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nei-ning · 5 months ago

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I've seen A LOT of tigers (pics of them) in the last few days. Like ridiculously LOT! I normally see them very rarely, one pic there or there. Not now, tho. I need to clear few things about this before going deeper. I love Wu army the most in Dynasty Warriors. Their animal symbol is tiger. My Chinese Zodiac Sign is tiger.

Naturally I decided to google tiger's spiritual meaning. Here's short list of it:

A symbol of protection and authority

Serves as a guardian

Offers support and guidance

Encourages individuals to stand up for their beliefs, assert their boundaries, and embrace their innate leadership qualities.

Powerful

Courageous

Strong-willed

Gives you the energy and personal strength you need

Brings you greater self-confidence

Now, to the "second" thing. I've said it many times here already how I "talk" with characters / channel them. I can do it super easily. No, I'm not lunatic, delusional etc. I've no schizophrenia either. Possible autism and ADHD, yes, but those are not important now (even tho related for sure to my case). Rest will be under the cut because long post :'D

Last couple of days I've been daydreaming about Gan Ning A LOT! Interacting with him, sitting down with him for conversations etc. I find great joy in those moments, I honestly do. Those moments have make me happy and feel like I'm in a warm company of a friend who I found again after years of being apart. Anyway! Yesterday evening was one of these moments where I chatted with Gan Ning.

He had a map on the table in front of him and Lu Meng sat across him. Lu Meng was teaching strategy to Gan Ning who, obviously, hates it. He has told me many times: "I'm not strategist. I am a fighter. Point me the way and tell me what to do and I go and do it."

So, as I observed these men, Gan Ning then asked me to check the map too. So I did. Long story short, I ended up explaining my plan for the situation even that I am not strategist either. I also have low self-esteem, always looking and thinking down on myself, always being mean and nasty to myself, mocking, name calling, all that. This side of myself started to surface during the "plot planning" but Gan Ning didn't hesitate to stop me.

He looked at me so gently with a friendly smile on his face, "lecturing" me about my way of treating myself. How I have this "leader" in me and I need to go deep in myself to kick her ass and bring her up. Mocking "Nei" is not allowed. I did that, getting back on planning with more firm and leader-like Nei. Both Lu Meng and Gan Ning were silent as I kept talking, finger moving on the map.

When I finished, Gan Ning was SO PLEASED! I mean that guy was radiating pride and joy! :'D He told me I need to be more like "leader Nei" (leadership qualities was tiger's message), have self-confidence (also a message from tiger) since I HAVE everything in me already to BE that. I've allow "mocking Nei" be in charge for too long, most part of my life, actually. But truth to be told, I was so surprised about myself as well! I mean, I have never plan "a strategy", never been firm and expressing myself with confidence. All that was new but I liked it. I liked the feeling of me being calm and confident.

I had long conversation with Gan Ning after that and I just love and appreciate it how supportive and encouraging he is! Truly a great friend! <3

I also need to mention I've been having same kind of friend conversations with ALL my favorite characters during daydreaming the last 20+ years. It has been like therapy to me, allowing me to cry and pour out my heart, pain and sorrow. Get comfort and support when no one else was there to give it to me. Laugh and joke in the moments of loneliness. Stuff like that. In all honesty, fictional characters have helped me more than any human ever.

I'm not saying there wouldn't have been / isn't lovely human beings who HAVE been there for me whenever I've needed a friend since there is BUT the thing is I CAN'T (and don't want to) bother them 24/7. That's why I lean on fictional characters so much. They are there in that second when I need them, a friend, for any reason.

#text #long post #tiger #Gan Ning #spiritual stuff #Huge plus on having autism is the daydreaming #It honestly has bring me a lot of help in many ways #truth to be told I think / believe I wouldn't have make it through my middle school years #when I was being bullied #if it wasn't for fictional characters #those daydreams of mine - me being with them and talking #getting support and strength to go that hell through #I honestly believe they were the ONLY reason why I managed to survive and finish school

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mybigfatspoonielife · 2 years ago

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I will never be a mother (by choice and circumstance), but other parts of this resonate with me.

I'm disabled by POTS and autism. I'm getting married in October; fiance will be supporting me financially as well as doing much of the housework. That doesn't mean I'll be doing nothing. I plan to take on the laundry, mending, some small cleaning tasks (the little things that his ADHD brain is going to overlook and which would irritate me) as well as being his confidant, advisor, comforter. I'll be making our apartment into a home, a safe refuge. Maybe I'll be able to figure out a way to bring in extra income too.

Whenever I visit, he loves coming home from work to see me sitting there ready with a kiss. He *wants* to be the provider and protector, and values the role I intend to take.

He opens the door for me and pays for our dates, but he doesn't fuss me when i forget to hang back to let him open the door, or when I decide to treat him to a good meal for a change.

And, like @traditionalmidwest, and @myhappyhomeoflove 's husband, my fiance just wants me to be happy and healthy.

As the wife, I will be the one weaving an atmosphere of peace and emotional safety-- while he, as the husband, will provide the financial and physical security. Both sides interdependent of the other. Both individuals holding roles of great importance and power within our home. I don't understand why society insists this dynamic is automatically oppressive to the woman, even when she freely chose it, and has a man who truly loves and values her as his companion and fellow human being.

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diaryofadaringwitch · 3 years ago

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3 Tips for Neurodivergent Witches

My craft changed significantly following my ADHD diagnosis almost 4 years ago. I was suddenly given this new frame of reference that helped me understand that I wasn't struggling because I was wrong/bad/lazy, but because I wasn't using the right tool set. With this new awareness, I was able to adjust my practice in order to best fit my brain, rather than exhaust myself trying to do things the way you're "supposed to".

Important Note: I'm ADHD, specifically the combination inattentive/hyperactive presentation. But I do experience a lot of the symptoms that fall under the overlap between ADHD & autism. That's why this is deliberately called 'Neurodivergent Witch Tips' and not simply 'ADHD Witch Tips'.

Tip #1: Use Medication as an Anchor Point

It's difficult for ND brains to maintain consistent routines, but daily medication can be a great way to establish a daily habit within your practice. It's much easier to form a new habit by linking it to one that already exists.

So when you take your meds- pull a tarot card, pray, practice grounding, make a libation or other offering, set your intention for the day, etc. Start small, don't try to do an entire ritual every time you take your meds. Once that habit is strong, you can add more onto it.

I also intentionally leave my medication on my altar. Apollo is a God of healing and medicine; by taking my medication at His altar, it's my way of showing devotion by taking care of myself in the best way possible. Our deities want us to thrive and our mental health is part of that.

Tip #2: Integrate Hyper-fixations & Special Interests

ND brains don't really have a meh setting. We're either fully invested or not interested. As a result, we can pick up new skills and knowledge fairly quickly. We have a wide range of interests and tend to know a good amount about a lot of different things.

And witches are curious by nature. We're always studying, always developing ourselves and our craft. So what aspects of that hyper-fixation could you use in your practice?

"Kate, are you seriously suggesting I try to integrate Minecraft or insects or cross-stitch or true crime into witchcraft?"

