#stop fat shaming

[fattyl0ve]

It’s funny how the fat men are always the victims of their own actions and the fit men have a ״love worthy” body.

I honestly respect the fat men that sat there quietly and listened to the other side of the debate even after being called “lazy, unsuccessful and straight up unattractive”

Being fit/fat does not give you the power to make assumptions about a person you don’t know just based on how he looks Play

Please reblog so this post will be heard!!

[xxjamiedarlingxx]

Ok so this more a rant but like I just remember this from watching a YouTuber reacting to cringy fat positive TikTok, anyway it was very funny story about Roblox on royal high the most toxic game, basically I had this tall nonbinary avatar minding my business walking around and this random person called me ‘fat’ so to defend myself by saying that I’m not fat but when I did some random people came up to me and said “that was rude” I look at here like I was so confused and I was like what?then literally straight up started explaining that I was fat shaming people even though I was just defending myself because someone else called me fat so I just tried to calmly explain to her that someone else called me fat but instead she said that I should never said that because I am still in the wrong for saying I’m not fat, another person came to back me up and said that I was giving myself self love ya know just saying good things about myself but guess what that didn’t stop her from saying that I’m in the wrong even though I wasn’t until she finally give up and left

[thefloatingstone]

The older I get and the more terrible takes I see the more in favour I become of gatekeeping

[ganondoodle]

i dont like making art tutorials, not just bc my way of drawing and my knowledge about it changes daily but mostly bc i know saying sth wrong can do quite a bit of damage too, even if it was well meant its been many years by now but i once saw an art tutorial that said characters CANNOT have a certain body shape bc its unnatural (false) and will inevitably make them look bloated/pregnant and its put fear in my head that still lingers in my mind whenever i draw fat characters even tho i know better by now

[jerzwriter]

Body Positivity:

TW: body shaming, fatphobia, skinnyphobia, eating disorders, and the like.

I'm so fucking angry and triggered right now, and I need to vent. I was at what was supposed to be a fun family event, and because I didn't want to completely blow up, I stepped outside. But I am SO PISSED that I need to get this out. While trauma dumping on a toxic website is probably not the best idea, I literally have to vent, or I'm going to explode, and I REALLY HOPE someone will read this and learn something.

I think the body positivity movement has been great—and I wish we had something like it when I was growing up because, trust, it was non-existent. But, like many things, it's great on the surface, but a certain segment has morphed it into something that is as destructive and hateful as the behaviors/actions that led to the need for such a movement.

Some background, so you understand my perspective. I've struggled with my weight my whole life. I've been everything from a size 6 to a size 22. I'm very tall, and when I was at my thinnest (mostly because I was starving myself), people came up to me constantly to tell me how amazing I looked. I'm talking friends, family, co-workers, people at the club, and strangers on the street. I was literally dangerously underweight. My family doctor, who had treated me most of my life, was begging me to get help.

I wound up getting help for what turned out to be an eating disorder and moved past that as much as I could. Since that time, my weight has fluctuated from average, to "a few extra pounds", to very overweight. While I am usually OK with myself and try to be positive about my body, it can be hard. I don't like the way I look right now, and I’m ashamed to say that because I don’t feel that way about others. Beauty is not a number or a size, and I know that, but I am my own harshest critic. It doesn’t help to have the voices of many people, people who were supposed to love me, in my head constantly at these times.

“Do you think you should wear that?”

“Oh, that dress is so becoming on you!” (Meaning: it hides some of your fat!)

Or my favorite, coming home in an outfit that I felt so good about that I thought I looked adorable in, just to have my mother (and later my husband) say something like:

"Perhaps you should retire that until you lose some weight." or "You actually went out in that?"

(PS - I am divorced and barely speak to my mother)... I'm doing so much better, but I know I'll never be 100% comfortable, and, as with most things, the voices seep in when I'm at my lowest. So I GET IT. I get it big time.

But - on to today.

We have a wedding taking place later this week, so the family has descended like the buzzing locusts they are. The ten women in the bridal party, of all shapes and sizes, are at my house for a get-together, and they began complaining about how ugly the dresses are. (They really aren't the nicest dresses.)

The eight anti-dressers were commiserating when one, we'll call her Obnoixous Bridesmaid (OB), loudly announced that another bridesmaid had to shut up and leave the conversation because she's thin (we'll call her Thin Bridesmaid—TB), and therefore has no business being there. I should point out that TB's contribution to the conversation was the dresses were cheaply made and "is so damn shiny" and, for the record, OB is not thin but not overweight.

