#that's all i'm asking for

[doberbutts]

Surgeon: have you changed your legal gender marker yet?

Me: no, I'm afraid to do so before I get a hysterectomy in this political climate, since people like me get correctively raped on a frequent basis I need to be able to access care that insurance would not grant if I have an M marker

Surgeon: ugh, yeah, I don't blame you, I completely understand

[sparrowsortadrawzzz]

some things I've learned that in my opinion, I think people need to think about before posting:

if it makes you unhappy, scroll.

if you don't like the content, don't interact. it's not for you therefore don't mess with it.

dont drag out people's mistakes after theyve very clearly (note, i said VERY CLEARLY, as in genuinely apologized or is trying to fix it) had a change, growth is possible...

if it's not hurting anyone, let people enjoy whatever they're doing, cringe should be dead unless it's some bigoted shit or something

be kind..

be considerate...

try to see it in every single possible way before you make an opinion or judgement....

i think that's the basics, but add on if you want I suppose ^^

[pardonmydelays]

not swifties saying "stay away from her" because mr. hamilton got the album that taylor sent him? i'm a semi-retired swiftie and just saw a bunch of us talking about it. i'm sorry but we are in nooo position to be telling other people to be staying away from girlie 😭. i'm tired of the fandom and idc anymore, i'm saying all the things in my head - if i was a diehard lin manuel miranda fan, i'd be saying the same thing to her given her recent track record with both song quality and personal actions.

you know what? even from a relatively neutral attitude towards mr. hamilton, he seems to be doing great professionally and personally, so hats off to you sir. the person who sent you that album and her fans are all fucking messes rn don't even worry about it. so disappointed in us for being rude to other artists like olivia rodrigo or even miranda (he's a broadway guy right? he's not even direct competition) when it's all punching down.

honestly swifties being rude towards other celebrities is nothing new. i saw a lot of really nasty comments about beyonce & her new album, don't even get me started on olivia... you don't have to like their music, that's fine, but is it really that hard to at least be respectful?

as for lin, i know he has a lot of haters. but swifties calling him cringe may be the funniest thing ever... cringe is what i would call some of taylor's lyrics on her new album, but then swifties would say that "i don't understand her". or, better, "you hate a successful woman", well then, why do you hate on beyonce & olivia? do you also hate a successful woman?

i feel like everyday is getting worse & worse in this fandom. i'm really tired, you know. as someone who's been a swiftie for 15 years, i'm fucking done with all of this.

[anormalkidingotham]

you know what would be nice? just one day where nothing bad or weird or dangerous happens in gotham and no one takes down every street sign in the city causing extreme chaos everywhere or anything like that

[abby-the-druid]

Okay, for real, real question.

How the fuck are you actually supposed to write a dissertation? Like... there is no guidance? Is that my advisor or is that me?

I feel like someone said "Hey, write me a 150 page document about something you did over the course of the last 5 years."

And I said, "Okay, but like, how do you want that to look?" and no one answered.

And so I said, "but like, you think x y z should go in it, right?" and no one answered.

and so I said, "but like... how should I go about that?" and no one fucking answered.

So now, like as of a day ago, I was asked to have a completed dissertation to turn into my advisor NEXT WEEK.

So I've been doing the spongebob, right? Like staring down at paper, writing furiously, reading furiously, I have had a headache every day for at least 2 straight weeks; I have bags under the bags on my eyes - my fiancé literally told me I have 3 consecutive bags under each eye where they just keep getting worse; I am not sleeping well unless I take my large dose medicine; I am not tired, I am only tired, I am not hungry, my body does not feel normal, I am not bathing regularly, I am behind on chores and

I

STILL

DON'T

KNOW

WHAT THE FUCK I'M SUPPOSED TO DO TO WRITE THIS.

What the fuck am I supposed to be doing? Like I'm going to give this a try but I cannot express how much I DO NOT KNOW what I'm doing.

And you say, but surely, Abby, in the last 5 years at this institution you've published right? Surely your advisor has kept up and made sure you're making good progress, right? Obviously, they have prepared you in some capacity, right?

I would say to you, unfortunately, no. No, I have not published a single first author pub in the last 5 years. My advisor has not kept up to the point over the summer we had not a single meeting -I need weekly meetings otherwise I fall into the void and am taken by the aether- and after waiting 3 months for him to give me feedback on my first paper - the first one I've written in any professional capacity - I am told to deliver a full thesis.

Somebody just fucking take me out brother. I am beyond lost at this point and feel like a failure.

Thanks for listening.

If you do have advice, it would be greatly appreciated because I'm losing my fucking mind.

[bethanydelleman]

Fanny Price:

Mansfield Park Memes, Ch 34

[thisismyobsessionnow]

Can they keep having bad weather on Tahiti tomorrow too so we get the surfing on Friday and Saturday night instead and I don't have to work with zero sleep, please and thank you 🙏

[for28seconds]

Girls just want one clean weekend where Charles doesn't have to say 'It's like this' even once. It's me, I'm the Girls 😭

It's not an F1 weekend when Charles doesn't have to go through at least one of the hundreds of different shenanigans pulled by the team

[scalpel-mom-mori]

all men do is lie

[dovesndecay]

it would be nice if my mental illness was exacerbated by nothing instead of not eating enough, sleeping too much, and pure unadulterated money stress

anyway i want to scream

[ultrabananapudding]

It is difficult to care about anything else in life when there are multiple genocides happening simultaneously, for decades now, without anything being done by those who have the power to do so.

I can't complain about doing the dishes or having to wake up early for class when it is a privilege to be able to live such a peaceful life.

It is miserable having too see so much destruction, so much suffering, on a daily basis while you are powerless to do anything to stop it.

