#to say nothing of white people being racist in gay and trans communities

[thepoisonroom]

'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.

I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.

About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'

-Casey Plett, Consciousness

[frooogscream]

And stop calling Con queer he’s just a white gay men from an extremely colonialist country who never bothered to check his privileges! There’s nothing queer about him!

To pre-phrase this: You don’t need to bother sending more of these unhinged messages, at this point it’s pretty clear that you’ve completely lost the plot and I’m not gonna answer to further asks on this topic.

We do not know if Con is gay (hence using the broader term of queer is extremely appropriate here), we only know from himself that he is part of the queer community and from a ("I just look straight") T-shirt he wore and him mentioning his husband that this is in regards to his sexuality not his gender identity.

Gay and queer are not mutually exclusive terms like you are pretending here, there are a lot of gay men who consider themselves queer. If we use the commonly used queer as a more inclusive way to say LGBT+ then that by definition includes all gay men (unless they specifically say they don’t want to be labelled as such). If we use the more political and/or queer as in ‘at odds with cis heteronormative society’ then there are as well many many gay men who fit into that category.

Con personally also does fit the "political" definition of queer, since he is very openly and loudly supportive of trans people, calls out shitty anti social and racist politics in his home country, (as much as you guys love to completely ignore all of this and comment about the one single time he liked a post by a Zionist four years ago when the topic of the post wasn’t Palsatine/Israel instead) has posted ONLY in support of Palestine, directed the talk towards queer right and what we can do to keep them on convention panels etc. etc.

A person being privileged in one area dosnt erase their belonging to a marginalised community or that they have potentially experienced discrimination in other areas. And yeah him being a middle aged white gay/bi/pan/whatever man in the UK might mean that he has a relatively "easy" life compared to other parts of the community NOW. Do you know what else it means? It means that in his early twenties he witnessed the hateful crusade of Thatchers government against queer people, not only did section 28 happen but it also didn’t happen in a vacuum, it was born from years of political fear mongering that framed gay men as dangerous and perverted! It means that Con was about 15 when the AIDS epidemic devastated the queer community and in its wake didn’t only brought death and the loss of you loved ones but also a giant wave of homophobia! I’m not even taking into consideration personal experiences of homophobia (and let me tell you as someone who has friends in the UK, 40 years ago people were beaten up with baseball bats for "looking gay") that Con maybe has. There probably is a reason that he only publicly came out at age 56! I HATE nothing more than young queers (because if you’re cisstraight dear anon, then fuck off so much, this would make it so much worse) policing the "right way to be queer" for older people in the community or invalidating their experiences. Frankly the only reason I’m publishing this ask is that I hope even the last clown sees how incredibly ignorant the "Con does queerness wrong"/"Con being kink positive/having dirty humour/showing his body is predatory" -people sound.

[psi0nics]

Spider-Gwen is Very Likely Trans in Across the Spider-Verse, says One More Person

But this shit matters.

I've rewatched Across the Spider-Verse for probably the eighth time recently, and it continues to be blaringly obvious to me that Gwen is most likely a trans girl. I'm most certainly not the only one to have pointed this out, and I don't really think I'm adding anything new. But we need as many voices to speak up, I feel, and I might as well share what I think of it. Now, this little essay is going to focus mainly from the movie's material alone since I'm not much of a comic reader, and it'll be limited to my own experience as a Filipino trans girl who really wants to express some thoughts.

Spoilers ahead!

Across the Spider-Verse explores the journey of Miles Morales after the first film, Into the Spider-Verse, where he rises up to the mantle of Spider-Man. Now, we follow him as he fights to be recognized as Spider-Man by the rest of Spider-Society, who reject him for factors out of his control—and yet he made the best of them, took pride in them, and rose up to become Spider-Man in all the ways that matter. Unfortunately, the exact circumstances, Spider-Society doesn't like—represented by Miguel O'Hara. From all that I've heard and read, a lot of Miles's story strongly being a very Black story, drawing from Miles being Afro-Latino, and though the story itself never shows racism nor do the different universes explicitly show systemic discrimination and whatnot, his story still clearly draws from that. Miguel O'Hara isn't some racist white dude excluding Miles because he's Afro-Latino, Miguel is an Irish-Mexican man and the entire theme of the Spider-Society is that it is extremely diverse and open. But that doesn't mean that the institution that it represents in the context of literally everything Rio Morales, Miles's Mother, tells him. To remember where he's from, to not let those big institutions tell Miles that he doesn't belong there, and all these things that are brimming with subtext.

The subtext is there, and it's all intentional.

Then there's Gwen Stacy. Who, for her entire arc of the film, hinges on a relationship setup from the beginning—her father, George Stacy. Now, for a lot of trans people, including me, we found it striking that that arc felt pretty queer-coded. Now, by itself, there's nothing much to be gleaned, just Gwen struggling with the fact that she's forced to reveal her superhero identity to her dad in a tense moment, ripping them apart, and later reconciling. Now, I'm quite young for a queer person, but I'm aware of the history of all these subtle things or narratives about identity being all that queer people had in the mainstream for a very, very long time.

But these days, we celebrate every win, for every explicitly queer character, for every confirmation from creators where they couldn't explicitly show anything in the material (except for Rowling bullshit, fuck that fake shit), and every hold that we're constantly fighting for. I know I'm speaking for a lot of people when I say we are so happy to see so many gay and bi characters see the mainstream's spotlights, be left unquestioned, that I, someone on the other side of the world, am left in positive awe whenever I see some middle-aged white dudes casually say, "My daughter's girlfriend." But of course, it's always a fight. We can't be complacent, because for every win, people will always try to tear it down, and I know I just happen to be in pretty inclusive online communities to see what I see in the west. There, people queer sexualities still fight. Here, people still fight. Queer identities will never stop fighting.

All this to say, what of Gwen? Well, one of the moments that made me think about her this way was when I was putting the little hints together. Because her arc does not stand in isolation. Her arc is literally colored by transness. From the big trans flag above her door, the trans colors that literally paint her and her world, the reflections that show her other identity, her reconciliation with her father hitting us with "They can only know half of who I am," the acceptance, and even the tiniest bit of Mary Jane's voice over talking about raising a child that's different than everyone else and learning to learn as a parent, and all these details. Hell, she even hangs out with Hobie Brown, whose entire thing is anarchism, the rejection of what society has considered the norm for bullshit reasons, to hang out with a radical leftist—and as one of those, there's not any other group (or at least from my experience) quite as intersectional with solidarity with marginalized groups as radlefts. To those who say, "Maybe she's just an ally," I challenge you: why would the film stop there?

