#tmasc vents

[tmasc-confessions]

That @tfem-confessions blog is pissing me the FUCK off!! “Oh don’t worry sweetie some transmascs aren’t vile 🥺” A MAJORITY OF TRANSMASCS AREN’T VILE!!! 99% OF US AREN’T VILE!!!

AND THEN YOU’RE ALWAYS LIKE “remember not all transfems are like this!!! most of them are lovely and not bigoted at all 💕💕” (and it’s fucking true) but SHE CAN’T RETURN THE SAME ENERGY?! JUST. FUCKING WHATEVER. I think you should start letting us reciprocate that energy because it’s fucking sick what she’s doing.

That entire blog reeks of transandrophobia and intersexism. Allowing ppl to use “tme/tma” just because you wanna avoid discourse is absolutely vile. Allowing ppl to make truly disgusting generalisations about transmascs (notice how they never say “some transmascs”, it’s always just “transmascs”.) I fucking hate this. We as a community can’t have ONE THING.

Signed, a really pissed off intersex transmasc who wishes people could be normal about us for half a second.

I actually argued with 🪼 over whether this should be posted or not because I feel like it barely toes the line, but I will, because I actually want to clear up a misconception here.

She didn’t “steal” this blog. She asked me very politely whether she could start a transfem variant of this blog and me and 🪼 discussed it and we said yes. This isn’t even an original blog idea, the whole shtick is actually inspired by another blog.

Setting that aside… yeah, I see what you mean. It does suck that people generalise about us and it also sucks that those generalisations are just blatantly allowed on that blog.

I won’t deny that many of the asks posted feel genuinely transandrophobic, but then again, just like I as an average perisex transmasc don’t have a keen eye for transmisogyny and can’t really notice it unless it’s very surface-level, I would expect the average perisex transfem to have a similar difficulty with identifying it. At least I’d like to think that’s the issue because the alternative (that she might know and is just posting them anyway because she doesn’t care) is really depressing and she just genuinely hasn’t given me the impression of being a transandrophobe from the few times we’ve interacted.

About the “reciprocation” part — fuck no. We’re not going to let transmisogynistic generalisations on our blog just because a few dozen of them are bigoted towards us. That’s infinitesimal compared to the size of the community and attacking it as a whole for the action of less than 1% would be vile.

“But they do it to us-” INCORRECT. Some of them, a handful of them do it to us and I consider that to be absolute vile too but reciprocating bigotry will only put you on that exact level; that of a bigot. And it will make your words just as wrong as theirs.

And about the tme/tma part; yeah. I don’t really have anything to say, because I think you’re right. But, well, both me and @/intersex-confessions have tried explaining it so there’s not much more we can do about it. I agree with the last paragraph in general but I do wish it wasn’t coming from someone who, quite frankly, reads as “eager to be transmisogynistic”. If you’re going to spew hateful rhetoric, you are not welcome to do it here. Those are our sisters and we’re not hosting that shit on our blog.

[surgeonirl]

i think i've always liked halloween because i could be everybody but me

[cinnamons1999]

this is a vent and me tweaking cuz tmasc sapphic(?not sure if i can use the term) yearning

posting this here cuz imma die like a MAN

ahem..

WOMEN JSDJKCKDJFFMKDLS

WOMEN :3

i am TWEAKING and i feel like a FREAKAZOID (/neg) BC I THINK ABOUT WOMEN AND YEARN FOR WOMEN AND FEMMES AND-!1!1!!1!1

and i should NOT be thinking those things cuz i am a KID and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

AAAAHFHFHHFHFHFHAJAJAJSJSAAAAHJSJAJA AJAJAJSJSMSJDNFJEKMSJSJDJDJDJSJKSKAZMMSMAAKSJSJSJSMS :3

[dumbdomb]

i immediately block r/196, refugees from twitter/x and reddit, and other platforms

[velvetvexations]

saw a friend say "theyfab crusade" bc she was worried someone would go on a rampage if she asked them to delete their rb of her post and having her type "theyfab" in the discord just rubbed me the wrong way as i am pretty much the only tmasc in there like i get being worried about others taking ones words the wrong way but i wish more people understood that not everyone is out to get you and it is infact a small group that is actively trying to harm others

idk the situation just felt off to me

hope youre havin a lovely day miss velvet n thank you for all your support n lettin me kinda vent in your inbox

I woke up like five minutes ago and in that time I've gotten two separate asks about transmascs being depressingly passive to outrageous transphobia and raising only the meekest of objections.