So another bridesmaid, who is extremely close with TB, jumped in to defend OB, going on and on about how much she "hates" TB for complaining when "everything" looks good on her. TB looked like she was going to burst into tears but stayed silent. It morphed into four grown-ass women bullying TB, so I stepped in and told them all to shut the fuck up. Minutes later, TB left the room, and I found her in the bathroom in tears, saying she wanted to go home and skip the rest of the events - up to and including the wedding.

I went back to the room where the 4 were still mocking TB, and I told them I was appalled by their behavior and they could shut the fuck up and apologize, or they could leave my house. I was told I should understand because I'm a "big girl," too, and therefore should be on "their" side.

Are we fucking kidding me here?

I should point out that 3 of the 4 asshole bridesmaids are well aware that TB has dealt with a serious eating disorder that stems from being body shamed by grown-ass men in her family when she was a mere child. She's dealt with outright abuse and trauma, and they know how bad it's been. She doesn't walk around mocking other's bodies or bragging about how "good" she looks; in fact, she struggles to feel positive about her looks at all.

Body positivity should be about everyone loving their body, no matter its shape and size, and never subjecting ANYONE else to shame because of theirs. When the fuck did it became "fat chicks have to stick together and fuck them skinny bitches."

I'm so on fire I had to step away before I ended up on the evening news. On a micro-level, I'm disgusted with these people, and this has put a total damper on the wedding events this week.

But on a macro level, I have seen this time and time again. Yeah, our society is fucking horrible when it comes to how it treats fat people, especially fat women, and that should change. But it's as fucking wrong to be skinnyphobic as it is to be fatphobic. Perhaps, ESPECIALLY AS FUCKING WOMEN, we should be uplifting and supportive of one another. PERIOD. Don't we see that the obsession to be thin and eating disorders stem from the same fucking toxic place that shames fat people? That's where it is BORN.

I'm so sick of seeing this trend in everything. Every movement I'm involved with is dealing with this... YES, be proud of YOU, ESPECIALLY if you're in a marginalized or maligned group. YES! DO IT! I've got your back in every way! But don't fucking turn it into an us vs. them... even with people you supposedly love! Don't become the fucking monster you profess to hate.

Is asking for human decency really too much? I'm literally shaking.

We really, really have to do better than this.

[mobiblackout]

Body shaming in wrestling and IWC is unfortunately way too normalized, it's absolutely repulsing

[batwynn]

Why are 90% of the horoscopes that I see (against my will) formulated like this???

[fromkenari]

I rather detest people pretending the word "skinny" isn't the most arbitrary term since "fat." There is no set definition. Neither one is better or more "attractive" than the other. Take, for example, Nicola Coughlan rightfully saying she isn't "brave" for doing a nude scene. Her boobs and body are fantastic. People (including the very show she was naked on) will rush to tell you that she's "fat and that's okay" like it's some kind of mantra when, in fact, is she fat? Multiple people have stated that she seems more like a size 8-10 or lower.

Do you know what word applies to people who are a single-digit size in the United States? Skinny. People even pride themselves when they reach a single-digit clothing size because this is "skinny" compared to, say, size 16, which is plus-size, the small end of plus-size, in fact, and the average size of an American Woman in the United States. Once again, people will rush to say that's "fat, and that's okay," but where does that leave "skinny?"

If you press one of these people who insist they're not fatphobic but that a woman who is 5'1" can't be "skinny" at a size 8, then you know, they bring up models who are typically at least 5'10" and are a size 3 or under. They insist that this is "skinny"; meanwhile, there are 6 other sizes that are single digit, and it would be considered rude if you called that person "fat." Also, if size 3 is the benchmark for "skinny," then what is your definition of "too thin" or "underweight?" These people will immediately again say models, who are size 3. But you know, you just told me they are ideal as "skinny," and now you're telling me it's not healthy to be that thin, and we should heap body shame on them, too.

This is actually very applicable when it comes to athletes. Olympic athletes are often body-shamed for being "too thin" and "too muscular" to be "attractive" when they are actually the same standard size, if not larger than those models you're waffling over. And this isn't just limited to women. In fact, the reason the BMI system of determining obesity falls apart is due mainly to men who are thick with muscle but "overweight" or "obese" or "fat" because of BMI, which never even intended to be used for determining obesity in humans yet the world, in general, is so obsessed with this harmful scale that you even have the medical community trying to make you adhere to what is "normal" on that scale. And again, someone like Nicola Coughlan is going to be ranked as "normal" or possibly "overweight" by that system when she isn't the latter at all.

