#allosexism

[this-is-allosexism]

calling bi, pan, lesbian, gay, straight etc. "allo labels".

this is allosexism.

it plays into allonormativity, into the whole idea that everyone is allo until proven otherwise. it also frames these labels as mutually exclusive with asexuality and aromanticism, when there are many aces and aros who are also bi, gay or any other label that is not explicitly aspec. none of these labels are inherently allo, they just describe which gender(s) or how many genders someone is attracted to. if you want a different term for this, you might want to look into affinitive and numerative orientation.

my bi-ness is not an allo label because it cannot be separated from my aspec identities. it's just bi. it's not inherently allo or aspec. allo is not the default.

[rabbitindisguise]

me, minding my own business reading a fic: wait a minute. This feel- this feels oddly familiar .. . no it can't be. I can't have internalized aphobia, I've been ace for like 12 years now, how could I have not noticed?

[alas the pressures of preforming normativity come for us all in the end]

(I say, sitting on a pile of my favorite Internalized Homophobia fanfics. Which could mean nothing. But evidently did, in fact, mean something. In retrospect there were signs. Maybe. If you squinted. If you squinted super hard.)

[bitterwaters]

I'm seeing folks on Twitter cite the existence of intersex people in response to JKR's claims that women are "the sex class that produce large gametes"--specifically those with complete androgen insensitivity syndrome. And then I check their feeds, and they have never mentioned intersex people before.

Cool. So you only recognize intersex people exist when you want to weaponize them against transphobes. Good job. Good allyship.

[ariel-s-awesome]

Funny how exclusionists identified as sexhavers and then said asexuals were sexualizing gay people by acknowledging that most gay people feel sexual attraction.

And then they called asexuals asexys to sexualize people who are practically inherently uncomfortable with being sexualized. 🤔

[ariel-s-awesome]

Petition to ban allos from bringing up the spectrum for any aro and/or ace who is canonically not interested in romance and/or sex.

it is absolutely so absurd how shipping culture has made people feel like every single aroace character must be romance and sex favorable and its a normal thing to insist to real aspec people that its not disrespectful to mass headcanon every aspec character as favorable. yes yes youre very woke for knowing that aros can date and aces can have sex but maybe its not cool that you cant handle a character that doesnt want those things and should be understood in a way that isnt via a pairing

[this-is-allosexism]

"the divine erotic lives within everyone."

this is allosexism.

it's just a spicy way of saying everyone is (allo)sexual.

[ariel-s-awesome]

Thebootydiaries is a scourge on internet culture and one of the people who popularized the culture of being condescending catty assholes to complete strangers.

If I never see anyone go "uh sweatie" ever again it'll be too soon.

Also please stop reblogging posts by sexhaver. That term was literally invented to say that they're better than aces for fucking. And fuck off with dare-i-say-asexual too. That was an allosexist meme.

[isobug]

Alt. Allosexual / Allosex / Allosexspec flag

( id: a flag with five stripes, all equally sized. in order they are white, grey, black, brown-red, and light orange-red. /end id. )

A flag made on request for anon (which I shelved back in April due to a lack of inspiration) to match my Alt. Alloromantic / Alloro / Allorospec flag. The meanings and colors parallel that flag, with the bottom two stripes flipped to make the colors blend better.

White for those who experience full Sexual attraction and are Sex-positive.

Grey for those who experience Sexual attraction but are not solely Sex-positive or Sex-repulsed (those who are Sex-ambivalent/Sex-Oscillating/etc.)

Black for those who experience Sexual attraction but are Sex-repulsed.

Brown-red for for Sexual attraction itself

Light orange-red for for Orchidsexuals /Orchidspecs (those that experience sexual attraction but do not desire sexual relationships) who consider themselves as (or closer) to being Allospec than Arospec or who simply wish to be included. Color taken directly from the Orchidspec flag.

Since "Allosex" is something I haven’t seen used as frequently as “Allo” and “Alloro”, I do want to note that it is a term I was introduced to via AVEN! Not my own abbreviation/coining.

I wanted to quickly note that I got my inspiration to finish and post this draft from seeing the general Allospec (Allo spectrum) flag by @neopronouns! Seeing such a cool flag based off of my Alloro one gave me a lot of motivation!

Taglist - @conformant-archive, @radiomogai

[ariel-s-awesome]

I'm ace and sex repulsed and anyone who says sanitizing things for ace people helps them is lying.

If people are forced to suppress their attraction, we get treated like we're calling everyone devious perverts for acknowledging the attraction we don't feel.

Stop using aces as your respectibility politics shield.

Is it wrong that I’m cool with “sex” being removed from the pride flag? They should bring back “magic” though.

Personally I think you’re wrong and an idiot but that’s just my opinion.

[this-is-allosexism]

"queerness is about sexuality, not love."

this is allosexism.

this is unfortunately a growing sentiment i'm seeing and it appears to be an overcorrection to "queerness isn't about sexuality, only love", except this swings too hard in the other direction and is a bit reactionary.

many people prioritise love over sexuality in their queerness, and this sentiment especially affects asexuals for whom queerness is often not about sexuality at all.

we cannot switch one narrow definition of queerness to another.

[variousqueerthings]

yes, I read all of the iterations of the doctor as aroace in one way or another, but also yes the doctor has incredible sexual tension with every version of the master, yes, including crispy!master

it's evil sexual tension of course, that's why it works

[ariel-s-awesome]

I realized that I was asexual the moment I heard of it at 15. Y'know what knowing that saved me from? Being pressured to date and have sex!

So what if I wasn't asexual, huh? What would've happened if I tried to force myself to try boys?

