#tfem space

[furmaw]

shes right chat …. thank you falin…

[officialspec]

can you pleeeeease post your dm sexuality/gender hcs on here.... 🥺 i don't have a twitter but i wanna know. it's like a pandora's box to me now i'm like scratching at the door. let me in

heres the link 2 the thread (mild spoilers btw) ill post a transcript under the cut for ppl who dont have twitter

first off i think laios relationship to sex is super removed for like 50 reasons without even getting into his actual sexuality

he grew up in a place with very repressed ideas about sex and has a lot of fear about asserting his presence in situations

his special interest takes precedent over any social interactions he has and the level of closeness he feels towards people

he has a hard time figuring out his feelings towards other people both bc hes autistic and bc he has freaky deviantart fetishes that make sex in his mind a very abstract concept <- this one is me projecting mostly

that aside, i feel like gender-wise hes attracted to ppl so infrequently it may as well be entirely case-by-case

the idea of him being gay appeals to me from the 'raised with traditional values he Does Not fit into/hasnt begun to question it yet' perspective, i lauve characters who put a lot of stock into performing a role thats expected of them and fail miserably for unknown (gay) reasons

from his perspective tho i dont think he would ever really label himself anything. hes going to pride parades in the shirt+shorts Ally Fit to clap for his friends

hes also 'cis by indifference' imo... i love tmasc laios hcs it just doesnt mesh w his personal history to me. i do think hes got some kind of therian gender thing going on (not trans or nb but a secret third thing) but i cant see him changing anything abt his appearance/pronouns to accommodate that post-canon. hes just doin his thang

falin is in a similar boat for gender. i LOOVE tfem falin but the village repression thing has been bugging at me so i dont think i subscribe to it anymore (canon purist sorry) BUT if u hold that hc i am clapping and cheering regardless

instead i was propagandised to a while back and i LOVEEE the idea that being fused w a male dragon and the residual traits she has after being revived have given her a type of gender euphoria she didnt realise she was missing. a little boygirl swagger if u will

sexuality-wise i also dont think she would care to label herself, shes a lesbian by virtue of only being interested in One woman and zero other people. without marcille i do think shes still exclusively attracted to women, and i like to imagine she might experiment around a bit during her travels post-canon (pre-relationship). hearing abt it might put marcille on the news though

marcille is very simple That is a transfem lesbian. she cant get pregnant, shes obsessed w being femme and all that combined w her half-tallman struggles to be seen as 'properly feminine' by elf standards reads very transfeminine to Me. also her bookboy crush REEKS of comphet its not subtle

i think a more comfortable marcy might have the space to experiment w being elf butch like her manga boys but thats mainly self indulgence for me. utena could have saved her

senshi is gay his whole thing is abt not being able to perform dwarven masculinity to a proper standard (soft hearted, not as strong or rugged as his peers) which is like gaycoding 101. also hes a bear. homosexuality be damned by boy can work a grill

adding onto this i rly think senshi got some type of euphoria from being an elf in the changeling chapters. he was feeling himself so much i think he was using it as an outlet to have fun being a little fem and fruity without needing to justify it. do u understand

i dont have any particular opinions abt him gender-wise beyond that. his bulge is an essential part of his character design but i also saw a transmasc senshi a couple days ago that made me nod my head thoughtfully so i could go either way

chilchuck is cis and bisexual this is just canon. not even just his old man crush on senshi altho i do think thats very funny but they put his ass on a cover themed like hes in a dating sim with all the men and women in the cast and then slapped it in front of a chapter called "bicorn". i simply cant pass up that kind of overt signaling. its so fucking funny what else is there to say truly

izu to ME is a transmasc aroace lesbian (this one has the least basis in canon i just know it to be true) shes a little genderfluid with it nd uses he/she i think. i like to imagine she consistently uses masculine personal pronouns to refer to herself either way tho (boku, ore)

i think izutsumis gender/sexuality is entirely secondary in priorities to her body dysphoria. she has a lot of learning and acceptance 2 do before that kind of self discovery is on the docket and in my mind eschewing gender on some level is part of that. get sillay

shuro is cishet but at least he feels bad about it. next listen listen to me i dont think he would ever actually examine this but i need u to put on ur tin foil hat with me for one second. i think estrogen could have saved her. i have more thoughts on this but im not gonna propagandise too much on this post just know that im right

kabru is a transmasc bisexual this is also practically text. his whole thing of being treated like a doll by milsiril to put in pretty dresses, plus i think it would be pretty easy for him to stealth in the west since tallmen are seen as inherently more masculine than elves