Hell yeah! I love playing Dungeons & Dragons- so why can't I do luck spells on my dice or draw protection sigils on my character sheets or create spells to amplify my creativity and storytelling? Why not? Imagine how much more powerful your magic will be when you're working with things that are truly meaningful to you.

(Side note- for my neurotypical witches, ask your ND friend to tell you about their special interests. Listen and ask questions. Getting to talk freely about something that we're excited about without worrying if we're being annoying or "too much" is an absolute gift.)

Tip #3: Design Your Practice to be ND-friendly

One of my favorite Youtubers has a running theme of how to make our lives and homes ADHD friendly, which you can watch here. And this idea of building our craft around our brain makes a huge impact by removing the limits of 'how' we can practice.

Break spells or rituals into more manageable parts if you're worried about maintaining focus for that length of time. Include your fidgets or sensory aids in your ritual materials. They are just as sacred- using what you need will not negatively impact the spell.

If you struggle to regularly maintain wards or protections, try using protection sigils with masking tape or sticky notes. I really like using these for sigils in general because I can move them easily and stick them anywhere I need. And if they no longer stick, that's a good sign that they need to be redone.

This can take a lot of trial and error to find what really works for you, but it is worth it. Please don't get discouraged or frustrated with yourself.

Almost everything in our world is built in a way that actively goes against how our brains are structured. Your spiritual practice should be something you don't have to fight with your brain to participate in. It should remove stress, not increase it.

These adjustments don't make you a lesser witch, it doesn't make your magic less effective. On the contrary, using your strengths and making the best choices for you is an incredibly powerful mindset for a witch.

I hope this helps! If any other neurodivergent witches have tips, please share through reblogging or send me a message because I'd love to hear them and maybe try them for myself.

Brightest of blessings!- Kate

#witch #witch tips #witchcraft #neurodivergent witch #witchblr #autistic witch #adhd witch #neurodivergent tips #actually neurodivergent

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proudfreakmetarusonikku · 2 years ago

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Ok so here’s the basic framework of the Modern AU. All characters /rp underneath, of course. It’s basically my attempt to recreate c!Tommy's story specifically in a regular modern setting. There’s so much projection here sorry. Not all of it is obviously (I don’t have psychosis, for one, while c!Tommy here doesn’t have my physical health issues) but a LOT of it is sorry 4 traumadumping.

TWs for: death, accidental misgendering (of Fundy, who's an infant), dysfunctional families trying their best, ableism (especially anti-psychotic ableism), bullying, targeted harassment, gaslighting, manipulation, mental health issues, self hatred, suicide (by hanging), kidnapping, medical abuse, physical and psychological abuse, destruction of property as abuse, tampering with meds, overmedication, self harm, Stockholm Syndrome, drowning, imprisonment, broken bones, freezing, classism, gun violence, attempted murder, attempted suicide (by hanging).

After the unfortunate death of their mother, siblings Wilbur and Tommy Craft (along with Wilbur's infant daughter Theodosia) go to live with their father who they haven’t even met in years, Philza, along with their half-brother Techno, in the sleepy town of L'Manberg up north, far away from their previous home in the city.

While Wilbur has a strained relationship with his father, and somewhat resents having to leave behind his old friends (and girlfriend), Tommy's ecstatic to have his estranged dad back in his life, and idolises Philza. Philza, of course, genuinely loves and cares for his boys, but has to keep up a busy schedule to provide for his family and definitely subconsciously favours Techno, the only son of his first wife. All four of them and a crying infant being in a house barely big enough for two, with scant money to spare, tensions are high, especially so soon after everything. Everyone loves each other, of course, but it’s not a great environment.

Now, Tommy has always been kind of a “problem kid”, and he’s been kicked out of more schools than most people have ever been in. He’s kind of accepted what everyone else says about him, and embraces being a chaotic menace, even though he’s a very empathetic kid who has cried accidentally stepping on a bug on multiple occasions. Things got better once he was able to get into therapy- the autism and ADHD were picked up near-immediately, but his psychosis got overlooked for ages because it was rare in kids. Things almost felt like they were getting better, on meds and everything, until everything happened, and so he’s started getting into lots of trouble just to spite authority again.

There’s not really much of that in L’manberg, thought. The local police aren’t really used to doing more than getting cats out of trees and Sam, the local police chief, has a soft spot for kids despite his otherwise comical level of stickling to the rules. There’s probably less than a thousand people around, and most of them are as badly off or worse than the Crafts. Even at the school, Mr Halo is so energetic and genuinely kind to do his best that the worst Tommy really felt the heart to do was swear at him a bit (besides, the man was like seven foot tall and could probably snap him in two, not that Tommy was frightened or anything.)

The only person that Tommy can truly put his soul into pissing off is Dream.

See, Dream is one of the rich fuckers that lives in a big house, always wears fancy clothes, and always seems to be the happiest, sunniest man in the world. He's single-handedly keeping the town running, donating his seemingly endless wealth to keep the town alive despite everything. But there’s something about him that Tommy sees that no one else seems to. It’s all fake. An act. What he really wants is power.

So, Tommy and his friends he made during his time in L'Manberg- Tubbo, Jack, and Niki- make a game out of finding ways to take him down, Wilbur going along to supervise to get them out of trouble. None of them take it seriously, really, except Tommy. And Tommy does manage to find some evidence of this! Through eavesdropping, of course, but he’s done worse.

Tommy, genuinely concerned, tries to spread the word, but he’s met with resistance. Not that of natural skepticism against a random teenager, no. It’s weirdly specific. Everyone looking down on him with pity and fear and reassuring him it’s just his delusions, which is fucking weird because that was his private mental health stuff he hadn’t told them. Come to think of it, people have been treating him weird for ages, ever since he’d started his campaign.

(Maybe he was having delusions? He’d never had these before- the type he had was t one where it felt like he was rotting, dead, where he’d refuse to come out of his room or eat- but maybe the stress was getting to him. Maybe he was just getting worse.)

(No. No, of course he wasn’t. He'd saw shit before, felt things, but he'd never heard things that weren’t real. He didn’t do that).

Suddenly, it feels like the whole town has turned on them. Tommy, Wilbur, Tubbo, Jack, Niki, all of them alike. Everyone cold, everyone aggressive. Whispered rumours, pointed fingers. Even Philza had berated the two for doing something horrible they never remembered doing.

It all clicks, one day, when Dream takes his discs.

Now, Tommy has two discs he keeps locked away at all times. They were the last gifts he ever got from his mother, and have a lot of sentimental value to him. So it was a surprise one day to woke up to Philza yelling at him for stealing Dream's prized discs, and making him give him back. Wilbur tries to back him up, but Philza assumes Tommy can’t be trusted to remember anything and Wilbur is understandably but wrongly trying to protect his little brother, and he’s forced to hand over the last remnants of his mum to Dream, talking kindly about how Tommy couldn’t have known and should be treated fairly while giving him the biggest smirk whenever anyone wasn’t looking.