She hatefully used a slur for a group she doesn't belong to! That's not a situation feeling off, that's transphobia!

Please I love you so much stop being so okay with these things.

[the-intersex-experience]

Welcome to a blog dedicated to intersex experiences. We are bodily a mixed poc, disabled, tfemmasc intersex, system. You may call us ᎠᏁᎶᏗ. xe/xem & 🩷/🩷s work for pronouns.

this blog is safe for: intersex tfems/tmascs/tfemmascs. intersex poc, intersex systems. disabled intersex people, good faith/mspec mono labels, pcos being intersex, afab tfems / amab tmascs, honeybee tfems, coffeebean tmascs, milieugender individuals of any kind, cistrans, etc.

This blog doesn't personally want any involvement with: terfs. pro//ship, rad//queer, winter//punk. racists, zionists, or "transintersex" perisex people.

questions / conversations are fine, but be aware we are not a medical professional or expert on everything intersex! we are a young intersex adult that wanted more intersex spaces to exist.

you can send things as "the intersex experience is", "the poc intersex experience is" etc. free to drop that part if you want to be more serious or vent/rant [with proper warnings]. please keep in mind all intersexism, harassment & hate will be blocked.

taken anon emojis: 🪻, 🔆

other blogs to check out!! @our-transfeminine-experience , @our-transgender-experiences , @our-trans-youth-experience @our-transmasculine-experience

[lafortezaboy]

How would the Kats react to tmasc reader with a family that's a little bit toxic? Like the girls see it happening for themselves, and they immediately go into comfort mode ?

-🐈‍⬛

so i want to preface this one with a very important you aren't alone, and that's to anyone reading this, whether you relate to this or not. you're so loved, important, and treasured, and you'll always have a safe space on this blog

content warning: this work contains transphobia, so please keep that in mind before reading this

sophia had never really questioned why you weren't close with your family. it wasn't her place to ask, and she never wanted to make you open up about something you might not be ready to talk about, so she simply did her best to become your family instead, to make you feel the love and appreciation you deserved. when she finally met your parents and siblings at dinner, it all made sense. when they had used your dead name, she had initially thought they had been talking to your sister, not you, but when your jaw clenched just a little bit before you answered, she knew what was going on. her hand would find yours under the table, squeezing it gently, her thumb brushing over the back of it. her presence helped, a lot, and somehow you managed to make it through the dinner without snapping at them. when you got home, she was immediately pulling you into her arms, and it didn't take long before you were hiding your face in her neck, surrounding yourself in her warmth. the rest of the night consisted of a lot of cuddling, and sophia letting you vent to her and finally open up to her about them, and when you fell asleep, she stayed up just a little while longer, wanting to see you relaxed after the night that the two of you had had

manon had a guess as to why you weren't as close to your family as others might be, but she never knew the extent of it. when you'd told her they just didn't understand you, she had correctly guessed it had to do with your identity, but she was a hopeful person, and assumed it wasn't as bad as it was. she practically had to convince you to bring her home for christmas, so when you had agreed, she was excited to take this step. but that excitement quickly grew sour when it became clear they weren't just misunderstanding you, they just hadn't even tried to accept you. her quick thinking led to her faking an emergency with one of the girls, and the two of you left far earlier than expected, but as soon as she had you alone, she was apologizing in an instant for pushing the issue, for putting you in that situation. you assured her that you weren't upset with her, that she hadn't known, and that you hadn't told her on purpose, but she did feel a bit guilty still. as soon as you got home, she knew you needed to decompress, so she got you changed into something comfy and got you into bed. she was the one holding you for a change, and every so often she whispered to you that you were perfect, that you never needed to change, that she loved you exactly as you are

