#that in of itself is a privilege

[lesbiansanemi]

I maybe potentially (most likely) have covid but my job is being so fucking cagey about if I’m going to be on the receiving end of disciplinary action for not coming in because of it. I have multiple symptoms of it and was in close contact for an extended period of time with two people who have tested positive for it. I went to get an official test from an urgent care place (because I was told I need proof for my job), and was told it would be up to 48 hours until I get results and until then I needed to self isolate and then obviously continue if the test is positive. They wrote me a note saying to excuse me from my job which I emailed to them. But they keep emailing me like “well the cdc says isolation is no longer necessary so…. If you don’t have a fever you’re supposed to come in” and now I’m so paranoid that I’m going to get write ups for not coming in despite having a literal doctor’s note telling me not to because all covid protections have been so thoroughly axed and it’s treated like any “normal” illness (though this shouldn’t be okay for ANY illness, not just covid) and if you don’t have sick time (which most places don’t supply at all, or if they do, it’s a dismal amount) you have to come in or experience the consequences and I’m just 🙃🙃🙃 so anxious about it and also I fucking hate this country for putting MILLIONS of people in this position where they have to choose between not going work but risking being fired and losing their livelihoods which leads to SO many risks if you have no safety net (and most people don’t) OR going in because you just don’t have a choice but you’re miserable and actively spreading highly infectious diseases to multiple other people. I truly don’t understand how there are people who look at this system and act like it’s fine

[offbrand-tbt]

I'm this close to just sending that trans inclusive radical misogynist post, the one about how there's loads of guys who'll go "oh, you're a man now, great, come shit talk women with us" to every blog insisting that trans men can't have male privilege and it's transandrophobia to say they do. Not every trans man has this experience but it's actually pretty common even for out trans men to be seen as, if not "real" men depending on who you ask, certainly non-women, and encouraged to perform misogyny as part of their social transition.

[purplegori]

malevolent is wild because the two main characters are literally Everything all at once. they're a queerplatonic relationship. they're romantically married. they've been thrice divorced. they're constantly learning about each other. they barely know each other at all. they argue every fucking minute. they have an undying loyalty to each other. like i'm SAYING man it just never ends

[hibiscus-intern]

YOOOOO DAISUKE! congrats on the internship, tho how the heck did you end up in the freighter business??? didn't think that was ur thing... or that they did internships over there in the first place LOL. how's it been so far?

Maybe this is where I find my thing! Boss has me doing so much reading that my eyes are starting to huuurt. I've got to learn something!

Slight elaboration on the second panel in tags!!

[sukibenders]

Some fans: Eloise is such a fake feminist, doesn't she see how some girls and women enjoy marriage? Doesn't she see how her privileges give her luxuries others don't? She's so selfish. She doesn't even use her words to support other women!

Also same fans: I wish Eloise would stop talking, like her speaking about feminism at every turn is getting old. Can't she just be quiet and let everyone enjoy the fun? Like yeah talking about women's lack of personhood without a male figure in society, or how they can't go to university, or how sometimes they marry men who will only hurt them but need to for their status is sad to see, but THE ROMANCE-

[bigskydreaming]

Imagine if you were a gay or bi man who tried a certain firefighter show because of all the attention it was getting for one of its mains having a later in life bi awakening.....and between seasons you ventured into its fandom in search of material to tide you over til the next one. And you're greeted by a deluge of posts and fics that are just cheerfully homophobic towards one half of the newly out bi character's canon relationship on the basis of 'well he's not the RIGHT gay guy' and pushing the idea that actually its fine to cheat on him because Reasons and he's sexually predacious based on......behind the scenes implications people have divined like they're reading fucking tea leaves.

But don't get it twisted....this fandom, like all fandoms, really cares about representation!

Sorry not sorry, but we really need to kill this idea that fandoms are welcoming and inviting and inherently progressive when they're frequently insular and reductive as fuck. Every single fandom I've been in has had major trends of people doubling down on their own headcanons and fanon interpretations of the characters and willfully enacting trends aimed at running off people who like the 'wrong' characters (usually characters marginalized along one or multiple axes), like the characters in the 'wrong ways' or other bullshit.