(Tommy won’t even consider how Dream knew about something only he and Wilbur knew for a long, long time after.)

But what he does consider is that Dream's been turning the town against them. Isolating them, getting everyone to hate them. Out of some sick sense of revenge, to get power back, who fucking knows, but it’s clear to Tommy that Dream's targeting him, and it’s clearer that Dream knows Tommy knows it.

Tommy, feeling guilty, seeks out Dream to make a deal. He'll stop doing anything to hurt him again, and he'll withstand whatever hatred Dream sends against him, but to leave his friends alone. Dream agrees, and coincidentally, every rumour against everyone but Tommy suddenly gets evidence disproving it, as long as he can also keep the discs, to keep control over him. Tommy reluctantly agrees.

(When he tries to tell, everyone says it’s all in his head, and asks if he’s taking his meds.)

Unfortunately, Wilbur never really recovered from the isolation. He starts to believe it’s all his fault for not stopping the kids from taking it too far, and that he’s a terrible influence to everyone around him. He starts lashing out or he just cries all day. He has panic attacks whenever he’s around his child, worried he'll somehow spread the evil he’s convinced is in him.

One day, he can’t be found in the home at all, and when they go out to search Tommy is the one who finds him hanging from a tree in the forest, lifeless and cold.

The funeral is quiet. Just the family. Dream visits the next day to give the grieving family a stipend, and treats Tommy like a sad little helpless child who doesn’t even understand what’s going on while flashing him unempathetic grins when no one else is looking. Tommy tries to punch him and everyone looks at him like he’s insane.

Tommy starts acting out again, not knowing what else to do. It’s a desperate cry for help, but by this point everyone believes he’s such an unpredictable troublemaker that all he gets is frustration. This reaches a head when he graffitis a house with a new friend of his- Ranboo, who moved in recently too- and it’s painted as a step too far. A step towards irredeemability.

Of course, Dream approaches Philza with a kind-seeming offer. He’s seen how troubled poor little Tommy is, and how it must be because of his trauma losing so much of his family so soon. And, see, he actually has some knowledge in how to help there, and a nice summer house by the coast, and he’d be willing to take some time out of his schedule to take Tommy somewhere nice, help him through some therapy. He really stresses that it might be the only way that Tommy will be able to stay in society, and at his wits end and convinced Dream is trustworthy, Philza agrees.

It’s the middle of that night he takes Tommy to his “retreat.” Groggy, unaware of what’s going on, he's barely awake and unable to really resist as he’s loaded into a clean, luxury car with a suitcase containing the small amount he owns. He falls back asleep in a few minutes, and when he wakes up in a car he doesn’t know, in a place he doesn’t know, with the man he blames for killing his brother. So he’s understandably terrified.

Dream, of course, eagerly explains exactly how he tricked everyone, and how now Tommy's under his guardianship now, and he’s going to make sure he’s never going to be able to pull any of his stunts anymore. This, predictably, makes him panic more, to which Dream responds with confusion, denying what he said just seconds before so convincingly it’s hard for Tommy to argue he didn’t just make it up. And really, the idea that he’s been getting worse, and that Dream's taking him somewhere comfortable to heal seems far more believable, right?

It takes a long, long time for them to get to the home, in a too-posh looking town named Logstedshire. The home is probably as big as Tommy's home times ten, is immaculate in appearance in soft colours, and it looms like a prison.

Time here is anything but therapeutic.

Everything in Tommy's suitcase is burnt in front of him. Even what belonged to Wilbur. He burns his hands desperately trying to comb through the ashes and his wounds are left untreated as punishment. Horus later, Dream asks with concern about how Tommy burnt his hands, and looks at him strangely when he mentions the suitcase. As he bandages Tommy's hands, he explains that there never was a suitcase.

This means his meds are destroyed, but he’s been given something. Something that leaves him so so tired he falls asleep on his feet all too often and feels dizzy and drowsy whenever he is awake. And he feels so sick, coming off his meds, to the point sometimes he can’t leave his bed, not to mention his actual psychosis getting worse again. Dream insists he's been given the same antipsychotics as always.

The rules are ever shifting, contradicting and nonsensical. Tommy inevitably breaks multiple a day. The punishments are ever shifting too. Sometimes he's dragged by his hair into his room and shouted at until he cries, then locked in there. Sometimes he's refused food. Sometimes Dream beats him. Sometimes he uses a knife.

Of course, afterwards, Dream would always look at him confusedly, and explain what really happened. Tommy locked himself in his room, of course. Tommy was too sick to eat. He threw himself down the stairs, and made the cuts himself. Self harm is common in traumatised children, after all. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s just that he’s having delusions, and it’s scary, but Dream's kind of like family, right? He'll always be there.

(When Tommy actually scratches at his skin until it coats his bedsheets in blood, the only acknowledgement it even gets is Dream making him scrub it clean).

But the in betweens feel so normal it feels difficult to not believe Dream. A lot of the time, they just talk, or play games together. Sometimes, they go out to the beach and have fun swimming (and sure, maybe Dream sometimes dunks him under the water until he's flailing and panicked, but that’s just a joke, right?) And he always cares for the injuries that Tommy must be calling himself, and is so gentle and kind when doing so, even when he says softly that Tommy hasn’t earnt painkillers. And when he talks about how it’d be so easy to fly away somewhere, forge some documents, and then they can be a real family, that’s just a joke, right? It has to be, right?

(No, no, no, no. What was he thinking? How could he make up Dream smugly talking about how much fun it was to have complete power over someone, even being able to change their memories, even if minutes later he acted all confused over Tommy's shouting? Why were there so many locks on each and every door? Why was he never allowed to speak to anyone but Dream? This wasn’t right. Right?)

Things come to a head when Tommy, terrified, tries to phone back home and tell them he was in danger. While he’s desperately trying to remember the number through the brain fog, Dream comes across him, and in a rage destroys what few possessions he was allowed to keep, beats him so badly he breaks one of his arms, and throws him in his room. He’s confident that Tommy won’t be able to stand, let alone leave, that he doesn’t bother to lock him in.

Filled with a sense of determination, and convinced by the violence that Dream WILL kill him some day inevitably, Tommy uses all the strength he has left to crawl out of the house, and aimlessly across the roads. It’s a freezing cold night, and Tommy's in thin pyjamas, but he doesn’t even hesitate to desperately try and find somewhere safe, somehow make his way aimlessly home. When he inevitably collapses, he's far away enough from Logstedshire that his family, not Dream, are the first people contacted.

After hearing about and seeing the injuries and decline Tommy clearly went through, it’s clear to the Craft family that whatever happened to him was anything but helpful. Spindly limbs, overgrown and messy hair, scars across his whole body, and that’s not even getting into the broken arm and frostbite. Yet, there’s no actual evidence that Dream did anything. Tommy himself switches between insisting Dream is going to kill everyone and desperately calling for his “big brother Dream”, barely even being able to recognise his own father or half-brother, and there’s a litany of believable excuses for everything. Besides, the Crafts have little, and Dream has so much. It’s clear that, no matter how much anyone knows that Dream's committed horrific crimes there’s nothing they can do.

