#traditional gender norms

[questioningespecialy]

Enforcing this rift is particularly miserable for women and men in close relationships with each other, but is often continued on the basis that "If I'm not a real man/woman, they won't love me anymore."

I do wish that "oppositional sexism" was a more commonly known term. It was coined as part of transmisogyny theory, and is defined as the belief that men and women, are distinct, non-overlapping categories that do not share any traits. If gender was a venn diagram, people who believe in oppositional sexism think that "men" and "women" are separate circles that never touch.

The reason I think that it's a useful term is that it helps a lot with articulating exactly why a lot of transphobic people will call a cis man a girl for wearing nail polish, then turn around and call a trans woman a man. Both of those are enforcement of man and woman as non-overlapping social categories. It's also a huge part of homophobia, with many homophobes considering gay people to no longer really belong to their gender because they aren't performing it to their satisfaction.

It's a large part of the reason behind arguments that men and women can't understand each other or be friends, and/or that either men or women are monoliths. If men and women have nothing in common at all, it would be difficult for them to understand each other, and if all men are alike or all women are alike, then it makes sense to treat them all the same. Enforcing this rift is particularly miserable for women and men in close relationships with each other, but is often continued on the basis that "If I'm not a real man/woman, they won't love me anymore."

One common "progressive" form of oppositional sexism is an idea often put as the "divine feminine", that women are special in a way that men will never understand. It's meant to uplift women, but does so in ways that reinforce the idea that men and women are fundamentally different in ways that can never be reconciled or transcended. There's a reason this rhetoric is hugely popular among both tradwifes and radical feminists. It argues that there is something about women that men will never have or know, which is appealing when you are trying to define womanhood in a way that means no man is or ever has been a part of it.

You'll notice that nonbinary people are sharply excluded from the definition. This doesn't mean it doesn't apply to them, it means that oppositional sexism doesn't believe nonbinary people of any kind exist. It's especially rough on multigender people who are both men and women, because the whole idea of it is that men and women are two circles that don't overlap. The idea of them overlapping in one person is fundamentally rejected.

I think it's a very useful term for talking about a lot of the problems that a lot of queer people face when it comes to trying to carve out a place for ourselves in a society that views any deviation from rigid, binary categories as a failure to perform them correctly.

[tjeromebaker]

Towards Non-Sexist Education and Gender Equity in the Wake of New Legislation To Eliminate Violence Against Women In Chile | by Thomas Jerome Baker

Author: Thomas Jerome Baker, MA TEFL, Universidad Andrés Bello, Doctoral Student (Applied Didactics in Education), Universidad Americana de Europa, Cancún, Mexico, Amazon Author and Past-President 2010-2011, TESOL Chile Open Researcher and Contributor ID: 0000-0003-4215-844X Abstract This essay critically examines the social construction of masculinity in contemporary Chile from a feminist,…

[angelxd-3303]

I have no excuse.

[hey-hey-j]

how did the other brothers handle John's transition and name change?

see, in my head JD came out and transitioned at a young enough age that Bruce is the only one who even knows he transitioned in the first place. To Clay, Floyd, and Branch, he's always just been John Dory.

but in Bruce's case, I imagine JD literally came up to him one day, was all "I'm a boy now by the way" and Bruce just shrugged and went "okay cool." And that was that.

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

Remarkable how cishet women whine and cry all day long about misogyny and how patriarchy forces roles onto them because of their gender but simply seeing a woman propose to a man is enough to make them switch sides and become the biggest advocates for patriarchy and strict gender roles.

[the-river-rix]

*taps mic* Owen Carvour and Curt Mega are both gnc (but in diff ways)

[monsters-and-macaws]

Btw every single character in Baldurs Gate 3 is trans

[frank-olivier]

Women, Work, and the Future of Japan: A Catalyst for Change

Japan's post-war economic resurgence was once driven by its distinct work culture, but this same culture has now transformed into a double-edged sword, imperiling the nation's future prosperity. Historically, Japan's collectivist ethos, rooted in the pursuit of "Wa" (harmony), fostered stability and cooperation, but in today's context, it often manifests as a rigid hierarchy where excessively long working hours are misconstrued as the pinnacle of loyalty and dedication. This has severe human consequences, including "karoshi" (death from overwork), plummeting birth rates, and a dwindling workforce.

