#straight aqueerplatonic

[ryanyflags]

straight asexual/ace straight aromantic/aro straight ay straight analterous/analt straight aplatonic/apl (yellow verions) straight aplatonic/apl (green, blue, purple versions) straight asensual/asen straight anaesthetic/anae straight aqueerplatonic/aqp (yellow pink versions) straight aqueerplatonic/aqp (teal grey versions) straight aqueerplatonic/aqp (teal versions) straight atertiary/ater straight aphysical/aphys straight aemotional/aemo (green, blue, black versions) straight aemotional/aemo (green teal blue versions)

(straight here can also be replaced with het and hetero. Alt terms for these aspec terms can also be used in place of the ones I used, like nonalterous instead of analterous.)

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Straight/het/hetero a-spec flags :D

I saw @neopronouns' straight aroace flag and was inspired to make other a-spec versions. I know straight aro, and likely others, have already been made before, but I wanted to make my own. For mine that look like ones already made before, because I am following a flag format afterall, just think of these as high res versions (I didn't check / try to find every pre-existing straight a-spec flag). It was fun to make these, and I love sets of things. :)

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Each term has 2 flags, the first ones follows this 7 stripe straightbian format, and the seconds follows this 6 stripe straightbian format.

The colors (so not the white/greys/black) come from their respective a- flags. The aqueerplatonic, atertiary, aphysical, and aemotional flags in particular use the colors from my flags, link.

[the-omniverse-coning]

Aquaplatonic/Aqueerplatonic pride flag

Flag: Cosmos System

[ id: five horizontal straight stripes with the following color orders: gray, light yellow, white, light pink and black, with a white diamond ]

[saffigon]

8?

8. What other identities are you, if any? oof a lot

Gender: agender, genderqueer, xenogender, abinary, atrinary, trans / transsexual, guy, lesboy

Aspec: allosexual-spec, aplatonic, aqueerplatonic, analterous, aemotional

Orientation: straight [mlw], lesbian, abro, mspec

Other: loveless, heartless, voidpunk, vilpunk, autospec, nonamorous, relationship anarchist

feel free to ask questions about any of the identities btw

Aromantic Ask Game

[sir-arlieosaurus-lung-struggler]

I had the same expirience! I knew I was ace fairly quickly but cause all the "crushes" the aro bit came in waves of

"oh cool! Thing exists"

"Am I thing? No I am not I had crushes"

"Wait- but ✨spectrum✨"

And from there I miss-constued myself to be cupio for a while, mistaking close friendships, queerplatonic feelings, admiration, or just straight up "this kid is my crush now"

This paragraph is a mini rant: omfg to this fucking day I still dont know why but omfg I got my 1st "crush" the last 3 weeks of kindergarten & told him 🤦‍♂️ you know why? No we were not friends, I barely knew the kid, GUESS. mother fucker picked up a CHAIR. LIKE THE REST OF THE GOD DAMN CLASS ***INCLUDING ME COULD DO***...

lil me- how did you not know SOONER

Back to the point, I thought I was aroflux for a good while cause i kinda changed from apothi to cupio kinda lick switch from day to day thing, then i might have just become to jaded to be cupio anymore lol (or just mixed it up with queerplatonic feelings idk). I realized I'm either demi &/or cupio in a queerplatonic way, that im all over the A spectrum, including Asensual, Aqueerplatonic, Aplatonic, & that I'm Apothiaroace.

Hello fellow aro club member btw 🖤💣⚪💚🌲 🏳️‍🌈

Ever since I discovered that I'm aroace I've been struggling with something. The thing that made me question my identity for so long and still makes me a bit usure.

I’ve been avoiding calling myself aromantic because I’ve read many times that one of the signature signs of being aromantic is not having crushes.

And I had been having crushes on people ever since primary school.

But today I actually discovered that every time I had something I called a crush it was not a crush in the… conventional sense.