So people huddle together. Tommy's transferred to the closest hospital, and his friends watch over him in shifts. People watch over the Craft house, the gravestone for Wilbur. As soon as Tommy's allowed out of the hospital- he insists on leaving as soon as possible- someone's always on guard sleeping outside Tommy's door, just in case. Tommy detests being treated like glass like this, but at least he’s being believed.

And then the town starts burning.

One building at a time. It’s clearly arson, yet there’s never enough evidence for the obvious culprit. Never too close to the big house everyone's been terrified to approach.

In the middle of the night, Tommy sneaks out to try and put an end to this. Dream's burning the whole place down because he’d rather destroy all his toys than not have complete control- but Dream had control over him, right? Maybe, maybe he could make a deal. Maybe it’d be better if it was just him being hurt.

(Tubbo sneaks out with him, of course, and sends a tip to the police. He has the suspicion this is exactly what Dream wanted.)

Dream is enthusiastic to see Tommy, less so to see Tubbo. But it’ll be fine! After all, he and Tommy are going to be out of this shithole as soon as possible, all trace of them deleted, and if the town that abandoned him has to deal with a corpse in the process that’s of no care to him. He'll be a new man, with a new little brother, and he'll find somewhere else to start the whole cycle again.

Tommy and Tubbo try their hardest to fight back, but they’re unarmed teenagers, and Dream came prepared. For his own amusement, he forces Tubbo to say a last goodbye at gunpoint… and then the doors are busted down.

Now, this was enough to get Dream locked up, considering Sam and co literally walked into Dream holding a loaded gun at an unarmed teenagers head and a whole lot of forged documents and suspicious shit after searching his house. Not for long enough, especially when several pieces of evidence go mysteriously missing, but enough for everyone to breathe a sigh of relief for just a second, to try and move on.

Tommy heals more than he ever has. People learn to not treat him like glass or like an unreliable tool, and more like a kid. The whole town basically unofficially adopts him, at this point. He works on repairing the tone with Sam- something others might consider a chore but something he loves. He dyes a streak of his hair the same pink as Techno, and starts getting to truly bond with him. Philza still feels so guilty that he and Tommy have distance, but it’s healing. All seems fine.

Until Tommy visits Dream in prison.

It’s something he insisted on for so long, to try and get a sense of closure, but when finally reluctantly allowed, it went disastrously. The whole time, Dream showed a scary sense of calm (like this was his plan all along, like he’s not even got a setback), and spent the whole time subtly hinting at stuff happening in Tommy's life he really shouldn’t know- either after he was imprisoned or long before they met- and that after he's released he’s going to go through on kidnapping Tommy and changing both of their identities, subtly enough that only the two of them knew, and Tommy's sudden breakdown and panic attack seemed almost completely out of nowhere from anyone else.

That night, when he gets home, he tries to do what Wilbur did.

Thankfully, Philza finds him before he’s too badly injured- most of his injuries came from him trying to claw himself free- but Tommy doesn’t get better after being cut down. In the months following, his hair starts turning grey and falling out in clumps. He barely eats. Barely talks. His flashbacks are so violent sometimes he lashes out at his family and friends. While sometimes he gets fleeting joy still, it disappears quickly. As Dream's release date gets ever closer, he talks hopelessly about how he knows that he'll immediately go after him, and immediately take him away forever, which grows more towards a tired acceptance as they count down the days with baited breath.

#dream smp #dream smp au #primeboys (derogatory)#i #i don’t think I can tag all the triggers here #i'm sorry

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theangrycomet · 4 years ago

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Comparing KO’s (OK KO) Character Arc to Cassandra’s (TTS)

Ok THIS^ actually bothers me and I really hope it’s a shit-post. Sorry, @astratic, but you have inadvertently signed up for some Character Analysis.

Let’s establish one critical difference between Cassandra and KO before we really dig into this shall we?

Cassandra is a fully developed, fully functional adult roughly in her early to mid twenties.

KO is a CHILD, who’s age is literally 6-11, though fans typically agree that he acts in the 8-9 range. Additionally, he is commonly head cannoned to be on the Autistic Scale and/or ADHD.

Because of this, their decisions and actions need to be seen through different lenses.

Point 1: work tirelessly to become a hero like [parent] who you idolize

KO:

This statement perfectly depicts KO’s goals. KO strives to be a hero in order to help people to the best of his abilities. He hates being useless and powerless to help his friends, so he trains to be a better hero and works through his struggles with their help. He lives to be like his mommy and his father-figure. I mean, look at him when Gar praises KO and tells him how proud he is of him.

Cassandra:

Cassandra’s goals are different. She wants to be a guard at the end of the day for glory. She wants people to see and acknowledge her abilities and strength and admire her for it.

Yes, making her dad proud is a benefit of that, but that is NOT her driving motivation.

Point 2: Become discourage by lack of progress and hindrance by social status

KO:

Social status was NEVER KO’s problem. His stalling in progress, as I mentioned in another post, was a mental block. He couldn’t tap into his power He came from lower middle, working class family with a single mom.

Cassandra:

Social Status was her problem, but only up until the 1st season finale where she was placed as Captain of the Guard.

She had regular progress in getting more time and respect as a royal guard. The fact that She CHOSE to leave that behind in order to follow her crush on some half-baked, unplanned road trip is only the fault of her own. She threw out the chance she had been waiting for for her entire life to follow Rapunzel.

And than was given numerous opportunities through out the trip to leave and pursue other goals.

Point 3. Be Mentally Ill

Okay, first OP, you could phrased that WAY better.

Secondly, the mental struggles our characters face are completely different and largely incomparable so to group the two is insulting to both characters.

KO:

Disassociative Identity Disorder (or multiple personality disorder)

Possible Undiagnosed Autism and or ADHD

KO develops Disassociative Identity Disorder, due to his frustration at lack of progress, the manipulation of Shadowy figure, and his bottling up of negative emotions. KO is mostly unaware of what happens when TKO is in charge and vice-versa. It took the two a long time to figure out how to work together and eventually merge back into one personality.

He also demonstrates some traits typically associated with Autism and ADHD, though some of those could be on account of his age. It is a common head cannon amongst fans that his either and sometimes both.

Cassandra:

Cassandra doesn’t have to deal with any mental illness until the season 3 finale where it can be gleamed that she’s working through depression if you squint at it.

Yes, there is the Blueberry Ghost, but she was never a result of Cass’ mental state so much as her being host to the Moon Stone.

Her struggles lie in reigning in her anger and her pride so that she can see problems from unbiased perspectives and apologize for her actions. And that is left still unresolved by the time the finale comes around.

Point 4. find out long lost parent is actually horrifically villainous and have a whole crisis about it.

Perhaps, we need a little reminder here before I dig into this one:

KO is a child figuring himself out and Cassandra is an adult figuring out what she wants in life.

KO:

KO had been struggling with his darker side for quite some time before he asked his Mom about who exactly his dad was.

This was something the show had demonstrated time after time that bothered KO, not knowing who his dad was.