Why does the film that goes out of its way to casually show more people of color as normal, to show people with disabilities playing basketball, to show an entire arc about Miles striving to fight the institutions that want to keep him down, to drive with progress, to drive the narrative that anyone can be behind the mask, why would it stop at making Gwen Stacy a trans girl?

And very similar to Miles, of course there's no one explicitly transphobic nor are any groups shown to be that. It's a more personal story, and is more subtle about it. And it's crazy how much this reminds of when I grew up watching The Legend of Korra, when Korra and Asami's relationship was only some endgame thing and hinted at with a "vacation." Gay people didn't have that much there. Not much in other places in the mainstream either. They started making their own, of course. Through fan-fiction, through art, making their own stories. But fortunately (I say with as much dripping sarcasm as I can) capitalism now sees it as a big enough market for billionaires to profit off of. (Which is, in a very dystopian way, a win.) And now, it's eerily familiar to see trans people get the same treatment now, stuck in a limbo of infrequent and rare representation in the mainstream if we aren't clawing for every inch.

So, while Miguel O'Hara isn't a racist authoritarian, George Stacy isn't a transphobe—not when he goes out of his way to wear trans flags (and no, it's not a trick of the light; nothing is a trick of the light, it's all intentional in animation). But the conflicts they represent aren't any less meaningful in the subtext. And that means a lot for people who are fighting tooth and nail to be recognized.

And all of this, too, is representative of one of the first and second film's main themes. It's not that it doesn't matter who's behind the mask, it's that it can be anyone behind the mask, carrying with them all the richness of their experiences, bringing forth a Spider-Person unlike any other. And in the second film, to defy the patterns and labels set by the institutions that govern our lives, doing things like using fear and preserving an order for some grand picture.

So, I'm pretty sure Gwen Stacy is trans. What does it add to the story? Nothing. Being cis never added much to the story.

But for someone like me, it's doing a lot. It gives me hope.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

1) Detroit become human was about how white robots have it just as bad as African American slaves. cyberpunk 2077 alongside its glitches had racist elements such as orientalism, demonizing black men in the main story, and a horrible implantation of black features in the character customization. the Stanley parable had an in game video of a white man lighting a black child on fire. all games in the grand theft auto series showcase racist stereotypes of black criminals. all south park games have multiple racist "jokes" that are just as offensive and stupid as the show. minecraft on consoles had skin packs, one of which featuring the main character Steve wearing an orange prison jumpsuit, and being one of only two skins where Steve is depicted as Black.

Black people have been telling you about games that are racist for years. but you simply refuse to listen or care.

2) BLM is not an organization that all Black people are a part of. BLM stand for Black Lives Matter, and is a movement, not an organization, that is against police brutality. of course you don't understand the difference between a movement and an organization because you think all people you disagree must all be friends and all agree with each other and are secretly plotting to ruin your life. there is that Black Lives Matter Global Organization Fund, which IS an organization. that is a collective of far-left anticapitalists activists who are part of the Black Lives Matter movement. but not everyone who is part of the movement is part of the BLMGOF. when you say "BLM has never done this", who are you referring to? all Black people ever?

3)

4) "sex class" holy fuck kill yourself

5) "wait till tras find out..." firstly, stop with the tra shit. say tranny with your whole chest. because that's what you mean. you want to call us a slur, but you don't want to face the consequences of calling people slurs. so you make up weird words and acronyms, which are just tranny spelt different ways. it's the same energy as calling someone a fag and then saying "what? all I did was call you a bundle of sticks! there's nothing offensive about sticks, is there?". it's middle school level bigotry. and it's pathetic and makes you look insane.

6) you're trying to make the argument that trans people don't know that markus pearson sucks. but minecraft is the most popular game in the world. every already knows that markus pearson is a terrible person. he's a stupid racist sexist antisemitic transphobic cunt and I hope he fucking kills himself. but a) he hasn't had anything to do with the game in years, and b) he isn't actively funding for the death of trans people.

I have my own criticisms of minecraft. mainly the antisemitism with the villagers. because, surprise, they were created by an antisemite. but despite trying to distance themselves from pearson, Microsoft has done absolutely nothing to change this gross part of the game. I have been vocal about this for years, yet people like you don't give a shit.

also, minecraft is incredibly popular with autistic people, and people who are autistic and people who are trans overlap a lot.

also also, Lena Raine, famous for her work on soundtracks for Celeste and Deltarune, also composed some of the best songs ever for minecraft. why is the important? let me direct you to the best and shortest "personal life" section on wikipedia I've ever seen

actual trans people work on minecraft. minecraft and mojang are filled with queer devs who actively support and are part of the queer community.

so when the current dev team of a game has trans people actively working on it, doesn't invite the creator to the 10th anniversary celebration, does literally everything they can to get rid of all mentions or ties to the creator, and have gone on record saying they want nothing to do with pearson and have cut ties with him completely, I think that means that the game is not transphobic like you want it to be. it's not that no one cares because "he's a man". it's that minecraft isnt a franchise that uses its profits to fund genocide.

also, as I was saying before, minecraft isn't perfect. it still has antisemitism, it still has a racist past, and it still has a shitty ex dev. and while they can't change the past, they can change the future by removing the antisemitic tropes that surround the villagers. yet they don't, and I am very vocally upset and have expressed my views on this subject many times.

7) but you know a game with far worse antisemitism? hogwarts legacy. far more antisemitism than any transphobia. this game is literally the blood libel myth of Jews stealing the blood of white children. the goblins, which have large noses and control the banks and have a shofar and kidnap white wizard children and are secretly working with the wizard nazis are quite literally based off the antisemitic lies and conspiracy theories of the new world order, blood libel, greedy Jew, and holocaust denial. even on their own, these tropes would be absolutely disgusting and repulsive to any person with half a brain. but even though this game has more antisemitic lies and myths than a 4chan /pol/ thread, people like you don't care at all. because "it's hairy potty! and I love hairy potty! the creator hates trans people and that's based ... uh... I mean... I have nostalgia for the series! (and I don't give a shit at all about Jews)"

interestingly though, when this was pointed out to you in the replies, you said "no that's not true" and "so what? that's no reason to get mad" and "actually YOU'RE antisemitic for thinking that goblins are supposed to be Jews". and personally I think that anyone who says that last one deserves a bullet though their skull.

8) also, I find it very interesting that you're complaining and crying and pissing their pants when trans people boycott one (1) game, yet they refuse to listen to anyone else, especially Black people or Jews, when they suggest boycotts, and also refuse to boycott any games with extreme sexism and misogyny in them, despite pretending to care about women.