Every person I was crushing on was completly unavailable for me. I think I subconsciuously chose people I would not have a chance with and there was no way we’d ever be „together“ in any sense. 

It was easy for me to have a crush because I didn’t have to do anything to make it into something more.

My crush was never once romantic nor sexual, I never wanted to do any of those things with people I called my crushes. 

I was just calling them that because I thought that term fit (even though it didn’t).

Because of that I felt like I can’t call myslef an aromantic.

But now I know that I want to. I want to be aroace because I’ve never felt better with any other label.

[acore-ballt]

Aspec Acore flag!

With symbol || Without symbol

Just a fun little flag for anything on the orientation A-Spectrum! Asexual, Aromantic, Aplatonic, Asensual, Aqueerplatonic and more!

Don't want to explain? Don't want to specify? Use the Aspec Acore flag! You don't owe anyone an explanation for you identity. You could just be one of the things on the A-spectrum or many! No need for specifics.

Feel free to edit it to fit your orientation. Acore straight? Go ahead! Acore gays and lesbians? Welcome to the team! Acore bis, pans, omnis, polys, and anywhere in between are all welcome to use this flag!

[heterophobiclesbean]

Also Who apparently made the line on Straight being heteroromantic and heterosexual... what if ur heteroromantic and heterosexual but asensual.... is it queer asensual erasure that inclusionists arent talking about them? Or are asenses just not as important as aros and aces?? What about aaesthetics? Or aqueerplatonics?? Where is their representation???????? Saying the a is for ace is aqueerplatonic erasure....

And bc I know people are gonna Not Read This Post and Say Dumbass Things In The Replies, the point of this post is that saying "straight means heterosexual heteroromantic" instead of "straight means exclusive opposite binary gender attraction" is coming up with such an arbitrary and quite frankly fucking stupid line for what grants someone straight privilege. If it's both heteroromantic and heterosexual, why not heteroplatonic or heteroaesthetic also? Why is the line at romantic and sexual when so many other types of attraction exist? Is that representative of how the world operates and realistic model for how people are treated and categorized in practice, or is it literally made up because people on a website known for its shitty politics wanted Oppression Points and wanted people to stop telling them they had privilege? Let's all put on our thinking caps for a second :)

[arco-pluris]

Monosexism × Zedsexism

Both result from heterosexism, and I’m making this post to explain the words, I didn’t invent, to show they describe things common and accepted by many people inside and outside the variant/LGBTQIAPN+/IMOGA community.

Definitions

Heterosexism: belief in social normality is to be straight (strict perioriented allo-mono-heterosexual).

· Monosexism: belief that people are only attracted to one gender (aphobia, biphobia, phobia, polyphobia, omniphobia…). Within this are:

} Zedsexism / Allosexism / Zedism: belief that all people will be affectively attracted to others, like sex/romance/touch/friendship, and want that. Within this are:

- Aphobia (acephobia / arophobia): discrimination against people of the a- spectrum (aromantic, asexual, asensual, aplatonic, etc.)

- Allonormativity / Zednormativity, umbrella term for:

Sex-normativity: the idea that everyone is sexually attracted / interested in sex;

Amato-normativity: the idea that everyone is romantically attracted or interested in romance. Similar to monogamism (mononormative polyphobia/monogamist polymisia);

Touch-normativity / Sense-normativity: the idea that everyone is corporeally/physically/tactilely attracted or sensually/sensorially interested in touches/sensory (hugs, kisses, hands given, etc);

Socio-normativity (plato-normativity): it is the idea that everyone is platonically/amically/socially attracted and must be interested in friendships; the platonic/social/amical norm merged into the nonromantic nonsexual relationships, including impersonal/professional ones in public life sphere; bigotry experienced by asocials/anamicals/aplatonics and anattractionals;

Look-normativity (lookism/unatractiphobia): the idea that everyone is aesthetically attracted and interested in appearance, or aesthetic discrimination against aesthetic celibacy;

~ [others]

} Homosexism: thought that all people are homosexual until proven otherwise, as in political lesbianism and exorsexist mascunormativity (masculist andrinism, binarist androsexism). Another thought advocated by homonationalists and self-defined homosexists that they should only relate to other <perioriented> homosexuals (gays with gays and lesbians with lesbians). Basically respectability politics glorifying homonormativity.

