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Why You Should To Celebrate When Other People Win

Positive psychology supports that celebrating others, instead of comparing yourself to them, is a better strategy for moving forward in life. It’s a subtle brain-training activity that wires you for success. When that co-worker, friend, or relative gets that promotion, new house, or get married before you do, it’s time to celebrate! 

I’ll admit that I didn’t always have this attitude to others winning. I’ve been fortunate to be a high achiever in most areas of my life and this leads me to be a very driven person. I valued myself on living up the consistent success I experienced and as a result, it was hard for me to understand that the success other wasn’t an indication of my failure. They did not somehow steal an opportunity from me.

It also doesn’t help when society teaches us to compare ourselves to each other. Parents and friends say things like, “Why can’t you be more like (fill in the blank).” There are few things more damaging to a child’s self-esteem than statements like these.

Psychology Today reveals the power of taking a more positive approach to life and thinking. Stating the following:

“Happy thoughts and positive thinking, in general, support brain growth, as well as the generation and reinforcement of new synapses, especially in your prefrontal cortex (PFC), which serves as the integration center of all of your brain-mind functions.”

It goes on to explain that,”...what we think, do, and say matters; that it affects who we become on the outside, the inside, and in our brain. Mostly, it means that you can retrain your brain to be more positive.”

Here are three reasons why you should start celebrating when other people win:

It trains your brain for optimism - An optimistic view in life, including towards the success of others, rewires your brain for success. A study by the American Journal of Lifestyle Medicine actually found links between a positive attitude and improved physical health, which ultimately puts you in a great position for creating a success of your own.

Your story is not contingent on theirs - There are more than 7 billion people on the planet. Someone just finished writing a book somewhere, while someone else celebrates finishing their 8th beer. Their success (or failure) does not change your chance for a great life, that’s still up to you.

Their success is not your failure - Your sister getting married does not mean that you’ve failed at life. It just means she got married. Independent of you, it’s a milestone that you can be a great support to her in.

QUESTION: How do you train yourself to think more positively?

This Forbes article is one of many that shares great ways of training your brain to go positive instead of negative. Do you already do this? Comment below or email me to let me know what you currently do to train your brain to be more positive. You can also subscribe to my newsletter for bonus tips and resources on self-leadership and work-life balance or follow my podcast - The Pocket Potential.

[hazeofhappiness]

The best results always come from people who feel appreciated. #Positivity #BelieveInEachOther #SpreadEncouragement

[coolv]

Goodday 🙌 beautiful world!🌍😉 It's no mystery that there's alot going on in today's world War, famine, disease, hatred, racism, injustice, poverty, crime global warming etc.. But my question is are you part of the problem or the solution. We can complain, worry and choose to do nothing or we can do what we can add an individual and play our part in helping to heal this planet. Now I don't have all the answers and to be honest no man/woman does but we are all unique and special and do whatever we put our mines to so today play your part in making this world a better place whether it's just sharing kind words, a smile, a hug, paying it forward by doing something mind for someone or even just lending a ear or a helping hand! Lets make this world a better place #UHEARDTHEWHISTLE always dropping that #OFFICIAL #MakeADifference #bethedifference #BeEpic #BeTheChangeYouSeek #LeadByExample #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement #PayItForward #Instagood #GoodVibez #GoodEnergy

[paulwcroswell]

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I show love because that's who I am GOD doesn't bless you just to be selfish so I always try to show love back #Realtalk💯 also he gives his toughest battles to his strongest pale and you never know what a person is going threw or been threw or what tragedy they may have just witnessed or happened to them so I try heal the world with a smile, kind words and also by paying it forward. #UHEARDTHEWHISTLE may your evening be #OFFICIAL😉 and remember it costs you NOTHING to be NICE! 💃"😉 #Facts #SpreadLove #Gratitude #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement #PayItForward #MakeADifference #BeEpic #BeTheChangeYouSeek #BeTheDifference #LetsStartCaring4EachOther #MrOW #BeAwesome

[coolv]

Sometimes Life can be so simple other times very complicated but NEVER let the past⌛ STOP✋ your FUTURE🔮 not let anyone take up negative😠😬💆 Space in your head Live, Love💝 and LET GO🙌 the universe will do the rest stay at your best! 💃"😉 - #MrOW📢 it's #OFFICIAL😉 "You Just Heard The Whistle" be awesome people😎! #Realtalk💯 for #RealPeopleℹ #WiseWords #MorningMotivation #TeamInspire #BeAwesome #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement #PayItForward #BeAwesome #BeEpic #Instagood #BeEncouraged

[coolv]

They say a picture is worth a thousand words this photo I captured of a prior post from one of my twitter followers days it all #Message📥📩 #WAKEUP😴 America because we are mos def in need of a reality check✔ #THEEND🎯 #Foodforthought #THINKABOUTIT #EndInjustice #EndRacism #OneLove #Instagood #WeROne #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement

[coolv]

Amazing this is how other countries see the the US police system we have for to do better #THEEND I salute or men in uniform that uphold these values and remember although there's alot of them abusing their power there are those that uphold the law and DON'T! 👮 #LetsMakeThisWorldBetter #LetsStartCaring4EachOther #MakeADifference #bethedifference #BeEpic #BeTheChangeYouSeek #BeTheDifference #Instagood #WeROne #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement

