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Introvert Moment #123
As an introvert I am scared of talking to people flirtatiously. As a bisexual, this fear is rated E for everyone. Maybe I should just live alone in a bungalow with like 4 elderly rescue dogs
#introvert#introvertmoments#infp#introvertproblems#introverted#introverts#infj#infp problems#infp thoughts#infj thoughts#intj#intjmemes#intj humor#intp#intp humor#intp things#infpproblems#infj memes#infj feelings#bisexual#bisexuality#do my pan friends feel this too?#lgbtqia#lgbtqiia+#bi jokes#this applies to friendships too#its so hard to approach people you want to friend
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I remember reading this thing about the breakdown of relationships and how affection tends to decrease over time because each person is waiting for the other to do something first. And now every time I wonder if I should say I love you I do
#this applies to friendships too#someones gotta say something first and theyre just as scared as u are#petit talks
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i just think that, most of the time, you really do need to teach people how to love you. and equally, you need to be taught how to love others. this can feel scary and hard and even like a failure, especially if you're approaching a relationship with trauma - shouldn't it be easy to love me? yeah ofc. but love is an act of translation between people across experience, geography, culture, memory. it's constant, purposeful translation. and though it can be hard, there is real joy to be found in the teaching and learning of love.
#also obviously this should go without saying but this isn't solely about romantic relationships#tbh mostly this musing is about friendship though yeah other relationships apply too#jd.txt
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Please read by opening each image, otherwise it makes no sense lol
This is the most stupid thing I've done all year but I was already too far into it when I started regretting it XD
I don't usually do this kind of thing but the concept had been rotating in my mind for a few weeks and I needed to get it out
I have a few ideas but this was already long enough and it felt like a good spot to cut it off, buut I want to see if people like it so 👉👈 hope you enjoyed it
Sorry if it feels a bit weird, I may be able to draw but not write lol, this is my first actual attempt at making a comic
#linked universe#lu legend#lu hyrule#lu fanart#I speedran the whole thing in a week lol#This was interesting to make since I drew stuff I wouldn't normally#and I couldn't allow myself to be too perfectionist bc otherwise I was never going to finish lol#I have no idea wether this is the best or worst thing I've done. I cringed so many times I had to remind myself I can do wathever I want lo#Anyways they inmediately know what's going on and trust eachother bc I didn't want to draw more panels. Also the power of friendship ig#I had initially planed a different dialogue but realized it made no sense so I had to improvise lul#I think you can tell some of my favorite panels bc I put more effort into cleaning them xD#0 art knowledge applied to this. only vibes and delusion#offmozzart
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the subway rats poem is teruhashi coded
#saiki k#saiki k fanart#art tag#teruhashi kokomi#you guys thought i was joking But I WASNT. I WAS SERIOUS.#“i’m not the type to have friends” “i’ve received more compliments on my appearance than greetings” ok girl#go to therapy#anyway the poem reminded me of someone rejecting the companionship of people they view as below them#even if secretly they want it#because they feel too far off#which is what teruhashi does especially initially#rejecting friendship because she feels like she’s only valued as an object of desire#and is better than all these average people trying to befriend her#This poem also applies to saiki for that exact reason
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Friends with benefits but the benefit is giving each other societally unacceptable long hugs and generally being more touchy while literally being friends and not actually a couple
#the person i had a crush on told me that she already knew i liked her like that bc of how long i used to hug her.. and like...#No????#i want long hungs with most of my frinds?? i just don't feel safe enough?? like what if it gets misinterpreted?? exactly like she did??#i hate it here#i just wanna hug and hold hands and it to not be deemed as flirting or 'giving signals' or any other bulshit#i'm tired and i want a hug#mine#personal stuff#ish#queer stuff#??#hugs#friendship stuff#autistic#actually autistic#aromantic#asexual#aroace#and it doesn't apply only to us aroace spec people but to most people like I M SURE OTHERS STRUGGLE WITH THIS TOO#mental health