I have never seen a radfem say anything negative about fat princess, the guy game, dead island, overwatch, persona 5, grand theft auto, and hell, even hogwarts legacy.

if you didn't know, this game was developed by people who were part of gamergate. and if you don't know what gamergate was, it was a massive controversy online where women were saying how sexism in online games is bad, and a bunch of men said "no, and you're wrong! my opinion is worth more than your lived experience". and then some of those men went on to make what you think is the best game of all time, that contains extreme amounts of racism and antisemitism, and sales of which are actively funding a genocide against trans people. but I'm assuming that none of those things are negatives to people like you.

tldr: op need to kill themselves

[venus-is-in-bloom]

not starting discourse on the post itself bc i want it to spread unbothered... but like, ok, so you think pride is "important"... is it important because it, say, stops the police from beating and arresting us for being gay or trans? obviously not, since they do that just fine the moment we try to protest the imperial war machine being operated in our nations or funded by our nations. in fact, the same cops who brutalised a sister of ours for protesting a war convention are marching alongside us at pride, proudly acting as if they're our allies.

is it because pride gives us publicity, and publicity equals support? that's interesting, because down here in auckland, aotearoa, in february of 2020, the lgbt+ community divested from cops and corporations in order to do a more authentic pride march not beholden to the interests of the powerful. there were thousands of us there, filling the streets. you know what the media said about that? nothing. they reported as if there had been no pride march at all that year. so as soon as we oppose the way things are, our "publicity" goes away.

is pride important because, as you might say, "the first pride was a riot"...? because even though it might not be revolutionary today, it was before? if you look at the actual stonewall riots, or listen to the words of people who were there—i recommend miss major speaks for one of the most prominent voices today—you hear that pride is not at all related to the stonewall riots. at most it co-opted them. the riots were about police brutality and violent repression that was racist as well as homo- and transphobic. on the other hand, the pride flag was invented by a white us army veteran, the pride marches are organised with the blessing of governments worldwide, and police brutality not only around but within pride events reigns unchecked today as it did in 1969, having only slightly changed its targets.

if pride is really so powerful just because people show up en masse and make ourselves visible, then why is it that when people show up en masse for palestine, to oppose genocide, to ask our governments to divest from israel and to sanction the state that bombs and purges civilians in the most brutal of ways, it does nothing? not a peep from our government down here in aotearoa, not a peep from the u.s. government, nothing. our voices have no power and we are being shown that in real time. we are being shown that the "power" of pride is a sham.

if they let us have our rights, let us have our community, let us have our marches, it's not because we have some sort of power. we are like a circus of dancing animals. as long as we behave, we get to have our little display... but this illusion fades like morning mist when we run up against the leash, when we tug on the unbreakable cord of our masters' will.

we could celebrate. after all, even though many of our cousins and fellows are being brutally killed with the support of our governments, at least we have what we want, and shouldn't we be grateful for that? shouldn't we be grateful that our generous masters see fit to grant us the same rights they take away from gay palestinians, the same futures they rip from the bodies of trans children in the drc? those are our kin, our fellow human beings, but do we care?

all i am doing is taking a moment this year to question if our celebration, if our acting joyful at this historic moment, would serve a different cause from ours. if it would enable our unfaithful governments to proclaim that nothing is wrong and they are worthy of our support. if it would show that we are complicit in their pinkwashing. if we could instead spend our energy on protests and organising for our true community, which is not local, not restricted to us and our neighbours nor to the global north, but international.

[lazykurocat]

Why I think the "progress" flag is actually regressive.

apparently it's time for me to get mad about the "progress" flag again…

I've always had major problems with the "progress" flag, it if anything is separating us further as a community whereas the regular Rainbow as it was is all encompassing.

As a brown person I just find the flag sickening... what does skin colour or illness have to do with my Queerness? NOTHING. I know some will try to say "well it's because we're all discriminated against!" but the reasons for discrimination are completely none related... and I see the flag as discriminating... having Black and Brown represent AIDS and HIV aswell as Skin colour, on a flag meant for queer people further make it out like it's the "Gay/Brown people virus" which... is fucked up. I am saying this as a brown disabled gay trans man... I do not like this damn flag and never will.

it doesn't help that the creator, Daniel Quasar, is a white person (at least as far as I know)... this is a form of what is known as "positive racism" Virtue signalling and white guilt. I am sick of it all and have faced it my entire life… do people not realise by being this way they dehumanise people like me? they treat me like I'm another species they can't properly comprehend because they're white and I'm not. I don't know who needs to hear this but you are not a bad person just because you are white!... you are also being racist to yourselves through your white guilt and it makes me sad… we're all just people on a tiny space rock. quit trying to appease us by being racist! just treat me like a person!

mmm Pride month Am I right fellas?

[cordycepsfem]

Pageboy Readthrough, Part Seven

Previously

the entire thing was awful from start to finish

we learned nothing about Canada

but that's not why it was awful

it was awful because EP details several instances of sexual assault, homophobia, and rape

she says briefly that she felt like a weight was lifted when she came out

but it didn't last very long

your reviewer stopped because Chapter Nine opened with sex and she just couldn't take it

Now

Chapter Nine

as previously stated this chapter dumps us immediately into sex

and your reviewer immediately has some questions

okay, so, first - both "my dick" and "my pussy" = got it, sure, whatever

"queerer than ever" when just performing lesbianism = sure, whatever you need to call it, EP

"magnets sucking"?? is this meant to be sexy? has EP ever stuck two magnets together? did they make a sucking sound to her? does she think "magnetism" and "magnets" are correlated? what the fuck is this meant to express?

in conclusion:

and also, I know I said would take up a sword and go off to fight whoever EP told me to, based on her backstory, but now I think she owes me like $50 (CAD is fine) for having to read that and parse it with my own eyes and my own brain

remember, throw "cis white gay" in front of anything and it's cool to denigrate whatever comes after

EP, who do you think built the bars? Why do you think they're all gay bars? Maybe it's because of the gay community there... c'mon, I wanna give you the benefit of the doubt, but... you have to work for it

I am now running a tab a la "Cinema Sins":

also, nobody likes a bragger, EP. I like to write, then eat, then sleep too, but you don't see me bragging about it. It's just... Thursday.

also I'm dying to know who this "Madisyn" individual is because I am dying to know what she was writing at the same time EP was banging (no pun intended) this out. I'm crossing my fingers for fanfic because I would be roundly disappointed with something like "tracking genetic diseases in Victorian England"

EP continues to make friends and influence people:

yes that was a bad joke for me to make on a post about the f-slur and yes I do feel bad for her for this entire scenario but I feel I am owed some levity considering that I just had to consider EP "getting hard" on sweatpants

FSlur Man chases EP to a convenience store

it forces EP to remember a similar time she was homophobically attacked

okay, so, let's talk about this

I want to believe EP 100% on all of this because a) I know how shit the world is and b) I exist as a lesbian in it

but "This is why I need a gun"? are we sure? this smacks of "look at my attacker's right wing politics" to me and I feel so badly that it does but I am, as previously stated, a very specific type of asshole (one who is incredibly jaded, apparently)

