#tmasc vents

[tmasc-confessions]

i just watched an entire 2 hour deepdive on queer history and oppression and i just feel so upset.

its a good documentary of sorts. it has good messaging and good historical roots. good research.

it erases trans men entirely. the words 'trans man/men' or 'transmasc' were not said fucking once.

not a single transmasc referenced to. not a single transmasc activist mentioned. we werent even referenced to as a group, even briefly, whilst every other trans group was talked about.

not even on the deep focus of stonewall, of early queer rights activists, as a section of the queer community, not while abortion rights were talked about, fucking nothing. we might as well have not been anywhere near the riots. we might as well not have died for our liberation.

we dont even fucking exist to the people who are supposed to be advocating for us and speaking about our history. instead, they erase us, just like everyone else.

im so fucking tired.

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[surgeonirl]

i think i've always liked halloween because i could be everybody but me

[cinnamons1999]

this is a vent and me tweaking cuz tmasc sapphic(?not sure if i can use the term) yearning

posting this here cuz imma die like a MAN

ahem..

WOMEN JSDJKCKDJFFMKDLS

WOMEN :3

i am TWEAKING and i feel like a FREAKAZOID (/neg) BC I THINK ABOUT WOMEN AND YEARN FOR WOMEN AND FEMMES AND-!1!1!!1!1

and i should NOT be thinking those things cuz i am a KID and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

AAAAHFHFHHFHFHFHAJAJAJSJSAAAAHJSJAJA AJAJAJSJSMSJDNFJEKMSJSJDJDJDJSJKSKAZMMSMAAKSJSJSJSMS :3

[dumbdomb]

i immediately block r/196, refugees from twitter/x and reddit, and other platforms

[velvetvexations]

saw a friend say "theyfab crusade" bc she was worried someone would go on a rampage if she asked them to delete their rb of her post and having her type "theyfab" in the discord just rubbed me the wrong way as i am pretty much the only tmasc in there like i get being worried about others taking ones words the wrong way but i wish more people understood that not everyone is out to get you and it is infact a small group that is actively trying to harm others

idk the situation just felt off to me

hope youre havin a lovely day miss velvet n thank you for all your support n lettin me kinda vent in your inbox

I woke up like five minutes ago and in that time I've gotten two separate asks about transmascs being depressingly passive to outrageous transphobia and raising only the meekest of objections.

She hatefully used a slur for a group she doesn't belong to! That's not a situation feeling off, that's transphobia!

Please I love you so much stop being so okay with these things.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

One of the admins of the tmasc confessions account, which was the only place I could vent while doing through some really tough shit, just stepped down because TW went on a hate campaign against him just bc he's transmasc and somehow tried to frame him as a zionist and all of her stupid loyal subjects fell for it and started bullying him.

Transmascs can't even have our own nice safe spaces without antitransmasculinists trying to ruin them for us. I'm tired. I'm so tired.

That's incredibly unfortunate. I don't know why that group is so hateful against people who dare to admit that maybe, just maybe, trans masculine individuals don't have it made in the shade like some cis men.

Also, that account supported Palestinians, so not sure how you can claim that they're Zionist. Then again, those people love to just throw words around without any sort of care about the definition.

There needs to be more safe spaces for trans mascs, and that's partially what I'm trying to do with this account. Give trans people a place to share their stories without any judgment and only support.

Hopefully things get better.

[tmasc-confessions]

My university sent a form to the academic community asking about sexual assault on campus and how to prevent it which is a good iniciative but it was exclusively for cis and trans women and nonbinary people.

Despite our community having the highest rates of suffering sexual assault of any group (closely followed by trans women) we still treat this topic as an exclusively feminine issue.

Despite trans men being assaulted at almost double the rate that cis women are we are still considered interlopers on discussions on our own victimisation.

I am very angry.

I would be angry too. That sucks so much... I wish people would dismiss us less.

[lafortezaboy]

How would the Kats react to tmasc reader with a family that's a little bit toxic? Like the girls see it happening for themselves, and they immediately go into comfort mode ?

