#this is fine to reblog btw

[angels-heap]

Maybe I'm just Built Different, but personally, when I love a fictional character, I prefer not to twist myself and canon into knots just to headcanon them as a pervert in someone else's art! Because that's a weird thing to do!

In a series where all the human characters are adults, all but 2 of them are biologically unrelated, and all their pre-canon relationships are either totally socially acceptable or heavily implied to be nonexistent, it takes a special kind of stupid to willfully interpret malice on the part of characters or fanartists. Grow up.

[undomesticated-animal]

Alright folks lets have an adventure in therapeutically mediated sluttery!

From my RO DBT skills workbook. The self-enquiry prompts had a few options that would make sense today, but then I hit this one and I was like. Ah. Yes this is LITERALLY the anxious thought that I talked through with Bear earlier today. So. I guess that's what I'm doing lol.

Do I frequently find myself questioning the intentions of others?

I admitted today to Bear that I am having some anxiety about whether he is enjoying the things we do or will want to keep doing it. Largely this is because I have a long history with people telling me they're having a good time all the way along until suddenly they are saying they don't like it at all and don't want to anymore. And like obviously that's fine, it is what is, boundaries change. But it's rare to hear from others along the way things that are problems or could change for the better, and so the all or nothing of having everything shut down and never fully understanding what the problem was has a way of making me feel like I'm huddled in a corner surrounded by lava with my partner on the other side of it expressing frustration that I'm pulling away.

There's a sort of artificial scarcity that builds up for me over time where I get more and more afraid of both getting what I'm wanting AND of NOT getting it, and that space of spinning around in agitation and panic is where the self-sabotage happens. So my hope, in acknowledhing this to Bear was - I think - giving us both the heads up that I'm going to be working a little uphill to trust the dynamic we're cultivating, and that while I am not in any way worried about that being harmful, I *do* think it could lead to me shutting down, being thoughtless in a reactive moment, or otherwise being a bit clumsy at managing my feelings when they suddenly show up. They were really great about the conversation! Everything he said was pretty much my best case scenario, whether I knew that going in or not. So that was both terrifying and deeply reassuring.

I've been having thoughts about this in the specific context it came up (discussion of a cnc scene, limits/boundaries, etc) and settling into an idea I'm hoping to expand on in a different post. I think part of why this anxiety flared up in response to this conversation is the themes: feeling like things are happening to me without my having a clear say or awareness of them, the knowledge that people I trust and care for can cause me harm, the fear that I will have no recourse (mixed historical validation) if they do this, and the desire to have my fear of those I trust and care for be made irrelevant to my experience of them with or without my cooperation. It's a cliché perhaps, but if a top takes me to the ground, restrains me, and causes me pleasure and pain to their taste, then afterwards snuggles me and tells me how much they value and enjoy my submission, and gives me emotional and physical affection, I have an easier time setting down the irrational fear later about the real ways they might hurt me or devalue me that I get spun up imagining. It's kind of like the desensitization I do for my gag reflex, but for fears of abandonment, lmao.

I think the lesson I want to take from having done this is that acknowledging both my fear and the reality of what triggers it, without asking either myself or my partner to really DO anything about that makes it feel safer to trust that I will not feel blindsided by future renegotiations of our boundaries. It felt like a relief for Bear to know this was happening without feeling compelled to fix that. Feeling heard in my anxiety, not reinforced or minimized, felt load-bearing. I am appreciative of having been able to name it and move on from it (the theme recurs). I am especially reassured by Bear's ability to hear and trust both my anxiety and my assurance that I didn't need anything to happen or change.

Journaling time: 25min (strengthen containment plan for next time down to 15min)

Emotional Realm: Letting Go of Bitterness

Emotional outcomes: sense of relief, reduced physical agitation (motor tics and restless movements decreased), termination of anxious thoughts (permutations of these thoughts resurfaced periodically but were comfortably redirected), increased feelings of intimacy and trust in interpersonal dynamic, decreased flight response, increased focus

Objective change outcomes: Bear has (without request or prompting) become more directly vocal about his happiness and enjoyment around me, I have more information about their expectations/thought process around our interactions and what boundaries feel appropriate, I have another date!

Outcome: positive

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

The university protests are the result of so many complex socio-political and economic factors, and I genuinely don't want to minimize the presence of other influences

But at the same time, it is REALLY hard not to look at the liberal and republican response to college students exercising their First Amendment rights and hear the sound of decades of authoritarian parenting standing over you and yelling "look what you made me do!"