(i also think changing genders is just more common for elves. theyre androgynous enough that it wouldnt be hard and like who in their right miiiiind would be the same gender for 500 years. dwarves too)

i think he started presenting as male socially in the west but didnt need to consider medical transition until he moved to a more mixed culture where other races might see him as a woman

i dont have to explain the bisexual part. have u seen him

namari is a butch bisexual this is just canon straight up. shes not transmasc but i think the default settings for dwarven women is like 4 years of T regardless. shes a hit at all the local cruising spots despite her renfaire nerdisms i know this

and just bc im thinking abt em kiki and kaka are identical and kiki is tfem :} theyre both attracted to women but kaka is a sub so i forgive him

THATS ALL 4 NOW theres a lot of characters so i cant have thoughts abt all of them at once but i hope this was good. im right about everything forever as per usual

[the-intersex-experience]

Welcome to a blog dedicated to intersex experiences. We are bodily a mixed poc, disabled, tfemmasc intersex, system. You may call us ᎠᏁᎶᏗ. lim/liminals, xe/xem & 🩷/🩷s work for prns.

this blog is safe for: intersex tfems/tmascs/tfemmascs. intersex poc. intersex systems. disabled intersex people. good faith/mspec mono labels, palestine people, etc!

This blog doesn't personally respond to/interact with: perisex shi/hir users, terfs. pro.ship, rad.queer, winter.punk. racists, zionists. "transintersex" perisex people, and endo/demo/mixedgenic systems.

questions / conversations are fine, but be aware our stances/opinions are unlikely to change unless we accidentally do something problematic without realizing. be aware we are not a medical professional or expert on everything intersex! we are a young intersex adult that wanted more intersex spaces to exist.

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other blogs to check out!! @our-transfeminine-experience , @our-transgender-experiences , @our-trans-youth-experience @our-transmasculine-experience

[isabelopaque]

u don't have 2 post this but like . literally my friends got harrassed like a year or two ago bc we hced this one harmless character as transfem and then the other day I saw someone in the same fandom hcing the Literal Stalker + Lovebomber Who Tries To Kill Someone as transfem . like do u not see what is wrong with that !!!!! hello!!!!!

yeag. ive seen an uptick in this kind of stuff recently and its sooo. like your favorite character cant be tfem but the canonical sex pest can. thats so awesome tumblr spaces i appreciate that one. i think its fine to hc Bad People as tfem if you also like. do it with normal people. i hc an iasip chracter as transfem and he Sucks but im also a tfem person who hcs a Lot of people as the way i am and i feel like there's a difference between media literacy of characters relationship with gender vs people being like uhmm uhh i dont hc characters as girls maybe the villain can be, with no further examination as to why you hc it that way and its soo. harmful isnt the right word bc its not that serious its tumblr but it sucks a little bit!

[beatlesmanic]

tfem texas + texcali hcs RIGHT NOW

Yes hello HI!! Love the idea of tfem Texas :3 Could be such a good idea if executed well! Most of my hcs never stay 100% consistent so honestly I fuck with this 🙌 but I raise you this. T4T texcali ^_^

HCS below ! One will have very light angst but I usually won't do angst unless asked!

1. I said this in my Texas hcs post but Texas is only slightly shorter then California and it pisses the lone star off.

2. They call each other nicknames a lot, not necessarily petnames just nicknames. Texas will call California safe space often, mostly to tease the other. Texas will also call California Golden Coast! Cali calls Texas Lone Star and Cowboy the most

3. FOR PETNAMES!! Texas uses them the most. He'll use shit like "Sugar, Honeypie, Poppy, Sweetheart, and Darling." California tends to call Texas "Babe, Love, Dear, and Hun"

4. This isn't much of a HC but Not A Lot, Just Forever by Adrienne Lenker reminds me of them, but when they're more domestic.

