#the intersectionality of hate

[origami-butterfly]

I know people are angry about predstrogen's ban right now- as they should be. But I really wish more people were talking about Nex Benedict's murder.

They were my age. Not even out of school. And they were murdered. Not "passed away" or "left us" murdered.

And I am so, so angry that this still happens. People will say our world is more accepting and that we don't need to fight anymore, when clearly we do! And I don't want to stop fighting until the world is a safe place for trans kids and trans elders.

So don't forget them. Their name was Nex Benedict.

Edit- important things from the notes:

Nex was indigenous. This is an intersectional hate crime.

Nex used he/him with friends and they/them with family, so I think he used he/they with a preference for he/him.

His murder has been called a suicide. It is very clearly not a suicide.

His name was Nex Benedict

[aroaceleovaldez]

it was a thing for awhile in the fandom (and still is) to focus on one demographic a character is a part of while ignoring others like they can only exist one at a time (primarily being erasing disability traits or experiences the characters describe, usually by taking a trait meant to indicate one thing and claiming it can only indicate a separate thing and never anything else)

but the absolute biggest offender will always be when Rick and Mark Oshiro just fully did that in The Sun And The Star. like. oh okay. this is what we're doing now. and fully said it too. "Nico only likes Mythomagic to look at the hot men on the cards" ah yes of course it's definitely not because. he has adhd (and autism coding) and Mythomagic is his hyperfixation/special interest. nah that couldn't be it. Because of course Nico's only trait is "Gay" and that's the only thing that can inform his character Ever. How could i be so silly as to think otherwise? (sarcasm sarcasm)

anyways the fandom could really stand to learn about intersectionality that'd be great. rick too probably. also just remember disability exists in general and is kind of very central to the series and nearly every character. thanks.

[cosmic-vanity]

People will say "institutionalised misandry isn't an actual thing so you can't use the term transmisandry" and it's like. Okay then. Fair enough, I guess. You're completely missing the point of intersectionality but fine, fine.

Let's use transandrophobia instead. Because androphobia is a real thing that some people have. And then it's "no but you see calling something androphobia is victimising the men who committed the crimes to be afraid of in the first place, therefore you have to stop calling your struggles transandrophobia" and it's like. Hmmm. That's not true, but whatever.

So let's use antitransmasculinity! "But no, actually, because masculinity is a BAD thing that only EVIL people who want to HURT others perform!!!! So you can't use that word either!!! MASCULINITY IS ACID AND VINEGAR AND EVERYTHING SINISTER!!!!!!!!!!"

I'm starting to notice... a lot of you don't actually give a shit to what label we use... you just don't want transmascs talking about our experiences.

[sameteeth]

in s3ep2, eleanor tells mrs. hudson she doesnt come from privilege, which mrs. hudson immediately denies. but i think its SOOO telling of eleanor's character! she sees herself as a woman in a world full of men, which she is, but she completely ignores the class and racial divides she obviously benefits from. she claims she has no privilege to mrs. hudson, who comes from no money and works as a chambermaid to woodes rodgers, leaving behind her beloved children to make sure eleanor has clean clothes and to empty her chamberpot. eleanor had power on nassau, power she wielded for her own benefit and to the severe detriment of others. obviously she experienced misogyny, but she was never forced into poverty, never forced into sex work, never forced into service of any kind, because her father was wealthy and she was born into a higher class. her experiences of misogyny and oppression are vastly different than mrs. hudson's. but for her to tell a chambermaid she experienced no privilege? it's laughably untrue. eleanor oversaw and directly profitted from the trade of hundreds if not thousands of slaves on nassau, was raised by "chattel property of the guthrie estate" mr. scott, who is never even given a name in his own tongue (on screen, at least), never showed kindness to anyone but those who put money in her pocket because she was born with that money and that trade empire already in the guthrie name. she had to fight to get it, and fight she did, but the fact that those things were so close to her reach just by virtue of the circumstances of her birth? that's privilege, whether or not she sees it that way

[liwuid]

op deleting replies talking abt transmisogyny in transmasc spaces or pushback on the idea of "transand.rophobia" but not deleting the blatant terf reply calling trans women rapists .........something stinks!

[sophieinwonderland]

hey coming from a traumagenic system that’s genuinely trying not to attack you or anything could you please not like go in anti endo tags and such

and like I know some of us are doing the same thing but I personally believe that this is just a cycle and

sorry it just really triggers some people to see endos in safe places, and I know you probably feel the same thing, and I get where you’re coming from but fire can’t really work against fire

sorry if I worded this weird I can’t explain things well I just REALLY hope you understand what I’m trying to say (and that I’d really appreciate it if you didn’t act hostile towards me when you answer this ask)

I appreciate you being polite and I hope this doesn't come off as too aggressive, but...