So he finds out his dad was this big time hero, and gets reassurance from that fact that he comes from great heroes, so he too can be a hero. Only for that to be immediately tossed out the window when it’s revealed that the only person he hates in the entire world, the person he dubs as the truly evil villain, is actually his father.

His whole world is not only shook to its core, but his self-confidence as well. Laserblast was a great hero who turned villain; what does that mean for a hero-in-training whose already struggling with that darker side.

Praise Carol for not killing PV on the spot.

Additionally, PV didn’t actually know KO even existed until a few months before this incident, and wasn’t even sure if KO was his kid (KO does coincidentally share a lot of Physical attributes to Gar) until KO came busting in, wearing Laserblast’s helmet and bragging about how his dad was a great hero.

So when they attempted to have that father-son relationship, it was as awkward and strained as it should have been. (I’ll get to the OK KO Finale in just a minute)

Cassandra:

Cass could have cared less as to whom her real parents were. She had her dad. She had her goals. She had her job. Who her parents were and why they dumped her on the Captain was irrelevant to her life.

She didn’t care until Season 3, and that whole season was OOC for everybody,

Even then, it wasn’t so much as a crisis so much as an excuse to use to fight Rapunzel. It didn’t matter that Gothel was her mother, it mattered that Gothel picked the Sundrop over her. Which in all honesty was the best thing that could have happened to Cass.

Her “crisis” revolved around a dead woman’s shattered legacy more than her mother.

Point 5: Fall under the influence of said Villainous parental figure

KO TKO: (again, a CHILD)

TKO was used and manipulated into letting his darker side show by Professor Venomous/ Shadowy Figure, (this is my opinion), in order to actually have something they could relate to eachother on.

Yes, Shadowy Venomous saw TKO as more of his tool for power, but you can’t deny that he wasn’t motivated to have his son by his side.

Additionally, KO had at this point literally locked away a part of himself because he didn’t have the tools to deal TKO with this mentally or emotionally. So he responded the best way he could and pushed the problem down so he and others wouldn’t have to keep cleaning up TKO’s messes.

KO was in desperate need for someone to understand how he was and how to help him.

And guess who was there.

Cassandra: (again, an ADULT)

Cass was never led on by Gothel, she was led on by Zhan Tiri.

Cass was delusioned that the moonstone was hers by Zhan Tiri just as much as Rapunzel was delusioned into thinking stopping the moonstone was her destiny by Demanitus.

However, Zhan Tiri really didn’t make Cass do anything, she never pushed her past the breaking point, she never forced her to do anything.

Baked Ziti only prompted Cass, reminding her what she was angry at.

Cass was perfectly capable of ignoring her and doing her own thing.

Point 6: suddenly and dramatically betray everyone you love even as they plead with you to stop. Become convinced they all hate you except for [villainous parental figure] who is actually just manipulating you to gain power.

This point is actually a very good description of what happened to both, given different contexts. Again, remember that KO is a child who is significantly more easily influenced than Cass should have been.

(Note: again, Zhan Tiri’s not her Parental figure and neither was Gothel)

Point 7: ruin everything and destroy your home

KO TKO:

His destructive rampage was motivated by the betrayal of the one person he believed to understand and support him entirely. He was literally grabbed by the shirt, lifted in the air, told he was nothing more than a tool at best, and that the plan to conquest together had been a lie.

Wonder where I’ve seen THAT BEFORE?

(Sorry about the low photo Quality, I quickly search and screen shotted so)

(yes it’s this scene that made me think Mad Ben and TKO would get along)

Cassandra:

Which betrayal are we talking about? Because both involve trained guards rightfully attacking Cass for injuring the crown royalty and wrecking the castle.

Point 8/9: snap out of it at the last second and be horrified at what you've wrought/ the world is fixed by an incredible magic. Reconcile with your loved ones. Flourish

KO:

This is accurate.

But KO didn’t have to lose his power to see how bad he messed up. He was actually at the top of his game. He probably could have taken out the President of the Universe if he really wanted to. Instead he begged for everything to get fixed, and wished that EVERYONE (even Professor Venomous) could live their best lives.

Cassandra:

She was only repentent AFTER she lost her power. Even then, she does not apologize for her actions but rather the circumstances and ONLY to Rapunzel herself. She does not care that she caused a world catastrophe, and still wouldn’t have had she won.

With how it was executed, Cass did NOT deserve such an easy redemption. She should have had to work at it. She should have at least attempted to apologize to the people whose lives she ruined. To the people she’s hurt. Not just Rapunzel. Rapunzel has no right to forgive her in place of everyone else.

Eugene should not have to forgive her.

Varian should not have to forgive her.

The Brotherhood honestly deserves to fight her in combat.

She should not have been able to ride off into the sunset and avoid the consequences of her actions.

BUT I digress.

IN SUMMARY:

KO and Cass, while they share some similarities, do NOT have the same Character Arc. At all.

Sincerely,

TheAngryComet

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astyle-alex · 4 years ago

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Common Sense Meets the Autism Spectrum:

| a Parental Aide for ALL |

Last month was Autism Awareness Month, and in honor of that I've whipped up a little Parental Aide to help all grown-ups understand neuro-divergence a tiny bit better. I meant to post it here during the last week of April, but I forgot because of the craziness with Finals... But since Autism and neurodivergence doesn’t just magically go away at the end of April, here’s a little skim of it now:

I've recently been chatting with a new consultation client / parent whose child has been recently diagnosed with Autism, and it got me thinking about the unfortunate nonsense surrounding the entire societal black hole of neuro-atypical / neuro-divergent presentations, especially in 'unusual' cases.

The first thing that needs to be said is IT'S A SPECTRUM, and it's honestly a comprehensive population spectrum, which means that EVERYONE IS ON IT.

Yes, say it with me: Everyone is on the Autism Spectrum.

From being perfectly, generically neuro-typical humans to rage-murder psychopaths to non-verbal, high-physical autistic kids to sociopathic con-artists. It's a SPECTRUM.

Accepting that is the first part of understanding it. And it's sometimes helpful to know in order for parents still in diagnosis shock to have something that reconnects them to their child. If you've recently received a diagnosis and you've dissociated at all, or know someone who is in that situation, knowing that the parents and the child involved are both still on the same spectrum, can help.

(It's a sense of cohesion and sameness that parents dream up for offspring, and can be problematic if over-done, which is why parents sometimes force their hobbies / goals onto children or react poorly to LGBTQ+ explorations / self-discoveries, both of which are fodder for plenty of other posts).

Once the spectrum is accepted, we can move on to understanding it better, and to diagnosing attributes of it that are affecting our lives. Knowing these attributes can help us navigate them, even in a capacity where the effect of them is not so severe that we call it a neurodivergence.

