#traditional gender norms

[findmeinthefallair]

The topsy turvy thing I was just discussing with the new friend I made via DnD is that, if no one wants to date you in this country, it actually means you have some shred of personality.

Trying to have creative banter with the vast majority is like drawing blood from a stone

[questioningespecialy]

Enforcing this rift is particularly miserable for women and men in close relationships with each other, but is often continued on the basis that "If I'm not a real man/woman, they won't love me anymore."

I do wish that "oppositional sexism" was a more commonly known term. It was coined as part of transmisogyny theory, and is defined as the belief that men and women, are distinct, non-overlapping categories that do not share any traits. If gender was a venn diagram, people who believe in oppositional sexism think that "men" and "women" are separate circles that never touch.

The reason I think that it's a useful term is that it helps a lot with articulating exactly why a lot of transphobic people will call a cis man a girl for wearing nail polish, then turn around and call a trans woman a man. Both of those are enforcement of man and woman as non-overlapping social categories. It's also a huge part of homophobia, with many homophobes considering gay people to no longer really belong to their gender because they aren't performing it to their satisfaction.

It's a large part of the reason behind arguments that men and women can't understand each other or be friends, and/or that either men or women are monoliths. If men and women have nothing in common at all, it would be difficult for them to understand each other, and if all men are alike or all women are alike, then it makes sense to treat them all the same. Enforcing this rift is particularly miserable for women and men in close relationships with each other, but is often continued on the basis that "If I'm not a real man/woman, they won't love me anymore."

One common "progressive" form of oppositional sexism is an idea often put as the "divine feminine", that women are special in a way that men will never understand. It's meant to uplift women, but does so in ways that reinforce the idea that men and women are fundamentally different in ways that can never be reconciled or transcended. There's a reason this rhetoric is hugely popular among both tradwifes and radical feminists. It argues that there is something about women that men will never have or know, which is appealing when you are trying to define womanhood in a way that means no man is or ever has been a part of it.

You'll notice that nonbinary people are sharply excluded from the definition. This doesn't mean it doesn't apply to them, it means that oppositional sexism doesn't believe nonbinary people of any kind exist. It's especially rough on multigender people who are both men and women, because the whole idea of it is that men and women are two circles that don't overlap. The idea of them overlapping in one person is fundamentally rejected.

I think it's a very useful term for talking about a lot of the problems that a lot of queer people face when it comes to trying to carve out a place for ourselves in a society that views any deviation from rigid, binary categories as a failure to perform them correctly.

[tjeromebaker]

Towards Non-Sexist Education and Gender Equity in the Wake of New Legislation To Eliminate Violence Against Women In Chile | by Thomas Jerome Baker

Author: Thomas Jerome Baker, MA TEFL, Universidad Andrés Bello, Doctoral Student (Applied Didactics in Education), Universidad Americana de Europa, Cancún, Mexico, Amazon Author and Past-President 2010-2011, TESOL Chile Open Researcher and Contributor ID: 0000-0003-4215-844X Abstract This essay critically examines the social construction of masculinity in contemporary Chile from a feminist,…

[angelxd-3303]

I have no excuse.

[juicy-beetle]

Tintin loves snowy so much he probably takes him out on "dates". One of their favorite things to do is to go to the local park, have a picnic and pick some flowers.

Bonus: snowy with a flower crown

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

Remarkable how cishet women whine and cry all day long about misogyny and how patriarchy forces roles onto them because of their gender but simply seeing a woman propose to a man is enough to make them switch sides and become the biggest advocates for patriarchy and strict gender roles.

[the-river-rix]

*taps mic* Owen Carvour and Curt Mega are both gnc (but in diff ways)

[monsters-and-macaws]

Btw every single character in Baldurs Gate 3 is trans

[hereforthefunnyguys]

Being really passionately into your own genderbend au is all fun and games until someone has a different completely harmless headcanon about something you happened to have an extremely strong-set belief in and oh no it appears i have written a small essay in my tags on marik ishtar gender identity. How did that get there

[socraticmethadon3]

There’s no running away from your problems at monasteries. It’s the best + most awful thing

[widevibratobitch]

going into the jfj tag and finding out it's problematic to hc a character as transfem now because *checks notes* it's enforcing traditional gender norms, means you're shallow and hate all gnc people with a passion.

[remainingeden]

am I the weird one for saying my power fantasies never involve men apologizing for doing something disrespectful in the misogynistic way? You can misbehave on purpose, you can ask for punishment because you feel you did something wrong, you can even give permission for me to do some behavioral correction, but my personal fantasies just never involve teaching a man to be respectful because I'm a woman. Gender is separate from biologic sex and shouldn't be what defines any kind of roles...

[applejongho]

there's rly nothing quite like your parents talking about you behind your back about how concerned they are for you because you wear skeleton earrings and you'll never get a job because of your fashion and you've 180ed your personality as of late

[dangerclaw]

So you’re telling me aliens can be cars, but people can’t be genderfluid???

The math isn’t mathing

[zephywolf0]

gyaru greaser