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so i want to preface this one with a very important you aren't alone, and that's to anyone reading this, whether you relate to this or not. you're so loved, important, and treasured, and you'll always have a safe space on this blog

content warning: this work contains transphobia, so please keep that in mind before reading this

sophia had never really questioned why you weren't close with your family. it wasn't her place to ask, and she never wanted to make you open up about something you might not be ready to talk about, so she simply did her best to become your family instead, to make you feel the love and appreciation you deserved. when she finally met your parents and siblings at dinner, it all made sense. when they had used your dead name, she had initially thought they had been talking to your sister, not you, but when your jaw clenched just a little bit before you answered, she knew what was going on. her hand would find yours under the table, squeezing it gently, her thumb brushing over the back of it. her presence helped, a lot, and somehow you managed to make it through the dinner without snapping at them. when you got home, she was immediately pulling you into her arms, and it didn't take long before you were hiding your face in her neck, surrounding yourself in her warmth. the rest of the night consisted of a lot of cuddling, and sophia letting you vent to her and finally open up to her about them, and when you fell asleep, she stayed up just a little while longer, wanting to see you relaxed after the night that the two of you had had

manon had a guess as to why you weren't as close to your family as others might be, but she never knew the extent of it. when you'd told her they just didn't understand you, she had correctly guessed it had to do with your identity, but she was a hopeful person, and assumed it wasn't as bad as it was. she practically had to convince you to bring her home for christmas, so when you had agreed, she was excited to take this step. but that excitement quickly grew sour when it became clear they weren't just misunderstanding you, they just hadn't even tried to accept you. her quick thinking led to her faking an emergency with one of the girls, and the two of you left far earlier than expected, but as soon as she had you alone, she was apologizing in an instant for pushing the issue, for putting you in that situation. you assured her that you weren't upset with her, that she hadn't known, and that you hadn't told her on purpose, but she did feel a bit guilty still. as soon as you got home, she knew you needed to decompress, so she got you changed into something comfy and got you into bed. she was the one holding you for a change, and every so often she whispered to you that you were perfect, that you never needed to change, that she loved you exactly as you are

daniela hadn't expected her meeting your family to make her want to commit a crime, but it easily had. the constant deadnaming and misgendering got under her skin more than it had yours, and you could tell she was ready to blow after about an hour at your parents' house. you were able to take her to your old room, under the guise of showing her where you grew up, but really you just wanted to calm her down. you told her that it was fine, that it was the norm, that you were used to it, and her words nearly knocked you off your feet. "well you shouldn't be, no one should be used to it". that alone had been a huge eye opener, and for the rest of the day, you were quiet. dani hadn't calmed down much, but she kept her temper under control because she could see how quiet you were, especially after your conversation with her. when you finally left, she started feeling guilty for getting so angry, for saying the things she had to you, but when she tried to apologize, you had told her that she was right, that you had accepted it for so long, hearing someone say that it wasn't okay made you realize how little they had tried for you. she could see how close you were to breaking down, and the second she pulled you into her arms you did, practically sobbing into her neck as she held you. she was near tears herself, her heart broken for you, but she was there and she would have you through it all

lara is the one who said something to them. maybe she shouldn't have, she knew it wasn't her place, but she had let them using your dead name slide the first two times, and on the third time, she was correcting them before she could stop herself. it led to an argument, one where lara defended you, where she called them out on how they were treating you, and the second your family tried to antagonize her, you stepped in and defended her too. they could talk about you however they wanted, but they wouldn't speak to lara like that. the two of you quickly left afterwards, and when you dropped her off at the dorm, she didn't give you the option to go home, telling you to come inside with her. you listened, and the two of you ended up ordering takeout and cuddling on the couch, watching some new dating show she was into. eventually, she told you that she was sorry for starting an argument, but she wasn't sorry for sticking up for you, and she'd do it again if she had to. you told her there was nothing to apologize for, and that you weren't bringing her around them again, that they didn't deserve someone like her in their lives. it was a rough day for you both, so it was easy to find comfort in each other and relax when you were finally alone