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i think the reason i hate childhood best friends to lovers but not when theyre mlm/wlw is because when its a het ship, people expect them to date as children/teens, so most of the movie/show/book is denying romantic feelings, rather than expanding on the once thought to be only platonic feelings in mlm/wlw ships
#this is a post i made on an alt account btw#but i realized it applies here too#because the reason i like byler#but not other childhood best friends is because#we live in a heteronormative society so mlm wlw actions are seen as platonic#so theres no pressure from outside#so even though they already know each other and are a little in love#we can see them falling in love still#but not with het ships#who have been shoehorned to gf bf roles even in their friendship#to the point where they're basisally already dating#just without the name#byler#stranger things#mike wheeler#will byers
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Every AoS couple has the person who can cook and the person who can't for the life of them:
Can cook: Coulson, Daisy, Jemma, Bobbi, Mack
Can't cook for the life of them: May, Sousa, Fitz, Hunter, Elena
#honestly i feel like elena can cook too#but it's only really specific things#the rest she burns down the kitchen#lincoln and ward can't cook either#and both davis and piper suck at it#they're not a romantic couple they're very lesbian/gay friendship#but they still apply to this#agents of shield#agents of s.h.i.e.l.d.#aos#daisy johnson#phil coulson#fitzsimmons#melinda may#alphonso mackenzie#bobbi morse#lance hunter#elena rodriguez#daniel sousa
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Riordanverse Characters as quotes by people i know have said
dedicated to @lord-of-pterodactyls, i know you asked for friends in particular but i’m broadening it as even people i consider my nemeses (old ass philosophy teacher) are funny
Percy: i truly feel as if nothing will ever incapsulate my being as truly as the singing monsters water wubbox
Annabeth: *screaming from adjoining room* GET LOST APPLE MUSIC PRIVACY
Piper: *in bikini* i don’t like people with big boobs
Jason: *trying to compliment piper* your hair looks like dementia
Leo: *emerging from the stinky depths of his room after being in there for 16 hours straight and no showers with clothes from 5 days ago, red scabs all over his body and lips so dry it looks like a snake shedding its old skin by how crusty it is* guys on a scale from 1 to 10 how sexy do i look rn?
Hazel: *yeets her foot out and jiggles her toes menacingly at people she dislikes as an intimidation tactic because her toes are particularly hideous*
Frank: *after literally being targeted by a racial ‘joke’* worse than that, you white people eat spam
Grover: *pats air purifier* a good trusted friend
Nico: *drifts into hazel’s room* bro i ain’t even gonna lie, the holidays are better than the black plague *leaves room before she can question him further*
Reyna: *sleeptalking* stallion le meghan
Rachel: *pretending her coloured markers are vapes*
Thalia: *pointing at luke* my bro be the victim and the perpetrator
Tyson: *when talking about doing math* all i have are my fingers and a dream
Clarisse: *sees a sick person in bed* you’re looking pretty vulnerable *proceeds to ransack their room and steal their sheets like some gremlin*
Octavian: i am THE riddler *speaks in riddler voice and puts on devious little expression* what is... a curtain?
Will: *sees a dying person and looks pointedly at nico* and thats because they didnt take their cenovis vitamin c
Luke: i am constantly one snap away from either committing homicide or suicide
Apollo: *feeling face after new skincare routine* gosh my face feels as soft as a silicone tit
Meg: *pointing at apollo after redemption arc* YOU WON’T GO TO HEAVEN BECAUSE YOU ARE A COMMUNIST!
Magnus: *eating falafel* this is an orgasmic experience
Samirah: *substituting random words in english for arabic and not realising no one understands what she’s saying*
Alex: *laughing at the death threats she gets online after posting a meme about BTS in the military*
Blitz: *does something naughty* omg sorry im such a libra(^ν^)
Hearth: *walks into room* god is dead.
Carter: *walking into sadie’s room visibly upset with a box of cadbury favourites* here take them. if you don’t im going to eat them all. please, dont make me do this
Sadie: take a shit and be late to school or dont take the shit and be on time hell loop
Zia: my top artist on spotify this year will be xi jinping’s wife
Walt: *simply, appreciatively and completely without context* yeah, buddha is a pretty amazing guy
Anubis: i dislike being emo because i can only go as death note characters for halloween
Bast: *absolutely entranced by watching love island uk and is just repeating everything any person says back in a treacherous essex accent*
Bes: *walking into classroom full of young teens with an oversized ‘free james assange’ shirt* today i am a nice, trendy leftist. tomorrow, who knows?
