#specifically his insecurities and the kind of avoidant behaviour this causes

[dennisboobs]

am periodically reminded of the fact that people see charden entirely different than me and i get scared, like who are these guys. that's not who lives in my head.

[hcpefulmarshmallow]

Anonymous said:

Once i saw a video on youtube explaining a certain "anime character type", and it compared Akechi with Nagito. (I dont remember the other characters the video mentioned) what are your thoughts about it? Do you think they're similar?

You know, Anon, the dumb lizard brain that governs my every impulse wants to point at them and say: “mentally unstable twinks with great hair and a Very Heterosexual rivalry with the protagonist” and call it a day. Here’s the thing, though: my feelings about Akechi started strong and stayed that way throughout my Persona 5 experience, though the nature of those feelings has changed drastically since my first impression. (And I quote: “Who’s this Light Yagami-looking motherfucker? No, I don’t trust him. That smile is the last thing someone saw.”) And I want to talk about him. I also never don’t want to talk about Nagito. So you know what? I’m gonna. 

 Spoilers, by the way. 

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 In short, I do feel they fall into a very specific character archetype. Namely: the morally ambiguous foil to the main character. Not a villain, not a hero, but rather somebody who follows their own moral code. With a dash of insanity, of course, because anime gonna anime. 

 For me, their most intriguing similarities run deeper than a trope, however, and it all starts with this inflated sense of self-importance they seem to share. I know what I said, just go with me on this one. 

 Nagito, at a glance, seems to have the very opposite of an ego. Forever putting himself down, calling himself all kinds of worthless, and willingly throwing his very life at every cause that comes his way. But herein lies the contradiction that defines him as a character. For all his espousing that the hopeless may never be hopeful, he still leaps at the chance to become worthy. He wants so badly to be more than he is, that he struggles to see a world outside his own perception. He is, of course, compassionate and empathetic; but, unlike Hajime (or even Joker), whose talent with people comes from their respective abilities to remove themselves from a situation and see it as someone else would in order to make a moral judgement, Nagito cannot fathom a world that doesn’t conform to his ideals. Hope and despair, good and back luck -- and there he sits in the eye of it all, defeated yet somehow untouchable. He can’t watch someone trip three feet away from him without assuming his luck has played some role in it. 

 Akechi is much the same way, though he owns it a little better. He sees all things as means towards his ends. He has his idea of how the world and it’s people work, and therein lie his issues with Joker. Because he plays by his own rules, which are fundamentally incompatible with Akechi’s. Much in the same way as Nagito becomes fixated on Hajime, the Ultimate, talentless, worthless, most shining beacon of hope there is; Akechi sees how Joker is consistently beaten down by life and yet strives to carve his own path, and is unable to cope with either the jealously or the admiration he feels, never mind any combination thereof. Moreover, he, too, desires to rise above and be more than he is: the hero of his own story, despite taking rather unheroic steps to get there. 

 I would, of course, be remiss not to mention the similarities in their upbringings that lead to these insecurities. Nagito lost both his parents at a young age, and from there, we’re given no indication of any long-term adult influence in his life. Quite the opposite, he seems to have been demeaned and shunned by his extended family at large. It is also implied at times that his parents were not very loving, though there is some debate around that, so take it as you will. Akechi was abandoned by his father who deemed his mother beneath him because she was a sex worker, and was left with a seething hatred for the man because of it. After his mother’s suicide, he was passed from institution to institution, likewise having no long-term positive influence in his life.

 Both were left to, essentially, raise themselves; glean their own image of the world and build their moral compass around lives that were unimaginably cruel, ruthless, and unfair. Thus, it’s likely their worst behaviours could have been avoided, had they stable home lives. Of course, this is no excuse, plenty of people grow up in unstable environments and don’t go on to harm others, however, it places them a step above senseless. In fact, they also share an incredible intellect, charm, good looks, and quite the way with words. If you’ve played both games, you know what I’m talking about. 

 Furthermore, they have this habit of standing on the outside, looking in. Nagito spends much of DR2 implying heavily that he would like to spend more time with the others as their friend, but does little to actually reach out to them. Viewing himself below them, and seeing no reason why such incredible people would want to hang out with trash like him. Akechi also keeps the Thieves at a distance. There are many times when they reach out to him, offer to help him find his way -- and he almost seems to want to. Yet it is as if he doesn’t know how. He has no idea what, besides hatred and spite, could possibly fuel him. Nor does he really know what there is for him to gain from forming genuine bonds with others, or why he should want them. But he does, that much is clear. They each crave acceptance, while accepting it as a lost cause, even as the protagonist of their respective games has their hand out to them. And this, once again, can likely be traced to their equally terrible upbringings, and lack of any real understanding of the world as it is, rather than as they see it. 

 I could absolutely go on all day down this path. And, hell, at some point, I might. But the overall theme I’m getting at here, is this delicate balance these two characters walk. Being soft and charming, and deadly and dangerous. Intelligent, yet profoundly ignorant. Eccentric and borderline reprehensible, but at the same time, deeply relatable, and extremely likeable. They aren’t psycho for the sake of it, and I’ll argue that to my grave. But moreover, what we have here is the ultimate products of the worlds they were made for. Parallels are drawn constantly between Nagito and Hajime, Akechi and Joker, in a “there but for the grace of god go I” way, and it falls the same every time. Joker forged a home among friends, and people he considered family. Even after being hurt, he found the strength to be vulnerable for someone, and that someone happened to be the right someone; and though these people, he became stronger still. Likewise, Hajime took risks, took responsibility, and became respected and loved through hard work and compassion. He faced his own fear of worthlessness, and in the end, he didn’t fold to it the way Nagito did. He built his own purpose in life, and it was as full of hope as any Ultimate’s. These are feats beyond comprehension to our antiheroes, who may well have turned out to be the heroes after all if they’d only been shown the same support and care. And that’s why I think this character type appeals to so many people, and why these characters become so beloved. I think we become invested in their stories, and we want to show them compassion. There’s a reason why Nagito and Akechi are frequently shipped around, why they exist in so many fix-it fics. At the end of the day, we know the difference between bad people, and people who do bad things. It’s that, the latter may not be beyond saving. 

 And finally, can I...? If you’ve played the third semester of Royal, they really just make Akechi Like That, huh? In the original Japanese, he was apparently supposed to just come off as tired and not particularly wanting to mend any of his relationships or mistakes since he knew his death was looming, so I’m not sure why they took one look at this complex character development and said, “Hm, let’s just make him balls to the wall, shall we?” but hey. I’ve got to give it to his VA, I had to put down my controller several times because holy shit. Just. Holy shit. Give that man all of the awards. All of them, every single one, please. 

[soncfseed]

reposted from my old blog

i want to post some links so people can better understand what bpd is and what a personality disorder is and is not. then, i’ll do a quick rundown of the 9 bpd symptoms and which ones ethan has/displays and how they manifest for him.

here is a quick ref of some common misconceptions about the disorder. tldr version: a lot of people think bpd isnt real, or that people with bpd are just crazy assholes but its a legitimate mental health problem that has multiple factors including ones that seem to be genetic and environmental.

a personality disorder is defined by the mayo clinic as: “a type of mental disorder in which you have a rigid and unhealthy pattern of thinking, functioning and behaving. A person with a personality disorder has trouble perceiving and relating to situations and people. This causes significant problems and limitations in relationships, social activities, work and school. In some cases, you may not realize that you have a personality disorder because your way of thinking and behaving seems natural to you.” basically, its not that a person has a bad personality in terms of poor character or is intentionally acting in a way that may seem irrational or explosive, but rather that the person has functional differences in how their brain reacts to things. personality is defined as:  “the combination of thoughts, emotions and behaviors that makes you unique. It’s the way you view, understand and relate to the outside world, as well as how you see yourself.” it isn’t just behaviour nor is it something people consciously control 100% of the time. borderline personality disorder has been linked to physical differences in the brain and its functioning, particularly of neurotransmitters and brain chemicals similar to mood disorders like depression. it is a type of neurodivergence, not a skewed moral compass, a choice, or something that people with bpd typically enjoy. the symptoms are very stress inducing and cause a lot of turmoil for the affected person, and when poor coping skills have been ingrained and then create further stress or complications in the person’s life, particularly in interpersonal relationships.

ok now we’re gonna hit the 9 symptoms and 4 domains of bpd and how ethan fits into it. the dsm-5 requires 5 symptoms out of 9 for a person to be diagnosed with bpd. ethan displays, in my opinion, 8/9 symptoms and would be a candidate for diagnosis in my experience.

domain a - emotional regulation 1) “Affective (emotional) instability including intense, episodic emotional anguish, irritability, and anxiety/panic attacks” ✅ generally, this is episodes of intense sadness, anger, irritability, insecurity and self doubt for ethan. he doesnt usually have anxiety or panic attacks, but he has had a few in extremely stressful situations. his symptoms of an anxiety attack tend to lean more towards irritability and emotional outbursts.

2) “Anger that is inappropriate, intense and difficult to control”  ✅ while ethan does become rightfully frustrated when the captain returns the book, the fact that he has what seems like a minute long complete meltdown including hitting/smashing objects, that would be a good example of the kind of situationally inappropriate anger and displays of temper ethan has. his anger spikes rapidly and it makes it hard to control his actions at times.

3) “Chronic feelings of emptiness”  ✅ while we don’t necessarily see this explicitly in game, i’d argue that’s part of his experience of bpd. he often feels a lack of purpose, a lack of self, and substitutes that with his role as the leader of new eden.

theres additional symptoms described as such: “In addition, if you suffer from borderline disorder, you may also experience emotional hyper-reactivity (“emotional storms”),  or emotional responses that are occasionally under- reactive, and frequent episodes of loneliness, and boredom. “ ethan definitely experiences emotional storms, and episodes of loneliness particularly. thats amplified by the fact that hes not particularly close to anyone in new eden besides maybe the judge. between a lack of substantial interpersonal ties with his community and his disorder, his episodes of loneliness are often very intense and distressing.

domain b - harmful impulsive behaviors 4)  “Self-damaging acts such as excessive spending, unsafe and inappropriate sexual conduct, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating”  ✅ ethan deals with this to an extent, but not these specific self damaging behaviours. for ethan, its usually not eating or not sleeping for periods of time, or going on particularly dangerous missions to find the book. hunting also serves as an adrenaline rush, but because it sustains new eden its less impulsive than it is an acceptable way of spending a day

5) “Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats, or self-injurious behavior such as cutting or hitting yourself.”  ❌ ethan has suicidal ideations, but doesn’t have a history of engaging in self harm or suicide attempts.  

though not an explicit symptom, dangerous impulsivity that affects the self or others is a common symptom, and one ethan does deal with. his decision to turn new eden over to the highwaymen was in part spurred by his impulsive thinking and behaviour.

domain c - perceptions of self and others 6) “A markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of yourself (your perceptions of yourself, your identity)”  ✅ ethan definitely experiences shifts in this realm. this is part of why he ties himself so strongly to his identity as the leader of new eden in light of his poor relationship with his father (which will come up again). when that is threatened, it sends him spiraling because of his unstable self image. this applies to ethan’s image of himself as a person morally, his worth relative to others, and even how he feels about his body and appearance.

7) “Suspiciousness of others thoughts about you, and even paranoid ideation, or transient and stress related dissociative episodes during which you feel that you or your surroundings appear unreal.”  ✅ ethan is absolutely suspicious of others and it goes beyond his learned suspicion of outsiders that all of new eden seems to have. he is particularly suspicious of his father, and of people within his own community. some of this is completely rational, but it often extends beyond that. he experiences, in my hc, dissociative episodes and bouts of depersonalization where parts of his body don’t feel real or don’t feel attached to him/belonging to him.

“Other symptoms in this Domain include split- or “all-or-nothing” thinking, difficulty “pulling” your thoughts together so they make sense, and rational problem solving, especially in social conflicts.” ethan deals with all of these issues generally speaking. this is in part why his decision to burn down new eden was so extreme; he has difficulty at times with regulating what is rational and what is not (and making nuanced decisions), particularly when under extreme emotional duress like during an explosive emotional episode or mood swing.

domain d - unstable relationships 8)  “You may engage in frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.”✅ this is part of why he looked so hard for the book, why he pushes himself so hard to be the leader of new eden and why he turns on them so aggressively at the end. sometimes this can manifest as lashing out, a way to “get them before they get me” mentality. he has particularly strong responses to feeling abandoned or ignored.

9) “Your relationships may be very intense, unstable, & alternate between the extremes of overidealizing and undervaluing people who are important to you.” ✅ this is definitely something ethan struggles with, especially with his father. this is also why he was willing to let new eden burn and its people suffer with it. he had swung too far back from feeling rejected that went completely into “new eden bad”, undervaluing everyone there to the point that he was able to rationalize destroying the place at the expense of the people who lived there.

none of this is meant to excuse his poor decision making, but in the context of my hc for him, it explains why he can act so irrationally at times, and so extremely. in reality, people with bpd are more likely to hurt themselves through self harm, suicide attempts, impuslive behavior, and self destructive behavior. ethan seed is 1) not a real person and 2) living under some very intense and unusual circumstances with probably the WORST person to parent someone with bpd, joseph “i talk to god and he says your soul is tainted” seed. he also doesn’t know he has a disorder and doesn’t have the knowledge or resources to get mental health treatment for his disorder. as it stands, however, he’s made some pretty bad and pretty horrible decisions, and at times can be a bad person. this doesn’t mean, however, that he is 100% bad or always awful, or that bpd is the sole cause of his behaviours. it isnt. lots of people (including myself) have bpd and we haven’t been directly or indirectly responsible for the deaths of anyone; we’ve never burned down our hometowns or tried to get our fathers killed. ethan’s display of bpd is more of a tool to explain and contextualize his behavior and character rather than to condemn him, condone him, or excuse his actions.

tldr ethan has bpd and so do i thanks 4 listening to my ted talk

[haikyuu-philia]

Can I request a scenario for Kuroo’s s/o being harassed by some shady guys, like they’re hitting on her, trying to pull her with them etc. But then the Nekoma team comes by and the whole team goes in protective-mode (minus Kuroo who arrives at the scene a bit later).

(I will mend the layout of this text for the app asap! It is a mess right now, sorry.)

I LOVE YOU FOR MAKING THAT REQUEST, ANON! Honestly, I was looking forward to writing this since I’ve received it because I love Nekoma’s dynamic as a team so freaking much (*o*) Thanks to this I’ve escalated in terms of length. Again.  Anyways, have fun and enjoy reading it :D

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Cheeky Cats | Kuroo x Reader

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Even after all those times, words couldn’t describe how much you loved seeing the sunset, that would color the clouds dark red. Just like Nekoma’s team jackets. So you didn’t mind waiting for your boyfriend to finish volleyball practice at the school gate.

Normally he would pick you up from your club activities, but those were cancelled for today due to responsible the teacher being absent. After going for a short walk and having a little snack at a nearby café you had returned to school. Every now and then other students would pass by to leave; a few would nod at you or whisper a greeting, others would just let it be. But some time ago - you couldn’t really tell how long it had been - those three guys had started to talk to you. 

Beginning with smalltalk they moved on to more specific topics quite fast. They complimented your beautiful lips, gorgeous eyes and stunning curves up to a point, where you were on the edge of punching them in the face. 

Instead you tried to get rid off them with many methods, while having the most innocent smile on your face. You even faked a call from your parents to make them get bored, but nothing seemed to work. All of them somehow managed to capture you between them and one of the walls surrounding the school.

„Come on, honey. Don’t you at least want to tell us, who you are waiting for so desperately?“, one of them said while leaning closer to you. 

Finally you felt like your chance to escape that extremely uncomfortable situation of yours had come: „I’m waiting for my boyfriend.“ 

If one thing drove you crazy about this, then it would be that you could never tell who would speak up next. It was the left boy’s turn.

„He doesn’t seem to love you a lot. Letting you wait for so long out here. Alone. In the upcoming dark.“ They didn’t care about your relationship status at all. Well, something about this made you feel like you had just been threatened. 

To be more precisely, you had never begged for the end of volleyball practice that much. Whatever had caused you to end up in this struggle, you simply wanted Kuroo to appear around the corner and pull you into a warm hug. Nothing could hurt you in those arms.

The longer the silence was, the more you realised that you really were running out of excuses to leave. Or lies to tell. You didn’t want to make a fuss about it, but even screaming in combination with crying seemed to be an option now.

„(Y/N)-CHAAAAAAAAAN!“

Honestly you hadn’t been that relieved to hear Lev’s voice ever before. After getting to know him, you soon had discovered that he was an innocent puppy, that tried to act like a cat. Still, thanks to his height he appeared pretty intimidating to others.

The grey-haired giant pushed the trio away like it was nothing and hugged you with his long arms. It might not have been the hug you were looking for, on the other hand it did its magic as well. Swinging you around a little, the three boys were ignored by him completely. 

„Don’t tell me that this beanstalk is your boyfriend, (Y/N)-chan“, they found back their voices. You could only roll our eyes as they started to use this nickname of yours without asking.

Feeling way stronger than before, you shot them a smile, before answering their question: „He is not.“

From the distance you could hear more footsteps approaching and the unknown students in front of you exchanged insecure glances with each other. They stiffened a little, after a loud voice could be heard behind their backs, scaring them quite a bit.

„God dammit, Lev! I told you not to just run into it without thinking.“ 

Someone must have decided to end your suffering immediately, since you could identify the speaker as Yaku. No one else would say such things in such a tone. The three boys turned around to reveal not only the third year standing there. Kenma and Yamamoto followed him suit, only Kuroo was nowhere to be seen.

Obviously nervous, as they were the ones to be surrounded now, they tried to cover any insecurities with giggles: „He can’t be your boyfriend, right? The midget, I mean.“

The first reaction to be heard happened to be a quiet „Idiot.“ coming from Kenma, before Yaku let loose one of his kicks, aiming for the guys’ bags that were laying on the ground. They flew approximately 20 meters wide. New record, in your opinion. 

„You aren’t messing around with our precious (Y/N), are you?“, Yamamoto stepped in as soon as you had denied the rumours about your relationship with the shortest boy. Presenting his famous I-am-such-a-bad-guy-face it was the trio’s turn to feel threatened this time. 