When did we collectively decide that hate was entitled to a safe space? That someone should be allowed to say whatever they want about a marginalized community, but if you call them out for what they've done then you're the bad guy for breaking their boundaries?

When did we decide that the boundaries of people spreading hate are more important than the damage that hate will do?

Would we do this for other communities and people?

If people called themselves "anti-transgender," would you be saying they should get their own safe space that trans people should respect? Anti-gay? Anti-Asian? Anti-black? Anti-Jew? Anti-autistic? Anti-DID? Anti-fat people?

In any of these cases, would we prioritize the boundaries of the people spreading hate over the communities they're spreading hate against?

And if not, why should we for anti-endos???

Why should I see people who are actively spreading hate against me for my very existence, and be expected to simply shrug my shoulders and decide that I should prioritize their boundaries while they spread rhetoric and disinformation that is intended to harm me and the people I care about?

I believe that in an ideal world, there should be no spaces where hate speech should be accepted nor allowed to propagate unchallenged.

[canichangemyblogname]

I think a lot of you on here wildly misunderstand intersectionality. Because it accounts for the fact that men are not oppressed for being men *and* the fact that man-ness is and has been inaccessible to black, brown, indigenous, disabled, and queer men. Man-ness is narrowly defined to exclude the most, but that does not negate that men are not oppressed for being men. One may, however, be oppressed for not fitting into that narrow definition of manhood.

Intersectionality accounts for the fact that white women are oft second best in a racialized sex-caste system. It accounts for the fact that they, too, oversaw the plantation and garnered wealth on the backs of enslaved men and women. It accounts for the fact that white women were the homemakers of the land they or their people helped steal and the mothers of children meant to supplant the indigenous population of the area. And it accounts for the fact that denying black men and gay men and disabled men access to manhood was a way to also strip them of personhood. Because humans have a gender; animals only have a sex.

It accounts for the fact that M > F is not the sole or predominant dynamic in the world, but is only one dynamic. It accounts for the fact that a woman (often white) can hold all the cards and the sociopolitical power in a relationship (dynamic) when the other half of that dynamic experiences specific marginalizations. It accounts for the fact that blackness and transness affect a man’s relationship with manhood and the sex caste system.

And it accounts for the fact that while men may be oppressed, they are not oppressed *for* being men.

[theteaisaddictive]

radical feminism making a comeback (/derogatory) was not on my 2024 bingo card

[romicat]

Sophie thinks it's adorable how innocent Kamala can be.

[theantichristpluviophile]

I feel sick.

Some of the things happening at far right "protests" in the UK:

Setting fire to hotels housing asylum seekers WHILE THEY'RE INSIDE and blocking exits, acid attacks on Hijabis, defacing Muslim gravestones and using parts of them as projectiles, ripping off hijabs, doing Nazi salutes, using Swastikas and Triskele's (white supremecist symbol), setting vehicles alight, machete mobs, graffiti-ing racist slogans and 'get out of England', smashing in windows of cars and houses, stabbing people of ethic minorities, attacking and beating people of ethic minorities, raiding shops, police attacked and soldiers stabbed etc.

This is what happens when you take a severely uneducated population, subject them to 14 years of austerity, the lowest living standard on record, and combine this with far right misinformation and propaganda (surrounding the Southport femicide) and the constant scapegoating of minorities by politicians promoted by the media. This is the result you get.

It's disheartening to see these disgusting incidents being labeled as mere "far-right protests" by the media, while peaceful pro-Palestinian demonstrations are often referred to as "hate marches" or "riots" when none of the above is taking place. The stark contrast in the way these events are reported really highlights the bias and double standards that exist in our society.

If you are from an ethnic minority group, please take necessary precautions to stay safe. Hijabi women, your hijab is a visual identifier for these individuals, and an invitation to harm you. While ultimately common sense, it is crucial to be aware of your surroundings and to exercise caution when in public spaces. Stay safe.

What have we come to.

Attend anti-fascist marches, give your support to people affected, help clean up and donate to fundraisers/gofundmes/charities if you can!

[soldierandawar]

hey, so, did ya'll know that the dems appealing to the white centrists has actually worked before and actually does work in most cases? did ya'll know that a lot of people who voted actually thought Kamala was too liberal? that majority of folks think she's an extreme radical? did ya'll know that? i feel like ya'll don't know that.

democrats always get heat for not appealing to the far left (rightfully so, IMO), and they will never and have never had as perfect messaging as they did with President Obama in 2008. but the far left is not and never will be a reliable base. every time they lose an office, they move even further right because...well. that's what's winning. but even in that, the Kamala Harris and Tim Walz combo is the most progressive ticket we've had since i've been able to vote, and maybe in my lifetime (though i don't have enough knowledge to make that case.). but the majority of the country lives in the center. they're more likely to catch those white centrists than they are the average leftist, no matter their campaign.