I have never been to West Hollywood and I have no idea what kind of mentally ill people live there, so obviously my own sense of "is this true or not?" is fallible

either way, gay-bashing and threatening gay and lesbian individuals is wrong and I feel like that should be stated in case someone reads this and thinks I'm doubting her or I'm somehow on the side of the attacker(?). yes, I know how weird that sounds, but the internet's a weird place.

your reviewer is sighing because I just don't know what to say about this anymore

being attacked is awful and wrong and should not happen

why are these things not reported to the police? why did these men's faces not end up on Twitter, with cries to find them and get them fired, as is asked of so many of us when we see racists or similar bad actors in the wild?

yeah yeah, I know, believe women and don't question why they did what they did, but I know in my heart that if something like this happened to me I would be filming. I would call the police.

also the third season of Umbrella Academy sucked and I'm putting that half on the shoulders spoilers of EP for wanting Vanya to transition (which was fucking unnecessary because trans actors go on and on about not always needing to play trans characters and offensive because we finally had a lesbian on a show! who wasn't killed!) and half on the shoulders of the show who not only bought into her transitioning her character with absolutely no evidence leading up to it ever, which is shit writing, but also because all they did was run around and yell each other's names and then kill off a bunch of characters we didn't even know for just... funsies, I guess

anyway it was shit and the fourth season better have some big balls to fix all of it or I am going to roundly and aggressively review it

ah, hell, I'm going to do that anyway

where were we?

ah, yes, the "we live in a society" portion of the evening

I want to say a lot of things here but all of them are bitchy and I'm trying to let that not be me

I feel as though many people do not see trans men as "real" men because they are not male, and the correlation is not between "anger" and "masculinity," it is between "anger" and males

it is not females who commit the vast majority of violent crimes and express anger so openly in our society with such ease, it's males

it has nothing to do with whether or not those men are masculine or feminine

or whether or not those men identify as men or not

there are plenty of trans women who are violent as fuck

and in fact many of them seem to be making it "their thing"

so long story short:

Get fucking angry, EP. Be angry about what's happened to you, because a lot has happened to you to be angry about. Fight the fuck back in whatever way feels best for you to do so.

As someone who also has a lot to be angry about from childhood, my teenage years, and then in my twenties, as I dealt first with bullies and mean girls and aggressive boys and just absolute assholes, as well as the Catholic Church, but then moved onto being treated poorly by the medical establishment as I tried to navigate being chronically ill in a world not built for it at a time that I was not prepared to fight for my life... I have found ways to let the anger out. It still sits in my chest and it builds and it squashes into a tiny origami box behind my sternum.

I let it out when I refuse to let anyone define me.

I let it out when I go to therapy.

I let it out when I decide what I like, what I want to do, where I want to be, who I want to be.

I let it out when I make decisions about what my life will look like in the future.

I let it out when I am joyful. The people who tried to break me and ruin me didn't, and I am still alive to be incredibly happy.

I let it out when I am around other women. When I am around my sisters. We are still here.

Find your sword, EP. You've got a bunch of us behind you.

(Also you owe me approximately $64.80 CAD for this chapter. I take Venmo.)

[8-evil-annoying-catboys]

it’s vitally important for ALL trans people to understand that transition won’t… make them look like a different race. trans poc need to reckon with the fact that the white trans people we see all around us are not necessarily what we will look like when we transition, except those of us who are white passing, but even then it depends on which “white” traits we have and don’t have and how wider society genders our “ethnic” traits (like lip size, bone structure, eye shape, hair texture, etc., not just skin tone). but WHITE trans people also need to reckon with the fact that transition isn’t going to, like, turn them into an anime character. they’re going to look like how their family looks, just like the rest of us. and there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just a fact of life that needs to be accepted so that we all can accept and love our bodies just the way they are, before, during, and “after” transition.

also, white trans people (and white people who are otherwise marginalised, in general) REALLY need to reckon with the fact that oppression on one axis does not equate to oppression on all axes, AND everyone in a racist society is racist. you have to actively unlearn racism and the work will never be done, it is a continuously ongoing process EVEN FOR PEOPLE OF COLOR, so it’s absolutely ASININE for a white person to think they can be exempt from being racist. bitch, NOBODY is exempt from being racist in a racist society, and The West™ is undeniably racist. you have to accept this and commit to doing the neverending work of unlearning racism. you are not somehow exempt, and when poc are also not exempt from this, trust me, you look ridiculous as a white person trying to say you aren’t racist because you’re trans (or gay, or disabled, or poor, or what have you), or because you have poc in your friend circle, or whatever other reason you think you aren’t racist. you are.

unlearning racism is worth the work it takes, but you can’t even get started until you admit that racism is already within your psyche, whether you like it or not. and you also can’t get started on actually unlearning racism in a productive way, and making yourself a safe person to be around for poc in your communities, if you beat yourself up for learning racism when it was taught to you by everyone around you ever since you were a baby. so accept this fact of life in the racist society you grew up in, don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself or hating yourself for it, and listen to what poc are trying to tell you about racism and how to deconstruct and unlearn it. PLEASE. there’s no solidarity otherwise, in ANY marginalised community, because poc are in EVERY marginalised community. unlearning racism is as necessary for trans liberation, disabled liberation, gay liberation, working class liberation, fat liberation, and the liberation of any and every marginalised community, as it is for the liberation of people of color. we are in ALL of your communities. if this didn’t occur to you before, that’s because you don’t see us, or don’t notice us there. take the time to ask yourself why that is, and dissect that. then, see us, and listen to us, and do your damnedest to make these spaces as safe for us as they are for you.

the amount of white trans people on this website who go completely quiet when you bring racism into the conversation because they’ve never confronted their own prejudice and hide behind the “im a minority so i can’t even be racist!!” mindset instead of ever actually learning and giving a shit is so tiring what are we doing here

[saucedxlls]

it's like 12:30am and im pretty sure im sleep-deprived but

been on the feminist side of pinterest and that whole man & bear debate is soooo dumb, every man boy who was upset or angry instead of questioning for even a second why a woman who feel safer knowing she's near a wild animal than a man should not have been validated, and all the reactions from different men kinda prove the whole reason this question was asked, women, how many times have you heard a man tell a rape joke along the lines of "well he's a man i mean what did she expect?" and there was not to nobody upset about this? cause i've heard it both in real life & on TV (i'm am a literal minor) sooo all the guys saying "what? do you think all men are wild animals who can't control themselves" need to see all those dumbass jokes and be honest about how many they found funny

in a church a old man can to the front and said this "there's more women wearing shorts and skirts than long dress, lemme tell you, if i'm on the court and you say you were raped and you were wearing that, i will let that man go free" not even lying, nobody was upset (atleast the people watching him say this) and that man is a PRIEST, people go to that man for advice!! how tf did we as a society fail so horrifically that we let a man saying thing's like "rape's ok if she's wearing revealing clothing" give people any advice?