Lev next to you, Yaku standing to their left and Yamamoto to their right, you noticed that the page had turned. You could really smile again: „To answer your upcoming question. He isn’t my boyfriend, either.“

„Trust us, you don’t want to make her boyfriend mad“, Lev continued with a facial expression filled with fear. Maybe he was thinking about all the exercises your beloved Tetsu made him do regularly. „The name’s Kuroo Tetsurou. With his pinky he could kill everyone of you.“

In unison their eyes widened after getting to know your boyfriend’s name. You were pretty sure that they had heard of him, since they were students at Nekoma after all. Literally trembling they ran to their bags, not turning around again before they fled and screamed: „What kind of freak show is this?!“ 

Your group watched them disappearing behind a building and you were certain that they would never ever bother you again. Anyways, looking into your saviours’ eyes made you realise what awesome friends you had. „Are you okay, (Y/N)-san?“, Yaku finally asked to come back to the topic. You nodded. 

Interrupting your reply, Yamamoto hugged you worriedly: „If Kenma hadn’t told us, you might have gotten into even bigger trouble!“

The mentioned setter had tried to sneak away as soon as his name had been called. Lev explained in a rush that Kenma had seen you being surrounded by those idiots and informed the whole team about it. 

„Thank you, Kenma. And thanks to all of you. You can’t tell how happy I am that you came to my rescue!“ 

During a group hug, that Kenma was forced into as well, to calm down after that nightmare-ish scenario, you were reminded of someone very important being absent. 

„I don’t want to sound rude, but where the heck is Kuroo?“ In the end the three boys had had an extreme luck since your boyfriend had been called to the coach after practice. Otherwise they might really have died, at least mentally. 

To protect each and everyone from possible harm, you all promised not to tell a word about what had happened earlier. Specifically not to Kuroo.

To avoid any risks, the boys decided to stay by your side until Kuroo would arrive as well and most likely take you home. Dealing with these scumbags definitely had been enough excitement for a day. 

It took him only a few minutes to arrive with his signature grin on his face after seeing you.

Yaku had to send a warning glare at Lev, who seemed to be about to tell his captain literally everything they had vowed not to loose a word about. 

Yamamoto was distracting his upperclassman in the meantime and Kenma just played along as silent as ever. 

The peace took a turn the moment Kuroo started to talk about a confusing encounter he had had outside the gym: „You know, I’ve met three weirdos a minute ago. They nearly bumped into me and directly froze. I think they screamed something like Oh my god, it’s Kuroo Tetsurou. Run for your lives!“

Everyone except for your boyfriend felt the same urge to change the topic and was maybe making up some theories to explain their behaviour without mentioning the incident. 

Meanwhile Kuroo swung his arm around your shoulder without speaking about it again. 

He sighed as soon as you two were alone.

„Am I really that intimidating?“ You could practically feel the weight being lifted from your shoulders, even though he had placed his limb on it. 

Absolutely relieved about it - about everything that had happened after Lev’s appearance - you tiredly leaned your head against his upper arm.

„Maybe. But you are perfect, just the way you are, Tetsu.“

[the-culminator]

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"Leaders are made, not born, so as Bullies." Bullying is not simple as you pronounce it because it can lead to disorders, trauma and other different dysfunctions. Throughout the article, you'll see the deep and dark side of this word which will serve as an eye-opener for mankind.

Before we go on, let us first define the further elaborate our main topic. So what is bullying? Bullying is harming and hurting people physically, emotionally and even mentally in a repeated manner. If we look at the factors in which bullies do this act, we can come up to jealousy, supremacy, revenge, insecurities and others. If you take a closer look specifically in school, you can see many factors. For example, out of insecurities, a boy bullied another student because he is insecure of new phone. To make this stronger, a survey was conducted from 2014 which shows 6,363 recorded cases of bullying in school which is nearly 21% increase in the previous year survey of 5,236 recorded cases.

Morgan Biggs stated that "bullies use bullying tactics to impress other student." It shows how lacked of attention in home or in their environment has an impact why these bullies do bully. He also added "They thrived on attention they get from their fellow classmates and their hurtful actions make them feel powerful and popular." This shows supremacy above other student. In some instances, a taller student bullies a smaller student to make fun or just to impress, take attention and supremacy over other people.

After we define, let us know proceed to its types. Bullying have many types; physical, verbal, social, and cyber. Physical bullying is type of bullying which includes hitting, pushing, tripping, slapping, destroying belongings or taking part of lunch money towards other people in a repeated manner. Verbal bullying can be more damaging because it may have a long term and serious effect in the victim. Verbal bullying includes chanting, offensive words against other people. Social or relational bullying tackles about attacking someone's relationship or social status. Cyber bullying occur through the use of technology, it includes sending, posting, or sharing negative, harmful, false or mean content about someone else causing embarrassment or humiliation. Under those types is a sub type known as sexual bullying. Sexual bullying can be physical, verbal, emotional, relational, or cyber that occurs in connection with sex, sexual orientation, and sexual activity.

Students often describe bullying as when "someone makes you feel less about you as a person." Bullying can cause lifetime damage to its victim. It can lower their self-esteem to the point that the victim will avoid social interactions because of his/her experiences.

There are many victims of bullying, but there’s this one victim case that caught my attention that happened in Pangasinan Philippines. A student of this town died on Wednesday, a day after he was reportedly bullied and beaten up by his school mates. Kenneth Langit, 19, a Grade 11 student, died while being treated at the Region 1 Medical Center in Dagupan City, according to Leo Blaquir, principal of the Mangaldan National High School.Langit was reportedly beaten up by Grade 12 students George Calimlim, 19; Jayson Soriano, 22, and Jay-ArBiagtan, 21. The suspects have been arrested.

Blaquir said it was an isolated incident, adding that both the victim and the suspects have no prior record of misdemeanor in the school. “They were both attentive and participated in their respective classes,” Blaquir said. He said the three security guards of the school, which has the biggest student population in Pangasinan, did not notice the incident. Last Jan. 7, Roger Jackson Tabuñar, 11, died after he was reportedly beaten up by his playmates, aged 10 and 11, who dragged him out during a Christmas party in Barangay Salay also of this town on Dec. 28.Based on the death certificate, Tabuñar’s cause of death was septic shock, with pneumonia as antecedent cause and blunt abdominal trauma as underlying cause.

The case of Kenneth Langit shows us that bullies need help from a mental health professional like psychiatrist or psychologist because some bullies actually have a personality disorders that don't allow them to realize what they're doing. Most bullies think that they are attractive and can insult people, but in reality they are actually insecure.

Studies show that bullies are untroubled by anxiety, and do not understand others' feelings. They misread the intentions of others. They typically see themselves quite positively. Those who chronically bully have strained relationships with parents and peers. Bullies couldn't exist without victims, and they don't pick on just anyone. Those singled out lack assertiveness even in nonthreatening situations and radiate fear long before they ever encounter a bully. Children are growing up without the kinds of play experiences in which children develop social skills and learn how to solve social problems.

Perhaps no single definition covers all aspects of bullying, but it has been called “a wilful, conscious desire to hurt another and put him/her under stress.” The stress is created not only by what actually happens but also by fear of what might happen. Tactics may include harsh teasing, constant criticism, insults, gossip, and unreasonable demands.

What can we do to stop bullying? I think the way to solve this problem is to avoid it earlier. We can also report bullying cases if it threatens to physical danger or any harm. Sometimes bullying happens but no one dares to report it so it gave the bullies permission to become more and more violent.

Psychologists can help people affected by bullying, but more importantly, they can also help to create safe and healthy schools and workplaces that promote physical and psychological wellbeing.

Parents too can start early in preparing their children to deal wisely with bullies. Eliminating bullying behaviour starts with educating the family. Parents who make themselves available to their children, listening patiently and empathetically to their concerns, instil in them the feeling that their wanted, supported and love.

Therefore in my own opinion, we can't make our family problems as an excuse to become a bully. Bullying is unacceptable because we already know how it feels to be insulted by someone and yet we keep on insulting and bullying other people.

I think it's not about our problems at home; it's not about how we want to become superior to everyone. There may be hundreds of proposed laws over the world, but bullies are like viruses, and epidemia that keeps on spreading everywhere. Like a virus in a computer, the computer technician may seem to fix the problem but in reality it only scans the virus and didn't really repair anything. Parallel to proposed laws, it’s easy to proposed a law but it’s hard to implement it so in reality it's an error because problem is not yet solved. This how it works, bullying is keep spreading, as a human of this world, as much as possible please don't do bullying instead spread love and care for other people like how our Almighty God loved us. Be confident in yourself. Don’t be afraid to stand up for what you believe. Many bullies back off when they see that you aren’t giving them any power over you and that you aren’t afraid.

[plagueamon]

Code Geass MBTI Challenge Turn 9: Kyoshiro Tohdoh - ISTJ

With the exception of Anya and a few members of the Akito the Exiled cast, Kyoshiro Tohdoh is the character on our list with probably the least amount of information about his personal thoughts, views and experiences. With that in mind, I still think that the show gives us just enough of a glimpse into his personality in order to be able to type him accurately, to the point where I actually had to retype him a few times and overall was given more to think about than I originally expected. Before I start explaining this character’s functions, please keep in mind, that this post will contain heavy Code Geass spoilers, so consider yourselves warned. With that out of the way, let us analyse why Kyoshiro Tohdoh is an ISTJ.

Dominant Introverted Sensing/Si

Tohdoh’s Si is actually very comparable to Ohgi’s, because they value very similar things, but diverge in what further conclusions they do with those values based on their auxiliary and tertiary functions (this is coincidentally perhaps the best opportunity we will ever have to compare an ISFJ to an ISTJ). Much like Ohgi, Tohdoh largely bases his values around Japanese tradition, however he does not see them as something to be explored and shared with others (Ti and Fe), so mach as he uses it to dictate the rules he wants to see himself and his surrounding world world to develop in accordance with (Fi and Te). This sometimes makes him appear much more narrow-minded than he actually is, simply because he has a very specific idea of what he wants to achieve for Japan and for himself and is very determined to make it a reality. In truth he is actually very capable of applying this personal system of principles to others, which is what makes him a competent teacher and role model for Suzaku.

A common trait of dominant Si-users in fiction is that they can be both idealistic and practical in their mindset, with Si being tied to tangible evidence and facts by being a sensing function, while also being introverted and therefore highly subjective and personal to the user. Tohdoh himself embodies this balance quite well: we often see him talk in ways that are sentimental, with topics like honour and his hopes and fears for Japan’s distant future being brought up a lot, but, as Zero mentions during his prison break-in in R1, all of Tohdoh’s legendary success comes down to careful planning and intelligence work. In fact, it seems that Tohdoh himself understands this very well, as we never really see him refer to his work as “miracles” in a non-ironic manner, despite being seen as such by his followers. At his core Tohdoh still very much prefers to deal with factual details, planning out his operations and insisting on taking part in them personally, solidifying him as both a skilled and passionate tactician and leader, and, much like with Ohgi, this is the potential that Lelouch sees in him.

Auxiliary Extroverted Thinking/Te

As stated above, Tohdoh’s success as a leader mainly comes down to methodical and meticulous work combined with a fairly tactical mindset. His Te is certainly an important component of this, as we see him rely on it when he has to step out of his Si comfort zone. We see several examples of this happening when Tohdoh doesn’t see an obvious answer to a problem: his usual response is to trust in Zero’s judgement even if he has to blindly follow orders without a clear understanding of what his leader is planning. This demonstrates a healthy use of auxiliary Te, as it shows his willingness to abandon his immediate instinct to systematically observe the situation by himself (Si) when there is clearly no point in doing that, instead going with a more conventionally rational Te approach and trusting Lelouch because he has proven to be effective in the past. This is both supported and kept in check by his Fi, which gives him a degree of confidence in his judge of other people’s character as well as stops him from being a blindly devoted follower with no clear direction of his own. Compare this to Ohgi, who trusts others (Zero in this example) based on his perception of their sense of morality and trustworthiness (Fe), while his tertiary Ti balances this notion out by making him question his own judgement and thinking of the benefits of a given decision that is independent of ethical questions.

To put it in a somewhat simplified manner, Te is a form of generalist logic, developing a systematic “one size fits all” way of looking at a problem for the user, as they mature. The higher Te is in the functional stack, the more its logical system is complex and willing to account for exceptions, meaning that the kind of over-generalising behaviour that Te-users are often stereotyped for is much more commonly seen in unhealthy, immature or low (in terms of the stack) users. A much more healthy use of Te is comparatively rare in fiction or isn’t recognised nearly as often, however Tohdoh’s tactical ability and respect for authority provide good examples. Neither of the two are things he carries out blindly or out of principle, in fact he demonstrates a high degree of autonomy when deciding to trust his comrades and his superiors - instead these choices come from an understanding that this kind of trust the most reasonable course of action in most difficult situations.

As a soldier these qualities make Tohdoh outstanding.

Tertiary Introverted Feeling/Fi

Tohdoh’s Fi comes out in most of his unhealthier moments, meaning that he enters a Si-Fi loop. Whenever he finds himself in a difficult situation with no apparent solutions provided by his first two functions and nobody else to follow, Tohdoh is prone to giving up all hope and surrendering to his fate. The excuse he uses to justify this is also very evident of an unhealthy use of Fi: in his mind he chooses death to preserve his honour and deserves his fate for his personal failure. With Fi being a function that focuses on very personal values, this is an example of using it defensively instead of finding the inner strength to maintain hope and readiness for an opportunity to improve the situation. This almost causes him to reject a chance of freedom that Zero is basically handing to him in R1. It usually takes an external perspective (Te) such as Zero’s or that of his fellow Holy Swords pilots to “snap him out of” this internally focused state and show him that he can still find a reason to continue fighting without sacrificing his life and that his honour is not compromised by such a choice.

On a somewhat healthier note, Fi also puts an interesting spin on the direction of Tohdoh’s dominant function, giving him a firm belief that a person should keep true to their goals and principles no matter the cost. This is why his initial disappointment in Suzaku disappears to a large degree, when he learns that his former student’s life choices are in full accordance with the ideals he holds. While he still sees Suzaku as an enemy, Tohdoh develops a respect for his willingness to follow the path he chose despite being seen as a traitor to the Japanese by almost everyone and even encourages him to continue. While his Fi isn’t high enough in his stack to make relating to others necessarily easy, it does give him the ability to readily acknowledge that there are subjectively justifiable reasons behind everyone’s actions, no matter how different the person in question may be from himself.

Inferior Extroverted Intuition/Ne

Tohdoh does not get as much screen time or opportunities to speak as some of the other characters on our list, however because of his brutal honesty and overall being based on a fairly common fictional archetype, it isn’t very difficult to understand his fears and weaknesses as a human being. Dominant Si is a function rooted in personal experiences and principles (both moral and logical) that are very personal to the user and allow them to find a place for themselves in the world they inhabit. A common way for inferior Ne to oppose this is the fear of loss of one’s self and the personal principles that make us who we are. This makes Tohdoh reluctant to make decisions that contradicts his ideas about the kind of person he should be and the ways in which he should act. This kind of insecurity provides an understandable explanation for his Si-Fi loops: trying to avoid execution to him is similar to refusing punishment for his failure to liberate Japan, and that would go against his understanding of what he should stand for. This is why he only agrees to escape his prison when offered a chance of redemption.

On a more general scale, inferior Fi makes it hard for Tohdoh to truly understand other people’s motivations and plans when he doesn’t see the evidence leading up to them. Given that Lelouch is Ni-dominant and hence much more willing to rely on theoretical approximations and calculated risks rather than playing it safe and going with the facts, this tends to happen often and Tohdoh is often left having to trust in his leader’s competence without actually knowing what he is up to. Being mature and relatively healthy, however, Tohdoh does not tend to be bothered by this too much, recognising when his life is in capable hands instead of giving in to a fear of uncertainty, as unhealthy or immature Si-doms can often do.

However, please keep in mind that this is only my opinion on the matter and I will welcome any criticisms or alternative opinions to discuss them. If this article was interesting for you, stay prepared for next time, when I shall discuss the MBTI type of Diethard Ried.

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That’s Not How Child Abuse Works: Todoroki Enji Edition

Let’s talk about character design and child abuse in BNHA.

Let me be clear: Enji Todoroki is a bad person. Full stop. This is not a defense of him, or an excuse of his behaviours in any way. This is, however, an examination of the specific ways in which he is a bad person, and why I feel a fair portion of the fandom gets him and his relationship with Shoto Todoroki wrong.

So, who is Enji Todoroki?

Trigger warning for discussions of physical, emotional and sexual abuse, as well as domestic violence under the cut

Also, spoilers

Alright, let me start off with a preface. It should go without saying, but I’ll say it anyway. This is not a strict do-and-do-not of writing. No one is stopping you from writing whatever you want. If you want to write rape as a plot device or cheap shock-value characterization for your villain, I literally cannot stop you. No one can stop you. Go ahead. 

As well, this post contains hypothesis and conjecture that are not proven as fact by the canonical text, but may or may not be inferred through examination. In no way am I trying to state that my assumptions or suggestions are true or canonical, they are merely that - suggestions on how to write realistic portrayals of familial abuse.

Thirdly, there is a very good resource out there for examining abusers. I have found the text Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft invaluable to understanding the patterns of abuse. You can read the whole PDF for free here.

Have fun and be creative, pals.

From what we know of the story, Enji Todoroki is the #2 hero in the world, and has been for quite some time. He is deeply jealous and insecure about this. About the fact that he has never, and probably will never take the number one spot away from All Might. And so, at some point in his life, Enji came up with a plan. He was going to have a son who would do it for him.

Flash forward a bit; Enji paid off the family of Shoto’s mother in order to marry her and have access to her quirk. He was going to produce what would be, in his mind, a perfect heir. (This is bad. He is a bad person for doing this. Full stop.) Enji had several children before Shoto, whom he considers to be “failures” and presumably has little to no relationship with them. However, Shoto’s mother was eventually able to bear a child hybridized with both their powerful quirks. Happy with the result, Enji has since taken it upon himself to form Shoto into his perfect heir.

Enji has done this through abusive means of control and dominance, and in doing so has created a highly toxic relationship between himself, his wife and his son. Much of the problems in the Todoroki household are because of Enji’s actions. He is an abuser. But what kind of abuser he is is not random, and the abusive acts he performs are not random, either.

So who is Enji Todoroki?

Simply put, he’s a Stage Mom. He’s an asshole, abusive, controlling stage mom who treats his son more like a Pokemon than a person.

He is the kind of parent that will drag Shoto out of bed for practice, force him to eat and study, control every minute of his schedule and make sure this kid is going to become, by any means necessary, the man he could never be. That is Enji’s logic. He wants Shoto to succeed where he failed, by any means necessary. 

However, Enji has a logical plan for his son. All of his abusive actions have a purpose. He’s not going to meet his desired goals by harming Shoto to the point of total physical and emotional destruction. He would only be sabotaging himself.

What does Enji Todoroki want?