what's interesting, and I feel like most people are skipping over this, is that donald trump is winning the electoral votes and the popular vote. let that sink in for a second. do you know the last time a republican won the popular vote? in fact, he picked up voters that he lost in 2020, and why do you think that is?

i'm not saying that the democrats are perfect. you won't see or hear me praising them, ever. i've got my own beef with the party and its representatives, and there are about a thousand things they could've done better. that said, this is a big-picture situation, not a small one. Kamala Harris didn't lose just because of her stance (or non-stance) on Palestine. she didn't just lose because she didn't appeal to far left voters. she didn't just lose because of strategy. there was a national far-right swing. things are not the same as they were in 2008. people have been emboldened again. bigotry is loud and proud again. anti-trans and lgbtq bills are everywhere. they're taking important history out of schools. even if she made all the right moves and said all the right things, the race still would've been up in the air because Kamala Harris stands for everything that even the most "progressive" people don't want.

[misespinas]

When I see plastic surgery like this, I don't feel disgust for the women. I feel disgust for the society that convinced them their noses are not beautiful

[6okuto]

one day people will stop looking at misogynistic men and saying they're secretly gay, and finally realize implicitly associating non-queer men's hatred with queerness as well as disregarding the patriarchy's pervasiveness helps (checks notes) literally nobody

[abearinthewoods]

Theyfab transmisogynists telfs like you should get the gun

Yes. Give me the gun, enbyphobic bigots such as yourself should not be allowed to have one.

I hope one day the fog lifts and you are able live a happy life without hate because you deserve to feel the mental calm that can bring but until then i wish you a very step on a lego.

[thechaoticrow]

reminders for the grishaverse fandom in general (minor TW for brief SA mentions)

- kaz brekker is disabled, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay to call him a cr*pple [i]. don’t use slurs you can’t reclaim

- wylan is canonically dyslexic. “wylan can’t read” jokes aren’t funny

- leading on from this, “jordie floaty” jokes also aren’t funny. that’s just joking about trauma

- alina was a child, the darkling is an old, old man. he did not truly ‘love’ her, he groomed her

- nina does have a personality outside of being plus-size. she isn’t just the waffles girl, and the show constantly making her the only one to be strongly associated with food and food jokes is kinda fatphobic tbh

- if you’re cis and only headcanon wylan as transmasc bc you think he’s an ‘uwu van sunshine baby’, you’re probs just transphobic

- calling inej an ‘investment’ over and over again and reinforcing that joke is just a bit of a slap in the face to trafficking survivors

- people can enjoy the books and the show as separate things, but people are also allowed to be dissatisfied with one or the other and consume media critically. in terms of inclusivity and intersectionality, critical consumption is actively encouraged

- if you’re unhappy with casting then hate the casting directors and producers, not the cast themselves

- the media itself may be fictional, but there are real-life issues at play. ableism, representation of plus-size bodies, SA, etc. fiction does affect reality as it is often the lens through which we view and engage with certain types of oppression

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

i wish ppl would stop saying “terfs see non transfems as allies!” no they see them as easy grooming victims. and unfortunately often that’s in the sexual sense- underage trans people have their bodies fetishised, and the amount of terfs i've seen openly wishing to sexually assault trans people who aren’t trans feminine is astonishing, along with a whole lot of “they should be raped and impregnated to fuck the mental illness out of them.” and even when it’s not literal terfs do not wish to Help non transfem people. they do not see them as people, they see them as objects to protect, infantilise and dehumanise. their “allyship” would entail them controlling and dehumanising trans people and treating them like disobedient children at best and again- i have seen multiple terfs fetishise sexually assaulting trans men.

like the violent extermination rhetoric is less prevalent and the violent transmisogyny of terfs should never be erased but if you think infantilisation at best and unwilling sexualisation at worst is actively welcoming trans people then you genuinely haven’t read enough on how terfs see non transfem people. wanting to groom people into a toxic ideology, control them until you “fix” a fundamental part of them, and in an unfortunate amount of cases wishing to force sexual acts upon them to “prove” they’re really cis is not seeking alliance it’s seeking a vulnerable population to prey upon. especially neurodivergent trans people erasing the forced infantilisation of neurodivergent trans people who are not transfem is not in fact very helpful the intersection between transphobia and ableism is massive and discussing it should not be seen as opposition to talking about transmisogyny and anyone who uses it to claim transmisogyny isn’t real is an asshole but reducing neurodivergent trans people being objectified and treated like stupid babies who should never be allowed bodily autonomy as “wanting allyship” is also shitty like did you actually read jkrs ableism if you think she wants to “protect” anyone you didn’t she sees us autistic folks as- well, she's not far gone enough to say the r slur, but she clearly wants to, and thinks we all are too incompetent to know ourselves. like. bro.