megan is the one you took the longest to let meet your family, because she was so gentle, so kind, that you knew their treatment of you would upset her. but as the two of you got more serious, you just couldn't bring yourself to tell her why. you hadn't even meant for her to meet your parents when she had, they had just decided to stop by your apartment one morning, and she had come over to yours after practice the day before, showering and changing into your clothes before just using you as her pillow for the night. she was sitting on the kitchen counter as you made breakfast when your parents came in, and the sight of a girl on your kitchen counter in just a pair of boxers and a loose shirt wasn't a sight they had expected. she had quickly excused herself, flushed down to her chest at being seen like that, but by the time she had come back out in her own clothes, you had already begun arguing with your parents. she came out just in time to hear your dead name, and before she could help herself the question of "who's that?" escaped her. that only led to your parents accusing you of misleading her, and it was then that it dawned on her what was going on. she didn't speak up much after that, knowing you preferred to talk for yourself, but when they finally left, she was pulling you close to her, fingers playing with your hair as she quietly told you that she loved you. she didn't really know what else to say, but when you opened up about your family finally, she listened, and she quickly reassured you that they were wrong, that you were perfect exactly how you were, and she had never once felt like you were misleading her. she knew exactly who you were, and she loved who you were, and nothing they or anyone else could say would change that. the rest of the day consisted of a lot of cuddling and reassurances, with megan even skipping practice to be by your side

[punkeropercyjackson]

i just KNOW perlex would clock Percab*th TEA SO BADLY if they ever interacted

Oh they did.That was Lex's plot inbetween Tlo and Tlh and Percy dumped Annabeth over it in Hoh lmaoooo.Post-Hoo Lex lets Percy vent about Annabeth and she(Percy,not Lex,who are transfem and a they/petal tmasc respectively)gets some real good roasts in

[rrelationshipadvice]

Hi, weird phrasing on this one probably, also apologies for the length.

I'm not sure what to do about my current relationship. We're long distance, both early-mid 20s (I'm tmasc, theyre nb) with litanies of issues that I (mostly) won't name that do affect how we act and react.

(I will mention that I have BPD, OSDD, and trust issues due to repeated past traumas because they come up later. I am trying to work on them, but not with a therapist. I can't afford one right now. I've had therapists in the past though, and am mostly working off what I can remember of their advice and worksheets and any other tips I can find to try and help.)

Very long preface out of the way, I often feel like I'm not good enough for my partner or tgat our relationship is bad for them, but they refuse to entertain the thought, or even the topic whenever I try to bring it up.

If I'm manic I tend to get really irritable to the point where even the most minor things like off key whistling or small noises or changing topics to sonething I'm not interested in will tick me off (I never voice these thoughts to them, or anybody, but I worry they can tell).

If I'm depressive I feel like I get unbearable with how much support I need. My partner has said that they don't mind it and that they like feeling helpful but I've accidentally stumbled upon them talking to one of my alters and saying the angst and worsened self esteem and splitting (in the BPD sense) during episodes frustrates them. I honestly can't blame them for it, even if it hurt that they didn't tell me about it to my face.

Every time we went on break/broke up in the past it's been horrible for both our mental health due to both it and other circumstances around those times, and my partner isn't keen on a repeat.

After our most recent break up, long before we got back together, they'd asked me if I saw them as a person or as a crutch and it stuck with me and only made my own worries about whether our relationship was good for us or not worsen. I do my best to handle my issues on my own, sometimes venting to them if I feel I need the emotional support. They can tell I hold things back though and they say it makes them feel like I don't trust them, when they're the only person I feel like I do trust, especially compared to everyone else.

Again, reiterating, I'm not sure what to do. I do love them deeply, and they fully reciprocate, but I can't tell if it's the disorders talking whenever I end up thinking we should see other people, so I'm here to ask for a second opinion.