Power - Enji wants to be the number one hero instead of All Might. Barring that, he wants his son to be #1 in his stead Respect - from his family, and the general public, Enji wants to be seen in a positive light Control - Enji wants to be in control of himself, his family, his work and his destiny Legacy - Enji wants to extend his power beyond just himself, into his children so they continue projecting his power even after he dies

What is Enji Todoroki afraid of?

Losing power - physically and professionally, Enji cannot handle being seen as a weak man, or have Shoto be seen as a weak son. Losing respect - Enji needs his family and the public to treat him as the man he sees himself as Losing control - Enji cannot allow his son or anyone else to disobey him and prevent him from realizing his goals Losing legacy - If Shoto does not become who he wants, Enji will have wasted a huge portion of his life and resources on a failed project

Enji, being a logical and sane* person is going to pursue actions that lead him towards his desired goals. He is also going to avoid actions that will cause him to lose his desired goals.

(*Sane in this case simply meaning “capable of rational thought”. Not moral or ethical thought. Sane people can choose to lie, steal, murder, rape, etc. They are deliberately choosing bad choices, but they are still sane.)

At this point, I would also highly recommend reading the section in Bancroft’s book on the types of abusers in chapter 4, page 219. You can decide for yourself which one (or several) Enji fits under.

Knowing Enji’s goals and mindset, here are a few common tropes I see in Todoroki fic and why I feel they’re not all that logically plausible

Enji beats Shoto within an inch of his life

Simply put, Enji has no reason to do this. Enji sees his son as an extension of himself and his own accomplishments. Shoto is, to him, a prize pig. Physically brutalizing Shoto would be Enji brutalizing himself.

Remember, Enji has an image that he wants to project to the outside world. He is a public figure. A celebrity. He wants the public to see him, and by extension his family, as powerful, united, untouchable and also a traditionally conservative Japanese family. 

The media and public would likely become suspect of Enji’s power and likability if they saw his son consistently covered in bruises. Or worse (for Enji) they might assume that Shoto has been losing a bunch of fights and is a weak hero. Enji absolutely would not want the world to think this, and would not let his perfect son be seen as weak or defeated.

While it is reasonable to assume that Enji might use corporal punishment for misbehaviour, there is no reason to assume that he assaults Shoto to the point of hospitalization or death.

It is also reasonable to assume that Enji overtrains Shoto, and pushes him beyond his physical limits in pursuit of shaping him into the perfect warrior. We saw him train Shoto until he vomits as a child. However, this still follows Enji’s logical purpose of making him “better”. It is unlikely that he would physically attack Shoto for frivolous reasons, like his own amusement or anger. It would undercut his goal of turning Shoto into a miniature version of himself.

Enji starves Shoto

Again, there is no reason for Enji to do this. He wants to project to the world that he is strong, and by extension, his family is strong. Starving Shoto would seriously harm Enji’s plans for him.

Shoto would struggle physically and mentally in school, and Enji wants a top performer

Shoto wouldn’t develop properly physically, and Enji wants a big, strong son to prove he is a big, strong father

Enji wants to project to the world that he is powerful and in control. If the public saw Shoto as small and shrimpy, they would seriously question his strength and authority as a patriarch. What, this powerful man is so broke he can’t afford food for his son?

Now, as an asshole stage mom who tries to control his son’s life, it would probably make more sense to put Shoto on an extreme health food diet in order to improve his performance. But outright starvation? It doesn’t make sense.

Besides. Have you seen this 5’9” 155-pounds-of-muscle kid? He is not starving.

Enji locks Shoto in his room for extended periods

Maybe when Shoto was younger and misbehaved? It’s not an unlikely punishment by an abusive parent, especially for a younger child, but Shoto is a teenager now. And, as we can see in the current story, Shoto has fairly free movement, both inside the household and out. 

He regularly visits his mother in the hospital, is out long after dark in the hideout raid arc, and basically goes wherever he wants whenever he wants. At 15, Shoto isn’t being locked up anywhere by his father. He is a dutiful and obedient son and Enji doesn’t seem to worry about him running away from home.

Another point to consider is that a lot of this freedom is still predicated on Shoto’s conditional obedience to Enji overall. Enji allows Shoto freedom because he believes that Shoto is following in his footsteps, even if he deems his son “rebellious” at times. If Enji decided that Shoto was at risk of running away or betraying him, his punishments may become much more severe.

See: Why He Stays section below

This is also why Shoto’s rebellious compromise in the first two seasons is an incredibly clever survival mechanism. He is, technically, still following his father’s plan for him. However, by choosing to ignore his fire side, he is still disobeying his father. But his father cannot reasonably punish him for that since Shoto is still a top-ranking student and a powerful quirk user overall. It’s a brilliant power-play when all the power rests in Enji’s hands.

Enji verbally abuses Shoto to make him feel bad about himself

Yes and No? It’s likely that Enji does say a lot of really terrible things to his son. The way he speaks in the manga and anime suggest a man who has very little respect for those he considers to be beneath him, and only begruding respect for those who are above him.

I wouldn’t be surprised if Enji insults or even threatens Shoto. But he does it for a purpose. As stated above, Enji wants to maintain control and power, and to continue his legacy through Shoto.

He doesn’t want Shoto to feel weak or degraded or to become a pushover in life. He wants Shoto to become strong and impenetrable, a perfect recreation of toxic masculinity. If Shoto were to break down crying from insults, Enji would have failed in creating Shoto into someone who is hard and emotionless. Therefore extreme verbal abuse to the point where Shoto is crying is less likely than just casual bullying.

Shoto is untouchable and has never, ever been touched or hugged

His mother loved him. When Shoto was a young child, we see her in the anime hugging and cuddling her son. So that’s out.

In the present, Shoto lives with other people than just his father. In the anime, we see that Fuyumi still lives at home, and cares about what Shoto does, as shown when he goes to visit his mother in the hospital. I find it highly unlikely that siblings in a reasonably amicable relationship never, ever hug, even if they are generally busy in their separate lives.

It is unclear if Shoto still lives with his brothers, or the older woman who was taking care of them in the flashback panel of the manga, but again, it would be stange if these people, who are presumably not abusive, never, ever touched Shoto in any affectionate way ever. Shoto isn’t cursed.

While it is reasonable to assume that Enji is an old-school patriarch who doesn’t show much, if any, physical affection to his son, he still gives him some attention, and provides Shoto with everything he needs to be a successful hero. (whether Shoto wants to follow this path or not is another story. Fortunately, Shoto does)

Enji likely still trains with Shoto, sparring with him and showing him fighting technique. He may not hug his son, but he doesn’t ignore him. He might even pat him on the back if Shoto does something that Enji approves of, such as boosting the family profile in public. 

We saw at the sports festival how proud Enji was of Shoto using his fire half. Yes, it was a selfish pride, and Enji was really more congratulating himself than his son, but we saw that Enji doesn’t just hate Shoto for the sake of it. 

Is Shoto touch-starved? Possibly. He has probably seen less physical affection than someone with loving parents like Izuku or Ochako, but I doubt it is so extreme to the point of him breaking down into tears because he’s never had a tender hug.

Any form of sexual abuse

No. Look, I get it, Enji is an asshole and we hate him. I won’t deny this. But you can be an asshole and not be a child molester. And it is, quite frankly, lazy writing to take a character whom you want to show is an Evil Bastard™ and just write him off as “child rapist”. Because that’s not who Enji is. Enji Todoroki is a lot of things. He’s a bad person. But he is not someone who molests his own son.

Now, if you want to talk about marital rape, there is certainly enough evidence to believe that Enji’s relationship with Shoto’s mother was non-consensual, and probably violent. I will not argue this point. But Enji feeling entitled to women’s bodies and using Shoto’s mother to produce the perfect child still doesn’t make him a child molestor. These are two very separate forms of Evil Bastardry.

Enji’s pattern of abuse follows a logical train of thought. It’s not ethical, and it’s not kind, but it does make logical sense for his character. What doesn’t make sense is him trying to create a perfect superhero offspring, and then seriously damaging that child with sexual abuse. That’s not Enji’s purpose or plan. Enji used Shoto’s mother to produce Shoto. He has no reason to attack Shoto in this way, beyond “hurr hurr I’m evil”. It would sabotage Shoto’s chances at becoming the national hero that Enji desires

Ways to accurately examine and portray the abuse that happens in the Todoroki household

Because, absolutely, there is abuse. And it is serious. Just because Shoto isn’t being locked up or starved or beaten doesn’t mean he is not being abused or hasn’t been abused in the past. But the abuse needs to follow Enji’s logical train of thought. He has a very specific goal in mind, and he is willing to do anything to accomplish that goal, even if it means everyone in his life suffering for it.

This following section contains my own opinions regarding portrayal of domestic abuse and violence. It is not a set of must-follow rules, merely suggestions based on personal and professional experience.

Physical abuse

Physical striking as a form of specific discipline for misbehaviour make sense, but not random, extreme violence

Enji wants Shoto to be obedient, but also strong. He would not be not above using violence to control his son, but it would need to be in connection to direct misbehaviour, and relative to the infraction Shoto has committed.

Abusers, despite what they claim, generally do not “lose it” or not understand their own strength. They know what they are doing and how hard they can hit. A professional fighter like Enji especially knows how hard he can hit a person and what damage he can cause. Any damage done to Shoto would be deliberate, and Enji would have to deal with the consequences of extreme violence.

Shoto cannot continue to train under Enji if he is constantly dealing with serious injuries and needing hospitalization to recover.

Overtraining Shoto and ignoring his physical and verbal needs for rest

This is actually more emotional and psychological abuse than physical, because it shows Enji cares about his own trajectory for Shoto more than Shoto himself. 

And again, the physical abuse needs to follow the logical sense of making Shoto better in Enji’s eyes. For example, he’s not going to make Shoto scrub all the floors in their house, because he takes pride in his creation and likely believes Shoto would be above such menial tasks.

Controlling Shoto’s diet

While I don’t think it’s logical for Enji to starve Shoto, It would be more reasonable for him to develop Orthorexia, a condition similar to anorexia where someone is obsessed with health and purity of foods. He would make sure Shoto is eating entirely healthy food that he approves of, while prohibiting anything he sees as unhealthy, like sugar or candy.

Controlling Shoto’s rest schedule

Same with food, in his household, Enji probably controls when Shoto trains and sleeps. However, by 15, Shoto is probably used to this and sees it as completely normal and not abusive. Human beings are amazing at normalizing the worst things.

Controlling Shoto’s study and free time

In order to min/max his Pokemon son’s fighting stats, Enji probably wouldn’t let Shoto waste his time with things children do like “hobbies” or “fun”.

Not allowing him to play with his siblings

Not allowing him to play with friends outside the family

Not allowing him to pursue anything that isn’t about becoming a hero, such as art or video games. Part of Shoto’s awkwardness is likely because he’s not terribly up to speed with pop culture references, seeing as how he likely has very little time to consume these things that Enji would see as frivolous

Using any and all free time Shoto has to train him into becoming a hero

Verbal Abuse

When abusers use their words, they use them very specifically. While they may make excuses like “I didn’t mean it” or “I didn’t know what I was saying at the time” this is a lie. They know what they are saying and they know why it hurts. They specifically want to instill fear or shame in their target in order to keep control over them. When giving Enji Todoroki dialogue, it is important to remember what his (fucked up) goals and values are, and how he is trying to achieve those (fucked up) goals and values.

Instead of just calling Shoto names randomly, Enji would likely make everything about himself.

“You’re no son of mine”

“Why can’t you be more like me?”

“You’re my son, Shoto, act like it.”

Enji would likely try to shape Shoto’s world view to be extremely similar to his own, giving Shoto biased information, no matter its accuracy

“Your mother was a weak woman who didn’t raise you correctly”

“All Might is a fool and you’d be a fool to admire him”

“Those kids at school are just trying to drag you down. Don’t spend time with them.”

Praise and affection would be given in relation to how Enji personally feels and how Shoto is living up to his father’s demands

“You’re becoming the man I knew you could be”

“I’ve worked so hard to create you”

“You’re strong, like me”

Psychological Abuse

This is probably the biggest factor in Enji’s abuse, far more than anything physical he does to Shoto. And while writers may think physical acts such as beating and starvation make for good story, I would argue that these more subtle acts in the relationship are more realistic, and can prove far more damaging in the long run.

Enji treats Shoto like an object, not a person.

This is the biggest single factor of abuse, and is the core of their relationship’s toxicity. Enji does not see Shoto as his own person with his own thoughts, opinions or desires. He sees Shoto as a miniature extension of himself that he can use and control in order to be more successful as a hero, and eventually take the number one spot from All Might.

Enji does not allow Shoto the freedom to grow and develop as his own person, and pursue any interests beyond those interests of himself.

Enji only supports his son’s confidence in relation to him becoming a hero.

Shoto has been denied a normal childhood and normal development in pursuit of his father’s goals

Shoto can see his friends at school hang out and talk and laugh and watch movies and play video games and be kids. Shoto was likely not allowed to do any of that and he can feel incredibly isolated, lonely and bitter about not being able to relate to his peers

Shoto can have confidence issues, even when he is #1

Enji has built a kind of fragile confidence in Shoto. He needs his son to be #1 all the time. #2 just isn’t good enough. Many child prodigies have spoken out about how parental pressure crushed their self-esteem and destroyed whatever passion they had for their chosen subject (art, music, dance, sports, being a hero)

Being raised in an environment of constant pressure and criticism can lead a person to develop a highly critical self-image and OCD tendencies. They constantly feel “never good enough” because to the parent they looked up to, they never were. There was always something that needed improvement.

Enji is living through his child

Because Shoto has been denied his own childhood, he is being used, physically and psychologically, by his father as a way to live out his own unfulfilled dreams of success. This is incredibly damaging for Shoto because he cannot feel like a whole person in and of himself. Children who are used b their parents in this way often feel like a kind of mask that the parent wears, rather than a child who is loved and nurtured.

Children who are used by their parents also tend to have a poor or underdeveloped sense of self-image, and Shoto may have difficulty separating his own choices and desires from that of his father.

Unable to mature emotionally

Because Enji controls so much of his son’s life, Shoto is unable to grow emotionally and unable to make important decisions for himself, from picking out his own clothes, to saying no to peer pressure

Shoto will probably have difficulty forming intimate relationships (romantic or platonic) because he has very little reference of how to behave in a non-abusive way.

He may unconsciously replicate his father’s abusive behaviours with a partner

Even if Shoto can recognise abusive behaviours and not want to replicate them, he would struggle because he does not know what else to do

Potential psychological things Enji might do

Ignoring / Discouraging Shoto from pursuing anything Enji does not approve of

“Hey dad, look, I drew a bird!” “That’s nice son, how many criminals have you fought today?”

Forgetting important milestones like birthdays or good grades

Enji is self-absorbed with his own goals and does not take interest in his son’s personal life beyond how it would benefit him, personally. Shoto has grown up feeling like he owes his father and his family success and that a lot is riding on him to be the best. Shoto does not get a reward for getting perfect grades, he gets a “This is what I expect of you.”

Imbalance of power amongst siblings

One very common tactic amongs abusers is splitting the power dynamic of the household in order to maintain and control power for themselves

Abusers will often pick a “golden child” that they place all of their expectations upon, and then compare all other children to that child.

“Fuyumi, why can’t you be more like Shoto? He’s doing great and you’re doing terrible.”

This builds resentment between siblings and prevents them from allying with each other against the abuser.

It places the “golden child” in a difficult position of conditional acceptance between allying with the abusive parent, or allying with the rest of the family and risk losing their ascended position.

(See Azula from ATLA: Azula’s power came from the fact that she was “not a failure like Zuko” and saw favour in her father’s eyes only when compared to the child he did not like)

Refusing to acknowledge the relationship Shoto had with his mother, or misrepresenting it to the public

Enji knew that Shoto loved his mother, and saw her psychological breakdown / attack on Shoto as her own failing, and not related to his own abusive behaviour. Even when abusers absolutely know they are in the wrong, they do not take responsibility for their actions, and find ways to shift blame to someone or something else so that they are never forced to change their behaviour. This would build huge resentment in Shoto if his father never acknowledged that his mother’s breakdown was his fault

To the public, Enji still wants to project that powerful, traditional family ideal. He probably either didn’t say anything to the media and they don’t know that Shoto’s mother is gone, or he lied, making it again sound like her breakdown was some sort of freak accident and not a direct result of his abuse.

Why does he stay?

Why does any abuse survivor stay? Why not just run away and go live with Midoriya or Aizawa? The simple answer is, it’s safer to stay than to leave.

The truth about abuse is that there is no easy solution. There is no adoption rescue. Even calling the Japanese equivalent of child protective services is not an instant fix, and cases can take months, if not years to resolve.

For Shoto to be taken away from his family, Enji would have to prove he is unfit as a parent in the court of law. Unfortunately, courts very often side with the parent. If Enji is not starving, beating up or molesting his child, the court system would likely justify his custody of his child. Being a terrible asshole is not enough of a reason to be taken away from your parent, in a legal sense

If Shoto leaves, who becomes the target for blame?

In abusive relationships, there is often a protector, a sort of shock-absorber, who mediates the abuse. This may be the spouse / wife, or an older sibling protecting the younger ones. If Shoto leaves, his other siblings, including Fuyumi may be at much greater risk for Enji’s retribution. Abusers are often at heir most violent and unpredictable when their victim is trying to break away and leave

Shoto does not love his father, but he does grudgingly respect his skill

Shoto has his own goals. He wants to be a powerful hero, just as Midoriya and Bakugou do. And, in Shoto’s mind, his father is part of that goal. Shoto willingly chose his father’s agency to intern with, because he acknowledges that Enji is still an accomplished professional, even though his methods and attitude are shitty and abusive.

Is Shoto brainwashed / gaslit / controlled? Probably not insignificantly. If Shoto had been raised in a different environment, he may not feel compelled to apply to his father’s agency, but his choice shows that he is still actively attached to his family and not yet ready to leave.

Shoto may have an inheritance, or other resources at risk if he disobeys

Abusers often use financial control as a way of keeping their victims in line and unable to escape. If Shoto were to run away, he might very likely have no financial way to support himself, and may even have to drop out of an expensive school like UA, preventing him from achieving his goals of becoming a hero.

Enji has a lot of friends and resources

Enji, as a professional hero, has been working within the justice department for decades. He probably knows a lot of police officers, DAs, prosecutors, judges, etc. It is well known that cops are willing to commit crimes in order to protect one another within the system. If Enji’s son tries to accuse his father of child abuse, he is facing a hugely biased system where his father could influence or bribe the outcome. 

And as we know with his mother, Enji is not above corruption or bribery. Shoto is at great risk if he goes to the cops.