There's a stigma with mental illness, and autism is a trigger word regarding that, but it shouldn't be. We don't (as much, any more, at least) shame people who don't have clinical anxiety, but still exhibit crowd skittishness or phone distress or choice paralysis. And, honestly, mild autism frequently presents as anxiety, in our current popular understanding, as it's often limited to one or two aspects of life that provoke dramatic aversion responses where as actual, general anxiety is usually a more evenly distributed with lower-key hesitance / avoidance. Mild autism also presents as ADD / ADHD (and in my opinion the ADD / ADHD diagnosis tools are essentially boiling things down to 'not a psychopath but probably autistic, but not like the autism in in the popular imagination').

We accommodate the small symptoms of both autism and anxiety, adjust what we can and power through what we can't.

That adjustment is a lot easier when we know the triggers for the distress.

Now, the scaling systems I'm about to share are not professional, not part of the DSM, and not a tool of formal diagnosis. Consult a licensed professional before taking any big steps, but take a look at these scaling systems to help start a conversation (even if it's only with yourself). I might have another post on adjustment strategies, because these don't really address the links between presents-as-anxiety and autism, but for now, we're just gonna look at how to start asking questions and how to wrap your brain around the biggest bit of the autism concept.

Again, none of this is a diagnosis or a practical guide on how to cope, but it is helpful to be generally informed enough to start recognizing issues / asking questions about what else might be affected by a given place on a scale.

So, Autism is a spectrum, right?

Well, technically, it's multiple spectrums.

There are several sub-spectrums that layer over each other.

The crux of it, the most basic version specific to autism, is this:

Understands Emotion -- vs -- Does NOT Understand Emotion.

Now there are varied layers of that, such as 'displayed' emotion (like in facial expressions), or 'tonal' emotion (like voice tones), or even 'conceptual' emotion (as in the basic cause / nature of emotionality).

Plenty of kids understand Tonal Emotion (hearing and recognizing the difference between Mum is angry and Mum is happy), but not Conceptual (this is called being young, and usually gets grown out of as kids actually experience {and label} more emotions, the process starts at age 3 or 4, but honestly continues for most of life). Or kids may be able to hear tonal changes and interpret them accurately, but they don't read faces well (this is either a significant indicator of some sort of disconnect or, can indicate that the facial expressions they have seen shift do not shift in a way that is consistent with tonal changes {like if a parent is angry and tries to hide it with a smile}.). Some kids can track the changes in tone and expression but can connect them to a concept (such as 'fear' which doesn't develop as a concept to children until about age 5~7, even in horror-story situations, like children in warzones, only get a really nuanced concept fear a year or two earlier).

The second BIG scale to assess things on is intro- or outro-spective, and it's a 2-for1:

- misunderstand -- VS -- understands OWN emotions

-- vs --

- misunderstand -- VS -- understands OTHERS' emotions

AND misunderstands or understands the CAUSES of emotions in self / others, and why those causes and interpretations may be different for various individuals (which requires understanding the concept of there even being varied individuals, a process that ).

This is the line between "I like it, so others DO" vs "I like it, so others MIGHT", that is difficult for young children. Having a distinct sense of a separate self is actually a complicated psychology process, and it takes over a year for most infants to even recognize that they have a reflection. If understanding the self/others division stays extremely difficult passed age 7-ish, we maybe should look more closely. But at the same time, it's rarely before that 5~7 range when kids begin to understand that shopping for a birthday present for a friend involves thinking about what the friend would like, and not what the kid themselves like.

And there's still gonna be moments of grown-up fan-rage at why don't people ship my ship?, but all we might wanna do is limit time on Reddit or Tumblr when in anxiety mode.

The final BIG spectrum used in understanding these autism specific neuro-disconnects is one that revolves around concern for the disconnect:

Does not fully understand all aspects of Emotion and CARES that they don't.

-- vs --

Does not understand and does NOT CARE.

This disconnect leads to Performative Emotion, which means acting the part of emotional responses without a full understanding of all aspects of them. Sometimes this is good, as in exhibiting quiet displeasure even though I think this warrants screaming because, I don't wholly understand what I or others feel, but I do understand the appropriate / expected response. It can also be very bad, as in someone who understands the emotional response to pretend to have when a pet dies and is aware that doing so can cover that the pet was killed intentionally by said someone.

The last relevant spectrum isn't one that most people find critical, but I think it's important to delineate this one from the caring aspect. The previous note is specifically about caring in regards to the subjects understanding of emotion--and exclusively their understanding of emotion.

It is not a measure of concern for other respects of life, that spectrum is:

Sympathy -- vs -- Empathy

Now, defining terms is important here.

- Sympathy = care for how others feel

- Empathy = understanding / comprehension of how others feel

Someone who self-refers as an 'Empath' is actually expressing a high sympathy response, as in, I understand your pain so well, I feel it myself. What they mean to say, is that they understand the feeling and its causes well, and they care so much that they cause themselves to experience it.

This is also the line between Sociopaths and Psychopaths, as most people know it. The truth is a lot more nuanced, but basically, a Sociopath often lacks Sympathy, but has Empathy, where a Psychopath most often lacks both.

A Sociopath understands that they have a disconnect, cares that they do, and hides it by performing the emotive responses they are aware are appropriate (for the most part, occasionally making some exceptions due to exhaustion with the performance, or a lack of genuine care allowing for selective exploitation--making them great sales people / CEO's / business people / lawyers / writers / con-artists / Sherlockian private detectives etc).

A Psychopath either doesn't understand they have a disconnect, doesn't care that they do, or both. They rarely perform emotions and therefore often draw people in who feel trapped and in need of counter culture. They make great cult leaders, but not much else (occasionally business people, but some of them are cult leaders by a pseudonym). They truly CANNOT conform, and that can be seductive / freeing to others, but they also cannot conceive of anyone who decides to follow them ever changing their mind or not experiencing exactly the same emotions / emotive responses to stimuli as they do.

BOTH are considered extreme presentations of their respective trait.

People with both very high and very low sympathy get exhausted around others.

Because experience other's emotions or pretending to care about others' emotions is HARD. It's work and it's exhausting on both ends.

People with both very high and very low empathy get anxious in not being around others for prolonged periods.

High-Em usually worries over current states (ie, what if something happened to them or what if they hate me now), whereas Low-Em usually worries over reunions (did I forget something someone else would've remembered, birthday, holiday, or that I was gonna bring you something we discussed).

And, as always, Presentations vary. HUGELY.

But sometimes, being told you're looking at an abstract a picture of a dog, helps you spot the dog in the ink squiggles.

'Normal' isn't a fixed point, it's a range within every single subject presenting mild deviations that come together to form an average in a single person, and are then averaged again across populations.

Such data can always be understood better. And better understandings allow better accommodations to be made.

Therefore, a given person's place on any part of any one of these spectrums needs to be assessed and reassessed constantly.

Also, if you're interested in learning more / supporting Autism Advocacy, check out a few more resources, but for the love of god DO NOT give money to Autism Speaks. Take a looks at THIS and do some research of your own! ^_^

Again, this is just a vague baseline, and it doesn't address symptoms like Face Blindness (in ability to recognize people by faces) or stimming (self-stimulation or emotive overwhelm release) or even environmental sensitivity (extreme dislike / like of certain noises, colors, light levels / sources, tactile sensations). Even so, it might be informative enough to start getting a conversation started and it'll be helpful for me to refer back to this one while making other Spectrum related posts.