It's even more mind boggling when all the governments and big media giants keep peddling the same bullshit propaganda that basically absolves the Israeli government of any wrong doing.

Palestine will be free, I just hope I get to witness it during my lifespan 🇵🇸

[inkskinned]

the tradwife movement is the same as it has always been - back in the kitchen, back to breeding - it just has better branding.

when i was younger, i hated pink. i was not like other girls. this is now something i'm embarrassed of - this was not me being a "girl's girl."

but it was expressing something many of us felt at the time: i literally wasn't what girlhood was supposed to be. this is a hard thing to explain, but you know when you're not performing girlhood correctly. it isn't as easy as "i liked x when girls liked y" - because there were other girls that liked x, too - but i never figured out exactly the correct way to like x, or to be interested in y.

now there is the divine feminine. this is the same rhetoric it has always been: women are biologically driven to like pink and ribbons and submitting to our husbands.

the problem is that the patriarchy found a better PR team. because yes, actually, i want every woman to have the choice to be a homemaker. i also want her taken seriously for her legitimate home-making labor. i want her to be recognized as also having a job, just unpaid. i want men to have this opportunity, too.

but it is no longer "i made this choice and I love it." instead it is a sixteen-paragraph rant about how selfish it is that my generation isn't having kids. instead it's long videos about how if you feed your children processed foods, you're going to kill them. instead it is "this is what womanhood is supposed to be. i feel bad for any other choices you're making."

the shame spiral is just prettier. it is large houses devoid of personality. it is the implication: if you don't have this, you aren't happy. the solid, everlasting assurance: women are actually supposed to be submitting. this is the default. this is the natural state of things. all other attempts inflict suffering.

but you can no longer say i'm not like other girls. you can no longer reject this image completely. you cannot find it revolting, even if you know that the underbelly is toxic and festering. sure, it is the same repackaged patriarchy. but the internet does not have shades of grey. you should support and reward other women! your disgust is actually internalized misogyny. not because you are seeing a vision of yourself the way they're trying to train you to be. not because you feel her ghost pass within an inch of your earlobe. not because your father will eventually ask you - why can't you be like her?

because they figured out how to make it beautiful: women will sell other women on this idea, and we will find the singular loophole in feminism. sure, she's shaming you in most of her videos. sure, she implies that a different life is obscene. but she just wants you to be happy! you'd be happier if you were listening!

and the whole time you're sitting there thinking: i'd actually just be happier if i had that kind of money.

[kottkrig]

People liking your personal OCs is still such a crazy feeling, I've been doing this for years and ppl asking about them still fills my entire heart with warmth and idk how to handle it

You enjoy this fictional guy I made up for fun?? Whose only content is random artwork or writing made by me and a handful of other artists at most? They have no show/book/game with a large fandom, it's just one person with an art blog?? I love u

[starr-angelofnarnia]

The ending is the best

headcanon: the boring perfect self control vampire bella thinks she has is a LIE and at one point she caught human scent mid-hunt and snapped. it made her so wild she had to be restrained to the point where things got ugly

i know edward would never dare to do it and meyer would never dare write it and in canon newborn vamp bella would be far stronger than him...

actually. you know who would be stronger than one young vampire? two old vampires. and who would act practical in a critical situation? emmett

imagine edward and bella heading out for a hunt and emmett being like "do you guys mind if i tag along? i feel like snacking". bella's a little mad at the prospect of suddenly having a third wheel (homegirl wasn't planning on just. hunting) but alice gets a weird hunch and goes "no, no, em should go with you" ok nostradamus. he's going.

fast forward they're in the mountain. bella finds having emmett third-wheeling is not half bad. in emmett's head, lowkey it's bella who's the third wheel after so many decades of him hunting together with edward. but nevertheless, it's so fun with her around. all is good until they catch the scent of an entire group of friends hiking just a couple of miles from here, away from all civilization. emmett and edward stop in their tracks, ready to turn around. bella, her guard down, loses it and stars running towards the group, so they have no choice but to charge at her. while strugging to keep her in place, they try to talk her down but she doesn't listen. she doesn't care, she's strong enough to fight them off, and she fights and claws and hisses and breaks bones of whoever gets in her way because there are so many pulses just a few minutes' run away from her and their scent is so sweet and burning and calling, calling, calling to her

while struggling to restrain her, emmett grunts "we have to disarm her". edward catches the image in his head and shouts "no! you can't literally disarm bella!". well, how the hell do you expect us to stop her from massacring all those hikers? we'll just put her back together afterwards. duh!, emmett thinks, and knows he has to act fast so he goes in while bella's busy yanking away from edward's grip and tears off a limb. or two. all 3 of them may or may not be screaming.

a few moments later edward's pinning bella to the ground, holding her face between his palms, forcing her to look at him. her thrashing is not so effective with limited body parts. part of him wants to yell at emmett but that's kind of low priority. he's holding on to the last of his composure while he looks down at bella's feral expression and chants 'baby. i'm so sorry but i'll give you your leg back after you calm down a bit. i won't be able to outrun you if you go chasing after those people now. please calm down. i love you. hold your breath'

just then she listens, stops breathing and her vision refocuses. for the first time she realizes she was on her way to slaughter a bunch of strangers and she broke the arm of the man she loves at least three times when he tried to stop her. she wants to open her mouth and apologize but that will require her to breathe and possibly go crazy with thirst again. so she stares back at edward's panicked eyes and nods at him, her own red eyes just as full of terror.

then she looks over his shoulder and sees emmett waving her severed leg in the air like it's a baseball bat. "hey, did you know that rose wears the same shoe size?"

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Hey now, Let her cook!