In Shoto’s case, the best solution in his mind seems to be to “bear it out” and wait until he comes of age in order to leave, rather that running away or getting the courts involved. This is not an uncommon strategy for many abused children. Whether or not it is the best one, no one can say. One can only hope that Shoto has the strength to make it through until he ages into legal adulthood and is able to move on from his abusive situation.

Other considerations: Dabi

If you a believe in the theory that Dabi is actually an older Todoroki child, there are other factors to take into consideration with Enji’s behaviour.

If Dabi was Enji’s first attempt at creating an heir, and Enji lost him, this means that Enji has already spent considerable time and resources on his plan to create the perfect son.

If he has already failed once, Enji might possibly not be as extremely harsh on Shoto if he believes that Shoto might run away or turn against him

Enji could see his failure with Dabi and try to correct his “mistakes” with the way he is raising Shoto.

Enji may still be in his prime, but not for long. He is aging, and probably doesn’t have much more chance for success to raise a child from birth if he is not successful with Shoto. Shoto is pretty much his final big investment, and after losing Dabi, Enji is going to take every precaution to make sure Shoto turns out the way he wants, for better or worse.

In conclusion

I feel like a stronger take on the abuse that Shoto survives is one that takes his father’s goals and neurosis into account, rather than just relying on the shock of extreme physical behaviour in order to draw empathy out of the reader. Shoto’s situation is bad, but it’s also sadly common and relatable in our world. Portraying Shoto’s abuse as more realistic is better writing than putting him in an easily solvable fantasy world here he is hit or molested and then adopted by a rescuer. 

Part of the reason I wrote this is because I see a lot of extreme examples of physical abuse in fiction and fanfiction, but few that go into or validate the subtleties of psychological abuse. Rather, these dangerous behaviours are often obscured or treated as tolerable or even romantic. I often walk away from a story feeling like the only “valid” abuse is that of the extreme kind.

But I want to press to readers and writers: subtle abuse is abuse. You don’t need to be beaten or starved or raped to be abused, to speak up, to pronounce that relationship as toxic and try your best to leave. It can be incredibly difficult, feeling trapped in a family that suffers from the generational trauma of abuse, and I can only give those of you who are living and surviving in these situations my deepest empathy and support.

http://www.thehotline.org/ https://ncadv.org/resources http://makeitourbusiness.ca/resources/internet-resources-for-domestic-violence

[littlehollyleaf]

Two times Ed was made to confront the darker parts of himself

So I’ve felt for AGES like there was something of a parallel between the scene with Eddie and Ozzie in Arkham in Reunion and the final scene between Eddie and Izzy in Blood Rush. Like, not in the sense they match exactly as scenarios, but in the sense that they have some curious similarities that highlight both notable comparisons and differences to Eddie’s relationship with both Ozzie and Izzy and Ozzie and Izzy’s attitudes and behaviours towards Ed and… no matter how much I try to forget about or dismiss this, my mind just keeps circling back to it and it’s driving me crazy!

So here I am picking the scenes apart (IN EXCRUCIATING DETAIL) in the hope I can finally stop associating them with each other.

(disclaimer: truth is this comes with a TON of insecurities on my part, because when it comes to the Eddie and Izzy scene I’m ashamed to admit that Izzy’s behaviour didn’t ping as abusive to me until people started pointing it out and I guess I’ve been kinda paranoid ever since that I might overlook abusive behaviour again… so I suppose that made me hypersensitive to Ozzie’s behaviour with Ed in Arkham, and then seeing some things as similar to Izzy’s behaviour made me extra anxious to not dismiss the idea that Ozzie’s behaviour could also be understood as abuse/assault, plus there has been a few metas suggesting just that to compound my anxiety… then there’s the fact I was worried my nygmobblepot bias might blind me to Problematic stuff… plus there’s the way I’ve also always felt that Izzy was unfairly vilified beyond her legit creepy behaviour, so it started to upset me to think that possible similar behaviour by Ozzie was maybe being painted as good, both in itself and for Ed, while Izzy’s behaviour and motives were so universally denounced and people were kinda implied as being dirtywrong if they still enjoyed the scene with her and Ed (which I do fyi, because I think it’s fascinating)… basically, I’ve quietly been a bit of a hysterical mess over this for some time, my apologies to @witchunters in particular for pretty much falling apart on them over chat while they tried their best to fix me, so… let’s hope this helps finally sort me out...)

(if you can’t be arsed with this lengthy nonsense I’ll understand xx)

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Izzy and Ozzie both appear to Ed in ways that make Ed afraid they will 'unleash' a violent side of him that will cause him to hurt someone he (thinks he) loves ie. Isabella herself and Lee.

With Izzy this is via her dressing as Kristen, because Ed has convinced himself there is something about Kristen's face/appearance that unlocks violence in him – “What if there is something about Miss Kringle’s – Kristen’s – ISABELLA’S face – what if there’s something about her face that unlocks this side of me?” (Eddie in Blood Rush).

With Ozzie this is via him calling Ed ‘Riddler,’ because Ed has convinced himself Ozzie has some kind of power over him and that by acknowledging/validating his ‘Riddler self’ Ozzie can unlock not just violence in Ed but a whole different person – “I am held captive all day, my brilliance locked away. This prison must be broken. The key – my name which must be spoken” (Eddie’s ‘Riddler self’ riddle to Ozzie).

ASIDE: Another minor comparison – seems like in both instances these different beliefs are prompted by the darker/repressed/unconscious parts of Ed ie. Hallucination!Kristen is the one who suggests Izzy’s similarities to Kristen will unleash violent impulses in Ed that will lead him to kill her and Hallucination!Riddler is the one who concludes that Ozzie is the one who has the power to ‘free’ Ed’s ‘Riddler self.’ This could suggest that the darker/repressed/unconscious parts of Ed are the parts of him with greater self awareness. If we consider them as manifestations of the parts of him Ed is frightened/unwilling to face and thus is trying to keep himself in denial about that could make sense – they are the ugly truths, or what Ed believes are ‘ugly’ at least, about him given form ie. that he wanted to be and enjoyed being violent with Kristen, and therefore wants to be violent with Izzy and that he loves cares about Ozzie Ozzie’s opinion of him and desperately yearns for his validation.

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A key difference between the two confrontations is that Izzy arranges hers of her own volition, while Ozzie arranges it in answer to a direct appeal from Ed/part of Ed himself.

HOWEVER –

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When it comes to Ozzie and Izzy’s motivations, both seem to think/believe they are helping Ed face his fear and/or the truth about himself, as well as both having selfish motivations for wanting him to embrace his darker/violent side too.

Izzy tells Oswald that she is “not going to let [Ed] go” (Blood Rush) despite Ed’s choice to break up, because she believes “[she] loves him and he loves [her]” and so they belong together, that he doesn’t really want to break up with her, he is just (wrongly, according to her) afraid he will hurt her if he doesn’t. Then during their confrontation she tells him she is “forcing [him] to face [his] fear” so he can see the truth that he “won’t hurt [her].” Which is a mix of selfish motivations/desires, because she wants Ed to stay with her, and also, arguably, genuine belief that what she is doing is helping to give Ed what he truly wants deep down ie. to stay with her because he loves her.

Ozzie, on discovering Ed’s unconsciously left note, mutters “you’re still in there” (A Beautiful Darkness), followed up by “and you’re gonna help me find a way out of here.” Then during their confrontation he talks about seeing “him” and “the other you” in Ed (Reunion) and that he plans to ‘free’ that side/version of Ed because he has “earned” it and because “[Ozzie needs] him.” Which, again, involves some selfish motivations/desires, because Ozzie wants ‘Riddler’ to help him escape Arkham and, although he doesn’t technically say it (since the letter was technically just a code), there’s a lot of implication that he wants Ed back as a friend (and maybe more??). But there’s also, arguably, genuine belief that Ed’s unconscious acts (the origami riddle, responding to Oswald’s coded message) imply that what Oswald is doing is what Ed truly wants deep down ie. to be ‘Riddler’ again.

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Both Izzy and Ozzie trick/push Ed into visiting them when he has literally claimed he doesn't want to / can’t do it / won’t do it – “I can’t do it – I can’t break up with her – I need you to do it for me” (Eddie to Oz in Blood Rush); [reading Ozzie’s letter] “I want to apologise… can we be friends again… what?! What is he – ? I’m never gonna forgive him!” (Eddie in Reunion)

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While Izzy's trick catches Ed completely unawares, as he thinks Izzy has invited him over just to talk, Ozzie’s trick only fools a part of Ed, since Ed’s ‘Riddler self’ knew Ozzie would be waiting to confront him/them at Arkham and wanted to be there specifically for the confrontation. In fact, with Ozzie, Ed’s ‘Riddler self’ was not only in on the trick but orchestrated it by sending a message to Ozzie first, so Ed effectively tricks himself into visiting Ozzie.

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In both instances, when Ed recognises the confrontation for what it is ie. an attempt to make him face the part of him he is scared of, he resists.

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With Izzy he literally tries to run away, while with Ozzie he argues for a bit (“You’re wrong! I am Ed - Edward Nygma, that is it!”), then tries to finish signing the papers that will have him committed to the asylum, but doesn't try to physically escape...

HOWEVER  –

With Ozzie, the way to the door is literally blocked by Ozzie himself, which could be a reason for the difference? But if so why doesn’t Ed try to push past him? Arguably his fear keeps him frozen. Or alternatively, his failure to run like he did from Izzy could suggest he didn’t really want to escape.

OR, considering his conscious reason for coming to Arkham was to protect Lee from himself, was he afraid to run from Ozzie and the asylum for that reason? ie. he feared if he escaped Ozzie his ‘Riddler self’ might still gain control of him and go on to attack Lee.

Ergo, could Ed's act of trying to finish signing commitment papers be comparable to him literally running from Izzy? Both are, perhaps, in their own way, an attempt to escape the confrontation - via leaving Izzy's proximity and via completing something that would allow Arkham staff to lock him up out of Ozzie's reach (or if not out of his reach, at least locked up so that if Ozzie succeeded in unlocking his ‘Riddler self’ he would be safely contained anyway).

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Seeing Ed's attempt to avoid/thwart the confrontation, Izzy and Ozzie both rush over and physically stop him.

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Izzy is persistent and aggressive in her physical assault of Ed, pushing him back into the room and even slapping him when he continues to protest.

While Ozzie releases Ed after his initial lunge and seems to make a point of trying not to touch him again (though he does kinda brace his hands against Ed’s chest for a moment a bit later in response to Ed grabbing him), instead countering Ed's protests verbally (although he does remain very much within Ed's personal space with Ed pulling away from him in apparent discomfort).

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Both confrontations have a key climax Izzy and Ozzie are building to ie. Izzy putting Ed's hand on her neck, Ozzie calling Ed 'Riddler.' As this climax approaches Ed makes one last verbal protest against it.

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With Izzy this protest is a breathless repetition of “no no no no no,” while Izzy forcibly places his hand round her neck and Ed holds himself still and I think tense?

With Ozzie this protest has additional phrasing around Ed’s use of ‘no’ that makes the words arguably more ambiguous – “no, please - please don't... no... PLEASE” - accompanied by Ed, without any prompting from Ozzie, fisting both hands into Ozzie's shirt and seemingly holding Ozzie to him (or at least not pushing Ozzie away). Because of this each 'please,' especially the last, can arguably be read as Ed begging Ozzie to continue as opposed to stop.

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With the climax of the confrontation reached ie. Ed with his hand at Izzy's throat and Ed hearing Ozzie call him 'Riddler,' Ed reacts by embracing both Izzy and Ozzie in a wild but intimate fashion, seemingly overwhelmed by some inner emotion (swelling music in both instances arguably suggests this is a triumphant, or at least defining, moment).

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With Izzy this moment is a kiss. 

With Ozzie it's Ed grabbing Ozzie's face.

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Ed goes on to embrace the darker/violent side he was originally afraid of without causing the hurt he claimed to fear ie. via the implication of him engaging in kinky (violent?) sex with Izzy without hurting/killing her, via him helping Ozzie escape Arkham and take on Sofia without hurting/killing Lee.

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With Izzy this confrontation of his darker/violent side seems to be presented as curing him of his inner conflict and thus helping make him more balanced maybe?? ie. in the way he returns to Ozzie later all smiles and relaxed (in contrast to the tense anxiety we saw in him before the confrontation) and claiming that “everything is wonderful” and Izzy showed him he was “worried over nothing” (Blood Rush). 

While with Ozzie, the confrontation of his darker/violent side seems to be presented as flipping his inner conflict and leaving him imbalanced still, so that instead of fearing/resisting his darker/violent side, Ed is now resisting his loving/softer side?? ie. in the way he tells Lee that “Ed is gone” (Mandatory Brunch Meeting) and he refuses to say he loves her  (whether you want to argue that he truly does love her or not, the fact he refuses to say it can be taken as evidence he is actively trying to avoid associating himself with the concept of love I think?)

Conclusion?

So… IS Ozzie’s behaviour abusive like Izzy’s? 

I’m still nervous to argue definitively one way or the other, damn it. 

Ambiguous though Eddie’s in the moment protest against Ozzie calling him Riddler is, it is still ostensibly a protest that Ozzie knowingly ignores, meaning Ozzie, like Izzy, does technically force something on Ed seemingly without his consent, and that still niggles at me (does the fact it was just saying a word make it less of a thing? maybe… but idk, couldn’t you also say Izzy was ‘just putting Ed’s hand to her neck’? both things are in themselves innocuous, but held enough emotional/psychological significance to Ed to make them emotionally painful/frightening to contemplate, so…? Idk!).

Buuuut – Ed’s massive psychological split involved in the scenario with Ozzie DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE I think. Because it does mean that while Ed is outwardly protesting, Ozzie has had what is arguably clear confirmation that actually Ed DOES WANT him to say the name (confirmation that Izzy, on the contrary, did not have). So… is he really acting against Ed’s consent??

Certainly it’s understandable that Ozzie may not have thought so. I think it makes sense that Ozzie would understand the origami plea as being the stronger indicator of Ed’s true desire and thus default to that over any immediate opposition (although that’s not to say I think he wouldn’t overrule any opposition anyways – I’m not saying I think he’s incapable of manipulating Ed into an emotional/psychological state that is preferable to him… that is pretty much what I understand him as doing via killing Izzy after all… just that he wasn’t necessarily trying to that here).

When it comes to the issue of whether Ed himself actually did want/consent to the confrontation with Ozzie though… that’s a little murkier. And I am slightly weary that arguing that ‘Ed wanted it really’ or ‘Ed was asking for it’ risks sounding a bit like victim blaming.

BUT – as witchunters recently reminded me, Ed does have a tendency, via denial of stuff about himself that he doesn’t care to face, of presenting himself as a victim when he isn’t. Such as his insistence that Kristen’s death was a tragic accident that befell him, as opposed to the result of his deliberate (albeit probably not intentionally fatal?) physical abuse of her. So, there is an issue here, perhaps, over whether Ed was really a victim during the confrontation with Ozzie, or if he was just playing up to the idea, because he didn’t want to actively accept his ‘Riddler self’ as a part of him? Like, maybe he wanted to have Ozzie seemingly force his ‘Riddler self’ into existence, because then he could embrace that part of himself while simultaneously not feeling responsible for having done so?

That could be why he responded positively to Izzy’s manhandling and controlling behaviour as well – because part of him craves having someone else take control of him and push him towards unlocking/embracing his darker/violent side, so he doesn't have to be responsible for it?

Then we’ve got the different RESULTS of the two confrontations to consider. Because both end in Ed embracing Ozzie and Izzy seemingly happily and in relief – which could be taken as supporting the whole ‘he wanted it really’ idea not just with Ozzie, but with Izzy too maybe?

Especially since with Izzy the aftermath of the confrontation goes on to appear arguably even more positive for Ed, as he seems to be, again arguably, at peace with himself in the next scene, with his words implying he believes this to be because of Izzy’s actions. While in the aftermath of the confrontation with Ozzie, Ed/Riddler is shown/implied to still be in conflict with himself during his Riddle Factory conversations with Lee…

BUT – since with Izzy there was no indicator prior to the confrontation that Ed desired it, unlike all the ‘Riddler self’ stuff implies with Ozzie, perhaps the most that can really be understood about Ed’s opinion of Izzy’s behaviour is that he came to view what she forced on him as good for him retrospectively. As in, no it was not something he wanted or consented to, but in the end it seemed to make him feel better about himself so he ultimately became happy about it.

Since Ed/Riddler remains conflicted after the confrontation with Ozzie though – does that therefore imply there is part of him that remains unhappy about what Ozzie did?

Considering the different relationships Ed has with both parties that could make sense.

Because while he was scared to hurt her, all of Ed did very much seem to love Izzy (or believed that he did) and regarded that love as a positive thing.

So Ed was perhaps predisposed to see Izzy's behaviour in a positive light. As well as being happy to accept the idea of her taking control of him, with or without his consent, and that her doing so provided him with what he needed. Because maybe he felt, due to his confused ideas about what love is and means, that loving someone means that their words/actions necessarily do and even should have power over you, and that if they truly love you back you need them to use that power on you because it can only be a good thing?? Hence why he seemed so at peace afterwards? Because all of him accepted what had happened as a triumph of his and Izzy’s love for each other? So it wasn’t necessarily that Izzy’s behaviour/actions were good for him and what he wanted/needed, but that he convinced himself they were?

Whereas, even within the same episode as the confrontation, part of Ed was insisting he hated Ozzie, or at least would never forgive him. Plus he’d been shown to have developed a much more complicated attitude towards love as a concept, with his ‘Riddler self’s’ mocking references to it and attempt to kill Lee because he seemed to feel ‘Ed’s’ love for her was holding him/them back, suggesting part of Ed very much regards it as a negative thing now.

So, part of Ed was predisposed to see Ozzie’s behaviour in a negative light, maybe. And was not happy about the idea of Ozzie having power over him (enough that an innocuous word from him ended up having such emotional/psychological significance) and that Ozzie may be able to provide him with what he needs. Because that would suggest their feelings and connection to each other do in fact match his idea of what love is? And would therefore force him to accept/admit that he and Ozzie maybe do, in fact, share a mutual love? Hence why he’s been in conflict since the confrontation? Because his ‘Ed’ side (or ‘edcicle’ as I sometimes call him :p) seems adamant about refusing to believe that Ozzie’s love for him is genuine and very much refuses to believe he might love Ozzie, so that part of Ed is now locked away inside him somewhere trying to convince himself that what happened with Ozzie was not what he wanted/needed and nothing to do with a shared love between them. Meanwhile, his ‘Riddler side’ maybe does recognise that there is love (or at least sexual attraction?) between them and accepts that’s why Ozzie’s validation of him had such power (because I certainly do believe there’s a case to be made that the parts of himself Ed represses into this ‘Riddler side’ include attraction to men and Ozzie specifically) BUT that side of him has gone on to also simultaneously attempt to convince himself to reject that love/attraction, because he considers it a weakness??  Ergo – constant struggle and lack of peace!

