#they are both Emotionally Compromised

[fruity-hub-blog]

If I had a nickle every time there was a morally ambiguous grey haired man who always wears a business suit with a red tie and has an affinity for the Packers Football team in a kids cartoon I'd have two nickles, which isn't a lot but it's weird it's happened twice.

[trampfranky]

On one hand the fact that both luffy and sanji trusted pudding as an ally potentially speaks more about the reality of puddings self and feelings BUT the idea that luffy completely fell for pudding because she started sweet talking about his cook and promised to bring sanji back to them is so funny. pudding started gushing about how cool and cute and charming sanji is and how she is kinda in love with him and luffy went 'omgggggg she gets me AND sanji no way is she lying :D'

[kickingtheladder]

Edwin's voice when he says "If you need to talk about your FAther????" and Charles's "OH GOD NO" response, Of COURSE this is the episode which ends with them both going "You know can talk to me about anything", staring intently into each other's eyes, AND THEN NOT TALKING ABOUT ANYTHING, I am emotionally devastated and also wildly entertained

[ingravinoveritas]

“I don’t want it to end...”

[deskgirl]

Thinking yet again about Edward Teach who can’t sit quietly with his own thoughts while fishing with Fang but sits quietly with his dying friend and listens to him in his last moments. Sure, there’s plenty of stuff that he could have said, but his attention was all Izzy wanted in that moment.

[kemendin]

Always cherished Never forgotten

[dear-mrs-otome]

Oh my god this event is custom-designed to crush me isn't it? Two of my favorite routes, and more peeks inside their heads during it???

[bbcphile]

I finished Mysterious Lotus Casebook and OMG AHHHHHH FEEELINGS!!!!!

I don’t want to spoil anything about it here, but if anyone wants to flail in feelings about the ending with me, send me a message!

[last-flight-of-fancy]

finally got around to doing the dark knight questline (to level 50 anyway. are there more after that???? i know dragoon got a bit more but. im Uncertain on literally every other class) and like. what he hell am i supposed to do with myself after that

[starfleetsxvulcan]

// Sometimes the only reason I can write Spock is because I am blasting the Spotify playlist I specifically made for him in my ears.

[spiinsparks]

         ||. it’s 3am and all i can freakin think about is that any person who wants to romance this idiot is gonna have to deal with whatever the equivalent of an emotional one-night-stand is (we’re not here for the actual thing in this house) bc he’s a dumb teenager who’s too independent to consider yknow maybe a proper commitment to someone doesn’t actually mean ... getting shackled down

[thisisahyperfixationnow]

Spock would listen to Smalltown Boy by Bronksi Beat send tweet

[blossomhcir]

THE OVERWHELMING DESIRE TO KISS; ACCEPTING  @nihted​ requested  8: a  kiss  in  secret  /  a  forbidden  kiss.

He cradled her face, so gentle for a warrior's hands. Gentler still were is his lips against hers, so adoring it made her heart ache. Her own hands tangled into his hair, urging him closer to her. Neither had any intention of parting, and in truth she wished they never had to. It was almost cruel how a simple sound, the slam of a door and footsteps in the distance hall, could bring this world of their own crashing down around them.   

Adelaide’s heart thundered in her ears, so loud she could scarcely hear anything else. The steps abated, silence creeping in like a chill between them, the only sound their sobering breaths. This was a sign, the both knew. To stop now, return to where they were supposed to be. Neither of them moved, doe brown eyes meeting the deepest blue as they considered the reality they had been cruelly awoken to.   

Unable to bear the space between them any longer she pulled him to her, needing his lips on hers again. She needed it like air, the brief time they had together in these secluded halls the only time she felt like she could breathe. The only time she felt truly alive. Not with all the courtiers or her husband, but in these brief stolen moments with him.   

