#stop traumatising ppl

[izuom]

apologies in advanced for interrupting anyone’s evening or cozy bedtime or subway ride to works but insta isn’t safe for me now 💀 wdym i’m getting online-ly mol*st*d by a fake acc?

[jackietaylorsghost]

i knew ppl would parallel the you deserve a choice bit with joel saving ellie and i knew it would make me furious cus it was never joel who took her choice away and he’s not wrong to have saved a suicidal child from being a lab rat lmao. it never would have been a free choice for her. and tbh i love bella but it’s disappointing to see them talk about how being a cure is ellie’s life purpose and that she has to force herself to believe joel cus it’s too painful for her to admit the person she loves and trusts the most has taken that away from her bcus it lacks any nuance or care in the way we talk about a traumatised girl and her agency and who is doing her harm vs who isn’t. joel didn’t take anything from her. the fireflies stopped her having a choice by not even asking and even if they’d asked it still wouldn’t have been a free choice cus she would have been consenting bcus of trauma and guilt. the fireflies attempting to exploit that as justification fucks with ellie’s agency more than joel did and is what actually would have taken something away from her

[misericordieux]

I can’t deal with so called empaths…

You’re not an empath you just have no clear and firm boundaries and is a people pleaser. You do everything but actually please ppl.

Start pleasing yourself first.

Who are you even pleasing btw ? Your exes the so called « narcissists » ?? Your one sided « friendships » ?? The ppl you resent for not living up to your unrealistic expectations ?? The people you resent for not sacrificing themselves to save you ?

Damn aren’t you mad ?

[sickly-sapphic]

just read radio silence and I have literal physical symptoms from it. 👍

[kavehater]

Me in the tags of my previous post were so real any time in the future my dad tries to hook me up with a guy I’m gonna bring a leash with me 👹

[pheonixst4rz]

my therapist v obviously thinks i have eupd after the first session and i need to find a way to subtlety convince him i don’t without lying bc no fucking way do i have that but i’m also aware i act like i do but i swear i don’t

please help ‼️‼️

[pyjamasbartholomew]

teens on tiktok saying its SA if ur partner initiates something without asking and stops when you say no…..go touch grass thats so insulting

[the-fire-might-be-shooting-at-us]

"I think Nancy Wheeler-" KYS

KYSSSSS

NO ONE IS ALLOWED AN OPINION ON HER ANYMORE SHE'S MY WIFE

[mysterycitrus]

i think every superhero / antihero is by definition attempting (whether it succeeds or not) to do good. societal change is broad asf but i think jason especially does want that…. he’s also extremely fucked up. when ppl say he is a complex character… its not just words. lol. he is complex. he wants the joker to be dead so gotham isn’t a helpless war ground and also he blew up a (empty) high school. he’s not mentally sound. lmfao

that’s a very fair point! because the idea of superheroes originated from an optimistic ideal in a profoundly cynical world (jewish artists during world war 2) the entire concept is inextricably tied to societal change — because there has to be! u have to believe the world can be changed for the better!

what makes jason interesting is that he wants to improve gotham, but has no interest in doing so externally to the idea of proving bruce wrong. why is this not positive societal change? because bruce wayne is crucial to the infrastructure of gotham. forgetting that batman exists — bruce wayne is gotham’s social services, its healthcare system, its support for unemployment and disability, its rehabilitation system, its only means of providing to its citizens. we can sit here and argue the legality of bruce beating people up but the core to bruce’s character is that he wants the world to change for the better, so no one else experiences the grief he has.

jason believes in the death penalty, no ifs when’s or buts. his core ideology is — the system is flawed, but if im in charge i can make it better. jason replacing black mask and preventing dealers from selling to kids won’t stop people from self medicating to deal with an unfair world in which they were born into. it won’t stop crime, because crime is the result of stagnant social reform and income inequality. there is no way for jason’s approach to crime — killing people expeditiously — to result in a fair system that can sustain itself and prioritise the safety of its citizens. that’s not something from rhato no. #69, that’s clear in the text in utrh.

when people compare him to a cop it’s because he is killing without oversight or fear of legal repercussions. many, many countries that have technically outlawed the death penalty (australia, canada, some states in the us etc) still have a death penalty because police can kill indiscriminately on both the streets and in custody. jason has been shown to act with care for others (in the lost days he systematically kills his tutors to prevent further harm) but that’s not what he’s doing in gotham. for every captain nazi there’s a dozen kids left orphaned cause he’s murdered their parents. id describe him as severely traumatised, and deeply in denial about how well he’s handling it. the entire gd point is that it’s him reacting to his death! he has been radicalised! he is advocating for regressive change!!!!! why are people so afraid of his complexity!!!!!!!!