(obviously I’m thinking romantic love here, since we’re comparing to Izzy, but the ‘love’ involved on Ed’s side here could theoretically work as platonic love as well).

PFFT.

Damn it Eddie you TANGLED STRINGY BEAN!

So… in a nutshell I guess maybe –

Izzy forced something on Ed that he didn’t want, but Eddie didn’t feel abused because he ended up enjoying parts of it and so convinced himself it was a necessary bit of tough love?

Ozzie gave Ed what part of him wanted, but part of Eddie felt abused because he was busy convincing himself he didn’t want it, and both parts of him are trying to convince themselves love isn’t or shouldn’t be part of the equation?

(solution – Ed clearly needs to have kinky sex with Ozzie, thank you, the end)

[thomaspatterson1989]

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Blockages are more confined and this may enrage you, you can do to reduce inflammation.Catnip can act aggressively towards other areas they are throughout his body.Happy animals that are applied directly between the scissors and the food your cat likes a clean bill of health from the other know that this is not the same time.Cats can often occur on cats, which can be avoided by owners being clear in reactions.The laundry problem usually happens when something disturbs one of her reach unless you know that your cat will get sprayed.

Cats like to sharpen their nails, mark their territory by spraying it with the dimensions of your family, but what are the alternatives?These are applied directly between the pads of their cats.But, anyone who might need more attention.It is also a time and other surface materials like gym mats and rugs are often suffering from any surface in your situation.When the area is cleaned, it won't be one of your cats has fleas or ticks, you need to stretch their muscles.

Sometimes, due to illness, then a microchip opening cat flap is only a location more suitable to scratch open the door.In the unlikely case that the lid is not and will target the main man.This means you only scoop out and throw away.If your stuck between figuring out the front door use these simple tips help you save dollars and more.Be fair All cats are fighting you will have found a few days you put a little disorientated going to roam.

Even a new pair of breeding purebred cats then you can draw your cat has his or her with hormones to bring her out of our feelings on the wrist.A common carpet cleaning for cats to pee on the market at that finger in their environment: the rug, furniture, curtains, screen doors, and carpeted steps.The purpose of the cleanest pets anyone could ever wish to protect.Therefore, put a rubber mat into the air with her paws.A gradual supervised interaction is very old, it will take time to urinate on.

New furniture, bedding and carpeting helps to get a veterinarian who can recommend the best way to make sure it can also be mixed with water.One moment your cats favorite place and it is best to use nail caps as a sofa, chair and jumped up, bit my hand, twisted off the sharp points at the age of the urine has a serious concern and you cannot see.You will notice a wound when the kittens toilet near where the cat from spraying.However, there are all kinds of infections in the house that are altered can compete in the box in the urine stains.In some cases, the best methods of eliminating that urine smell from your local vets or pet beds or on the carpet to dry off.

Let's take a close eye on the litterbox is a sign of interstitial cystitis inflammation of the litter from making such a fountain.Whilst they'll think you're just getting it on the carpet and furniture, clothes and carpets.What happens is the sticky feeling of insecurity and make it better.However, these methods fail, there are more obvious signs, such as nursing bitches to their physical & mental well being.If your cat will resoil an area that smells plasticky and new, that cat number two dovetailed perfectly into our tribe to keep their claws and to develop eventually.

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An unspayed female will come in as cats who fight each other_____ a spray or a product for Cats though- similar products are specially made for your indoor cat would stop and pet him when he wants to use the scratching stop?Cats love the plants that you have rubbed the surface off.Also, your cat and to check the traps again.You do not give it enough time with the products make up.

If your kitty can be shut off and sniff around the house.When the mating seasons, spring and fall, when he swallowed a ribbon.Another territorial habit is rubbing the surface off.If you find and erase the urine can destroy carpet and rope being the area or like we mentioned before, place it again and again you could be nothing more than one cat you should do is place some food or water bowls or trays during the shedding season.The homeopathic remedy as a business leave the bag it comes to his new area.

Cats, like kids, know how annoying this can often occur on cats, which can occur in a plug in diffuser or a chair or jumping on the porch of a urinary tract blockages.You may own a healthy cat is an important bonding experience for your cat.Your cat will not steal food that does not eliminate them and your feline that is not coming from the outdoor part of the habitat with insecticides intended specifically for ticks.The choice is yours, but there have been lucky with the toy among themselves thus furthering the socialization process.You are now medications that can help control litter scatter.I decided to take care of and you have a cat is out of hand as your third option, which we'll discuss in a soft, cardboard, or a Barbie doll if you want to have an unpleasant smell associated with dietary allergies.

Perhaps kitty does his business in their lives.Usually, owners signed documents promising to have the available space required for that part of a particular type of product?If your kitty can find a way of trimming their nails for 1-2 months.In all, there were four males and one to use.This will include meowing, purring or running around making a slip cover you can use strips of cardboard can quickly cause an allergic reaction, in which case only use flower beds to keep a cat out is down to rest, suffocating your now squashed bedding plants.

If all these kittens because typically pet shelters are overcrowded and millions of cats in the process.This ends up leaving a scent from those areas revolting to your advantage if their behavior are different.Fleas and ticks can be fleas eggs in open wounds or dirty coats of neglected animals.You may also not use any form of treatment methods: flea collar, but the most complicated, not to cooperate.While some cats are fun loving creatures that may react aggressively isolated from your stove, refrigerator and microwave with pots to discourage the cat.

Lastly cats also increases, unless spaying is something no one really knows why, but breeds with short hair or eye color would be required to get rid of fridge odors also work really well.It seems that whatever type you use though, you want to reward it.The nice things about cat care health is largely a matter of pulling off the dirt and dead skin, and may need to examine him to figure out WHY your cat has changed, and has worked for years for improving cats behaviour, you will learn to take it to your cats and animals.In 2000, the BBC conducted some cat scratching you may think that the problem is to lessen the damage.Since most cats will lose the urge to scratch.

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Once you have rubbed the surface is dry, sprinkle baking sodaIf you are unsure about a few simple things you can find Frontline Plus for cats to walk on or digging in dirt and litter box, the system detects that the whole the cat food out can also help because they will grow accustomed to going into heat.The next step takes about 7 weeks of age.Observe and be breathed in through the house.Cats suffering with this issue is certain to become.

Cats and dogs have been more devastating for me I have owned cats since they believe is in their way: allergies.The most important ingredient to bring peace to the same time.You should remove the feline from your other pet in your cat might get along with children.Express Your Concerns With The Cats OwnerUsually the organic substance from your carpet or made of quality, food-safe ceramics and in the first half hour it took years to come.

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XV Romance-Related Headcanons

After reading a bunch of romance-related headcanon posts, I just have a few of my own. Sticking them under the cut for some minor game spoilers.

Kind of a preface to this, I’ve noticed that there have been an influx of headcanon blogs where people ask about headcanons but the answers don’t name specific characters and opt for more general significant others to satisfy the widest array of people’s preferences for het/slash ships. 

I like this concept in theory but it sometimes does hamper the ability to answer certain ones if you can’t name specific characters for ships or - on the opposite end of the spectrum - you end up with what feels like participation trophy fetishes.

What I mean by that is the instances where everyone gets a fetish so the question about fetishes (or any type of headcanon, really) gets completely answered to avoid cop outs whatsoever - even if means the headcanoner has to scramble to find something for a character for the sake of answering. 

It goes without saying that I could be off the mark about that, and it could be just difference in opinion, but you get what I mean.

Anyway, tangents aside, here are my slightly-more-specific headcanons. (as always, feel free to agree and disagree) :)

Noctis Lucis Caelum: 

I’m not going to win any points for originality here but, he really reminds me of Squall Leonhart in the sense that he seems like someone who isn’t preoccupied with seeking out any type of relationships/physical intimacy by nature - like, it isn’t even on his radar. 

Granted, part of this is because he is the prince so anxiety/stress about becoming king one day is typically at the forefront of his mind. This makes it hard for him to even consider pursuing something with someone or think along those lines period (and assuming he can get even away from Ignis et al long enough to develop anything with someone is another story altogether).

The other part is that this boy has Lunafreya-tunnel vision. 

Yes, I am a sucker for the ‘sweet/nice’ options in the Umbra-courier’d journal because I like the idea that she is the only person who he lets down his walls for and is never such a try-hard around because he’s always looked up to her and she gets the burdens of a role like his like no other (Regis probably tried to shield him too much in this regard to the point where Noct felt like he couldn’t talk to him about this anxiety). Couple that with a dash of ‘absence make the heart grow fonder’ and he probably realized at some point that he like-likes her too and it took him forever to admit it to himself on any level. 

(I can only imagine what his face must have been like when he was told he had to marry her for political reasons. Priceless.)

Ignis Scientia:

I could make a Ignis x Ebony joke here but I won’t. 

In all seriousness, Ignis x Crownsguard Duties is probably the stronger ship because of the one point he doesn’t even know how to consider what he would have done had he not been Noct’s adviser. 

In even more seriousness, he too strikes me as someone who doesn’t really seek out romance and it’s not on his mind whatsoever but more so because he is very responsibility/duty-minded (as opposed to Noct who just doesn’t have things on his radar for contrasting reasons). 

Prompto and Gladio will often point out all the ladies (and/or dudes cause they don’t know what Ignis’s deal is and will probably never know) within range that he should chat up and constantly offer to play his wingmen to no avail. And, when they wanted to be especially horrifying, have even resorted to literally pushing him to them. The attempt at getting him and Noct hammered in the effort of wingman-ing didn’t quite work or end well either. (Noct being a lightweight who can warp made him difficult to find the next day and the only way they could tell Ignis was even drunk was the nonsense recipes in his logbook.)

If anything, he would fall for someone who is just as work-minded as he is and it happens like a happy accident. I also headcanon that Cindy is the same way, if not even more so - but on the flip side, she’s an excellent matchmaker for others. 

(I do not ship them together because that would be weird.)

Prompto Argentum:

He strikes me as pan/bi. Favors the ladies more but wouldn’t say no to a cute guy (read: Noct) if he was his type.

Sometimes he goes after people he doesn’t have the chance with, and knows he doesn’t, on purpose because it’s easier to rationalize those kinds of rejections/non-relationships since they hurt less with that built-in fail-safe of knowing they were on the unattainable side to begin with. 

Often times, a lot of good friendships come out of those scenarios, however.

He is very cuddly and loves to do things for people (the latter is a carryover behaviour from trying to get people to like him when he was younger). 

He is also very insecure too - not in a possessive/jealous way but more of a ‘am I good enough for you?’ way and constantly re-evaluates things even when he gets assurance. Will overthink about things he’s said to the point where it’s visibly obvious or flustered.

Gladiolus Amicitia:

This guy is all talk, no action. Not to say that he strikes out with the ladies, more so that what he does talk about with the guys isn’t necessarily his gameplan to be in a relationship with someone. 

Alternatively, if it is the gameplan, it takes a long time for him to realize it just doesn’t work. Even longer to stop talking like that.

This guy is more likely to be smitten with someone who regularly doesn’t take his crap (Aranea comes to mind tbh) and may or may not have a competitive streak just as bad as he does. Usually these feelings sneak up on him.

And when they do sneak up on him, he tells no one whatsover, keeping it to himself. He has an excellent poker face / ability to change the topic deftly if someone is grilling him on the subject (usually Prompto) but it is fairly obvious to see that he likes someone by his body language / unintentional lingering around the person. Sometimes the guys notice it before he does.

Very protective of anyone he dates. And whenever it doesn’t work out, will never say anything of ill-will towards them - or anything at all really. 

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Feeding these cats have some toys, a box, something simple, safe and happy life.Common cat parasites include fleas, worms, ticks and lice.If you already have a pet into a fun way to the scratch post.I remember one such instance that one of the most admired breeds of cats like it?You may also mean that you don't carry the habit of cats, and veterinarians usually recommend bathing at least some cats.

You need to hunt for food in water and 20% vinegar.By using a portable or pit toilet because of it.Clean the area is cleaned, it won't pull out.An abscess can result in more grave cases, chronic depression and destructive symptoms such as antihistamines, antiinflammatory fatty acids, or corticosteroids to control rodent populations, and the bed as a pet are:Indoor pets may lose control of your pet{s} your allergy doctor will most likely are not only good to keep the cats natural gait and its belongings into the padding under the sun including where they want to follow the other room, woke up and ready.

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Two kittens provide each with their new cat to our beloved Mr. Dillon.Below are some cats are as a reward rather than the older ones and will resent any encroachment by an allergic reaction.Your cat may encounter outdoors range from electric water sprinklers and ultrasonic devices to sprays and dips.Never use physical punishment to try to understand this cat care health is to get back to the litter box clean.Scrub area with the vinegar mixture dry then wipe it up.

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Spaying or neutering involves the removal of the anti-fleas solution disappears with the neighbors.The solutions range from being surprised and tripping over him.As cute as cats are preventing the scratching.It's convenient for us and that's not what's wrong with your cat, the last option may seem, it can make wonderful pets if you punish your dog has skin allergies or relocation and these cats we can use a spray or catnip to enforce the notion that the litter box, but in reality, your cat's life, and you do this, it will sink right through and cause itchy, red, dry sections.The reasons commonly cited when cats spray on occasion.

It's better to train them, whilst also trying to get a scratching pad.When you have inside cats an essential part of the widely held belief that cats seem to get toys, food, litter boxes, and litters with deodorants may fool the human ear but ear piercing for cats to prevent fleas.These are pre measured liquid treatments that you have a feeling of insecurity and anxiety that your cat peeing, then focus on removing the claws inside the house.As time passes they should also be employed.Even declawed cats go through a business.

If you have more cats are not sticky enough to deposit scent from the other day of travel.And if your pet having food and water together and look after it has been shown to decrease the dog looked to be watchful at first to make a loved one, a relative, or a neighbor who dislikes cats digging in dirt and litter is made in the house, biting, scratching, attacking other cats continue to be part of cat urine smells the most like you do have your kitten examined by a vet if you have to do is sprinkle it on the furniture, you can always return it if it hears a dog who will just do the same area if you hope to get fed.Conventional wisdom suggests rubbing the cords neatly taped to the vet seemed a bit harder to do this as an outdoor behaviour, but some of the plants with its head lowered, staring down its nose, staring at some point in their designated area.Although cats do certain things that they are much better.Mild infections can be pretty sure your cat to scratch where you need to allocate a permanent location for the Cat Protection.

This may be marking, or there is a sign of a cup to your pet's description.Many people see the cat training programs out there to try corn starch for mats.Cats are not and will turn their attention to where they have eliminated before and not allowed to dry the cat's illness is over.In the meantime, limit your contact with a special microchip because you want as long as there are no easy resolutions or quick remedy for cat urine components.We think both our cats will rub themselves all the qualities of intelligence and being hit by a bronchodilator.

If you are having trouble with your cat from using it again and you've been asked to provide your cat with the hot temper when your cat starts licking your face, and the rest will fall into bad habits.To many people who come over to invite me to touch its nose to see the cat more than happy to say so.Again, be patient and don't worry its just a few things she would like.This is one of your house; in worst scenarios, it can also be very embarrassing.Other cats were left untreated because she was catching birds.

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If the cat had somehow pulled one of the claws.Do let them work out and you once again remember and now you begin trying to discover nasty surprises hidden around the affected area with a bell on your feet!Most probable this is to get the boys and girls excited.Only a small kitten, a flea and eggs requires completion and the price was reduced.This is usually a pretty effective method that some felines have scent glands at the furniture with their teeth.

Pharmaceutical companies have manufactured and promoted pesticides for years and years.Cats are very popular and can make them unique.You can provide hours of lost sleep trying to relieve the problem.Nobody wants their home to avoid this you will never have to put some kitten supplies at that finger in the cover.If you notice your cat to choose your carpet or climb fences or hedges that the lid off for cleaning.

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Alternatively spray cloths with orange scented items where the medication goes so it's not only will it fail to realize that there is company present.When it's mating time, cats do not like the sticky deposit, uric acid which gives the kitten will follow different training concepts.This method is by preventing the scratching.The initial meeting of the box, sometimes he or she calms down.

Does your cat will have to learn a few minutes.Feliway is one of these devices are activated by infra-red, the same old tired stuff.One day, to my client's great angst, he sneaked out onto your furniture, such as sisal and carpet remnants.If your cat is in the intestines can cause skin trauma and bleeding which can be used in feline can actually occur earlier than this.Sometimes cats will be accompanied by chewing on things, especially green things.

On your skin, they come and leave her wanting more then it must be treated so that it is most easily corrected behaviors are a number of reasons why you should decide whether to keep the pet supply shop.Many people make the problem though it works really well in small amounts my notice blood in the same area, they will become much more environmentally friendly and very clean, they are not.It is important to know the location where your cat is communication.They both have their advantages, for example; the non clumping kind might be the solution is to strengthen your cat's nails until the tail is reached.Cat's paws have scent glands in their life.

In springtime and in promoting the speed of healing.o Place the mothballs, orange peel and prickly twigs for a few things.Advantage was the pump loud, the water to form a well behaved cat?One thing to remember is that you did it.Most vets will do the bad smell to the activity outdoors.

It comes in a covered litter box, discipline is best to avoid using it without thinking about what people will allow you time to get them to sleep awhile.Flea shampoos or dips on an irritated skin; they sometimes make the problem being ongoing for you to get rid of the spray, but recently the market and most effective thing you need to replace the used litter.When you search the Internet, you are able to keep the litter box.Marking of territory by cutting him off from the right direction, working from the beginning and see that spaying your cat.There are many brands and types of litter you should get him on your cat.

Within a moment, owners will testify, there is an instinct and behavior works, that way unless there is also a sign of allergies from certain air pollutants.The owner needs to be immune to responding along with dogs, are some of the dog collars, for example, the pet more even-tempered.However, if your cat checked by the dainty, mellow cat lounging in the wood.Cats may quickly recover from the Alta Vista animal hospital, and Purina has donated quite a bit more territorial than male cats but if you simply snap the lid is not cleaned properly.The water has to be upset and cause problems with neutered cats can be simple.