The country's inherent risk aversion, stemming from a deep respect for tradition, hinders innovation, with the fear of disrupting social balance outweighing the benefits of progress. This is evident in Japan's struggles to keep pace with global technological advancements, particularly in software and artificial intelligence, leading to stagnation and erosion of its competitive edge. Furthermore, traditional workplaces prioritize visibility and seniority over merit, resulting in ineffectual leadership, misguided decision-making, and a brain drain as talented individuals seek opportunities abroad.

Recent government initiatives aimed at improving work-life balance and promoting sustainability offer hope, as do forward-thinking companies adopting flexible work arrangements to attract top talent. However, a profound cultural shift is necessary for Japan to reclaim its innovative forefront. This requires blending cherished traditions with the uncertainties of innovation, fostering an environment that encourages risk tolerance, creativity, and merit-based advancement. A gradual shift in societal values, emphasizing individual creativity alongside collectivist principles, is crucial, as are structural reforms in workplaces and educational institutions promoting meritocracy, flexibility, and lifelong learning.

Interwoven with these challenges is the complex situation of Japanese women, who face traditional expectations, societal pressures, and workplace demands that profoundly impact their lives and the country's future. The notion of "ikigai" (finding purpose in life) often narrowly translates to family devotion for women, leading to unfulfilled potential and stagnation. This results in low labor force participation rates, a persistent glass ceiling, and underutilized parental leave policies, placing an undue burden on women and threatening individual well-being and the broader social and economic landscape.

A growing pushback against these traditional expectations, marked by women-led startups, flexible work arrangements, and paternal leave initiatives, signals a tentative shift towards inclusivity. To truly empower Japanese women, however, a profound societal transformation is needed, involving a reckoning with outmoded gender roles. Education and awareness campaigns, alongside the promotion of male allies embodying modern masculinity, can challenge these norms. By celebrating the diverse contributions and aspirations of its female population, Japan can dismantle barriers, realizing the full potential of its women and securing a vibrant future for the nation. The path forward hinges on choosing between the status quo and a new trajectory that values, supports, and empowers Japanese women to thrive, ultimately determining the country's prosperity.

Japanese work culture is unsustainable (pigallisme, April 2024)

Sunday, December 1, 2024

[socraticmethadon3]

There’s no running away from your problems at monasteries. It’s the best + most awful thing

[widevibratobitch]

going into the jfj tag and finding out it's problematic to hc a character as transfem now because *checks notes* it's enforcing traditional gender norms, means you're shallow and hate all gnc people with a passion.

[remainingeden]

am I the weird one for saying my power fantasies never involve men apologizing for doing something disrespectful in the misogynistic way? You can misbehave on purpose, you can ask for punishment because you feel you did something wrong, you can even give permission for me to do some behavioral correction, but my personal fantasies just never involve teaching a man to be respectful because I'm a woman. Gender is separate from biologic sex and shouldn't be what defines any kind of roles...

[applejongho]

there's rly nothing quite like your parents talking about you behind your back about how concerned they are for you because you wear skeleton earrings and you'll never get a job because of your fashion and you've 180ed your personality as of late

[dangerclaw]

So you’re telling me aliens can be cars, but people can’t be genderfluid???

The math isn’t mathing

[zephywolf0]

gyaru greaser

[fancy--that]

The problem with radfems is that their idea of “feminism” is to completely strip away things that make women feminine. They don’t want them to shave, they don’t want them to wear makeup or do their hair or dress up nice, they don’t want you to look cute and beautiful and act feminine. 

The real idea of feminism is for women to CHOOSE how they want to live their life and if that means being a submissive housewife or dressing up everyday and embracing your femininity, or not conforming to gender norms then ALL of that is perfectly okay.

What isn’t okay is making women feel bad for wanting to live their lives a certain way. They’re already ridiculed by society if they shy away from traditional female norms and then they are shamed by radfems when they choose to be feminine. 

Let women be who they want to be.

And also transphobia, radfems are disgusting.