also, if you're a guy that got upset and don't understand why women choose bear, lemme explain, a woman on twitter said that she choose bear and the men in the comment section said things like "boy, when i'm done w/ you i'll make you wish you picked the bear" or un-censored images of women getting mauled by bears, a child on tiktok said that she choose man, a quick look at her pf would have told you she's a minor, and yet multiple men replied with maid outfits + oil or descriptions on how they would "reward" her

in both cases the woman got harassed with threats, "oh well that last one wasn't meant to be a threat" 1: she's a minor & 2: saying fetish-y stuff to someone w/o knowing if they would be okay with that on a mass scale is harassment

also, ladies, this doesn't make hating men okay, if he's a pedo or rapist, hate all you want, but if it's just some guy you know nothing about then there's no reason to be hateful, also men, just being cautious is not hateful, things like "kill all men" or "women are better" are, and if you can't tell i have a tip for you: reverse the statement, "sorry i'm not gonna go home w/ a random guy" to "sorry i'm not gonna go home w/ a random girl" see, not hurtful or mean, "well you're a guy so i'm better" to "well you're a girl so i'm better" see, this is hurtful w/ malcontent behind it

any women who says men are useless except for their money are just as bad as guys who say women are useless except for their bodies, it's the same for race, if a white person says all black people are thefts or druggies they're racist, if a black person says all white people are thefts or druggies they're also racist, same with men & women, saying hateful thing against men are still bad and sexist, sexism against men is still sexism

also, trans people, if you question things because you just don't know or because it doesn't make sense to you, that's fine, if you try to make a trans person justify why they are the way they are to the point they're uncomfortable, that's not fine, same with gay person, non-binary person, transgender person, bi person, ace person, or just apart of the LGBTQ community, you don't have to accept it and if you think "man, i could never be gay or trans, that's weird" that's fine, you can think that, but all we ask is for you to be respectful, "so, how's did you find out you were trans?" is fine "trans people aren't real and you are still the same person you were before" isn't

anyways, thanks 4 reading my rant bye :D

[uselessheretic]

There's valid critiques of Taika and his work and I'm not talking about that right now, but the intense recent focus on him, his sexuality, and the accusation of "appropriating" queer culture is so fucking ridiculous, self-obsessed, and racist it blows my mind.

Like, why be mad he called himself a gay icon? He's been called that for years, and him acknowledging that just isn't an issue. Straight white women have been called gay icons for close to a century without any issue? And if a straight man were to call himself a gay icon as well I don't see a problem with straight men choosing to align themselves with the queer community.

But also... I don't think people would take so much issue with him if he openly identified as straight tbh. All the accusations of queerbaiting are ridiculous, but nothing he's done is even close to homophobic where if an openly straight man said something like he was a gay icon I don't think people would be as up in arms. It really comes off like a discomfort at someone being undefined and the demand for complete open access to celebrities' lives as if anyone is owed an explanation for how they identify their sexuality.

But goddddd people straight up lying about Thor and making up rumors that are not true is wild. People said he was queerbaiting when he said the movie was "so gay" (he was asked if it was gay!!) and when it was proven he was not then people want to try and figure out a way to dissect two words to prove that "so gay" is overselling the gay content (multiple openly queer characters who discuss being queer) and therefore problematic. saying he misgendered a trans character (this did not happen) or saying there were "man in a skirt" jokes (literally not true?? the best I got as what this could be referring to is Zeus lifting his toga in a kinda silly way as he walked down the steps)

All of this is literally just so fuuucking insane because it hinges on the idea that "Taika is exploiting the queer community" which makes no sense because he doesn't actually?? Profit by allying himself with the queer community? Like... his bag is in Thor and Marvel. Choosing to ally himself with the queer community is a risk he's taking when the biggest money maker he has is a fanbase of straight white men. (Who, for the record, are not happy about Thor having such a focus on women and queer people?)

Like! I just wish people would unpack what it means to view a moc as inherently an outsider and an antagonist to the queer community. Especially focused on that he's "stealing" or exploiting them (whatever the fuck that means) by virtue of just... incorporating queer stories into his work or supporting queer communities. Or, why people view him as egotistical and that he's trying to force himself into the spotlight from him just? Joking around? Because I stg other than him making jokes he is soooo incredibly humble and quick to give praise and credit to people. Along with him absolutely using his position of entering Hollywood to uplift marginalized communities. Like! Every project he runs he makes an effort to be as diverse as possible. I just hate also that he's really the guy doing the most at the moment for uplifting Indigenous communities in media, including queer Indigenous people too, but (mostly) white gays wanna be so fucking irritating for no reason omfg.

All this over a guy who hasn't even said that he's straight! Where the more vague he is about his sexuality the more people double down on calling him a homophobic cishet!

[sweatshirt-ninja]

Okay, I haven’t been posting as of late because of personal things and the thing I am going to talk about. So, I normally try not to make posts like these, but I feel like I have the need to do so as I’ve seen backlash towards fellow Ninjago fans. Note, this is my own personal opinion and things I have personally witnessed about the topic I am going to say and in no way am I trying to say your opinions or experiences are wrong. Everyone is welcomed to have their own opinion on this matter, but I have noticed this being a an issue, not a big one, but still an issue within the community and I’d like to get it off my chest. I hope I’m not the only one that feels this way.

Anyway, I have noticed that some Ninjago fans tend to police other fans for how they headcanon the characters. It can be for many things like race, sexuality, gender identity, and the list goes on. Personally, I am someone who doesn’t care on how you view or headcanon the Ninja. I’m all for creative liberty and I want everyone to be free to express themselves, so if those means are through characters of your favorite show, then do it! Make those characters black, white, asian, mixed, gay, straight, ace, trans, cis, or whatever else! I love seeing everyone’s takes on our loveable ninjas. What I hate to see is policing and harassment. “Oh, you made X character black? Ew, they aren’t black! They’re white!” Or “Oh, you whitewashed x character? You’re racist.”

I’ve noticed this on many platforms that have the Ninjago Community and it makes me sick. Like, I get that this show’s setting is based upon asian culture, so many people view them as asian, which is very cool, then there are some who view them all as a mixed batch of races, which is also very cool. There is nothing wrong with viewing a character the way you see them and the setting of said show doesn’t have to influence that. It can if you want, but it doesn’t have to for others. This show is watched from all around the world, so there are going to be different takes and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I’m sick of making it seem like it is. I’m sick of the racism, I’m sick of the policing, I’m sick of the hatred.