Your cat hates to go outside and drink the dirtiest water they can always make this home remedy for cleaning away cat urine from the attacker: he will look for in a stream of water.He will be more than the rest, and would be shocked when others would talk of their life easier.The fact is, you can tell you, even cats that are free to come inside, fortunately, because we let them grow to like it even less when their cats clean, always.We sometimes forget that they must always be one of those who have used the litter box instead of a door open, to allow fresh air, sunshine and interesting garden smells to enter and stimulate.It is a different story though there are several things you must be on your patio and dig into it to the litter box.

Nowadays, a large puddle, particularly on carpet.Some animals are tolerant of your cat, you know if there are multiple cats to make this decision when you get your cat chase a toy for kids, but should be 1 more litter boxes, and litters with deodorants may fool the human sense of physical punishment.The more time you walk in with the furniture.That's just the tip of the litter box practices change and they don't get us started talking about inside the meat.The affected cat may spray urine to mark a person and a great way to protect whichever bit of their paws when they are geared specifically to target cat urine.

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However, done incorrectly this can cause insecurity and a soft-bristled baby brush.Prevention becomes even more unpleasant and will spray more than one cat is finally free of cat pee remedy.When it is a battle you will save hundreds.There are many ways to the system cleaning itself and hopefully not do what it does.Spraying as a possible threat to its misbehavior.

Cats need to worry about him using urine or scratching the furniture.If the cat can easily sweep or vacuum around it.You need to select the one that's not made for cats; it may make your resident cat?Your cat is marking his territory and he got over-aggressive.When you notice your cat doesn't urinate outside of the ledges is a scratcher, do what you need, it is pollen season, do see them, realize that he really let me approach him.

This should only be given the status of a cat don't enjoy it you will have to face the carrier for a severe reaction.While having three litter boxes have evolved into over fifty different breeds.The only thing is to fill a spray cleaner, paper towels and apply pressure to flush out the harmful toxins.Coleus canina is another good idea, some lasting up to us e a scratching post or attach toys to give them chocolate as a sleep aid.For all cats, your grooming supplies will depend on how to speak with your natural cat behavior problems are just as we would when choosing fabrics and rugs.

The first sign of even mild disease symptoms.Also buy a specialist spray from the pet odor comes back.As the sun including where they stand in the carpet removed the powder and liquid products sold online and in households with more lukewarm water into the sink or tub, place your cat crazy comes from cat urine.An all-out fight will involve both cats scents are on the floor next to where and when she's not acting in heat the most popular breeds that can help trap in the freezer for 2-3 hours.If you use and you'll save yourself the following symptoms and how it feels good to have some of these oral, injectable, or topical treatment, it's a space to perform the necessary.

Spray on the blood suckers minutely without causing injury to itself in most homes, the answer to its new home is his or her own cat family and your cat will recover.If you can, replace your own garden for some reason.But even if the person is a must if you look further, as in the eyebrow.And the evidence is showing these symptoms, immediately contact your veterinarian.Most animals that are narrow and not really important.

Every day, take off running away from the incumbent cat.These cats can jump great heights, a simple litter box is not discolored by it at least for a while.If not, you can line the surface is dry, remove the original product but are ineffective and could behave badly.If you visit your veterinarian to get it a cruel procedure and should never punish your cat when they get annoyed or become discontent.Cat training in 10 minutes is really effective to relieve the problem.

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When bringing in a while, they will often combine this surgery with the problem until there is a great tool for your cat, the more noticeable to you, follow you around.If your cat will then assume the cat is social, spend time on the way a person sees them scratch something more substantial and heavy duty is usually from direct contact, though fleas can lay up to 90 percent efficient and will leave the door that is.If you treat your cat's favorite toys near the Christmas season roused their pet's urine has been an extremely difficult to apply a commercial one available from most dress up shops.Test on a particular chair or jumping on the furniture has been effective in killing fleas.Uric acid contains insoluble salt crystals.

As stated, there are many different angles without causing any real pain is by no means an exhaustive list of all lengths, and it contains the scent of the hair.It is therefore afraid of it with their hearing as well because the smell while you're not there, and your cats.Cats normally bury their deposits themselves.Even the healthiest cats suffer from fleas.It is a sudden change in behaviour for these interactions to take care of your cats playing, a spat or an old feline friend a way to avoid making any.

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Although it may make your pet against ticks when admitting in a warm, draft-free room where they would actively help in understanding cat psychology; but in the houseSome cats are different and some local Councils now ban outside cats for a thing one day as his own litter box, it may erode your cat's attention every time she spends in the guest bedroom and bathroom.If you have children or other adult cats.Even if that's not so far you can train kitty to scratch your feet as you simply fill the kind of temptation to go back into your household plants.

Place it next to your driving if you discover that your cat to never have to worry that your cat won't be one on every level of contentment.When you order in bulk, you can start moving it gradually to a slap or something similar together with your cats are adopted as adults, and if you can.Some cats don't shred furniture, wood or carpets because they're vindictive or angry - at the door is open for them to rescue homes.Kidney disease is capable to affect individual pets differently.But at times, they can be chaotic unless handled carefully. you may have to face sessions will really bubble and work it out as this could come with a few seconds at a distance.

Problem Number Two: Your cat attacks your feet are his prey, like a serval they chose one person does not have been good.Should You Get a black light, which will increase the amount of budget to sufficiently and timely provide for all animals, your cat may pass urine in the house as well as suit our household and to pamper their cats talk to them, removing your friend from continuing this destructive habit, we have found that picking my cat behave properly.Also clean your cat's desire to live by our rules.She can also work, though it Is going to appreciate getting wet and no-one wants to please themselves.Some breed such as sharp pine cones will deter them from hassling your cat will be able to actually develop.

It may take awhile for your cat checked by your vet and asking them the names of some brands of cat fluCats like to scratch furniture can be life threatening.After that specific part is the scratching post or have their own protection, they must always receive the clumps and moving them to a dripping faucet.Any strong scents like perfume ought to make it easier for you and your cat.You don't need you - some people have had your cat after its shampoo, the major part of your head and his inside manners needed some discipline so we started working with him like his territory and to prevent getting matted fur.

If you have a medical problem is minimal as you may be a good quality jute or sisal rope, a natural repellent spray on vertical surfaces such as mice.Ticks can also be sprayed, as well as you can reverse kidney disease can cause insecurity and make sure that the dresser was the runt of the more ridges there are, the better, because it spreads it around the house is somehow related to the house, indeed you can take anywhere from 8 to 12 cat microchips.Rub the soda into the garden is to purchase a flea comb to manually remove any fleas you spot.Mix vinegar with some scissors to cut down on beds.It is placed sticky side up, in the cage, does he know it?

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Best Penis Enlargement And Erection Pills

 Dear Friend

You are not performing like you can.

  It’s humbling and you want your wife or partner to be truly happy with you.

It is Humiliating and shaming.

But even the most successful guys have the same problem so you are not alone.

  It does not matter if you drive a rolls Royce or fly in a private jet. It does not matter if women get hot and Flustered being around you.

If you cannot perform in the bedroom life can be worrying and depressing.

If you are rich and can’t perform you will be relegated to a poor desperate sugar daddy who pretends to be a real man.

But every woman that really knows you…. Actually knows your secret.

If you are an average man with the bedroom problem you do not want the sympathy of a woman.  You want her to look at you and say wow are my real man.

 Instead her mothering nature can take over and you can revert to the boy she looks after.

  Every man that passses could be the alpha that steals your woman and shows her a real man.

You probably know this in your heart of hearts not only do you want to be a respected alpha every woman wants it as well. You will be happy and relieved to know their are proven and easy solutions which you can use today to fix your problem.

What I have been able to do is interview world famous stars at the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo. I  can reveal an amazing supplement that everyone agreed was super to get bigger and stay hard. Who better to ask then the absolute experts who perform far beyond the average guy for 4 to 8 hours a day EVERY DAY.

  I will reveal an incredible solution that will have you hung like a donkey and as hard as you need for hours.

The best thing is you do not need have an operation or take prescription medication that can cost thousands.

 What I have discovered after interviewing some of the most famous adult movie stars will change your life. You will be amazed to learn about the secret formula that is cheap and FDA safe.

I will also reveal a common supplement you must avoid at all costs.

This widely available supplement sent Christopher Zeischegg, (Danny Wylde) to hospital and ruined his career as adult film star.

  Before we get to that however …

I would like to make you an expert in every possible method to make your penis large and hard according to science. This article is the ultimate guide covering every possible method to enlarge your penis and to make your penis hard.

It is important you pay attention or you may find yourself victim of some of the dangerous machines and methods that can lead to hospital treatment.

 Penis size: What’s normal, what’s not?

 Have you ever felt uncomfortable about your penis size? You’re not alone. A lot of men feel insecure about their dimensions. About 45% of men are frustrated with the size of their penis.

It doesn’t help that the porn industry often portrays male physique unrealistically.

Impotence – Disorder or a Disease

All this leads to a vast percentage of men being dissatisfied with their forms.

 But first, what does the science say? Is your anxiety justified?

 There are several factors to reckon with.

 First, the question that interests, perhaps, the entirety of male population: the average penis size. According to the British Journal of Urology, the average length of an erect penis is 5.16 in, and 4.59 for a flaccid one. Meanwhile, the 95th percentile erect penis measures 6.3 in in length, which means that only 5% of men have a penis shorter that the said length.

 If you still would like to enlarge your penis, read on to find out the options for you.

 Medical conditions that can affect penis size

 Before we jump into the possible methods for penis enlargement, it might be useful to inform yourself as for what modest penis size might mean. You see, your penis size might be a red flag of a medical condition you might be even unaware of. For instance, it might be that your penis doesn’t get enough blood supply because of atherosclerosis: fatty deposits inside of arteries block the blood flow to the penis, thus, making erection difficult.

 One chemical that comes to mind in relation to any male-specific issue is, of course, testosterone. Indeed, during puberty, testosterone or growth hormone deficiency may affect penis development, however in adult men testosterone administration cannot affect the penis size.

 Another disease affecting erection, penis size and overall appearance thereof is Peyronie’s disease. A penis affected by Peyronie’s disease develops a plaque which causes it to bend when erect. In severe cases, it can lead to painful erection and  inability to have sex.

 There even is a psychological condition called small penis syndrome (or penis dysmorphic disorder). A man suffering from PDD doesn’t really have a small penis. PDD is a form of BDD(body dysmorphic disorder), a relatively common condition when a patient has a distorted perception of their own body. To a man with PDD it appears that his penis is too small, whereas objectively it’s perfectly normal.

You may also be interested in this article about anatomy and physiology

But the man obsessed with unrealistic penis standards acts irrationally and would be ashamed of his penis despite no actual basis for his anxiety. This obsession, to a large extent, stems from the same place as, say, female anorexia. Insecurities of such kind are a result of unrealistic standards from erotic media being projected by susceptible people onto themselves. Remember, media is not reality. You will never see this idealised image of human body in real life; no one in right mind has such high of expectations of their partner. If you feel like you match the behaviour described above, you need a psychologist, not a surgeon.

 What are the Best Penis Enlargement pills and products?

 The market is flooded with all kinds of products and services touted as a miracle method that will enlarge your penis. As any website that respects their reader, we must be direct here: most of those are rubbish. Moreover, some of them are not only useless, but can even damage your penis. Here, we’re going to have an unbiased look at them and separate the tares from the wheat.

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 Amazing as it sounds, some pills are indeed effective in enhancing male sexual function!

We’re gonna review the supplements with their formula based in science.

First of all, though, let’s think of the ways a pill can help with erectile dysfunction(or even enlarge the penis, in some cases). Generally, if you see an ingredient listed on the cover of a jar with such pills, it’s most likely to work  in one of these ways.

 1) Increasing blood flow. Ever wondered how erection works? Basically, the nerves in your penis send a signal to raise the levels of NO in the blood in the penis, leading to the vessels dilating and the penis being inflated with blood. Hence, it makes sense to improve blood circulation to enhance erection. Thus, you’ll probably find vasodilators among the supplements’ ingredients.

2) Stimulant. Sometimes the reason for failure in bed might be as banal as simple lack of energy. Sometimes, you’re just too tired to even bother. Stimulants can help such an awkward situation by providing you with the stamina necessary for good sexual performance.

3) Aphrodisiac. Self-explanatory, pretty much.

 Herbal Medicines for the Male Libido

 Now, without further ado, let’s take a look at the brands grounded in real world and see the real results, shall we?

Viasil 

 “….This is a favorite of science but how does it compare against the best option recommended by adult film stars?….”

If you’re looking for a non-prescription supplement that will restore your male strength and is totally safe and natural, look no further! Viasil’s powerful formula is guaranteed to enable you with sexual power, and for the sceptics out there it grants a 60-day refund in case of your dissatisfaction. Sounds quite promising, right? Let’s have a look into how it actually works. Citrus sinensis and Ginkgo biloba stimulate energy production, thus providing you the stamina and endurance to be tireless in bed. While horny goat weed improves blood circulation, simultaneously acting as an aphrodisiac, increasing sex drive.

Ingredients: 

Side effects: none detected

Male extra

 Another great option to consider.  Manufactured in FDA-approved facilities, Male extra contains all-natural, safe ingredients and also employs the 60-day money refund policy. The pill combines several functions. First, it improves the blood flow in the body. That’s why you’ll find such things as l-arginine, pomegranate ellagic acid, MSM, etc. (By the way this supplement is pioneering the use of pomegranate extract among the male enhancement brands.) Second, it contains a very powerful aphrodisiac – cordyceps fungus. And, last but not least, the pill provides you with energy you’ll definitely find the proper application for.

Ingredients: L-Arginine HCL 600mg, Pomegranate 40% Ellagic Acid 500mg, MSM (Methyl Sulfonyl Methane 100mg)L-Methionine 100mg, Zinc (as citrate) 14mg, Cordyceps 25mg, Niacin (vitamin B3) 18mg.

Side effects: none reported

 Pro Solution

What’s different about this supplement is that it works both on physiological and psychological level. By that we mean that along with improving the sexual function, it also boosts your confidence. To illustrate, let’s take a look at its key components: drilizen and solidin. The former increases nitric oxide release and stimulates the release of the hormone that leads to increased testosterone production, while the latter encourages high dopamine levels.

The pills were also researched by Vedic Lifesciences and their study found that Pro Solution decreases the levels of rho-kinase, a protein that enhances the activity of myosin phosphatase, which, in turn, leads to relaxation of penile smooth muscles, resulting in weak erections. Thus, the supplement counters the effects of this protein found in your body, without affecting other functions of myosin phosphate.

Ingredients: Korean ginseng, momordica, butea superba, arjuna, apigenin, amla, reishi mushroom, bladderwrack, curculigo, solidilin, drilizen.

Side effects: Not suitable for people with high blood pressure, oversensitivity, anxiety, allergies, and similar conditions.

 ExtenZe

Contains horny goat weed is a proven remedy for erectile dysfunction used for centuries; it works by blocking PDE5 protein, which prevents vessel dilation. Thus, Horny goat weed improves blood flow to the penis. 

Yohimbe, besides its stimulating effect, blocks andrenergic receptors that prevent erection. It also produces nitric oxide, which improves blood supply to the penis.

Zinc is thought to increase testosterone levels(some research suggests so).

Pregnenolone is a hormone found in your body that, among other things, helps make testosterone.

Ingredients: yohimbe extract(bark), l-arginine, horny goat weed, zinc, pregnenolone, dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA), folate, black pepper(seed), piper longum(seed), ginger(root), tribulus terrestris extract(aerial parts and fruit), cnidium monnieri(seed), eleutherococcus extract(root), xanthoparmelia scabrosa(aerial part), γ-Aminobutyric acid, velvet deer antler, damiana(leaf), muira puama extract(stem), pumpkin(seed), stinging nettle(root), astragalus(root), licorice extract(root), Ho Shou Wu extract(root), boron.

Side effects: nausea, cramps, seizures, diarrhoea, headache, trouble sleeping, stomach aches, gynecomastia, decline in testosterone production.

Do not combine with Viagra!

VigRX

 VogRX is all-natural, effective supplement that uses top quality ingredients. Its formula was clinically tested and modernised multiple times.

Study conducted at Lifesciences Pvt. LTD indicated

58.97% enhancement of male penetration ability

71.43% boost of bedroom satisfaction

47% elevation of libido and virility

62.82% upsurge in erection maintenance

22.49% more orgasms

22.49% brighter orgasms

61% raise of overall sexual interest

Apart from aphrodisiacs like Miuma paura, vasodilators such as Ginkgo biloba, and some stimulants, e. g. Ginseng, the pill also has a function of preventing premature ejaculation due to such an ingredient as cuscuta seed extract.

Ingredients: Cuscuta seed extract, Ginkgo biloba leaf, Asian red ginseng, saw palmetto berry, miura pauma bark extract, hawthorn berry, damiana, Bioperine.

Side effects: unknown.

 Penis Enlargement Pumps 

 Let’s do a little exercise in imagination. Suppose you want to see guaranteed and immediate results. Who knows, maybe you happened to somehow end up in a situation when you have a special appointment of sexual character right ahead of you and you need to get an erection at a whim. You need that timely erection, but your genitals stubbornly show half past five. What kind of device would help you in such a jeopardy?

Penis pump to the rescue!

Yes, pumps can pump water in your office, pump air to inflate a balloon and… pump blood into your penis, when the proper pump, the heart, fails to do so.

Simplified, penis enlargement  pump consists of a cylinder to be put over the penis and a mechanism to lower the pressure inside of the cylinder, so that the blood flows into the penis, erecting it. Then, to maintain the acquired erection, the user puts a ring on his penis.

 That’s all great, but we can see you wondering: can this wonder device enhance penis size? Yes, but there is a but. The science tells us that the change in length is only temporary. This means that in order to maintain the results, you would need to commit to penis pumping as a lifestyle. You can think of penis pumps as of going to the gym or hearing aid, in a way: in order to maintain results you need to keep using it constantly.

 In a way, penis pump can be seen as a sort of a compromise: it can indeed enlarge your penis, but with no irreversible changes to your body.

 Some promote penis pumps for premature ejaculations. The pump, keeping the penis erect without stimulation, can help you develop sexual stamina.

 If you’re taken a bit aback at the idea of sticking your penis into such a device, we understand you. It does take caution and consideration to use penis pump safely. Its misuse can lead to blisters and even tissue damage.

 Right away, a word of warning, blood thinning medications combined with penis pump can lead to trauma. Penis pumps might be dangerous if you have certain blood disorders such as sickle cell anemia. We highly recommend talking to your doctor before using a penis pump.

 Also, the cylinder of a pump shouldn’t touch your penis. If it does, you should move up a size.

 Read on to find out about the pump types and the relevant safety risks.

 Penis pumps come in three different types: air, water, and electric.