} Perism/Periorism (periorientism or variphobia): bigotry against varioriented people, the idea that everyone shouldn’t be cross-oriented, being all perioriented, when the romantic and sexual orientations have to be the same (perioriented);

} Orientation/Identity Binarism: limiting the existence of orientations/identities into a duality/binarity, as: homo and hetero; mono and bi; bi, ace and mono (as if there was only man and woman as genders, a dualism). Within this are:

- Pomophobia/Labelism: the thought that people can’t have undefined attractions, as in macrolabel supremacism vs identity skepticism. A monolabel and macrolabel supremacism;

- Strictism/Suptilicism (abrophobia/amplusphobia/orientation suptilism): belief that nobody has fluid nor flux attraction, everyone has to be suptilic, as in ace/asexual elitism (greyphobia/grayphobia/gray-aphobia/gracephobia/graymisia/greymisia/grey-amisia) [usually with a bioessentialist innatism too];

- Bisexism: belief everyone is bisexual, reinforcing/enforcing the binormativity.

- [other] (panphobia/polyphobia/etc)

Note: peri/dycisheterosexism is a substitute for LGBTphobia / MOGAIphobia.

Aspec people aren’t attracted by one gender, except when they are gray-mono (singular attraction in grey area), but this is just adherent, and suptilic a-specs (of black area, omniaces/omniaros) are totally non-mono.

People always assume what kind of gender we might relate to, and when they don’t know and we never show or express something more for someone, people will always want to define us, and when we get out of social normality, which is dycishet² (cis-hetero-dyadic pattern), we have to give explanations, they call us confused, complicated, ill, etc. All this because our orientation is dissident/variant, and when we express what we feel, where the allonormativity is unmasked, we have to prove our sexuality / affectivity.

Almost all of society treat relationships as if everyone must kiss, have sex, romance, etc. as a requirement for existing, and that if there is not all of it, it’s just friendship.

A- Spectrum (a-spectral): inclusion for asexual, aromantic, asensual, aplatonic/asocial, ansthetic/nonaesthetic, analterous and aqueerplatonic people (avoid using aphilia, since a-spec is not synonymous with loveless/unaffective, these people can rather love and have affection).

Dycishet/Pericishet (a strict perioriented heterosexual dyadic/perisex cisgender cissex/ual person): a conformant person, with suptilic heterosexuality, monoallosexual/zedsexual periorientation, suptilian monocom-cisgenderness and perisexuality [read more here].

Dyadicity (perisex/endosex): non-intersex person, of vulval or testicular dyadic corporeality/body [read more].

MOGAI or IMOGA: intersexualities, marginalized orientations and gender alignments. People whose sexuality/romanticity/gender/sex diverge the pericishet/dyallomonocishet pattern (pericisheterodissident).

Note: I’m sorry if I translated something bad, English is my second language. Helpful sources: x x.

[ask-pride-color-schemes]

Okay so I've been through extreme near death trauma and since then, dont really express much attraction. I use sex and sexual activity to cope, but dont care on my partners gender at all. I'm not really attracted to anyone. I'm also extremely repulsed by romance and close friendships. What would my sexual, romantic, alterous, platonic, and sensual orientations be? Some would say its pan and others would say ace so I'm really not sure thanks for any help!

Sexual attraction =/= sexual action; if you don’t feel attraction, you can call yourself asexual regardless of how much sex you have. But it’s your orientation, so the choice is yours.

Here are a few terms that might fit your sexual orientation:

A-: “Experiencing no attraction. (Asexual, aromantic, aplatonic, analterous, asensual, aqueerplatonic).”