#of course im putting them in the context of riordanverse or else they simply would not make sense otherwise#i have so much quotes that cant apply to these characters because theyre all asian jokes bc me + my fam + my entire friendship group r asian#i had to censor the frank quote too bc what happened was 100x more out of pocket 💀#riordanverse#incorrect riordanverse#heroes of olympus#the kane chronicles#percy jackson#trials of apollo#magnus chase#annabeth chase#thalia grace#zia rashid#rachel elizabeth dare#piper mclean#leo valdez#nico di angelo#carter kane#sadie kane#jason grace#will solace#samirah al abbas#hazel levesque#lester papadopolous#frank zhang#meg mccaffrey#grover underwood#reyna avila ramirez arellano#bes bast anubis blitz hearthstone apollo octavian tyson#luke castellan walt stone alex fierro clarisse la rue
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Do you think Azul is capable of falling in love? I mean, the way he sees love as transactions and weakness to be exploited makes me question this thought.
Oh my god anon I'm so happy you asked about the transaction thing because I have SO many thoughts...
Can Azul Love?
This is just a quick analysis my brain spurred off into.
First there's this scenario I made specifically about this concept - Azul Falls In Love And Can't Handle It (Just wanted to link it instead of repeating everything in this post)
But even in other fics, I love exploring that concept! Because - to me, at least - love isn't always a choice. It becomes a choice later on. That sounds confusing but allow me to clarify.
There are two types of feelings commonly known as "love" that I'm referring to - Infatuation, and love. These two have nothing to do with age, or even a person's maturity level. Infatuation is the first part of a relationship or a pre-relationship stage, where every interaction gives you butterflies, you feel like you're on fire every second you spend, and all that good stuff.
Love is a choice you make. You're not getting butterflies anymore. You are choosing to build a life with someone, to be there for them even without the boost of infatuation.
Infatuation can come and go - it's pretty short-lived, in all honesty. Love, on the other hand, is stable and much longer-lasting when requited. You care deeply about a person, in spite of all their flaws or weaknesses.
Very few people can't feel infatuated - even Aromantic people can end up experiencing the same thing, just from a platonic angle, where you really admire someone to the point of glossing over their flaws.
Azul is no exception. He can get infatuated with someone too. He's not immune, and god, he hates it. Seeing you gives him butterflies, he wants to do everything in his power to make you happy, but why? This isn't supposed to be how he acts!
Love is a separate matter. Love requires a level of emotional maturity that - let's face it - not many Night Raven students have. Azul would have to care for you in spite of your flaws and choose to invest his time into a relationship with you despite potential losses like time for his business. He'll have to choose you despite the lack of chemicals in his brain encouraging him to do so. And, in his current state, I'm not quite sure if Azul is capable of that.
But the thing is, Azul isn't stagnant. It may not seem like it, but he is gradually growing. And he's definitely capable of love - even if it isn't romantic - just look at the way he talks about his family! I meant it when I said I wasn't sure. Though there's a chance he might not be able to make that choice, there's a chance he can, too.
And hopefully, when the time comes, and Azul and whoever his partner is are a good way in their relationship, and the chemicals finally wear off, he can make that choice.
#azul ashengrotto#twisted wonderland#not a fic#twst analysis#twst azul#twst#disney twisted wonderland#azul#btw just wanted to mention#this applied to platonic love too ^^#friendships take work#and they can also often have the kinda honeymoon phase#before it starts to fall apart bc you don't really know what to do once the dopamine rush wears off#you know their flaws too well#anyways this was all just my take#feel free to discourse as always
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just some ramblings on the rise of rebranded homophobia in relation to shipping and fandom etc (i watched lotr yesterday)
the way people will say "healthy friendships between men are important and we need representation!!!!" (this is true) in response to shipping as if there's an abundance of mlm relationships in media and yknow. homophobia hasn't existed??
