad, on the other hand, seemed to struggle with it. He kept asking me if I had a boyfriend, and I told him I did not. He kept asking me if I wanted to go clothes shopping with him and I did not. He kept asking me if I would let him go to some of my shows, and I had NO idea what he was talking about.

Finally, 6 months after coming out, of awkward misgendering and questions that didn’t make sense from my dad, he excitedly pokes his soft smooth little nerd head into my bedroom again and says “I found a movie about Your People.” My people. I was absolutely bewildered, but he was so excited and I knew he had been trying SO hard so I watched it with him. It was The Birdcage, and it was amazing. It also was revelatory in that I finally realized why my initially-supportive father seemed to be having such a hard time with my pronouns and stuff - he didn’t know what the difference between trans and doing drag was. After the movie he again asked if I would invite him to one of my shows, and I said, “Hey dad, you know how about half the world is women?” And he said “yeah,” and I said “Well, see, I’m on that half now. I’m not doing drag.” And it was like a switch flipped in his brain. He was like “omg that’s so easy? I was so confused about what to call you when?”

Anyway, my parents are charming and my family has been so kind and patient with me, I like sharing the stories of my little wins with them.

[myths-and-girls]

Getting top surgery next week and ngl, I think its gonna be a huge weight off my chest

[grey29]

Honestly I think pregnant trans men are one of the most vulnerable groups of trans men that the right attacks the most. And I feel like mockery of the concept is one of the ways they normalize the forms of abuse talked about above.

Like they all lose their shit over this emoji 🫃and were using it as an example of how trans people are such a joke and should be mocked because a pregnant man is such a ludicrous concept to them.

And a lot of cis people don’t know that a lot of trans men can get pregnant, even if they’re on t. I literally was having a conversation about that with a lady at my work today who literally had no idea that many trans men could still get pregnant and some may choose to on purpose. And when I told her about it as if it was valid and a good option she took it seriously.

I feel like the idea that trans men may still choose to get pregnant also angers so many people on the right because supposedly infertility is one of their main arguments about how being a trans man “destroys young impressionable girls bodies” because they see anyone they perceive as a women as needing to have children in a way they control. So being a trans man and willingly having a child is just adding another layer onto giving patriarchy and it’s control of peoples bodies a big middle finger.

I feel like this was kinda rambly but in essence support and take seriously trans men’s right to choose what they do with their bodies and how they family plan

we cannot afford to not be normal about pregnant men

[pears-palette]

My dad has a little gag he loves doing that involves me being trans (it’s fun- don’t worry).

So, my dead name is also the name of a food item (spelled different but sounds the same). We sometimes eat that food item- it’s a nice treat. His little joke is that he will only call that food “Dead Names”- which leads to hilarious instances of hearing my 70 year old father call out “Hey, I’m going to go grab some Dead Names while we’re here!” while he’s half way down the isle in the grocery store, or him coming home and saying “hey, I picked up a box of Dead Names while I was out! :)”

It just makes me so overwhelmingly happy that my old name is not something wrapped in grief. It doesn’t represent a loss. It is something we can smile about and remember even if it doesn’t fit me anymore.

[shirecorn]

Monsters

Bittersweet Dreams || Perspective || Evil || Fighter

[choking-on-ice]

Since y'all seem to like Mama Bear Chilchuck, I raise you Defensive Daughter Izutsumi

Izutsumi still has cat instincts, so I can picture her getting the urge to basically brush/groom loved ones after injuries. Idk abt anyone else?

pt1

[dadsdog]

"oh fuck don't stop crying kiddo i'm almost there"

[homkamiro]

Fem spy/Transmasc spy are both really funny to me because they imply that Spy was the one to carry Scout, and Scout would not handle that information responsibly. Or at all, really.

He didn't need to imagine that

[baileyarcher30]

Would you let your asshole get drilled by my little rabbit down there🔞🥵

Reblog trans lover and drop a comment run if you want it get drilled by me.💦🔞

[batbusiness-schooldropout]

Tim: You can't just run around here shirtless! Where's your binder!?

Jason: Shit! Where is my...... Did you forget I'm cis?

Tim:........maybe. It's hard not to when your tits are bigger than mine

Damian: You forgot too, idiot

Jason: Why don't you wait until you're taller than my tits before you run your mouth

Bruce: I will give you each $500 right now to talk about anything else