daniela hadn't expected her meeting your family to make her want to commit a crime, but it easily had. the constant deadnaming and misgendering got under her skin more than it had yours, and you could tell she was ready to blow after about an hour at your parents' house. you were able to take her to your old room, under the guise of showing her where you grew up, but really you just wanted to calm her down. you told her that it was fine, that it was the norm, that you were used to it, and her words nearly knocked you off your feet. "well you shouldn't be, no one should be used to it". that alone had been a huge eye opener, and for the rest of the day, you were quiet. dani hadn't calmed down much, but she kept her temper under control because she could see how quiet you were, especially after your conversation with her. when you finally left, she started feeling guilty for getting so angry, for saying the things she had to you, but when she tried to apologize, you had told her that she was right, that you had accepted it for so long, hearing someone say that it wasn't okay made you realize how little they had tried for you. she could see how close you were to breaking down, and the second she pulled you into her arms you did, practically sobbing into her neck as she held you. she was near tears herself, her heart broken for you, but she was there and she would have you through it all

lara is the one who said something to them. maybe she shouldn't have, she knew it wasn't her place, but she had let them using your dead name slide the first two times, and on the third time, she was correcting them before she could stop herself. it led to an argument, one where lara defended you, where she called them out on how they were treating you, and the second your family tried to antagonize her, you stepped in and defended her too. they could talk about you however they wanted, but they wouldn't speak to lara like that. the two of you quickly left afterwards, and when you dropped her off at the dorm, she didn't give you the option to go home, telling you to come inside with her. you listened, and the two of you ended up ordering takeout and cuddling on the couch, watching some new dating show she was into. eventually, she told you that she was sorry for starting an argument, but she wasn't sorry for sticking up for you, and she'd do it again if she had to. you told her there was nothing to apologize for, and that you weren't bringing her around them again, that they didn't deserve someone like her in their lives. it was a rough day for you both, so it was easy to find comfort in each other and relax when you were finally alone

megan is the one you took the longest to let meet your family, because she was so gentle, so kind, that you knew their treatment of you would upset her. but as the two of you got more serious, you just couldn't bring yourself to tell her why. you hadn't even meant for her to meet your parents when she had, they had just decided to stop by your apartment one morning, and she had come over to yours after practice the day before, showering and changing into your clothes before just using you as her pillow for the night. she was sitting on the kitchen counter as you made breakfast when your parents came in, and the sight of a girl on your kitchen counter in just a pair of boxers and a loose shirt wasn't a sight they had expected. she had quickly excused herself, flushed down to her chest at being seen like that, but by the time she had come back out in her own clothes, you had already begun arguing with your parents. she came out just in time to hear your dead name, and before she could help herself the question of "who's that?" escaped her. that only led to your parents accusing you of misleading her, and it was then that it dawned on her what was going on. she didn't speak up much after that, knowing you preferred to talk for yourself, but when they finally left, she was pulling you close to her, fingers playing with your hair as she quietly told you that she loved you. she didn't really know what else to say, but when you opened up about your family finally, she listened, and she quickly reassured you that they were wrong, that you were perfect exactly how you were, and she had never once felt like you were misleading her. she knew exactly who you were, and she loved who you were, and nothing they or anyone else could say would change that. the rest of the day consisted of a lot of cuddling and reassurances, with megan even skipping practice to be by your side

[rrelationshipadvice]

Hi, weird phrasing on this one probably, also apologies for the length.

I'm not sure what to do about my current relationship. We're long distance, both early-mid 20s (I'm tmasc, theyre nb) with litanies of issues that I (mostly) won't name that do affect how we act and react.

(I will mention that I have BPD, OSDD, and trust issues due to repeated past traumas because they come up later. I am trying to work on them, but not with a therapist. I can't afford one right now. I've had therapists in the past though, and am mostly working off what I can remember of their advice and worksheets and any other tips I can find to try and help.)