“>:[ us men aren't allowed to be just friends anymore!!!! because of the homophobia!!!! that we created!!!!!!”
i've definitely seen this sentiment grow more again over the last few years as the number of canonical mlm relationships (often badly written or lacking any substance) increases.
before it was just a blatant "no homo" or something but it's now becoming a bit more subtle and "how dare you imply this character could be gay? do you hate men being friends?! go back to your handful of bland designated Gay Characters that we so generously gave you" from the same people who have spent years adding to the very same toxic masculinity and homophobia that stopped them from having deep and healthy friendships with other men in the first place. dare i say gaslighting?
(and just to be extra clear i am not talking about ace/aro people, or characters who are headcanoned as ace/aro, or qprs, etc. or even anyone interpreting a relationship as 'just' platonic. i'm only referring to that specific "no homo" kind of argument against shipping)
#this does apply to all queer identities and relationships btw#and also not just in fandom either this is the rhetoric irl too#but i am specifically thinking of lotr#you know. the book that is literally full of friendships between men.#and yet some people are sooo quick to jump down your throat if you even suggest that a character or relationship might be queer#i say platonic and romantic loosely for lack of better terms but i actually hate using them#(for me personally)#but that's another story#ok it's kind of the same story but i'm not going into it#(i am also not saying that there is no good canon queer representation now)#(there is. but for some reason we're pretending that's there's loads and loads when there's literally not)#(plus just because there may be some now doesn't magically make them appear in older media??)#anyway
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Ngl, hands down the most annoying kind of fandom discourse is coming up with an extremely convoluted backstory instead of just admitting the writer had one of their dumb days.
Like, absolutely not saying it's the worst kind of discourse, just intellectually most depressing. You could actually be using those neurons.
#got exposed to an elaboration on how missy's consider friendship speech is a result of in-world imperialist time lord propaganda#honey it's steven *sherlock holmes is just too into brains to be into THAT he's also not asexual tho* moffat#death of the author is one thing refusing to admit a line can be just plain stupid is some religious hermeneutics applied to popcorn#sorry just venting#tw: negativity#fandom problems
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y'all are so lovely because I've spent nearly my entire life feeling like I'm annoying for being too excited about my interests and trying to bandage them like a bleeding wound because I've learned that even many friends would put up with it until I become Too Much but now I'm surrounded by people who actually love that I pour my whole soul into what I do and suddenly I am no longer as intimidated by my muchness
#hannah's rambles#reading my comments feels like getting hundreds of hugs.#not to be so loudly late diagnosed autistic but uhhhhhhh#i still worry a lot that I'm too annoying#I was talking to my therapist months ago about unmasking and worrying about my friends seeing me differently#and she asked me what I valued in friendship and one of my first answers was authenticity. someone who isnt afraid to own their Weirdness#and she was like “ok. so does that not apply to you or? bc you build friendships around valuing authenticity”#“so if you unmask the authentic self you've been hiding you'll probably find your friends already love who you are”#when i tell you that shit has taken this entire year to actually click#and I'm feeling LOVE in this chili's tonight.
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#...and the discord server is at again#I swear if people are going to keep insisting that platonic friendships and actions can only be read as romantic I'm just going to leave#I like shipping as much as the next guy#but I'm too fucking aro for this#Boim//ler snd Mar//iner absolutely CAN be read as platonic#That's part of what makes them a good ship in the first place! The fact that they're committed platonic friends first!#People will really suck the fun out of every good ship by applying amatonormativity to it#also the entitlement over ships going canon is crazy#there are so many popular ships for this show! You don't get dibs! No one gets dibs!
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♡ ?? ( change attraction to cool level or smthing idk whatever you like best <3)
Send ♡ to see what my muse thinks of yours (status — accepting!)