Sorry if I sounded harsh, but I’ve noticed this. I’ve been a long time fan like many. I watched this fandom grow and flourish. I hate seeing it go down this hill. Once again, this has been my own experiences and witnessing about the fandom. Others might have never seen this happen and that’s okay. Others probably have seen this and think completely differently from me and that’s okay too.

[the-bjd-community-confess]

[multipost]

Terf/transphobia discourse:

1. Sorry but sorry but terfs SHOULD feel unwelcome in hobby spaces the same way racists, homophobes and sexists should. This hobby is for everyone whether they like it or not. Unfortunately plenty of people who fit the description are very comfortable in this hobby and don’t face consequences for being shitty people. That doesn’t mean others are turning a blind eye.

~Anonymous

2. "Can people stop ganging up on G3an/Alyssvm/C@nticle/0neMoreLight? they're just an uwu baby gay who did nothing wrong everyone who disagrees with them is an old freak" yeah nah as an old queer I don't want baby terflings in the community. Fuck off tenderqueer, we didn't die for you to turn around and parrot the same conservative bullshit at us all over again a few decades later. Prejudice against our own fucking community doesn't magically become valid just because it's wearing a rainbow hat.

~Anonymous

3. the person who said people can’t call out gean/onemorelight/etc for being a terf because she’s a young lesbian and thus it’s ‘punching down’ are hysterical. She’s a spoilt rich white terf who buys multiple $1000 v0lks dolls on her parents dime. At least look up the meaning of ‘punching down’ because holy shit that ain’t it. People aren’t even ‘bullying’, they’re rightfully calling her out, not that terfs can tell the difference. ‘Punching down’ LMFAO.

~Anonymous

4. ‘uwu you can’t be mean to a terf if you’re over 30 it’s bullying’ oh ok so once I reach a certain age I’m supposed to just turn off my empathy for the young trans hobbyists literally scared to even post in the hobby spaces 0nemorelight/Em1l is active in. That’s fine and normal. Totally cool for -actual minors- to have confessed to me the they feel bullied out of hobby spaces because of terf bigotry but pointing this out is bullying! Get bent. I’ll be the voice of those too afraid to speak.

~Anonymous

5. Sorry but I’m not going to stop holding G3an/Alyssvm/C@nticle/0neMoreLight/Emil (you forgot a name!) accountable (which isn’t bullying) just because she’s an uwu smol lesbean. And not only just because she’s a terf, which is ideas that should never be welcome in inclusive hobby spaces. It’s also because she’s rude, unpleasant, loves the sound of her voice (or look of her text) too much while ignoring everyone else, self-centered and spoilt. Her self centered and entitled attitude is probably due to how much her parents spoil her - pretty much every expensive v0lks doll she owns was paid for by her rich mommy and daddy (and she seems to get new ones every other month).   Gean, maybe instead of smugly reblogging confessions about you and taking pride in being an unlikeable little shit you start to think about why people are uncomfortable with you, why people are hurt by you, and what is provoking these reactions. Work on your attitude because the whole ‘heehee everyone hates me xD!’ thing you’re doing is beyond cringe and just proves you think you’re better than everyone else. You being ‘young and queer’ doesn’t absolve you of anything. Take responsibility for the shit you say and do instead of hiding behind the ‘I’m literally a queer (almost) minor how dare anyone be mean you’re a bully?!?!’ shit. You’re an adult and I and the others who are done with your hurtful BS are treating you like one.

~Anonymous

6.  Friendly reminder that G3an/Alyssvm/C@nticle/catwithpizza (AKA Onemorelight on DOA and Emil on DollDreaming) bullied and harassed the user formerly known as Ruin-Lilien/SayosBox (not giving their current username for obvious reasons) out of the hobby by relentlessly attacking them for being a pedophile and accusing them of horrific things over literally nothing (their MDD that was their own ADULT OC), so it’s pretty damn funny to see her crying about being ‘bullied’ now (called out. Not bullying).

(By the way, accusing every second person of being a pedophile while all your icons on discord are underage characters from eroge (anime porn games) is also pretty funny.）

~Anonymous

7. I think "This BJD person is a terf" is different from just "Ugh TERFS fucking suck, I just hate them so bad." Are two completely different topics on this blog, though both are very valid. 1) Makes sense to confess on a doll blog. 2) Not so much, it's just a general statement about how much terfs suck, but has literally no relation to dolls. You can't even argue that you know who to support, bc it's an anon confession, so you can't even support the anti-terf confession.

~Anonymous

[gregrulzok]

okay a few things on you’re recent post!

question 1: where did you get the information that ONE is racist and homophobic??? I’m just curious is all because I love ONE a lot, for even making OPM or Mob 100 a thing.

question 2: on the speed o’ sonic thing, are you sure you meant ONE, or Murata? Because the OG webcomic where ONE fully drew everything he never pay attention to THAT kind of detail. So every drawing you saw of speed o’ sound sonic in the manga or anywhere else was Murata I’m sure.

Good questions! I'll answer number 2 first - admittedly, it could be Murata. I've only recently heard about the whole Murata thing in the first place, so I'm not sure of the Murata-to-ONE ratio of being horny for Speed'o'Sound Sonic. That part of the post was mostly a light-hearted joke, anyhow.

Now for the first question:

While I DO believe ONE has - at the very least - depicted some less than savoury racial caricatures before, as a white person I don't feel very comfortable discussing it at length.

However! As a gay person I'm more than happy to tell you why I think he's homophobic. It's a pretty simple answer, really.

This charming gentleman right here is Puri Puri Prisoner, one of the 'heroes' featured in One Punch Man, and the main crux in my argument towards ONE's homophobia.

Now let me make one thing clear: I am very, very tolerant of homophobic caricatures in media, especially in eastern/Asian media. Being from West Asia myself, I understand that many countries - including Japan - just don't have the same level of sensitivity towards a topic like this. Japan is a conservative culture and jokes aimed at the LGBT community do not carry the same weight as they do over in the more liberal west.

From Ouran Highschool Host Club to Black Butler to whathaveyou, I've consumed and enjoyed plenty of anime with depictions of LGBT characters that are less than flattering.

While I don't ENJOY homophobic jokes, I've always been able to see them as just that - jokes. Jabs at people (usually gay men, sometimes trans women) that came from a place of ignorance more so than a place of hatred. "Haha, isn't two men kissing funny?" "Haha that 'man' is wearing a dress, that's so wacky!".

...

Puri Puri Prisoner disgusted me every moment he was on screen, and made it nearly impossible for me to finish a show I was otherwise loving.