Not only would I end up in a relationship that I don't want, but I would be pressured to tailor my appearance for boys.

Because the only reason I was comfortable with, well, dressing for my comfort and forgoing stuff I hated like makeup and shaving was "You're too ugly to ever get a partner" had no effect on me.

And if I wasn't asexual, maybe I wouldn't of stood up to my mom telling me that I'm her only hope of having grandkids starting at 14. (Despite having 2 siblings at the time.)

Maybe I would've eventually bowed into pressure to have kids for my mom's sake. Maybe I wouldn't of dreamed of being anything but a full-time housewife to "make up for" my siblings.

goddddd it’s fine!! its fine!!! its okay if if 12 year old girls decide they’re asexual and look back and realize that actually it was just puberty and the gross sexualization of women that alienated them from their feelings of attraction and actually now she feels she was always allo. That’s allowed! That’s okay! Its not the end of the world if some of the people coming home to the label of asexuality are actually arriving at a way station onto what will be a better place for them. Cause you know if what she wanted was to feel she had the language to give herself permission to not be obligated to engage in sexual acts, to not exist as a sexual foodstuff for the consumption and digestion of others, If she needed the world asexual to shield her like that that’s okay!!! Cause whats important is she found a way to not do the things she wasn’t ready to do. What you wanna say no? No, you are obligated to figure out your attraction to others and the torture of its existence in a complicated fucked up world with language that doesn’t always sink home. Who is she hurting. Oh yeah it’s on a twelve year old to never be wrong about who they think they’re becoming, it’s up to a twelve year old to find a permanent state of self, it’s on a twelve year old to figure out the uncomfortableness of becoming a sexual being on their fucking own. Cause yknow if she’s wrong then people are going to use that as evidence that asexuality is a phase as if people looking for an excuse to dismiss other people’s identities would just not exist if we all perfectly performed our fucking labels like they’re the audience that decides if our fucking rock opera gets to hit broadway. Like there’s a fucking quota on how many times a person can be wrong about a label. I’m bisexual!! And if I’d just allowed myself to think that it’d be okay if I was wrong about being bisexual, or that it was okay if it wasn’t permanent, then I would’ve taken the first step to realizing I was actually a long term bisexual all the sooner.  There isn’t a fucking deadline for figuring out the perfect label for yourself, there isn’t a fucking surety purity test at the door. God, and all these trans kids and people agonizing about if they’re really trans or if they’re just faking it, as if that’s important when transitioning makes them happier! But no, we gotta make a philosophical argument from the ground up for what it means to be queer every fucking time so you don’t get it wrong cause god forbid, can you imagine

[ariel-s-awesome]

I want to stop seeing sexhaver on my dash. Their url was literally an allosexist meme that exclusionists proudly called themselves to explicitly say they're better than aces.

[kodiescove]

Peace be upon you, Jewish Tumblr

It's me, the annoying Muslim with all the annoying questions.

I was just wondering

Besides, like, the Torah, does anyone have any, like, Jewish stories they'd recommend?

I'll take anything 🤷 whether it's a nonfiction story about Jewish people, or even just a short story fic about some Jewish characters with Jewish themes and such. Just like.... yknow, some Jewish stories!

I'm reading a lot of nonfiction lately, my current fiction read I'm kind of burnt out from (the third in a trilogy) and idk I'd just like to read about something new!

Definitely trying to branch out of the "white European background perisex cishet alloro/allosex" lead!

I don't think I've ever read a Jewish themed story, which when I think of it makes me sad.

So I'll take all the recommendations!

[ariel-s-awesome]

Sex-repulsed asexuals aren't an excuse to sweep any sign of sexuality under the rug for respectability politics.

And I remember when those same people would claim that asexuals were sexualizing everyone else by acknowledging that most people experience sexual attraction so... It's really not about protecting us.

look me in the eyes. you are aware some asexual people have sex, right. you are aware some asexuals aren’t sex repulsed. you do not need to baby asexuals and act like the slightest mention of anything sexual will cause them to die of a heart attack 

[ryanyflags]

afamilial / afam ✦ afamilial spectrum / afamspec allofamilial / allofam / allofamilial spectrum / allofamspec ✦ familial attraction

Some alt (a)fam flags :p

I wanted to make my own versions of it, kinda like what I did with aphysical, aemotional, and aqp.

I feel like brown and red colours are fitting for familial. Light blue also vaguely felt fitting, but it didn't really fit into the allofam flag, so I just included it in the familial attraction flag (because it'd use more colours).

Then, the afamilial colours are the inverse of that, so green and blue (opposite of red and brown). I also made then slightly cyanish, because on a digital colour wheel, the opposite of red is cyan.

This is kinda the opposite of the original familial and afamilial flags, where familial is blue and afamilial is (dark) red. I wanted to make something more fitting with aspec flags to me.

People can just use whatever one feels more fitting to them. If anyone wants to give any comments on the colours and stuff, I'd like to hear it.

-✦

For the first flag, it's format is similar to other aspec flags. The black, grey, and white stripes represent no attraction, partial attraction, and attraction, in regards to familial attraction, but can also include others too (like experiencing attraction other than familial, or also being another a- orientation). The green and blue is for afamilial.

The afamspec flag uses the main green and blue colours for afam, put into a gradient format like other a-spec flags, to represent the spectrum of afam identities.

For allofam, it follows the format of @isobug's allo-/allo-spec flags (alloro and allosex examples). The top 3 stripes have the same meaning, and the bottom 2 are for familial attraction (the gradient represents it's a spectrum too). Like the others, this includes orchidspecs who wish to be included.

For the familial attraction flag, I just used the above colours I associate with familial attraction. There's no particular stripe meanings, or flag format I followed.