“Please.” Her voice came breathless, a needy sound against his lips. She asked for too much and she knew it. They did not have the privilege of time and yet she knew Edric would give her more if he asked. It was selfish, a risk that could cost them both their lives if they were found- and yet she would risk it for just a few more moments with him. “I need you, just a little longer... ”

[starkcregan]

i did that my heritage ai thing (yes, i know before u give me a lecture) and tbh not all of the results were that bad

this one is probably the closest to actually looking like me 

but the rest look like people i’d be related to

[heywriters]

Details That Convey Intimacy

Developing fictional relationships that feel authentic takes more than dialogue and grand gestures. Every detail below can be used to show platonic, familial, agape, or romantic love depending on context.

cooking a meal for someone, bringing them food, or spontaneously sharing a snack

sharing body heat/warming someone with outerwear like jackets and scarves

fanning them with something if overheated

getting a cold/hot drink for them

offering to carry something, whether it's heavy or just a jacket, to lighten someone's load or free up their hands

more below the click!

changing the subject of a group conversation that will be personally discomforting to someone in the group

making sure to include someone in a group conversation, especially if it's a topic they have special knowledge of

waiting for someone to catch up when the rest of the group has walked ahead

remembering preferences/allergies ahead of time when preparing/ordering food

planning trips, whether in a pair or as a group, that provide something positive for every individual to enjoy

procuring personal healthcare items like sunscreen, moisturizer, lip balm, pain relievers, or a snack and keeping them on hand for that friend who frequently needs them

making room for someone in a crowded vehicle or on public transit

making room for someone under an awning or in another limited space to help them avoid bad weather

warning or wordlessly covering for someone with a wardrobe/cosmetic malfunction

remembering a small luxury someone mentioned they enjoy, and getting it for them the next time it's convenient

running an errand for someone to make their day easier ('importance of errand : depth of relationship' ratio should be explored)

escorting someone to safety in a sudden unsettling event

escorting someone who is drunk, sick, infirm, injured, or emotionally compromised

asking if light, noise, or other sensory factors are bothering someone and taking steps to make them more comfortable

getting gag gifts for someone to show you reciprocate their sense of humor or quirky self-expression (not everyone does this, not everyone appreciates it, and some people predominantly express love through humor and gag gifts; works well with some characters more than others)

holding someone's hand or arm as reassurance, especially when they are afraid*

using their body to block someone from wind, rain, or heat

picking up a dropped item, or carrying a train or other dragging garment for someone else

returning a recognizable possession to someone who may have lost it

This is an inexhaustible list as humans have many ways of showing love for each other. If you are writing spec fic with non-human characters, you can play with variations on these by remembering three core values the "lover" has to consider:

physical comfort of others

emotional comfort of others

social reputation of others

I'd add "sensory comfort" though I think it's tied to physical and emotional comfort.

Please do not try and force any of these into the mold of the misogyny-based "Love Language" trend. Human emotions and expressions of love are diverse and endless.

*While hand holding can be construed as romantic, in reality it varies. Some cultures do not see this as romantic, and some individuals only mean it as a sign of support or compassion. Same goes for long embraces and kissing, both can be done platonically and of course naturally between close family members or friends.

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[hauntoblogical]

2FA is such a headache. Highly effective security, but as with all security methods that set obstacles before potential hackers, the overwhelming majority of the time it's an obstacle for the actual user instead. Not conducive to good security practices even for people without an Obstacles Disorder!

Like, I know I should set it up for more accounts... but I should switch to an actual authentication app first, which means research and finding a way to future-proof against losing access... and I can't use my existing password manager for any of it, that would be too convenient, and more importantly undermine the point of separate security measures...

(The only thing making the current state of affairs tolerable is convenient Apple texts-appear-on-computer so I don't have to chase my phone down, and that only works until I switch OS with my next computer. Lovely.)

Just off the top of my head an ideal 2FA method should:

Work on any device you might using to log in

Not require multiple devices

Not require access to a specific device

Be easily device-portable without losing hard-to-recover data like encryption seeds

Not use a potentially-disrupted or insecure communication method like SMS

Not require a connection to a third party service that might not be available to authenticate

Really should not have to connect to anything extra, period

Should be consistent from site to site I swear to fucking god why do so many sites for important must-be-kept-secure services like banking only offer texting, at least make authentication apps an *option*

And it's probably already impossible to have all that simultaneously even before bringing in account recovery! Methods to regain access if lost or compromised, or get access after the user's death, or take over for someone not capable, while resisting social engineering and not letting controlling abusers in...

Anyways, good article, and yet another example of tech world movers and shakers failing to consider those of us with very different lives.

resharing this oldie because i just got a new laptop and the number of times i am being required to login to things, login to a DIFFERENT app/program/password manager/authenticator, provide a number, and then login again is making me fucking INSANE