This is not a simple, light-hearted jab at something the author didn't understand or wasn't used to.

[TW: Homophobia, R*pe, P*dophilia.]

In case you need a reminder - Puri Puri Prisoner is a flamboyant, effeminate, flagrantly homosexual man. One of the jokes is that he's so buff and over-the-top manly, yet still "pretends" to be dainty and feminine, haha, isn't it so gross and weird, haha. That in itself is icky, but nothing I haven't seen before.

He is also a prisoner, because he "cannot stop sexually assaulting men". There are multiple jokes in canon about him assaulting or raping other male characters - including his fellow prison mates whom he refers to as 'his boys' and presumably regularly assaults. There's also implications that he's interested in young boys.

This isn't written by someone who doesn't understand the gay community and is poking fun at something confusing and new.

This is written by someone who understands damn well the stereotypes and insults that get hurled at gay men, and either believes them, or at the very least thinks that they're funny.

As I've said - I enjoyed OPM a lot. I enjoyed MP100 a lot. ONE is a fantastic writer.

But this character single handedly is the most vile, disgusting caricature I've ever witnessed. I don't believe this was an accident, and I don't believe it was because of ignorance or misinformation.

Whether ONE believes that gay men are pedophile rapists, or whether he thinks that saying so is a funny joke, I sincerely believe that that is enough to warrant calling someone a homophobe.

[maxellminidisc]

This is how I know some of y'all dont read romance fiction and are just using it as a flimsy argument cause some of us do, and we have standards. Not all romance novels are the same white woman's schlock, there is an entire over looked and underappreciated corner of the romance market that consists of disabled, neurodivergent, gay, trans, and/or writers of color putting out romance novels for themselves and their communities and doing it well. They deserve the hype that social media and publishing (who are LITERALLY holding white women's hands and teaching them to fucking write novels) have as a consequence of nothing except being white.

And this rings true of the publishing industry as a whole, any writer of color could literally tell you this. The choice to focus on this particular sector of publishing is because it is the most visible and most discussed on powerful sources of promotion like booktok, not because people aren't aware of other fucking branches of genre publishing or people talking about fiction outside of tiktok or romance. Like common fucking sense here.

Reducing the alarm and concern people, especially poc, have about it to "not looking in the right places" or making a big deal out of something we should essentially throw our hand up and say "oh well, it's always been like this" is so dismissive and ignorant, if not just straight up racist. Especially when the only people you're targeting your arguments with are poc.

[vtori73]

I did forget one thing though to go into and that is why biphobia should be considered on equal grounds to other oppressions. Obviously, this is directed at those who don't find the answer obvious because honestly it should be VERY obvious why but biphobes will be ignorant!

Most people who are biphobes TRULY believe we are basically the white people of the LGBT community even though the white people of the community already exist... actual white people who can be found across the whole community! I've even seen people more specifically call us the "biracial people," of the LGBT community which also makes no sense because you can't use race in place of sexuality and as POC have pointed out multiple times it is offensive/racist. Bi people aren't in any capacity "part straight," that's just biphobic rhetoric you like to push to erase our identities but that doesn't make it true. You cannot be part straight & gay in any capacity (im trying to leave room for anyone who could id this way like genderfluid/multi gender people) and gain privilege for it because at the end of the day our society won't see you as straight unless you're 100% straight (and you only get that privilege if you are also cis).

One thing also that you biphobes do is only focus on what you consider miniscule/small issues that to you prove we some how have privilege even though it's more correct to say your perspective is very wonky/biased. What y'all consider small problems is part of the bigger problem of you all minimizing us as people. Reducing us to these "small" issues just helps to perpetuate the false idea that these are our only "true" issues and only gives you and others more reason to ignore us when we speak up about the actual problems we face due to being bi. This attitude towards us only helps contribute the fact that we as a group we get much less funding and support from LGBT organizations (nothing too recent though, I think the newest data I found was from 2018). It's just another form of erasure because you can't stand we exist, why else continually lie about our issues and reduce our identities to either straight or gay when it most conveniences you?

Not to mention the way LGBT organizations conduct research leaves something to be desired because while it has gotten a tad better it still isn't great that, for example, The Trevor project, for some reason lumps all Bisexuals together even though Bi women will have different stats compared to those of Bi men. It's exactly why Lesbians & Gay men are and should be analyzed separately because otherwise your data isn't being conducted correctly or fairly. Sure, they do have a category for gender but that it is sperated and contained to its own thing to go along with trans related statistics which isn't a bad thing necessarily but it's also not great because people can & do face more oppression based on their various identities COMBINED not separately.

Let's for research/argument purposes combine both the Lesbian and Gay rates on who considered suicide in 2023 and we get 40.5% which is VERY different from the original stats with Gay being 35% & Lesbian being 46% so it's only reasonable to believe this kind or similar enough difference could be found for all the other sexualities listed because again gender plays a part in how we are treated and needs to be considered with sexuality studies to get fair rates of discrimination and issues we have because otherwise you're combining people that have no reason to be. This survey also fails to address how differently these stats would be if you included cis stats vs trans stats WITH the sexuality stats, even race would change these stats a lot if included with sexuality. I know that would make it a tad bit more difficult to conduct & graph & would require much more research but I do believe it is doable and the only way to get the least biased stats but I'm also not naive and see why they might not want to do this.

Look, I don't actually expect to win over the biphobes or anything I'm just taking the time to basically try and explain why they are full of shit. I don't actually expect them to listen, I know they will mostly likely move the goal post or just stoop to saying bigoted things/name calling like any other bigot who is only operating off of feelings and vibes with no actual logic, reason, or facts to back them up. I'm just doing this to try & cover as may angles as possible because this is the Internet and if you don't people get annoying, lol

Oh and for any bisexuals who want to disagree in favor of biphobes your opinion is noted and discarded, I don't care to listen to anyone who internalizes biphobia while y'all are technically victims y'all turn around and go after us so you can feel better about yourself and be accepted by bigots which is not only bullshit but harmful and personally? I believe people like you, assimilations, exclusionists, & radfems/terfs, racists, Zionists, & ableists & fatphobics are our weakest and most dangerous link to solidarity and having true community with one another. Part of me wants to say most of this is online but obviously it is not and to believe so is also a very naive mindset it's just much more overt online vs off (might depend on other factors though).

You know what I find a tad confusing? When groups more oppressed hate another group like... you do realize if they don't like us it's VERY likely they don't like y'all?

