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[my-castles-crumbling]

hi cas it's sapphic anon again

so my friend was dating someone (they broke up over a month ago) and she immediately started liking someone else which is fine except every time she likes someone she makes it 95% of her personality and by extension our conversations and it's come to the point where she switched of her phone bc and i quote "90% of my phone life is about her" now it could just be me but i dont get how some people just completely make their lives about romantic attachments like she's talking about the next few months in terms of what will happen in her pining stage for that person and yeah, we're best friends i'm more than willing to listen to her rants but every single conversation is about who she likes like sometimes i feel like just telling her to shut tf up bc she's honestly the type of person who'd choose her relationship over friendships that have lasted for years. it happened last time but it was her first time and she said she'd never choose a relationship over us again but i highly doubt it. and um so i also like this girl i used to like her before but she did something shitty so i got over her but i kinda like her again now which is complicated af but idk how to really feel about the shitty thing she did (context: she fatshamed a girl who just happened to be tall and broad) and this friend is the only one i told about it and obviously now that i might like this girl again i want to yk work through my problems with what she said first and she just dismissed it by saying that the girl i liked was confusing and went straight back to talking about who she liked?? and apparently, according to my friend, the girl was looking at me and then shit happened over text but i finally got texted back and i told her obviously and she was just like happy for the span of one message and then started asking me if the girl she liked had posted anything while she had been offline. she also keeps going "i miss having a girlfriend" and i got so sick of it that i just told her that maybe she should get a life outside of romantic attachments because i cannot keep putting up with this every single time she has a crush. to top it off, i sent her some song lyrics about things we want never working out and i genuinely feel like it and have seen it in my life but things she wants keeps happening and she knows it too but she had the nerve to go "real" like ik some friends do that and it works for them but why does she have to make things that aren't even about her about herself. lastly their was a song i dedicated to the girl i like rn the last time i liked her and it's a song in one of our country's major languages but we aren't really fluent in it and i had told her that i had kinda dedicated it to the girl and she listened to it a few days ago and said she understood nothing so i sent her the translation and today she literally quoted a line from it, making it about her and the girl she currently likes and ik i have no claim to the song but she didn't have to take a song that i had dedicated to someone and make it about her and someone else especially when she knew that i had dedicated it to someone and like, yes, this feeling's irrational but i didn't go around dedicating songs she had told me made her think about someone to other people and what makes me so angry is that she had never really listened to that song before i mentioned it and like, not everything is about her.

i remember back when she was dating her ex we had a huge fight because she insisted on dragging that girl everywhere with her even when i wanted to have a private conversation with her and she ignored me for an entire week and i broke the silence first and we discussed our issues but she never really replied to my explanation about the things she had a problem with me doing and didn't say much about the problems i had with her and a week later when i brought it up saying that i had more shit to say, she just went "yeah if you say it now i wont listen bc if you tell me something more than once i dont really feel like it" but we're best friends and i want to talk about my feelings and she just swept it under the rug and acted like she had nothing to apologise for and when i said that i wanted her to acknowledge that she was in the wrong too bc she kept acting like she was a saint she went "sorry for what? not spending time with you?" like i'm her best friend and the relationship was so codependent i rarely ever saw her in school and when they broke up it turns out that me and all her other friends (she even cut one off for talking shit about her ex) were right about her ex and she was like "im so sorry" and bc this was during the exams and i didn't have the time to argue or shit i was like "it's okay you were in love" except it isn't okay but i don't want to bring it up again. not to mention that she completely villainised me during that week to all her friends who i'm not friends with and made me out into this possessive toxic best friend who couldn't stand being replaced and couldn't be happy for her best friend (ik i'm possessive sometimes but never that concerningly). i was happy for her until i saw the red flags and got worried for her and tried to protect her from heartbreak bc a couple of months in they were already saying "i love you" and saying that they'd get married and shit and i didn't think her ex cared enough about her (spoiler: she didn't). i can't even be harsh towards her because she'll either end up crying (which she does rarely) or it'll end in a fight and her birthday's coming up and i don't want us to be mad at each other on that day. (jeez how much of my life and actions do i base around her feelings.) anyways sorry for all of this it kinda got too long and i feel bad bc so many people keep asking you for advice and i don't really want to add to that load

Hi!

Honestly, I think you need to like...lay out what you need to your friend. It sounds like you need times where you can talk about your feelings and emotions without things being brought back to her. You need time spent together, without any significant others. And I think the thing is, you need to calmly say this to her. Because there's a chance she's unaware of what she's doing and even if she is aware, you can at least say that you gave her the benefit of the doubt. After you calmly say what you need, if she still doesn;t give that to you, you know she isn't a good friend to you. And you have a right to walk away at that point, or readjust your expectations. But you need to share how you're feeling or nothing is going to change, you know?

Sending love and naming you spoiler anon!

[silverfoxlou]

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[hinamie]

to moving forward

[egophiliac]

back at it again with the extremely self-indulgent diafams! I am being emotionally supported by overly-cutesy interactions between anime characters right now, don't judge me.

(also continuing with my headcanons that 1) mustache Bauru, and 2) he'll be hugely tsundere about it but you can, ultimately, convince him to do just about anything via careful application of Sebek.)

[stevenrogered]

I am not going to lie to you. When Russell told me that we were putting a ramp in the TARDIS, I cried. I did. He actually told me about a fan who had contacted him, who was a wheelchair user, and said how much he admired Russell’s work. He said, “Even though I can’t get in the TARDIS, because it’s not wheelchair accessible, I just love it.” And Russell was like, “So, we change that instantly. We change that.” When he told me that story, that really hit me straight in the heart. I know what that will mean for the disabled community, and many disabled Whovians who haven’t had that. -Ruth Madeley

[peachysunrize]

LOHAR & TYLAND LANNISTER 2.08 "The Queen Who Ever Was"

[hellrobin]

hi

im your new spoiler (as in steph brown) scribbles anon

oh hi!! what’s up

[wombywoo]

just checking...

[buttercupshands]

I took that as a challenge so now it's a full comic of me making Siffrin happier by the second

And a small bonus

Because there's not one but two Siffrins who deserve some happiness in their lives

even if by just getting their favorite snack

[itsdabatt]

LADIES NIGHT

[nataliescatorccio]

WARNING: may cause intense yearning, an inability to stop thinking about a certain woman, and waves of jealousy

[lauraneedstochill]

This is the thing that Viserys never did for Aegon. And Aegon did not study at the feet of his father. His father had his male heir and then essentially said, “Well, that box is ticked,” he was ill. I think he enjoyed having a son but didn’t put in the work the way he did with Rhaenyra when he was a younger man. And I think Aegon resents that and feels that part of the reason that he’s not seen as being suited for the crown or the throne is because he didn’t get that training from his father. So now he’s going to make up for that tenfold with Jaehaerys.

— Ryan Condal about Aegon’s relationship with his son Jaehaerys (Inside the Episode S2, Ep 1)

[confessionseddie]

BUCK, EDDIE! 8.08 | Wannabes

[hinamie]

mentor

[egophiliac]

do skully have pokemon?

Pumpkaboo is the obvious one, but y'know, sometimes the obvious one is the right one! (we'll say SUPER SIZE Pumpkaboo, just for fun. big pumpkin for big skeleton boy.) and another person actually also suggested Greavard, which I somehow hadn't considered, but feels so perfect that I feel like I should have. dangit.

(they can also have little Nightmare Suit costumes :D)

[stevenrogered]

Eddie Diaz + the Evan Buckley double take