Every human body is different and weight does not play as big of factor into health as the world wants you to believe. "Fat" people have been telling you this for decades. Yet, you still hold them to this BMI system, which is not even relevant in medicine, and the laziest of healthcare professionals will use it to ignore symptoms of chronic disease by saying it's because of your weight.

But remember, Nicola Coughlan is a size 8-10 and, therefore, a single digit and "skinny." People often use "skinny" as nomenclature for "healthy," even though they have been told how harmful this stereotype is. But Nicola Coughlan is short and a size 8, they say, and therefore, she is "fat" and ergo "not healthy" when we y'all know that she is, in fact, quite healthy, and even if she weren't healthy, it wouldn't depend on her size or weight.

This brings us to the final point of all this. Is Nicola Coughlan attractive? Absolutely. But is she "conventionally attractive?" Again, the answer is yes, and it should be yes. You should not limit "conventional attractiveness" to "skinny" or "fat" because we all know that is not what makes a person inherently attractive. You know that, yet you repeatedly insist without allowing for a single moment to believe that this woman is inherently and ergo conventionally attractive because she is "not skinny" when I've just spent several paragraphs unpacking how that's a highly arbitrary word and is not mutually inclusive to health or attractiveness, which are often linked.

Maybe, somehow, this rant will make some reconsider the words they're throwing around that should be meaningless until you try to commiserate with the people (who are in the wrong) lining up to call Nicola Coughlan "brave" for her nude scenes because you think they are doing "because she's plus-size" and "not skinny."

[mikereads]

Okay so I wasn’t looking for spoilers but the fact that none of you warned be about that certain scene with Eddie and Marisol shame on you. Like yes I was aware of the bts pic of her in a robe and the doubling down on him being straight was a high possibility but none of you mentioned it actually happened

[tetchyorchid]

Harry potter fanfic writers: can we please stop with the fat shaming evil characters? Vernon is abusive, Dudley is a bully, Crabbe and Goyle are dim witted followers, and Umbrige is psychotic! But for the love of God, it isn't obvious from their physical appearance. Fat is not a moral failing! You can be a shitty person regardless of your size but if the person you hate is fat, it isn't cool to suddenly body shame them! If the moment the person is labelled bad, we can talk about how repulsive their body is, that is just who you are as a person. And your not evil fat friends and readers can hear you loud and clear.

[pa-pa-plasma]

kind of frustrating that people took "fat does not equal unhealthy" to mean "fat is not unhealthy." sometimes being obese IS unhealthy & excess fat can cause a lot of problems. ignoring health issues isn't progressive. real "oranges kill people with depression" moment

[melodiousmyra]

My opinions on why I stop watching and reading rent a girlfriend and talking about self and body image

As you can observe on what I encircle, not only Kazuya only likes cute girls but also boys in the background in both anime and manga are always in every episode commented on the four main girls on having cute appearances, sexy body, etc.

This really pissed me off cause men prefer this kind of girls because of the outside and doesn't care about the inside of them. In reality, however, lots of men keep cheating on women who are not that attractive at all and fat shaming them as evidence in this one fanfic I found in wattpad (side note: this is not about rent a girlfriend):

And honestly, it really makes me rage because of this kind of behavior and look at these pictures I screenshot on why this series is excruciating:

1. Those boys in the background are refering to Chizuru

2. They comment on Sumi

3. These boys are eyeing on both Chizuru and Ruka ( and I am the girl in the background)

4. This manga panel makes me barf (plus they look on her boobs and legs and an older man too?! EWWWWWWW!)

5. You get my point 😑😑😑

And goes on and on and on. I can't like list them all cause this is going to be sooooo long.

The pictures I put is the reason why I don't like this anime anymore. The boys conpletely just care about the appearances and it is unfair and to make it worst, they just call Kazuya an unfitted boyfriend because of his appearance?!, HUH?!

I have never been this dissapointed in my life and I think I can wish that this anime is done.

The girls watching this anime are going to experience self image and body image issues which is I am going to talk about next

Self image is an “internal dictionary” that describes the characteristics of the self, including such things as intelligent, beautiful, ugly, talented, selfish, and kind while body image is a combination of the thoughts and feelings that you have about your body.

Btw this is the diagram before girls witnessed the boys crushing on cute and sexy girls in public:

And this is the diagram on girls after they witness the boys crushing on cute and sexy girls in public:

Studies show that negative thinking and feelings is that once people start to focus on shortcomings or problems in one area or one situation, it becomes very easy to only see problems in many other areas or situations. Negative thinking has a way of leading to more negative thinking.