[dykescooby]

questions to ask yourself before you make blanket statements about religion

1.) Does this actually apply to all religion or only Christian denominations?

2.) Do I actually know enough about other religions to give an informed answer about question 1?

2b.) Was what I know about other religions told to me through trusted sources like people who actually follow those religions?

If you answer NO to any of these questions, consider being more specific in the religion you are talking about, or simply don't say it at all.

[geneticdriftwood]

pros of being on mood stabilizers: I am no longer suffering from the symptoms of bipolar disorder

cons of being on mood stabilizers: I no longer qualify for the “manic” part of manic pixie dream girl

[inkymink]

I still have a bunch of DIY fashion projects from last month to put on the blog eventually, but I wanted my most recent project to be the first. red, black, white braided ribbon bracelet to pair with the green ribbon bracelet I made back in 2009. solidarity with Palestine 🇵🇸

[hildyrusset]

[snowdrop-yoongi]

it's been nearly 10 years since i was diagnosed with the Unrelenting Pain and Fatigue Disorders and yet every single day i wake up and i'm like wow. u would not believe what i am experiencing today

[abyssalzones]

hello would. you like to elaborate on. ford pines osdd. ((because I recently got diagnosed and. blorbo moments. but also because I love the idea in general. ford "I feel like I've lived 50 different lives" pines.))

so, first off, I want to apologize for putting this off for so long. I think it's been a couple of weeks at this point but I'm not entirely sure. Anyway, after getting this ask I immediately got really really excited and started outlining what I quickly realized was going to be a monster of an analysis post.

So much so, in fact, that I ended up having to move it all into a google doc. whoops.

As it turns out, this ask ended up being the thing to motivate me to go over a lot of other related thoughts about GF’s writing that I’d had stewing in my brain for ages, so you're getting an essay that you probably didn't sign up for. Again: my bad. I hold the champion's title for being the most long-winded autistic bitch to ever live.

Either way, as you might have guessed, I would love to elaborate on Ford Pines' hypothetical OSDD.

[content warning: I’m going to be talking about both fictional depictions and IRL patterns of interpersonal abuse in here quite a bit. Proceed with caution if you’re easily triggered by these topics, especially if you decide to look further into anything I mention here that isn’t strictly related to, y’know, the cartoon.]

[the-kipsabian]

[pigeonedlilac]

Welcome to the journey of me finishing my rarepair week drafts. Mayhaps a long one

This was for day 5 I believe?!!?

For the prompt of ‘family,’ hiitomo ft. Rinne :]

[fishandshesmygills]

specifically engineering a playlist to make myself feel bad

[supmaww]

Godd whenever my eye won’t stop twitching I feel like a parody. I’m visibly stressed to a cartoonish level. like can you just stop

[sainteclectic]

and btw since I'm posting a lot of wholesoul content (intended as platonic but still), i do want to make it clear: my analysis of whole as a character is purely within the narrative of the story! while i am aware that behind the metaphors is whole is cj himself, that's never what i'm writing whole as in my work. basically I'm using the internal logic of the fiction (whole as viewed by the characters in the album) rather than the reason for the fiction existing (as a fictionalized version of chonny's mental state), just like i do with all the other characters. it's important to make that distinction when you're dealing with a piece of fiction so heavily based on the creator i think. I'll never use cj as a basis for how I write whole because I find that a little off putting tbh ^^;

basically I'm playing with touys. ok? play touys with me

[devotion-disorder]

excuse me, I'm sorry if I send this while you don't opened your ask (is that's how it's called, I'm new in Tumblr). If you let me, may I reblog some of my favourite posts of yours? I'm planning to make my account(?) with my favourite stuff in Tumblr using the reblog feature. I'm sorry, English is not my first language. -piwpiw

oh my gosh anon this is the most precious ask ive ever gotten. of course you can reblog my posts haha!! have fun using tumblr!!

[timdrakewhump]

did... did that person see a post made by tumblr user "timdrakewhump" and not expect... tim drake in a whump situation?

Giggling yeah apparently. Their whole account is pretty much like that. This account is just a silly thing I do for fun, so I’m not that bothered, but the only mercy is that it was aimed at me and not someone else this time who might have taken it to heart. This is why people are scared to join fandom - post your ideas, post your fanon characters, post your writing and art and media!! For every person spewing hate I am here and I think you’re valuable to the fandom!!!!!