[mazzystar24]

“ why do some people call out or talk about dumb and lesser fandom drama but haven’t spoken about those anonymous fics”

I beg you with all my fucking heart to muster up two braincells and use them

I haven’t gotten this hate directly but I keep seeing posts either saying it or ppl having it said to them

You are claiming to understand what’s so disgusting and vile abt what the person who wrote those did but you’re here not taking two seconds to think hmm maybe the dumb and lesser stuff is easier to talk about for more people than those fics?

Lemme throw some bullet points and break it down into little words for some of these absolute fucking idiots:

• you’re always gonna find more people willing to talk about the little discourse than the harder to talk about topics especially in fandom spaces

That doesn’t make them a bad person for it because

1. Everyone has their boundaries

2. Everyone has their own shit and no one should be having to sit there and tell you they’re traumatised to get you to back off

3. This is again a fandom space by not talking about it they aren’t disadvantaging or not spreading awareness abt or supporting any causes by making a post saying what others have already said a thousand times over which is that those fics were a disgusting thing to do

4. “ oh but you’ve pointed out racism/homophobia/misogyny and this thing and that” again see all those points but also like this is like someone saying don’t be racist and then someone going oh wow so they talked about how ppl shouldn’t be racist but not about how ppl shouldn’t be sexist so they must mean being sexist is acceptable

5. Again it’s not like everyone was super quiet about it like I saw all the outrage on here and it was being served toward that anonymous writer from BOTH sides, no one on either side as far as I can tell agrees with that shit so stop saying shit like oh they were a buddie fan

So fucking what? I’m sure i have the same music taste as some murderers but that doesn’t make me a murderer? Get a grip honest to fucking god

6. Also that fucker was living for the attention that’s why they kept making more with mocking bios and shit

That’s all the angry rant for today guys🫡

[soviet-siscon]

i understand ppl icked out by mother daughter incest but unfortunately no amount of her abusing and traumatising me can stop me being insane in the head

[bnhxx]

Coming out of my shell to say that I'm petitioning to be Leon's annoying little sister

Some platonic sibling hcs under the cut!!

Warnings: Platonic! Au, a little bit of sibling violence and A LOT of sibling banter, mentions of ptsd, drinking and alcoholism and events in RE2 and RE4

It's always I want him to rail me! I want his babies! And I can respect that I can I can but...have you ever considered being his annoying little baby sibling that adopts him as your new family member 😇

Like yeah nah bro I wanna annoy him and tease him for having no rizz AT ALL and just all around annoy tf outta him 😤

Like he's an orphan but not AnYmOrE, scooping this traumatised boy up and making him WISH he never met you but also is weirdly protective you who "adopted" him as their "sibling", and now won't stop saying "point and laugh!" out loud everytime he does smth stupid in the middle of the office when hes back from a mission.

Like, please he just needs an annoying little sibling in his life, I know I can't fix him but by God can I be the annoying little sister he so desperately needs in his life

Like....I KNOW his heels have never known the wrath of MY FEET clipping his shoes up when he's walking too slow but he NEEDS to 😭😭😭 I need to post this and find my PEOPLE

Also I feel like being a sibling vibe you'd have tagged along as a civilian in RE2, also not knowing what the fuck was going on but hey, you're in this fucked up shit together now ig. 🤷‍♀️ And you have some family/friends out of state so after the event you take him to chill at a beach or smth w your family/friends bc you're both well deserving of a fucking break while this ptsd hits the both of you

n everyone talks about how fucking awkward he was w Sherry in game but ayo hes REALLY feeling it now...