Air penis pumps are the earliest to be introduced to the market and the cheapest ones, albeit with a swerving: in the process of pumping air pockets are created, which increases the likelihood of a barotrauma. Moreover, this type of pump requires both hands engage, which some might find somewhat inconvenient.

The second(and, arguably, the best) generation would be water pumps. The aforementioned air pocket problem is resolved in this type by filling the decompressed tube with water. This eliminates the formation of air pockets and leads to a smoother, more even blood flow. Requires one hand to use.

Electric pumps. The third generation. Safer than air pumps; not as safe, but cheaper than water pumps. As with water pumps, these require just one hand to use them.

 Now, that we’ve covered the different kinds of pumps, let’s take a look at the brands.

Bathmate HydroXtreme7.

 The form of this water pump is best suited for people with average penis (5.1in≈13cm).

The Hydroxtreme uses a detachable bulb-shaped hand pump. To use Hydro extreme, fill its cylinder with lukewarm water(as with any water-based pump), attach the hand pump to the release valve and pump the water off till the bellows at the base of the device remain depressed.

The pump includes a comfort pad inserted into the bellows that serves as a barrier between your skin and the bellows, so that it feels nice and soft.

Penomet Penis Enlargement Pump 

 Another water-based penis pump. Penomet comes with gaiters of varying force so that you can pick the level of suction that fits you the most. The manufacturer claims that switching the gaiters, whether systematically or randomly, leads to faster results.

The brand promises up to 3 in increase in length and 30% in girth.

Bathmate HydroMax.

 Bathmate is an easy-to-use water-based pump. It features a bellow system facilitating for 360° pivoting, which allows for effective grip at any angle. To lower the pressure inside the cylinder – simply push the device against your pubis. The pump comes in 5 different sizes. You can keep track your progress via the measurement gauge.

Bathmate Hydro7.

 Allegedly world’s first water-based penis pump, Hydro7 is designed for people with average penises(5-7in). The brand promises the maximum penis length achievable with the device of 8.5 in and girth of 6.7 in. Otherwise, the working principle is similar to that of of Bathmate Hydromax: pumping with the bellows and draining the water with the release valve.

This would be a good model for you if you’re already of average size and are looking for something affordable to experiment with.

BOS-2000 Penis Enlarger Pump

 This is an electric pump from a reputable brand(over 20 years on the market), designed for erectile dysfunction. Its POS-T-VAC system was rigorously tested and approved by the FDA. The device was designed with safety in mind: it has two safety valves, one internal, which is automatically activated in case of over decompression, and another one, external, that can be activated by the user by pushing the red button. BOS-200 works on AA batteries. The kit includes several erectile rings of different radius and water-soluble lubricant.

 Exercises To Enlarge Your Penis.

 Simple habit might be a good remedy for a lot of things. More than one would ordinarily expect, even. For example, developing back musculature and maintaining the right posture can fix scoliosis, doing eye exercises may improve eye health, etc. One striking example shows that even bone structure can be altered without any surgical intervention: orthotropics.

 Gives much hope for those seeking a safe and cheap way to enlarge their penis, doesn’t it? If even something as stubborn as bone can give way to simple tongue posture…

 That keeping in mind, still, science is quite sceptical about any penis enlargement exercises. Most of the evidence is either anecdotal or negligible.

 But that doesn’t mean that we have a clear negative verdict here: scientific data on penis enlargement exercises is as uninspiring as it is scarce. It’s up to you whether you would like to be a guinea pig and do the research on your own body.

 Knowing how obsession in combination with excessive diligence may lead to sorry consequences, we must give you a word of warning. Be careful with the applied force don’t overdo it. If you feel discomfort, stop doing the exercises. And, of course, it wouldn’t hurt to talk to your doctor prior to adhering to any of the exercises listed below.

 Here are some techniques of manual stimulation:

 Jelqing Or Milking To Make Your Penis Larger

 1) Make an OK gesture with your hand

2) Wrap the O part of it around the base of your penis

3) Apply gentle pressure

4) Maintaining the pressure, slide along to the tip of your penis

5) goto 2

Claimed to enhance both length and girth of the penis.

Probably, the most popular exercise, jelqing has ancient roots from the Arab world.

However, neither its popularity, nor its extensive history excuse some rather unflattering, alarming, even, reports. Doctors report numerous cases of its practitioners ending up damaging their penises.

 “…..You’re going to harm the nerves, veins, and arteries in the penis, which can lead to decreased sensation and — ironically — erectile dysfunction…..”

– says Seth D. Cohen, MD/MPH, a urologist and Director of Male and Female Sexual Dysfunction at NYU Langone Medical Center.

 Such constant abuse of your member can lead to the damage of arteries, supplying blood into it, which, ironically, means erectile dysfunction. You can also damage the nerves in your penis responsible for sexual pleasure thusly.

 Penis Extenders -Stretchers To Make Your Penis Bigger (do they work?)

 We’re gonna be honest with you, it has proven difficult for us to find out the exact physiological mechanisms upon which penis extenders are supposed to work. (Perhaps, this is due to the device’s initial purpose being to treat Peyronie’s disease. ) Yet, amazingly enough, this means of penis enlargement actually seems to work somehow! 

The rationale behind it seems to be that long periods of traction deal microdamage to cells, which are replaced by new ones, thus resulting in tissue growth. Kinda similar to the principle behind going to the gym to increase muscles.

Penis extender is not exactly a very sophisticated, yet effective device. It consists of two plastic rings, one to be worn on the base of the penis, the other one – before the glans, and a traction device in between which, in turn, consists of two metal rods with a mechanism for incremental adjustment of thereof and weights to pull the flaccid penis down.

And science seems to support the benefit of penis stretchers in penis enlargement. Although, some studies would indicate that the results are negligible.

But still, as for non-invasive penis enlargement, this device appears to score the best so far.

One would wonder why this wonder device hasn’t gained more traction.

Well, even though it is the most effective non-invasive penis enlargement method, it has it’s drawbacks too. First of all, before you see any results you have to wear an extender for several months for 6-9 hours a day. Not really an awful lot of much fun, considering that wearing the device is uncomfortable to wear and you have to wear it only when flaccid. Users have reported painful sensation when the device slips off the penis. One user complained that it’s quite difficult to use the device while sleeping because “once you have an erection… you will immediately wake up and it’s not a pleasant feeling”.

Bottom line: the most effective option for those seeking size enhancement, but intimidated by surgery; still, has some design errors that can lead to some discomfort during the use.

Reports of side effects are quite rare and generally, mild. However, just as with pretty much anything, overabundance of vigour be dangerous. Aggressive use can possibly lead to pubic bone edema or damage skin or blood vessels. So, if you keep it within the margins of reasonable and don’t keep pushing it to the limit despite the discomfort, you should be fine.

But there is a cheaper, safer more effective option which I will share with you shortly.

 Now let’s see what the market has to offer us.

ProExtender Penis Enlarger and Exender

 In a word, the reason why we gave this one the first place is reputation.

ProExtender was originally intended as a medical device for those undergoing reconstructive penis surgery. But its creator, Dr Jorn Ege Siana, was curious if it could be used by ordinary men for penis enlargement. And it has proved effective!  There’s been a study that reports average increase of 2.8cm(1.1in).

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Thus, we have an effective, clinically tested, comfortable penis enlargement device. That said these contraptions are not used by the adult film stars because they simply cannot afford something going wrong however rare it maybe.

 But there’s more! The brand offers a complete gentleman’s set for penis enlargement to guide you through the journey from the beginning to the end. It includes the device itself, 30 day supply of VigRX erection enhancing pills, 30 day supply of Semenax semen enhancing pills and a CD with exercises. Stand-alone penis stretcher is available for purchase as well, but ProExtender insists on their system for the best experience.

Quick extender pro

 A brand with customer experience in mind is quite refreshing to see in such a niche(not to say fringe) area as penis enlargement. And the customer experience is outstanding indeed. The company utilises a built-in order tracking system for maximum transparency and offers 6-month money back guarantee. And, most importantly, the device is quite comfortable to wear due to the double strap system the brand devised. As for the productivity, the average increase over 6 months is 28%(wearing Quick extender pro for 6-8 hours a day).

QEP offers 4 kinds of packages:

Deluxe limited edition. Includes a month’s supply of RizerXL(sexual enhancer), penis pump, strong springs, memory foam comfort pads, 6 volume DVD set and other bonuses.

Deluxe standard edition. Features a month’s supply of RizerXL and 6 comfort pads.

Value edition. Beginner’s kit that basically consists just of the extender itself.

Curvature and Peyronie’s. A kit with springs specifically adjusted for treating Peyronie’s disease and straightening the penis.

 Phallosan Forte Penis Enlarger 

What’s different about this model is it’s form-factor. Phallosan Forte uses an elastic belt to be strapped about your waist to attach the device to the penis, which is convenient when you’re wearing the device in public, since this way of attaching it makes it much more inconspicuous. Moreover, rather than fixating the glans via a strap, Phallosan Forte employs a vacuum system: a bell goes over the head of your penis, while a vacuum chamber attached in front of it pulls it in place. To further minimise any discomfort, the kit includes a delicate protector cap.

The brand promises up to 30% length increase in 6 months and up to 20% girth increase in the same time interval.

Male Edge Extender Enlargement Device 

 This brand offers a comfortable and compact traction device. Medically graded materials, comfortable and lightweight model. You don’t wanna weave around with a bulky device in your pants, right? (Well, naturally, hardly there is a technology on the market to allow you to wear a traction device inconspicuously in some good tight jeans, though. Don’t expect quite that level of compactness.) Remarkably, the tractile force can be adjusted to up to 2800g(which is a lot), so that’s some power to be careful with, –  just a reminder.

Male edge is basically a revised version of jes-extender, which has dominated the market since 1994.

PeniMaster Pro

 This penis extender uses a self-adapting connection to the glans. The elastic piece of polymer of a roughly spheroid form assumes the form of a glans of any form or size, fixing it in place. This fixation is facilitated by vacuum applied through the valve in the piece(a little pear-looking hand pump for this purpose is included in the kit). The direction of the pull can be adjusted(Which might come in handy for those who’d like to straighten their penis; the device has even proven effective in reducing penis curvature during the course of Peyronie’s disease treatment.). The kit includes PeniMaster Pro belt expander system, which can be worn in different manners from a shoulder suspender to a knee belt. This system, claims the manufacturer, is quite unnoticeable and can be even worn during some sport activities like jogging.

 Different Surgery To Make Your Penis Bigger.

 Naturally people tend to look for non-invasive methods of penis enlargement first, if not out of the fear of lying under the surgeon’s scalpel, then out of the fear for their wallets.

It seems like surgery, despite the two above mentioned shortcomings, would be a 100% solution, wouldn’t it? There’s just no way it wont work: the change is being done here and now, in the concrete sculptings of flesh.

Well.. it’s true that surgery would definitely change something, but there are also quite a few caveats here.

Surgery carries risks of infection, and disregard of post-surgery hygiene/treatment in severe cases can lead to penis removal.

Yes, that’s right, there is no way back. You should understand all the seriousness of the situation and carefully follow any of the post-surgery instructions. Secondly, as we shall find out, in some cases there are trade-offs to be made that not every man would be willing to take.

Now, let’s consider the scenarios available to you if you’ve chosen surgery and further illustrate the risks associated with each method:

 (Spoiler alert: medical professionals are generally sceptical of penis enlargement surgeries.)

  Fat Cells Injection To Make Your Penis Larger. 

 This is supposed to increase the length and/or girth, but it may lead to deformities, in severe cases requiring penis removal.

The American Urological Association (AUA) and the Urology Care Foundation “consider subcutaneous fat injection for increasing penile girth to be a procedure which has not been shown to be safe or efficacious.”

Fat Grafting Penis Enlargement Surgery 

Less invasive. Basically taking the fat tissue elsewhere in the body and grafting it onto the penis. This can be effective, however, the gained size disappears over time, which requires repeating the surgery multiple times to achieve the desired result.

Put simply, the method grants an average  2.39–2.65 cm increase after 12 months, however your member can lose 20-80% of the gained volume in a year.

Ligament suspension.

“…..Human penis is attached to the pelvic bone(namely, the pubic symphysis) by the suspensory ligament. This ligament supports your penis when it’s erect……”

Cutting it does lead to increase in flaccid length, since the free-hanging penis is detached from the pubic symphysis. However, this method does not increase erect length. Moreover, you will end up with your erection simply hanging down, rather than standing proudly. Which, besides slight loss in grace, can lead to difficulties during the process of penetration.

 “The AUA also considers the division of the suspensory ligament of the penis for increasing penile length in adults to be a procedure which has not been shown to be safe or efficacious.”

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Dear Friend

You are not performing like you can.

It’s humbling and you want your wife or partner to be truly happy with you.

It is Humiliating and shaming.

But even the most successful guys have the same problem so you are not alone.

It does not matter if you drive a rolls Royce or fly in a private jet. It does not matter if women get hot and Flustered being around you.

If you cannot perform in the bedroom life can be worrying and depressing.

If you are rich and can’t perform you will be relegated to a poor desperate sugar daddy who pretends to be a real man.

But every woman that really knows you…. Actually knows your secret.

If you are an average man with the bedroom problem you do not want the sympathy of a woman.  You want her to look at you and say wow are my real man.

Instead her mothering nature can take over and you can revert to the boy she looks after.

Every man that passses could be the alpha that steals your woman and shows her a real man.

You probably know this in your heart of hearts not only do you want to be a respected alpha every woman wants it as well. You will be happy and relieved to know their are proven and easy solutions which you can use today to fix your problem.

What I have been able to do is interview world famous stars at the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo. I  can reveal an amazing supplement that everyone agreed was super to get bigger and stay hard. Who better to ask then the absolute experts who perform far beyond the average guy for 4 to 8 hours a day EVERY DAY.

I will reveal an incredible solution that will have you hung like a donkey and as hard as you need for hours.

The best thing is you do not need have an operation or take prescription medication that can cost thousands.

What I have discovered after interviewing some of the most famous adult movie stars will change your life. You will be amazed to learn about the secret formula that is cheap and FDA safe.

I will also reveal a common supplement you must avoid at all costs.

This widely available supplement sent Christopher Zeischegg, (Danny Wylde) to hospital and ruined his career as adult film star.

Before we get to that however …

I would like to make you an expert in every possible method to make your penis large and hard according to science. This article is the ultimate guide covering every possible method to enlarge your penis and to make your penis hard.

It is important you pay attention or you may find yourself victim of some of the dangerous machines and methods that can lead to hospital treatment.

Penis size: What’s normal, what’s not?

  Have you ever felt uncomfortable about your penis size? You’re not alone. A lot of men feel insecure about their dimensions. About 45% of men are frustrated with the size of their penis.

It doesn’t help that the porn industry often portrays male physique unrealistically.

Impotence – Disorder or a Disease

All this leads to a vast percentage of men being dissatisfied with their forms.

But first, what does the science say? Is your anxiety justified?

There are several factors to reckon with.

First, the question that interests, perhaps, the entirety of male population: the average penis size. According to the British Journal of Urology, the average length of an erect penis is 5.16 in, and 4.59 for a flaccid one. Meanwhile, the 95th percentile erect penis measures 6.3 in in length, which means that only 5% of men have a penis shorter that the said length.

If you still would like to enlarge your penis, read on to find out the options for you.

Medical conditions that can affect penis size

  Before we jump into the possible methods for penis enlargement, it might be useful to inform yourself as for what modest penis size might mean. You see, your penis size might be a red flag of a medical condition you might be even unaware of. For instance, it might be that your penis doesn’t get enough blood supply because of atherosclerosis: fatty deposits inside of arteries block the blood flow to the penis, thus, making erection difficult.

One chemical that comes to mind in relation to any male-specific issue is, of course, testosterone. Indeed, during puberty, testosterone or growth hormone deficiency may affect penis development, however in adult men testosterone administration cannot affect the penis size.

Another disease affecting erection, penis size and overall appearance thereof is Peyronie’s disease. A penis affected by Peyronie’s disease develops a plaque which causes it to bend when erect. In severe cases, it can lead to painful erection and  inability to have sex.

There even is a psychological condition called small penis syndrome (or penis dysmorphic disorder). A man suffering from PDD doesn’t really have a small penis. PDD is a form of BDD(body dysmorphic disorder), a relatively common condition when a patient has a distorted perception of their own body. To a man with PDD it appears that his penis is too small, whereas objectively it’s perfectly normal.

You may also be interested in this article about anatomy and physiology

But the man obsessed with unrealistic penis standards acts irrationally and would be ashamed of his penis despite no actual basis for his anxiety. This obsession, to a large extent, stems from the same place as, say, female anorexia. Insecurities of such kind are a result of unrealistic standards from erotic media being projected by susceptible people onto themselves. Remember, media is not reality. You will never see this idealised image of human body in real life; no one in right mind has such high of expectations of their partner. If you feel like you match the behaviour described above, you need a psychologist, not a surgeon.

What are the Best Penis Enlargement pills and products?

  The market is flooded with all kinds of products and services touted as a miracle method that will enlarge your penis. As any website that respects their reader, we must be direct here: most of those are rubbish. Moreover, some of them are not only useless, but can even damage your penis. Here, we’re going to have an unbiased look at them and separate the tares from the wheat.

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  Amazing as it sounds, some pills are indeed effective in enhancing male sexual function!

We’re gonna review the supplements with their formula based in science.

First of all, though, let’s think of the ways a pill can help with erectile dysfunction(or even enlarge the penis, in some cases). Generally, if you see an ingredient listed on the cover of a jar with such pills, it’s most likely to work  in one of these ways.

1) Increasing blood flow. Ever wondered how erection works? Basically, the nerves in your penis send a signal to raise the levels of NO in the blood in the penis, leading to the vessels dilating and the penis being inflated with blood. Hence, it makes sense to improve blood circulation to enhance erection. Thus, you’ll probably find vasodilators among the supplements’ ingredients.

2) Stimulant. Sometimes the reason for failure in bed might be as banal as simple lack of energy. Sometimes, you’re just too tired to even bother. Stimulants can help such an awkward situation by providing you with the stamina necessary for good sexual performance.

3) Aphrodisiac. Self-explanatory, pretty much.

Herbal Medicines for the Male Libido

Now, without further ado, let’s take a look at the brands grounded in real world and see the real results, shall we?

Viasil 

“….This is a favorite of science but how does it compare against the best option recommended by adult film stars?….”