5. From my Texas hcs post AGAIN but Texas named his Great Dane, Poppy because he calls California that.

6. They still have heavy banters at meetings that do end in silent treatment on both ends. It does get resolved though :3

7. They love cooking for each other and do it rather often

8. California will sketch Texas in his sketchbook when him n Tex are just lounging.

9. California has tried his hardest to get Texas to expand his music taste but it never works

Hey :3

[rabidbatboy]

Also if people could only coin terms they use requesting terms simply wouldn't exist it would simply be too frustrating to find another person who wants to use it to coin it for you

I don’t actually have requests open all that often, so my feelings towards it more is that as a community we have really closed in on ourselves. infighting, hostility, masc-centred conversations and silencing of trans femininity, denial of transmasculine oppression and struggles. etc.

all these issues and i don’t want my blog to be a place that solely feels wholeheartedly masculine, although that is how I identify. Like my tboy/tgirl flags. I asked some of my friends and wanted them to match to reflect the tmasc and tfem flags. I love that tgirls reblog it and go wow this is me I love this. and we have that unity and family. if a tgirl goes, love this but I want a version that’s made not by a tmasc, im gonna make my own, that’s great.

the point is an encouragement of fem flags in a masc dominated space. people immediately assume that when I’m opening my arms up and opening this blog up, I’m invading or trying to dominate a space, because that’s all we know right now. all we know is anger and bitterness and hostility.

I fuck with trans women EXTREMELY. living in the uk especially it’s fucking vile out here for my sisters. I never claim our struggle is exactly aligned, but we are fighting the same fight. I want my acts of compassion and my love letters towards the transfem community, in something as small as a flag, to be seen as an act of brotherhood and sisterhood again. doing this beside you, not against you

[jewishfagdyke]

Hey tumblr, do you want a syscord that's pro recovery and a safe space for poc, tfems, and intersex ppl? look no further than my SAW themed server! It's pro good faith identities and contradictory labels / good faith labels. the server is strictly ANTI ENDO and 15+!

[verycuntlesbian]

I feel if people don’t want to even scratch the surface of intersexuality when discussing discourse I don’t know how I can ….. like feel about it ? Many people discuss certain discourse and never even think to educate themselves on intersexuality and it’s like you are missing a huge chunk of experience in this discussion ? I’m willing to learn and educate myself but how can I do that when people aren’t willing to do the same ? People discuss the idea that afab intersex tfem people are trans misogynistic in their identity but refuse to even communicate or discuss with said intersex individuals ? Like they don’t even think about how diverse the intersex experience is they hear afab and assume. Being afab as an intersex person honestly just means 99.9% of the time you have a vagina or a vulva. Doctors see that you have that and say you are a female. It has nothing to say about how you look how you are on the inside nothing. This dumbing down especially of like “you can’t be this because you have this genital” has confused me immensely ? Saying that you need to be amab to be tfem just ignores the experience of intersex people ? Some intersex people are amab and yet are raised or socially seen as female. Vice versa with afab individuals. Also the idea that people bring up the terms afab and amab in these spaces is quite ironic as it was used for intersex people because it was what we were ASSIGNED hence the word in the term. When you are intersex and they see you have no “visual abnormalities” they ASSIGN you a sex based on what they see. This is why it’s heavily prevalent to intersex people because we are ASSIGNED a gender at birth. Also genitals don’t equal like how the body produces hormones ? An intersex amab person can produce more estrogen than me or any other afab intersex person ? My last note before I close this off is I dislike heavily that people speak on this on the internet and just ….. don’t go outside of it to educate further before speaking ? Queer people DO NOT need to be some queer scholars don’t get me wrong but if you’re going to post about a topic is it not common sense to not only educate yourself using merely the internet ESPECIALLY social media as your knowledge ?

Closing this off as I’ve yapped too hard I fear 🙏🏻 tried to make this make sense but ! This isn’t an attack on anyone or anything like if you personally believe like as yourself being a tfem that afab people even if intersex can never be tfem than that’s YOUR OPINION like it’s not WRONG or RIGHT because it’s just how one thinks. I’m free for any educational discussions on this or any comments but please for the love of all don’t speak over voices 🙏🏻 if ur not tfem don’t speak on tfem issues like you are same goes for intersex in this situation. My apologies if any of this is “aggressive” or “uneducated” this is my own experience as well as my own questions

[angeltism]

do ya have specifc gender headcanons for prsk characters?