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So nice I had to post it twice I #ThankGod for truly beautiful people that are beautiful inside and out today I salute @ibradpitt for his awesomeness he's done so many remarkable acts of charity but this one touched my soul check the story below : "Brad Pitt Builds 109 Homes For The Homeless In New Orleans" Posted by Elle B Brad Pitt is truly a blessing to New Orleans, after Hurricane Katrina hit he’s been dedicated to rebuilding the broken city, can you believe that it will be ten years since the horrific storm hit the big easy..? Pitt, who recently listed his and Angelina Jolie’s five-bedroom French Quarter home for $6.5 million, has been working to rebuild houses in the hard-hit Lower Ninth Ward since the  hurricane left its path of destruction. We went into it incredibly naïve,’ the megastar told the New Orleans Times-Picayune, ‘just thinking we can build homes – how hard is that?’ A lot harder than he thought, it turns out. But that didn’t stop him, nor the area’s residents, from plugging along, and now Pitt is thrilled that 109 colorful, sturdy, ecofriendly homes dot the land that following Katrina was nothing but mud and debris and torn-apart lives. ‘I get this well of pride when I see this little oasis of color and the solar panels,’ the dad of six told the paper. As a part-time NOLA resident and amateur architecture enthusiast, Pitt wanted his foundation, Make It Right, to build homes that not only suited the residents’ needs, but were well-designed, environmentally-friendly, and not only cheap to make, but to live in. ‘I drive into the neighborhood and I see people on their porch, and I ask them how is their house treating them? And they say, ‘Good.’ And I say what’s your utility bill? And they’ll throw something out like, ’24 bucks’ or something, and I feel fantastic.’ "This truly warms my heart and being in the entertainment industry very few are so selfless and caring this inspires me THANK YOU again from the bottom of my heart brother " #MakeADifference #bethedifference #BeEpic #BeTheChangeYouSeek #BeTheDifference #LetsStartCaring4EachOther #LeadByExample #HealTheWorld #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement

[coolv]

#MrOW📢 Says - It's time for a #SundaySession here's a fun fact did you know that the WORD #niggas means Kings & Royalty? It was misspelled purposely by racist groups back in the early 1900's and changed to Nigger to demean a black persons self worth but God is good so the next time someone says that to you look around you and if you're NOT ignorant it shouldn't offend you #WalkAway because it takes a idiot to fight with a idiot and a stupid person can't argue by him/herself! #FACTS #WeROne the sooner when we learn that the sooner at peace this planet will be have a great Sunday people!💃"😎 #ILoveMyFollowers #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement #Instagood #InspireOthers #Inspiration

[coolv]

It's funny how we can cherish every other species LIFE except our own!😳 Let's STOP letting society and the media deprogram our hearts lets get back to caring for one another we can do it Ignorance is a learned process which we all can UNLEARN! 💃"😉 #FACTS✔#Realtalk💯 #HitEmWTheTruth💪💯 #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadUNITY #SpreadEncouragement #PayItForward #MakeADifference #bethedifference #BeEpic #WeROne #StopTheHate #EndRacism #ENDSTEREOTYPES

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Now this is what just hurted my heart no one deserves to go threw this homeless and cancer NO-ONE I am going to help this couple of you want to help or find out how you can help DM they will gladly appreciate your help! 💃"😉 #PleaseListen👂 #PleaseThink💆 #PleaseWatch #OpenYourHearts #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace✌ #SpreadEncouragement #MakeADifference👍 #HelpOthers #NOTHINGISTOOSMALL #BeAwesome✔ #BeEpic🙋 #ALLLIVESMATTER👫👬👭 #HealTheWorld #WeROne #WeCanDoIt #DontTalkAboutItBeAboutIt

[coolv]

I see alot of posts these days making fun of over weight people trying to lose weight or ones that's embracing their weight and happy with it is cool to love fitness but NEVER cool to condemn others for trying to do the same or talk about someone because how they look or dress if you are not buying their clothes or saying a kind word of motivation #STFU because in the end we all have our issues and because you don't like the way someone looks that's YOUR PROBLEM not theirs I've even seen people make fun of handicap people these days and to these people I say GET A LIFE! #THEEND 😊 #UnOfficialWhistle blown on the petty BS!!!! #BeKind #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadHappy #SpreadEncouragement lets build NOT destroy! #StopBullying #StopHate #StopRacism #StopProfiling #StopTheMadness #StopHatred

[coolv]

Today's a beautiful 💐 day yes spring is mos def here 🐝 I hope you're having a awesome 😊 #FollowFriday ✔ 🙌 also wishing you a absolutely amazing weekend 😉 💯 #UHeardTheWhistle now go make it #OFFICIAL ☺ 👍😊 🙋 #FF #FridayNight #FRIDAYONLY #FabFriday #WeekendLove #SpreadLove #SpreadPeace #SpreadHappy #SpreadEncouragement #SPREADJOY #BlowTheWhistle

[coolv]

Here's some #MorningMotivation ✔ 🙌 you always hearing about negative news 📰 about our inner city youth this time ⌚ they got it right ↪ check out this young doll a boss in training she has a very bright 🔆 future 🔮 please share, like and repost 😊 because we have to share happiness and encouraging news 💡 not just gossip and negativity 🔞 but things that make this world 🌍 a more beautiful 💐 place! 💃"😉 #SharingIsCaring✔ #SpreadLove😙 #SpreadHappy🙌 #SpreadHappiness😆 #SpreadPeace🌿 #SpreadEncouragement🎯 #SpreadLove💖 #TheChildrenRTheFuture👶 #RatedNext 🎯

[coolv]

Life's too short people treat people the way you want to be treated #UHeardTheWhistle 😊 #StayOfficial 🙌 #BeBlessed ✔#BeEpic✔ #BeAwesome✔ #SpreadLove✔ #SpreadPeace✔ #SpreadEncouragement✔ #SpreadHappy✔ #SpreadJoy✔ #MakeADifference✔ #BeTheDifference ✔