#this worked all the time when i was working at starbucks

[genericpuff]

I find when it comes to engaging in NT conversation, you often have to treat it the same way you would interactions in retail, such as with customers and upper management.

Instead of "how long is it going to take?", you gotta say it like, "Just to gauge for time, how long do you need?" and when they respond say, "Alright, perfect! That gives me enough time to do xyz" (pick an activity accordingly to the time span they've given you, or just pick a filler activity like "check my IG" or whatever LOL).

A lot of NT's don't like the bluntness of short and sweet ND answers as they can come across as "rude", but also don't like the lengthiness of drawn out detailed explanation because then it comes across as rambling or "talking down". So you gotta find the comfortable in-between the same way you would an email to corporate or a schpeel to a customer. It also helps to put a positive spin on it that focuses on them through the lens of being accommodating - saying "how long do you need" rather than "how long is it going to take" makes them feel more comfortable knowing that you're not rushing them and less worried that they're taking up all your time.

Another fun tip, if you're ever on the side of keeping someone else waiting, instead of saying "sorry for the wait", say "thank you for waiting". Like swapping "take" for "need", you're saying the same thing but forming it from a more positive point of view rather than negative by acknowledging them for their time. It disarms them from focusing purely on how inconvenienced or upset they may be with you, because you're showing appreciation for them waiting on you.

You should still apologize if you've legitimately inconvenienced them, of course, but opening the conversation with frantic apologies tends to set the tone for the rest of the interaction, so shifting it from frantic apology to a heartfelt acknowledgement can make a world of difference for both sides, the same as switching "take" to "need".

Of course, none of this would be an issue at all if NT's would stop taking it personally when ND's don't behave the exact way they expect them to based on every conversation they've ever had in their life with other NT's, it shouldn't be exclusively on us to adjust to accommodate NT's who don't want to give ND's benefit of the doubt or assume that the way we choose to speak is automatically meant to offend them, and I definitely don't feel the need to operate like this when I'm hanging out with other ND pals because they KNOW what's up and don't want to do that shit either; but alas, we do what we can to get by for our own self-preservation as we operate in a society created for NT's. And it's nice to know how to avoid a conversation feeling like one big missed high five which is like, the common shared struggle between NT's and ND's attempting to interact with each other and not knowing how ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

What an autistic person says: "How long is it going to take?"

What they mean: "I want to know whether to activate my short term waiting mode where I just wait and do nothing else, or activate my long term waiting mode where I occupy my mind with something else. I fully understand that both are possibilities, and I have no problem whatsoever with either one, but I want more information so I can best adapt to the situation."

What neurotypical people hear: "I am impatient and demand that everything I want happen right now. Please scold me and publicly humiliate me for it."

[carcarrot]

do i really want to make individual drinks again

[still-gathering-roses]

officially starting my job at my new school next week and currently going through the incredibly Peak Social Anxiety process of going through every staff roster-type google doc that has been shared and surreptitiously correcting the spelling of my name on all of them and hoping nobody notices 🫠

[hheckkingart]

What I Want - a Freelance Husbands Comic

Page 1 (Cover) / Page 2

[muse-write]

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[anotherpapercut]

happy may day y'all remember that if you want to unionize your work place (and you absolutely should), the first step is getting familiar with your coworkers. one of the most important stages of forming a union is having conversations about the possibility of unionizing and what people want from a union in your workplace. you can't do this if you don't know them well enough to talk to them

[tiredflowercrown]

I wanna scream. How can a restaurant be this fucking filthy and the manager ENABLE AND ENCOURAGE IT

I shouldnt have to come in after days that I don't close and winder what I'm gonna have to clean. I shouldn't have to wipe down dirty tables from the night before. I shouldn't have to spend TWENTY MINUTES sweeping up shit from the day before.

I get it, you switch jobs to somewhere that doesn't have as many cleaning requirements so you lax a little. I do. Hell I've laxed a lil from the standards of one store I've worked at. But there's a difference in not scrubbing the ice bin everyday and not FUCKING SWEEPING OR TAKING OUT THE TRASH.

This is just one shitty thing about this place. I'm not talking about the improper food storage, or the lack of expiration dates, or the lack of food handlers licenses, or food not being kept to correct temperatures or the fact that are cleaning rags aren't being washed. That's a completely different set of issues. I'm talking about the absolute bare minimum in terms of cleaning. Because I know that this place has mopped front of house maybe twice since it opened 2 months ago and both of those were within the first 2 weeks of opening.

[granitxhka]

today’s episode of i’m delulu :)

[allofuswantgwinam]

I actually had the worst day I’ve had in awhile now but i survived it

[fangirlandtheories]

Welcome back, on this episode of "My parents have been home less than an hour and have talked about my sister at least 5 times at this point" we'll be focusing on the effects of being the least favorite child. For reference, my older brother has been discussed twice. They didn't even ask how my day was.

[nomaishuttle]

im alsp seepy but i cant sleep bc my HAIRS WET!! luckily it dries quicker now Due to rhe haircut but still looking at a 2 hour situation... but also i dont feel like gaming. i might cook I guess. or i could watch el movie 😏 but id have 2 get my laptop and likee. yk.. i could watch downstaurs but id have to be sure my roommates r Fully fully asleep bc i dont have headphones for my laptop (i have my phone headphones but i hate the abominable fucking thinks) so id have to just have that shit open to the elements. rawdogging the sound. caint do that if my roommates are up!

[ssozo]

getting s/i thoughts. hes not a hero or a villain or anything hes probably gonna be a blatant self insert moreso than my others. idealized self just on earth-1610. his name is ozo and he moved across the country. met ohn randomly and they hit it off

[kittyhazelnut]

guess who finally gets to do their teacher evaluation on their shitty clinical professor? :D

[killerandhealerqueen]

I love being nice to people.  It’s seriously not that hard to be nice people and I don’t understand people who go out of their way to be dicks

[g1v3an1nch]

me in my life

[grayve-mistake]

I was on here at 11 years old! I just didn't have an account yet lol (I made this one at 13). Anyway it would be entirely mlp ask comic reblogs

If you guys were on here at 11 years old what would you be posting about