#they call me the. the talker

[bigshot-activities]

a whole lotta tf2 art AND!!!!! oc art ur gonna have to look at because!!!!1

art that i also made (me and my freind playing a cart ride game as medic and scout,) and a magma i had w amother friend (the orange writing is them hehe)

AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST the oc art that you fs clicked on this post for!!!!!!!!

[shit-talker]

When Soap retires from the army, he ends up getting a job coaching a little kids' gaelic football team and he takes this shit so fucking seriously.

He coaches the under 10s team, which means that it's still mixed boys and girls, but he gets those kids so enthusiastic about everything. The local community around the club he trains for absolutely love him because A, he's really good with all the kids and B, its extremely funny to see a large man yell after little kids and be so invested in this sport.

He does swear at the kids, though, like all the time. He will call the opposing team wee shites and will call his own team little pricks. He's been told again and again that no, John, you can't call these kids little pussies but he doesn't listen. It encourages them and makes them laugh.

He had an assistant once, a teenager who took on the role for work placement for about a week and by the end of it she just looked at him and went "How the fuck do you do this everyday??" And Soap laughed in her face and said something like, "These kids are so much better than the cadets I used to train," and thats how everyone finds out that Soap uses the same techniques on these 9 year olds that he did on army cadets and suddenly it makes sense why his team all salute him in a straight line before a match.

[invisiblerambler]

I'm going through something*

*realizing once again in many if not all cases any level of creative partnership with a man will result in you as a woman taking a backseat to him and his ambitions no matter how much he tells you you're in it together and only with a lot of self-awareness and self reflection will he ever be able to truly let you share or even take the lead creatively in whatever you participate in

[hdmiports]

i need a new therapist LMAO

[monards]

thank god debate made me an expert at talking my ass off

[bluebellhairpin]

"You're as dry as chips girl, it just sounds like your angry all the time." Okay. This is how I normally talk though. I'll guess I'll just not talk then. Ever.

[prophecydungeon]

the more i chew over the mercs trilogy from rvb14 the more i think my initial reaction to it was kind of a complete misread actually lol

i had to dig through some old posts to find where i talked about it but initially i approached/read it as showing a pivotal, critical moment in felix and locus's history where they tipped over the line from being This to being That, and in that regard, the episodes are definitely still super fun and charming and Good but they also fall very flat. what exactly was pivotal about that? honestly, not much unless you want to do an insanely close read with some reaching. i guess maybe the whole "surprise, guess we're down to do a ransom and also kill a guy" part but... not really? they definitely murdered n+1 people at the club and are not new to murderizing (eg. the "mason wu, trained killer of men" comment). that was not a moral high ground situation in any way and nothing about it really points to it being The Moment that something changed fundamentally.

but what it was, actually - and i feel silly that i didn't read it like this at first - was honestly just a show that felix and locus did actually come from a place of doing net positives at some point in their lives. and that's not something to be dismissed! the fact that they weren't terrible horrible no-good dirty rotten mercenaries from the day the left active service is really interesting! and the trilogy showcased all of that in a super fun and charming and Good way and sometimes the point is just to show that things used to be different.

[chainsawworld]

listebed to the hamburgers of kazuhira miller g-d

[okthatsgreat]

if there’s one thing about me it’s that i’ve got so many thoughts on extremely tiny details in the guy who didn’t like musicals

[ollywears]

Olly Alexander wearing a Coach x Champion shearling jacket at the book launch of “Now You See Me: An Introduction to 100 Years of Black Design” by  Charlene Prempeh at Ladbroke Hall (November 17, 2023).

[adraughtofamortentia]

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[cielcius]

the way i’m starting to think this guy might just turn out to be my husband one day

[blueish-bird]

A trick a middle school counselor proposed to combat this is to get into the habit of thinking/saying "I'm proud of myself."

In the beginning it feels stupid and dishonest to say -- growing up with undiagnosed ADHD tends to result in foundational thought patterns like "everyone else can do this consistently, why can't/aren't I" and "I should be able to do this, I'm just being lazy" -- but as I started to take moments to recognize my efforts and thank myself for pushing through difficult tasks, I started being less dismissive of my efforts and more genuinely proud of them.

I also found it became more comfortable to do things that used to feel intimidating and miserable. Not to say the difficulty and dislike always or entirely went away, but through positive reinforcement those tasks became more "worth doing," because I knew I'd be proud of myself (as well as experience the benefits of having those tasks completed, even if that benefit is just I No Longer Have to Do Task) once I was done doing them.

The way you speak to yourself and frame your experiences shapes the way you recall them and approach them in the future. And don't get me wrong, the way capitalism is structured can make life incredibly difficult and even hostile to navigate; it does not often leave space for people to rest or be "inefficient" (human) or... exist, really, with executive dysfunction. But as long as we live within it, we as people (individuals and communities) can do what we can to make life more humane in spite of capitalist logic/structure.

Congratulate ourselves for doing that shit anyway. Especially when we might have grown up with little positive affirmation and recognition of our struggle, it's important we provide that for ourselves and each other. If it's hard for you to do for yourself at first, ask loved ones to help you -- with the task, or with the positive reinforcement afterwards.