This happens kind of often but in this case this is about trans people who are biphobic and honestly it makes NO sense. Like are y'all really THAT desperate to be like and assimilate with the LG✂️BT groups/individuals that y'all will stoop to hating other queer people for no real reason (yes, bigoted reasons aren't real reasons). Sort of similar to when poc are bigoted towards LGBT people, like do you think this will make white Christians/bigots like you? More often than not these people are racist, and the extreme kind and will hate you no matter what.

Also, I'm going to say it despite it probably being controversial but biphobia is NOT just some minor issue, it should be treated on the same level as homophobia and lesbophobia (but as it's OWN thing). Anyone who says otherwise is just ignorant on what our actual issues are and are just full on biphobes. No one wants to admit it though because then they have to reckon with how entrenched LGBT communities are in perpetuating and encouraging biphobia and they don't want that they need easy targets they can punch at to relieve their anger at the allocishetero patriarchy and its MUCH easier to do that at an oppressed group then at the dominate ones actually in power.

"Well bi people ARE privileged," no, they aren't only straight people get privilege for their sexuality and no, passing privilege isn't a real or valid concept and only is used to excuse people's bigoted treatment of an oppressed group. Sure white bi people hold privilege but that's because of their RACE which means none of you other white LGBTQIA+ people are exempt. If you are white you have more privilege than most, but considering these online spaces are mostly made of white people they will always try to divert attention away from that fact and instead find ways to talk about privilege in ANY other capacity to the point of applying in ways that don't make sense at all (basically almost to the point of appropriating the term like they do often with other terms/word like medical ones or aave) and because they REALLY want to believe (or want YOU to believe) they cant oppress others.

Passing privilege, even if a valid concept, would only really benefit white people (or benefit them the most). Same thing for when (usually) white people try to apply it to trans people the only ones who can obtain that privilege are middle class or up white people because gender affects poc much more differently because the standards our society seems out and upholds on us are influenced by whiteness. Like when white trans people & allies gang up on trans poc by calling them transphobic or something they accuse the POC of even though all they did was call out their racism and how much what they said/do is influenced by whiteness.

It is interesting to note also how most of this "privilege" talk only ever is selectively wielded at one specific group even though it doesn't make any sense to do so. Bi women are ALWAYS brought up as being henchmen to the patriarchy even though more often than not white cishet women the ones who are actually the lackies to the patriarchy but also literally everyone has the capacity to be, yes, even Lesbians because doing so isn't dependent on what type of sexual/romantic relationships you are in (shocker I know)!

Also the fact that bi men are never considered in these conversations, by that I mean why is it no one ever stops to think the man in the relationship is the queer one and not the woman or is also queer? It's always "bi woman and their het boyfriends," never the other way around or both and its because this response isnt just based on biphobia but misogynistic biphobia. The boyfriend due to biphobia is assumed straight for being in a relationship with a woman (or maybe more precisely his possible queerness is erased because people assume bi men are just gay & so when a man is with a woman they aren't willing to believe he could possibly be queer). Bi women though deal with that and misogyny on top and because of that are targeted more because yes misogyny adds on to the bigotry we face.

"But bi women are only targeted because het men are dangerous," I won't argue that a lot of cishet men are dangerous but a LOT of these conversations always hinge on assumptions made on people's LOOKS which is bad, you can't assume someone isn't queer based on looks and doing so only feeds into binary thinking on presentation of gender and sexuality. How exactly do you know for sure the man in question is a cishet man and not a closed trans woman, or bi man, or nonbinary person or trans masc/ man or combo of these identities? Or the woman, how do you exactly know she is a cis bi woman?

And also, not going to lie but this really just seems like nothing more than the continued rhetoric that came from political lesbianism. Also ALSO, not to mention if these cishet men are dangerous their first victim isn't going to be a stranger they don't know, that type of thing is in general a pretty rare occurrence, because even if they are homophobic statically speaking their victim is going to be people closest to the cishet man aka THE BI WOMAN, the PARTNER! If he is biphobic there is no way in hell he isn't biphobic, and it makes sense considering how high our rates of abuse are, straight women don't even have as high of levels which just helps prove we face this amount of abuse BECAUSE of biphobia + misogyny & not just because of our "proximity" towards men.

Which moves me to my last point in which this supposed panic and concern for others in the LGBT community over these hypothetical cishet boyfriends let in by bi woman seems nothing more than a lie to openly attack bi woman for what on the surface seems like a reasonable concern and at best performative because if there REALLY was a concern the person you should all be most concerned for is the bi woman but instead they get ridiculed, attacked, and accused of being enablers of homophobic predators.

And again, this all just comes down to ideas and beliefs that came from political lesbianism but let's also take a moment to realize just how eerily similar this is to the trans panic rhetoric of evil men (the cishets boyfriend) pretending to be woman (bi woman pretending to be queer while in a "straight passing" relationship) to get into safe but public spaces designed for cis women (queer public spaces like pride). Both the conservatives and queer people even shift the blame onto the marginalized person instead of the actual person at fault (cishetero predators)!

It honestly goes to show just how much our society will whether intentionally or not protect predators first and foremost over anything else and would rather shit on marginalized people who are often more times than not victims themselves. But it makes sense because our society REALLY hates victims.

[robotpussy]

this is going to be the last time I address this.

I understand that your race can impact your relationship with gender. I say this especially as someone (who is black) who has been questioning their gender for a while and has a complicated relationship with it. But as I said before, white people in the lgbt community tend to hyper fixate so much on the fact that they aren't cishet they talk about the bigotry they face and just the community in general as if it is only made up of and for white people. whenever racism in the community is brought up they speak over us and act like we don't exist.

white people in the lgbt community approach gender and sexuality like it is their race because for some reason to them if you are not cishet you are a different version of white or not white at all and think they are exempt from any criticism we have for white people. I have seen it countless times whether it's taking jokes and phrases non-white people have said and replaced "white" with "cishet", to us telling them that race play is in fact, racist and we get the response of "you are policing trans people" and "this is the same as people calling gay sex taboo and disgusting" as if there aren't non-white trans and gay people who would say (and were saying) race play is fucking weird and they are also affected by it. And most recently somebody claiming that Dave Chapelle would be getting more outrage of he had made fun of black women rather than what he is receiving now because he made transphobic jokes, as if black trans women are not also being affected by his jokes and views as well as non black trans women. The stand out here is the comparison, why would you compare trans women to black women? being trans is not a race. And black women have been the butt of everybody's jokes for YEARS and nothing has happened to them.

race plays a big role when it comes to gender and how people approach and perceive it but I am talking about white people's constant urge and desire to distance themselves from their whiteness and blame non white, mostly black people for our issues getting "the most attention" and constantly want to have a competition with us (e.g claiming non white ppl are trying to win the "oppression olympics" when we talk about how racist the lgbt community can be or when we tell white marginalized people that they benefit from white supremacy regardless of the fact that they are marginalized)