#that my crushes on men were crushes

[canichangemyblogname]

Hot take? A show with queer people in it from the beginning was never queerbaiting and— very literally and technically— never could. In the first episode, a gay man comes out to his family. And he doesn’t stop being gay after that; it’s a major plot point and part of his character going forward. You’ve had a married lesbian couple from the jump who are proud and unapologetic about their love for each other. The story has also portrayed several queer couples and stories in episodic plots, including featuring queer weddings.

Buck didn’t suddenly “become” bi. Queerness is not when straight people “turn” queer. He has been attracted to men the entire time; he has always been bi. Understanding yourself and your sexuality as a queer person is often so difficult under heteronormativity. Sometimes, it takes time.

Hell— Buck checking a guy out some time in season 3 or getting flustered by the idea he might like a guy, etc, etc, are not even examples “queerbaiting,” nevermind how the show already features queer stories.

I genuinely think some of y’all are just mad that he’s not sucking face with the man you want him to, and are being weirdly homophobic about it. “Buck kissing this man is kinda off-putting, lmao.” “Buck and his bf’s relationship is awkward. IDK, but it weirds me out.” “There’s something so cringe about Buck’s relationship—” “Who dates someone they haven’t been friends with for years first? It’s kinda creepy…” “I think their relationship is a weird mess. It’s not as meaningful as a slow burn.”

Life isn’t fanfiction and fanfiction tropes don’t make good writing. Most relationships start out with a “hey, I’m interested in you, let’s get to know each other.” You’re just transparently uncomfortable with two men expressing that interest in each other outside the arbitrary rules you’ve established to make a mlm relationship “legitimate” or “meaningful.”

[Fanfiction] tropes— from “there’s only one bed” to “we’re forced together, but fall in love anyway”— are responses to the sex-negativity and purity culture norms forced upon gender and sexual minorities. They provide a workaround for these norms but never a direct challenge. It’s like the Family Guy episode “Prick Up Your Ears,” where conservative Christian abstinence-only sex education leads to kids having ear sex. Ear sex is the workaround to the abstinence and purity rules they’d been taught, not the challenge. We still have stringent rules around who can touch whom and under what circumstances. Tropes reflect this. So, a trope like “there’s only one bed” provides the characters with a justification for their intimacy without directly challenging why it is taboo.

You’ve convinced yourself that shipping— and thus the tropes it employs— is more subversive than actual representation, and the people caught in the crossfire are actual queer people.

Also— for the love of fuck— stop comparing every mlm relationship to RW&RB.

[dukeofthomas]

Jason Todd's the aroace guy who doesn't realize he's aroace but is also not oblivious to how big a driving force sexual attraction is for other people. He's the type to dislike and judge men for thinking with their dicks so much and kind of think himself better than them because of the fact that he doesn't

[capricores]

just heard my mom yell "NOOOOOO" super dramatically from upstairs, i ran up asking her what's wrong and she goes "the guy i'm talking to just said he's an aquarius" and we both yelled nooooo again in unison. LMAAO i taught her so well ugh

[flowermist7432]

Happy Pride Month! great time to ask myself yet again; Am I simply uninterested and majorly offput by relationships and someone percieving me romantically due to my upbringing (thus causing me to not love myself and be mentally well enough for a relationship?) or am I, just aroace.

[burry-penguin]

I’m freaking obsessed with this man

THE SASS, THE HAIR, OMG HE’S JUST SUCH A CONNIVING TRICKSTER 🥰🥰

[idontmindifuforgetme]

You guys don’t know how much yearning for Baghdad takes up of my mental real estate

[blairwitchapologist]

three years into our relationship and i’ve accidentally revealed to my boyfriend that as a high schooler i had a photo of bill hader in my locker and now i’m wondering if i should also tell him about the photo of conan o’brien that was also hanging up in my locker or keep that one to myself

[lonesomedreamer]

@death-by-mercury

Ethan Peck, grandson of...

...the incomparable Gregory Peck.

[fingertipsmp3]

I am once again having a sexuality crisis (read: wondering if I’m a lesbian or just have been stuck in my hometown for too long yet again and therefore haven’t seen a man who doesn’t look vaguely like a fish in years)

[depressedstressedlemonzest]

Had to put in the "answer it simply" part. She KNOWS like lawyers and genies you have to be fucking specific.

The way he SAYS IT fucking hot.

Regina I'm sure you've heard of the og rumplestiltskin, you have to catch him dancing around a fire singing about how great he is and how no one knows his name.

It's a tennis match of wits, and they keep hitting birdies.

Love the repartee.

That's a dangerous grin regina.

[ricksanchezbignaturals]

i think the part of gravity falls with ford in it first airing when i was 12 and 13 was the beginning of the end for me. im an old man fucker and it's alex hirsch's fault actually

[anytimebitchess]

Y’all remember this?

Now it’s this:

[feluka]

i luv wigglytuff...

[iamonlyhereforthefreefood]

"Men don't like women who wear a lot of makeup"

lame ass men maybe, cool men go "hey Alana your makeup looks great today"

[gottagobackintime]

The “hear me out” trend needs to stop because no one knows what the fuck “hear me out” means. No, but seriously. I just saw a video where the “hear me out” was… Colin Firth… COLIN FUCKING FIRTH. Mr Darcy x2, yeah, that guy.

Colin Firth is not and will never be a “hear me out” man.

[challengersmp4]

i could never fully hate liking men because it’s so fun to interact with my straight friends and see where our tastes align and also completely diverge. also being able to talk about our attraction in ways that overlap is fun! i will not deny this!