#stop making me feel things

[mintaikk]

aaaaaaaAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[the-feminist-filipino-fangirl]

“What’s a title that a goddess could lend, if I’ll never sleep at night?” - Odysseus (My Goodbye)

“Life could be that bright. I could sleep at night.” - Athena (We’ll Be Fine)

[dybalassunshine]

GUYS I FOUND DA VINCI'S HIDDEN MASTERPIECE!

[mischievous-ler]

Trans cowboy with a pussy YEEHAW

[mentalmeles]

Gale, confessing that he is not ready to die--that he is afraid to--, even though he knows that his time is short and there is little to be done about it: Stay with me, will you? I don't want to be alone.

Me:

[sleepy-seal]

whenever moth has the fucking :( thing while speaking my heart just SHATTERS

[biblically-accurate-star]

OH SHI-

Something, something, what if it all went really wrong and they were forced to speed-run the brotherly bonding

[fantasticalbits]

Fellas, is it gay to be turned on by watching people be really good at improv?

[scarletlizzard]

Oh honey, you are wildly mistaken if you think that I’m off my game drunk, I’m typically just even more daring and forward than usual.

You’re most welcome, but good luck getting me to beg, darling, you may be in for a long wait.

And why does my thinking you’re adorable indicate ‘walls crumbling’? It’s hardly my fault that your little rambles about your runs and alligators are so cute (although we seriously need to address your route if it brings you within that proximity to them).

A fine trumpet player, hmm? That’s truly very cool indeed, I’m forever impressed by musicians.

Good girl for remembering your manners, and I very much look forward to hearing your thoughts.

-🫖

More daring and forward? Ahh I guess that's the reason I got not 1 but 2 asks last night!

I happen to be a very patient person 😊 I'm in this for the long haul, my little Brit. Gotta see it through

😳 You're watching my rambles, huh (and you think they're cute oooo). What is there to address about my route? Are you worried teapot?

Definitely not freaking out about you thinking it's cool or that you're impressed. Totally normal about the use of good girl. (Can y'all leave me alone? I said I'm fine.) Yeah, I'm so calm and normal right now 😊

As for my thoughts! I love classical, so of course the Chopin piece was beautiful. The Joy Crookes song was very nice, I enjoyed it!

I realized after looking it up that James Blake is in some of my favorite songs? I had no clue! I looove Hummingbird by him and Metro Boomin, also Kings Dead! I'll be checking more of him out soon

You saying Loyle Carner was so unexpected! I've already added a few songs to my playlists. Do you listen to Stormzy?

I liked the vibe of Tom Misch, especially the song Movie! Pulp I've heard before, the song Common People. Definitely liked them, too!

I have to say, you have great taste in music. Can't wait to hear from you again 😊

[psychopomparia]

GUYS I GO ON THE TWITTER AND I SEE HOT DRAWING OF CROWLEY.

NO, I WILL NOT SIMP FOR THE BIRD MAN. LEAVE ME ALONE (Akira! \o/) AAAUAGAHHHH

[individualentityinverydeepburrow]

🥺

Fandom is not about cancellable opinions it’s about sharing and spreading art and fics and gif sets and poetry and showering each other in praise and tearing up because someone said something nice about a thing you made and writing posts that say reblog to give the person you reblogged this from a kiss on the forehead actually

[trialsofthedas]

Rook: *sneaking in through their window after a night at the villa*

Viago: *turning in their chair and flicking the light on* You want to tell me where you've been all night?

Rook: I was out with Teia?

Teia: *turning in their chair* Wanna try again?

[yellowsubiesdance]

every time i finish a cute fluffy fic, my brain goes “whatever…gay…” and i’m like this

[daisybell-on-a-carousel]

Being someone who read Under The Red Hood and came out with the firm belief that, for Jason, it's not about killing Joker, it's about Jason wanting proof Batman would choose him over the Joker (bc shelia chose the joker). Makes seeing any other media where it's all about just wanting the Joker dead is a teeny bit frustrating. to be honest

Jason could've killed the Joker himself, really, really easily. Jason kidnaps the Joker before the confrontation. I can't open my comic for a reference right now, but it felt like he had the Joker for quite a bit before the confrontation. He had him. He beat him up with a crowbar. He had every single opportunity to kill the Joker himself, but he didn't because that wasn't his goal. Make no mistake, he did plan for the Joker to be dead by the end of it, but do you see what im trying to say here

Edit: If I knew this post was gonna get 1000+ notes I would've tried to word it better or something, this was a rant I made on the way to the grocery store 😭

It's not about making Batman kill either. When Batman says he won't kill, Jason adjusts and goes, 'Let ME kill the Joker or kill me to stop me' instead. The test is all about Batman choosing him. The whole final confrontation is Jason's first death again. The parent, The Joker, and the explosives. It even ends with Jason unable to move as a bomb goes off right next to him again because the parent didn't choose Jason. And instead tried finding an option that'd benefit them and (consequencely) letting the Joker walk, again, lol, lmao <-in agony

[the2lees]

h-h- AAAAAAAGAHAHAHGGH 😭😭😭😭

NOOOOOOOOOOOO MY BABIES I CANT DO THIS-

;-;

Promises & teddy bears!!!

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.