When I saw the boys in the series focus on the four main girls, specifically Chizuru, I can't help but think on how girls watching this would be jealous cause she attracts lots and lots of men and going to think about their own appearances on how they look. Plus, the biggest is their characteristic. While boys care about their appearance on the outside and don't care about the inside

This series isn't the only one that has kinds of boys in the background crushing on cute girls. I did saw some reaction posts from that one episode of Yugioh Gx that the male students of duel academy (also Syrus) cheering on DMG cause she's cute and criticizing Jaden for letting her lose and the reaction of it is fantastic. I really like how he criticize the fans of their obssesion with her and also telling to shut up about it. But DMG told the boys that she IS having fun, even when she is about to lose. This undestand the boys and I'm glad at that.

Also, there is one horrible thing that girls have to do to get attention from the boys, Photoshop. Because of their insecurities, girls decided to picture themselves and photoshop into cute and sexy girls

One example is that one episode of south park in season 17 entitled " The Hobbit". The plot goes around Wendy Testaburger photoshopping Lisa Burger to spread the word about self and body image but unfortunately, it did not go well. Lisa is widely popular with the boys thanks to the photshopped photo and really angers Wendy cause she just did that for a good cause and many classmates and her friends called her a "jelly" (short term of jealous). Soon, the cheerleaders began photoshopping also and this angers Wendy more cause she wants them to accept their true self and I can't blame her. She did try to go to the news to explain on banning photoshop but the news anchors keeps saying that she is quote "Jelly". Kanye West tells her a story about the magic of photoshop and Wendy apologizes for her actions. In the end, Wendy photoshop herself while she's crying and I am shocked and saddened. Look at that tear she shred:

Honestly, the ending is awful. They literally make poor Wendy stop spreading the awareness of self and body image. She is just doing that for the good of the society and it really pissed me. I really wish Wendy could someday spread the word of self and body image in the future

Rent a girlfriend has really gotten disgusting and despicable over the chapters. We have Kazuya's pervertness, the girls fighting for Kazuya and mostly, the boys in the background crushing on Chizuru, Mami, Ruka and Sumi and calling Kazuya an ugly boyfriend

In conclusion, I can say that this shoujo anime is the worst. I stopped watching this anime in season 2 and decided to sell the only manga I have in the future for my college fees. If you are going to watch a shoujo anime, you can either watch this or not, its your opinion. When I saw videos on why this series is so bad, I can't blame them. So I hope I don't get hate and if you are a fan of this anime, I won't budge or judge you.

[undead-potatoes]

If I have to see one more post with 5000 comments going "aaah I LOVE chubby/fat [character name] 😍😍😍" and it's just another picture of a skinny man w/o visible abs or a woman with giant tits I'm gonna become the fucking Joker

[sparklehoard]

Fighting for my life trying to cook in my parents kitchen last night.

Got in a fight when I blocked my mother from putting a can of corn in the butter chicken I had been cooking for 2 hours

[nikitaxlee]

People need to stop fat-shaming idols.

TW: MENTIONS OF SU!CID@, ED'S. AND SH

I was recently on Twitter going through some articles and I found a comment talking about Changbin from Stray Kids weight. It immediately made my heart drop because these idols have gone through vigorous training and constantly sacrifice so much for their fans. I noticed Changbin constantly gets these comments from people calling him a pig and misunderstanding his Skzoo. He's human along with other idols and can see what you post. Other people can see and it can affect others seeing that even someone with muscles is being fat shamed because he doesn't have the ideal body type for netizens. It can affect others by showing even people with nice bodies are being put to shame and that they have to do more to make themselves more attractive. Idols have commited suicide, had eating disorders, and Self-Harmed. This is not the kind of community we should be exposing to younger kpop fans and those who want to be a kpop trainee. We should be showing all the hard work, time, effort, and discipline that goes into being a idol. We need to normalize sticking up to fat-shamers in a mature way instead of cussing them out and insults. Report accounts who openly say off-putting things about idols. It's completely fine to not like kpop or be vocal about why you don't like it but please make sure you keep it respectful. Most Kpop idols are in their 20's and the trainees are even younger. It is still such a vulnerable time for their self esteem and confidence. I know this message may not reach far and it may spark controversy but I am so sick of people saying these kinds of comments to idols as well as everyday people. You are not special, You are not superior, you are just showing your emotional immaturity and your inability to be on the internet and have a digital footprint. To those who read this message fully and support it, I want thank you.

-Nikita☮

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[princemick]

sometimes I talk to my dad abt controversial things and/or literally give my opinion and he responds and I'm just like 'yeah no you're why people dont like me'