just realized most guys in my life have only ever been courteous or kind to me when they felt guilty about something they did to me. they didn't think to be kind just because they actually cared. if they were considerate of me as someone important to them in the first place, they wouldn't act so thoughtlessly and cruelly so often or unprovoked. somehow i equated their guilt for genuine growth or sincerity. lol. and that's really clearing more of the cobwebs and distortions from my head. wow.
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she says he won't let her get a dog, which is fine, because they're in an apartment, and that's the kind of thing people say about their partners. he won't let me get a dog. and you're at a dinner party and you tilt your head a little to the side just like that dog he won't let her get, because is this the thing that's going to upset you? you don't know every corner of their relationship, she could be joking, they could have had so many healthy conversations about the dog, right, and maybe she's not letting herself get the dog because of money and time and whatever. but, like, she did say let
and she wants to move away from his hometown and he wants to stay and then he tells you with a wink and a conspiratorial stage whisper don't worry i'll convince her and she laughs about it - so clearly this is something they laugh about. but you do just stand there and stare at him like what the fuck, man. you can't say what you want to say which is why do you get the final say on everything because they're both obviously aware of the other person's stance on this and have obviously had private conversations about it and what are you going to do about it except make a scene and then he'll be mad at you and call you one of those bitches behind your back and she'll cut you off, which is a loss that doesn't feel worth it just because he makes you a little skeeved out every 3rd comment
and they both agree he just isn't the type to get flowers which is fine because everyone shows love differently, and are you really gonna judge someone based on their sense of individual relationship responsibility? maybe he's constantly cleaning her car and writing her poems and making her furniture or something. maybe she doesn't even like flowers and this is perfect, actually. and no you couldn't date him, obviously, ew; but like, she tells you she's happy. you almost send her a tiktok that says don't be 25 and the cool girl that doesn't need anything, you'll hate not getting flowers at 30, but that's like, starting drama & you shouldn't start drama needlessly.
and you're a little older than her but not so much older you can pull the whole trust me on this one babe thing and besides that wouldn't have worked anyway (when does it ever) and besides you have trauma so you and your therapist both agree that you're always looking for a problem even when there isn't one. and you tell yourself that just because you see them for 15 minutes every month does not mean you can identify every single red flag based on a single shitty half-joking(?) comment
and besides, what are you going to do? she says i actually wanted another stand mixer but thankfully he stops me when i'm about to spend too much money and you're standing there like are you okay? is this normal? is this just something people say? and again - what are you going to do?
to your therapist you try to language it - it's not, like, any of my business. but sometimes, doesn't it feel like - you should do something. there's got to be something, right? you've tried dropping little hints but they sail right through and you've tried having a single serious conversation and she got upset because why does it matter to you, yes it's different but we're happy, it doesn't need to make sense to you and you're like. really unwilling to push a boundary about it anymore; because the truth is that you know logically it shouldn't matter to you, as long as both parties are happy.
and besides, you've been wrong before. it's just... like, every time you see them both, something else happens, some kind of shiver down your spine like do you even hear each other when you talk. it's their strange, bickering orbit. just the way he's on his phone through dinner or watching sports instead of helping in the kitchen or, fuck, another one of these little throwaway comments he makes about we'll see about that, babe. she laughs when he calls her passions stupid shit and meanwhile she gets him tickets to see the knicks and he tells you well at least she's smart about something and still! it's none of your business.
you say get the dog anyway and she laughs. like, this is is you being funny. and not you saying - no really. get the dog. get the dog and get out of here. pack up and start running.
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reference key for those who dont know who the FUCK these people are:
keltie colleen: one of ryan ross's ex-girlfriends who famously wrote a whole book about him that hey chris published
seo taiji: member of seo taiji and boys, a first generation kpop group that was big in the 90s
doja cat: i mean you probably know who doja cat is. musician who got big in the late 2010s and early 2020s
jonathan groff: broadway actor, most laypersons know him as king george iii from hamilton or the guy who voiced kristoff in frozen
alex deleon is the frontman for the cab, z berg is a musician who works with ryan ross. you probably know who jared leto is.
pavi largo: fictional character from the 2008 horror rock goth opera film repo! the genetic opera, a self-obsessed socialite and in-universe sex symbol who likes to wear women's faces as skin-masks
willow rosenberg: fictional character from the 90s/00s cult television show buffy the vampire slayer, also a lesbian
rodney mckay: fictional character from the 2000s sg-1 spinoff stargate atlantis, insufferable genius
ben platt: broadway actor, most people will know him as the titular evan hansen in dear evan hansen
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My prediction on who's going to die in Wind and Truth based purely on vibes
Adolin and Szeth
I have no supporting evidence besides the "not going to survive this" vibes are hanging around them both like a new type of spren. That said, Adolin is the most killable main character and Kal's death flags feel genuine but also like a decoy (meaning that the Shinovar trip will be deadly but Kaladin will survive, hence the Szeth prediction)
Still, I really hope I'm wrong
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Panda mom and Buddhist monkey tickles
whether its platonic or not is up to you
Oooh interesting! Let me see
I definitely see them as platonic. Maybe after a little while, he kind of becomes family...! Helps the mom with food and stuff...!
He would definitely watch her little kid and tickle him/her playfully. As for the Panda mom? He likes her as a friend who's taken on a father figure for her kid
They definitely have tickle fights though. Either to calm down from stress or maybe one or the other needs a laugh!
The Panda mom is for sure more a ler than a lee, and Monkey is an even switch.
Panda mom's ears are very ticklish as well as her back and Monkey has a ticklish tail that makes him squeal and fall into a puddle of giggles from just a poke!
Monkey would definitely use his ability to gain advantage, but the mom is actually super clever! One way or the other, she has him pinned and tickling him senseless until his ooks become eeks.
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i mean this in the kindest way
maybe the worst fucking wake-up call i’m doing good is the fact i can’t seek out sourcemates in other adult bodied systems because half the time they see no issues in sexualizing our source selves because “well the body isn’t 14 so sexualizing source 14 year old me is okay :3!!”
or they’re flat out pro-shippers and are way too proud to say it or try to keep it hush hush but also it’s really easy to find.
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