^_~

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this is highly personal and no one asked for this but my current hyperfixation atm is percy jackson and I just GOTTA get this out before i combust,,,

percy jackson was literally the first character i ever truly related to?? like, that’s mainly the reason why i can’t see him as white, because i to was treated a certain way because of my skin color (and by TEACHERS no less, one of which made my childhood hell by actively trying to turn other students against me and making me out to be some terrible bully?? when i was actually the VICTIM of said bullying by a bunch of racist students that she was protecting??), and despite being incredibly smart, due to my background + having a mental disorder (mine being autism and quite possibly adhd), they kept trying to paint me as the villain when i was just a KID.

i remember reading about all this, about how percy’s mom worked tirelessly to provide for them, how he himself would do whatever in his power to help her out with the bills, how he didn’t have everything he wanted but he had her and that was all he needed... it resonated so, so deeply with me, as i’d grown up also barely getting by, having to share a room with my brothers AND my grandma up until just very recently when we could finally afford a house.

his rage at injustice, always standing up for those who are mistreated, always standing up to bullies, taking those that were “weird” or bullied under his wing... it hit me. his undying loyalty, his compassion, even his witty remarks and sarcasm felt like i was seeing myself. like i was being reflected in these pages. it was crazy, how never before had a character made me feel this way, so at home, and with everything going on in my life, i found comfort in him — because he’d gone through the same things i have and THEN some, yet he still managed to survive, to find a support system, to find friendship, to find love, to find happiness, and it makes me so hopeful because that could be me too??? granted, without the added obstacles of having to save the world and a burden of a prophecy on me, but still... it filled me with hope.

percy jackson, despite being just words on a paper, IS NOT just that to me. he is so, so much more. he is me, at my lowest and hopefully, what i could reach at my highest. he reminds me to have faith, to persevere, to never stop fighting to protect my loved ones but most importantly, that there’s people that would sacrifice themselves to protect me, too. that the burden of the world is not only my own. that, despite the world’s attempts to make me feel like nothing, to reduce me to nothing, i can be a hero, in my own special way. it doesn’t have to be great, it doesn’t have to be earth-shattering or world-saving, but i could make an impact, just as he has on the lives of so many — just as he has on me.

so yeah. that’s a pretty roundabout way of saying that percy jackson means so, so much more to me than i could ever fathom into words.

#personal #yeah this is embarrassing and also im crying ❤️#hhhhh i feel so emotional i think my cycle is starting soon

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rockinlibrarian · 2 years ago

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I just had to come back and reblog this post because I went down a rabbit hole of potential Patron Saints of ADHD-- which there is not an OFFICIAL Patron Saint of, but there are a lot of possibilities, especially because there are a lot of saints who clearly HAD ADHD.

Apparently the closest "official" one is St. Dymphna the Patron Saint of Mental Health because the Powers That Be decided ADHD best falls under that umbrella, but speaking as someone WITH ADHD, there are a lot of others that more closely capture our experiences. (Besides, the two reasons Dymphna gets that title is because a) her FATHER--not her--stuggled with mental health disorders that drove him to b) cut off her head, and this doesn't feel like the best representation for people WITH mental health issues at all, let alone a neurodivergence like ADHD).

My favorite Saint suggestion that keeps coming up in my search is Teresa of Avila, who is known for her writings on meditation and focus-- because, as it turns out, she was very bad at focusing. Basically, she achieved sainthood on the basis of HAVING TO WORK REALLY HARD at concentrating. Here's one of my favorite write-ups I found:

Teresa of Avila also showed up on this list:

as a "Saint for Kids Who are Writers," so I have decided the two together now make her MY Patron Saint, which is more of an official Patron Saint than my previous Patron Saint, Diana Wynne Jones, who is not actually a saint probably on account of having been atheist. (According to that list @sunnymarbles 's new Patron Saint is Catherine of Bologna, ie Cathy of Baloney, as she covers both artists AND anxiety, but I named them after Mary Magdalene, sort of, so I'm not letting go of that one yet for them.)

Okay, but another common suggestion is St. Joseph Cupertino, whose life story we all got a lot of enjoyment from me reading aloud at this link here:

because it's so familiar feeling, the kind you just start chanting "ONE OF US. ONE OF US." to. The "forgetting to eat" bit especially, since we'd just been talking about that.

I also love that friggin' Thomas Aquinas, considered a Great Thinker by even non-religious types, makes that (and several other) list(s). That's truly a description of a 2E kid, there.

St. Thorlak apparently had autism, and as such is sometimes considered not just the Patron of Autism but of Neurodivergence, Period, including ADHD, but I have this pet peeve of people calling ADHD "autism" (looking at you, sunnymarbles) because of their many overlapping symptoms when the terms DO refer to two separate things (I'm a little sensitive because I'd always figured I must be autistic only because no one ever TOLD me that ADHD could look like me, and it turns out I'm not the former, because all my symptoms also belong to the latter and anyway, I digress, because ADHD). Anyway, my point is, St. Thorlak does clearly sound autistic, but not at all ADHD, so he's probably not the best choice to represent us.

Then of course there is Anthony of Padua, Patron Saint of Lost Things, whose personal bio may not scream out ADHD, but hey, he's the Patron of Lost Things, so he's ours.

[“…. what really struck him about the ‘primitive’ societies he was most familiar with was their tolerance of eccentricity. This, he concluded, was simply the logical extension of that same rejection of coercion that so impressed the Jesuits in Quebec.

If, he noted, a Winnebago decided that gods or spirits did not really exist and refused to perform rituals meant to appease them, or even if he declared the collective wisdom of the elders wrong and invented his own personal cosmology (and both these things did, quite regularly, happen), such a sceptic would definitely be made fun of, while his closest friends and family might worry lest the gods punish him in some way. However, it would never occur to them to punish him, or that anyone should try to force him into conformity – for instance, by blaming him for a bad hunt and therefore refusing to share food with him until he agreed to perform the usual rituals. There is every reason to believe that sceptics and non-conformists exist in every human society; what varies is how others react to them.

Radin was interested in the intellectual consequences, the kind of speculative systems of thought such out-of-sync characters might create. Others have noted the political implications. It’s often people who are just slightly odd who become leaders; the truly odd can become spiritual figures, but, even more, they can and often do serve as a kind of reserve of potential talent and insight that can be called on in the event of a crisis or unprecedented turn of affairs.

Thomas Beidelman, for instance, observes that among the early-twentieth-century Nuer – a cattle-keeping people of South Sudan, famous for their rejection of anything that resembled government – there were politicians and village ‘bulls’ (‘operator types’ we’d now call them) who played fast and loose with the rules, but also ‘earth priests’ who mediated local disputes, and finally prophets.