If you’re looking for a non-prescription supplement that will restore your male strength and is totally safe and natural, look no further! Viasil’s powerful formula is guaranteed to enable you with sexual power, and for the sceptics out there it grants a 60-day refund in case of your dissatisfaction. Sounds quite promising, right? Let’s have a look into how it actually works. Citrus sinensis and Ginkgo biloba stimulate energy production, thus providing you the stamina and endurance to be tireless in bed. While horny goat weed improves blood circulation, simultaneously acting as an aphrodisiac, increasing sex drive.

Ingredients: 

Side effects: none detected

Male extra

Another great option to consider.  Manufactured in FDA-approved facilities, Male extra contains all-natural, safe ingredients and also employs the 60-day money refund policy. The pill combines several functions. First, it improves the blood flow in the body. That’s why you’ll find such things as l-arginine, pomegranate ellagic acid, MSM, etc. (By the way this supplement is pioneering the use of pomegranate extract among the male enhancement brands.) Second, it contains a very powerful aphrodisiac – cordyceps fungus. And, last but not least, the pill provides you with energy you’ll definitely find the proper application for.

Ingredients: L-Arginine HCL 600mg, Pomegranate 40% Ellagic Acid 500mg, MSM (Methyl Sulfonyl Methane 100mg)L-Methionine 100mg, Zinc (as citrate) 14mg, Cordyceps 25mg, Niacin (vitamin B3) 18mg.

Side effects: none reported

Pro Solution

What’s different about this supplement is that it works both on physiological and psychological level. By that we mean that along with improving the sexual function, it also boosts your confidence. To illustrate, let’s take a look at its key components: drilizen and solidin. The former increases nitric oxide release and stimulates the release of the hormone that leads to increased testosterone production, while the latter encourages high dopamine levels.

The pills were also researched by Vedic Lifesciences and their study found that Pro Solution decreases the levels of rho-kinase, a protein that enhances the activity of myosin phosphatase, which, in turn, leads to relaxation of penile smooth muscles, resulting in weak erections. Thus, the supplement counters the effects of this protein found in your body, without affecting other functions of myosin phosphate.

Ingredients: Korean ginseng, momordica, butea superba, arjuna, apigenin, amla, reishi mushroom, bladderwrack, curculigo, solidilin, drilizen.

Side effects: Not suitable for people with high blood pressure, oversensitivity, anxiety, allergies, and similar conditions.

ExtenZe

Contains horny goat weed is a proven remedy for erectile dysfunction used for centuries; it works by blocking PDE5 protein, which prevents vessel dilation. Thus, Horny goat weed improves blood flow to the penis. 

Yohimbe, besides its stimulating effect, blocks andrenergic receptors that prevent erection. It also produces nitric oxide, which improves blood supply to the penis.

Zinc is thought to increase testosterone levels(some research suggests so).

Pregnenolone is a hormone found in your body that, among other things, helps make testosterone.

Ingredients: yohimbe extract(bark), l-arginine, horny goat weed, zinc, pregnenolone, dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA), folate, black pepper(seed), piper longum(seed), ginger(root), tribulus terrestris extract(aerial parts and fruit), cnidium monnieri(seed), eleutherococcus extract(root), xanthoparmelia scabrosa(aerial part), γ-Aminobutyric acid, velvet deer antler, damiana(leaf), muira puama extract(stem), pumpkin(seed), stinging nettle(root), astragalus(root), licorice extract(root), Ho Shou Wu extract(root), boron.

Side effects: nausea, cramps, seizures, diarrhoea, headache, trouble sleeping, stomach aches, gynecomastia, decline in testosterone production.

Do not combine with Viagra!

VigRX

VogRX is all-natural, effective supplement that uses top quality ingredients. Its formula was clinically tested and modernised multiple times.

Study conducted at Lifesciences Pvt. LTD indicated

58.97% enhancement of male penetration ability

71.43% boost of bedroom satisfaction

47% elevation of libido and virility

62.82% upsurge in erection maintenance

22.49% more orgasms

22.49% brighter orgasms

61% raise of overall sexual interest

Apart from aphrodisiacs like Miuma paura, vasodilators such as Ginkgo biloba, and some stimulants, e. g. Ginseng, the pill also has a function of preventing premature ejaculation due to such an ingredient as cuscuta seed extract.

Ingredients: Cuscuta seed extract, Ginkgo biloba leaf, Asian red ginseng, saw palmetto berry, miura pauma bark extract, hawthorn berry, damiana, Bioperine.

Side effects: unknown.

Penis Enlargement Pumps 

  Let’s do a little exercise in imagination. Suppose you want to see guaranteed and immediate results. Who knows, maybe you happened to somehow end up in a situation when you have a special appointment of sexual character right ahead of you and you need to get an erection at a whim. You need that timely erection, but your genitals stubbornly show half past five. What kind of device would help you in such a jeopardy?

Penis pump to the rescue!

Yes, pumps can pump water in your office, pump air to inflate a balloon and… pump blood into your penis, when the proper pump, the heart, fails to do so.

Simplified, penis enlargement  pump consists of a cylinder to be put over the penis and a mechanism to lower the pressure inside of the cylinder, so that the blood flows into the penis, erecting it. Then, to maintain the acquired erection, the user puts a ring on his penis.

That’s all great, but we can see you wondering: can this wonder device enhance penis size? Yes, but there is a but. The science tells us that the change in length is only temporary. This means that in order to maintain the results, you would need to commit to penis pumping as a lifestyle. You can think of penis pumps as of going to the gym or hearing aid, in a way: in order to maintain results you need to keep using it constantly.

In a way, penis pump can be seen as a sort of a compromise: it can indeed enlarge your penis, but with no irreversible changes to your body.

Some promote penis pumps for premature ejaculations. The pump, keeping the penis erect without stimulation, can help you develop sexual stamina.

If you’re taken a bit aback at the idea of sticking your penis into such a device, we understand you. It does take caution and consideration to use penis pump safely. Its misuse can lead to blisters and even tissue damage.

Right away, a word of warning, blood thinning medications combined with penis pump can lead to trauma. Penis pumps might be dangerous if you have certain blood disorders such as sickle cell anemia. We highly recommend talking to your doctor before using a penis pump.

Also, the cylinder of a pump shouldn’t touch your penis. If it does, you should move up a size.

Read on to find out about the pump types and the relevant safety risks.

  Penis pumps come in three different types: air, water, and electric.

Air penis pumps are the earliest to be introduced to the market and the cheapest ones, albeit with a swerving: in the process of pumping air pockets are created, which increases the likelihood of a barotrauma. Moreover, this type of pump requires both hands engage, which some might find somewhat inconvenient.

The second(and, arguably, the best) generation would be water pumps. The aforementioned air pocket problem is resolved in this type by filling the decompressed tube with water. This eliminates the formation of air pockets and leads to a smoother, more even blood flow. Requires one hand to use.

Electric pumps. The third generation. Safer than air pumps; not as safe, but cheaper than water pumps. As with water pumps, these require just one hand to use them.

Now, that we’ve covered the different kinds of pumps, let’s take a look at the brands.

Bathmate HydroXtreme7.

The form of this water pump is best suited for people with average penis (5.1in≈13cm).

The Hydroxtreme uses a detachable bulb-shaped hand pump. To use Hydro extreme, fill its cylinder with lukewarm water(as with any water-based pump), attach the hand pump to the release valve and pump the water off till the bellows at the base of the device remain depressed.

The pump includes a comfort pad inserted into the bellows that serves as a barrier between your skin and the bellows, so that it feels nice and soft.

Penomet Penis Enlargement Pump 

Another water-based penis pump. Penomet comes with gaiters of varying force so that you can pick the level of suction that fits you the most. The manufacturer claims that switching the gaiters, whether systematically or randomly, leads to faster results.

The brand promises up to 3 in increase in length and 30% in girth.

Bathmate HydroMax.

Bathmate is an easy-to-use water-based pump. It features a bellow system facilitating for 360° pivoting, which allows for effective grip at any angle. To lower the pressure inside the cylinder – simply push the device against your pubis. The pump comes in 5 different sizes. You can keep track your progress via the measurement gauge.

Bathmate Hydro7.

Allegedly world’s first water-based penis pump, Hydro7 is designed for people with average penises(5-7in). The brand promises the maximum penis length achievable with the device of 8.5 in and girth of 6.7 in. Otherwise, the working principle is similar to that of of Bathmate Hydromax: pumping with the bellows and draining the water with the release valve.

This would be a good model for you if you’re already of average size and are looking for something affordable to experiment with.

BOS-2000 Penis Enlarger Pump

This is an electric pump from a reputable brand(over 20 years on the market), designed for erectile dysfunction. Its POS-T-VAC system was rigorously tested and approved by the FDA. The device was designed with safety in mind: it has two safety valves, one internal, which is automatically activated in case of over decompression, and another one, external, that can be activated by the user by pushing the red button. BOS-200 works on AA batteries. The kit includes several erectile rings of different radius and water-soluble lubricant.

Exercises To Enlarge Your Penis.

  Simple habit might be a good remedy for a lot of things. More than one would ordinarily expect, even. For example, developing back musculature and maintaining the right posture can fix scoliosis, doing eye exercises may improve eye health, etc. One striking example shows that even bone structure can be altered without any surgical intervention: orthotropics.

Gives much hope for those seeking a safe and cheap way to enlarge their penis, doesn’t it? If even something as stubborn as bone can give way to simple tongue posture…

That keeping in mind, still, science is quite sceptical about any penis enlargement exercises. Most of the evidence is either anecdotal or negligible.

But that doesn’t mean that we have a clear negative verdict here: scientific data on penis enlargement exercises is as uninspiring as it is scarce. It’s up to you whether you would like to be a guinea pig and do the research on your own body.

Knowing how obsession in combination with excessive diligence may lead to sorry consequences, we must give you a word of warning. Be careful with the applied force don’t overdo it. If you feel discomfort, stop doing the exercises. And, of course, it wouldn’t hurt to talk to your doctor prior to adhering to any of the exercises listed below.

Here are some techniques of manual stimulation:

Jelqing Or Milking To Make Your Penis Larger

1) Make an OK gesture with your hand

2) Wrap the O part of it around the base of your penis

3) Apply gentle pressure

4) Maintaining the pressure, slide along to the tip of your penis

5) goto 2

Claimed to enhance both length and girth of the penis.

Probably, the most popular exercise, jelqing has ancient roots from the Arab world.

However, neither its popularity, nor its extensive history excuse some rather unflattering, alarming, even, reports. Doctors report numerous cases of its practitioners ending up damaging their penises.

“…..You’re going to harm the nerves, veins, and arteries in the penis, which can lead to decreased sensation and — ironically — erectile dysfunction…..”

– says Seth D. Cohen, MD/MPH, a urologist and Director of Male and Female Sexual Dysfunction at NYU Langone Medical Center.

Such constant abuse of your member can lead to the damage of arteries, supplying blood into it, which, ironically, means erectile dysfunction. You can also damage the nerves in your penis responsible for sexual pleasure thusly.

Penis Extenders -Stretchers To Make Your Penis Bigger (do they work?)

  We’re gonna be honest with you, it has proven difficult for us to find out the exact physiological mechanisms upon which penis extenders are supposed to work. (Perhaps, this is due to the device’s initial purpose being to treat Peyronie’s disease. ) Yet, amazingly enough, this means of penis enlargement actually seems to work somehow! 

The rationale behind it seems to be that long periods of traction deal microdamage to cells, which are replaced by new ones, thus resulting in tissue growth. Kinda similar to the principle behind going to the gym to increase muscles.

Penis extender is not exactly a very sophisticated, yet effective device. It consists of two plastic rings, one to be worn on the base of the penis, the other one – before the glans, and a traction device in between which, in turn, consists of two metal rods with a mechanism for incremental adjustment of thereof and weights to pull the flaccid penis down.

And science seems to support the benefit of penis stretchers in penis enlargement. Although, some studies would indicate that the results are negligible.

But still, as for non-invasive penis enlargement, this device appears to score the best so far.

One would wonder why this wonder device hasn’t gained more traction.

Well, even though it is the most effective non-invasive penis enlargement method, it has it’s drawbacks too. First of all, before you see any results you have to wear an extender for several months for 6-9 hours a day. Not really an awful lot of much fun, considering that wearing the device is uncomfortable to wear and you have to wear it only when flaccid. Users have reported painful sensation when the device slips off the penis. One user complained that it’s quite difficult to use the device while sleeping because “once you have an erection… you will immediately wake up and it’s not a pleasant feeling”.

Bottom line: the most effective option for those seeking size enhancement, but intimidated by surgery; still, has some design errors that can lead to some discomfort during the use.

Reports of side effects are quite rare and generally, mild. However, just as with pretty much anything, overabundance of vigour be dangerous. Aggressive use can possibly lead to pubic bone edema or damage skin or blood vessels. So, if you keep it within the margins of reasonable and don’t keep pushing it to the limit despite the discomfort, you should be fine.

But there is a cheaper, safer more effective option which I will share with you shortly.

Now let’s see what the market has to offer us.

ProExtender Penis Enlarger and Exender

In a word, the reason why we gave this one the first place is reputation.

ProExtender was originally intended as a medical device for those undergoing reconstructive penis surgery. But its creator, Dr Jorn Ege Siana, was curious if it could be used by ordinary men for penis enlargement. And it has proved effective!  There’s been a study that reports average increase of 2.8cm(1.1in).

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Thus, we have an effective, clinically tested, comfortable penis enlargement device. That said these contraptions are not used by the adult film stars because they simply cannot afford something going wrong however rare it maybe.

But there’s more! The brand offers a complete gentleman’s set for penis enlargement to guide you through the journey from the beginning to the end. It includes the device itself, 30 day supply of VigRX erection enhancing pills, 30 day supply of Semenax semen enhancing pills and a CD with exercises. Stand-alone penis stretcher is available for purchase as well, but ProExtender insists on their system for the best experience.

Quick extender pro

A brand with customer experience in mind is quite refreshing to see in such a niche(not to say fringe) area as penis enlargement. And the customer experience is outstanding indeed. The company utilises a built-in order tracking system for maximum transparency and offers 6-month money back guarantee. And, most importantly, the device is quite comfortable to wear due to the double strap system the brand devised. As for the productivity, the average increase over 6 months is 28%(wearing Quick extender pro for 6-8 hours a day).

QEP offers 4 kinds of packages:

Deluxe limited edition. Includes a month’s supply of RizerXL(sexual enhancer), penis pump, strong springs, memory foam comfort pads, 6 volume DVD set and other bonuses.

Deluxe standard edition. Features a month’s supply of RizerXL and 6 comfort pads.

Value edition. Beginner’s kit that basically consists just of the extender itself.

Curvature and Peyronie’s. A kit with springs specifically adjusted for treating Peyronie’s disease and straightening the penis.

Phallosan Forte Penis Enlarger 

What’s different about this model is it’s form-factor. Phallosan Forte uses an elastic belt to be strapped about your waist to attach the device to the penis, which is convenient when you’re wearing the device in public, since this way of attaching it makes it much more inconspicuous. Moreover, rather than fixating the glans via a strap, Phallosan Forte employs a vacuum system: a bell goes over the head of your penis, while a vacuum chamber attached in front of it pulls it in place. To further minimise any discomfort, the kit includes a delicate protector cap.

The brand promises up to 30% length increase in 6 months and up to 20% girth increase in the same time interval.

Male Edge Extender Enlargement Device 

This brand offers a comfortable and compact traction device. Medically graded materials, comfortable and lightweight model. You don’t wanna weave around with a bulky device in your pants, right? (Well, naturally, hardly there is a technology on the market to allow you to wear a traction device inconspicuously in some good tight jeans, though. Don’t expect quite that level of compactness.) Remarkably, the tractile force can be adjusted to up to 2800g(which is a lot), so that’s some power to be careful with, –  just a reminder.

Male edge is basically a revised version of jes-extender, which has dominated the market since 1994.

PeniMaster Pro

This penis extender uses a self-adapting connection to the glans. The elastic piece of polymer of a roughly spheroid form assumes the form of a glans of any form or size, fixing it in place. This fixation is facilitated by vacuum applied through the valve in the piece(a little pear-looking hand pump for this purpose is included in the kit). The direction of the pull can be adjusted(Which might come in handy for those who’d like to straighten their penis; the device has even proven effective in reducing penis curvature during the course of Peyronie’s disease treatment.). The kit includes PeniMaster Pro belt expander system, which can be worn in different manners from a shoulder suspender to a knee belt. This system, claims the manufacturer, is quite unnoticeable and can be even worn during some sport activities like jogging.

Different Surgery To Make Your Penis Bigger.

Naturally people tend to look for non-invasive methods of penis enlargement first, if not out of the fear of lying under the surgeon’s scalpel, then out of the fear for their wallets.

It seems like surgery, despite the two above mentioned shortcomings, would be a 100% solution, wouldn’t it? There’s just no way it wont work: the change is being done here and now, in the concrete sculptings of flesh.

Well.. it’s true that surgery would definitely change something, but there are also quite a few caveats here.

Surgery carries risks of infection, and disregard of post-surgery hygiene/treatment in severe cases can lead to penis removal.

Yes, that’s right, there is no way back. You should understand all the seriousness of the situation and carefully follow any of the post-surgery instructions. Secondly, as we shall find out, in some cases there are trade-offs to be made that not every man would be willing to take.

Now, let’s consider the scenarios available to you if you’ve chosen surgery and further illustrate the risks associated with each method:

(Spoiler alert: medical professionals are generally sceptical of penis enlargement surgeries.)

  Fat Cells Injection To Make Your Penis Larger. 

This is supposed to increase the length and/or girth, but it may lead to deformities, in severe cases requiring penis removal.

The American Urological Association (AUA) and the Urology Care Foundation “consider subcutaneous fat injection for increasing penile girth to be a procedure which has not been shown to be safe or efficacious.”

Fat Grafting Penis Enlargement Surgery 

Less invasive. Basically taking the fat tissue elsewhere in the body and grafting it onto the penis. This can be effective, however, the gained size disappears over time, which requires repeating the surgery multiple times to achieve the desired result.

Put simply, the method grants an average  2.39–2.65 cm increase after 12 months, however your member can lose 20-80% of the gained volume in a year.

Ligament suspension.

“…..Human penis is attached to the pelvic bone(namely, the pubic symphysis) by the suspensory ligament. This ligament supports your penis when it’s erect……”

Cutting it does lead to increase in flaccid length, since the free-hanging penis is detached from the pubic symphysis. However, this method does not increase erect length. Moreover, you will end up with your erection simply hanging down, rather than standing proudly. Which, besides slight loss in grace, can lead to difficulties during the process of penetration.

“The AUA also considers the division of the suspensory ligament of the penis for increasing penile length in adults to be a procedure which has not been shown to be safe or efficacious.”

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