Scott is a Bad Friend fics overtaking Teen Wolf fandom was not incidental, it was a FEATURE of the fandom, because the vast majority of that fandom did not want to share its space with anyone who had the nerve to like its main character. Survivors complaining about or criticizing the prevalance of rape fics in a certain fandom has in my experience always led to a reactionary UPTICK in those fics, with gems like 'this character can, will, must be raped' in the tags making it crystal clear that some of these fics exist because how fucking DARE anyone try and push forth a narrative not agreed upon by Fandom Main.

I could cite examples for so many other fandoms, with the commonalities always being that vast majorities in these fandoms are explicitly reacting defensively to being asked to be more mindful of fandom trends revolving around or exacerbating racism, homophobia, transphobia, rape or abuse apologia, ableism, etc....

With the most prolific fucking rallying cry across countless fandoms being "No the fuck we will NOT be doing that," because lolololol.....

Fandom is an inherently progressive space, didn't you hear?

[dkettchen]

have more lesbian sanami brainrot

[goodluckdetective]

Okay a quick note:

Probably not Moral OCD: guilt or distress about suffering in the world when you aren’t facing that suffering yourself

Potentially Moral OCD: deciding that if you don’t spend almost every second reading the news that you do nothing but refresh the news. Taking a second to eat or drink water is unacceptable and every time you do, you rake yourself over the coals for daring to do such a thing. You must eat less next time in penance.

Probably Not Moral OCD: guilt or distress about your consumption habits and their impact on the environment

Potentially Moral OCD: such guilt or distress about your consumption habits that you refuse to throw anything out and begin hoarding items and or refusing to leave your apartment less you hurt the environment more.

Probably Not moral OCD: occasionally feeling bad or guilty about something you did wrong in the past

Potentially Moral OCD: obsessing about something you did wrong or bad in the past and spending hours and hours thinking about all the things like it you did wrong that you neglect basic tasks and functions.

It’s not just guilt. It’s perfectly normal (and mostly a good sign) to feel bad about bad things in the world. It’s feelings of guilt that lead to compulsive actions that do nothing to actually solve the issue you’re guilty about.

[ecstarry]

god im down so so so bad

[vulcannic]

anyone else feeling deeply disconnected from everything and everyone and struggling to find joy in the whimsy of everyday life or is it just me

[kevindavidday]

do say more on the jeaneil + kandrew to kevjean + andreil pipeline 🤲

saw this at work and was devastated i couldn't immediately answer this...capitalism is getting in the way of my aftg thoughts what bullshit

jeaneil + kandrew to kevjean + andreil pipeline will most likely be observed in one of the fics i'm writing (not saying which but the ones who know may guess) and my vision is like...hmm... i picture kandrew as friends with benefits who are deeply obsessed with each other and jeaneil as friends to lovers because jean would feel oh so safe with dear neil and neil's need for an emotional connection would definitely be strong enough for him to be attracted to jean

but then picture a kevjean reunion where jean meets kevin once after years of no contact and is like fuck i'm still not over him and andrew happens to stumble upon neil around the same time and keeps being pulled into his gravity like both jean and andrew...they would be down bad

kevin and neil on the other hand would be entirely oblivious to the fact that any form of love is taking place between them or switching sides smoothly because they'd see each other and argue exy stats instead of caring about the fact that both their partners are five seconds away from breaking up with them in favor of the others

big fan of the idea of a polycule but the hilarity and angst potential of jean throwing up over kevin and andrew pining after neil is too good to pass up

[gunkbaby]

I do wonder how much of the mischaracterisation rampant in a lot of manga/manhua fandoms is related to a western perspective

[spitblaze]

I'm not at all an expert on gender studies but if you're interested in it at all I HIGHLY recommend you look into oppositional sexism as an issue because I feel like I can see into the fourth dimension of queer discourse now

[nartml]

Some of you are trying to find misogyny where it doesn't exist because you want to be victims so bad

[solradguy]

The hell's up with all these anti-trans men/masc memes lately because I'm getting real sick of it real quick. It's not cute and it was never funny.

[theladyofrosewater]

In the Buzzfeed Unsolved AU, the trio makes a habit of doing charity streams and one time Michael and Charlie promised that they'd either shave their heads or dye their hair if they reached the goal in enough time as well as how they'd shave or dye it. They reached their goal and the chat couldn't decide between red and purple so Michael got to dye his hair both colors

Bonus drawing under the cut

Michael was not ready for all the attention his new hair color got, Charlie pities him but only slightly as she had to shave half of her head for the charity stream