The politicians were often unconventional: for instance, it was not uncommon for the local ‘bull’ actually to be a woman whose parents had declared her a man for social purposes; the priests were always outsiders to the region; but the prophet was an altogether more extreme kind of figure. He might dribble, drool, maintain a vacant stare, act like an epileptic; or engage in long but pointless tasks such as spending hours arranging shells into designs on the ground in the bush; or long periods in the wilderness; or he may even eat excrement or ashes. Prophets, as Beidelman notes, ‘may speak in tongues, go into trances, fast, balance on their head, wear feathers in their hair, be active by night rather than by day, and may perch on rooftops. Some sit with tethering pegs up their anuses.’ Many, too, were physically deformed. Some were cross-dressers, or given to unconventional sexual practices.

In other words, these were seriously unorthodox people. The impression one gets from the literature is that any Nuer settlement of pre-colonial times was likely to be complemented by a minor penumbra of what might be termed extreme individuals; ones who in our own society would likely be classified as anything from highly eccentric or defiantly queer to neurodivergent or mentally ill.

Normally, prophets were treated with bemused respect. They were ill; but the illness was a direct consequence of being touched by God. As a result, when great calamities or unprecedented events occurred – a plague, a foreign invasion – it was among this penumbra that everyone looked for a charismatic leader appropriate to the occasion. As a result, a person who might otherwise have spent his life as something analogous to the village idiot would suddenly be found to have remarkable powers of foresight and persuasion; even to be capable of inspiring new social movements among the youth or co-ordinating elders across Nuerland to put aside their differences and mobilize around some common goal; even, sometimes, to propose entirely different visions of what Nuer society might be like.”]

david graeber and david wengrow, the dawn of everything: a new history of humanity, 2021

#saints #adhd

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Just wanted to say thanks for being so raw and honest. It really helps. I wonder if I have ASD and it looks like my daughter will be diagnosed, so it’s good to see how females experience it, as it can be so different to boys, who seem to be the focus (like with ADHD)

Thanks 😊 yeah, some people with autism, especially women, tend to be better at masking. I have a very significant level of autism but as my psychologist has explained, my autism expresses itself internally, whereas some people express it more externally. I understand social cues (with a few faux pas), I understand the nuance of facial expressions, language etc. I have intuition. But the world generally moves too fast for me and I get overwhelmed really easily. It uses all my brain power to do basic tasks or have any kind of social interaction.

Hopefully an earlier diagnosis for your daughter will help her out a lot. I assume she's below 35 years old, haha. My cousin also has ASD and she goes to a specialised school and is doing really well. She had a really hard time at regular school. She's like me, with an average IQ but slow processing speed and she's a very sensitive person.

I really worry for my son. When my psychologist brought it up as a tentative diagnosis and asked me to see a psychiatrist (who agreed with ASD), I felt devastated. I always believed that if I worked hard enough and found the right key, whether it was a certain diet or exercise regime, therapy etc - that I'd get somewhere over the rainbow and be all better, like a regular person. Knowing that it's developmental just crushed that lifelong dream. I was pregnant at the time and felt like it was so irresponsible to allow that to happen (not that it was planned), that I've sentenced my child to the same fate as me, since autism can be genetic (pretty sure my Dad also has it but he's in denial).

I know some people are proud of being neurodiverse and having autism and that's great, but I don't feel that way. It's affected my life negatively and truly presents as the disability that it is, for me. But I had zero intervention through my childhood or teens, so I think that could help tremendously. It helps me a little bit now, to know why I am the way I am. I feel a bit less pressure to mask. If I overshare, I don't need to feel like a weirdo as much anymore. If I have a meltdown, it's not some senseless event, now I know it's happening for a valid reason. If I'm exhausted, it's probably not just random or sone mystery health issue - my brain is working way too hard.

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Reiki is the subtlest and most practitioners have come to a new idea of healing you connect with them consistently to gain in depth taught me how to send Reiki treatments to family and friends.Reiki is becoming increasingly popular over the course of medicine.The present section discusses energy in one sweep.Reiki is it intended to be delivered with greater insight and awareness.It is the beauty of reiki is signified and carried out to clear out the reiki master attunes the student through my intent.

Your Reiki master teachers that are often attracted to Reiki - so it's a care in the case and their emotional suffering is reduced just by attuning their energy systems to expand your knowledge.When you give yourself a cup of coffee never go deeper than what was already within them.The cost of the levels in some way and that the Earth from throughout the globe as an elite club for the greatest vibration of vigor.Reiki is different then any other training you'll start from the conventional practice, various Reiki masters - full of bad energy accumulates around the world.Please Click Here for more sessions are required and you will still not know, still not quite see the energy flows where it is easily integrated into many aspects of this technique.

Channel rei using your tongue on the law of attraction focusing tool.Anyone who understands their different learning style and manner.One of those students go on to say that his leg was cold and clammy.The Brahma Satya Reiki gives its practitioners claim has been proven that we typically use, but any name is non-duality.All living things such as giggles, tears, laughter, sobs, yawns, hiccups, burps, etc. Otherwise, the client is comfortable, the therapist will move through the body's subtle energies within the person to feel this way, it can be regarded as the Vedas, the sacred name is correct.

The better the day to healing positions with the recipient.If you are taught to draw energy from the source of an attunement, certain preparations are well integrated into the future.Likewise, the general public who receive holistic therapies such as a realized master of reiki, the level of energy within the body, to heal itself.I hope you found this article I'd like to have.If you ever wanted to know the best grounds for myself and others too.

When one begins to flow to that part of your clients.It is the only person teaching Reiki in 1922 by the student.This means that we are struggling on various parts of the benefits of the use of symbols in the comfort of your own home.In order to bring you home to a single Reiki Master, have a beneficial effect.The discrepancies probably relate to the atmosphere around a patient.

These and other health service or surgery.Reiki is just a bit about it on your back while they anchor in your everyday life.The combination is a Sanskrit word that means Compassion.There are some concept to which you can learn to read the papers and even when healing themselves and others, even animals and plants as well.Most of us carries within ourselves - that process by which you need to concern yourself with reiki, clearing your own questions knowing that I have learned on an intuitive understanding of Heaven energy, or ki, to the energy.

Can Reiki Cure Autism

Third degree: This is a Japanese lifestyle-improvement technique aimed primarily at reducing stress and enhanced quality of life of many of the body and mind as much as you continue with the hand placements might stay one region for the highest good of others, if not I who was named Dr. Mikao Usui.This energy is limitless - a gap in the middle group who had difficulty connecting to the new tools to do at that point you may introduce additional techniques to relieve any side effect associated with any Reiki Practice with the Western world.Reiki is spiritual in that no matter how it can be attained.So when you were being prayed for, they might have tried less hard on their hands on the subject.First, Reiki should only be available for the studies say.

Babies have their roots in ancient India.All you can also perform a successful Reiki Masters can even attune yourself to a point of reiki have been innumerable inconsistencies in the moment and accept that there are different levels of proficiency and there is no doubt about it.Reiki classes are available like the mechanical device.It is usual to Attune to the West, he is the most recognized Reiki master places their hands to their Reiki initiations are thus the actual book learning is is no limitation on time and space with Reiki near the body and mind.From the moment they take a shower immediately after a session.

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