#allosexism

[bitterwaters]

I'm seeing folks on Twitter cite the existence of intersex people in response to JKR's claims that women are "the sex class that produce large gametes"--specifically those with complete androgen insensitivity syndrome. And then I check their feeds, and they have never mentioned intersex people before.

Cool. So you only recognize intersex people exist when you want to weaponize them against transphobes. Good job. Good allyship.

[ariel-s-awesome]

Funny how exclusionists identified as sexhavers and then said asexuals were sexualizing gay people by acknowledging that most gay people feel sexual attraction.

And then they called asexuals asexys to sexualize people who are practically inherently uncomfortable with being sexualized. 🤔

[ariel-s-awesome]

Petition to ban allos from bringing up the spectrum for any aro and/or ace who is canonically not interested in romance and/or sex.

it is absolutely so absurd how shipping culture has made people feel like every single aroace character must be romance and sex favorable and its a normal thing to insist to real aspec people that its not disrespectful to mass headcanon every aspec character as favorable. yes yes youre very woke for knowing that aros can date and aces can have sex but maybe its not cool that you cant handle a character that doesnt want those things and should be understood in a way that isnt via a pairing

[this-is-allosexism]

welcome to this is allosexism.

this blog is inspired by @this-is-exorsexism, and it's here for aces & aros to have a space to talk about allosexism, as well as to raise awareness about it as it's not well recognised even within the queer community.

who is welcome on this blog?

generally, everyone is welcome to follow, comment, ask questions etc. please keep in mind that this is an aro/ace centered space though. aces & aros are welcome to vent about allosexism on this blog, so if you're allo and decide to be on this blog, you might see something that makes you feel uncomfortable. if you're allo and you have allosexism to submit, you can do so. if anyone isn't sure whether something counts as allosexism or not, just submit it anyway, as chances are that it is. please note that this is not an advice blog.

how does this work?

easy. you can submit any instance of allosexism as either a question or a post and i will post it with the words "this is allosexism". i may elaborate further on why something is allosexist.

what is allosexism?

allosexism is the idea that alloromanticism and allosexuality are superior orientations. it's a belief system which excludes and stigmatises aromantic and asexual people. this includes allonormativity, i.e. the idea that everyone is or eventually will be allosexual/alloromantic and that those are the default, as well as outright hostility against aros & aces.

a note on bigotry

since this blog is already centred around a form of bigotry, a "no bigotry" rule doesn't make sense. however, there will be a limit on how bigotry is allowed. anyone coming on this blog being allosexist rather than just talking about it will be blocked. bigotry other than allosexism is only permitted if it's related to the instance of allosexism (because intersectionality matters). bigotry against allosexists is not allowed.

here are some examples:

okay submission: "someone said asexuals are crazy" (directly quoting the bigotry, highlighting the intersection between allosexism and saneism)

not okay submission: "someone said asexuals don't belong in the queer community. they're crazy" (the saneism isn't directly related to the allosexism but rather used against the allosexist, and we cannot fight bigotry with bigotry)

[ariel-s-awesome]

Thebootydiaries is a scourge on internet culture and one of the people who popularized the culture of being condescending catty assholes to complete strangers.

If I never see anyone go "uh sweatie" ever again it'll be too soon.

Also please stop reblogging posts by sexhaver. That term was literally invented to say that they're better than aces for fucking. And fuck off with dare-i-say-asexual too. That was an allosexist meme.

[isobug]

Alt. Allosexual / Allosex / Allosexspec flag

( id: a flag with five stripes, all equally sized. in order they are white, grey, black, brown-red, and light orange-red. /end id. )

A flag made on request for anon (which I shelved back in April due to a lack of inspiration) to match my Alt. Alloromantic / Alloro / Allorospec flag. The meanings and colors parallel that flag, with the bottom two stripes flipped to make the colors blend better.

White for those who experience full Sexual attraction and are Sex-positive.

Grey for those who experience Sexual attraction but are not solely Sex-positive or Sex-repulsed (those who are Sex-ambivalent/Sex-Oscillating/etc.)

Black for those who experience Sexual attraction but are Sex-repulsed.