Hmm yes but I don't feel too strongly about a lot of em n don't really think about them a lot. But I definitely do !

Strong (actively influence how I view the character , the pronouns I use for them , etc . In my mind , this is how they are and I consider it basically canon) : Transmasc genderqueer Mafuyu who uses any pronouns (also I have this xenogender in my hoard that's like,, you copy the behaviors of fem-aligned people to be more fem-aligned in gender ?? or something like that ??? that too .) , queer genderfluid Rui who mainly uses all pronouns but sometimes his preference changes , librafeminine Ena who doesn't care about pronouns , transfem Mizuki (I don't feel they're a binary woman, to me they feel more non-binary with a femme presentation or some kind of sorta-fem sorta-nb gender, but they are 100% transfeminine. I just don't know how to describe the other gender stuff they have going on.)

Yeah I like these (I can see these and think of them occasionally. I'll sometimes mention em but they mostly live in the back of my brain and make me go "huh! yeah!" seeing people agree) : Transfem Shizuku (both tfem bigender but aaaalso just as a binary transwoman) , transfem Tsukasa , transfem Airi, trans man Akito , genderqueer Haruka , transfem Toya , genderqueer An

These are fun but I don't think about them a lot (what it says on the tin) : Agender Kanade , bigender Shiho , librafeminine Minori , librafluid Kohane , transmasc non-binary Ichika , questioning Saki (she isn't cis . but girl I cannot figure out What she is . bear w me here)

Oh bonus category for xenogenders : Ichika using music, space and vocaloid related ones as well as songic genders. Saki using star and music themed ones. Minori and ones with a clover, idol or song theme as well as a few songic too maybeee? Haruka with ones related to penguins n maybe blue In General. Tsukasa with star-themed ones. Emu with like Most soft , sweet , sugary , funky vibe genders. Rui with Fuck All (aka whatever the mess of My hoard is because hashtag projecting). Nene with robot and game themed ones. Ena with ones that relate to art, cuteness, etc. Mizuki with pink and/or ribbon themed genders. Is this a lot and is it vague Yes but there's so many that exist so idk giving off the vibes and recurring themes seems like Good Enough.

Token cis (sorry y'all /j) : Honami I just can't think of anything for her either she's some kind of Honami Is Honami non-binary that I can't quite describe or she's a cisgirl to me. She isn't hetero though nobody here is cis AND hetero c'mon this is COLORFUL stage. Oh also Emu despite having a lot of xenogender swag I feel would still identify a lot with being a girl n I hc her as cis. But also she has the most xenogender swag I've ever seen in a character so. She's like girl+ . Does that make sense. Girl++ Extra Content DLC 🍬🩷🍭🍨🍫🎈✨🍪🧸

[st5lker]

idk how to word what im trying to say in a good way but i just wanted to let u know as a nonbinary transmasc who ends up in a lot of spaces (online) dominated by other transmascs/gay men/etc i see the type of transmisogyny against nonbinary tfems SO often and its truly sickening how pervasive it is like we are siblings and i have seen some of the most beautiful & life changing perspectives on gender come from nonbinary transfems like i just wish more people would open their hearts to Listening....

thank you i made that post less than a month after being forcibly kicked out of a space dominated by cis women and nonbinary transmascs for daring to get upset about casual transmisogyny

[horrorknife]

slowly realizing that tumblr is an environment where people are openly transmisogynistic within the hs tags so heres my reminder that if you think june egbert is anything other than transfem you are not welcome on my blog. tfem june was Made Real and started within transfem spaces on twitter in 2019. making her cis or transmasc IS erasure

[nightmarish-fallen-angel]

Transmisogyny isn't just transphobia at tfems tho. It's a specific intersection. That makes it worse. Cus the two are combining together to increase the oppression of these people.

And also. Maybe you don't think that they have it worse than you. But have you ever made a space where they would feel comfortable enough telling you. Or do you just go "we both have it bad" and she is shunned into silence once more.