Very long preface out of the way, I often feel like I'm not good enough for my partner or tgat our relationship is bad for them, but they refuse to entertain the thought, or even the topic whenever I try to bring it up.

If I'm manic I tend to get really irritable to the point where even the most minor things like off key whistling or small noises or changing topics to sonething I'm not interested in will tick me off (I never voice these thoughts to them, or anybody, but I worry they can tell).

If I'm depressive I feel like I get unbearable with how much support I need. My partner has said that they don't mind it and that they like feeling helpful but I've accidentally stumbled upon them talking to one of my alters and saying the angst and worsened self esteem and splitting (in the BPD sense) during episodes frustrates them. I honestly can't blame them for it, even if it hurt that they didn't tell me about it to my face.

Every time we went on break/broke up in the past it's been horrible for both our mental health due to both it and other circumstances around those times, and my partner isn't keen on a repeat.

After our most recent break up, long before we got back together, they'd asked me if I saw them as a person or as a crutch and it stuck with me and only made my own worries about whether our relationship was good for us or not worsen. I do my best to handle my issues on my own, sometimes venting to them if I feel I need the emotional support. They can tell I hold things back though and they say it makes them feel like I don't trust them, when they're the only person I feel like I do trust, especially compared to everyone else.

Again, reiterating, I'm not sure what to do. I do love them deeply, and they fully reciprocate, but I can't tell if it's the disorders talking whenever I end up thinking we should see other people, so I'm here to ask for a second opinion.

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[tmasc-confessions]

heartbreaking: ambiguously trans character's story actually works way better if you view him as a trans man but youre scared to mention your opinion because of some people talking about how transfem headcanons are almost always the better literary choice (????)

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[hardcoffeegardener]

tmasc vent art

"OH THIS BODY I HATE THIS BODY IM A SKELETON AND IM DEAD AND GONE" /lyr

[velvetvexations]

was trying to talk about how i feel about the ftm and transmasc tags in a vent channel in a discord im in and was immediately shut down bc "we face all the same in our tags plus infighting from transmascs" and when i went through those tags i saw none of it(i was scrolling for like 20 min) and now i frequently check the transmisogyny tag and see so much complaining about tmascs and it makes me feel so bad as a tmasc myself and i feel i cant really talk to this server of friends about my feelings on certain things as a tmasc :/

Anon, that's fucking abysmal, I can't tell you who to be friends with but holy shit they need to apologize to you immediately.

[togurookunaga]

lynx, lyn or lin !!

xe/he+ • 18 yrs (26.04) • 🇻🇳, 🇰🇭, and 🇨🇳, resident in 🇩🇪 • ger/eng ok • tmasc aroacespec

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[tmasc-confessions]

its so exhausting how many popular/semi popular transfem bloggers on here are just so vile towards transmascs, i hate seeing a cool blog only to click on it and see vile, unrelenting hatred of transmascs.

im so tired of the rampant transandrophobia.

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[tmasc-confessions]

Great, now there's just a fuckton of antisemitism in my ask-box from people assuming we're Zionists just because we're Jewish despite the fact we both support Palestine.

Fun. Yeah this is exactly what I wanted to be dealing with on a random Wednesday afternoon. People calling me the k-slur and accusing me of killing babies. Sweet.

If there was a Venn diagram for transandrophobes and antisemites the overlap would be HUGE and I suspect it's because they all come from either Twitter or 4Chan and those are basically just the neonazi websites.

[tmasc-confessions]

it is actually fucking batshit INSANE to me that some people will look at a trans man saying "hey can you guys maybe not tell us to kill ourselves just bc we're trans guys pretty please?? it kinda hurts :(" and then look at whatever shit thicced-witch has going on, and somehow decide that anyone who believes in transandrophobia is evil and fucked up and that clearly the people who deny its existence are in the right.

saying this as a transfemmasc who leans way further "fem" than "masc". i don't even know if this'll get uploaded but... yeah. still kinda stings to see this much fighting between my two communities.

sidenote, can i be 🧸??

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