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[malevampiricsiren]

the amount of hate i’ve experienced as a tman/tmasc is so shocking especially because a lot came from online queers and even other trans folk.

it disheartened me a lot seeing how trans men are treated online, ESPECIALLY by trans people and queers. we’re often forgotten, fetishized, have femininity forced on us, and are treated like villains for wanting to be / being men. even IN queer communities too!!

ive seen a post here on tumblr where someone was trying to vent in a trans discord server about how trans men are treated and usually ignored and erased and other trans people chimed in, telling him that its his fault because “of course he would be. no one wants to be around a masculine man”.

a trans woman (who used to act on the hate/undermined the hate and discrimination tmen/tmascs go through) once told me on reddit that it often comes from them being uncomfortable with masculinity as a whole so some of them would force it on us then blame us whenever we got upset over the way we’re treated.

i was once even told by a trans medicalist that i wasnt trans because i never experienced dysphoria before and i almost believed them since i didnt know much about trans stuff at the time!! if it werent for the people rightfully calling them out on it and telling me that i could instead have gender euphoria (which i do!!) and if it werent for them i wouldnt have realized that i was trans.

im lucky enough that i dont get much dysphoria or dysmorphia dressing fem still and actually love dressing that way! its just annoying how much its expected of us since we “were women at some point”. we’re fetishized in stereotypically feminine ways (ie: ftm porn often has us bottoming or doing more “fem” roles)

but then again, all this hate towards tmen/tmascs came from twitter and a subreddit thats well known for hating non binary tmen so LMAO dont know what i expected

Can we take a moment to think about the younger trans men and mascs on tumblr right now?

I was a teenager when ace and transmed discourses were at their peaks, and I can’t exaggerate how badly it affected me then.

Now trans men are the latest target, and I’m terrified for trans kids.

It’s easy to say “intracommunity discourse is an online problem! Go talk to queer people irl!”, but people forget that so many kids and teenagers do not have safe or reliable access to IRL LGBT+ communities and support groups. For many, online spaces are the only option.

We need to make sure the younger members of our community are being heard, and block out the hateful voices with messages of support and encouragement. Things are bad enough for trans people right now, and it's easy to forget that trans minors are often the ones suffering the most.

To any younger trans men or transmasculine people reading this:

The hate you are experiencing isn’t normal, it hasn’t always been like this, and it won’t always be this way. It is bleeding out from a small, miserable group of self-absorbed jerks.

Don’t feel obligated to call them out, don’t feel like you have to interact with these people. Please don’t doomscroll through discourse tags; it will make you feel like everyone is out to get you.

If you want to speak up for your community, that’s fine, but please take a break if you feel like your mental health is worsening. Block anybody who so much as breathes rudely in your direction.

You’re just as trans as the rest of us. You are welcome here.

Oh, and if you want to seek out external resources and groups, PFLAG helped me a lot when I was younger. It is an American-based organization, however, so if anyone has recommendations for those living outside of the US, please let me know in the reblogs!

[velvetvexations]

Was going through the Playdoughs tag just to see what was up with the Homestuck vs Dykes To Watch Out For stuff and unfortunately saw that she apparently was also trying to paint Leslie Feinberg as a TERF and ngl might be a bit conspiracy brained but between that and the Bechdel stuff I'm wondering if she's just trying to shit on every single notable butch person out of a hatred for transmascs and "TMEs". Like no queer person has ever been perfect, but it's getting sus that transradfems never bring up any of the problems with Whipping Girl and decry anyone who does a transmisognist but they're allowed to shit all over Stone Butch Blues and Dykes To Watch Out For because the authors both have had some questionable takes.

It also especially pisses me the fuck off because Feinburg literally stopped medically transitioning to avoid the separation from the lesbian community(and expirience a bunch of butches say they shared on a post I found from r/ButchLesbians. Legit saw PD claiming the women in the book only exist to prop up tmascs and take care of their emotions which...idk in the context of that passage I legit can't help but feel like she genuinely thinks the isolation that came with transition was just and deserved. PD also compares Feinburg to a cis man writing misogynistic crap about cis women and truly, shut the fuck up. It's possible for anyone to be misogynistic, but Stone Butch Blues very clearly shows not only how much Feinburg valued the women around hir even as they abandoned hir for trying to become who ze wanted to be, but also how much violence and hatred butches and tmascs face, and honestly I think the latter might be her real problem with it. Can't let queer books about tmascs and butches exist, people might realize queer masculinity is actually NOT celebrated by cishet society! And ofc course asking any queer woman to stand in solidary with her butch community members is placing men's emotions over women's and implying women only exist to support and care for men. It would almost be funny if it wasn't so goddamn transphobic and cruel.