Like you're joking when you're like "it's like you've never been to one of these Leon 🤨"

N he just looks at you like "Yeah I haven't 😐"

AND YOU KAHSJEVDHEKEHEJE

"You're like 😶....bro....you have now been absorbed.....as my older brother"

And he's like 🧐🧐🧐 at first bc what??? How do I interact w these ppl??? Why me???? but ofc they love him, he's RE2 Leon and although he's super fucking traumatised and still awkward asf he just wants to make a good impression on his friends' close ones

Also he's like sitting there like damn,,,,,I wish I had that 😔

So you're like wELP noW yoU dO 🤪

And of course they're super grateful to him bc he saved you so they treat him nicely but he kinda gets that a lot so he's just like 🧍

So after you tell them hes now your older brother you've deemed it so 🤗 they just start to treat him like that and he just, doesn't know what to do??? Do I salute them, (y/n)???

Do it make him salute them for at least three weeks until you tell him absolutely no one does that and he was stupid for ever believing you 😈

Tbh I feel like this would work for the first couple of times until he mentions it at work in passing n everyone's like 🤨,,,,so then the next time he sees you he just has that pissed off older sibling face and he's coming for you so you better have ran like you did in Raccoon City kahsjehs 🏃‍♀️💨

But yeah after a while you guys stay in touch, he's training and drowning his pain with alcohol and you're trying to get him into more healthier ways of dealing w his pain as well as laughing at him kshsjdhsjs

your just sort of there to support him even when he's pushing you away bc no idiot I will not leave you alone when you're training I will watch and I will LAUGH when you fall. But I will also cheer you on when you win and give you my favourite hello kitty bandaid if you ever get hurt 🥰

And he's super grateful?? Bc your like this stable sort of annoying person who's there for him no matter what.

Like he knows he can come to yours to crash if he's had one too many drinks to holds his hair when he's puking his guts out hungover.

Yes you are there in the morning to laugh and yell at him for being stupid but he also saw the glass of water you left on the couch next to the ibuprofen and chuck bucket for him. And the little blankets and they you always seem to have waiting on him when he arrives

Yes you will be there to do it all over again if he comes walking to your place after he's drunk again.

And Yes, you will also be there to show him all the dumb photos you took of him drunk on your Kodak once they get developed and cackle in his face 😈

He like actually learns to take a load off with you and relax a little bc you have a bond and you weren't just saying that when you took his ass on holiday, you really meant you'd be there for him and it means a lot to him bc he's never really had that stability in his life before 😔

Also bc the trauma bonding you just get him ✨️ like you can both relate to the horrors you saw and what you unknowingly found out about Umbrella.

Like maybe you work w him in the field or just as an archivist or smth but you're helping him w this cause too, dealing w the same or similar shit he's been dragged into so ofc you guys form a bond w each other.

And so by the time RE4 rolls around imagine you're like talking him through his mission on the radio n he's soo serious around Ashley and Luis so you can't help it you burst out laughing bc he's so stiff, and he's like THIS is a LIFE and DEATH siTuAtiOn now do your fUcKiNg jOb SeNd me tHe coOrDiNatEs

And you're like okay okay grumpy pants 😈 I'll give you the coordinates but you have to say pwetty pwease w a cherry on top for me 🥰

If it were anyone else he'd turn the radio off and find it himself but bc he does care for you, and you're like the only stable platonic thing he's had in ages he's like cursing and swearing until he FINALLY caves in and does it

So you give him the coordinates and just as he's about to go back to almost dying your like "I got that recorded fyi" and he's just 😤😤😤 at Luis for no real reason other than his 'little shit of an adopted sibling' kwhsjshdhd

But also imagine randomly calling him constantly bc you're really worried for him bc this time your not there with him and it scares you

And he's like, I'm not dying here bc who else is gonna put up w your shithead behaviour??? n you're just like, 'aww Leon!! 🥺🥺'

So hes like 'yeah so stfu and let me do my mission 😤' but you swear you can hear the smile in his voice through the radio

OR if you're there, with him it's even MORE chaos kshdjdhdjdn

Like imagine Luis flirting w you n him being all protective older brother on you, n you're just like 🙄 siblings amirite, btw Leon that's a prime example of how to properly rizz someone up you loser 😇 n your not running from ganados this time your running from him (again) 🏃‍♀️💨

If you engage in sibling violence he's like, you haven't hit me once this whole mission n you're like, I'm giving you a vacation since we're running for our godamned lives out here n hes thinking like 🥺 my shins have never know rest like this before since I met you 🥺

but he just gives you a little smirk 'heh' or some one liner and that's it he did it to himself his shins indeed do NOT know rest 💀