Brown-red for for Sexual attraction itself

Light orange-red for for Orchidsexuals /Orchidspecs (those that experience sexual attraction but do not desire sexual relationships) who consider themselves as (or closer) to being Allospec than Arospec or who simply wish to be included. Color taken directly from the Orchidspec flag.

Since "Allosex" is something I haven’t seen used as frequently as “Allo” and “Alloro”, I do want to note that it is a term I was introduced to via AVEN! Not my own abbreviation/coining.

I wanted to quickly note that I got my inspiration to finish and post this draft from seeing the general Allospec (Allo spectrum) flag by @neopronouns! Seeing such a cool flag based off of my Alloro one gave me a lot of motivation!

Taglist - @conformant-archive, @radiomogai

[ariel-s-awesome]

I'm ace and sex repulsed and anyone who says sanitizing things for ace people helps them is lying.

If people are forced to suppress their attraction, we get treated like we're calling everyone devious perverts for acknowledging the attraction we don't feel.

Stop using aces as your respectibility politics shield.

Is it wrong that I’m cool with “sex” being removed from the pride flag? They should bring back “magic” though.

Personally I think you’re wrong and an idiot but that’s just my opinion.

[variousqueerthings]

yes, I read all of the iterations of the doctor as aroace in one way or another, but also yes the doctor has incredible sexual tension with every version of the master, yes, including crispy!master

it's evil sexual tension of course, that's why it works

[gotta-bail-my-quails]

i literally swore to God to never have a boyfriend in front of my mom and my parents STILL talk as if i will get married one day

[ariel-s-awesome]

I realized that I was asexual the moment I heard of it at 15. Y'know what knowing that saved me from? Being pressured to date and have sex!

So what if I wasn't asexual, huh? What would've happened if I tried to force myself to try boys?

Not only would I end up in a relationship that I don't want, but I would be pressured to tailor my appearance for boys.

Because the only reason I was comfortable with, well, dressing for my comfort and forgoing stuff I hated like makeup and shaving was "You're too ugly to ever get a partner" had no effect on me.

And if I wasn't asexual, maybe I wouldn't of stood up to my mom telling me that I'm her only hope of having grandkids starting at 14. (Despite having 2 siblings at the time.)

Maybe I would've eventually bowed into pressure to have kids for my mom's sake. Maybe I wouldn't of dreamed of being anything but a full-time housewife to "make up for" my siblings.

goddddd it’s fine!! its fine!!! its okay if if 12 year old girls decide they’re asexual and look back and realize that actually it was just puberty and the gross sexualization of women that alienated them from their feelings of attraction and actually now she feels she was always allo. That’s allowed! That’s okay! Its not the end of the world if some of the people coming home to the label of asexuality are actually arriving at a way station onto what will be a better place for them. Cause you know if what she wanted was to feel she had the language to give herself permission to not be obligated to engage in sexual acts, to not exist as a sexual foodstuff for the consumption and digestion of others, If she needed the world asexual to shield her like that that’s okay!!! Cause whats important is she found a way to not do the things she wasn’t ready to do. What you wanna say no? No, you are obligated to figure out your attraction to others and the torture of its existence in a complicated fucked up world with language that doesn’t always sink home. Who is she hurting. Oh yeah it’s on a twelve year old to never be wrong about who they think they’re becoming, it’s up to a twelve year old to find a permanent state of self, it’s on a twelve year old to figure out the uncomfortableness of becoming a sexual being on their fucking own. Cause yknow if she’s wrong then people are going to use that as evidence that asexuality is a phase as if people looking for an excuse to dismiss other people’s identities would just not exist if we all perfectly performed our fucking labels like they’re the audience that decides if our fucking rock opera gets to hit broadway. Like there’s a fucking quota on how many times a person can be wrong about a label. I’m bisexual!! And if I’d just allowed myself to think that it’d be okay if I was wrong about being bisexual, or that it was okay if it wasn’t permanent, then I would’ve taken the first step to realizing I was actually a long term bisexual all the sooner.  There isn’t a fucking deadline for figuring out the perfect label for yourself, there isn’t a fucking surety purity test at the door. God, and all these trans kids and people agonizing about if they’re really trans or if they’re just faking it, as if that’s important when transitioning makes them happier! But no, we gotta make a philosophical argument from the ground up for what it means to be queer every fucking time so you don’t get it wrong cause god forbid, can you imagine

[ariel-s-awesome]

I want to stop seeing sexhaver on my dash. Their url was literally an allosexist meme that exclusionists proudly called themselves to explicitly say they're better than aces.