As a kid I heard a lot of adults say "Growing up is doing things you don't want to do." But personally, I think it's more accurate (though also more wordy) to say something like "Growing up is doing things because they are necessary for your survival and/or beneficial to yours and others' wellness, even if you might not always want to do them. You don't necessarily have to do these things all by yourself (in fact, sometimes having company can make the task easier/more enjoyable); but regardless of how fast or slow you move, or how well or poorly your efforts turned out, please take time to acknowledge the time and energy you've spent."

people say folks with adhd struggle with "delayed rewards" aka long term goals and as such we tend to focus more on short term rewards. what they don't talk about is that at when we Do accomplish long term goals we don't actually feel anything proportionate to the amount of work we did to achieve it. In my head I suffered for a while and then money spontaneously appeared in my bank account.

[kharatkhake]

"you're overreacting" but not saying it to patronize or to placate but to censure. stay mad if you want, because now i'm mad too. "you're overreacting" but it isn't used to keep you in a box; it's used to let you know you've crossed the line.

[oceantornadoo]

when you first start talking to simon riley, you want to check yourself into an insane asylum.

you like to think you’re cool, you’re chill, you’re nonchalant. but he takes eight hours to text back, sending you a “come over.” text at 7pm like he hadn’t just ignored you the whole day. you complain to your friends, of course, which is a terrible move when they tell you to drop him and if he wanted to, he would! and you think he does (want to), he’s just so insanely nonchalant about it. so the next time he comes over, chinese takeout in hand after not texting you back since 8am, you go a little crazy…

you open the door for him, stepping back awkwardly when he tried to peck your forehead. he practically shrugs it off, toeing off his boots before setting the food down on your table. “got tha’ dish ya like.” you nod, forgetting his back is to you. simon unpacks the boxes with precision from the bag, not stopping until it’s all laid out on the table. you’ve been quiet for a while, unusual since you’re the talker of the bunch, and that creeping feeling that’s been sliding up his skin finally sets its hooks in him. he turns around curiously, brows furrowing at the sight of you still standing by the door, biting your lip with a timid look and wet eyes. “love?”

you shake your head with a watery smile. “can we talk?” simon follows you as you walk to your couch, feeling like he’s been dropped into an op with no details. he doesn’t know what’s wrong, just that you’re hurting and he seems to be the cause of it. “i just…don’t get it. how you’re acting so normal.” you’re twisting your hands together. “somethin’ happen, love? got me confused.” you give him that small, weak smile again and it’s like you’ve stabbed him in the heart. “you- you barely talk to me all day and then you just come over here like it’s nothing. it’s just so hot and cold and i’m wrecking myself over it when it’s so clear you don’t care. i’m just so confused, si.”

simon runs through his memories. he texted you good morning, you texted it back, then he went about his duties for the day until he was finally free to ask about dinner. hadn’t even picked up his phone in the meantime, security risks or just plain busyness being the cause. “‘ve been busy, sweetheart. ‘s why i asked t’ come over when i was done.” you shake your head, biting your lip. “it’s the modern day, simon. everyone’s on their phones. i don’t think you’re as into this as me, and that’s fine, but i just want to know!”

now simon’s the one shaking his head, pulling out his phone. he might not be tech savvy but he does know this move from johnny, the fucker constantly complaining about his screen time. he pulls up the screen time tracker and turns it to you. “not everyone.” you’re a bit shocked to be honest. his screen time is ten minutes for the entire day. a few in the morning when he texted you and nothing until nighttime, when he texted you again. you’ve never seen anything like it.

“‘m not a big texter an’ we don’t use personal phones for work, so it’s jus’ a brick i leave at home or lug around. ‘s nothin’ on you. been thinkin’ about you all day, to be honest.” your mouth is open, honestly. any other man would have never shown you their minute-by-minute screen time, would have begged off the “busy” excuse while having been on social media for four hours. simon, by all standards, is genuinely different.

“so, you do like me?” he nodded stiffly, gloved hands reaching for you. you slid into his lap easily, tucking your face into his neck to hide your heated cheeks. you’d even shed a few tears over this, how embarrassing. “‘course i like you, sweetheart. an’ im sorry if it didn’t feel like it. let’s have it out, yeah?” you nod into his skin and he takes a deep breath, pulling you closer to his heart.

from that day on, you compromise with phone calls. when he’s got a few minutes and you’ve hit a lull at work, he’ll call you. it’s better than any text in the world - hearing his gruff voice asking questions about your messy coworkers or dinner plans. not so nonchalant as you thought.

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i wish this was from personal experience but unfortunately for me, it’s closer to the men not responding for days but having a screen time of six hours.

[tricksheart]

❛ These guys have a little problem with eye contact, don’t they? ❜ ( From Nobu ^^ )

THE BATMAN (2022) SENTENCE STARTERS

( accepting selectively )

@nobuverse said: ❛ These guys have a little problem with eye contact, don’t they? ❜ ( From Nobu ^^ )

'That's because you are scaring them'. Not like the lancer to say that at face value. Arsene could understand why everyone seemed panicked but then again, he was more of a social chameleon, knowing the subtle cues that everyone was giving off.

"Perhaps they are just being polite". Bullshit and Arsene knows isn't fooling himself with that knowledge but he's known to joke and charm his way in any situation if it called for it. Still, it could be a reason for one of the many others situated around them. It wasn't like he was a mind reader even though the thought of him able to hear thoughts sounded cool and not boring.