●○○○○ | AESTHETIC ●●●●○ | AFFECTION ●●●●○ | INTEREST ●●●●● | LOYALTY ●○○○○ | TRUST
#( LETTERS TO US; ASK. )#hiswrlds#this one is interesting in that i think even chronos genuinely doesn't know how he feels about strive.#a familiar quote we all know from idw may apply here actually:#“why would you bother with me? you already have him.”#on one hand this is sonic; a sonic that cares enough about him to travel mountains and roadways and cities just to find him.#a sonic that looks a little too uncomfortably similar to his own sonic.#on the other hand though; strive has his own tails. and chronos knows he could never measure up to young bubbly wanderlust.#he feels the love he knows he has for sonic towards strive but in terms of trust... there's next to none there.#he could never. not after all the previous “him”'s who he put faith in only to end up being scorned and rejected by.#it's not like with scourge where he's tangentially aware the “friendship” isn't healthy either because he genuinely cannot tell what strive#-is thinking ever. like why him. why waste time worrying about someone like him? he can't save him; he has to know that.#even still.#he'll follow strive to the ends of the earth if he's needed. now and forever.#because that's all he knows#“uprooted; we'll follow you alone // today once again we'll carry; fight; multiply and be eaten.”#“dug up; we'll meet again and be thrown around // but we'll follow you forever.”#“on this planet; where so many life forms live // today once again we'll carry; fight; multiply and then be eaten.”#“uprooted; we'll gather and be thrown // but we won't ask you to love us.”#“i guess it's time to play. maybe today we'll try harder. ah... ah... falling in love under that sky...”#yeah that feels apt.#i should stop here but wow i have a lot of thoughts about them...
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Guys what does non sharing self shipper mean bc surely that doesn’t mean you’re 100% gatekeeping the chara if you’re consuming content others made ?? Like ;; bc if you gatekeeping said character, that means you gotta acknowledge the fact others thought of that chara in those situations yk ?
Like idk what I am, but I’m very very very particular abt my characterisation of kaveh. The only Kaveh I like is canon kaveh. And canon kaveh is the same kaveh in my head even tho obviously I extend his character a fair bunch in my mind. Obvi,, cause nobody gets him like I do fellas 😞 and I say this with so much faith cause istg nobody does 😓 it kinda makes me a tad annoyed if I do see someone claiming that he’s their fave BUT NOT FOR THE REASON YOU THINK OK ! it’s bc ppl ALWAYS mischaracterise him.
it’s SO annoying I swear … like UGH I just had to have the character I like sm be a fan favourite who gets his image dragged to smithereens to the point he’s irrecognisable …
like do NAWT play with me — Kaveh ain’t no twink 😭 he’s also not a damsel in distress … HE ALSO ISNT PAYING RENT BY DOING THE NASTY WITH ALHAITHAM FUCK YOU ALL 😭 and he doesn’t do shit with alhaitham argue with the wall and fuck you again for good measure.
And I swear if I hear someone say he’s dumb … I’m in your walls. I’m in your ceilings. And I’m gonna hocus pocus you to last century where the existence of Kaveh never was. So stfu before I do black magic on your sorry ass 😭
#dora daily#jokiiiingggg :3#but like the gist is the same#I’m so hesitant to accept anyone who likes kaveh cause most of yall are dumb abt your hcs with him#I acknowledge they’re headcanons and not canon but some of yall make them out to be canon#I’m probably autistic so … or maybe not ! but my point is I don’t like it AT ALL. when ppl be like that#i feel so unreasonable but the issue im complaining abt is when ppl call non canon things canon#IT PISSES ME AWFFFF 🤯#this is why I made such a point to say nobody gets him like I do#bc MOST ppl mischaracterise him#if you don’t ID BE SO HAPPY TO CHAT LIKE ILY PLS LETS TALK KAVEH !!#Just don’t call him a twink :( or don’t mention ANYTHING to do with alhaitham#I love them both ofc but plsssss let’s separate the two GOSH they aren’t conjoined twins#they still have identities likes and interests apart from each other#idc if they’re fictional bc the same concept applies to irl stuff too and ppl need to start separating ppl#from certain friendships etc#like say me and fatema everyoneeeee used to make us out to be conjoined at the hip#but fatema was abusive to me and I couldn’t leave so#fuck everyone who counted me as ‘Fatemas friend’#SIMILARLY when Eris in her head counted me as mini Hal LIKE HAL ILY AND YOU KNOW THAT#and honestly it’s an honour to be compared to you#but I’m still Noor ! even tho we are similar I’m still a bit different#it’s just Eris made me seem like I’m some cheap copy which made me sad I’d hope to think nobody is a copy of the other except we are all#equally unique and interesting (hopefully (maybe))
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