[kodiescove]

Peace be upon you, Jewish Tumblr

It's me, the annoying Muslim with all the annoying questions.

I was just wondering

Besides, like, the Torah, does anyone have any, like, Jewish stories they'd recommend?

I'll take anything 🤷 whether it's a nonfiction story about Jewish people, or even just a short story fic about some Jewish characters with Jewish themes and such. Just like.... yknow, some Jewish stories!

I'm reading a lot of nonfiction lately, my current fiction read I'm kind of burnt out from (the third in a trilogy) and idk I'd just like to read about something new!

Definitely trying to branch out of the "white European background perisex cishet alloro/allosex" lead!

I don't think I've ever read a Jewish themed story, which when I think of it makes me sad.

So I'll take all the recommendations!

[the-masquerade-council]

Conformant-ish part 2

Alloromantic-ish(alloro-ish), and Allosexual-ish(allosex-ish), and Alloplatonic-ish(allopla-ish)

Allophysical-ish(allophys-ish), and Alloemotional-ish(alloemo-ish)

These are sub term of allo-ish from this post, the meanings are the same, just for specific attractions.

(color/design meanings here)

[ryanyflags]

afamilial / afam ✦ afamilial spectrum / afamspec allofamilial / allofam / allofamilial spectrum / allofamspec ✦ familial attraction

Some alt (a)fam flags :p

I wanted to make my own versions of it, kinda like what I did with aphysical, aemotional, and aqp.

I feel like brown and red colours are fitting for familial. Light blue also vaguely felt fitting, but it didn't really fit into the allofam flag, so I just included it in the familial attraction flag (because it'd use more colours).

Then, the afamilial colours are the inverse of that, so green and blue (opposite of red and brown). I also made then slightly cyanish, because on a digital colour wheel, the opposite of red is cyan.

This is kinda the opposite of the original familial and afamilial flags, where familial is blue and afamilial is (dark) red. I wanted to make something more fitting with aspec flags to me.

People can just use whatever one feels more fitting to them. If anyone wants to give any comments on the colours and stuff, I'd like to hear it.

-✦

For the first flag, it's format is similar to other aspec flags. The black, grey, and white stripes represent no attraction, partial attraction, and attraction, in regards to familial attraction, but can also include others too (like experiencing attraction other than familial, or also being another a- orientation). The green and blue is for afamilial.

The afamspec flag uses the main green and blue colours for afam, put into a gradient format like other a-spec flags, to represent the spectrum of afam identities.

For allofam, it follows the format of @isobug's allo-/allo-spec flags (alloro and allosex examples). The top 3 stripes have the same meaning, and the bottom 2 are for familial attraction (the gradient represents it's a spectrum too). Like the others, this includes orchidspecs who wish to be included.

For the familial attraction flag, I just used the above colours I associate with familial attraction. There's no particular stripe meanings, or flag format I followed.

[ariel-s-awesome]

There's quite a few alloromantic asexual characters, and from what I've seen they make up maybe a good 30-60% of the representation asexuals get.

(It's a wide range because there's too few asexual characters at all to narrow down statistics. Also most of said alloace characters are hetromantic.)

But I don't think I've... ever seen a fictional aromantic allosexual. Or at least not one where the creator intended it, and aroallos didn't just get splash damage from demonizing people for having sex outside of marriage while not being interested in a relationship.

I know it's kinda selfish, but can I have one asexual character that isn't aromantic? One who stands up and says that you can love without sex, and that they deserve love without having to engaging in something they prefer not to?

Also a aromantic character that isn't asexual? One who doesn't feel guilt about needing and wanting people, but not seeking a romantic relationship with them? One that is open and proud, and in no way ashamed for their lack of love and need of sex?

Please?

[joisbishmyoga]

hahaha I just realized that I have a distinct mental category for (the vast majority of) smut scenes in fic. They're usually so disconnected from the plot that they're commercial breaks. And now a word from our sponsor, Allosex! Use my code BOREDACEJO to get 20% off--