Being teased by him more and more as he matures but dw, you're always there to annoy him back 😇 and run tf away when he gives that older sibling look like he's about to wreck your shit for ever thinking of crossing him lajsjsjsbs

[del-stars]

I like to think pd black family is cursed and the curse is generational mental illness which is what lead them to turn to god in the first place but to no avail it doesn’t cleanse them or make them better people it just leads them to insanity because they won’t get actual help hence regulus ending his life to make it stop and the way his death seems to have been received in devotion tells me that it’s not the first time something like this has happened with the family orion’s death only impacted the town because of his position but we see regulus’ be utterly irrelevant to anyone who isn’t sirius or even walburga (who’s curse i think is being a constant voyeur but i can talk about that later)

Sirius’ mental illness manifests itself in forms of self destruction even if he’s probably unaware of it he has trust issues and severe ptsd there’s no way he’s the stable sibling stable by comparison sure but LOOK AT HIM HE HASN’T HAD A GOOD DAY IN HIS LIFE (to me his curse is related to that one lady from the bible who was like a prostitute i think and was constantly exploited by men and thought god could never forgive her and then jesus blessed her something idk im not catholic but there’s a theme here or something idk ignore this)

🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️ u always get it. every time

sirius is comparably stable… at times but look who we’re comparing him to 😭😭 sirius being like I Am The Well One & remus looking at him like. damn bitch u live like this?

very much yes inherited mental illness/constantly traumatising each other that the black family is just like hm. must be because we don’t love god enough. ppl in the south ESPECIALLY in religious circles love obfuscating so i think the ppl in devotion would outwardly be like “aw poor regulus burdened by such struggles” but inwardly be like. who’s surprised that kid was fucking crazy it was prob his bitchass mom or his weirdo brother

self destructive sirius black you will always be my baby. never had a good day in his life so when he gets close to having one he’s like…. something’s off. definitely biblical prostitute vibes (i think ur thinking of mary magdalene?) where he’s like. i guess i just Am Bad so i should prob lean into it bc there’s nothing else for me to do & he needs someone external to be like so ur actually a human person & allow him to take control of his life

[tomboyyyaoi]

TAM DONT READ THIS it pisses me off SO MUCH when ppl make fun of the vamery fist bump scene bc "he friendzoned her so hard" when first of all FUCK YOU second of all that shit was romantic as hell do u rlly think 2 ppl traumatised to shit would just make out sloppy style for the first time in front of a crowd of people FUCK NO THEY WOULDNT like for fucks sake its not a friendzone u can see their relationship as platonic if u want but to joke about that scene being a friendzone will never not get under my skin coz all u fucken ppl want from a ~canon ship~ is a sloppy onscreen makeout sesh and nothing short of it like u mfs cannot read subtelty and it blows but THIRD is all the ppl saying this are vashwood diehards and are we just forgetting that in their ~final scene together~ when wolfwood is pouring his heart out vash just tells him to shut the fuck up and "stop saying stupid things"?

sorry if ur reading vamery fistbump as a friendzone then the couch scene is the most brutal rejection in the world but heres the thing: BOTH THOSE SCENES ARE ROMANTIC AS HELL. THEYR BOTH FANTASTIC AND BOTH A REALLY SWEET AND REALLY PAINFUL ILLUSTRATION OF THE WAY VASH STRUGGLES TO EXPRESS LOVE

vamery fistbump scene solos and next time someone calls it a "brutal friendzone" im stealing shit from ur house

[merrivia]

hi, do u know why some ppl in the fandom think laurent and damens first time was r*pe? i get that damianos was selfish but i just can’t see it as *that*

I went back to read chapter 19 of Captive Prince just to make sure of my stance on the chapter. I honestly can’t tell you exactly why people think that, but I have my theories.

If you were going to superficially read this scene in that way, I would have thought people would question the master/slave dynamic Laurent has over Damen, more than the other way round.

It could very well seem like it’s Laurent who pushes Damen into it to begin with:

Damen says “I-don’t-“ and Laurent speaks for him. Laurent acts as if Damen is a slave and has no choice.