Anyway yeah, sorry to vent, that just bothered me so fucking much. I think it's perfectly fine to point out issues with well-known queer authors and activists but when you are specifically attacking masc queer people I start to get suspicious that combating transmisogny might not really be what's driving this. And again, it's awful that anyone could read that book(or just like Feinburg's wiki page) and come away with the belief that society and certain queer spaces never punish queer masculinity. It breaks my butch heart to see all of my fellow butches never making their body a home because they'd rather live a dysphoric life than end up alone with no community. I'd love for any transradfem to read those testimonies and tell me tmascs and butches aren't targeted for their masculinity, I dare them.

some trans women desperately need trans men to be cis men because cis men violently oppressing us isn't enough and they need a direct 1:1 equivalent to the relationship cis women have with cis men to feel validated

[hardcoffeegardener]

tmasc vent art

"OH THIS BODY I HATE THIS BODY IM A SKELETON AND IM DEAD AND GONE" /lyr

[tmasc-confessions]

transmedicalists make me so fucking angry.

i want to be pregnant one day. i am so sick and tired of random people feeling entitled to MY goddamn uterus.

i don't want phallo. i would only get top surgery after my child(ren), or if i couldn't physically breastfeed (personal preference).

i want to be big and fat and hairy and the neighborhood dad and i'm actually upset that people say that me expressing my masculinity that way is wrong.

is something wrong with me? is something genuinely wrong with me that the thought of being both trans and pregnant isn't dysphoric, but euphoric instead?

i'm already fucked up enough with people constantly threatening me for being a fucking trans man, but this is putting a nail in a proverbial coffin.

There's nothing wrong with you. I think that dream is awesome, and I truly wish you achieve it some day. Transmeds are stupid and miserable and can't take their own heads out of their asses... keep it up, dude :)

[angel---eater]

system==> make dumb flashy intro post

we're THE CORVIDAE. were a fictive heavy system of mostly striders and lalondes. feel free to ask abt our pronouns cause we've got some wildcard neos. we've been on tumblr for 10+ looong years and been a homestuck fan for a little longer than that so we've seen it all

⬇⬇⬇ things that are probably important info ⬇⬇⬇

we are adults. i dont care about briefly interacting with ppl who arent but if i olly out respect that its nothing personal. were not planning on rbing very nsfw stuff but consider this blog to be r18 anyway just because were adults and this is our space. if u follow us and u have under-18/minor/whatever in ur bio we'll probably soft block u sorry

idc about the ship discourse. i just dont care. dont ask me about it. were too old for that shit. i like what i like and you like what you like just dont be dicks to each other peace + love on planet earth. we'll still vent about fandom wank but its just venting. we've seen TOOO much of the same shit

we will tag big common triggers if we ever end up rbing or making stuff about them

we'll usually sign off on text posts with our own tags or use coloured text. itll be pretty obvious whos typing usually probably

we'll most likely talk a lot about plurality and system stuff. if that aint your jam then idk what to say bro thats just part of our life

this blog is gonna also be used as a place to talk about stuff we wouldnt or cant normally talk about around other people so fair warning for objectum stuff, furry shenannigans, and politics (mainly transfeminism, intracommunity issues and intersex stuff/intersexism). we tag our politics posts with #serious stuff and #intersex stuff

HS opinions that i guess can be deal breakers: we really like the epilogues and hs2. we think theyre fun as hell and very well written. its very clear to us that the team loves hs and its characters and know what they're doing. bc of this, nonbinary/transmasc roxy is nonnegotiably canon and we love him. our depictions of roxy will usually be tmasc bc we see ourselves in his trans journey. tboy roxy is really personal to us so please be nice cause well be nice to you abt your headcanons always. if we use he/him for roxy or draw him masc please dont tag him or refer to him as anything else. same goes for all characters we draw (ie if we draw john please dont tag him as june. if we draw june dont tag her as john)

[togurookunaga]

lynx, lyn or lin !!

xe/he+ • 18 yrs (26.04) • 🇻🇳, 🇰🇭, and 🇨🇳, resident in 🇩🇪 • ger/eng ok • tmasc aroacespec

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