Aspectus-: “Where a person can appear to have an attraction, but in reality they do not feel that attraction at all. They tend to act in ways that most people would assume allo people do.A case would be an aspectusexual person likes to flirt, make sexual jokes, and look sexy, but they're doing so because they enjoy it, not because they have the goal of attracting someone for a sexual relationship. Ultimately they are still aspec.“

Caed-/Caedo-: “A feeling that one was previously able to experience a particular kind of attraction, but that ability was lost due to trauma.“

Caligo-: “On the A- spectrum, defined as feeling attraction that is very weak or vague, almost nonexistent, like a vapor, fog, or mist. “

Cass-: “Feeling utterly indifferent to your orientation, as though it does not matter or is not a significant part of your identity. “You might feel attraction, you might not, meh, maybe you like girls, or nonbinary people, ehh, who cares though?””

Cupio-: “Not feeling a type of attraction, but desiring interaction that goes with it regardless.“

Gray-: “Being between a- and allo-; feeling attraction rarely, vaguely, or weakly.“

Icula-: “Being A- (aromantic, asexual, etc) but being open to sexual acts, romantic acts, etc.“

Klape-: “When you feel as though your ability (or potential) to experience attraction has been taken away from you due to abuse, trauma, neurodivergency, illness, or any other similar factor, including any combination of them.“

Nanox-: “A person who rarely feels attraction or feels attraction so small to the point where that attraction is almost nonexistant (depending on how its used, i.e a nanoxsexual person rarely feels sexual attraction) A blanket term for nanoxsexual, nanoxmantic, nanoxplatonic, nanoxsensual, nanoxalterous, and nanoxqueerplatonic.X is replaced by the persons orientation, for example, nanox would be nanopan, nanoxsexual would be nanohomosexual, etc.“

Novi-: “Feeling complicated attraction or lack thereof in such a way that it is difficult or impossible to fit into one word or term.“

Plilisexual: “The opposite of apothisexual, an asexual who isn't repulsed by sex.“

Pomo-: “An orientation where one denies or does not fit any labels for a particular kind of attraction.  For example, someone who is pomosexual may or may not feel sexual attraction, but is not interested in specifying whether they feel it, and to whom.‘Not straight’. A label for not wanting or needing a precise label.”

As for your romantic orientation, you may want to use one of these:

Apothi-: “An orientation defined by repulsion. Whether or not they feel a type of attraction is irrelevant to them due to their repulsion towards the idea of being in that kind of relationship.”

ARC-: “The general term for a person who feels averse, repulsed, or conflicted towards sex, romance, etc.“

Alterous attraction is usually said to be between romantic and platonic, or desiring emotional closeness without it being romantic or platonic. You don’t say anything about it on your ask, but from the rest of it, I'll assume you don’t feel alterous attraction. You can just not label your alterous orientation, or say you are analterous if asked, if you really feel no alterous attraction.

Platonic attraction has two different definitions; some use it in place of queerplatonic attraction, which is sort of like... desiring emotional closeness without it being romantic, or wanting a commited platonic relationship. It’s hard to explain. The other definition is, well, if you have desire to have friends or not. If you use this second definition, you can either be alloplatonic or aplatonic. Again, it seems like you are aplatonic if I’m basing this on your ask, but I can’t be sure just with that information. You can also just not label platonic orientation, since most people don’t care for it.

Sensual attraction has several different meanings. People agree it’s an attraction regarding acts that aren’t sexual but that are intimate, but depending on the person, they will describe different acts that sensual attraction covers. Actions such as the desire to kiss, caress, cuddle, hold hands and sensual touches may be considered sensual attraction, but some people just consider them sexual or romantic attraction. From this ask, I have no clue if you desire this kind of touch or if you would just do it because of your coping. I recommend labeling your sensual orientation as something I listed for your sexual orientation, as something gender-based if you really do feel such attraction and don’t just do those actions regardless of attraction (such as pansensual, omnisensual, polysensual, etc.) or just not label it at all.

Hope this helps!

~ Tath