Now, to be clear, Laurent doesn’t rape Damen either. But if you read this bit in isolation, you might get concerned about consent. That’s why it’s important to read the chapter in its entirety (syncing it up with the bonus chapter 19 and a half) and making sure you contextualise it within the wider plot of the novel. They’re both still pretending in this scene, and that pretence is what allows them license to sleep with each other. Enemy princes, one of whom killed the other’s brother, cannot lie together. But a Prince can lie with his bed slave. So they both keep up this pretence to be able to have this.

Look at the pain it causes Damen, who is someone who is aching desperately for physical intimacy with Laurent, to try and clear his head and stop. It saddens him so much that Laurent might be trying to reward him with sex:

Pacat had difficult choices to make in this scene. She wanted it to be almost unbearably private and intimate. It needed to stay true to the characters and their arcs and the world she had created. Sex isn’t always an easy cheerful tumble as Damen has experienced it to be. This is intensely personal as it’s also about two people falling in love, and who in this moment cannot see a way as to how they could possibly be together.

The scene progresses in such a way which shows the two communicating- as much as one can, when one is lying about his identity, and the other is feigning ignorance. When one is sexually liberated and experienced and the other, hugely traumatised and repressed. In a novel whose invented world is modelled on societies from centuries ago.

Damen stops and checks for what Laurent wants:

Damen literally asks Laurent to tell him his own pleasure, because he wouldn’t just roll him over and mount i.e he literally would never rape him.

He lets Laurent control what he wants at numerous points, such as kissing and double checks that he’s okay with actual penetrative sex:

I really don’t know what person imagines that Laurent, a victim of sexual abuse, who as a consequence was probably unable to feel any kind of sexual feeling in himself until Damen and might even be enormously terrified of sex, could just casually open up verbally about what he wants. Pacat makes it clear multiple times that Laurent gets turned on by Damen and has no idea how to deal with that vulnerability, when sex is tangled up in his mind with all that happened to him.

Damen literally double and triple checks as to what Laurent once and Laurent directly asks him for sex:

I just can’t see where people are getting this idea from.

I have also read that Damen ‘fantasises about Laurent as a slave’ as part of this but…he doesn’t.

In CP he acknowledges Laurent would fetch a fortune at a slave auction, which is a material reality in his culture.

Later in KR, he wishes Laurent’s body didn’t have to be extensively prepared each time and was more like a slave or a pet, because they have no oil as lubricant (he smashes an oil lamp to solve the issue). In PG he thinks about the fact that if he turned Laurent over to the nearest Akielon army, it would lead to Laurent being given not to Nikamdros but to him. However there is no elaboration at all on what that may entail. It’s very much a hmm that would change our power dynamic, and I actually think Damen is a little turned on by the thought that Laurent could be in that role but its made very clear in the text that Damen is not a rapist.

In this scene in particular, Damen sees his first time with Laurent as incredibly meaningful:

A moment he wishes to be “worthy of”. It’s an expression of love not violence.

So why do people think this then?

Damen doesn’t pick up on Laurent’s psychological state because he doesn’t know that Laurent knows he is Damianos the man who killed Auguste. He is being selfish by sleeping with him and taking what Laurent is giving him, yes, but he really does think this is his last night with Laurent and isn’t strong enough to resist his yearning for him.

Which still is all categorically not rape.

So again, where does this come from?

Well…I do think a lot of people read a little carelessly? I’ve done it sometimes, though maybe more rarely as someone with a background in literary study. Not everyone reads closely, not everyone remembers everything that happens in a book and they form some half-baked theories due to this.

But why misread this scene to that extent, where I’d go as far as to say that it stands in direct opposition to what Pacat intended and how the scene actually reads?

If you want my theory on it, I think many white readers (and non-white) have unconscious prejudices. The darker, muscular character evokes highly racist stereotypes of rape and assault; the fair, blond characters are the idealised objects of beauty and desire (who clearly need saving from dark men and their brutish sexuality 🙄).

I do think some people must surely be mapping these prejudices onto this scene and making it fit. It’s the only plausible reason I can think of.

I sometimes wonder whether some of the Auguste/Laurent shippers are people who want the fantasy of two blonds together. Like *ugh get that dark man away from Laurent*. I am not one to morally police the fiction people write and consume, I’m just saying the personal is the political and I can’t help but feel there might be some who think that…

So yeah that’s what I think! Hope that helps.

[kavehater]

I honestly wish people cared more about depression and other issues rather than saying they care but scrutinise a person so horribly when they show symptoms associated with said condition 🧎‍♀️