Transandrophobia is a specific intersection as well. Some forms or experiences of transphobia will be directed at and worse for transfems, some will be directed at and worse for transmascs, and some will specifically target nonbinary people/intersex people/any other individual group that is trans.

Not to mention that transphobia can impact people to different degrees based on many different factors (parental/community support, disabilities, residence, etc).

As for your second point. Wild assumption as to how I converse with other people. I would like to think I do, considering I have never responded to someone sharing their pain with only "we both have it bad." Commiserating over transphobia, both shared and different, is not the same as dismissing someone's experiences.

[vbeingabitch]

personally i think its fucking stupid when people try to gatekeep what labels an alter can or cant use bc its an entirely different story than a normal person. personally idgaf about most label shit bc it dosent bother me as a queer person at all. but like let an alter whos physically a species call it a kintype if it feels like it. or if alters experince sexuality different leave it be. most of them are not posting over alot of spaces and the few ones that do are their own issue. if a masc alter in a collective lesbian body decides lesbian works better bc all their relationships collectively are centered around wlw/nmlnm then idc really. not hurting me. tfem alters in afab bodies & tmasc alters in amab bodies aint really hurting anyone. they can still have their own dysphoria influnced by the collective. most aint coming into ur spaces tbh and just used it as a label to better express an already really hard experince. if an alter wants to have a bunch of hyperspecific labels and xenos and shit let them. weird neos that dont make sense? oh fucking well. stop being assholes about an experince that already makes identity really hard. if it isnt hurting others, leave it be. only shit that bothers me is like alters claiming to be a differnet race than the body or have a mental disorder the rest dont. you can experince symptons differently at different times or the same time and it can be confusing but if one alter is showing heavy symptoms of something look into the rest of the system. and race you can look like another race in headspace but it dosent make you it, id say its fine to use basic works to help describe how you look as long as youre respectful but youre still the bodies race and shouldnt be claiming to be that race. totally fine to look into the culture and get interested in it, people do that all the time but that dosent make you it

[janhetjoch]

You’re not a bad person. This seems like a whirlwind of intense feelings and shotty communication :/ I agree it wasnt super clear at first that the post was explicitly about transwomen, but given further context it wasnt super appropriate to keep pressing the cissue.

Also both points can be right, transfems (in my experience) are the most overlooked group and deserve more representation both within and outside of fandom spaces. And it makes complete sense for op to be upset about a post they intended to be about tfem issues getting refocused on cis men.

And gnc cis men exist, and absolutely that conversation needs to happen. More specifically a deconstruction of masculinity in the context of someone who is a man but does not conform to the rigid definition.

both are valid viewpoints that should be talked about, maybe not on the same post but this is also the discourse website

This was basically my point the whole time, but like you said it was just bad communication (including on my part) and maybe not the right time/place.

I certainly learned to not be so quick to reply when I read something I think is a bit stupid, and remember that this is the internet; people will always make bad faith assumptions so I should be really careful in what I say where and how to word it.

[celesteateyourrights]

sometimes i feel like trans folks divide themselves too much by gender. tmasc/tfem/tx mixed spaces arent very common, or maybe i havent looked in the right spot

is just a bit weird to me. like it makes sense ig. we dont have the same challenges everywhere. but like maybe if we're going to dunk on cis people for not having m/f frienships we shouldnt do the same maybe idk

and the maybe we could avoid the stupid Is Transmisandry Real discussion Every Three Months

at this point i just reblog all the Gender posts anyways since even if they're not Gender for me they'll be Gender for somepony else.

[baeddelicto]

i mean i thnk th shit hurling at fempathy makes plenty sens 2 me

lik t4t rhetoric is often(at least n th spaces im familiar w) pushed rlly hard by tme ppl. this in combination with general messagn of tfems as pervertd sex objects projects a social forc that tfems shuld b obdiantly sexuly open and availabl especially to other trans* ppl

nd yknw we share a struggl u cant b transphobic if ur trans amiright

so its as simpl as tht its simpl math all trans* ppl xp th same oppressiom so how can they hav power dynamics or fuckky rel8nshps nd i mean a c4t rel8nshp the oppression is just baked n